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I am the bio-mother of the child, my husband want my child to use his surname because my child using the surname of her bio-father, in short he want to adopt my child ( 8yrs.old ). But the bio-father of my child doesn't want to let my husband to adopt my child as ever since he NEVER supporting financially ( he cannot support ) i raised my child by my own for 7yrs. I hope can have some response about this, what i need to do?
thank you very much.

Sorry Nimfa to be the bearer of negative news but we have a niece who we advised when she gave birth to her baby girl out of wedlock to fill out the paperwork in the hospital as "father unknown" but she did not follow our advice so is stuck with the Father of her baby for life. The same with you; unless you reported the Father UNKNOWN at the hospital you gave birth there is no way you can change it. In many cases like this the biological  Father uses this fact to blackmail the biological Mother's new lover / husband to pay him off before signing any paperwork allowing legal adoption. If by chance you gave birth via a midwife who did not register the birth of your child or include the biological father then maybe you can re-arrange some of the paperwork that would allow for legal adoption. If not there is very little you can do, if anything.  


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Bill and Lorna Collings


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I arrived in the Philippines in January 1980 to travel for 2 months; I stayed 4 months before reluctantly leaving. I met my Filipina wife, Lorna. an incredible stellar, "one in a million" individual in 1983 in Seoul and we moved to the Philippines in 1986 and opened our 3BR house to world travelers on a budget. After welcoming thousands of guests from 93 nations our place has grown to 38 bedrooms in 5 townhouse units, 4 of which are attached but will never lose its "Home away from Home" atmosphere. Almost everyday at The Townhouse Hotel there's a party-like social scene with vibrant, almost magical energetic conversations between our guests who have the pleasure to meet each other and share their life's many experiences.Often three groups with conversations in different languages are going on at the same time. So we've been exposed to every kind of person from all over the world and shared their experiences. Since arriving back in the Philippines Nov 2011 from traveling for 8 months my wife and I have been busy buying land, building houses and expanding our Boracay beach front resort, Casa Camilla for 16 months. Hopefully we'll be finished by the end of 2013 with a total of 50 apartments, 44 units for yearly stays and the six units in our house to be saved for short term stays.

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