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Deb wrote at 2006-09-26 01:34:24
I have all the same syptoms as your daughter especially with the gum chewing and loud eating behaviors.  Also very sensitive to loud music and snoring.  I hope that she is better now; but she is not alone.


Neli wrote at 2006-12-12 05:40:06
I too can't stand the noise of people eating, slurping, lipsmacking and especially chewing ice and hard stuff. It makes me cringe and makes me feel like I could get really aggresivve. I'm 23 years old and have had it since a teenager and it has only gotten worse. I do have an anxiety disorder so it could have something to do with that.


Melissa wrote at 2006-12-22 20:46:38
I can't believe someone else has this issue/phobia.  At 37 I have endured this problem for more than 25 years.  What is it called?  I have  not been able to eat with my family, dread going out and avoid social eating situations AT ALL COSTS.  


Joe wrote at 2007-04-30 19:52:43
I'm so glad other people have this. I'm 16 and I cannot stand it when my dad eats with me. When I hear him I start to squirm and get really upset.


Emma V wrote at 2008-04-23 20:56:03
I am 14 and I've had this problem for almost 2 years now, I really don't want this to get worse, but so far it has, the situation you discribed is exactly what I deal with every time at dinner, or my little sister chewing bubble gum. I don't like talking to my parents about it because they make me feel as if I'm the one being rude, when really it's them that's making me upset, I really hope there is some way to fix this. My mom told me she had the same problem but grew out of it. I don't know what to do..


Alyssia wrote at 2008-05-29 18:00:24
I totally know what you guys mean, and I'm gratefull I'm not the only one with this problem.  Not only is it irritating, but it causes acute anxiety, and sometimes I want to hurt whoever is making the noise.  My parents don't understand, and I haven't had the guts to tell my friends (I'm worried they will think I'm wierd).  Is there anyway to fix this?  It affects all aspects of my life.  Thanks!


Nate Martel wrote at 2008-11-21 03:32:07
I am 15 years old and I've had this same problem for a few years but it has not been as serious, usually i tolerate it while eating dinner with the family but while in the car i usually put in head phones so i don't have to listen to my brother chomp at his gum or apple or what have you. I also don't seem to have a problem with this while around my friends although sometimes it does bother me, especially around people I'm not as familiar with. I also get straight A's in school but i am not usually faced with that type of distraction during the day. At home I prefer to go to a quiet place such as my room where i can do my work without distractions or listening to music and that helps me focus on my work. Also, trying to ignore the noise helps me tolerate it and not focus on its annoyance.


rjm wrote at 2008-12-27 00:52:57
I have this condition and its horrible. My family do eat loudly, animal like, and its disgusting. im guessing her friends make the noise less, sometimes i can tolerate the noise depending on the tone. im gona try ear plugs, because i think quieting the sound makes it a lot more tolerable. Im considering hypnotherapy but i will never get round to doing it. lol


Lucy Grout wrote at 2009-01-18 18:53:44
I'm 13 and i hate it when people eat loudly. It makes me shiver and i go all squirmy. Especially when my brother/dad eats anything it makes me sooo annoyed. I'm glad to hear that i'm not the only one though! I probably eat loudly but i also hate it when people chew gum really loud...


Liz Reynolds wrote at 2009-03-03 04:24:24
I've had this same exact phobia since childhood.  It feels like a massive attack on your ear drum.  I think more than anything it's the vibration the sounds make that bother me.  It's especially bothersome in my right ear, which I absolutely have to wear an earplug in around certain people.  People who are natural smackers, you know, when even speaking, are the worst.  You just can't get away.  I think that this phobia is a lot more common than the person before you makes it out to be.  The only advice I have for your daughter is to invest in earplugs and learn how to get them in well enough to block the sound.  If you twist and then wet the tips of them before insertion they work much more smoothly.  Hope this helps her to not feel so abnormal.  There are more of us out there.


brit wrote at 2009-04-15 13:53:24
Wow...im 19 years old and i have the same problem....yes i cant stand hearing people smack, or slurp but what bugs me most of all is that even if they are eating with there mouth closed, elbose off the table, EX..... i still can not be in the same room with the person while eating....when ever i am watching a movie with my boyfriend and he is eating popcorn, i have to leave the room....he tells me to just deal with it, but the truth is, is that i cant! i get to the point were i start shaking, crying and wanted to pull my hair out...then comes the yelling, (like im really angry or somthing) ...I go to college and im taking a phycology class (really good teacher!) but he also does clinicals...i had a talk with him after class the other day and he said that it is deffinitly a phobia. He said that he highly recomends i go to a phycologist for it because its not somthing i can over come by myself...he said that phyc. will help me teach myself to be in a calm stated when around people eating...he said that it was a learned behavoir from somthing in my past and that i can get over it but i will take some time.


andy wrote at 2009-06-10 17:46:02
yes im 15 and i just cant stand it when my mum eats. it seems to me lie she just cant eat but reading this it help me understand. i just get all squirmy when people eat near me especially with thier mouths open!


Lucy wrote at 2009-08-13 19:10:42
I also have this phobia for about 5 years. It makes me sooooooo angry like a could shoot people in the face! I get therapy for it and suggest that EVERYONE who is like this does too. DO NOT WAIT FOR IT TO GET BETTER ON ITS OWN. MOST TIMES IT WILL NOT!



Don't suffer in silence people!

I'm fed up with people giving advice like "ignore it" or "remove yourself from the situation" LIKE THATS GONNA HELP!

You can't run away from it, it will always be there!  


Dani wrote at 2009-10-11 01:06:33
Never in a million years would I have thought there were a whole bunch of people like this. I almost cried reading them, the frustration is getting unbearable for me now. This phobia/irritation of mine has even caused family arguments. I eat Christmas dinner on the stairs and wait until everyone else has finished. I'll sit for however long it takes my mother to eat a mint in her with my fingers in my ears and the music on unbelievably loud. Even reading these comments, I feel like I have it worst than everyone and that no one will ever understand, though I know deep down people do. Which is relieving. Thanks for sharing :)


rugbyman wrote at 2009-10-21 23:41:22
My stepson, who is 11, has recently begun exhibiting signs of this condition. There is an audiologist and researcher in Portland, Oregon, Marsha Johnson,who calls it "Selective sound sensitivity syndrome," or 4S. What is interesting and disturbing to me, both in his reaction and in the descriptions of the condition I read online, is how angry it makes people at the people around them. My stepson yells, cries and throws things, even when his mom and I literally hold our breath and sit in total silence. It doesn't help; he still thinks he hears us breathing. It's very disturbing, especially when I read things like "It makes me sooo angry -- I want to shoot people in the face." I urge all of you who suffer from this syndrome to understand: the problem doesn't originate in the people who surround you. Just because there are others who share this condition doesn't mean it's OK to scream at someone for breathing -- it means you're inflicting your neurosis on a friend or family member. It's not their responsibility to get help -- it's yours.


Tired of being tired wrote at 2009-10-31 08:55:06
My first memory of this issue was when I was around 9. My grandmother would bite into almonds at the dinner table and I would jump out of my skin. It was torture. No one else ever seemed to notice but me. Sometimes, instead of eating a meal, my grandmother would just sit down and eat a whole bag of almonds. By the time she would finish I would have a twitch in my right eye that would continue for days. It became worse with age. Finger nail clipping, opening a soda can, eating (carrots, hard candy, chips). I work in a cubicle (for the last 8 yrs) and the sounds are so overwhelming. My anxiety and anger build throughout the day. Eventually I get a lunging feeling in my chest that aches. My neck and shoulders get extremely tense. Every sound is as disruptive as a gunshot. Eventually I will flee the area and either hide in the private bathroom or sit in my car until the panic subsides. This will happen over and over, many times a day. About once a week after days of this building up I start to feel overwhelmingly sleepy. I will experience problems with verbal communication; slurred speech, cluttering (disorganized speech), and eventually a migraine. I have to blast loud music in my headphones to drown out the sound. Currently, I am seeing a neurologist. He has been treating me for Narcolepsy, Migraines, and ADHD with Nortriptyline and Provigil for the last 2 months and I am doing much better. The noise associated anxiety is the only thing that has not improved. Today he wrote me a prescription for Celexa on top of the other meds and has suggested cognitive therapy. I have high hopes that the addition of Celexa is the silver bullet. Xanax was very effective at treating this but it’s extremely addictive and when I had problems get Xanax the symptoms were 10 fold.


Mel wrote at 2009-11-11 17:30:18
I am 27 years old and I have this also.  I hate when people chew ice or chomp their gum with their mouth open.  That is the most rude thing I have ever heard.  The girl I work with that does it I really think does it intentionally b/c she will look right at me while chomping her gum with her mouth open.  She has NO RESPECT !!!!!!    I have told her that it distracts me and she is one that doesnt care about anyone else only herself.  I have to sit couped up in an office sitting right beside her 8 hours a day 5 days a week and sometimes I want to get really violent and have to get up and walk away.  Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do?


Chris.V wrote at 2009-11-30 07:00:02
I'm 17, and like a lot (if not all) of the people here I seemed to have 'developed' this in my early teens. For me, it wont happen very often but when it does I get extremely uncomfortable and squirm a lot, sometimes pulling my hair and get extremely angry at whoever and wherever the sound is coming from. The sound usually being the sound of people eating, and more specifically, people breathing while eating. I told my parents, and we put the radio on during supper now, although eating at relatives can be very tough. Bent a fork in half once, but that was as far as I ever physically expressed the immense anger that builds up.


Eshaye' Wake wrote at 2009-12-09 20:48:16
I have had this problem for about 3 to four years now and im 17 going on 18 and I thought I was the only one who was annoyed by this.....I get very irritated and I start to get mad at the person who is smcking and I feel like I have to shoot them in order to be happy(but I never end up doing it).....I really get annoyed when people no teeth do it also.....I REALLY need help because I am ready to jump off a bridge when people chew, smack, or breath out of their nose.....


Mark wrote at 2009-12-24 02:49:49
It's so relieving that other people hate as much as me that they actually get tempted to cry over it like I do. But its not really the chewing sound that annoys me...What really gets at me is for example when someone is eating a piece of hard candy and sucks on it really loudly, constantly smacking their lips in the process. Even covering my ears so I don't hear it isn't enough. It bothers me just to know that they're doing it!!! My dad makes this noise all the time even when he's not eating anything and that drives me up the wall...and I really DO get the urge to smack and yell at people when they do it too! Its almost scary!



I also can't stand it when people whistle. If you want to whistle alone in your house then go ahead, but I don't understand how some people think they can just whistle in public and think it isn't bothering anyone...the shrill sound cuts through a crowd like an arrow and I get so frustrated and pray for them to stop!


Ami wrote at 2009-12-29 08:19:06
I am in utter shock at this forum.  I've never met anyone that has the same issues with chewing noises/whistling/breathing that I do.  This has affected every aspect of my life, and is slowly pushing me into seclusion.  I developed this while I was very young, around 7 or 8 years old.  I have cried numerous times about this, and gotten into fights with family members, friends, and boyfriends about this.  I am going to bookmark this page and show it to my family just to show proof that I'm not alone!  This is a serious issue, and I wish there was some way to solve it.  I currently attend medical school, and I have trouble concentrating in class because of this.  If there is any way that ANYONE has had success with methods for improving this, please post them!  Thank you!


Tommy wrote at 2010-02-03 20:24:14
I have this problem, and I think one day I am going to explode. My mom chews with her mouth open and eats crunchy food all day long. I have literally had to leave the room any time I see her make toast or pull out peanuts. I start to get uncontrollably mad when she does this and I want to hurt her when she does. I confronted her once on this and she immediately said I was crazy and that if I don't cut this out, she is going to ground me. I realized that it is only when my mom eats that I get very hostile. She cracks her knuckles and body all day too, which gives me the same rage as the food. Please, I am fifteen and I don't want to have to deal with this for the rest of my life. If anyone knows therapy for this phobia or a cure, let me know. I am afraid that I am going to go nuts soon.


thumper300zx wrote at 2010-02-23 16:44:51
I would guess if you did a case study, and had people read a book, then have someone come by slurping up food (salad, popcorn, chips), nearly 100% of people reading their book in peace would be annoyed. I hate the sound of people eating like pigs. While you will inevitably hear some "eating noise" at the dinner table, there is a valid and distinct difference between an occasional lapse of eating control and someone that is WAY AHEAD of themselves. Also, it's more annoying to me when it's done as habit than on purpose (ie, someone chomping a carrot stick candidly). My dad eats disgustingly...my brother and I want to poke out our eardrums with an icepick when we hear him eat. And I have nephews and a brother-in-law that eat like pigs, too.



The best solution? Make sure you and your own THINK ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE. It's called etiquette. And I'm not talking about using the right fork and putting a napkin in your lap. I'm talking about eating unlike a horse, dog, or cow.


JHlove wrote at 2010-02-25 01:59:08
I have this same problem with the chewing and smacking and popping bubbles.  It's so annoying.  My question is, do you guys get annoyed with people who move their foot while sitting down?  Like they have some kind of nervous tendency to move their foot all the time.  That also annoys me!! I can't be happy and I want it to stop.  It does make you so angry and people don't understand.  I say I'm sorry but the noise really has to stop and they just don't care.  I hate this so much!!!


A.O. wrote at 2010-04-29 06:26:29
I have the exact same problem. Any noises of chewing or smacking turn me into a completely different person. I get furious at anyone who does it, even though I rationally know it's not his or her fault, and I feel like I'm going insane.

I can understand how your daughter feels. It's hard when something so essential to daily life and so important in maintaining healthy relationships is the one thing that you can not stand! People eat three times a day and it's unfair to have everyone alter their style of life just for an out-of-control pet peeve.



I urge you to have her get help as soon as possible. I tried to deal with the problem myself and it became even worse.



I am glad that she seems to have such supportive and patient parents. I wish you the best of luck.  


Emily wrote at 2010-05-02 12:33:51
I am 19 and I am at uiversity, I have this problem as well and I have no idea how to deal with it. I have had it for about 4 years now and it has got porgressively worse. I did see a hypnotherapist last year but that has not helped a great deal. The closer I get to people (family and friends) the more the noises affect me, I hate being near people hen they are eating and about 8 times out of 10 I have to remove myself from the situation becuase it makes me get really angry and I fell like I oculd throw up. At home I just get into massive fights with my family about it, and at uni I feel I cant do that, ~I just have to leave and I feel really antisociable but I just cant deal with it.


DMCQS wrote at 2010-05-29 08:32:05
I am 22. I have had this for 5 years now. My mam has a click in her jaw when she eats and I cant eat with her. My brother bites down hard when he eats and rattles his teeth. In my work, I am in an office with this guy who eats every half hour and has a very load click in his jaw. I get very angry at this. He also slurps his Tea. Dont know what to do.  


Tadd wrote at 2010-06-02 21:16:15
I'm 29.  I have suffered from this mildly, more when I was  child.  I think it is interesting to note that a significant number of the people responding to this here are children.  Here are some more observations:

1) Many cases explicitly cite family members as being the most annoying, although some people suffer all the time.

2) Anxiety, not just annoyance, seems to be the common reaction.

3) Many of the people chiming in here are children.



I am positive that this is a combination of people with extra-acute (read: extra sensitive) hearing along with psychological impressions of certain people causing a disturbance.  Kid's have better senses than adults.  I am a musician and have undoubtedly lost some of my high-frequency hearing.  Perhaps that's why I don't really suffer from this too much any more.  When I was a kid the sound of my brother and dad chewing was unnerving to say the least.

Children already have a tumultuous impression of their siblings and parents, as well as unstable emotions in general; add to this very fresh, sensitive aural organs and of course a condition will develop.


WendiM wrote at 2010-06-15 01:19:51
That sounds EXACTLY like my experience except that my intolerance started when I was about 3 or 4. My response was so extreme that my mother thought I was having convulsions. As a 35 year old adult, I have learned to hide most of my extreme response but the "fight or flight" adrenaline response is just as strong as ever. Background noise helps - crowded restaurants, loud music, etc. I have been told that this is called Sensory Integrative Dysfunction or Sensory Processing Disorder. There is a great deal of variation in symptoms. Any or all of the senses can be affected to varying degrees. Basically, it is the nervous system responding inappropriately to stimuli that wouldn't bother the average person. (Mostly, I think that they should just outlaw chewing gum, but I can't seem to gather enough support for my parade.) Please take her complaint seriously. Hearing these sounds is like being assaulted over and over and over inside of your own head. I would rather someone punch me than smack their lips near me. I would find purely physical discomfort much easier to deal with. There are treatments. They mostly involve retraining the brain to react in a less extreme way... There is also evidence that the younger one is when one starts these treatments, the more likely they are to benefit. I understand what she is going through. I cannot tell you how miserable it is or how badly it affects social relationships. It doesn't get better on its own, I promise you. It is really hard to avoid people when they eat or chew gum. I've spent a lifetime trying. Get her to a doctor that is familiar with Sensory disorders. (Most of them treat children with ADHD, Autism, PDD-NOS, depression, aggression, and other types of disorders related to a varying inability to appropriately sort sensory stimuli.) Good luck to you and your daughter.


emii wrote at 2010-08-25 00:57:40
I'm about to turn 17 & have suffered from this for the past few years. I cannot remember having this problem when i was a young child but also don't remember how it orginanated. Its got so bad i have to take my I-Pod everywhere with me, people see me as being rude when i'm sat with my ear phones in while eating a meal but i cannot bear to even watch people eat never mind listen to it!

My family thought it was just a childish thing & i would grow out of it and actually used to tease me about it, delibretly muching their food louder while i was around. I've cried, screamed, fought, slammed doors & punched walls in the past over this. It effects every single part of my life, i have to think about it before i go anywhere.

Its gotten so bad that i no longer sit with my family at christmas for dinner, i eat alone upstairs & leave the room whenever someone eats, even a buiscut.

Its heartbreaking having to tell your boyfriend you dont want to go for a romantic meal with him beacause you cant bear the way he eats, but its either say no or take an ipod along.

Has anyone come up with any ways to scale it down or become more tolerable to this?


marianne wrote at 2010-09-17 02:31:55
Dear Mother of your 13 year old daughter,



You and your daughter are NOT ALONE.  Keep doing your internet research.  I am 30 years old and have suffered from this condition since I was around 13.  I found lots of people online that have been suffering and have felt crazy and alone.  I feel so much for your daughter.  What she is going through is real and the family MUST be sensitive to her anxiety and issues with chewing etc.  My single mother has had to always have the tv or radio on when we sit to dinner and it is still difficult for me.  Audiologists have researched and one name they have for it is misophonia.  So, this condition exists, is not as unusual as one might think and please, please, your daughter needs your understanding and help.  


bridjet jones wrote at 2010-10-21 10:33:03
I too, cannot stand the awful smacking noise which humans make! It's like screeching violins to my delicate ears and I am so glad that i have a posse to agree with me! You, my friends, are NOT alone, and I, Briget Jones, feel your pain, deep down. I know it is not the best, but it WILL get better, and we should all love each other for who we are. I mean, God created us for who we are, and I would not change me in a second, minute, hour or day - even a year. Anyways, I am going to record some statistics in my diary, good luck to you all!

you can call me dr. jones.


Sarah wrote at 2010-11-18 17:28:27
OMG!!!

I just found this forum after having gotten so fed up with my cubicle mate here at work who breaths through her nose SO LOUDLY that I have on many occasions wanted to reach over and rip her head off. Others around me have noticed her breathing too and while they think it's odd, no one else seems bothered by it the way I am.  I cannot STAND IT. I have had to bring ear plugs into work in order to remain calm. The nose breather is not the only person here at work that torments me though.  There is another woman who sits near by with acrylic nails that types very hard and very fast. It is so loud. It's louder than the Dave Matthews concert I went to a few months ago. I cannot even describe it to you. When she gets going, I can't hear anything else and I cannot concentrate. THEN there is another dude near by who frequently hocks lugies and phlegm! I once yelled at him to please stop. I said this is an office where people are trying to work, so he needs to take that mess into the bathroom. He stopped for a while, but is back to his old ways and I'm about to get violent. If that is not enough, there is yet another person who clears her throat constantly all day long, every single day. At least once a minute. "Ah-ah-eh-eh-eh-eh-hemmm!" She sits two rows away from me, but I hear it as if she was 2 inches from me. All of these torments.... the typing, throat clearing, lugie hocking, and nose breathing, often all go on all at the same time and I just want to off myself. While I have never had a reaction as extreme as some people on here have described (panic attacks, having to leave the room, etc), It is still pure hell and evokes very strong feelings of anger, frustration, and tension for me.  The worst is, we can't use iPods at work, so I have to resort to ear plugs which are uncomfortable, and inconvenient to use.



I am 33 years old, about 5-6 years ago, I was diagnosed with narcolepsy. I saw that another person posted on here that they suffer from this condition and also have narcolepsy. I wonder if the two are related? Holy bananas! I cannot believe that there is actually a potential explanation for why I am so sensitive to incessant bodily noises!!!! If anyone else knows of a connection between the two disorders, please do share. I would love some help.  


MeToo wrote at 2010-11-24 18:47:01
Wow, so glad I am not alone! I have always experienced the same thing when I hear eating/chewing near me, I want to scream. I am 44.  I remember being very young and needing to leave the dinner table.  I have since learned to focus more on my own eating so I do not notice it anymore, but if I am not eating, yikes! Watch out everybody. My family knows-if you call me to chat, do not be chewing anything! Even bananas, the sound drives me nuts.  I also am annoyed with denture clacking.  I KNOW when someone is wearing them. What does NOT bother me though, is the fingernail across the chalkboard sound.  Most people I know cringe, and I am not affected.  Weird huh?


carisha wrote at 2010-11-30 06:16:29
OMG! I thought I was weird for a moment I'm very happy It's other people like this ! I feel bad because im always telling my boyfriend I hate the way he talks and eat it always causes arguments I feel so bad :( I haven't yet told my parents but hopfully I get help soon..


Ellen N wrote at 2010-12-02 13:18:27
I am so relieved to have found this forum.  I have suffered from these same symptoms since I was a young child.  My grandmother would make horrific smacking noises while we ate--I wanted to rip my skin off.  I'm 41 yrs old and have learned tricks to avoid bad situations (making sure I always have my iPod handy)...but I am still so annoying as it relates to my husband, and now my children.  I don't want to be this way and I certainly don't want to cause any issues for my children in the future.


PinkMac wrote at 2010-12-04 02:19:56
Some of these posts have made me laugh my head off! But seriously, I am the same and I hate it! Always have been highly sensitive to loud eating and it puzzles me. I had dinner tonight with a different group and one of the girls was eating the pizza SO loudly SMACK SMACK SMACK. I kept STARING [evilly] at her and looking around for other peoples reactions but NOBODY NOTICED or seemed to notice. HOW??? I wish i could not notice. Other things that torture me: loud breathing [less now than when i was younger]; snoring; phlegmy coughing; and mispronouncing words. And particularly with my sister who speaks really badly. I feel bad and i want to stop because it could seriously impact our relationship. CRAZY and REDICULOUS. I think its some form of OCD.... good to know i'm not the only crazy out there...!


Eric wrote at 2010-12-15 19:13:45
Co-worker smacks gum and won't blow her nose when she has the sniffles. She also has no control/awareness of the volume of her voice.  Working with her is a lesson in patience.  I can't say anything because when I do she is easily offended (she's also friends with my boss and complains to her when I complain).  When I'm talking on the phone people on the other end ask me who is talking in the background because they can't hear what I'm saying! I can hear her from the other side of the office when she talks, over 100 feet away and through three walls. Going on seven years of this.


Kristin wrote at 2011-01-06 20:44:02
Oh my goodness. I am so relieved to read all of this. I have been feeling like a big jerk asking people to spit out their gum when they talk to me or getting frustrated when I hear them eat. It seems to have gotten worse lately as I have even begun starting irrelevant arguments when someone's gum chewing is annoying me. I have the same symptoms mentioned above-extreme frustration, aggression, and the squirmies. Gum chewing, eating loudly, sucking on teeth (my dad does this and I could kill him) or really loud talking all drive me freaking bonkers!!!!! My advice is to ask a person nicely to spit out their gum as it's very distracting to you. If someone is talking loudly and you're on neutral ground (not at their house) you could respectfully mention it to them. So what if they feel a little discomfort for a minute-we've been feeling it for years. Take care, everyone.  


Lizzy E wrote at 2011-02-08 01:57:03
I am 17, I am soo happy I'm not the only one with this problem.  My family is very insensitive to my problem.  My mother's chewing in particular drives me crazy, I will have to leave rooms when she is chewing.  I just want to hurt anyone who's smacking their gum.  I did find that if I chew gum (though I really hate the smell/taste) others' smacking doesn't bother me as much.  But my problem is so bad I don't always have to hear the gum, even seeing the jaw move up and down makes me want to scream.


Help wrote at 2011-02-20 03:40:59
Same... watching people on TV is SO irritating... chewing there gum... pigs. pigs. I know I am so very much in the minority and that it is my problem but I HATE people who do it and want to get away from them ASAP.  I will stare at people who chew and crack their gum near me... so annoying.



School was hell having to sit next to someone chewing gum. I found my best solution... though a poor one because it really didn't help much was I would start chewing gum just a little louder than them. When they make a lot of noise... I up it a little bit.  They start to notice that wow that person next to me is chewing loud..then think...wow... I am chewing loud too.



I guess this solution is better than shooting them... which is how crazy I feel when I hear this.



Wish there was some way I could make it go away.



I am sure this was caused by my mother who was very annoying would crack her gum like crazy... I love her but she would be critical of me and then I would have to sit next to her and she would crack crack crack... chew chew chew... drove me crazy... must have had some lasting impression.  I can't shake this.


desperate wrote at 2011-03-12 14:19:19
Hi, im 53 and had to put up with this problem for years, it spoils many tv programmes for me because i dont want to sit watching people eating like f***ing pigs. Why people cannot chew with there mouth closed is beyond me it makes me so angry i have to get out of the way because i'm afraid i may do something really bad to them. I wish i could get help from somewhere because it is really getting my back up.


Lisa wrote at 2011-03-20 21:25:18
What I dont understand is how it could NOT be annoying to be around the gum popping and chomping.  How do these chomping smacking popping people not drive themselves insane?  How do their jaws not ache from the constant chewing?  I too get ANGRY when I hear the gum cracking, etc.  I cannot concentrate on anything else when I hear it.  I am the same way with sniffing.  Disgusting.  And people are so oblivious of how disgusting they are.  I have gotten pretty balls-y over the years, asking people to stop chomping their gum.  I have a close friend that chews gum constantly and I find myself saying no to hanging out with her when I feel like I just cant take it that day.  My dad has the constant sniffing problem and it has DEFINITELY affected our relationship.  It is literally 24 hours a day sniffing.  Sometimes I count the seconds between sniffs...I rarely get to 5.  I cant even stand to be in the same room with him.  Sometimes I can tolerate eating with people because I tell myself it will be over soon, they wont eat forever - but gum chewing can last HOURS.  I was on a small road trip with my friend the other day - she ate about 25 doritos and then IMMEDIATELY put a piece of gum in her mouth.  Not enjoyable.  She laughs, tells me to relax, etc.  My mother said to me my whole life that if it were up to me I would ask people to stop breathing.  People do not understand how this feels - it is not something you can just 'relax' away.  It makes me want to rip my skin off...and then theirs.  I find it amazing how many people are constantly chewing...I make and receive many many phone calls a day at my job and I would say HALF the people I talk to have something going on in their mouth.  Disgusting.  I know someone who is like me and said she went on Paxil and it helped.  I really dont want to medicate myself but at age 34, I can tell it is getting worse, not better.  


SarahSea wrote at 2011-03-23 02:17:57
I am 25 and have had this "phobia" (if that's what we want to call it) since I can remember. It's funny- though all mouth noises (chewing, swalling, etc.) make me cringe, I have noticed that it's definitely worse with my family. With the general public, the noises distract me, make me sick to my stomach, etc. With my family, in addition to all the other reactions, I feel upset and even angry. I think it's because I have talked to them about this issue, tried to explain to them how these noises make me feel, but they just brush it off and tell me to get over it. I have found that most people dismiss my reaction as one of my quirks, which really ticks me off. If you told me you were afraid of dogs, I would put my dog up when you came over. If I tell you the sound of chewing gum makes me sick - for real - please treat me with the same courtesy. Spit it out!


Ruby wrote at 2011-03-30 05:02:18
I would give ANYTHING to be free from this problem.  If anyone has been successfully treated, I would love to hear your story.


need earphones wrote at 2011-03-30 22:27:26
We all sound alike, we are all so happy to find others. I eat as quietly as possible because I do not want to inflict on others what I hate. Certain tonal qualities are working on some part of the brain. I notice when non annoying noises like plastic bowl tapped while washing dishes hits similar tone as that hollow crack on hard food crunched in closed mouth it starts to trigger the annoyance till I realize it is just [innocent]plastic container sounding same pitch.I adore my sweet kind wife and daughter but both are robust munchers of chrunchy things JP


sad_sad_nikki wrote at 2011-04-01 02:29:30
Let me just say i could have sworn i was a freak. a jerk. a b*%$h. but i knew something was wrong. i know im being psychotic. I have suffered from panic attacks from an anxiety disorder, and came close to panic attacks from this. it makes me feel so bad. like i get so mad i want to slam my fist into my ears. i hate getting mad at my family and my poor boyfriend. its normal. but i cannot get over it. i tell myself to relax n focus on something else but cannot. like when i hear breathing from noses, or chewing aloud, gum, food, ice, ect. even the sloppy chewing with the mouth closed!!! im horrible! it drives me nuts i cry and leave. i will not go to family dinners amd i know it started when i was a kid. like 6 years old i was at my friends eating dinner n her mom told me stop eating like a cow. BAM! also i have a skin picking disorder. i think im a mess.   :)


CarolJ wrote at 2011-04-01 04:32:56
For those who describe the issue as a strange attack/vibration on their eardrums, I recommend researching HYPERACUSIS.



For those who immediately experience an intense surge of anger, frustration, etc. when they hear those sounds, research MISOPHONIA, aka 4S (Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome).



Some people may have both hyperacusis and 4S. I recently went to the Callier Center for Communication Disorders at UT-Dallas, where the clinical audiologist asked some questions about the history of my sound sensitivity, followed by questions about sensory issues: Do you have trouble eating any particular foods (texture issues)? Problems with certain fabrics, types of clothing (e.g., "seams" of socks)? Problems with bright lights?....



No one knows very much about 4S, but there's a good chance it has something to do with SENSORY INTEGRATION DYSFUNCTION and/or SENSORY DEFENSIVENESS. Unfortunately, none of these keywords are "official" diagnoses with "official" treatments (however, they're significant enough to have Wikipedia articles, so I recommend checking those out...).



My 4S is currently being treated using Tinnitus Retraining Therapy, which means I will wear hearing-aid type devices that continuously generate something like white noise into my ears. No one is sure how it works, but somehow it should retrain my brain to process sounds differently.



I also am being treated with Trileptal (gen. Oxcarbazepine, which may be able to affect sound sensitivity) as well as Luvox (gen. Fluvoxamine) to treat the social anxiety and agoraphobia that stemmed directly from my difficulties with sounds.



My biggest triggers are noises (lip smacking, chewing--even seeing someone's jaw moving bothers me, shoes scraping against the ground, scratching, the soft sound of a hand brushing up against something, the rustling of fabric as I--or others--walk, repetitive noises, pencils scratching on paper); secondary triggers are seeing things moving (feet kicking, seeing someone reach up to touch their face, etc.)



I personally believe that these sensitivities are very closely related to OCD, anxiety disorders, depression, and GIFTEDNESS. I used to have a few tics as a child; I am wondering if that might also be a common trait...?



http://www.misophonia-uk.org/

http://soundsensitive.org/

(Read the stories of other people's experiences. It helps a lot to know that you're not alone!)


Kira wrote at 2011-04-20 16:56:01
Hi. This is just amazing and I started crying when I read these posts because it is exactly how I feel. After reading all this and researching on the internet, I think I have misophonia. It all started when my mom married a new husband. He would always blow his nose by the dinner table, chew with his mouth open and clean his throat (cough) extremely loud all the time. It really bugged me (I was 13 years at the time), I told my mom and she told him to stop, but for some reason he can't stop smacking and chewing with his mouth open, and he also makes extremely annoying noises with his nose in the way he breaths through it. We went to family therapy but it didn't really work. Till this day I am 18 years old and I still have the same phobia and it has become A LOT worse. It really tears me up. I can't stand people who chew their gum loud, people who pop their gum (I literally want to hit them in the face and kill them because it annoys me so bad!), and also when people play the piano in my piano class really loud. Right now I am an exchange student in USA and my host family does all these things. They also have the habit of having to have the TVs in all the rooms on extremely loud, they don't even watch it, they just HAVE to have it on! So every night before I go to sleep I have to sneak into everyones rooms and turn their TVs and radios off, or else I can't sleep. And then i wake up the next morning and ALL the freaking TVs are on sooo loud! I get really angry and upset, I cry and I hurt myself. Till I found this post I did not know what was wrong with me.. In class I always look to find the gum poppers and loud chewers so I can stare them down and give them evil looks so maybe they'll take the hint, but they NEVER do!! We are going to Florida (me and my host family) next week and I'm not even looking forward to it because they don't know how to chew their gum like a normal person. I think it's so disgusting and rude! I also hate being in big groups of people which stopped me from going on the Disneyland grad night trip with my class. I hate being in amusement parks because people always pop their gum, and I hate being on airplanes and trains because I have to sit right next to people who might pop or smack their gum. My boyfriend of 3 years is starting to understand me, and we are going to go to therapy when I come home. I sent this link to my stepdad and mom to make them understand that it's not that I intentionally give them mean looks and show hatred, I just suffer from this condition, and hopefully I can get help! I don't know how I'm going to live with this if not.. But thanks to all of you for posting this, it has been really helpful and now I know that I'm not crazy, I'm not alone, and there are ways to try to cure this!


Teddy wrote at 2011-04-25 20:06:59
As many of you have said, I teared up reading this, knowing finally that I was not going crazy.





IS THERE A CURE? HOW DO WE FIX THIS?



I really cannot go on like this much longer.  It has started to effect my job performance


FindMeACure wrote at 2011-04-26 15:40:49
Until I found this site this morning I had no idea there were people like me, or that this was even a condition!  I actually googled "how to not be annoyed at smacking" this morning after a particularly bad argument with my husband last night.  A lot of noises aggravate me, but smacking, chewing with the mouth open, loud televisions, and whistling are among the WORST.  It's usually worse with my parents, sisters, husband and children.  Sometimes I get SO ANGRY I really feel like I could scream!  I will literally put my fingers in my ears when I hear my husband eating, but nothing seems to help.  And when he plays the television too loudly I have to fight the urge to walk into the living room, grab the remote, and turn off the TV.  This problem is now affecting my marriage because my husband feels picked on all the time.  I try not to be angry when he eats, and most of the time I can keep myself from SAYING anything, but I can't help giving him really hateful ugly looks.  I try to make the facial expressions so that he can't see, but he's pretty attuned to it and notices them right away.  But when I am in those situations I feel like I HAVE to either scream, hit something, or at least make a disgusted facial expression.  I also get very angry when my oldest son whistles.  It feels like he whistles INCESSANTLY sometimes, and it makes me want to freaking scream my head off!  I feel like I am rambling on and on, but I am just so glad to know this isn't something only I am dealing with.  I am going to see a psychiatrist tomorrow to get advice on how to deal with this problem, because I definitely DON'T want to train my children to have these same kinds of issue.  Plus, it would be really sad to get divorced over smacking!


Heather wrote at 2011-04-28 04:06:06
I am 17 years old and this problem has been going on with me since 7th grade. My parents thought I would grow out of it too, but I still struggle with it to this day. I can't stand the sounds of crunching, gum chewing, my family eating, heavy breathing, something that is louder than my music I am listening too, sniffling, coughing, and more. It is so frustrating to deal with knowing that no one else understands what your really going through. I am going to a psychologist about noise anxiety because that is what this is. I get headaches often and I always go to other rooms to do homework or reading in loud environments. I always have to put headphones in when my stress level starts to rise. It is again really frustrating!  


Iris wrote at 2011-05-04 00:08:40
I am SO happy I found this. I was just researching about disorders to see if this truly was one.. and I think that I've come to a conclusion (from browsing online and looking at these responses) that I have misophonia. I freak out whenever my family chews loudly, especially when my sister breathes heavily AND eats at the same time.. I try to keep my frustration in because I know it's extremely rude and seems insensitive, but I can't help myself.. I don't think that anyone that doesn't share this problem understands the anger and annoyance. I avoid even eating dinner with my family, but now that I know that this is probably a disorder, I think I'm going to try to find ways to cope with it.


evilN wrote at 2011-05-13 16:22:56
I too have the same problem as so many of us here do...I owe it all to my father -- who makes disgusting loud noises while eating , talking , instead of saying NO , he uses a 'CHT' noise...Lord !! Even as i write this .... i cant feel my blood curdling , the aggression building up.I hate to say this -- But i hate him.

I have become extremely voilent -- its almost as though i am going nuts -- i cant calm down till i have broken something.Its has gotten that bad.And to add to it my father isnt willing to help me out.The other day my mom held onto me for almost an hour to calm me down.Its gotten that worse.I almost imagine pulling my dad's tongue out and hacking it or maybe just chopping his head off into tiny bits till its disappears.Just can explain the aggression.



People need to understand that we are just asking them to co operate to help us.We arent doing this on purpose.We want to have dinner with our family -- its just that we are overwhelmed with this problem and cant hold on.



First of all : WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ALL OF US ?

Secondly : WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS PROBLEM ?




revisiting wrote at 2011-05-17 23:45:43
I've read this all before.. Whatever this is, this "misophonia".. it is so extremely dreadful. Nothing that anyone without it could probably ever understand. Out of rage and frustration after my mom started screaming at me because I asked her to stop chewing so loudly, I yelled at that it was an actual disorder and its not my fault. She agreed that its a disease.. a disease that makes me selfish and think I'm better than everyone else and put everyone else. This was not less than 10 minutes ago. I can't describe the frustration that comes with this. I can't confess my disorder and be taken seriously.  


delia wrote at 2011-05-22 09:01:29
Any psychologist or pediatrician or OT specilaist should know that this is sensory processing disorder, but a lot do not. Very sad lag in the educational system. Go to websites that offer info  on AS (autistic spectrum disorder ir ADD forums or SID)as well for a more full explanation. All these disorders kinda get diagnosed or misdiagnosed all together. Eventually you'll see what I mean. These neurologists are barely able to see the whole picture because they are neurotypical, so they mix it all up and give these hyper/hyposensitivities the different names. It's not a phobia. Sorry folks, you don't get off the hook that easy. You have to learn to live with it. http://www.addforums.com/forums/archive/index.php/f-92.html  


Andrew wrote at 2011-05-29 18:36:51
I am so glad that I'm not the only one living with this! I'm 17 and this has been a problem for as long as I can remember. Every time my mum, dad or brother eat I just die inside. I feel angry at them for not understanding and blaming me, as well as for making the actual noises. They always talk with their mouths full and it makes my chest tighten and makes me experience an internal lunging experience. It's so bad that I've started not eating much so I can escape and I run whenever I see my dad making something in the kitchen so I can get a safe distance away before he starts eating. But I've found that it bothers me with some people but not with others - there could be someone I hated who ate disgustingly and it might not bother me at all, but then there are people who I really like that it bothers me so much I avoid them. It's a horrible feeling and people who don't experience it just say I'm being awkward and trying to annoy them. It just makes me feel sick, anxious, angry, tense and upset. I already feel uncontrollable anxiety throughout the day and this just makes it worse. But I'm glad I'm not the only one... :)


christopher escue wrote at 2011-05-30 06:12:54
hello all. to add to this. i work retail, have for 17 years, but i hate to watch other people and see their behavior when they are rude and arogant. seeing someone shop in my store with their sunglasses on or talking on their phone loudly worries the hell out of me. i get angry and aggressive inside. yes others that smake food or gum drives me up the freak'n wall. or if i have to repeat myself when im talking directly to you and you arent listening, this has ruined some situations for me in the past. it has been all of my life. i am 32 but i hate this condition.


Mike Lary wrote at 2011-06-07 06:55:31
I'm one of you guys, I have actually slammed someone's head into a wall for doing this after I told him his being too loud nicely...



it's a problem no doubt, it can't be ignored, but i dont think it can be stopped either.


Macy Chiles wrote at 2011-06-11 22:47:10
i have had this problem since i was 7 years old. I'm 17 now.. and it keeps getting worse. first it was only chewing gum that annoyed me. now it's food. and it's not just the sound.. if i look at my mom and she's eating i will feel like killing her. it sounds scary but it's almost as if satan comes over my body or something. I'm such a laid back person that it scares people when this happens. I've been to a mental hospital and therapy and nothing helps.


Georgie wrote at 2011-06-11 23:16:22
i got sent to my room earlier because i got so annoyed by my mum eating her cereal i got angry and shouted at her. I WAS ASLEEP AND SHE WOKE ME UP, just thinking about it makes me feel sick to my stomach and i actually want to cry. my family think im pathetic and tell me to get a grip, but they dont understand how it makes me feel i want to cry and i get really agressive and angry when they eat loud, i try to leave the table but im just told off and then if i tell the to be more quiet, they do it louder to annoy me and it really upsets me. i need to know a name for this intolerance so i can prove to them its a problem which lots of other people suffer from, MY DAD CAN MAKE A BANANA SOUND LIKE AN EARTHQUAKE, i need help


"Stop Smacking!!!" wrote at 2011-06-29 17:24:27
I am so glad that I am not alone too. I can remember smacking sounds annoy me since I was about 3 or 4 yrs old. The sound of people sniffling in class also causes extreme anger and anxiety. My family has made fun of me for years about it and it has made me feel different and alone. I am now 27 yrs of age. I've been married for 4 yrs. It seems that every since mid-way through this pregnancy my husband's breathing drives me absolutely crazy. I picture myself ripping his nose off and throwing it. It reminds me of a leaky tire or something. I have to make sure both of my ears are covered when sleeping in same bed as well. It drives me nuts. Is there anything that can cure me? I have recently switched from regular to online classes too because I can't stand the sound of people breathing or chewing gum in class.


Christina wrote at 2011-07-17 15:43:01
I also have the same problem! Although it only happens with certain people, or maybe it's because my family just chews really loud. I consider loud chewing, coughing, burping, and farting to be extremely rude. It makes me cringe and sometimes I do feel aggressive. I never act on it of course. Oh and another huge petpeeve of mine is when people take HUGE bites out of their food making them chew loudly.  


SJones wrote at 2011-07-22 00:24:10
Im 16 and i hate to hear people chewing bubble gum. And my whole family thinks Im just being rude but Im not it seriously makes me angry!  


KG wrote at 2011-08-10 12:38:30
I am 52 and have suffered severe distress with people eating around me for probaly 40+ of those years and it has effected relationships and my style of life.



I think it is phycological as my brother used to do it deliberately to annoy me and of course being the youngest sibbling our dad always took his side. I also find it annoying at times when people inflict their noise on me though selfishness e.g. playing music on personal stereos or in their house so it can be heard 100 yards away.



It am very scared that one day I will just lash out one day when I cannot take any more of it and will end up with a criminal conviction and/or lose my job. If it was a phobia with spiders or snakes (which I don't have)people would be more understanding.



In 4 weeks time I am being posted to a new job where I will have to sit next to someone who makes the most revolting eating noises that I have experienced. He is a very nice chap apart from that but I think I will have to visit the doctor to see if there is any help that can be offered because I know I will not be able to stay anywhere near when he eats, he also chews gum.



Personally, I am not glad to learn that there are others with the same problem but it is reassuring to know that I am not the only person in the world with this problem so that when I speak to my doctor they will not immediately dismiss me.


KimboTron5000 wrote at 2011-08-10 17:00:27
I work with someone that constantly slurps on ice all day long.  It is the most repulsive noise I have ever heard.  I also have another coworker that makes that snort noise to clear her nose. I just cannot deal! It is so disgusting.  


KTB wrote at 2011-08-12 20:45:42
Wow, other sufferers! (hooray?) Anyway, I too fly into blind rages at certain noises.  Chewing, smacking, sniffling, cellophane rattling, and keyboards.  I don't know when this started, but I'm 24 now and it's gotten worse.  It seems like y'all manage to keep it together around strangers, but I can't.  I go through the fidget stage, mild irritation stage, then the "lunging" in my chest, before finally destroying something (usually a poor piece of paper that never hurt anyone) or just leaving.  It takes a few minutes to calm down after. It's almost worse around my family, because then I either yell or leave, both of which are rude and awful.  I feel terrible about it but what can I do? THEY KEEP ON CHEWING.   Also, some smells drive me up the wall, I get nauseated or an awful headache, and I'm a grouch for hours after smelling them. I like to think I'm pretty even keeled except for these few things. It's so weird, and nobody seems to understand.  


Drew wrote at 2011-08-20 03:40:55
Goodness, how thankful I am to find that I am not the only person who has this "problem." Firstly, about myself: my "condition" isn't terrible, though I can't stand it when people smack their gum or chew with their mouths open. Even the normal sound of people masticating can drive me nuts. The way I've learned to deal with this is to recognize what annoys me, recognize which sounds are "normal" (i.e. the normal sound of chewing with one's mouth closed. Though it may annoy me, people just can't help it, nor can I), and which sounds are the result of bad manners. If there is a sound which annoys me and the person who exhibits bad manners is in my vicinity, than I usually ask them to kindly stop. If I can't do this, then, well, I usually just put up with it and try to focus on what I'm doing (such as carrying on a conversation, etc.). I'm not sure whether my outlook is acceptable or not, but I have a propensity to be rather critical about not only my manners but also the manners of others. When people exhibit uncouth behavior, I tend to interpret their behavior as extremely rude and as somewhat of a personal attack against myself and those around them. This then leads me to usually draw an unrealistic conclusion about the person's intelligence and personality, and can even lead to racial stereotyping (just being honest). I have been diagnosed with ADD and OCD in the past and it is likely that these disorders have an effect on my outlook when it comes to certain annoying sounds. In conclusion, as I previously stated, it boils down to fessing up to the problem, recognizing I have a problem, and recognizing what is normal and unreasonable behavior within myself. I don't think I'll ever be cured of the problem, rather it's just a matter of managing these little issues of mine. I would encourage those who are greatly distressed with related symptoms to talk with a professional councilor if this problem effects their daily life to a great degree. I have undergone loads of therapy and can honestly state that it is extremely helpful. And trust me, if the therapist is a good one, they will not think your "weird" or "not normal." Rather, they'll listen to you and help you fix the problem. No personal struggle is silly or dumb, especially if it is causing you distress.


SnowbiRd wrote at 2011-08-21 21:20:18
I am so glad I am not alone my freinds and family dont get it they have not met someone like me with these issuses and i havent met anyone like me in this way either they all think i am goin crazy or something i want help badly i hate it so much i have been this way for about 4 years i cant eat dinner with my parents and when my friends chew gum i go crazy i am trying to tolerate but i cant. i might see someone bout it bcuz i cant be like this for the Rest o my life. help me


Blake wrote at 2011-09-05 03:48:12
Yeah i think i have this also. It seriously makes me want to pull a gun shoot the person doing it. It pisses me off so much. Especially when people do it with gum. So frustrating and annoying.


maria662 wrote at 2011-09-05 11:51:37
I think I might suffer with something like this, I've heard some people call it noise anxiety and every time I hear my mum biting her nails or chewing it makes me really uncomfortable. I feel like a bad person for feeling this way because it also includes things that I see like when she licks her finger to turn a newspaper page or sticks her tongue out or touches her head. Im really worried about it and I dont know what to do. Its been this way for the past 3 years at least and I think it's only getting worse.


4SMisophonia wrote at 2011-09-06 11:56:31
I have had this since I was about 11.  Im 47 now.  It doesnt go away.  I hate swallowing sounds that can be heard through a person's throat, especially if it gurgles down or squishes down in a way that sounds like it was tight going down.  Gum cracking has made me want to kill people, and I stare at them in a hateful manner until they understand.  Cracking, slurping and smacking sounds are unbearable, I want to kill people who do this.  Also if a person in a totally quiet room suddenly blasts out a really sharp and vocal sneeze, it pisses me off.  Who knows what this crazy disorder is?  Just leave the room or put on headphones, its the only thing that works.


Nick wrote at 2011-09-08 00:01:09
I cant beilive there is people like this like myself.  I have had this phobia since i was 11 years old. before then i was a happy kid with no worries about sound. i use to love my mum doing the dishes before i'd go to sleep so i knew somone was there at night.  but im 22 years old now... and its just getting worse.  I cant eat with my girl.  I cant stand her eating or even doing the dishes or  even walking up staris as i feel she is walking heavliy on the floor and it annoys the hell out of me.



i have no idea how to fix this problem... sometimes it makes me so angry that i think about killing something or someone..  or sometimes i'll just yell words to anyone with out even relieaseing i am saying it.   im in serious trouble with this.. becasue im at a stage now thats its just getting worse and worse ..  i really need help!  you have no idea how much help i need.


raging bull wrote at 2011-09-08 21:08:27
Misophonia is the scientific name for this condition - see the recent NY Times article on it.  I cringe every day sitting next to people at work who slurp their coffee and lick peanut butter off their fingers.


Elise wrote at 2011-09-10 03:26:16
Wow. I have the same thing and was unaware that it was so common. Glad I can finally tell people that it's a real thing and the name is misophobia (even though it's not really a phobia). Yeah I get the same way when people chew, snore, cough, or even breath. And I have to sit through 25 minutes of breathing every morning during quite reading time. Unfortunately, it doesn't look to normal to have your hands clenched around your ears jerking back and forth to create better sounds. Nor is it normal to randomly burst into tears in the middle of reading a book.  


Dani wrote at 2011-09-12 00:03:07
I have the same exact phobia. I seriously thought I was the only one!! It started ever since I was the age of 9 when I started to notice how annoying the slurping was, as my grandfather was eating/drinking soup. Ever since, I tried to avoid him during dinner time to the point I started to notice how annoying it was when my father sucks his teeth, and makes this weird popping noise with his mouth. It irks me and I want to kill whomever is next to me. I squint and my heart drops allllll the time! I hate it when he rinses his mouth too especially when he spits out the Listerene. I noticed it was a true illness because whenever I forget to cover my ears, and I hear these noises, I once threw my shoe at my sister's closet, leaving a hole. The only therapy I have is my ipod.


BarryKG wrote at 2011-09-12 08:50:28
Up until about a week ago, i had always known i had this issue, but never realised that others did too. I cannot stand the noise of people eating, chewing, breathing, snoring, sniffing, or anything along those lines. The guy in front of me eating an apple at lunch drives me to drum & bass to get through it. When i'm in a pub, and someone's kids are acting up, i can't help but feel a scintilla of violent intentions towards them, and their parents. To that end, when i'm at work, i have to wear earphones playing music all day, just so i don't have to attempt to tolerate the noises. Just last week, i found out this was called 'Misophonia' (or misophobia) and expressly points to the fear and/or hatred of noises/emission of noises from other people. I think i also have an element of APD (CAPD), and so when in a crowd, or a supermarket, or in the office, i have real problems hearing what people are saying directly to me, all i seem to get is the background noise. If someone 40 feet from me is having a normal volume conversation with someone sat next to them, then all i can hear is them, and not the guy sat right next to me talking to my face. I have to employ lip-reading to try and get the gist of what is being said. It pretty much drives me mad when you couple the two problems together, and having to constantly ask people (especially my wife) to repeat themselves is so annoying. I actively try to avoid parties, gatherings etc, and often try to avoid people with accents or those that mumble, because conversations are just so painful, and lip-reading an accent is incredibly difficult. There is no real cure for this, other than to try not to let it get to you, and don't buy a gun or a pair of knuckle-dusters.


mamlu wrote at 2011-09-20 03:00:30
Wow! I did not realize this was a phobia. I thought it was just people being rude and did not realize they were making so much noise.

My husband eats popcorn right by me while I'm on the computer or while I am reading in bed and he hates it when I respond like I don't like it. He can't stand it when I say something or give him "the look". He thinks I'm terrible.

People should respect others more, I do.


Syd wrote at 2011-09-25 23:45:01
I had no idea others felt this way too. Whenever I hear someone chew with their mouth open or smack on anything it makes me so angry! I want to cry and scream and pull out my hair and jump off a bridge! I cant tell anyone this because they will all say I'm making this up and tell me a bunch of bull! I'm glad I don't feel alone anymore.


Zayne wrote at 2011-09-27 13:38:30
I honestly thought I was one of a kind until I found this. I've been living with this for years, starting with my brother doing it accidentally while eating. When I finally found the courage to tell him to stop, he knew what he was doing and even started to do it deliberately just to mess with me. Now this has really affected me, my family thinking that I was abnormal or rude. Recently, I noticed that my mother does this when she talks. When I confronted her about it, she simply stopped talking to me for days. All attempts at seriously trying to stop this have just lead to more conflict, so I honestly don't know what to do.  


Laura wrote at 2011-10-01 22:17:43
I'm 13 an this is ruening my life, it's mainly breathing and people making weird noises and eating and it make me so angry ! When I go to sleep overs I have to bring ear plugs and right now I'm sleeping in my living room beacause my cousins are sleeping over and she has the most horrid breathing sound ever so I have to be as far away to et to sleep :( this may sound strange but when I get angry about these things pretty soon after I always need the toilet.. I'm not sure if it's connected or not :/  


WB wrote at 2011-10-05 20:49:44
Wow,

  I am at the half century mark and this has bothered me since I was a kid. Open mouth eaters really drive me nuts. Why in the name of God don't these people close their damned mouths when they eat!! Well, believe me you are not alone in having a dislike for eating noises and such. There are some people who do this teeth sucking thing which is enough to drive anyone nuts. What is up with that? They eat like pigs then have to suck through their teeth for the next hour. I don't think there is any cure for this phobia. Believe me, you are not alone in this one. Man, I was so happy to read all these posts.  


Ellie wrote at 2011-10-14 11:57:01
Wow... I am genuinely amazed that a) Misophonia is a genuine condition and b) that I am not on my own. I am 19 and have suffered for 14 years that I can remember. I have vivid memories of being trapped in my family's caravan on holiday, wanting to scream because I could not stand the sound of my father's breathing. I used to stuff cotton wool in my ears and pull my pillow over my head. I also used to drop out of friends sleepovers and refuse to sleep at anybody else's house (a great source of embarrassment) in order to avoid the snoring/breathing of others. I have lost friends, quit a job, and stormed out of an A-Level exam because of this. I'm 19 and sleep with ear plugs to block out the sounds of my partner, which over the years have caused permanent damage to my ears. I still will not stop at another's house for fear of somebody's noise "penetrating" my ear plugs. If I can still hear my partner over them, I scream, squirm, shout at him, want to tear my hair out and have even self harmed. This has only gotten worse as I've grown up and I have no idea what to do. I live in central England and cannot see my useless GP being able to recommend anything if I'm honest.


Solidox wrote at 2011-11-03 14:52:44
We are not wrong or mentally ill. We just know good manners and basic etiquette, unlike these slupers /chewers /etc.



I have this old lady as a cubicle neighbor. I've been working here for 2 years. She has been eating (loudly of course) baby carrots EVERYDAY except for 3-4 days (out of 2 years). Yes, I count them, I even started an excel sheet that logs the times she eats. I eventually figured out it was easier just to log the ones she doesn't eat carrots.



There is nothing wrong with us people, we are just annoyed by their rudeness and  we feel frustrated for not being able to find a reason to their incredibly rude manners.  


Not Our Problem wrote at 2011-11-04 02:57:34
No, this is not a PROBLEM. I am completely appalled at this. You do not have a problem for not being able to tolerate loud chewing. The people who do the loud chewing have a problem because it's awful manners and is rude and annoying. This is not a problem on our part, definitely stop calling it that.


Tinkle24 wrote at 2011-11-05 23:06:21
OMG! I'm 43 and seriously thought I was some kind of freak not being able to tolerate the noises of people eating (and all noises that itself cause), certain breathing (like when people have colds), grinding of teeth etc. Now I have read what all these people and their experiences have led them to feel, I no longer feel as isolated about it. I don't know what's caused it but I just can't abide it and sometimes I get so angry I have found myself wanting to tip the plate of food over the head of the offender, would like to know what its medical name is though.  


Jay wrote at 2011-11-15 19:19:10
I have had a problem with lip smacking for as long as I can remember. My aunt used to be the most annoying eater, she smacked like a chipmunk when she ate. I avoided her at any holiday and refused to eat or stay at my cousins house (when i was younger). The guy on Bizarre Foods (Andrew Zimmerman) is the closest example to her. I have vowed if I ever see him in person I will K.O. him for sure. Now I have a co-worker who annoys me as well, we usually work together on jobs in construction. The last week has been slow so we sit in the office together an he burps constantly, dips tobacco and spits every 2 minutes. Also when he eats he brings a plastic bowl and scarfs it down so fast and makes the scraping sound on the bowl with his spoon. I get so upset that I want to drop the fax machine on his head (thinking maybe a slight to moderate skull fracture will silence him). I don't recall these sounds bothering me as much until now, and all I can think back to is my aunt when I was younger. Maybe it's just being stir crazy from sitting in the office with someone for this long considering I'm not used to it.


Bri wrote at 2011-11-15 21:47:35
I am 12 years old, and I am going through the same thing, it all started last year. I can't stand when people talk with their mouth full or chew loud. It hurts my knee's, elbows and my head. They do it all the time because they think its funny but I always end up crying and all of my joints crack. It gets me into fights with my family because when they are trying to help me and they're having a snack, i snap. I don't like to tell my friends because they will think i'm weird. I'm glad I'm not alone. At school it is so hard to eat and I usually spend most of my lunch stretching and it bothers me. I tell my family, I can't change this, but you can help. They say its more convenient to get what they are saying in a dinner conversation, out before they loose their thought. I don't know if they realize how bad this hurts me. At first they thought I had OCD, but I did my speech on it to see off i had it. I don't. Having people talk with their mouth full hurting you is not a symptom. I would really like to know how o get rid of this HORRIBLE phobia. Sometimes I feel like pulling out my hair when they do, and it isn't right for me to suffer like that.  


Abigail wrote at 2011-11-18 00:43:20
I know what you mean and I'm glad I'm not the only one. I have had these symptoms for over eight years and they won't go away they only seem to get worse. I can't have dinner with friends anymore since most of them tell me I make faces at them. My parents call me rude when I try to tell them and complain that it is a lie since most of the time I have bad hearing. It can get to the point were I can tell if someone has food in their mouth even if they're in another room. My family is disgusting. They chew with their mouths open, slurp(even cold cereal!!), love to chew on ice and smack their gum around. Just thinking about it makes me cringe. It is really painful, sometimes all I can do is get up and go to my room and cry. I feel infuriated and really want to hurt them, often just imagining slamming their faces into their food. I really need to know if there is something available to at least suppress some of the pain. I can't take it anymore, I'm loosing friends because of it.


Lailaah wrote at 2011-12-06 19:07:53
I've been having this problem for 30 years now and it's annoying me. Everyone at work annoys me. I hate when my coworkers next to my cubicle whistles, sings, laughs annoyingly and when people make noise eating or drinking water. I haven't told anyone bc I don't want them to think I'm weird. Everyday at work I get headaches bc noise bother me. I wish I can work somewhere with no noise. I don't want to have a baby bc I can't stand when people cry. When I hear ppl cry I think something will happen and when ppl laugh too much it annoys me. Im not crazy. I'm 33 years old and have a great job, graduated with honors, but it was very tough growing up. Sometimes god forbid I don't want to have hearing so the noise will go away. It hurts not being normal. I've complained to my boss why does so and so whitsle loud or sing when I have deadlines and can't concentrate. She said just tune them out. I can't just tune something or someone out. The dogs in my neighborhood annoy me with barking too. I hope I don't sound too crazy.  


MFS wrote at 2011-12-08 17:29:01
Oh, wow. There are so many people who feel this way! I only recently developed this problem, but I'm only fifteen so it just might get worse over time. I know exactly what everyone is talking about. I get so irritated and upset by the sound that I want to hurt the person making it, too. I then proceed to feel guilty about  it :P. It's not so bad it's affecting my life, because when I'm eating with them or when there's conversation flowing, then I don't really notice it. I wonder if there's a name for this?  


Kristen wrote at 2011-12-10 11:49:47
I never knew that this was considered a phobia, always just thought of it as expecting adults to have manners...lol..I too get extremely irritated with loud eating, drinking..etc.  Give a little bit of my background, I am 24 years old..my Dad was in the Army and he would always ridicule us as children and teens for our eating habits.  We would not eat with our mouths open, however when we ate something like an apple or chips..the noise of those foods in our mouths used to make my Father cringe. I now find myself with the same problem as my Father.  I can tolerate children eating loudly, I see them as children who are just learning..no foul there.  But, my Husband is 33 years old...he is fully aware of my dislike of this...he eats very loudly. Just tonight he is laying in bed beside me smacking on Yogurt of all things..I mean how do you smack on yogurt?! That is of course after he loudly licks the lid wrapper for 5 minutes..yes he licks the lid over and over again for upwards of 5 minutes, smacking his lips and just being a slob. When I tell him that he sounds like a pig eating that way (and trust me this is after years of politely asking him to eat with his mouth shut) he just tells me that he is savoring his food...I have no idea how to keep my cool anymore about this.  I just cannot tolerate these noises, why are grown adults acting like 2 years old's just learning how to eat properly and have manners?! I wish I had the correct answer for the above person asking the question, sadly I do not have any answers for how to tolerate people eating like pigs. Again I was unaware of this being a phobia, then again maybe there is a phobia in which somebody cannot tolerate bad manners. :)


Insane wrote at 2011-12-13 21:58:04
Wow! I can't believe that I found this forum! I am 37 and have suffered from this condition for years. My daughter also has the same problem. Unfortunately, I work in a cubicle and sit directly across from a woman who chews very fast and loudly! I hate to watch her eat. She smacks, breathes extremely loud, burps and blows, types hard and coughs and clears her throat constantly!!! I am going insane. Additionally, the co-worker across from me clears her throat constantly, and the lady behind her coughs constantly. The guy who sits in the corner breathes loudly, and the co-op next to him eats chips every morning. Finally a lady who sits not too far from me laughs after every sentence!! WTF is so funny!!! Help!!! I literally cannot take it. I am definetly going to look up MISOPHONIA. Thanks for the insight everyone.


Melissa wrote at 2011-12-17 06:30:53
I really have felt like I have a serious problem, the anger I feel is so intense. I really just want to hurt whoever is making the noise.



It started around age 13, intensified around age 16 and now at 24 just gets worse all the time. Just thinking of the noises that bother me make my blood boil. Chewing (mouth open or closed), drinking and I can hear it going down their throat, eating anything crunchy, breathing loudly, breathing when eating, typing loudly (or at all), clicking of cell phone buttons, gum chewing.... the list goes on. The biggest one is when my dog smacks her lips. I love her to death, but when she does this I want nothing more than to pick her up and throw her against the wall and rip her tongue out. She does this in the middle of the night and it wakes me up, and I can't fall back asleep. It makes me want to rip her face off. I tell my boyfriend she needs to sleep in a different room, but he just thinks I'm being ridiculous. I scare myself by how badly the noise affects me and how it makes me feel. It doesn't feel normal to feel anger so strong about a noise.



I cringe thinking back to being in a vehicle with my brother who used to sniff every 2 freaking seconds. I wanted to throw him out of the van onto the road. Or my Dad eating peanut butter and licking his own teeth, and I would leave the room and start punching something because it made me so mad. I have a coworker that I have to eat lunch with once a week and I just want to push him thru the glass walls because of his eating sounds. I can't concentrate on anything but the sounds.



I found this site after a fight with my boyfriend, because my dog was licking and I told him 3 times to make her stop, he looked at me like I was crazy so I screamed to make her stop, then I grabbed her and shoved her, holding back on doing anything more. My boyfriend said he couldn't believe I would do that and he is now sleeping on the couch! I just can't control myself, it makes me insanely angry.



I wish he would understand just how it makes me feel. It's more than just an annoyance. I just want to hurt whoever is making the noise.  


Annoyed wrote at 2011-12-18 03:07:20
This relieves me to see so many people who share this condition. This has been an issue for me since I was about maybe 11. I've become so frustrated by it sometimes that I cry. I have to leave the room whenever it happens and I sit in my room with feelings of great agitation and anger. I hate feeling so hostile towards people about this. Sometimes it interferes with my concentration and thought process which further aggravates me. It annoys me most with my father, though we have a good relationship. However I get a sense of paranoia, like he does it on purpose, which I know he would not, I just can't help it. I wish I knew a way to not let it bother me, or even just know what this is.  


Dontbelieveyou wrote at 2011-12-19 08:22:23
I've never heard of a phobia like that? you sure its not just a phase?


Hipocondriac wrote at 2011-12-26 04:37:14
I am 18 years old and have developed theese exact symptoms for the past 3 or 4 years just today (Christmas day) I had to leave my family in the living room while watching a Christmas movie because my sisters were eating popcorn the sounds caused me to have to block my ears and eventually leave to room . I am now in my room and have just finished crying for the what it seems like hundredth time over this because when I try to talk to my boyfriend or family about it they do not understand and get mad at me for Makeing them uncomfortable to eat around them I fear this is going to cause my relationships with certain people I care about so much to be hurt by such a trivial matter . My mother told me to go online to look up some form of self help this is the first web site i found . It makes me feel a little better to have others whom feel the same way i do . I believe there has to be some way to stop this anxiety I feel every day . I need a cure !


arogloofnatsnuckle wrote at 2011-12-28 02:09:25
im 32 and have had this same problem since, at least, i was 8.  i can remember yelling at my little friends to chew with their mouth closed.  there is no respite.  we, like this, are doomed.  the people that eat like freaks are exactly that, freaks.  the things that we think when they make these noises when they eat are outrageously violent, yes, but they should shut their mouths and pay attention to what they are doing.  they have no right at all to ignore our needs and, if they do, then that is why we can use any means necessary to make it stop.  tell them to think about it as if they, themselves, were submitted to constant, unending fingernails screeching across a chalkboard.  buy a stun gun and use it on the offenders.


Chin wrote at 2012-01-02 03:27:09
I have had this problem for a long time, it started developing when I was about 9.  I am now 15 and I have been through it all.  I've been annoyed by chewing, throat clearing, sniffing, talking, gurgling noises when talking, snoring, and gum chewing.  I have learned to cope with this by following the ABC of happiness. Have a positive Attitude, Believe that you can cope, and have Courage.  I know many people won't except this, but this little message helped me a lot.

Have a Positive Attitude

A in my ABCs refers to attitude. William James, a pioneering American psychologist and philosopher, wrote, “The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”1

So much in life depends on our attitude. The way we choose to see things and respond to others makes all the difference. To do the best we can and then to choose to be happy about our circumstances, whatever they may be, can bring peace and contentment.

Charles Swindoll—author, educator, and Christian pastor—said: “Attitude, to me, is more important than … the past, … than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a church, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”2

We can’t direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails. For maximum happiness, peace, and contentment, may we choose a positive attitude.



Believe in Yourself

B is for believe—in yourself, in those around you, and in eternal principles.

Be honest with yourself, with others, and with your Heavenly Father. One who was not honest with God until it was too late was Cardinal Wolsey who, according to Shakespeare, spent a long life in service to three sovereigns and enjoyed wealth and power. Finally, he was shorn of his power and possessions by an impatient king. Cardinal Wolsey cried:

Had I but served my God with half the zeal

I served my king, He would not in mine age

Have left me naked to mine enemies.3

Thomas Fuller, an English churchman and historian who lived in the 17th century, penned this truth: “He does not believe that does not live according to his belief.”4

Don’t limit yourself and don’t let others convince you that you are limited in what you can do. Believe in yourself and then live so as to reach your possibilities.

You can achieve what you believe you can. Trust and believe and have faith.

Face Challenges with Courage

C is for courage. Courage becomes a worthwhile and meaningful virtue when it is regarded not so much as a willingness to die manfully but as a determination to live decently.

Said the American essayist and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson: “Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide on, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.”5

There will be times when you will be frightened and discouraged. You may feel that you are defeated. The odds of obtaining victory may appear overwhelming. At times you may feel like David trying to fight Goliath. But remember—David did win!

Courage is required to make an initial thrust toward one’s coveted goal, but even greater courage is called for when one stumbles and must make a second effort to achieve.

Have the determination to make the effort, the single-mindedness to work toward a worthy goal, and the courage not only to face the challenges that inevitably come but also to make a second effort, should such be required. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says, “I’ll try again tomorrow.”

May we remember these ABCs as we begin our journey into the new year, cultivating a positive attitude, a belief that we can achieve our goals and resolutions, and the courage to face whatever challenges may come our way. Then the abundant life will be ours.



http://lds.org/liahona/2012/01/living-the-abundant-life?lang=eng


Misophonia wrote at 2012-01-07 04:56:52
This is called misophonia.:.............GOOGLE MISOPHONIA



THERE ARE SEVERAL FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUPS AND WEBSITES DEDICATED TO

HELPING YOU WITH YOUR RAGE ISSUES AND COPING STRATEGIES.



Do yourself a favor and educate yourself about misophonia. You don't have to keep suffering in silence.


Tiffany wrote at 2012-01-10 17:19:46
You are not alone. I always thought it was just me being rude when things bug me like this. For the last 7 years or so.

I can't stand when people continously burp or make any types of bodily noises. Only when they are repetive. I have to focus on myself eating if, I forget to do that I will get disgusted by how others eat. I can't stand nail biting, chewing, burping (over and over again), loud talking, sniffling, coughing, hi-cupping, or any sorts of bodily noises.

It drives me crazy. At one point it got into a fight with my boyfriend because he kept on holding in his burps (knowing I hate it) and he kept on burping inside.

Noises RUIN My mood, It makes me go crazy. It makes me want to literally hurt someone so bad that they can't make the noises anymore. I hate it, and over the years my mom just thought I was being mean. I'm not mean, I just can't stand it. It literally destroys.


John wrote at 2012-01-19 01:40:53
Yes I am 11 years old and cannot stand loud chewing, breathing loudly, or sniffs. And the worst thing is my 6 year old brother when he sleeps. I have to wear earplugs at night because of it. I feel ridiculous. I have had this problem for 2 years, since I was 9. My mom,sister and brother can't stand me. I can't stand it anymore. In school when everyone sniffs is very annoying to me, too. Please, tell me my problem and how I can fix it.


K wrote at 2012-01-25 00:13:22
Yet another person to ad to the "slurping/breathing loud" phobia.  



I can't sit through anything if someone is breathing loud, chewing loudly, smacking their lips, talking with a mouth full of food, drumming their fingers, or swinging their foot. It drives me insane. It has for a while, and it gets worse as time goes on. I'm not joking when I say I want to strangle or physically harm someone when they do any of the things mentioned above.



I don't tell my friends, because I don't want to insult them and feel uncomfortable telling them about it. With my parents, I have constantly, for YEARS, asked them to avoid at least some of the things mentioned. Sometimes fights break out, sometimes not. I can't help feeling boiling-point anger at these gestures, but they can help doing the gestures. It's very VERY frustrating. I don't know how I'll survive a dorm room next year, especially if the person snores.



But don't get me wrong. I'm a nice person. I get worked up and annoyed by these things, but at least I keep my mouth shut 90% of the time. But that's getting harder and harder to handle.  


elana wrote at 2012-01-25 08:19:11
I'm 18 and I can't deal with people chewing or breathing loudly, everyone thinks that I am mean and rude for telling them I hate it. My boyfriend makes this nasty chewing/licking noise when he sleeps and it makes me want to pull out my hair its so irritating. Some mornings we wake up and he is mad at me because I hit him and hurt him while we were asleep, I know that he must have made the noise but I was asleep and I don't remember hitting him. Even when I am sleeping it bothers me to the point that I become violent. I can't deal with this, it's ruining my life


Brad wrote at 2012-01-30 17:47:50
I'm 27 and have dealt with this since I can remember, about 15 years maybe?  When I was younger, I had learned to tone it out by focusing on what I was doing.  As I'm aging, I'm finding it more difficult to tone out these sounds.  A lot of it, I believe, stems from a female cowork who sits next to me that chews gun all day every day.  It has forced me to listen to music while at work (which isn't technically aloud), because I can't stand it.



Another place is in the movie theaters.  I can't stand people rustling their popcorn bags, chewing on hard candies, etc. while watching the movie.



I went to the movies with my wife about 2 weeks ago and almost had to walk out because of people a few rows back rustling their popcorn bags and chewing loudly.  It ruined the whole movie environment to the point where I don't want to go to the theaters again.



That and the way my wife eats oranges.  Though I can ignore that because of how wonderful she is ;)


KB2755 wrote at 2012-02-01 00:08:46
Ever since I was younger and my mother would eat over my shoulder while helping me practice the piano, I've always been extremely bothered by chewing, smacking, generally just annoying body noises. Even prolonged or persistent coughing or blowing a nose drives me nuts.



My current roommate seems to smack his lips multiple times a minute and is an extremely loud chewer. I try to get away in my room to avoid it, but I can't all the time. I feel bad because he's a great friend, but this is building up quite a bit of frustration.



Any other suggestions to what people do? I try to ignore it but it really stands out over everything, even while watching TV with them, I hear it loud and clear over the music or sounds.


Maria wrote at 2012-02-05 19:55:10
I hadn't known before that this was a widespread occurance. I always thought that I was alone in not being able to stand small irritating noises. One of my friends frequently makes a noise like she can't breathe (I'm not really sure what the problem is) but it makes me unable to spend five minutes in her company. My family has a habit of loud swallowing, this I find unbearable, although I'm aware I have this habit too. I'm unable to share a bed with anyone because the small noises they're unaware they make when they're asleep would keep me awake in annoyance. I've often snapped at my sister unfairly because she's made a small irritating noise, often just when chewing her breakfast. I loathe the noise of crunching. The only way I've found of getting over this is to frequently compose daydreams in my head, or going over lists of what I need to do so that I can keep my mind occupied. It's not ideal but it's a distraction. As it's my problem I tend not to share it with anyone around me, and if I find the noise of someone eating or breathing unbearable, I simply make excuses and leave the room. There's little I think can be done about it, but I hope what I've said helps.


klehr wrote at 2012-02-09 15:26:15
My sisters, Mother and I ALL share in this same phobia. I prefer to live alone because I can NOT tolerate the noise of others eating. Expecially hard products like pretzels or chips. It has been an issue for me since childhood and now as an adult I can't avoid it in work situations. I could actually cry it makes me so mad.

Is there a name for this phobia? And better yet is their a cure for it. One thing that amazes me though is that when I hear my pets eat, it doesn't bother me at all, in fact I think it's cute. Why is this?


Kate wrote at 2012-02-09 20:35:22
I came across this forum by accident, but I cannot believe how many people have the same problems as me! Ever since I was in high school, I have not been able to stand loud breathing, chewing, or anything of the sort. I usually wind up annoying others as much as they annoy me just because I get mad and leave the room. I know they think I am just being anal or mean, but I really can't stand it. My chest feels tight, I get shaky, and I really just want to punch whoever it is in the face. I wish I knew how to control it or stop it all together.


tryingtohelp wrote at 2012-02-10 16:47:36
I seriously have been dealing with this since I was a teenager. While I don't feel ANY guilt for getting frustrated with family members that deliberately eat like pigs to piss me off (yeah, they are that kind), I hate how it affects my relationship with my husband. He tries, and sometimes we just eat separately so we don't get in a fight. It's funny, because we can eat in a restaurant and the background noise of everyone else talking and moving makes it enjoyable and I don't hear him chewing. But at home I can't turn up the TV loud enough to drown out the sound sometimes.



One thing that I have found that genuinely has worked for me is to listen to 15-20 minutes of pink or white noise at night. There is a phone app - SimplyNoise - that has been a lifesaver for me. A couple nights of that and I'm actually better for long periods (months at a time!). I'm sure there are other apps and CDs out there, but watch out for the ones that go on repeat too loudly. Simply Noise's repeat isn't too bad for me.



I hope that this helps someone, and please if you know something better than this please tell! Even if isn't a lifetime cure or help, at least it's something to try. Remember - you aren't crazy. You just hear things differently. Some people can't see colors the same way, some people can't smell at all (or smell things a mile away), and some people hear things better than the average Joe or Jane. Best of Luck to all...


Griffin wrote at 2012-02-13 22:29:28
I to have this problem, especially with my mom. Every time we are in the car; she has to chew gum, and she has messed up teeth so it causes her to involuntarily pop every time she chews. Now the very sound of that sends me into an inner rage that i don't really feel for anything else, and when i ask her to stop; she says "suck it up." I really need to find a way to not care because him only 14, and if it gets progressively worse then him probably going to get violent eventually.  


Mikemowbs wrote at 2012-02-19 20:23:03
Glad to know im not alone, but reading the above proves that it is an illness, i say that because of the aggresive burt of emotions i have when expsed to noise such as chewing, snoring, gulping, deep breathing, rustling sweet bags etc, i can honest say i have exploded in the past with familly, friends and people i dont know, i hate it because i am not in control, i wish sometimes i was deaf, i dont mean that but i would love an on/off hearing switch, for those who say "deal with it" i cant i have tried, but when i find out the solution to this dissorder/illness i will be first in the cue to get my head sorted out. I am in danger of losing my familly because of it, i feel i am pushing them away by constantly distancing myself from them, sad times but i now need help, if anyone can guide me in the right direction email me mike230@btinternet.com, no spam please just help


roxydearest wrote at 2012-02-27 22:18:58
My fiancee's father eats like a pig, he smacks his lips, makes slurping sounds, licks his fingers and ugh I can hear him from the other room. I just want to put on some ear plugs!


Talimarra wrote at 2012-02-28 22:56:57
I have this problem but it's good knowing my problem could be worse. I also have a similar problem with people's voices. I'm 16 and I'm taking 8 classes. Almost all my teachers have something irritating about their voices. One teacher hisses when she makes an "s" sound, another one talks with such a nasal voice that I get a headache listening to it, another one always emphasizes the "p" sound...and don't get me started on the other kids. All the girls talk like California girls and say "like" constantly. And I hate giggling and loud talking. And teeth clacking. And gum popping! Ugh! But the worst thing is whispering. Because the only thing you hear when someones whispers are those annoying abnormalities in their voice! I don't complain, I just grind my teeth and cringe and suffer in silence. It stinks!


Peter wrote at 2012-03-01 17:41:22
The same with me, I'm 17 and it's sending me crazy, when my mum and dad eat like that. I also get annoyed when they lick their lips and the inside of the mouth after eating. But i don't notice it when they start eating, and I don't notice it.


Jeff wrote at 2012-03-04 11:30:19
At 50, this has been central to ruining my life. After being treated 25 years ago with Buspar, this really took a major turn for the worse. The anxiety was reduced significantly but would never go away because at the core, I hated the people doing the sounds and a personal decision like that is personal no drug can change.I forgot to take the drug for a few days and the contrast of sound irritation became so intence, so much more overwhelming than usual, causing me to attach to the long list of noises, dogs barking. I now live with head phones on 24 hours a day. A note to all who suffer, try this trick, it really helps. I use a very small peice of a high quality paper towel moistend with aloe vera after sun gel like Hawiian Tropic. Usually clear blue. This is a very nice balance for the ear. by cuttin out the strong heavey sound, managing public becomes almost easy. Great in lines, or the movies and eating out. If they are small enough, people cant see them. They are my survival method and are in 24-7. I can hear most everything fine. You would be surprised at how well this one small thing can do to cut the horrible stress this condition causes. I have addapted just fine to the different level of sound coming in and feel perfectly able to hear what ever I need to, but can block these other noises. Haveing been throughg massive insecurity, self haterad brought on by my familyy labaling me a freak, and the pain of it all, Iave simply needed to survive.As I write this I have on my earplug head phones with good music blasting, muffled by ear plugs of paper towels and aloe gel and the neighbors dog is nonstop. Unless my rechargable tripple A's run out, I am calm for now. Good to remind every loving sole around you that it is not them, it is you. Own your crap. Your loved ones are normal and doing normal noises, it is you who is unable to cope with the normal world. Is sucks but that is the way of it. Always go back and apoligize and ask forgiveness for the anger. It is nice if they stop the noise, but after spending so long in so many situations, it is me that must adapt to them. I wish you all the best of luck, My life is nearly ruined from it, learn from my mistakes and block the sound asap. It is the only reliable way to insure you will be at peace with others who are just doing what is so normal for them.

Good luck to all

Jeff


amy wrote at 2012-03-04 19:54:04
Duuude.  I am 33 and have had this since I was about 14 or so.  We all need to get a doctor to do research on this and diagnose us.  PS-I looked this up sitting in an airport.  I travel a lot and every time I get in an airport I get in defensive mode because of all the obnoxious gum-chewers I seem to come across.  Sometimes in airports people open a plastic bottle and it sounds like gum-cracking and I turn around and give the evil eye.  I am seriously out of control!


Chell wrote at 2012-03-06 07:26:58
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one with teen wolf ears.  I was given the nickname teen wolf by my husband due to the sensitivity to my ears.  I, also get very easily annoyed, aggravated, and ticked off not only when people smack their lips, eat with their mouths open, snoring with bad breath. and smacking their lips. However the number one annoying pet peve is when people talk accenting sounds in their words such as Ch, Sh, Z. It's almost like a whistle when they talk. It takes everything in my power to avoid giving them a piece of my mind.  My husband does it and I get immediately tell him he's hurting my hears, how annoying and ticked I get.  I know he cant help the way he talks, but that annoys me to no end when anyone does it in general. What can I do to avoid slugging someone because it's getting worse as time passes.


Jackie wrote at 2012-03-06 15:16:24
I'm 35 (so not a child by any stretch) and can attest that this causes massive psychological upheavel. Apples are the worst offenders, but gum chewing is a close second. I've had this my entire life, and the irritation (an inadequate way to describe what it feels like to be exposed to this type of sound) extends far beyond familiarity. I'd be curious to know whether the phenomenon has a name. I am oversensitive to other certain types of stimuli, like radio, keyboard clicking, and also smells, but the reaction to chewing noises is extreme, and has not lessened with age.


Been there Mom wrote at 2012-03-10 06:35:49
I happen to stumble across this site while looking for something else. However, my daughter has sufffered from the same symptoms since she was a teenager after having a concussion from a car accident. We found this website and information helpful.



http://www.hyperacusis.org/

Comprehensive Site for Hyperacusis Information

Hyperacusis Information SiteSelf Help? Pink Sound Protocol can be useful for home use as a first step.



PINK SOUND PROTOCOL Treatment is Available.  Please visit Dr. Johnson's new website to learn more about this reasonably priced at-home treatment for hyperacusis and tinnitus



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If you are one of the millions of people in the world who suffer from hyperacusis, this site may be helpful for you and your medical providers.    



 

Hyperacusis may be defined as a reduction of normal tolerance for everyday sounds.  



It is also defined as a collapse of the normal

range of tolerance for sounds that is present in otherwise normally functioning ears.



People with hyperacusis may find that certain sounds are more difficult to listen to than others, and some sounds may cause pain in the ears, even when those sounds don't bother others.  Often, the most disturbing or painful sounds can be sudden high pitched noises like alarms, bus brakes, silverware and dishes, children's screams, and clapping.   Many sounds that were previously perceived as normally loud or non intrusive, can be painful, annoying, seem amplified, or irritating.  This is a very frustrating situation for most people as sound and noise are present in nearly every work, social, or recreational settings!



Sometimes, hyperacusis can be so severe that people begin to avoid any public or social setting in an attempt to protect their ears from any sounds.  It can be very difficult for family members or medical providers to understand and support the person with hyperacusis, which cannot be seen in images, like a broken bone.











Hyperacusis can come on suddenly or gradually.  It can initially affect only one ear but generally speaking, within a short time, the condition is almost always bilateral. It can be mild or severe. Often, people who have hyperacusis also have tinnitus, or phantom noises in their auditory system (ringing, buzzing, chirping, humming, or beating).  Research has shown that about half of all people who have tinnitus, also have reduced tolerance for moderate or loud sounds, known as hyperacusis. No one is quite sure how many people in the world suffer from hyperacusis without tinnitus.   



Adults and children can develop hyperacusis: certain birth conditions are associated with hyperacusis, including Williams Syndrome and autism.  Since the auditory system connects the outer organs of hearing with the central nervous system, through a complex series of neural pathways, that literally pass through or coordinate with many diverse areas of the brain, there are endless possibilities for dysfunction that may contribute to hyperacusis.



In other words, the understanding of the mechanism of hyperacusis is often extremely challenging and it is yet impossible to specifically locate a single structural change that is responsible for hyperacusis.  There is no objective test for hyperacusis.  Most people who develop hyperacusis will be referred to an ear doctor and receive a thorough evaluation including a full audiological assessment to determine the state of the auditory-vestibular system.  In the USA, Doctors of Audiology perform these important assessments.  



Careful case history and the use of Audiological Tests can help diagnose the condition. In particular, the LDL Test (loudness discomfort test) is of critical importance in determining the degree of hyperacusis. Normal LDL levels in most human ears tend to fall at 90 dB or greater at various pitches or frequencies.  Again, there is very little normative data on LDL results in normal hearng populations for comparison.



The billions of electrical signals that are processed by our central nervous system must be ordered and prioritized for our practical use.  If you are reading a good book, and a bee stings you, the effect is dramatic and the primary activity instantaneously shifts!  In the case of hyperacusis, detecting which of these billions of electrical or biochemical processes has changed is still impossible.  But with proper, experienced, thorough investigation, and coordination with all the medical providers, often a reasonable conclusion can be established for a particular patient.



The most common causes of hyperacusis are





         Hearing Loss, Noise Injury



         Head Injury or Whiplash type injury



         Acoustic Trauma, i.e. airbag explosion or gunshot



         Adverse reaction to medication or surgeries, particularly Central Nervous System drugs



         Chronic ear infections



         Auto immune disorders



         Unknown



By far, the most common causes of hyperacusis are noise injuries and head injuries.  Neck injuries can also contribute, i.e., whiplash.  There remain huge areas of medical scientific research and data accumulation that must be explored before we can really begin to define and understand the different types of hyperacusis, and the origins of this troubling disorder




DespiseNoises wrote at 2012-03-11 22:15:35
I also cannot tolerate when people smack their food, pop gum, smack their lips, basically when people eat....I cannot stand it.  What is bad is that I work in a small room with 2 other women for 12 hours at a time.....they are big women, they eat all day long and they smack EVERYTHING!!!  I have had to request for a shift change because I can no longer tolerate them.  They make noises the whole shift. I get so angry that I could really walk over to them and beat them unconscious. Thank goodness I am not the only one with this condition!


David wrote at 2012-03-13 08:49:17
WOW!!!! I'm 12 years old and cant believe there are this many people with the same problem as I have!!!! I get ticked off when my family "grinds their teeth", chomps on food such as chips, carrots, and nuts, or  something like a banana in their mouth. My family tells me to just deal with it and honestly I can't!!!! I've gotten upset with friends and relatives but just don't have the guts to tell it to their faces... soooo relieved to know I'm not alone.


NoNameInParticular wrote at 2012-03-14 20:50:41
I'm 39 and have lived with this inconvenience since I was 8. I even got discharged from the Navy because of it. My divorce was caused in part by this as well. It's been a rough life with this issue and would take a long time to explain it all but it's actually kind of nice to see I'm not the only one in the world with this issue.


Shakiba wrote at 2012-03-22 22:47:49
I'm so mad! Every time I'm bring it up i get yelled at for being rude! Why can't everyone just chew properly.


Wendell wrote at 2012-03-25 18:22:45
I get the same way. I don't know why everyone is getting all worked up about it making them a weird person though. Throughout history it's been considered etiquette to chew with you mouth closed, not slurp etc... But it does make me angry though. It's like nails on a chalkboard. When I hear someone doing these things I just think they're nasty. I'm not the only one in my family. I remember my Cousin always telling my other cousin to close his mouth and not smack in not so kind words. We maybe a minority us nose breathing, closed-mouth chewing, non-slurping folks but i'll be damned if I feel weird or ashamed of it. I just googled it to see if anyone was as peeved by it as me lol.


anonymous wrote at 2012-04-02 14:17:42
I get this. I'm 14 and sometimes if I'm in the car for a long amount of time I'm sat there fighting tears. I will literally sit there with my fingers in my ears. I hide my parents gum because they chew it so damn loudly and I get really really annoyed at them! I hate it when someones cutlery hits their teeth, especially my dad because he does it really fast and bites down on it. I hate when people are eating apples beside me and when people make these sounds I automatically hate them. They think I'm the one being rude when it's them (I swear deliberatley) making the sounds. I could hit them. I turn up my music really loudly too. and if someone says a really sharp z sound like ts it makes me really annoyed. No idea why this is.  


jb wrote at 2012-04-03 18:19:30
I'm almost positive that this is Hyperacusis because I was diagnosed with it, and i have the same symtomes. although no treatment helps me the doctors say it will go away with age.  


shade wrote at 2012-04-09 14:52:04
I'm asian, woman, 41 yo having misophonia especially in chewing sound so as foot step since I was 5. In my country I think i am the only one having this phobia/4s/misphonia. Glad to know i am not the only one in world.


Kristina Maire wrote at 2012-04-10 03:05:27
i am the same /: i am 14 years old and i used to do it when i was younger, but my sister got grossed out, and so i stopped. i thought it was the most annoying thing ever since. i was 6 or 7 at the time, and its bugging me more and more as the days go by. its killing me. i always clench my fists till they're red and i close my ears too often, kinda everyday. and my ear throbs after every class i have where people chew gum loudly. or in the cafeteria, i get so angry. i want to cry. i even tear up when someone does it. its painful, and it makes it even harder for me to breath, considering the fact that i have asthma. i breath heavily, and my anger soars sky high. i want to grab the person by the neck and choke them to death, or cut off their tongues. its a big problem. i also grit my teeth a lot, i even chipped one twice because i bit down so hard. i feel like i need professional help, and i keep asking my mother for a therapist or a psychiatrist but she never gets one. i have punched walls, kicked my foot on stone walls, smacked my hands on my head. its making me crazy, and i need help. your not alone.  


Jess wrote at 2012-04-15 17:33:39
This is soo comforting! I cannot stand when people, specifically my family smacks their food. Even the fast motion someone is chewing at, out of the corner of my eye sends me over the edge! When nuts, pizza, anything crunchy or soft is chewed, I have a nervous breakdown inside. They tell me to deal with it, but i can't! the only way i know how to escape this is by leaving meal times early and escaping to my room...I don't even know why I am like this and i am still trying to figure out, i think this started for me in about 2010?  


austan bardell wrote at 2012-04-17 22:21:11
I am just like this. Everytime someone is eating loud it just kills inside me i just wanna cry. I cant stand when people smack tjeir food, sniffel,chew loudly,or smack. I also need to leave the room i cant stand  it so much. I just wanna get over it if ther is any way at all. It is impossible to just ignore it when in school over half the kids smack their food and gum.


Victor wrote at 2012-04-26 07:47:23
I'm 41 years old and I've dealt with an extreme intolerance of eating sounds my entire life. I have probably read 100 entries on this site this evening and I find it extremely comforting to know that I am not alone.  I've over-come the "rage" over time and presently, it is a merely a MASSIVE irritation. I'm not bothered by "rude" eating; I'm bothered by eating! I can't even tolerate the sound of my own eating. (The good news is that I'm still very thin)

There are effective ways to deal with this. At family gatherings or holiday meals; we listen to music through dinner. At work; I eat lunch in the car where I can listen to the radio. I rarely accept dinner invitations to other peoples' homes but when I am cornered and I must attend such a function; I usually help the host or hostess. While everyone sits at the table; I'll volunteer to help in any way in the kitchen.

I've seen a few posts on this subject that refer to "hyperacusis". I think that that is a different issue. (Albeit with similar symptoms) "Misophonia" as defined on Wikipedia seems to be a closer (if incomplete) description of what we're talking about.

I probably would not leave a comment about my experience with this disorder if it was not for all of the young people that I see who have written over the past 11 years.  If you are young and experiencing these problems; it might be helpful for you to show your parents the information that you have discovered here and I think the Misophonia article on Wikipedia too. (If you think it applies)  But even just asking to have a radio on during dinner might help.

And....for the parents of young people having this problem; you must know that this is a real problem for your child. Even if you don't understand, this is a big deal. This is NOT a refusal to eat beans or random moodiness. It will be worth your time to help to find solutions with your child rather than being confused about why every meal turns into a battle.

If you look back to the original question and answer; the answer suggested that this was unusual...now look at 11 years of comments.


Fed up. wrote at 2012-04-28 12:41:10
This is unbelieveable! I can't belive that so many other people have this problem as I thought I was intirely on my on and abnormal. When ever my Dad eats it drives me so crazy! I get in so much trouble and told that I am being so rude for asking him to stop or showing any signs or irratability.  It just makes me cringe. My Mum and brother don't seem fazed by it one bit and it makes me wonder if I have supersonic hearing that is able to pick up micro sounds that others cannot hear.  


RyBan wrote at 2012-04-30 19:22:21
Here is an article I found on this today: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/06/health/06annoy.html - from the new york times, Misophonia is what its called! In the article it even makes reference to this being something engrained in our brain, in otherwords, its not a condition learned over time but something we are born with. I truly believe this as my sister, half sister (same father) and my dad (whoo passed away years ago) ALL cannot stand chewing noises. I drives me nuts to hear people chomping on crunchy things like chips or nuts, smacking their lips, sucking and crunching on hard candy, chewing with their mouth open, chewing loudly, etc. This isn't something we can just turn off, its something we were born with, clearly evident in the fact that 3 of my dad's children, including him, all suffer from the same thing! My grandmother told me my uncles would purposely eat loudly just to annoy him! My half sister grew up in Georgia, while my sister and I were in new England, yet we all feel the same way about chewing noises!! Personally I manage it by just reminding myself to not get so mad, I'll let it out inside of me while remaining calm on the outside, but man can it be hard. if it were up to me just going by the way I feel at times I would just eat in another room or at different times, but this isn't rational. Been dealing with this for as long as I can remember, just hang in there and try to manage, but remember it isn't your fault or anything you did!


KS wrote at 2012-05-01 00:12:56
Finally I get to label this "reduced tolerance to everyday noises" that has been bothering me recently.

I never used to have this. My older sister had lip-smacking and slurping noise problems at a young age. Since I have learn proper dining etiquette (Chewing with mouth closed, elbows, ETC)but I seem to be showing signs of irritation when I hear these noises, just like my sister.

I now have temporary residence in a school dormitory and share a room with an Asian teenager close to my age. Almost always one would find me to be a tolerant and understanding person who pens anger and lets it vent out slowly, later.

But I find myself wearing down my teeth with constant grinding whenever he pulls out one of his hundred packs of dry, crunchy, noodles or a banana or two in the morning. Really anything that requires using vast amount of saliva to consume.

On several occasions I have come very close to either punching him square in the face or telling him to chew more quietly but do not. This is mainly because I simply find it excessive/useless to do.

But sometimes I consider the fact that perhaps, coming from a Taiwanese culture, he was raised to believe that this is the correct custom. If this is the case I will roll up my sleeves and bear his sounds.

Nonetheless I am glad to have found a name for this condition and others suffering from it.

Thanks for your time.



Also, I was wondering if there was any data/tests involving wether potential partners on a date prefer a person with good table etiquette (Specifically chewing) over others who lack the "skill".


TDuffey wrote at 2012-05-02 14:47:43
I hate that to I get so frustrated when people smack there food sometimes I think it is rude


shay. wrote at 2012-05-06 19:58:59
Im 13 and I cannot stand it when people smack, chew with their mouth open, and chew loudly, my mom chews with her mouth open all the time, and it makes me really mad, and it puts me in a bad mood, it even irritates me when people are eating something crunchy and you can hear them crunch, I get so angry I have to go in another room. I also cant stand when people breath out of their nose loudly when they're close to me.

I always just thought i had anger issues


Hayley wrote at 2012-05-09 17:16:33
I'm 14 going onto 15 and... of course, I have the same problem although it doesn't resemble as severe as the others who have mentioned. Generally I just cannot stand the sound (my family, being an example) slurping/chewing/smacking/crunching. I especially hate the sound of them swallowing. Eurgh!!! Whenever I hear it I just want to leave the room, but if there are any other noises, such as music to drown out the sound, I won't mind.  


Misty H. wrote at 2012-05-11 04:36:00
Hi all, I'm 32 and have had this problem since I was 12 or 13. In recent years, it has extended to visual stimuli (usally those related to noise). I'm most affected by mouth noises & breathing noises, also by forceful typists who sit next to me at work, and the most recent sounds that bother me are flossing, water running while others are showering, tooth brushing, flip-flops dragged across the floor. We should all get in touch sometimes and strategize on possible therapies - has anyone experienced a decrease in how intensely or how often they feel affected by this?  


Haly nickols wrote at 2012-05-23 03:46:38
I'm 12 and I can't stand any of that. it has gotten so bad since

Childhood I have gotten aggressive . I actually have started

Grinding my teeth, making a fist, and hitting people. I need

Help!!!!


kmt6681 wrote at 2012-05-23 04:57:08
Amazing! I am 52 y/o and have been bothered by eating noises, heavy breathers, the sound of dragging slippers, forceful typists, etc... for as long as I can remember. Just thought I was over sensitive. Interesting to note that I am not alone. Also interesting to realize that the folks making the noise probably aren't overly noisy either--I just have a sound phobia. Now, what to do about it?  


Cassie wrote at 2012-05-23 22:58:33
I always thought I was just being too sensitive. I physically cannot be in the same room with someone eating without some kind of background noise to drown it out. It doesn't even matter if his/her mouth is closed...if I can hear them at all I become more irritated until I have to leave I'm so angry. Slurping and obnoxious gum chewing I also can't stand. I have literally gotten to the point where I want to punch people in the face I get so angry. My little sister has it worse...she can't even listen to people breathe


Mako123 wrote at 2012-06-01 07:14:24
I have the same problem. My coworker comes in every day like clock work after lunch and gnaws, pops, cracks and chomps the same piece until we go home. Many times I have asked her to spit her gum out telling her it is offensive and unprofessional.  She gets angry and smacks it louder. Well she got hers!!!! My boss must havevthe same problem I do.  We were  being videod while in a training. A few months ago at an employee meeting they played the video. The Camara was focused on her smacking and popping her gum. And it was close up shots of her repetitive bubble blowing, smacking with mouth open. She was embarrassed.  Our boss explained that talking to employees about vulgar habits seems to do no good. She informed the group that a client actually called and complained about the gum popping and she thought after talking to said employee, problem was solved. Employees face was red.  Boss then announced if anyone is caught with anything in their mouth; gum, food, candy while working with patients and clients, they would be immediately terminated.  This afternoon employee  was at it again, chomping cracking gum. I reminded hervwhat boss said.  In the midst of her gum gnawing she told me where to go.  Next time I am slapping her


just saying wrote at 2012-06-05 13:57:00
I have this problem also. It is called manners. Table manners.

All thru my childhood, I sat next to my brother at meal times.

He ate really loudly with his mouth open.

Licked his fingers with that disgusting smacking, slurping sound.

It drove me insane.

I taught my kids to eat properly, so, they don't do it.

But we have people staying with us at the moment, who lick their fingers, and are really noisy loud eaters.

I have to leave the room.

So, tonight I came to my room, and found this site.

So many of you have this problem!!

Take it from me guys, -- its called MANNERS! if you were to find a cure,- then you too, would think it ok to be uncouth


Nick wrote at 2012-06-14 02:29:29
What gets on my nerves even more is when people start chewing with their mouth closed, then they open it mid chewing. It's like they are too lazy to remember they are chewing and forget their manors as well. My older cousin is trying to teach her win table manors and snaps on him for doing it while she's doing it. It's beyond anoying. I could smack her in the face every time she does it. Than and when she swallows, she keeps chewing with her mouth open.  


liz wrote at 2012-07-08 07:26:03
I've had this since about aged 10, I had no idea it was a phobia. I can't bear hearing lip smacking noise, mainly when people eat but also if they happen to make the noise when they open their mouth to speak/ make certain sounds/ yawn.

I physically recoil or shudder and if it carries on and I cant get away then I end up glaring at the poor person out of total disgust and anger. Done it to good friends, managers at work, anyone. Wish I knew how to stop it.


Stacy wrote at 2012-07-09 21:56:51
I hate to read about so many suffering -but wow, I thought I was alone and just hypersensitive. I am 43 and have had this problem since I was a teenager. I'm a very calm and loving person but when I hear someone eating it's like Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde -I get angry, can't concentrate and it's overwhelming. Currently I work for a supervisor who regularly eats chips while talking to me when we're looking at a project on my computer. She stands by my shoulder and crunches and smacks and talks while eating. I will make multiple errors while she stands there -something I rarely ever do when she isn't there. I get so angry and it takes me hours to come out of it. It's all I can do to concentrate. She's a great lady but how do I tell her without risking 1) offending my boss, 2) potentially allowing my boss to see a mental issue in me or 3) coming across as rude and disrespectful. Frankly I think it's incredibly unprofessional behavior but that's a heavy thing to say to someone who controls your paycheck!



Anyway, it affects my work, my home-life, the youth ministry where I volunteer -it's quite consuming. At times it's just easier to hide at home. However, it has been very encouraging to read these posts and discover that I'm not alone and that there's information out there for me to learn more. Thank you so much to everyone who has shared.  


Makesmesick wrote at 2012-07-18 14:20:16
I have had this same problem for as long as I can remember. It honestly makes me sick to my stomach. I was hoping there would be some way of curing it. Maybe a hypnotists or something...

People all around me at work do this. I have even considered changing jobs because of it.

I found this:

http://www.healthkicker.com/754995907/misophonia-disorder-when-sounds-of-eating-


Dave wrote at 2012-07-22 22:39:08
I used to suffer with this really bad.  The first time I noticed it was at work a few years ago where the odd person would slurp there coffee really loudly - I thought this was a rather childish thing for an adult to do and then I gradually realised that loads of people do it...it also happens a lot in films where they dub the slurping noise on top of someone drinking tea/coffee - seriously, why would they do this? It can really ruin a movie for me.



The eating thing as well - I've given some of my friends dirty looks when they're eating as if to say "do you seriously have to eat like that".  I've always kept my mouth closed when eating, I'm sure I make some small noise on occasion but I seriously wonder how some people can be so noisy when eating.  Seeing people at fast food outlets like McD's or KFC who literally throw fries into their mouth and chew with their mouth wide open really annoys me as well.



It used to be a lot worse, I used to feel a real anger towards people who were making these noises as I saw it as a personal thing towards me - like they were intentionally trying to annoy me.



I always found the noise itself the worse but even the anticipation of it, or thoughts of it after would be rile me up - that's why I don't think earplugs would work for a lot of people with this condition.



What I will say though it is something I have learned to live with in a sense.  I've noticed that more people seem to slurp their drinks than people who don't, it bothers me while they are doing it but I tend to forget about it soon after whereas a few years ago it would literally ruin my day putting up with a slurper next to me for just five minutes.



I know who the noisy eaters are in my life and I simply avoid eating with them. One person in particular who I am good friends with but really annoys me because they slurp EVERYTHING - I mean like even things you wouldn't have thought were slurpable.  Everything that goes near their mouth is preceded by a sharp suck in so this has obviously become something a reflex action for this person...as much I get on with them, the thought of being sat near them in a restaurant makes me feel really anxious.



I suppose on one side of things, you can't really be annoyed with the person for the noises they make - it comes from a number of things such as how they were brought up, following the example of other people, and seeing how people eat on TV and in films.



I don't think it's a class thing either - most of the people I know who eat noisily and slurp loudly are probably of better than average education etc.



I don't know if any of you watch Dexter - I watched one episode and had to turn it off because the guy is ALWAYS eating.  He actually refers to it himself in the episode saying that he's, "eating with enthusiasm".  Sorry Dexter, I can't put up with that even if you purposely are exaggerating the way you eat.



Anyway - it might not sound it but this phobia does get easier to live with.  I used to be affected by this probably on an hourly basis at work, now it is something that affects me maybe one a week or less.  I've realised I was unlucky with some of the people I worked with a few years ago as looking back they were by far the noisiest eaters/drinkers I've ever witnessed regularly and they were sat on my left and right sides all day!  



I suppose I've also realised that some people would probably end up pouring the drink all over their face if they didn't slurp the way they do.  Sounds silly but that's just how people are.  The same with eating - I suppose some people just can't chew without sucking their cheek and tongue in so that every chew is accompanied with the slapping noise.



Anyway, all the best to fellow sufferers of this condition.  I understand how difficult it can be to deal with and how difficult it is to discuss it with anyone as it's something the majority of people don't even notice.  I've changed jobs because of it, phoned in sick because of it and distanced myself from friends because of it.  Now it doesn't seem so in my face all the time it doesn't seem quite as annoying when I come across it from time to time.


cannnot stand the gum! wrote at 2012-08-01 17:00:39
Finally! I am 29 and it's wonderful to know that there are so many others out there who suffer from the same affliction. I thought I was going crazy each morning at 10am when my boss would begin clicking his gum (he has a metal crown). I can hear it from 2 doors away and my other boss is a bubble blower. Combine the two and I want to scream. I shake and slam my hands on the desk for some relief but then the next day, there it is again.



My concern is that there are no remedies! I've tried the ipod, but I have to answer the phone so I cannot have the volume high. When I did try the Ipod, I could hear the gum chewing over the loud metal music.



I hope this helps others to know that they aren't alone...let's unite to find a solution!


daniboy wrote at 2012-08-08 01:02:12
I am a 40 year old woman that has suffered with this all my life.  I have broken up with a lovers because of his eating habits, snoring, and heavy breathing.  I will not befriend a person once I hear them eat.  It drives me crazy...they need to find a cure or something to help!


Janet Bower wrote at 2012-08-08 15:38:24
Hi, I have had this problem for as long as I can remember, the sound of people chewing espcially gum, popping and just eating with their mouth open makes me what to put my hand and there mouth and remove the gum (obviously this is not allowed)so I cringe, cry sometimes, pretend i am not well, sometimes even go home in the middle of the day and then dread going back in the next day. I am going to start hypnotherapy on Sunday with a hope this may help. Got to try something as this is reuining my life and that of my husband who gets all the flack.


E. Des wrote at 2012-08-11 04:02:44
Wow, I never thought about why or how I could possibly get so annoyed with the noise people make when they eat. Its not that I find it disgusting or anything. I just get super, super, annoyed at the sound, almost enough to hit someone. Its funny though, if you think about it, when we eat, we probably make almost the exact same noises, and no one else around us complains. There have been many times where I have told my mom or sister, to basically shut up and stop chewing so loudly. I never really saw it as a problem though.



17 years old. Male


DVB wrote at 2012-08-12 01:27:22
I don't know why I get so frustrated , but listening to someone breath or chew drives me insane. I get red in the face, and so frustrated that I leave the room. Sometimes I squish my ears. I'm sure this is not normal, but I also squeeze my arms, pull my hair because of how annoying. My problems only get worse. I have anger issues and I have 4 stages before I break and because of my lack of patience I go through them quickly.

1. I try to ignore it

2. I start to fidget

3. I try to discreetly cover the ear closest to the sound

4. I cry, leave the room, hit myself or pull my hair.

I'm happy to know I'm not alone, but PLEASE tell me there is some sort of cure!


Tori wrote at 2012-08-15 13:49:38
I have had this since I was really young, 6 or 7. It started when we would eat as a family and I would get so irritated by the sound of my father eating I would start screaming and run out of the room. In the end I refused to eat with them, which my mother had to allow because I would become so distressed. It became a thing in my family, everyone knew I hated it, and still do. When ever someone in my family puts a piece of fruit in their mouths or anything really, and I'm there, they warn me. When I was young I just used to scream "stop chewing!" To which they would always say "you can't eat without chewing".



I think it could be a biological thing because my cousin has the same problem too, and can't even bare the sound of people whispering because of the 'breath noises', as he puts it.



I found this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misophonia


LAXmom wrote at 2012-08-23 08:25:21
I have definitely had this since childhood. My brother used to hate eating with me because I would start crying just watching other people get food ready to eat! It had not gotten easier...probably harder as I've gotten older. I found this: http://www.misophonia-provider.com/

It is apparently a new site so I don't know if it will have much helpful info, but wanted to share it as soon as I found it.  


Katie wrote at 2012-09-05 03:00:27
I cannot get over how many people are struggling with this as I am. I just googled it and this website popped up.  I cannot stand smacking, crunching, lipsmacking.  Someone will find out I can't stand smacking and just to be irritating, will sometimes walk up to me and, thinking it's funny, will smack in my ear.  OMG!!!  I just want to lunge at them.  I HATE it.  It can send me from 0 to 10 in one second and I end up irritable, anrgy, frustrated.  I cannot even stand to hear the dog eat.  It's horrible.


lassmansblade25 wrote at 2012-09-10 04:42:03
I am so glad i found this i genuinly thought i just didnt like other people! The sound of breathing sends me round the twist i grab my hair because i want to pull it  out i start sweating and have to distance myself from the noise, it is driving a massive wedge between me and my partner i have to sleep with ear pluggs aswell :( breathing isnt the only thing coughing, sniffing and eating also does it but i heard there was nothing that can be done  


Frank wrote at 2012-09-17 18:41:11
Does anyone have any ideas on how to control this or better deal?I am 40 and just learned last Friday that I am not alone or just a big jerk.  Its been very hard dealing with this problem over the years.  I was VERY happy to learn there is a medical reason I act this way. I have tried so hard to get over it and deal with the sounds I hear that set me off but now I know I am just wired that way.  I think back at all the fights and friends lost and I wish others would understand I am not a jerk but just have a disability.  Best wishes to all you who suffer from this and lets hope they find a cure.


ALIAS wrote at 2012-10-10 03:01:10
Wow I seriously thought I was the only one who felt this way. The thing that gets me is when people sniff literally every two seconds, it aggravates me like nothing else. I always look to other people's faces to see if they are reacting the same way as me and it seems like they don't notice or care. Especially when my father does it, I can't even stand to be in the same room as my dad anymore. And now my boyfriend's roommate has started to do it ALL the time and I get so annoyed and angry that I don't even want to go over to my boyfriends house to hang out with him anymore because I just can't enjoy myself because I am too angry. However, even though I feel I have this  condition, I still am somewhat skeptical because I just expect people to have manners and blow their freaking nose. Especially if they say their nose is stuffed up, obviously sniffing every other second isn't helping so just knock it off! I mean my nose is stuffed up a lot but you don't hear me sniffing every second because I don't want to be annoying and gross. I think we all do need to put in the effort to try to ignore it, but maybe people shouldn't be so disgusting and make loud gross, repetitive noises.


Kris wrote at 2012-11-09 02:44:03
It is such a relief (in the kindest of ways) to see how many other people are dealing with this.  People chewing (even with their mouths closed) has bothered me since I was 8 years old.  The heavy breathing has bothered me so bad that I cannot even sleep in the same room as my husband, and he doesn't even snore.  The sound of colleagues of mine pounding on their key boards . . . This is more serious then people think.  This condition tends to get worse as the years pass.


Teagggo wrote at 2012-11-23 10:00:55
You have no idea how happy I am to hear that I'm not the only one who feels like this! People think that I just have low tolerance but the noises they make when walking, breathing, eating and so, so much more cause me pain, nausea and SO much anger! I avoid having certain friends over because of the way the eat/drink/breath which I feel horrid for but I cannot handle being around them for prolonged amounts of time.  Thank you so much for making me realize that I'm not alone!! <3


Armita wrote at 2012-12-01 06:51:16
I was thinking that I am the only person who has got this problem until, found this post.I can tolerate these kind of noise too.Is there a sceintific name for this problem.Can I SOLVE it and how?Help me please.I can bear this anymore.


need a resolution wrote at 2012-12-24 13:04:40
It is helpful to know that so many others experience this same problem. I also have major issues with eating and breathing sounds. I absolutely want to go nuts when I hear someone smacking their lips, but particularly when it has that gooey type of sound, similar to the sound it makes when you make roll meatballs in your hands from ground meat. When I hear this type of sound, I can feel my body fill with rage and I clench my teeth real tight. I feel like lurching out violently at the person. The violent feelings and images are so out of character for me, that I dont know who I am when overcome with this feeling.  


T wrote at 2013-01-07 05:33:12
Omg I can't fall asleep,its 12 am and someone got really Hungry at this time, Really?!?! I'm so aggravated by the way my father eats I can't stand the way he chews goshhhhhhh.... I have to close my ears bc ill explode if I hear one more noise... Why can't people eat normallyyyy why eat like a dog were human ?!:( ughhhhh


T wrote at 2013-01-07 05:33:41
Omg I can't fall asleep,its 12 am and someone got really Hungry at this time, Really?!?! I'm so aggravated by the way my father eats I can't stand the way he chews goshhhhhhh.... I have to close my ears bc ill explode if I hear one more noise... Why can't people eat normallyyyy why eat like a dog were human ?!:( ughhhhh


T wrote at 2013-01-07 05:33:55
Omg I can't fall asleep,its 12 am and someone got really Hungry at this time, Really?!?! I'm so aggravated by the way my father eats I can't stand the way he chews goshhhhhhh.... I have to close my ears bc ill explode if I hear one more noise... Why can't people eat normallyyyy why eat like a dog were human ?!:( ughhhhh


Alex wrote at 2013-01-09 06:20:55
I'm fourteen and I thought I was the only one that had Misophonia. I hate listening to my mother chew and breathe. She is just so loud and obnoxious. When I'm around her and she smacks, breathes heavy, slurps and/or sucks on her fingers, I just get extremely aggatated and aggressive. It makes me feel a but better to know that I'm not the only one with Misophonia. c:


Jen wrote at 2013-01-21 16:34:30
I'm 39 years old and I also started going crazy in the car when my parents started chewing gum while we were driving.  I used to sit hunched down in the back trying to cover my ears.  I can still tell you the gum brand - Trident Spearmint.  It still makes me crazy to smell it today.  Things that bother me now are sniffing (this is the worst), snoring, breathing, and knuckle cracking.  For all of you who think you have it bad - my son has tourettes syndrome, which means he makes little noises ALL DAY LONG that cycle..like sniffing, grunting, etc.  It has been my greatest challenge in life to stay a good parent.  It hasn't gotten better or worse for me with age, but I have gotten used to knowing where I can and cant be.  Movies on opening night?  Forget it.  I have boxes of silicone earplugs that stay with me daily.  I have Bose noise cancelling headphones while I work during the day and for flights.  If you are young - tell your parents about his issue and let them know it is a real thing.  Its not you being a teenager.  I wish that I had known about the 4S disorder - it would have saved me so much anguish.  Now when my mom comes over, she knows that I WILL NOT tolerate gum or open mouth chewing.  Its a boundary I must have and deserve in my own home.  Your family should be a safe zone for you.  Good luck everyone.  I hope someday we find a fix.  


Fed Up wrote at 2013-02-14 17:46:31
I'm not denying that these "phobias" exist, or that some may be more sensitive to various sounds or audibles, but for me it is simply a matter of class.



I was raised to believe that chewing with one's mouth open is disgusting.  Hearing someone slurp, salivate, or masticate ANYTHING is disgusting.  It is beyond unbelievable that people are oblivious to their own disgusting habits.  Whether or not the offender is cognizant of what they are doing, it is blatantly disrespectful and arrogant to carry on AS IF they are the only people in their environment.



But it has been my experience to never be alarmed at WHO the offenders are.  Abhorrent eating practices are almost always only the tip of the iceberg......there are MANY more disgusting habits where those came from.



Consider this woman in the office who sits directly behind me.  She brought salad to a potluck - didn't think it was possible to mess up a salad, but low and behold she did it!  I was just thrilled to mix the salad in the both to capture more of the vinegar and oil dressing, and voila! - A nice long 24 inch piece of red weave swirled in.  Wasn't hard to figure out who it belonged to.



In addition to her poor eating habits, she comes to work when she is sick - WITH THE FLU.  So I get to hear all the coughing, hacking, clearing phlegm from the throat, "honking" or clearing/scratching the nose and throat in addition to the slurping and chewing. It doesn't help that she apparently has teeth issues, so the extra spacing between them only adds to the issue.



It is completely and utterly gross.  She is ~45 years old, which makes it worse because you would think she knows better.  Now, don't take this the wrong way, but she is also a lesbian.  I don't have any issues with that, period - but it makes me think about things in an even different light.  Usually men are more associated with dirty and gross things - not women.  How can she be in a relationship with another woman and still be this way?  What does her mate think of this?  Apparently it doesn't bother her either, but YIKES - it sure as hell annoys me.


Big Dave wrote at 2013-02-24 19:03:40
I'm 48 and my Dad use to make nasty comments about people eating noisily. I understood it then and feel the same way about it now. I feel I could physically hit someone when I hear them eat especially with their mouths open and sucking air. Even people I love irrate me when they eat loudly. All the posts that describe it like "animals eating" just about says it all.


Sam wrote at 2013-03-01 17:13:22
I think we are conditioned by the same people we are getting upset with about how they eat; our parents.



Rules of eating for children.



a) chew with your mouth closed

b) never slurp

c) don't chew your ice

d) don't make bodily sounds at the table

e) clean off your plate.



Now, you've been conditioned that you can't stand eating sounds as you have been trained that it's "rude", and to clean off your plate (now you're fat too). All the things you're taught as a child, you're only allowed not to do them as a child. I never could understand the rules that are set for children, that we don't set for ourselves. That's why you want to shoot someone in the face. The conditioning doesn't come from you, it's taught to you. It's like telling someone that it's bad to hit someone while punching someone in the face when they eat like a pig (and who taught then what it means to "sound like a pig when you eat?).  



An elephant is conditioned when very young, that they can't pull the long peg out of the ground, that they are chained to. Then, later, the peg is only two feet long, and the full grown elephant could easily pull it out of the ground, but he's been conditioned to believe he can't.



Some of the feedback I see, blaming the condition on the person. These conditions are taught by us, to our children. We're just too inept to see that we are the ones causing these issues.



In other words, practice what you preach...




Anon wrote at 2013-03-26 10:27:35
I'm 18 and can't stand the noises of people eating/chewing even if it is with their mouth shut sometimes i'm able to still hear it. I also get really frustrated with my mum when she drinks coffee because when it's hot she slurps it then when she swallows and i hear the gulp i just cringe. Another one is kissing i hate hearing the sound of the saliva! One night i was sleeping on the floor in a friends room and all i could hear was her and her partner kissing it made me so frustrated i was nearly crying but i didn't want to say anything. I'm known in my house for saying pleaseeeee eat quietly multiple times at the table, usually i can turn the tv on and it's not as bad or will put my headphones in. Weird thing is if i eat loudly it doesn't bother me to much. I don't think i have it as serious as some people on this page but it definitely makes me angry and would love to know if there is something i can do about it!


Eamon wrote at 2013-03-30 04:07:57
I'm 14 and I also deal with this problem. The one that annoyed me most is my sister who has a habit of the sniffles. It just makes me feel like punching her REALLY hard. In fact I'm dealing with it right now.....


Rose wrote at 2013-04-05 22:29:52
I cannot sit with my family to eat, this has gotten so bad. I can't even sit next to them if they're chewing gum. If I can hear them chewing, I get twitchy... then I start to itch, and soon I'll be extremely angry and borderlining violent. It damages being able to have social get togethers involving food. My baby sister is the worst. She is so overweight because her family is neglectful of a proper diet for a six-year-old... she can't breathe and eat at the same time, so I hear her gasping, breathing and chewing... smacking, these weird squishing noises and I never want to harm her; I love her! But the damn chewing makes me want to slap the crap out of her! I don't know how to handle it. Normally I just get frustrated enough to rage and leave the room, but it's unavoidable. I see her so little all she wants to do is be near me. And she is ALWAYS eating.


Liberty wrote at 2013-04-09 15:36:03
hi im 13 year old and cant believe how many other people have this as well as me. When people eat and drink it like some thing come other when all i want to do is cry and shout at them. I only just decided to look it up and see if it was only me that had it. As i keep getting in trouble for shouting at my brothers saying "Stop eating with your mouth open" and "going and sit some where else". And some time if it is really annoying me i have to make something up like my brother are "throughting something at me" or "there shouting at me" as i just cant sit around them because i get so up annoyed and want to cry.Also my mum and dad get annoyed with my because im always saying "stop eating so loud" then i will get in trouble for moaning. I really want to find out how to stop this. So if you how to cure it please tell me.


jamebo88 wrote at 2013-04-12 05:39:09
I always knew that there were others like me but had no idea how many. I was conditioned as a child to chew with your mouth closed and it was very strict, from my grandfather to my father. My sisters dont like it when people chew like pigs but mine is much worse. At 55 years old, I will say something to the person or remove myself from the situation. I make my patients (I work in a cardiology office) spit out their gum because otherwise I cant stay in the room with them. I'm sure they all think I'm a biotch or nuts but I dont care.

Now, in the last couple years it has expanded to sudden loud noises, like the other girl in the office slamming down the cover of the copy machine or hitting the stamper hard onto the medical record to mark it "faxed". I swear shew does it on purpose just to irritate me, in fact she broke the lid last week when she slammed it.

People can be so mean and we all suffer so much. We would like nothing more than to be able to hang out with all the piggies in the world but looking at your chewed up food and hearing you smack your gum or food is revolting. We didnt sign up for this ailment so try to be more compasionate and close your lips.


Cheryl wrote at 2013-05-01 14:44:22
I came across this, because I am at my 2nd library. I have changed because of so many people I try to avoid at the 1st. Yes I have this problem too. I hoped I discovered my own little Heaven where I can get things done and there's less people. Usually I come and spend the whole day. Today I came later than usual. Close to where I usually sit, there was the dreaded situation.



A big guy with headphones on, on his laptop - chamming gum. I am in the process of trying to control my temper, but when it's happening in my space it is unbearable.



So I tried sitting somewhere else. Didn't work, because sometimes my space is as far as I can see/hear. I already saw him in action and knew it would constantly torment me. So I left the room and sat where I could see people leaving. He was the next person out of the room within about 5 mins. I thanked GOD and sat where I usually sit.



Less than half hour he was back. I wasn't able to concentrate using my laptop. Yes I have earphones but the volume doesn't seem to get loud enough. That's when I went to google and typed 'why do people chew gum like pigs'... and here I am reading peoples comments. I read so many I thought I was at the end - but no - I wasn't even a quarter of the way.



After a very long time, I went out the room. When I came back my eyes were fixed on him which is not nice as I have a problem with people who stare too and there I was doing something I wouldn't like done to me (I don't mind with cute little babies though). I sat down and looked again. I couldn't take it any more. Waving to get his attention I asked him, 'doesn't your mouth hurt. You've been chewing that for hours'. I exaggerated but that's what it felt like.



What happened next I wasn't expecting. He said he didn't realise and straight away took the gum out. It's a big difference just the odd sigh now and again.



I'm still working on myself to deal with these situations. On the way on the bus some guy was talking overly loudly on the phone. I have a big heavy rucksack and really wanted to bash him with it as I as getting off the bus, but it never happened and that's another issue...



Yeah, self control - I'm working on it.



Blessings to all


Cheryl wrote at 2013-05-01 14:44:22
I came across this, because I am at my 2nd library. I have changed because of so many people I try to avoid at the 1st. Yes I have this problem too. I hoped I discovered my own little Heaven where I can get things done and there's less people. Usually I come and spend the whole day. Today I came later than usual. Close to where I usually sit, there was the dreaded situation.



A big guy with headphones on, on his laptop - chamming gum. I am in the process of trying to control my temper, but when it's happening in my space it is unbearable.



So I tried sitting somewhere else. Didn't work, because sometimes my space is as far as I can see/hear. I already saw him in action and knew it would constantly torment me. So I left the room and sat where I could see people leaving. He was the next person out of the room within about 5 mins. I thanked GOD and sat where I usually sit.



Less than half hour he was back. I wasn't able to concentrate using my laptop. Yes I have earphones but the volume doesn't seem to get loud enough. That's when I went to google and typed 'why do people chew gum like pigs'... and here I am reading peoples comments. I read so many I thought I was at the end - but no - I wasn't even a quarter of the way.



After a very long time, I went out the room. When I came back my eyes were fixed on him which is not nice as I have a problem with people who stare too and there I was doing something I wouldn't like done to me (I don't mind with cute little babies though). I sat down and looked again. I couldn't take it any more. Waving to get his attention I asked him, 'doesn't your mouth hurt. You've been chewing that for hours'. I exaggerated but that's what it felt like.



What happened next I wasn't expecting. He said he didn't realise and straight away took the gum out. It's a big difference just the odd sigh now and again.



I'm still working on myself to deal with these situations. On the way on the bus some guy was talking overly loudly on the phone. I have a big heavy rucksack and really wanted to bash him with it as I as getting off the bus, but it never happened and that's another issue...



Yeah, self control - I'm working on it.



Blessings to all


Jennifer wrote at 2013-05-17 16:48:27
misophonia is the condition that is described here.  There are actually support groups for it.  I have it as well.  The older I get the worse it gets.  My biggest trigger is crunching chips or something like a coin or something rattling in the dryer even with the door closed.  Popping gum is insanely wicked as well.  Please go read up on Misophonia.  You will understand a lot more after you do.  


Newbook wrote at 2013-05-23 16:51:15
“Sound-Rage. A Primer on the neurobiology and psychology of a little known anger disorder” is coming Summer 2013.  Commonly known as misophonia, the primer presents exciting research about the disorder. Visual and auditory brain processes and the brain’s interpretation of stimuli that results in anger and rage are explained.  see www.sound-rage.com



•   Learn how the brain’s “hard-wired” circuitry interprets stimuli as pain and affects behavior and emotions

•   Read cutting edge research on how processing of visual and auditory stimuli overlap in the brain and result in creating new triggers

•   Understand how the brain uses mimicry to induce empathy and reduce the distress caused by triggers

•   Find out why the disorder is routinely misdiagnosed as a phobia, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or a sensory processing disorder and how “Sound-Rage” is unique among all disorders

•   Discover why exposure therapy worsens the symptoms while cognitive behavior therapy is highly effective in reducing them




Newbook wrote at 2013-05-23 16:53:33


“Sound-Rage. A Primer on the neurobiology and psychology of a little known anger disorder” is coming Summer 2013.  Commonly known as misophonia, the primer presents exciting research about the disorder. Visual and auditory brain processes and the brain’s interpretation of stimuli that results in anger and rage are explained.  see www.sound-rage.com



•   Learn how the brain’s “hard-wired” circuitry interprets stimuli as pain and affects behavior and emotions

•   Read cutting edge research on how processing of visual and auditory stimuli overlap in the brain and result in creating new triggers

•   Understand how the brain uses mimicry to induce empathy and reduce the distress caused by triggers

•   Find out why the disorder is routinely misdiagnosed as a phobia, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or a sensory processing disorder and how “Sound-Rage” is unique among all disorders

•   Discover why exposure therapy worsens the symptoms while cognitive behavior therapy is highly effective in reducing them




Lara wrote at 2013-07-04 11:33:37
I have the exact same thing, when my family members eat and everyone else!! I tell my mom but she says to ignore it, but I don't know how. It makes me very violent and it makes me cry a lot. My sister has the same thing and shes had it all her life, so have I. I wish I didn't have this. My sister says its Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD. But on twitter it says that its just things that annoy me. I don't know what to think. I wish I didn't have this, cause its getting in the way of my life.


Aly wrote at 2013-07-24 05:20:54
I have the problem as well. I believe it is called Misophonia? Well, I have an issue with people smacking their gum. But, oddly enough, my mom's chewing and drinking drives me into a rage. My father's chewing is somewhat annoying, but not to the extent of my mother. Unless we are in a movie theatre. Then I literally have to hold my ears and twitch. I HATE this, because it NEVER happens at school. My school mates don't smack thank God. My mom is like the only person in the world who keeps smacking no matter how much I tell her to stop. She tells me she stops out of respect, but she never changes! If I have to chew gum, I chew on my front teeth so I can't hear it, but my parents never do that! Worst of all, my mother ALWAYS blows bubbles, and always chews gum because her breath always smells bad. Lately, I've been near depressed and always upset unless I'm away from family because my friends don't chew gum, and they have good breath. Sorry to bother everyone. But I'm surprised that I'm not alone on this...


spog wrote at 2013-07-29 22:03:29
I have this to a degree. I don't like people eating near my ear (looking over my shoulder etc.) and my housemate has absolutely no manners whatsoever, chomping and slurping as he frantically rams scalding pasta and stuff into his mouth without so much as blowing on it, let alone leaving it to cool down a bit. He always has indigestion, and I've tried to explain that eating like a dog probably has something to do with it, although I'm not quite as bad as my sister who has physically attacked people on several occasions.

It appears to run in the family, as my grandad is notoriously grumpy about any kind of crunching or crinkling of packets, to the point where my dad says him and his brother were the only kids in the school who sucked crisps, although I seem to be fairly unique in that I dislike the sound of my own chewing, and have angrily tipped my dinner in the bin on several occasions, or spat out my chewing gum because it's making me want to kick the wing mirrors off parked cars. It comes and goes, but my sensitivity to it appears to have a direct correlation with how tired I am.


marris wrote at 2013-09-09 05:43:56


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Thank You! wrote at 2014-01-25 20:22:23
My God I am so grateful that I am not alone.  It is like torture and very few people understand this....


Sylvia wrote at 2014-03-18 15:44:15
I'm very grateful to read these posts because I've dealt with this my whole life (I'm now 63), and saddened at the same time that so many others are suffering this torment. My story is the same as most of the ones here: I detest gum chewing, any mouth noises, whistling, noisy breathing, snoring, television noise unless I'm totally focused on it, any constant movement such as leg swinging, and the boom-boom of base in cars as they drive by my home 24/7.



I believe it's somehow tied into dissociative identity, linked to traumas we suffered as children. I personally suffered one serious traumatic incident when I was five, and the sensitivity seemed to begin not long afterward. I think different "parts" of us are listening to different things, and it is overloading to the senses. Whereas others can block or ignore certain sounds, we can't...because a "part" of us is tuned in to it. I wish I could give more definitive help. I have reading and praying about this issue for some time now and hope to find answers.



In the meantime, I have begun humbly and politely asking people to not chew gum, to please be still, etc. and taking responsibility for the issue, saying things like, "It's my issue. I truly have a brain disorder of some kind and can't make myself not focus on it." Many people are understanding, others are mean and make fun of me. I'm a professional woman and in ministry. I'm learning to forgive people when they are mean to me about this, knowing they don't understand...they have no understanding of the torment and are offended. My job is to forgive them, for my own sake. I also carry ear plugs and use them if necessary, although I try to do it inconspicuously these days. In my earlier days, I was like many of you--angry about it. Now I just want to solve it.



I believe getting close to the Lord has brought me more strength, humility, tolerance, understanding and hope for healing. Best to you all. Love and blessing on your journey for healing, and/or tolerance.


Gregasaurus wrote at 2014-04-05 22:20:50
I've dealt with this for almost20 years now. I've avoided people who are eating or chewing gum. I've figured out ways to get around having to go out to eat with certain people I knew smacked their food. It was horrible during the last part of my 6th grade year when a couple people found out I couldn't stand the sound. My whole class terrorized me the last few months to the point I refused to go sometimes. I'm glad I'm not the only person that has this issue and is so bothered by it! That alone makes me feel a ton better. It's almost like it's a manners issue. I see someone eating and smacking away at their food and I lose all respect for them. I feel like they're selfish and self centered because they don't think of others and they don't have enough respect for themselves to eat properly. I've known this is obviously an issue for me for years but never imagined there were so many others out there with the same problem. I'm glad I stumbled across this page!


Noble 6 wrote at 2014-05-02 02:31:17
I am 18 and I find these noses very disturbing at night. If someone is snacking it makes me want to claw my ears. I have to put headphones in and listen to music until I fall asleep.

I hate this, it makes me feel as though I'm going insane.


Mattie wrote at 2014-12-03 00:36:26
Misophonia, literally "hatred of sound", is a neurological disorder in which negative experiences (anger, flight, hatred, disgust) are triggered by specific sounds. The sounds can be loud or soft. The term was coined by American neuroscientists Pawel Jastreboff and Margaret Jastreboff and is often used interchangeably with the term selective sound sensitivity.



Misophonia has not been classified as a discrete disorder in DSM-5 or ICD-10, but in 2013 three psychiatrists at the Academic Medical Center in Amsterdam formulated diagnostic criteria for it based on the largest cohort of misophonia patients so far, and suggested that it be classified as a separate psychiatric disorder.



A 2013 review of the most current neurological studies and fMRI studies of the brain as it relates to the disorder postulates that abnormal or dysfunctional assessment of neural signals occurs in the anterior cingulate cortex and insular cortex. These cortices are also implicated in Tourette Syndrome, and are the hub for processing anger, pain, and sensory information. Other researchers concur that the dysfunction is in central nervous system structures. It has been speculated that the anatomical location may be more central than that involved in hyperacusis.


Mattie wrote at 2014-12-03 00:36:34
Misophonia, literally "hatred of sound", is a neurological disorder in which negative experiences (anger, flight, hatred, disgust) are triggered by specific sounds. The sounds can be loud or soft. The term was coined by American neuroscientists Pawel Jastreboff and Margaret Jastreboff and is often used interchangeably with the term selective sound sensitivity.



Misophonia has not been classified as a discrete disorder in DSM-5 or ICD-10, but in 2013 three psychiatrists at the Academic Medical Center in Amsterdam formulated diagnostic criteria for it based on the largest cohort of misophonia patients so far, and suggested that it be classified as a separate psychiatric disorder.



A 2013 review of the most current neurological studies and fMRI studies of the brain as it relates to the disorder postulates that abnormal or dysfunctional assessment of neural signals occurs in the anterior cingulate cortex and insular cortex. These cortices are also implicated in Tourette Syndrome, and are the hub for processing anger, pain, and sensory information. Other researchers concur that the dysfunction is in central nervous system structures. It has been speculated that the anatomical location may be more central than that involved in hyperacusis.


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