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| Poly problem | 11/6/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I have known for a long tim (since high school) that I was not interested in a monogamous ...
A: Tony... Obviously, without knowing anything more than the paragraph you wrote, I really can't make ...
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| Becoming poly to keep my relationship? | 10/7/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I am going through a really rough time right now. My long term boyfriend, while telling me he is ...
A: Kay: Yikes. What a miserable situation. Let me just toss a few thoughts your way, and please bear ...
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| should i let him go | 9/8/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: i'm more than 10 yrs older than my husband and been together for 11 yrs. When we first met we agreed ...
A: Not quite sure what you're asking, Jill. You state that you've tried to leave in the past but that ...
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| Breaking free from monogamy | 8/14/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: So, my husband and I sat down a few months ago and had a very lengthy discussion about being in an ...
A: Amy. This is, sadly, a pretty familiar scenario for many couples who embark down the poly path. ...
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| Child Custody | 8/13/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: In the past year my wife and I became involved with another women who is going thru a divorce. Her ...
A: Jeff: This is a very sticky situation. On the one hand, the ex may just be posturing. He may be ...
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| Perhaps a Poly? or maybe just Selfish. | 7/28/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I have been reading through this wonderful site and would love some of your excellent advice. I will ...
A: Emily: First off, I'm sorry to hear you're going through a troubling time. And I wish I could give ...
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| should i even care about this or this girl | 6/26/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: What do i do about this girl? a long question about a lesbian problem please read all and answer ...
A: Tilly: Stop being coy about it. Call her up, get together, and lay it on the table. Ask her flat ...
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| Another woman | 6/19/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: My huge feelings make me handicap to know what first to say, but I will make up my self and start ...
A: Let me see if I understand this correctly. You're interested in another woman besides your wife, ...
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| Another woman | 6/19/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: My huge feelings make me handicap to know what first to say, but I will make up my self and start ...
A: Esperanta: The first thing I ought to say is have you talked to your wife about your thoughts ...
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| confused about poly potential | 6/12/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: First let me preface by saying that I have done ALOT of reading into this subject, so I would ...
A: Okay… I could try to offer armchair psychoanalysis about what may or may not be behind his ...
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| confused about poly potential | 6/11/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: First let me preface by saying that I have done ALOT of reading into this subject, so I would ...
A: Lara: Quite a complicated situation you’ve got going, here. Obviously, you’re pretty confused (and ...
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| Monogamous male, polyamorous female - I feel lost! | 5/28/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I am a monogamous male, who has known this very lovely individual for just over two years. We ...
A: Okay, great... communication progress! Now, one thing that I hope will put you more at ease... ...
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| Monogamous male, polyamorous female - I feel lost! | 5/27/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I am a monogamous male, who has known this very lovely individual for just over two years. We ...
A: Okay, if you want to use poly terminology, what you're wanting is for you to be her "primary," i.e., ...
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| Monogamous male, polyamorous female - I feel lost! | 5/27/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I am a monogamous male, who has known this very lovely individual for just over two years. We ...
A: Steven: One of the things that mono folks don't seem to understand is that the word "commitment" ...
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| Is it time to try out polyamory | 4/23/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: So I have been dating this girl for about four months now and up until now I have been considered ...
A: The first thing that comes to me is the importance of you conversating with Beth more about how she ...
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| Polyamory and bisexuality | 4/6/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: Are you aware of any statistics regarding percentage of hetero, bi, or homosexual individuals in ...
A: In 2001, Loving More Magazine conducted a survey of over 1000 people who self-identify as ...
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| I think he's polyamory I think I'm monagomous | 4/2/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: I have been developing a sexual and romantic relationship with my ex bf. He has a gf. They can't ...
A: You've opened up a wonderful topic that I would love to comment upon. The best thing for sexual ...
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| relationship problems and polyamory | 3/26/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: my boyfriend strongly wants to open our relationship up to polyamory to include his another woman ...
A: Then as I said before, the real issue would be the nature of the problems and issues that exist in ...
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| relationship problems and polyamory | 3/26/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: my boyfriend strongly wants to open our relationship up to polyamory to include his another woman ...
A: So this fear you have of losing him... is it based on a past history of behavior on his part, or is ...
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| relationship problems and polyamory | 3/25/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: my boyfriend strongly wants to open our relationship up to polyamory to include his another woman ...
A: Cindy: If your relationship with your boyfriend is riddled with problems, then it's highly likely ...
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| he says he loves me..... | 3/10/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: I became friends with this man over 3 years ago, we were the closest of friends, we've helped ...
A: Hey Heather: I wouldn't know specifically what to do in your situation. I would continue to ...
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| Am I polyamourous? If so how can I tell my boyfriend? | 3/6/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I think I may be polyamourous but I’m not sure. I was with my first boyfriend for just over 2 years ...
A: Annie: The simple answer to your first question is: Yes... you could be poly. But not necessarily. ...
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| Starting a new Poly relationship, dealing with jealousy | 2/25/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I was in a poly relationship, where I was joining an existing couple. Turns out the woman that was ...
A: Probably the most basic difference in perspectives between monos and polys is what you've just ...
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| Starting a new Poly relationship, dealing with jealousy | 2/24/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I was in a poly relationship, where I was joining an existing couple. Turns out the woman that was ...
A: Chantelle: This is, unfortunately, a somewhat common problem in poly relationships. Been through ...
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| shocked | 2/9/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ...
A: Hey Tara: I can see how this would all be shocking. I would give him the benefit of the ...
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| shocked | 2/9/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ...
A: Tara... this really has nothing to do with my area of expertise, but I'm going to answer you anyway. ...
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| Negative reaction from children | 2/7/2009 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: I am involved in a triad (MFF)with a long-time married couple. The relationship is going on 2 years ...
A: Harley: Well, that's sure an unpleasant situation. It's also not an easy one for me to address, ...
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| help | 1/28/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: Just the other day a furious guy called me up, insulting me and asking me about the “affair” I had ...
A: Well, noticing habits about one's self is a good thing. Many people are in denial and don't ...
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| help | 1/26/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: Just the other day a furious guy called me up, insulting me and asking me about the “affair” I had ...
A: Jacinto: It is hard to know what to say. The information that you gave me did not translate ...
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| would this work.... | 1/9/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: Hey, it wouldn't allow me to do anymore follow ups. He's always been one to leave somebody intrigued ...
A: He probably did, it appears, put the past in the past. I wouldn't take personally a lot of his ...
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| would this work.... | 1/7/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: Hey, it wouldn't allow me to do anymore follow ups. He's always been one to leave somebody intrigued ...
A: Good job on the progress, and thanks for the added info., it gives me more to work with as I ...
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| would this work.... | 1/5/2009 | Agaperty |
Q: I was friends with this guy for three years, and we went out for two months. Things didn't workout ...
A: I totally don't mind the follow up. Interesting that he says "how he lied". Very strange. I ...
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| would this work.... | 12/31/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: I was friends with this guy for three years, and we went out for two months. Things didn't workout ...
A: Melissa: I appreciate the additional details on what’s happening between you and your friend. ...
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| Free Blowjobs | 12/29/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: I'm a 24 year old woman and my husband is 27 years old. Me and my husband are swingers so we have an ...
A: Sounds like you are having a wonderful time. Good for you. I couldn't help but be tickled with the ...
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| would this work.... | 12/29/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: I was friends with this guy for three years, and we went out for two months. Things didn't workout ...
A: I apologize for being slow to get back to you. Busy holiday time. A lot of people are ...
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| confused | 11/10/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: I am dating a man who left his wife for me. he moved in for almost 6months we got in a fight and he ...
A: ohlife: This is a tough situation from its beginning to the present. It seems that (at the ...
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| Emotions | 10/31/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: OK, heres my question, i get butterflies around this guy him friend with, but i don't have and ...
A: Amanda: I don't specifically know. I understand that "butterflies" can come as a warning like ...
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| friends | 10/6/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: Recently my best friend as been ditching me for another other friend. I'm not jealous its just she ...
A: I know that it is hard when you feel and notice a greater distance occurring between yourself and a ...
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| strange relationship? | 9/29/2008 | Agaperty |
Q: This is so foreign to me; I don't even know how to begin..... My ex-girlfriend and I started our ...
A: How you doing?, Brian~ Thanks for sharing. I am sure that you found yourself in a more ...
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| Confused about my feelings. | 9/21/2008 | Vincent M. Wales |
Q: My friend (and lover of several years) and I are in an open relationship, and several months ago ...
A: I would agree with you... I don't think jealousy is the issue, here. Reading this as you've ...
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