Question What do i do about this girl? a long question about a lesbian problem please read all and answer maturely?
What do i do about this girl or our situation? warning THIS IS A LONG QUESTION btw. I'm kinda stressed?
ill try to keep it short
(sigh)
for those who read this in its entierty , thank you
ok , i met this girl under weird circumstances, i wanted to try being with a girl for he first time , more for a sexual experience but if a threesome came along(with her bf of 10 months) then i might have considered it,
but from the beginning strangely enough she said she liked the fact that i was single so we could possibly get more serious as gf and gf later on....???? yea weird . Anyway, she was always affectionate from the beginning and would text and call all the time, "i miss u " and the like.she would always try to make time for me even when she was tierd.
we had a weird misunderstanding , and she accused me of liking her bf more than her , which i dont cuz im not attracted to him AND she got mad at me for wanting to spend more time with my mother before she moved away, and stopped contact for a while.
a week ago we all fooled around for the first time and everything seemed ok actually , but shes been acting weird for a while. she claims that shes taking over for one of her employees at work , then she gets sick herself, and is on her period ,and is always tired and has to get up early( which was true for work) she would now always say 'i hope i can see you tomorrow , and of course i never would , she said she'll call me back to invite me over then she would turn off her phone completely.i went over there 3 days ago for only like 45 min ,she got upset/weird when her bf revealed they went to the beach , as if to say she was busted because she had given the impression she was at work.then she made it really akward when she yelled a bit with her bf and told him f*** you after he made a joke she got upset about, and walked away leaving us both there for a moment.
im continuing to stay where i am for the summer , (because my family i formerly stayed with is moving away for some independence to clear my head) and because i thought i would spend time with her .
she never once stepped foot in my new place or said shell come over and im not far from her at all.
ive been only a little cold to her in our text and havent heard or seen her in 2-3 days , whicj is not like her to not contact me at all. should i even see whats up? it seems like she doesnt care anymore either but i duno if shes just waiting for me to come around. i dont want to give in but i duno what to do.
Answer Tilly:
Stop being coy about it. Call her up, get together, and lay it on the table. Ask her flat out why she's been avoiding you. Ask her if her feelings for you have changed. Ask her what place you have in her life.
You deserve straight answers, and continuing on the way you are won't get them for you. It'll just increase your stress until you two cease communicating and end things on bad terms. And that's not how things should go.
So be insistent without being rude. Show that you simply want to clear the air and get things straight. Not knowing what's going on really sucks. And I'm sure she'll be able to appreciate that.
