My huge feelings make me handicap to know what first to say, but I will make up my self and start with my question; I will be clear and direct.
I am 32 years old man I have a wonderful wife which I love and respect, she is woman with a lot of humanity and love and she help me too much as I help/ed her in her life issues, also she love me a lot and we have a positive relationship. We have a daughter which is also loved and she is terrific and intelligent with a lot of energy like me in my child hood, my wife now is pregnant with twins :)
I am against husband/wife cheating; it is the most unmoral thing in the world ever. But I have a huge feeling to have another woman/love; this is not just to pick up the first who come, I have feelings that I have a need to meet another woman which will be carefully selected to meet my needs and via versa, to be in an end able relationship or a relationship that will continue for a while. It is just like that some body goes to sea to recharge battery.
Let me repeat, I am not the man who want to have 100 women just to enjoy; I am conscious and responsible man, husband and father.
This is my story, now listen to this:
I have a feeling unto a girl which is a member of my wife family, years and years I have these feelings, she is single and throw the time maybe I recognized that she likes me, I show her that I am interest in her but not too much, but I am not sure if she have a feelings unto me, some times I toke her hands, kiss her knick and give her some huge, till now she never reject me, when I touch her I fly, so how to know if she have feelings unto me, please notice that I cannot show my interest freely to her, because she is a family of my wife. What do you think, shall I talk to her, or maybe first to see if she have feelings unto me, Is it ok to be in another relation for a while, you maybe can see that I am confused, wife, daughter, my feelings. So I will stop here.
I hope that you understand me and my feelings, and please if is there something not clear or you have any question please let me know, your opinion can help me.
Thanks in advance
Answer Let me see if I understand this correctly.
You're interested in another woman besides your wife, but you're opposed to cheating. You don't want your wife to know about this interest you have, especially because it is for a member of her family.
If you were to pursue this, how would it not be cheating?
I do understand having attraction to others and wishing it could be returned, but in your situation, it doesn't look good. Unless you somehow think your wife would be accepting of this, I think you need to ignore these feelings for the other woman.
