Postpartum Depression/Depression

Advertisement


Question
Hi,
I am still pregnant and not sure wether my question falls into your area of expertise or not so forgive me before hand if it doesn't.

I am 7 months and 16 days pregnant and was very happy until recently when i lost one of my dogs (MISHKA).

I tried everything to save her but at the end she left us...she was not even a year old.

After her demise I just couldn't help blaming myself and moreover I hate being pregnant. I don't want the pregnancy. I am not excited about it...neither i want to talk about it with anyone.

I don't care about the check ups, etc. I don't want to discuss this with my hubby although he is quite understanding.

I just need some advise

Thanks

Answer
Dear Mishka's Mommy,
I am very sorry to hear for your loss. Anything experienced during pregnancy, especially the loss of a loved one, will make things seem even more depressing and upsetting. I am glad that you have someone to support you through this, but when you're pregnant it really does feel like you're going through it alone a lot of the time. Remember, that when we lose someone we go through the process of grieving. And it is absolutely normal to feel like you can't handle it and you just want it to stop. As for feeling like you don't want to be pregnant anymore, that is also completely normal. Pregnancy sucks. When I hear from women who think that it's the most wonderful thing in the world and they never felt better, I think they're lying or they have to be on something! So being uncomfortable and  not liking being pregnant, all of that is completely and utterly normal. I know right now hearing that probably isn't going to make you feel much better. But know that you did all that you could for Mishka and that she is looking down on you and your new baby with love. She can be your doggie angel. Also if you need any help in getting through the loss of your beloved pet, please visit the website below. It is a place where pet moms and dads can go to mourn the loss of their beloved pet. If you need anything else and if you think I could help, feel free to email me again through this website. Thank you again and I really hope that you're able to get through this pregnancy without further upset.
Your's Sincerely, April
Pet loss support site.      


http://www.lightning-strike.com

Postpartum Depression

All Answers


Answers by Expert:


Ask Experts

Volunteer


April

Expertise

I can answer questions about PPD symptoms, direct people to helpful books and websites about PPD. I can answer questions about what treatments are available for PPD. 1 week after having my twins in 2007, I was hospitalized for severe Postpartum Depression. I spent a total of 5 days in in patient treatment, and was put on antidepressants. It took me 2 years to recover, and I still take it day by day. But I know my first hand experience and my willingness to share my story has helped other women come forward and seek help for their PPD. if you need help, call: 1-800-944-4PPD Helpline provided by Postpartum Support International.

Experience

1 week after having my twins in 2007, I was hospitalized for severe Postpartum Depression. I spent a total of 5 days in in patient treatment, and was put on antidepressants. It took me 2 years to recover, and I still take it day by day. But I know my first hand experience and my willingness to share my story has helped other women come forward and seek help for their PPD. I know that acceptance of PPD and knowledge about its signs and symptoms is very limited in many cultures, including my own. I hope to help other mothers, fathers, and other concerned family members and friends recognize the importance of seeking treatment and help without fear of ridicule or judgment. I am here to lend a sympathetic ear to those who may be suffering from PPD and let them know I too have been there and they will get better!

Education/Credentials
I am a second year graduate student in Medical Anthropology at the University of Memphis. I have a B.S. in Health Services Administration. I am not a doctor, so I cannot diagnose or treat anyone with PPD.

©2016 About.com. All rights reserved.