AboutDianne Expertise I can answer all questions related to friendship in detail no matter how complex. I can tell you how to deal with any kind of friends that you might have and will give you the perspective of a friend sitting next to you rather than that of a person you do not know.
Experience I wrote for many magazines giving relationship and friendship advice.
Education/Credentials communication and psychology junior , studied various courses related to human interactions and read many books in the field.
Question Lately, I've had some problems with one of my best friends. She wasn't always this way; in fact, she and I used to be really close. Then, sophomore year came and she started to get really rude. She'd have her cranky days, days where she wouldn't talk or acknowledge me or our other best friend. I am a devoted Christian and she uses the f-word with "God." It makes me upset to hear those kinds of words. Sometimes, she rudely tells us to shut up or if we ask her a question, she gives us quick, snappy, one word answers. When we ask her what's wrong, she always says that nothing is wrong. We try to understand her, but she's always pushing us out. She's such a pessimistic also. She can never see the bright side of things. All we ever hear from her is how she thinks 33-year old emo singers are hot. It's really disgusting. She talks about tattoos and plugs and long hair on guys and while we support her, we're a bit worried about her. What should we do?
Answer Your friend is starting to get a new attitude , the goth or rock style attitude. Emo, rock, to tell you the truth I do not even know the difference and I see that people who adopt this "look" simply lack confidence and want attention by acting all special! However, who are we to judge? This being said, you do have the right to CHOOSE your friends. You say "we" , so if you and the other girls do not like her new attitude, explain to her that if she does not change, then she can go and find people who are more like her! This new thing she is in can last longer than you think and it is too late to make her change completely (she will not want to either because she thinks it is cool!), but you can try to find a balance. I had a friend who did exactly that and then she went and found other friends that were like her. Now I rarely see her , but hey, friends come and go! Remember, she did not only change the look , but she is also being mean.
