About Dianne Expertise I can answer all questions related to friendship in detail no matter how complex. I can tell you how to deal with any kind of friends that you might have and will give you the perspective of a friend sitting next to you rather than that of a person you do not know.
Experience I wrote for many magazines giving relationship and friendship advice.
Education/Credentials communication and psychology junior , studied various courses related to human interactions and read many books in the field.
Question My friend and I have known each other for a year and we get along well but I always seem really hurt by her because she always tells me that I am a nerd, or weird and I usually accept that title cause my other friends know I don't really do mind it, but she sounds so disgusted. I have always been there for her, in some way or other. Even when she likes this guy that she doesn't know directly, I only tell her he is a bad choice because he is very mean and immature to me and I don't trust he is going to treat my friend well. But she thinks that I am trying to separate them (which doesn't make sense because I am sure he has no idea who she is) even if I have told her he is really mean and untrustworthy. And I also help her alot, I listen to her talk about how many guys try to pick her up or how great she is. (I sort of go along even though I don't believe it's true or the amount of guys she actually get asked out or flirted with would fall to her knees and I haven't seen one.) She also keeps telling me how I am nerdy or weird. And earlier this week, she said she "liked my hair" in the way those popular girls say on tv when they actually think it is hideous. And she asks me how I got all those cute clothes instead of those "ugly rags" I used to wear last year. I know! She dissed her friend! And, when we met, barely anyone in our circle knew her, and now, she is taking my friends! I never have anybody to walk with or talk with anymore and last year, I had tons. I just want to ask, is she really a good friend to have for me? Cause lately, I feel bad and insecure, and I am starting to feel worried if was being used for some reason she won't conceal to me.
Answer Have a talk with her and tell her that if she does not stop, the friendship will end there. Say it and mean it. Any thing that bothers you beyond that talk should end the deal once and for all. Look for people who appreciate you. We all have our characters and people should like us and take us for what we are.
