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Hey! I'm Livvy! I can basically answer any questions - arguments with friends, bullying, fall outs, coping when a best friend gets a new best friend, making friends, mean girls, friends dieing, and lies and rumours getting out of hand and just general bad situations. I can't really think of any questions I can't answer but if I can't answer a question - I put 100% effort into finding an answer for you!- So just ask a question and I'll answer! Livvy x x x

Experience
Most of my experience I got from life and high school, alot of things go on without teachers knowing and you have to be able to sort them out yourself - so i've been through most of these problems that I'm answering questions on so I know how it feels, and can answer accordingly.

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I did yahoo answers and answered alot of questions on this subject and a vast majority of them were voted best.

Education/Credentials
I was given a few lessons at school with dealing with friendships, bullying and hard times so I can tell what is the best way to go about doing things with out being too pushy on the asker.

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When on yahoo answers most of my questions were voted best by the asker.

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Problems with Friends - Best friends split

Expert: Livvy - 10/25/2009

Question
Hey Livvy! Two of my best friends and I made a new friend 2 years ago. She quickly fit right in and I thought the 4 of us were all best friends. Lately the newer friend "Callie" has been taking one of the old friends "Emily" away from us and the 2 of them always tell everyone that THEY are best friends and dont include me and "Lizzie" in that group. "Callie" recently got her first boyfriend and has been entirely ignoring Everyone but "Emily". "Lizzie" and have been feeling really ignored and we don't feel like they even care about us anymore. Now they asked us to go trick or treating with them but we feel like they will just ignore us. We tried to tell them that they were treating us this way but "Emily" got very defensive and "Callie" just laughed at us like we were kidding. Should we even continue to be their friends? or split a 2 year old and a 11 year old friendship with these two?

Answer
Hey,

For now I think you should give your friends the benefit of the doubt - go trick or treating with them. Don't assume they won't include you, infact, include yourself. Friendship is a two way thing although it seems that they aren't putting the effort in at the moment if you do - they might realize how much fun you are and in turn put the effort in themselves.

If they still leave you out - talk to them again. Tell them that you've mentioned it to them already and they don't seem to care enough about you or your feelings to do anything about it and that surprises you seen as you have been friends for so long. Then I would leave them to it, you have another friend so you are not alone, doing this will make them understand how much they have upset you and although it may take some time they may try to sort it all out.

Try to give them plenty of time to understand how you feel and maybe form some sort of an apology and include you more. But don't forget to try to include yourselves first like I have already mentioned!

I hope that's helped! If you want to ask me anything else click on follow-up!
Good Luck
Livvy
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