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About Livvy
Expertise
Hey! I'm Livvy! I can basically answer any questions - arguments with friends, bullying, fall outs, coping when a best friend gets a new best friend, making friends, mean girls, friends dieing, and lies and rumours getting out of hand and just general bad situations. I can't really think of any questions I can't answer but if I can't answer a question - I put 100% effort into finding an answer for you!- So just ask a question and I'll answer! Livvy x x x

Experience
Most of my experience I got from life and high school, alot of things go on without teachers knowing and you have to be able to sort them out yourself - so i've been through most of these problems that I'm answering questions on so I know how it feels, and can answer accordingly.

Organizations
I did yahoo answers and answered alot of questions on this subject and a vast majority of them were voted best.

Education/Credentials
I was given a few lessons at school with dealing with friendships, bullying and hard times so I can tell what is the best way to go about doing things with out being too pushy on the asker.

Awards and Honors
When on yahoo answers most of my questions were voted best by the asker.

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Problems with Friends - friend problems

Expert: Livvy - 10/31/2009

Question
I’m new to this and I didn't know where else I can go or who to talk to. Well I have this best friend #1 for 2 years that’s kind of the leader of my group of friends that used to do everything together. We are all in high school and my friend#1 asked for my locker combination and I gave it to her but later I find out my shirt for PE is missing and it’s mandatory to wear it or you fail the class. Apart of that she gave my combination to another girl and that’s when I got mad and I told her but that’s it I told her how I felt. I was busy doing my homework that I didn't finish yesterday and she thought I was ignoring her on purpose but I wasn’t. Before I could say anything she disappeared angrily. So I didn’t want to give the wrong message so I brought some candies that we all love and when I gave 1 to her and she completely ignored me in front of my face. She purposely ignores me now. So I sent her a letter explaining everything to her but she told friend#2 to tell me not to talk to her anymore and she thinks my letter was retarded. So I felt really stupid doing all of that for nothing. She thinks she is prettier than me and I’m not. I’m average but if another pretty friend did this to her she would forgive her or apologize in a heartbeat. When she treats me like that, all my other friends think they can treat me like she does too. So they call me names and hit me and all they say oh chill we are just playing around” or they just ignore me too. They always did this to me and they tell me that I’ve been ditching them for another girl but really I had to stay in class to do my extra work for lunch since I got in a high class and they didn’t. I’m not as pretty as they all are and all they do is use me so I stay in the library in lunch alone. I’m also scared to see them when I pass by the halls for the next period. I hate always being stepped on, ignored and being insignificant to a lot of people. Can you please give me some good advice for this situation? I would appreciate it. Thanks.

Answer
Hey Sasha,

It's stupid to be friends with people who do not treat you how you should be treated. If you are their friend they should treat you like one!!!!!!

If I'm being honest - I don't think they're worth it - if they are physically and mentally abusing you then they are more bullies than friends!

My advice is to try to find some new friends get out there and meet new people - don't be afraid to be bubbly and show people who you really are. If your other friends come up to you and tell you, you have been ditching them just say: Well I don't really want to spend my time around people who don't treat me like a friend. You are constantly telling me I'm not pretty enough, calling me names, hitting me and making fun of me! You tell me it's just a joke but you don't realize how much it hurts me - even when I tell you how bad I'm feeling you still don't give a damn about me! If I'm your friend I'd expect to be treated like one but the bottom line is - you don't!

I'd also try to start a diary - you don't need to write in it all the time - just when you feel upset and have had a bad day. We ALL have good and bad days and it's learning to take a BIG breath when things are going wrong and try to stay positive. If you do that - before long things will sort it self out. If you try to be positive, smile, meet new people, be polite and show them who you are! Before long you'll have a new group of friends who treat you in the right way - and you'll wonder how you put up with the last group for so long!!!

I hope that's helped! If you want to ask me anything else - feel free!!!!
Good Luck
Livvy
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