Expert: Livvy - 11/3/2009

Question
Okay, so I have two friends: one is my good friend, and the other is my best friend. I love them both, even though I'm closer to one of them. The problem is that they really don't get along. I've talked to them both at the same time,explaining how I felt and the conversation seemed to help the situation, but it slowly came back to the way it was before. Now I feel like I have to pick between them, whether I'm going to hang out with one or the other. I'm put in an awkard position and I'm not sure what I should do next without losing one of them as a friend and without making them mad at me. What should I do?

Answer
Hey,

Sometimes friends don't get on. We all change as we grow up and we all have different personalities and sometimes although it hurts we just have to choose. This doesn't mean you CAN'T be friends with one of them but maybe just not as close as you were before. At the moment I think you should give your friends time to 'cool down' for a week or so and let the argument settle.

If you want you can talk to each of them again and explain how they would get on if they gave each other a proper chance - you could organize a day/night out (shopping, cinema etc)Encourage them to get to know each other a little bit better and try to get them to talk to each other because the WANT to - not because you're making them. Even if they do begin to like each other it will take time so give it a chance and see how it goes

I understand it's heartbreaking when two of your best friends don't get along but sometimes people just don't. Maybe they'll sort it out, maybe they won't but as long as you let them know that the fact is that you are not about to drop one for the other - they are both your friends and just because they both don't get along WON'T stop that!

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Good Luck!
Livvy
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