About Livvy Expertise Hey! I'm Livvy! I can basically answer any questions - arguments with friends, bullying, fall outs, coping when a best friend gets a new best friend, making friends, mean girls, friends dying, and lies and rumours getting out of hand and just general bad situations. I can't really think of any questions I can't answer but if I can't answer a question - I put 100% effort into finding an answer for you!- So just ask a question and I'll answer!
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Experience Most of my experience I got from life and high school, alot of things go on without teachers knowing and you have to be able to sort them out yourself - so i've been through most of these problems that I'm answering questions on so I know how it feels, and can answer accordingly.
Organizations I did yahoo answers and answered alot of questions on this subject and a vast majority of them were voted best.
Education/Credentials I was given a few lessons at school with dealing with friendships, bullying and hard times so I can tell what is the best way to go about doing things with out being too pushy on the asker.
Awards and Honors When on yahoo answers most of my questions were voted best by the asker.
Question Hello, this is Rebecca and Sophie. We are wondering if you have any advice for us.. We are at secondry school just now and we are having problems with our group of friends who used to be great together. Theres seven of us.. But over time we have made closer friends out of the seven.. Its got silly and people are making closer friends or deciding to call themselves 'best friends' making others feel and get left out.. bitching about everyone to others.. and being two-faced. It's got us all in soo much fights and now.. all we know is everyone wants to just all be friends.. but how do we do this because none of us want to be the first ones to try and the ones who have tried have been told all their doing is swapping friends and ditching others? Girls feel left because some of us go to the shops during school days when they arnt alowed to go.. but the ones who do go wont be stopped just because of that.. no body is left alone anyway. Its just our group seems to split.. How could we get everything back to what it used to be?
Answer Hey,
Firstly it's very difficult for such a large group to get along really well. You can all still get along but it is difficult to plan stuff when there's such a large group - there will be nearly always be somebody left out. And it's natural for the group to split in two.
There isn't very much that can be done to help a situation but if you decide to pull the group together by any means necessary then - sorted. It is possible. But first I think it's best to talk to the rest of the group about it. If they are keen to make it work out then great.
But you need to tell them that bitching doesn't help. Although everybody gets on somebody's nerves at somepoint. Bitching doesn't solve it. You need to mention that people feel left out when they're ditched and it's abit unfair. You basically need to tell your friends what the problems are.
However, if you think about it. Just because some people go to lunch separately from the rest of the group and they spend more time with particular people. It doesn't mean you aren't friends. Sometimes like i said, it is difficult to sort arguments etc within big groups and sometimes it's better for everyone if the group sort of splits but are still friends. If you understand what I mean?
Maybe to bring the group a little more together you should plan a day out, that all of you can go to. You can spend more time as a group and it's lots of fun OR if your school is planning a holiday over summer. All of you sign up for it! It could be lots of fun and could make the whole group ALOT closer!
I hope that's helped. If you want to ask me anything else or tell me how it's going click on follow-up!
Goodluck
Livvy
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