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my best friend now has a girlfriend8/28/2011
  Q: I'm 14 and have been best friends with this guy since kindergarten, so almost 10 years now. Just to ...
  A: Amber - When teenagers start dating, they can tend to ignore their other friends unfortunately. I'm ...
Bad Friend12/25/2010
  Q: Ashley, well you see I have a bff that means everything to me, but she just won't express herself ...
  A: Cassandra - You need to talk to her about how you feel before this becomes an even bigger issue. ...
need help12/3/2010
  Q: what do i do i need help with my friend and boyfriend. they use to go out but she still likes him ...
  A: Melissa - You should approach your friend before making a move on her ex. The general rule is ...
Can u help me?4/21/2010
  Q: Well I'm having a major problem that I don't know how to fix. My cousin who is basically my sister, ...
  A: Elise - You need to go and tell and adult you can trust like a teacher or a school counselor so ...
help3/31/2010
  Q: i have been best friends with my current best friend for a long while now. there's this kid who is ...
  A: Chelsea - So you have a friend that's jealous that your friends with this guy friend of yours? I ...
Drifting away3/23/2010
  Q: Me and my best friend have been the bestest of friends for 1 year now. Just in the past week or two, ...
  A: Brig - Sometimes people go their separate ways and there's nothing you can do to prevent that. ...
Best Friend Issue1/16/2010
  Q: I have been basically SISTERS with my best friend since first grade, and we are now in 10th grade. ...
  A: Taylor - Unfortunately this tends to happen when girls get boyfriends. You need to explain to her ...
Unsure1/15/2010
  Q: Ever since my bff got a bf , she.'s been hanging out more with him than me,i.e.in school also out . ...
  A: You need to tell her how you feel without putting her on the defensive. Sooner or later once they ...
friend's boyfriend8/21/2009
  Q: My friend just got her first boyfriend a few weeks ago, and now he's the only thing she talks about. ...
  A: Lucy - You need to tell her that while you're extremely happy for her you feel like she's ...
Totally backstabbed8/11/2009
  Q: So, I'm best friends with this girl (R) and she used to be friends with this girl (H) but they ...
  A: Carissa - I would stop being friends with both of these people immediately. R is a poisonous ...
Best Friend?8/2/2009
  Q: Me and my best friend (M) were best friends for 2 years and we used to do everything together. M ...
  A: Becca - Well anyone who's going to believe hearsay and take someone else's side before coming to ...
Problems with a friend.7/30/2009
  Q: I have this friend that has really low self-esteem. She occasionally talks about suicide, she cuts ...
  A: Gwen - I've had friends like this before and it sucks because she's basically lashing out as a ...
best friend7/10/2009
  Q: My best friend and brother had a relationship behind my back and I dont know what to do. My friend ...
  A: Bethany - It's pretty crappy that she would date your brother and not tell you. That's not what a ...
Third Wheel6/4/2009
  Q: She's nice and all but whenever I'm with her it's like I'm the third wheel. She likes this guy and ...
  A: Candi - Your friend is making you the 3rd wheel. You need to drill into her that it's just awkward ...
My bestfriend and I are no longer friends.4/2/2009
  Q: My friend 'S' and I got into a fight about her boyfriend. Her and her bf broke up. I liked him, ...
  A: Jayy - What you did was pretty shady in terms of going after your friend's ex-bf. It's not ...
ex-friend3/24/2009
  Q: A new neighbor *Samantha* moved in next door to me. My other friend, *Kimmie*, and I met her and we ...
  A: Libby - It's up to you whether you wanna tell her or not. Is she ignorant to what kind of person ...
Friend Grudges3/19/2009
  Q: I'm in tenth grade and over the years I have started noticing something all of my friends are ...
  A: Alex - These don't sound like true friends to me. Real friends wouldn't treat you like this. I say ...
Tied to another friend3/13/2009
  Q: how do I deal with two friends who acn't get along but are both tied to another friend
  A: Abby - So you share a mutual friend in common? You just need to keep them separated. I've been in ...
true friend!?3/9/2009
  Q: i have recently gotten into this fight with one of my closet friends and sometimes it seems like she ...
  A: Unless you want to try talking to her but i doubt that's going to work. Girls are mean. That's a ...
true friend!?3/7/2009
  Q: i have recently gotten into this fight with one of my closet friends and sometimes it seems like she ...
  A: Melissa - If she's not a good friend to you, then I would let her go. It sucks putting in more ...
what do I say?3/5/2009
  Q: Okay, I have this friend that just got out of lock up. and she is having sex with guys that she ...
  A: Taylor - As her friend you need to approach her and let her know how you feel. Tell her that you're ...
Cousins/Friends2/10/2009
  Q: Well I have to problems if that is ok.? Well my cousin goes to the same school and same grade as me, ...
  A: Cassie - You should really talk to your parents about your cousin and have them intervene. If they ...
Being Phased out by 'Friends'2/3/2009
  Q: I have some 'friends' who i used to be really close with. we all worked together and would get on ...
  A: Kelly - You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel. Maybe they don't understand how their ...
Friends1/20/2009
  Q: I have a friend name Ariel and within our friendship she has many many many many many MANY ...
  A: Lora - She's treated you like crap long enough that you need to make a stand for yourself and tell ...
Best friend just got dumped1/14/2009
  Q: Alright so my best friend just got dumped him and his gf had been going out a little over a year ...
  A: Luke - I would suggest you get him to start talking to someone so he doesn't relapse into his old ...
Drugs1/7/2009
  Q: Hey i may be a little older than what is expected of this area- 19, but i cant seem to find anywhere ...
  A: J - I would suggest staying as far away as possible from these people. What they are doing is first ...
Issues12/28/2008
  Q: I need help with something. My best friend Natalie claim she has a crush on a guy named Keanu. But a ...
  A: Jennifer - Typically the rule is that you don't mess around with friend's crushes, ex-bf's, current ...
My friend and I are so alike, its tearing us apart10/11/2008
  Q: My best friend and I have been Bff for a while, but ever since the start of 8th grade, she's become ...
  A: Devi - You need to be honest with her and just let her know that you feel like every time you tell ...
i can't trust my friend9/14/2008
  Q: well, there's one "friend" in particular i can't trust. we've been "bff's" for five years. and i ...
  A: August - Your supposed "friend" broke one of the most cardinal rules of friendship. You don't go ...
my friend is hooking up with an old crush of mine7/15/2008
  Q: hey I'm 18 and in high school for the longest time i had a crush on this boy Dan. now he is working ...
  A: Jackie - She's not a very good friend to be telling you all of this knowing that you like this guy. ...
I can never keep a friend.7/10/2008
  Q: People don't like me. I have "friends" now that always say "oh I love you and your my bestie." but ...
  A: Tasha - Unfortunately this happens to a lot of people. It happened to me. You just have to find new ...
best friend issues7/4/2008
  Q: Well I am a cheerleader and so is my so called best friend. Around tryouts she had to tryout with a ...
  A: Stephanie - I think you need to sit down and have a talk with her about this. If she doesn't ...
sorta friend really mad2/26/2008
  Q: kind of complicated. I liked this girl and i hung out with her for a while (couple months)and then ...
  A: Jack - Unless this girl knew you liked her and likes you back...your friend really can't accuse you ...
friends2/4/2008
  Q: I need help with a friendship crises. I haven't exactly hhad a fall out but I'm loosing a friend. ...
  A: Amy - Have you tried talking to your friend about this? Tell her how you feel without attacking ...
Best Friends...Forever?2/3/2008
  Q: I'll give you a little background info before i get started...My name is Erika, and I am 17. My ...
  A: Erika - I would try talking to her and see what's up. It doesn't seem logical for her to start ...
my bestfriend is avoiding me but i don't know why!1/25/2008
  Q: my bestfriend ( a lesbian ) and i were doing really well.. i can say that we used to have a very ...
  A: Katrina - You need to ask her what's going on becuase only she can tell you the truth. Tell her ...
best friends..... we're having some problems12/1/2007
  Q: I am thirteen... I have been best friends with this girl named (lets call her jane) since ...
  A: Genevieve - Unfortunately this happens a lot when you're younger. Have you tried talking to your ...
My girlfriend might like my best friend.11/29/2007
  Q: Hey Ashley, heres my problem, My girlfriend dumped my best friend for me. but now I think he is ...
  A: Nick - I think it should have tipped you off when your gf dumped your best friend for you. When ...
friends who don't care11/4/2007
  Q: i am n jr. high this year with the same friends as last year. they hardly talk to me unless i'm the ...
  A: Sara - If they depress you this much then I was suggest maybe seeing a therapist to talk about your ...
drifting apart from your best friend8/6/2007
  Q: me and my best friend, Jess, have started to become less close and i don't want that because she ...
  A: Rosie - Unfortunately boyfriends tend to come between friends and friends tend to drift apart. I ...
my friend needs help but she wont talk to me7/7/2007
  Q: one of my friends and i have been fighting nonstop about everything from her ex-boyfriend to my ...
  A: Dani - You need to sit down with her and have a serious talk and ask her why she's been acting like ...
Crappy Friends7/5/2007
  Q: Hey Ashley I have a question about my crappy friend. She had boyfriend trouble and I helped her out ...
  A: Some people are just crappy friends. If you've tried talking to her about this and she blames it on ...
Did I handle this wrong6/11/2007
  Q: My husband became friends with a guy who had a girlfriend. I never invited her over she just started ...
  A: Countrygirl - I think you handled it very maturely. This was a woman who was coming over uninvited ...
Don't Want to Lose a Friend3/1/2007
  Q: I'm a female with a guy friend. His girlfriend is 22 years younger, clingy, insecure and jealous. I ...
  A: Sr- This sounds like someone who's allowing his girlfriend to control him and his actions and ...
friend?2/28/2007
  Q: Well ive been friends with this girl Ashley for almost 4 years. Within the past year she has been ...
  A: Brittany - A true friend wouldn't go behind your back and say things that you tell her in ...
help2/20/2007
  Q: i wanted to discuss some things abt this net friend that i have.i'm 15 and he's 16. he's frm my ...
  A: Simi - I think you should see a professional therapist or psychologist to help you out with your ...
trouble with an ex-gf causing problems at school1/29/2007
  Q: well the only problem with jsut staying away from her is that we both have the same friends and she ...
  A: I've always said that if someone can be easily swayed against you by someone else then they probably ...
we were supposed stay friends what happened?1/22/2007
  Q: Ok, i used to be good friends with my ex-gf. We would talk, laugh, and hang alot. Like she would ...
  A: Brandon - Sometimes people just grow apart as the natural way of things. You can't prevent it and ...
My friend Hates me12/23/2006
  Q: what can I do? my friend is mad at me because I did not get her anything for Christmas but I was mad ...
  A: april - You need to tell your friend EXACTLY how you feel. Tell her that it hurt that she yelled at ...
choosing to ski with my friend12/5/2006
  Q: Well me and my bff Haley went skiing last year ands it rocked. so now my other friend Annie wants to ...
  A: Katie - I would suggest talking to your friend and letting her know how you feel. It's perfectly ...
My best friend wont speak to me11/25/2006
  Q: I've been friends with this girl for over 7 years now and we've been close like sisters too even ...
  A: Valerie - You should let her know how much this bothers you because maybe she doesn't realize what ...
i don't get it...10/20/2006
  Q: There's a girl who I trust completely, and I've had some big problems, so it's a huge deal for me ...
  A: Alex - First of all I think it's pretty shitty of your friends to go talking shit about YOU behind ...
i think im insecure and made my problems bigger than they have to be10/11/2006
  Q: okay well i started going out with my boyfriend in april and this all happened in the summer. my ...
  A: Chelsea - What your boyfriend did was inappropriate for someone who has a girlfriend. You ...
best friend backstabber9/5/2006
  Q: My best friend is normally really fun to be with, and I usually trust her, but recently she's used ...
  A: S - I really wouldn't consider this person your friend if they're saying hurtful things about you. ...
best friend?8/2/2006
  Q: ok i have this one friend Samantha and she was one of my best friends but then one summer she ...
  A: Vanessa - If she did it once, she'll do it again. You know where her priorities lie and that she ...
Over ubsessed friend.7/26/2006
  Q: A few days ago, I was at one of my friends house, just hanging out, and I got an email from my dad, ...
  A: Sarah - If she was understanding then she would understand that you just suffered a loss in your ...
my neighbor is a *********6/28/2006
  Q: Ok, I recently moved to a new town, and I made frieds with my neighbor right away, Well later on ...
  A: Jessica - I'd say let it go. Your neighbor is very immature to be talking shit to your friend and ...
social situations4/6/2006
  Q: I'm having a problem with conecting with people. I always have awkward silences because I am more of ...
  A: Erin - It takes two people to carry on a converation. You can't expect the other person to do all ...
Guys3/10/2006
  Q: This isn't a really bad problem but I do need your help. I was wondering how should I approach this ...
  A: Julie - There's many ways to approach a guy. I would suggest just starting a conversation with him ...
My best friend2/24/2006
  Q: I am moving across country with my family. I told my best friend and she didn't believe me because ...
  A: Katie - She's probably upset because she realizes she's going to be losing her best friend and ...
b-day party2/21/2006
  Q: My best friend recently sent my husband and I an invitation to her fiance's birthday party being ...
  A: Emily - I would think that if your friend expected everyone to pitch in and pay for their own ...
Switching Schools2/20/2006
  Q: I have had a lot of people ask me if what I do is for myself or to help my friends. I was ...
  A: Shelley - You should probably figure out why you want to switch schools. There's nothing wrong ...
My Best Friend2/9/2006
  Q: and i am haveing trouble with my best friend ok..my best friend started dateing a person that i ...
  A: Cassie - Your mistake was trying to break them up. Yea it sucks that she's dating someone that you ...
My Best Friend10/24/2005
  Q: My best friend Bridget has a new guy who at first i really liked him they were cute together. But ...
  A: Sam - I know EXACTLY how you feel. When I was in high school I had this friend who was dating this ...
2 friends 1 imposter10/21/2005
  Q: What if she get realy upset and tell our teacher or her parents that i have mean to her? And would ...
  A: Iris - I'm assuming you're in high school in which case they can't and won't really do anything ...
Another problem..10/15/2005
  Q: once again, but I was aware of what would happen if she chose her sister's side. I was just ...
  A: Tell her that you guys have been through a lot and you know that you can survive more and that ...
Another problem..10/15/2005
  Q: It's me again. Thanks for your help last time. I am now going out with my crush :D, so thanks. My ...
  A: Lexi - I'm sorry that you're constantly being put into these tough positions. Unfortunately, ...
crappy friends9/23/2005
  Q: I recently moved to an area where I had a lot of close friends, because I wanted to be closer to ...
  A: Holly - I would suggest that you write them letters explaining how you don't want the friendship to ...
problems with friends9/21/2005
  Q: I have these 2 friends,1,I have been friends with for 5 years,the other,I have been friends with for ...
  A: Kiara - You shouldn't have to compromise your friendship with either of them because they can't get ...
eating out9/17/2005
  Q: Last night I went to a Mexican restaurant w/my friend Toni to celebrate Mexican independence day ...
  A: Leslie - This is probably one of the less serious questions I've gotten and I can relate because I ...
making friends8/22/2005
  Q: I seem to have a problem with making friends. I always have, but now that i'm in college, i feel ...
  A: AJ - I'd say you get back involved with sports that way you can make a lot of friends who are ...
Always the same8/1/2005
  Q: I'm quite disappointed with friendship nowadays, and it always seems to happen the same to me. Maybe ...
  A: Lisa - People are mean. It's a fact of life. It sucks that there are people out there that don't ...
friends7/30/2005
  Q: My name is Katy and I am 19 years old. Whenever I return home for breaks from college, I sometimes ...
  A: Katy - Don't feel bad. I'm in the same boat you are. I go to school out of state so I basically ...
Friend or more?7/29/2005
  Q: I have a friend that I have known this guy, Jake for a long time we went to school together since ...
  A: Michelle - He could only think of you as a one time hookup but then again he could have been really ...
Racist?7/23/2005
  Q: I like this girl & she knows it but she don't like me like that & I sdked her freinds they said ...
  A: Kevin - The only thing you can do is ask her whether she likes you or not and if not ask her if ...
Is he taking advantage of my good nature?6/21/2005
  Q: " I want to know how to take this friendship I have with another so-called friend who I believe is ...
  A: Ric - It sounds like he's not only taking advantage of your good nature but also your ...
new best friend6/20/2005
  Q: I have two best friends, one is a guy, and one is a girl. I became really good friends with the guy ...
  A: Andrea - It could last, it could not. Chances are they won't get married and everything will be ...
Friend Problem6/12/2005
  Q: Its quite a long story but basically ive been friends with this girl for 4 years & more recently ...
  A: Vikkie - I'm confused as to why you haven't confronted your bf and asked him what he said to your ...
Friend trouble5/9/2005
  Q: I am 25 years old, and ever since my high school best friend controlled me for years and basically ...
  A: Mandee - You just need to tell her frankly and upfront that you don't have the time to spend every ...
Bad friend?5/9/2005
  Q: I have a friend who constantly makes comments about having more money than I have and says she has ...
  A: Alyssa - This friend is toxic and sucking all the positive energy from you. Anyone who is going to ...
My best friend is mad at me5/4/2005
  Q: Hey. My name is Ben, and I'm having a problem with my best friend Dana. Last weekend was my high ...
  A: Ben - The way she treated you at Prom is not how two friends treat eachother....especially BEST ...
Problem with my band4/17/2005
  Q: I really appreciate. I couldn't reply before because I needed to have a serious conversation with my ...
  A: Mike - Well you know what happened with G&R right? I mean, they were a trainwreck. They had to ...
Problem with my band4/14/2005
  Q: Im so pissed off right now! I am a student in Finland but live in Italy. I have a band in Italy and ...
  A: Mike - I don't think your situation is particularly too uncommon in the music world. Obviously ...
best friend?4/14/2005
  Q: This girl, who is/was my best friend is ignoring me. I had a sleepover at my house after finals in ...
  A: Lauren - I think you should tell her everything you told me. Tell her that you miss talking to her ...
best friend gone bad.4/7/2005
  Q: I've had a best friend for about a year now. Suddenly she's a totally different person than when I ...
  A: Kelly - It sounds like your best friend is acting out as a way to deal with her mom's illness. I'm ...
Bad Friend4/5/2005
  Q: one day last week, me andd my friend got into an argument and she didn't talk to me for a week. ...
  A: Becka - You need to sit down and talk to your friend and your boyfriend separately. Your boyfriend ...
Problems with off and on friend3/18/2005
  Q: I have been having problems with an off and on female friend that I've been knowing for about 11 ...
  A: George - The fact that you're spying on your friend is just crappy. She obviously is going to great ...
My Friend and Me3/9/2005
  Q: Heres the thing me and my best friend got in a fight over somthing really stupid and i told her that ...
  A: Katie - You need to have a talk with her and tell her that you want to be friends again. Tell her ...
Questioning a Friend2/26/2005
  Q: I recently asked a friend if thier opinion of me had changed, I asked if there was something they ...
  A: Rob - Obviously something happened along the way and your wires got crossed where your original ...
i'm not sure if you can help...2/15/2005
  Q: i'm not sure if you can help really i think you going to send me the outside my experince thing. ...
  A: Veronica - Your face getting red is just you getting flushed and embarrassed. There's nothing wrong ...
Hello, my name is Leilani...2/9/2005
  Q: my name is Leilani and I'm 13. My problem is my boyfriend has a cutting problem. I also have a ...
  A: Leilani - You need to tell someone that he cuts. He needs to get help. Both of you do. If this ...
friends and boyfriend2/8/2005
  Q: I have been in a group of friends for several years now, we all have other friends and such, but we ...
  A: Lins - You shouldn't have to compromise your relationship with your boyfriend to please your ...
Dyed friend1/22/2005
  Q: Well, I didn't exactly diss her. I actully haven't said anything rude to her what-so-ever! I'm been ...
  A: Alana - I mean, what do you expect me to say? I'm sorry, but I can't change your opinion of your ...
how can i get a boyfriend?1/21/2005
  Q: Well, i have friends who have had tons of boyfriends, but somehow i cant get a boyfriend! I am not ...
  A: Elisabeth - How old are you? Because chances are, you're somewhat young and you have your ENTIRE ...
problems with friends!1/21/2005
  Q: I have had this friend for about 3 years, we used to hang out all the time, but now we are falling ...
  A: Elisabeth - You shouldn't be friends with someone who's going to say all this horrible stuff about ...
friend problem1/14/2005
  Q: but she always asks me to come over to her house. I live very far from her place and it is very ...
  A: Lena (sorry if I got your name wrong, I couldn't tell whether it was an L or an I) - You need to ...
friends12/14/2004
  Q: Well i don't really know how to start but i'll just start. I've had a difficult past couple of ...
  A: John - Please don't do anything drastic like run away from your problems. Leaving your town or ...
dealing with stress?12/10/2004
  Q: this has been a tough year for me. i've been really happy with the friends i've earned, but this ...
  A: If you're this unhappy with her then I say drop her and find new friends. I know you're probably ...
Possible problem with friend12/5/2004
  Q: I have a good friend, Leslie, who I consider myself very close to. Everything was fine in our ...
  A: Rob - I've been in a similar situation before where this guy that I was kinda friends with all of a ...
Friends12/4/2004
  Q: I havea 15 year 10th grade beautiful daughter, that has friends in school, and sometimes on the ...
  A: Beth - You could try to get her involved in activites outside of school whether it's something ...
What do I do?She's been lying to me.11/28/2004
  Q: My friend has been lying to me for 2 months straight.She even admitted it to me.One of my other ...
  A: Sunny - You can only do so much for someone before it's up to them to get help. If your friend is ...
Friend11/25/2004
  Q: Hey, Recently my best friend start going out with someone.I was happy for her, until she stopped ...
  A: Rachel - Any friend who's going to ditch you for their boyfriend, is not a good friend. I think ...
What should I do?10/3/2004
  Q: Hey Ashley. I'm a sophomore in high school. My best friend is Amanda, who is a junior. We've been ...
  A: Taylor - You shouldn't be friends with someone who's going to treat you like crap and make you feel ...
Drinking9/26/2004
  Q: My best friend drinks to much. I know people my age drink and party but she drinks to much. She has ...
  A: Elyse - Unfortunately sometimes you need to have an adult step in and take it from there. As much ...
what does she mean by that??9/12/2004
  Q: Ok, well this girl sara, we talk a lot, but we havn't hung out or anything outside of school, but we ...
  A: Kate - "Maybe someday I will see you again and you'll look me in my eyes and call me your friend" ...
ok, itz a long story. my best...8/26/2004
  Q: ok, itz a long story. my best friend, carly, was as they say "going out" with my friend thomas. ...
  A: Kelly - You screwed up the friendship by interfering and saying things that weren't true. If Carly ...
friends6/3/2004
  Q: My best mate has dumped me for her boyfriend which i can deal with. However i cant stand the way she ...
  A: Joanna - I think you guys should stop being friends with her because she's treating you guys badly ...
betrayal6/29/2003
  Q: I am going through a rough divorce and all the friends my husband and I had are avoididing me, ...
  A: Deb - Divorce is a tough thing for anyone to have to go through. It's typical for mutual friends ...

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I`ve had a lot of experience with crappy friends so I can answer questions varying from being dumped for a bf/gf to dealing with a friend`s suicide. If I can`t find out the answer, I`ll ask around till I get it.

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I'm an expert in many other areas on this site and I always get excellent feedback. I've gone through many friends over the years and know the difference between a true friend and one that strays.

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