Psychiatry & Psychology--General/Anxiety and Diarrhea


Georg wrote at 2015-07-26 07:11:15
Let me first tell you that I had this same "problem" many, many years ago, so I am not talking "hypothetically" but know exactly how you feel. Let me also tell you that this anxiety of having to go to the BR (along with other anxieties) vanished for me without drugs or anything "just like that", in time.

The "funny" thing about anxiety and social anxiety in particular is that it's all "irrational". It's even more funny because we know this! No, we won't get a heart-attack waiting in line at the store, and no, we won't likely p**p our pants at the movies. Nevertheless, of course it is this *anxiety* which is affecting our lives. Because the anxiety, the fear etc. are teal, they're no fantasy.

Worse, now realize this: It might be the case you might spend decades of your life worried about your anxiety (read again: Not about the actual event you think could happen, but it's the anxiety itself which has taken over your life!) - and at some point you realize all your worries had been "wasted" since what you were worried about never manifested. You worried 30 years of your life, excuse my language, about ***ing into your pants...but of course it never happened. Isn't this, sort-of ironic?

As I told you above, my anxiety, which included being almost unable to ride public transportation, going to the store, riding to the movies in the car with friends etc....vanished.

What I think did it was the realization that all other people out there are not perfect either. Social anxiety always centers about the idea something embarrassing or bad happens and us being judged by all those "normal" others. Wrong.

Once you realize that pretty much everyone out there has his/her problems, issues...that you are not the only "non perfect one" in a perfect world - it helps to take your own worries not that serious any longer.

In your case, this "exercise" might help: Imagine the WORST you can imagine happens, you p**p your pants in front of others. So what? Since there is no bathroom around, it's not your "fault". If you have to go and there is no way to go..well..duh...that's what's happening. Who would blame you...and for what? You poop in your pants. Whatever. The world will continue to turn. Really.

Know that episode of "Sex in the City" where the girl actually poops in her pants on vacation? Watch it! :) You will see how this allegedly horrible event (although of course embarrassing, no doubt!) turns out to be the most hilarious "vacation memory" for assured they will watch the photos or videos until they're old and gray...and they have a blast just remembering it since it's no of the most HILARIOUS things you can even imagine :)

And this is what you need to do! Relax and see the humor in it.  Imagine in your mind your worst fear come true...and realize that the result will not be the end of the world. And once you realize that...your anxiety and worries about this "hypothetical event" will vanish...because you will see it's really entirely irrelevant. Realize that your enemy is NOT the potential fact that you could make in your pants in a "not so convenient" situation....but the anxiety which dominates your life.

And you can learn to see it with different eyes so that this fear, this anxiety loses its power because it becomes pointless.

(Say, little joke here..imagine a crazy situation where you make in your pants at work. What should happen? Do you think your boss would fire you because you had diarrhea? I don't think so :) You could sue your work for millions of damages if they were to fire you because of a medical condition. Do you think you would lose friends because you had diarrhea and no BR around? Do you think the sky would come crashing down, your husband divorce you, your entire city come to a halt and headlines on CNN and MSNBC because you had diarrhea? It's *really* and ultimately entirely trivial. And this is the point to realize this. And it can be done!  

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Andrew M. Elmore, Ph.D.


I can answer questions about: Stress. Headaches. Stress-related Disorders. Anxiety/Panic Disorder. Depression. Psychopathology. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Personal Problem Solving. Life in General. Relationships: Love, Friendship, Business Partner, Coworker, Family,Child/Parent. What makes us tick. The use of psycho-pharmacological agents in combination with psychological treatment. How to deal with evil people in your life. How to improve your outlook under duress. How to control stress. How to control mood. How to control headaches. I cannot answer: Questions about Eating Disorders. Questions about computers.


30 years in private practice as a psychologist in Manhattan. Dealing with people from almost every conceivable ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds, and as many character types as exist in this country. Dealing with patients from 8 years old to 90 years old. Pioneer in biofeedback and the treatment of stress-related disorders. Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine since 1982. Treatment of stress-related, anxiety and depressive disorders with biofeedback and cognitive behavioral therapy. Developed personal problem solving, an extremely precise form of psychotherapy. Relationship therapy for couples, families, parent/child issues, business partners, coworkers, employers, and dealing with psychopathic individuals in your life.

American Psychological Association. Association for Applied Psychophysiology and Biofeedback. Biofeedback Certification Institute of America. New York Academy of Sciences.

The journal, Psychophysiology. The book, Expanding Dimensions of Consciousness. The journal, Headache. The journal, Biofeedback and Self-Regulation. The journal Psychiatry Digest. The book, The TMJ Book. The book, Dental Phobia. The network, CNN. Parade Magazine. The newspaper, Newsday. The Manhattan TV station, WCBS. The national news program, The CBS Evening News. The newspaper, The New York Post. The national TV program, The Phil Donohue Show. The magazine, The New Yorker. The magazine, Glamor. The magazine, Redbook. The magazine, Health. The magazine, Bottom Line Personal. Web MD. The website, Healthology. The magazine, Newsweek.

Ph.D. SUNY at Stony Brook, 1979. B.A., magna cum laude with Honors in Psychology, Illinois Wesleyan University, 1974.

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Who’s Who in Medicine and Healthcare, First, Second and Third Editions, 1997-2000. Appointed to the Training Faculty of the Biofeedback Certification Institute of America (BCIA), 1993. Senior Fellow BCIA. New York Academy of Sciences, 1987. Who’s Who in the East, 1983-present. Who’s Who in Frontier Science and Technology, First Edition. Citation Paper Author. Eleventh Annual Meeting of the Biofeedback Society of America, Colorado Springs, Colorado, 1980. Biofeedback Society of America Scholar, 1979. Co-author, USVA Grant, “Variables Affecting the Experience of Pain in Migraine,” USVA Medical Center, Northport, New York, 1977-1979. Biomedical Research Fellow, Department of Biomedical Engineering, SUNY at Stony Brook, Stony Brook, New York, 1978. NIMH Predoctoral Fellowship, 1976. BA, Magna cum laude, with Honors in Psychology, 1974. Danforth Fellowship Nominee, Illinois Wesleyan University, Bloomington, Illinois, 1973.

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Most of my clients are my private patients. However I have provided many seminars, lectures and workshops for: Columbia University. The Mount Sinai School of Medicine. The Metropolitan Museum of Art. The Museum of Natural History. The UJA Federation. The university, CW Post. The College of New Rochelle. Equinox Fitness. Travelers Insurance. AutoOne Insurance. Chubb Insurance. Metropolitan Life. Allstate Insurance. State Farm Insurance. Encompass Insurance. The public relations firm, Porter Novelli. The investment firm, Capital Re:. The Estee Lauder corporation. The law firm of Irwin Abrams. The National Insurance Crime Bureau. GEICO Insruance. Beth Israel Hospital.

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