Psychiatry & Psychology--General/I just need some advice


Alright, I really just need some advice.

Some background information-
I work as a mid-manager in the fast food industry. It is a fairly stressful job, but i usually handle the day to day with ease and certainty.

My life is hectic, and there is usually something that breaks once a month and its usually expensive. I also usually don't have the money to fix it immediately so i get stressed out about it.

Now as a whole I usually have days that are great and other days are just terrible. However, a common pattern that i have noticed over the years is that when I wake up I feel bleak about life in general. It doesn't matter if its going to be the best day of my life, I always wake up gloomy.

The biggest problem i face is a tendency to over think. In fact its really starting to destroy my life. I'm not sure if stress is the cause, or if i have a disorder of some kind at this point.

What happens is i will become anxious about something, and then i will obsess about the possibilities and what could happen, becoming more anxious until I force myself to look at it objectively and realize that there is no reason to feel such a way. Only then it just happens again with the next thing i worry about.

I reflect on what i spent all day worrying about and it often seems ridiculous. I manage to be decisive and rational with far larger issues at work on a daily basis in a matter of seconds and i can't even get my mind out of a continuous loop about something trivial.

I feel like this is ruining my life, like i'm having a panic attack, when it happens i can't focus on anything else. and it happens more and more frequently lately.

Over the years i have tried everything that normal common sense would dictate. I've talked with friends, got my feelings out, I exercise regularly, I ate an extremely healthy diet for two months to see if that could be the issue and to no avail.

Again, I don't know what i'm expecting from this. I guess I just need some advice from someone who might have some experience with issues such as this. I mean could it be a self discipline issue with how i let my negative thoughts go astray?


Happily, you are not describing symptoms of serious emotional disturbance.

All good hard working people are somewhat perfectionistic, which when moderated brings out the best in us, because it means we are always striving to improve and do better.

The problem is when we invest so much of ourselves in whatever we do that certain things can get "stuck" in our heads as you so well describe.

You need a way of breaking out of the circular orbit, like taking a walk around the house or the block or the parking lot or taking a drive.  Getting outside and looking outwardly at people or landscapes distracts us by taking ourselves outside of ourselves, which is the  key concept in dealing with this problem.

You are not really letting negative thoughts go astray it is just holding all of the things that matter to you a little too close and for sensitive people it is always a struggle to let go, just as  it is a struggle for insensitive people to get worked up about anything at all.


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