Psychiatry & Psychology--General/paranoid delusions


Dear Dr. Elmore,

I am very concerned about my mother's mental health, and don't know what to do in order to get her to get help from a psychologist or psychiatrist.

My mother has been suffering from paranoid delusions for years, insisting that her neighbors are spying on her, climbing on her roof, breaking into her house when she is not there, and other similar claims. This has happened in at least 10 different apartments, which she kept moving because of repeated [non-violent] confrontations with neighbors. We recently bought her a house, and she is now confronting the neighbors about various implausible claims, and trying to get a restraining order against them.

Any attempt to suggest that she may be misinterpreting noises and such is met with aggression and confrontation. The very notion of seeing a psychiatrist will meet utter refusal and hurt our relationship. She is otherwise a sweet, loving, caring mother and grandmother, 55, divorced and living on her own in Los Angeles.

How do I get her to get psychiatric or psychological help when she refuses to accept that she has any psychological problem and is convinced that her persecutory delusions are real?

Thank you for your help


Thank you for your caring and thoughtful letter.

You are correct in surmising that is almost impossible to get a paranoid schizophrenic person to admit that they are having psychotic delusions.  The only opportunity that would ever arise is if you happened to be with her the moment one of her pursuits of this disordered thinking turned out to be obviously false, then you could kindly suggest she has been doing a lot of that thing lately and it concerns you.

If this unlikely circumstance does not take place, please try to find a State social services/mental health/older adults agency to advise you.  

If you feel your mother's paranoia presents a danger to her, you may be able to arrange an assessment through such an agency, and the staff of these organizations will have people with the special knowledge to help you see that you mother receives the professional attention she needs.  

If that does not work, or just alternatively,  find a local hospital with a Geriatric Medicine Department and make an appointment to discuss your mom with someone there.

Best of luck and I hope your Mom realizes what a good son you have been to her,

Dr. Andrew Elmore

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30 years in private practice as a psychologist in Manhattan. Dealing with people from almost every conceivable ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds, and as many character types as exist in this country. Dealing with patients from 8 years old to 90 years old. Pioneer in biofeedback and the treatment of stress-related disorders. Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine since 1982. Treatment of stress-related, anxiety and depressive disorders with biofeedback and cognitive behavioral therapy. Developed personal problem solving, an extremely precise form of psychotherapy. Relationship therapy for couples, families, parent/child issues, business partners, coworkers, employers, and dealing with psychopathic individuals in your life.

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Ph.D. SUNY at Stony Brook, 1979. B.A., magna cum laude with Honors in Psychology, Illinois Wesleyan University, 1974.

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Who’s Who in Medicine and Healthcare, First, Second and Third Editions, 1997-2000. Appointed to the Training Faculty of the Biofeedback Certification Institute of America (BCIA), 1993. Senior Fellow BCIA. New York Academy of Sciences, 1987. Who’s Who in the East, 1983-present. Who’s Who in Frontier Science and Technology, First Edition. Citation Paper Author. Eleventh Annual Meeting of the Biofeedback Society of America, Colorado Springs, Colorado, 1980. Biofeedback Society of America Scholar, 1979. Co-author, USVA Grant, “Variables Affecting the Experience of Pain in Migraine,” USVA Medical Center, Northport, New York, 1977-1979. Biomedical Research Fellow, Department of Biomedical Engineering, SUNY at Stony Brook, Stony Brook, New York, 1978. NIMH Predoctoral Fellowship, 1976. BA, Magna cum laude, with Honors in Psychology, 1974. Danforth Fellowship Nominee, Illinois Wesleyan University, Bloomington, Illinois, 1973.

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