Psychiatry & Psychology--General/self-esteem issue


hello dr. borkosky,
i was out walking with a friend, when we passed two attractive girls. my friend said hello, but they didn't respond while returning back to our starting point, we came across the girls again. they were jogging right behind us. as the went around us, they got a little too close for my taste. there we were side by side briefly. i took it as kind of rude. i am a fair size guy with a long beard. i figured they would have been a little more intimidated by my appearance, resulting them as not getting as close, while passing by. this brought my self-esteem down quite a bit. if it would have been a guy or an older person, i wouldn't have minded as much. they just had to be attractive girls who should little respect for their elders. i just need a few pointers on how to overcome my negative thoughts. thanks very much for your time.

Hi, Greg, one of the best ways to get outside of your own head is to ask questions of other people. For example, if you find yourself thinking that someone is being rude, ask them if they are trying to be rude, or what their intent is. Try to ask the questions without bias, without implying that you already know the answer.

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Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.


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15 years as a licensed psychologist, 15 years in private practice. My practice began primarily doing individual and group psychotherapy, is now devoted to assessments, but I occasionally do take on clients in therapy.

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B.A. psychology, B.A., music, Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978 MCS, computer science, University of Dayton, 1984 MA, psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1991 Psy.D., psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1993 post doctoral training in Neuropsychology, Fielding Institute, 1995-1997

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