Psychiatry & Psychology--General/a-typic asocial attitude


I am an enneagram type 9; introvert - relations oriented person.
I am a communicative, quite confident, optimistic kind of person.
I love people, maintain warm relationships with my wife, daughter, brethren and other relatives
I have never been depressed. I am not anxious, do not lack energy, am not afraid to contact people, I participate with success in door-to-door selling actions for social activities, have been working as a sales-person for years, prospected new customers,  etc...
I followed all kinds of "interpersonal skills" and assertiveness courses, leadership trainings, trainings to improve remembering names, etc.... because, in an abstract way, communication, coaching, relationships, are amongst my all time favourite reading and study material.

My problem?
When I attend some activity alone, where no relationships of mine are present,
I will arrive alone and leave alone without haven spoken to anybody.
I have been commuting for more than 25 years ... and have never spoken to a co-traveler.
At the company, I have good contacts with the colleagues of my department, but none outside of this little circle.
When, by some happy accident, I come to meet new people, I will forget their name, what they look like and whatever personal information they tell me almost immediately.
Now, I don't miss all this, don't need it, don't feel the desire to do so ... just notice that others do and that maintaining a social network has its benefits, whereas I do not have a "social network" and trying to build one would demand a constant effort from my part. More so because I do not care about popular topics like sports, TV-programs, new movies and books ...

At the end of the day however, I feel that "I am different" and am wondering:

1. Is there a name for this type of asocial behaviour?
2. what may be the cause?

Hi, Zytha, thanks for your questions. You asked,

1. Is there a name for this type of asocial behaviour?
--- sorry, not that I'm aware of - perhaps shyness?

2. what may be the cause?
--- there are hundreds, if not thousands of causes of our behavior. To try to describe some of them is overly simplistic.  If someone wants to change something about them, there are many theories / models, but therapists usually focus on either one's behavior or ones thoughts. Changing either of those also changes ones feelings.

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Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.


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15 years as a licensed psychologist, 15 years in private practice. My practice began primarily doing individual and group psychotherapy, is now devoted to assessments, but I occasionally do take on clients in therapy.

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B.A. psychology, B.A., music, Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978 MCS, computer science, University of Dayton, 1984 MA, psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1991 Psy.D., psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1993 post doctoral training in Neuropsychology, Fielding Institute, 1995-1997

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