Psychiatry & Psychology--General/troubled soul

Advertisement


Question
I have an urgent request for advice to help a 30 year old boy, who seems to have lost his way
May I tell the story?
This child was born a twin, His twin is a girl and he has 5 other siblings
Childhood was normal for  this young man, at the age of 11 he was supposedly raped by his football coach ,he was never the same again and it was never proven  .The event was bought to light many years later.
By the time he was 14, This young mans personality had changed drastically, he started to lie, steal and tell wild stories and there was a lot of troubled arguments and heated exchanges from him and his family and friends whom he stole from lied to and hurt so bad.
By the age of 19 he was drinking and gambling heavily and displaying anti social behaviour
He would sneak in to the their rooms after they retired for the night ,crawling across the floor to steal their wallets etc
He was not on Drugs but mostly intoxicated
Without alcohol, he was a soft gentle young man who seemed so full of love and caring for the people around him,But, one small sip of alcohol he became a completely different person/who believes
in his own lies and does not recognise he is guilty of anything
I have watched many different character's and personalities play out in this young  man
He has tried to commit suicide and admits he has depression
He is known to get on the computer and pretend to be one of his brothers or sisters or some other character, and tell his friends that this young man has died and tell them all about the funeral and how many people attended, how loved he was, and that he died with millions of dollars and ask did they know this young man and how loved he was and then go on to tell other grand stories about himself. He cannot work ,he is always intoxicated and cannot settle into a normal life
he has alienate himself , and each sibling has a bizarre story or 10 to tell about this young man and all have turned their backs on him except his Mum who loves him so
You cannot talk to this young  man about his problems, to him the world has a problem not him. Or none of the problems existed at all
Now that I have written all the negatives about this young man
I would like to tell you the positive side
The base core of this young man, without the multiple personalities is a soft gentle soul who needs his family so badly, Cannot and does not know, that he has done anything wrong
A form of amnesia, If you will,  and of course denies everything.
It is hard to paint a picture of his pure heart and innocence and profound sadness amongst the chaos of this troubled soul who really has a heart of gold and is lost in a troubled mind of lies and deceit, conflicting emotions here as I try to explain someone who has so many different sides to himself, and yet, I see the innocent broken child within,
His family has done so much to help him over the years , but alas they cannot deal with it anymore the problems are insurmountable
My Question!
How do I help this young man who does not seem to realise how sick he really is
How do I prove his instability
Where would I begin to help this young man? especially as he does not believe there is anything wrong with him
I would appreciate any advice ,link to mental health problems or explanation to what has happened to cause his bazar personality changes, How can I start the process of this young mans healing without his permission
Any advice would be greatly appreciated and respected
Regards Cardy

Answer
Hi, Cardy, I'm sorry about your friend. Unfortunately, the questions you are asking are more properly legal ones, and I have no knowledge of AU mental health law. I assume that there is a method of helping people how cannot take care of themselves, but each country has different requirements for that process and who meets the criteria. In general, most western countries place a high value on autonomy, sometimes to the detriment of helping the mentally ill get treatment. It is a difficult choice, both for the society and for those who are charged with making individual decisions. But I sympathize with your plight, as I've witnessed many people in the US who go without help do to US policy decisions. I think you really need an AU attorney, one experienced in mental health law.

Psychiatry & Psychology--General

All Answers


Answers by Expert:


Ask Experts

Volunteer


Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.

Expertise

any related to psychology, especially related to forensic psychology

Experience

15 years as a licensed psychologist, 15 years in private practice. My practice began primarily doing individual and group psychotherapy, is now devoted to assessments, but I occasionally do take on clients in therapy.

Organizations
American Psychological Association

Education/Credentials
B.A. psychology, B.A., music, Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978 MCS, computer science, University of Dayton, 1984 MA, psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1991 Psy.D., psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1993 post doctoral training in Neuropsychology, Fielding Institute, 1995-1997

©2016 About.com. All rights reserved.