Psychiatry & Psychology--General/social world

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Hi!
I want the psychological answer to this question:
I take this as an example. I live in this world with a lot of people but I still end up lonely even if I have friends. Why is this? I even meet people. It's like people like me but maybe I don't really mean too much to them. I am confused about social life (I should give up being social since it's too harsh and hard). How does a psychologist look at such a problem? Is there any help from psychology? I've tried to get help from psychologist but it's like psychologist can't really help me. What are your amazing thoughts?

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Hi, Johannes, thanks for your questions. You asked, "I still end up lonely even if I have friends. Why is this?"

This is called the human condition. Some people are more attuned to it than others.

"How does a psychologist look at such a problem? Is there any help from psychology?"
---- you can learn defenses to avoid thinking/feeling it, yes. Or you could learn to accept the feelings and live your life to the best you can. Yes, psychology can help. You might consider Fruedian/psychodynamic therapy, and/or existential therapy.

There really is no 'fix', since this is a human condition. However, one possibility might be to spend your time trying to help other people's loneliness. That might distract you from thinking about yours all the time.  

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Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.

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any related to psychology, especially related to forensic psychology

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15 years as a licensed psychologist, 15 years in private practice. My practice began primarily doing individual and group psychotherapy, is now devoted to assessments, but I occasionally do take on clients in therapy.

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American Psychological Association

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B.A. psychology, B.A., music, Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978 MCS, computer science, University of Dayton, 1984 MA, psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1991 Psy.D., psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1993 post doctoral training in Neuropsychology, Fielding Institute, 1995-1997

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