Psychiatry & Psychology--General/Erotomania ?

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Hello doctor, i am here 'cause i need some help ...

Actually, i and a friend of mine are worried becoz' of a guy (Matt) we met at college...

First day of college, my friend meets a guy who seems pretty normal...they were both volunteer to do a welcome speech for all the new sophomores ...
Then, this guy was by chance in the class of my friend (at first he wasn't but he asked to get transferred when it was still possible ...)
He seemed to be a loner, and one day he saw us at the cafeteria and came to eat with us ... We saw that he seemed pretty stressed, like he was having tremors, eyes shining, blushing, we said ok he seems to be a lil shy ...
Then he got used to come every other day eat with us, but wasn't saying a word unless talked to ... eyes down, head down, one day he even did a terryfying 'tremor attack' (he was liked about to die, maybe that was panick attack...)

Another day, he was walking, and once he saw my friend, he blushed, started to smile like a psychopaht on his own, sat dow, did't say a word but started like he was daydreaming or talking on his own and smiling alone from time to time ...
Then when we said bye to him he only looked at my friend a say bye with a BIIGGG smile, which was totally creepy ...

Then he stopped coming to eat but was still sitting next to my friend at every class .... he did not try to socialize with the others guys at college which was pretty strange ...

Then, he asked my friend to do scholar projets and presentations with her, which she accepted ...

But when working with her, he suddenly turned mean and rude, she did not know why ...

However, she noticed he was intrusive in her life, like once he asked her for personal e mail address which he did not need since at college we all communicate via university email (even i, i dont' have her personnel e mail ..)

After a while, we started to avoid him, but suddenly, he was starting telling EVERYBODY : he has a GF !!!
I mean ok, great, good for you, the prob is that he had also told everybody that my friend wanted to get with him in a romantic Relationship which was totally false since we she only used to talk to him fr work ...

There was a female teacher he was very close to (she was like his mom';)); one day she said we are going to do a lil party in clas ad everybody had to bring something to eat ... all of a sudden she asked : who has a GF in this class (obviously mister strangeness raised his hand), and then, my friend had found a little queen figurine in a her cake , and the teacher aasked her : so, who is your king ? she said 'no one' and then the teach' insisted : who do u usually work with in labs, etc ... : she was trying to force her to say his name !! that was pretty embarassing, as i was also sorry for my friend (maybe he had told the teacher my friend was following him ...)

But the most scary happened one week ago : my friend's older sis came to help her back up her stuff since she was settling in uside of the campus ...
We had not seen Matt for a month because of exams, etc ... , but my friend had sent him a email (it was on saturday) asking him to come to finish the last project of the year....

However, he did not come, but instead, he has followed her sis while she was walking with a lugage (there were still next to college), and when she stopped to get back something thaht had fell on the ground, he got next to her, eyes to eyes, and launched her a scary glance, she thought it was a guy coming out of psych hospital (he had a hood on his head), but her sis recognized him since she had seen him twice on campus ... he went on his way ... she did not know what to do, should she call police ...

At the same time, my friends'parents are being harassed on their phone, they don't know if Matt's behind it ...

On Monday he comes to see my friend and says (oh in fact her name's Linda) and says : Oh linda i'm sorry, i hadn't checked my emails, i thought you would call me or at least send a message ;;hihi[ ;( creeppyyy ...]

We think he is suffering a delusional disorder called erotomania ...

There are a lot of other things, but i cant say everything, like he knows she has an oral exam at 2pm, he passes by at 1:55 pm in front of the exam room where linda's waiting ... (but i may be a coincidence, we won't talk about it ..)


Thks a lot, we would be very glad to get your opinion, whether it is erotomania or even smthing else i think you dr is the only to be able to help;)

PS:I am Sorry english is not my native language, please excuse the mistakes ...)

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Yes, he is probably stalking you and others.  Whether he has erotomania, or is just evil, is a decision that would depend on an evaluation.  I would report this to the local police or campus security if he does anything against the law that you have evidence of.

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Dr. Daniel S. Harrop received his B.A. and his M.D., both from Brown, and his M.B.A. from the Edinburgh Business School, Scotland. Board-certified in adult and geriatric psychiatry, he is a past president of the R.I. Psychiatric Society and a member of the Committee on Medical Quality of the American Psychiatric Association and the Committee on Continuing Medical Education of the R.I Medical Society. He serves as a consultant to four of the top five major medical management companies, including OptumHealth/United Healthcare, Magellan Behavioral Health Services, ValueOptions and APS Healthcare, and maintains a private practice in Providence, R.I. He also serves as chief psychiatric consultant on the Medical Advisory Board at the R.I. Workers Compensation Court. He was formerly on the faculty at the medical schools at both Brown University and Harvard University.

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