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I spent 3 years outside my country where communication and culture are hard for me to learn.  so within 3 years I communicated less and it effect me till know upon 1 year returning home. I stuck to word even in my native language. I open dictionary more often. I start to ask and talk like a child, very straight to the point and suprisingly blunt.

My situation becomes a real problem when I want to enter workforce.  While having job interview I tend to answer very honest and I can not sell my self by words.  So mostly the job interview ended up by exposing my weakness than  my strength because my too-much-honesty.   Since I questions a lot to thefuture employer, they found me too much.

So my question is:  is my condition is normal?  And how can I become like this? I treat every word too careful now even in my native language and I feel like I know nothing at all so it  is hard for me to enter the workforce. I tend to question a lot of thing. I feel I am not smart. I feel everyonee seems smarter and talk more than me.

Note: I used to be overconfidence person until I felt it was very hard world that I am living in  which mademe feel helplessness during 3 years abroad.

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Hi, Aimar, thanks for your questions. You asked, "is my condition is normal?  And how can I become like this?"

You said that your 'condition' is "I tend to answer very honest and I can not sell my self by words.  So mostly the job interview ended up by exposing my weakness than  my strength".

1. well, IDK what 'normal' is - there probably is no such thing. Is your situation typical? Probably yes, because everyone has both strengths and weaknesses, and problems that they need to solve.

2. I assume you meant 'how can I overcome this' - the answer is 'practice'. Practice in front of many other people. Have them ask the worst possible questions. If you have access to a video camera, record yourself over and over. Eventually you will become very good at interviews.  

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Bruce Borkosky, Psy.D.

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any related to psychology, especially related to forensic psychology

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15 years as a licensed psychologist, 15 years in private practice. My practice began primarily doing individual and group psychotherapy, is now devoted to assessments, but I occasionally do take on clients in therapy.

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B.A. psychology, B.A., music, Ohio Wesleyan U., 1978 MCS, computer science, University of Dayton, 1984 MA, psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1991 Psy.D., psychology, Miami Inst. of Psychology, 1993 post doctoral training in Neuropsychology, Fielding Institute, 1995-1997

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