Expert: John Date: 5/24/2005 Subject: Obsession...
Question Hi John,
I have a serious problem. I am absolutely obsessed with this woman. She is extraordinarily beautiful and so very much addictive. The problem is: she doesnt want a relationship with me. She only wants me as a "friend" and someone she can talk to. She and I have been intimate on occassion. But, here is the major problem...I am married, but, seperated. My wife and I seperated because she (my wife) found out that I have been communicating with this woman. I just cant seem to get through my week without seeing this woman. She is a real turn on for me and I am so very obssessed by her. I am not "stalking" her nor do I demand to see her. I just yearn to be with her and to be close to her. I do my best to remain my distance, because I know how much I am into her. Just today, I decided to keep my distance from her and to not contact her until I can get myself together. I would like to know (from you) what you think is going on with me. What information can you provide me with in regards to being obssessed with this woman?
Answer It is possible you are regressing back to an earlier point in your life before you were married. This new woman may remind you of someone in your past that you want to or would wish to rekindle a relationship. The best course for you is to drop her completely as difficult as it may seem. You need to reconcile with your wife. This will probably require you to see a pastor from a church you go to or if not then you need to start going to some churches until you find one where you feel comfortable in. This is hard since most people are born into a denomination and therefore assume it is the true church. There is no true church. Only true chrisitans. I suggest you look for a church that also meets on sunday evenings and during midweek when there are fewer people present. Talk to the pastor about your situation and make the effort to get back on track with your wife. There is no future in adultery except guilt. I suggest you not admit to your wife that you have been intimate with this woman. It will serve no purpose. Your wrong doing is between you and God. It will not help your marriage at all to hurt your wife anymore than you have already.
