Psychics/Protective Mode


Hello Oracle Shariananda. Blessings and greetings to you. I am a 46 year old female and I am a Scorpio born November 14, 1967. My boyfriend is a 53 year old man and is a Pieces born February 27, 1961. We've been dating 4 months.

I know and feel deeply the connection we have.  It's not a feeling of a fly by night relationship.  It does feel longterm but I know you would know better than myself.  My issue is that I feel he is extremely guarded. Although he is a very very busy man, he seems very protective of his space and his family/friends. I need to know what do you see as far as him letting his guard down (if that's what it really is) very soon, and what do you see me doing to make him feel 100% comfortable in letting me into HIS world? When will this take place if you can see and feel it.
Thank you!


You have always given your heart quickly and with much faith. It is remarkable that you can still believe in love, and trust this new relationship and the bond you have despite your great need for confidential intimacy.

I do not know better than you, but I can stand back further than you can.
I want you to be sure he is not still married or entangled with an x.
He may also be guarded because he watches out for gold diggers. Seems he has something in his pockets and bank account to offer.

He has come from and still is engaged in a world where he has had to fight to keep what is his.
If you have asked him for nothing, then you have the key to move into his confidence. Eventually, if you tolerate his withholds, he will open up. I think the best thing to do is withhold deep and significant utterances about yourself. Two can play the game. He is used to women who try to reveal themselves in hopes of his doing likewise for the demonstration of trust. His reluctance to talk about his inner experience from other relationships is self-protection and may be part of his idea of being male. Can you accept that?

If your idea of an intimate relationship is in confidentail and trusting talk, you may have chosen a hard nut to crack. I caution you now, do not think for one moment that he is your last best chance. You have much to offer and you are loveable and kind. Do not cast your pearls before him who cannot value them.

I do not expect you to drop him just like that. I expect you will continue to date him and play the game of withhold until it is intolerable. Bonding depends on trust. I think you will know when and how to step away if yor need for closeness in talk is not met. It is simply your deep need and cannot be squelched. Honor your needs and feelings. (This why you wrote me.)


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