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Hi Shari.I am trying to move on from an on and off relationship that I had with a guy for the last two years. I figured out that he had become a little selfish and very materialistic with time. He had an annoying tendency of keeping contact or withdrawing whenever he felt like. He was so fickle minded that he didnt even show up for the date we had planned. I felt like I am losing respect in this relationship, so I decided to end things for real now. However what can I do to get over this separation for now. Because there are times I feel like I am losing faith and self confidence in myself and feel like I will never find the one. My date of birth is 18.3.89. Thanks.


First of all, losing faith in yourself and confidence is a by product of investing your identity in someone else opinion of you. Many women let men define them. But you have cut that cycle and pattern short. So, do not be dismayed that you feel like you have lost part of yourself. It will return, after all, you were not playing, you were there for the long haul. He did not treasure you as you treasured him and the connection you had; you have shown that you still loved yourself enough to step away. That is to be commended.

You took time to gradually give him your trust and love. It will take time to disengage. All any of us can do after the disappointment of love is to go on, eat, drink water, pray, play, sleep and do our work in the world. Day by day, he will recede in your memory and heart. A song along time ago used to say, "I got along before I met you,pretty baby, gonna get along without you now." You may find it on You Tube.

Don't be hard on yourself. You have done the right thing to love and the right thing to let go.
Light a candle for him and write his name under it three times--write also, I love you. I forgive you. I release you." Then, go about your life. This candle will hold place for your integrity and intention. It will free you from the need to think about him or process the old memories all the time, and it will set you up to be clear for new love. My guides say you should be stabilized by June and blossom in by Fall. Just do not fall for the sneaky plays on your heart by self recrimination or his half-committal "friendship."  Shari


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