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Hi my dear Sharianda.
I was born on march 5, 1975 and Steve on January 13,1972
i fallow your advice and told him if i can be there for him as a friend, and that i care for him, he told me that he does not want to be my friend, he wants a friend with benefits, and  i am not sure if  he is seeing or have other Fwb relations.
so i told him that  i was grateful to meet him but i can't as i  care that much for him , i am afraid to get hurt, so i have to move on gracefully. i  hope you understand.
as i needed to express myself to him.
he haven't texted me, so i guess  he does not care enough about me or
have any feelings for me.
It does hurt a lot but   i have to let him go as its just hurting me, and i do miss him. but he is acting very selfish, and everything i am doing is being there for him.
My question is will he open his heart to me, will he reach out to me
when he is ready, i don't know how long will it take,
iam  broken hearted.
will he call me and realize that iam a good person  and that i care enough for him, but i have to respect myself i have never been in a fwb relation and from what i heard it doesnt go anywhere, and does not end good.
We just had intimacy one time is not like  i was his fwb
and i did it because i felt something for him.

I am reaching out to you as i don't know what to do, i am trying to keep my faith in him, and i am praying for him.
Thank you from the bottom  of my heart!


I am sorry that it has been so hard on you.
I am sorry your heart is breaking, your love is true. You are loyal, and you are forgiving.
But you know the truth of things. He has made it clear about what he wants. I won't call him names because you love him. But I will tell you more about yourself: you have integrity and dignity, and you do so respect yourself. Even in this day and age where virtue is easy and young women throw themselves at men after a few shots of tequila. You are not that kind. And that shows clearly in your decision not to give your body cheaply or easily.

I can tell you that I know how such a hard decision can haunt you. The tears and the review of how things have gone down keep coming down and going round, but eventually they cycle out. I can't tell you to be strong and have it happen and I can't tell you he will realise what a gift and treasure you are.
He is a worldly man, an earthy sexual man who trades in women and on their feelings. It will not be a sudden reversal on his part. You are too good for the likes of him. But pray for him, write his name on a piece of paper three times, fold that paper and put it under a candle and burn that candle daily. It will stand for your peace and hope. It will help you heal and forgive--but it will not bring him back, only bless him path, and maybe someday--sooner or later--he will cross your path or call and say, simply: "I am sorry. I messed up."  Keep that candle burning when you are home and replace it when it burns down but not out. Relight the new candle from the old flame. Shari
PS You'll know when it'd time to stop burning candles. At that time you will be ready for new love.


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