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Expertise
I can answer a great deal of questions relating to psychology. Specifically, I am very scholarly and erudite in the area of psychological color theory, memory/learning, and the biopsychosocial effects of illumination. Additionally, I do have a substantial knowledge of psychology as it relates to the field in general such as abnormal psychology, counseling, substance abuse, and lifespan development. I can also provide information on partner and domestic violence. I can answer basic, general questions relating to psychology, but cannot answer any requests for specific diagnoses or treatments nor any that would violate the APA Code of Ethics.

Experience
I have assisted in the start-up process for federally funded social programs. I have been the key note speaker on subjects such as industrial psychology, psychology of health & safety, child abuse, domestic violence, advanced mind mapping, and many other interesting topics. In the past, I have provided consultations to businesses in customer service, dealing with difficult customers, and biopsychosocial effects of illumination. I am currently a full time instructor at a local community college in addition to offering my services as a consultant.

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American Legion; MS Foundation; Habitat for Humanity Volunteer;

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BA Psychology MA(Cnd) Forensic Psychology

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Psychology - confusion

Expert: Pajoric - 11/4/2009

Question
QUESTION: Q.i m in love with a girl.but her attitude towards me changes.sometimes she really admires me,love me and be romantic with me N sometimes she says that what you want i can not give you.SHE MAKES ME VERY VERY CONFUSE.IS THERE ANYWAY THAT I CAN KNOW WHAT SHE REALLY WANT AND THINK OF ME?? I WANT TO BE THE MOST SPECIAL IN HER LIFE.IS THERE ANY WAY TO KNOW ABOUT HER THINKING ABOUT ME??

ANSWER: Mohsin,

It is not her attitude that requires change, it is yours. You need to reevaluate yourself in terms of how you are coming across to her and others. If present yourself as needy or in love right from the start, several red flags are raised.

My advice, stay back awhile and look into yourself emotionally. You can be in love without telling or showing everyone your emotions. If you really want to pursue this lady try changing yourself first by exhibiting traits of confidence. One major problem I see is that you confuse the things within in your power with those not in your power. You can't really make some feel a certain way about, but you can surely guide them. Look into things that can make you more attractive physically like clothes, a little jewelry, etc. Work on not being needy, but rather well-rounded and well-adjusted. Do fun things with and without her, but most of all, remember that you are your own person: no one can make you happy until you are first happy and true to yourself.

I hope this helps...we can chat about this more if you need to, just follow up.

Pajoric

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QUESTION: i want to do network marketing for GMI in norway but i am confused that what should i do?
i want to join it but my family is saying that may this company does not exist.now what should i do? should i listen myself or others?

Answer
Mohsin,

Find out, first, if the company is real and exists. If the company exists, do what benefits you the most. A lot of people of are afraid of failure. I say, embrace and welcome failure. Sometimes people make mistakes and lose, but it is not a loss if you recover, move on, and make progress toward excellence. Failure can be a powerful motivating force. Learn from it, don't be afraid of it.

That being said, do the best you can to make an informed decision and go from there. The bottom line is: it's your life, live it, and be as successful as you can!

Pajoric

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