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Greetings & Happy New Year !
Hoping my email finds you well.
Perhaps you can provide me with some insight.
I'm a fairly lonely individual who in the past tried his best to reach out and build some sort of semblance of a positive social life as I'm basically optimistic and outgoing.  For various reasons, my plans never worked out and along the way I found myself caught in some highly embarassing situations.  Luckily, I never saw nor heard from these people again though quite frequently my mind tends to go back to these 'incidents' which I know are finally behind me but I do worry that these people might someday resurface and these unpleasant chapters might be brought to light which I do not want.  
I have gotten older and mellowed out as well as learned my lesson - and then some !  I no longer want to beat myself up as I came across more than my share detractors.  
How can I rest easy or must I continue to look over my shoulder that the past might catch up with me.
Please Advise !
Thanks !

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Hello Mark,

Thank you for submitting your query to me at AllExperts! Many people have "skeletons in the closet" which they would not like brought out for the world to see. For many people, these embarrassing moments have occurred when they have been with their friends and it is likely that the friends will raise these ghosts throughout the friendship. You are in a unique position, however in that you are not in frequent contact with the people associated with the embarrassing situations.

Therefore, the most likely person to raise concern over your previous actions, is you. You can continue to flagellate yourself for your past indiscretions, or you can move forward with the confidence and maturity of someone who has learned from his past and moved on.

Best wishes,
Dr. Luna

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I specialize in clinical psychology with particular experience in clinical hypnosis, borderline personality disorder, LGBTQ, and aging. I have not worked with children for several years and would not feel comfortable answering child and adolescent based questions. My interests in adult psychology are fairly diverse, so please, sent me a question and lets see if I can help.

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I have been working in the field of psychology, to some degree, since 1998. Initially, my work was more behaviorally based, but through my educational and training experiences, I have expanded to a more eclectic viewpoint. I have taught introductory psychology and have worked in college counseling. I have also studied hypnosis for several years, completing my dissertation on basic research in hypnosis. Finally, I completed my internship and residency in a transitional treatment program for young adults (18 - 16) with difficulty transitioning from home.

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Doctor of Psychology 2009 Indiana University of Pennsylvania Indiana, Pennsylvania Master of Arts in Psychology 2002 MCP Hahnemann/Drexel University Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Bachelor of Arts in Psychology 1997 Keuka College Keuka Park, New York

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