Psychology/a friend committed suicide
Hello Ms Luna
Thank you for responding to my question.
About a week ago, my husband's childhood friend committed suicide. He was 38 years old, the single father of two wonderful kids. He was my friend as well, but of course my husband growing up with him was like a brother to him.
We had been somewhat out of touch with him but recently reconnected to him online and we were looking forward to seeing him. It came as a great shock to us when we found out he took his own life.
He took his own life while with his kids, visiting his sister. He even brought his mom up to his sisters house that day. It was his children that found him. The family tried to save him. He fought protested this was what he wanted and to let him go, he managed to escape the family and succeeded in ending his life.
We are feeling very sad and confused with this situation. We seem to have a wide range of emotions from hurt, sad, mad confusion and we keep reliving the scenario to which we were told about his end of life. We cannot imagine where a normal average day can turn into something so horrific and in the presence of his family and children.
We grieve for him, for the ones he left behind. But confusion is just overwhelming.
We were told three days prior he was put on anti-depressants. I am still not sure which ones but I wonder could those trigger such a reaction so soon into using them?
I guess my question is just from your expertise, and I know you did not know my friend personally, but I would like to better understand what could have happened to our friend to do that..
Is what we feel now normal?
Thank you for submitting your question to me here at AllExperts. I am sorry to hear of your loss.
There is a black label warning in the US for some anti-depressant medications that there has been an increase in the likelihood of suicide for some individuals upon taking these medications. The explanation for this increased suicidal ideation is that the individual begins to feel a therapeutic effect from the medications and has the energy (as a treatment effect of the medication) to take action on pre-existing suicidal ideation. The therapeutic effects of these medications generally take 4-6 weeks to take effect.
While I cannot speak specifically to the case of your friend, based on the information you have provided, it is unlikely that his newly started antidepressant medications triggered his suicidal ideation. Unfortunately, suicide is the most difficult behavior to predict, though there is a lot of research being done.
What you are feeling now is very normal. The questions following a suicide are often more lingering than many others. I hope that you and your husband can support each other through this process.