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1.What is the best time of a day & the day in a week to discuss about problematic issues with a person?
Like to pacify the angry girlfriend who avoids .

2.How to start to put the things so she listens ?

To give an outline about the situation she listens less. she's worried about a problem since longtime. But at the same time avoids to talk about it.But I'm pretty sure i have a solution for it that could make her happier & our relationship much closer.

 I'd be happy if your statement is  backed by science or experience.

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Mick,

Thank you for submitting your questions to me here at AllExperts.There is no "Magical Time" to ask a question, but there are better times. For instance, engaging her in talking about a difficult topic would better be accomplished when she is calm, relaxed and not trying to do other things. A time when she can focus on the topic. If you want her to listen, explain to her your purpose in bringing it up, to help your relationship or because you are concerned...whatever reasons are valid to you.

Also, be open to the fact that she 1) may not want to discuss the topic and 2) may not see that there is a problem. She does not have to talk with you about what you want to talk about. In fact, she may believe that the problem is not with her, but with you.

Enter the conversation with an open mind.
Best wishes,
Dr. Luna

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I specialize in clinical psychology with particular experience in clinical hypnosis, borderline personality disorder, LGBTQ, and aging. I have not worked with children for several years and would not feel comfortable answering child and adolescent based questions. My interests in adult psychology are fairly diverse, so please, sent me a question and lets see if I can help.

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I have been working in the field of psychology, to some degree, since 1998. Initially, my work was more behaviorally based, but through my educational and training experiences, I have expanded to a more eclectic viewpoint. I have taught introductory psychology and have worked in college counseling. I have also studied hypnosis for several years, completing my dissertation on basic research in hypnosis. Finally, I completed my internship and residency in a transitional treatment program for young adults (18 - 16) with difficulty transitioning from home.

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Doctor of Psychology 2009 Indiana University of Pennsylvania Indiana, Pennsylvania Master of Arts in Psychology 2002 MCP Hahnemann/Drexel University Philadelphia, Pennsylvania Bachelor of Arts in Psychology 1997 Keuka College Keuka Park, New York

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