AboutS. Kessler Expertise I can answer most any questions regarding a husband wife relationship. Whatever the question may be. I would like to help you find an answer to it. If you want an honest and unbiased opinion on things then ask away. I have been divorced with 3 children, a single mother, and I'm remarried. I know what it is like to have a spouse cheat on you, to be taken advantage of, to feel like everything is hopeless (being depressed), emotions (the up`s and down`s). I will try to answer anything you have on your mind about husband-wife relationships, divorce, adultery, etc. Please don`t hesitate to ask.
Expert: S. Kessler Date: 6/28/2008 Subject: husband cheated with another man
Question We've been married almost 15yrs. We have 2 kids (6&9). My mom died suddenly & I was very depressed & withdrawn, especially sexually. I suspected cheating. Downloaded keylogger. Was I surprised when found out husband meeting men in parking lots & going to their houses to get blowjob. I then revitalized OUR sex life. He now is "getting it" more than ever. Even though I don't think he's been with anyone else, since, he's still chatting. Last night, he set something up for Sunday in our still no sold vacant house. (We just moved to the next town). I don't know if he'd actually follow through or if he's just using chatting like phone sex (but with guys!) He doesn't know I know. I told him I suspected him of cheating & he denied it. Which if it was another woman, he'd be telling the truth.
Answer Hi Catherine~
He's cheated/cheating with another man. This says to me that he's gay or at the very least bi-sexual. It's unacceptable that he's cheating on you with another person (man or woman) and then he's lying to you about it. He's not trustworthy when he's cheating and lying. So you have to decide what you're going to do about this. Are you going to put up with it and allow this to continue and do nothing? Or are you going to finally confront him with the proof you have and exactly what you know about what's going on? The choice is yours to make.
For him to deny it he's insulting your very intelligence. His behavior is unacceptable and totally inappropriate. You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know exactly how this is making you feel. And what you're willing and unwilling to put up with in this marriage.
So something has to be done about this or it's going to continue to happen. Talk to him and see if he's willing to discuss this further with you and decide what the next step is you should take with this relationship, and even if it can be salvaged and worked out. Whatever decision you make isn't going to be an easy one to make.
