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Expert: S. Kessler Date: 6/23/2008 Subject: My husband left me and move in with his girlfriend
Question My husband has been married for 6 years.We disagree often I often told him to leave and this month he did he left two day before our 6 anniversary so now when i call him he has his phone off or he want answer it. How can he show respect to his girlfriend.He shows her respect I'm am the wife but he calls everday wondering where I am how our daughter is doing. I think I know where they stay I want to go and see for myself and ever time I decide to go I say if thats where he want to be he wouldn't have left it is so hard to be here alone he has been going since the last of May I am wondering is he coming back home and the sad part he has promise our daughter that he is coming back home and want I love my husband but I wonder why he want come home should I just move on and date somebody else because I know he is or wait on him. Everyday I cry and I am tired of crying How he can leave his wife for his girlfriend how? I talk to him today I told him I was filing for a divorce and he said is that what you want to do
Answer Hi Tameika~
He's being very unfair to you. The newness with his GF will eventually wear off. And if he'll cheat on you, then he'll eventually cheat on his GF too. It's only a matter of time before he does this. You deserve to be treated way better than he's doing to you right now. He doesn't truly love and respect you, if he did then he wouldn't be doing what he's doing now with this other woman. He wouldn't even dream of it. He's only concerned about his needs and wants, and what's satisfying him at the moment (which is the other woman). He's insulting your intelligence and he feels that he can treat you in this manner. You have to show him that you're not a door mat and you will no longer be disrespected by him nor anyone else for that matter.
The hardest part is taking the first step and then actually going through it. All of these thoughts and feelings you're experiencing are totally normal to go through. It's a process once he's left for you to endure. You have to grow from this and become stronger as time goes on. And show him that he's not going to break your spirit or your will to get through this. Perhaps you need to give him walk up call and go ahead and file for a divorce from him. He's probably trying to call your bluff to see if you have what it takes to do what you say your going to do. If you don't, then he's going to know that he can keep getting away with all this with you. The choice is yours to make.
Men can be very selfish and think with their penises' instead of their brains. He wants his cake and to eat it too, I know, so cliche, but it's true. He's being very selfish and thinking only of himself and his self pleasures in life, etc. You have to command respect from him. He's taking advantage of you and using you and this GF. He's playing mind games with you. And this has to stop or it's only going to make you even more miserable as time goes on. Only you can make this choice and it all starts with you.
