AboutGraham Smith B.PHIL Expertise I can help with any question on marriage, based on my 29 years of marriage. I also have two children, and one granddaughter.
Experience 29years of marriage.
Education/Credentials I have a bachelor of Philosophy from the Liverpool university (UK)
Question I was taking care of my niece and newphew at my home on a hot summer day. I was in the kitchen fixing them something to eat before their father (my brother-in-law) picked them up. I was in a short shorts and a small t-shirt to beat the weather. My husband came home with a friend without any warning. I have asked him numerous of times not to bring people into the home without my knowledge so that i can better prepare myself for company and look more presentable. He failed to do so again, so I became upset and said nothing but hello to his company, then sneekingly went off to the room to change and then I just stayed their, by that time the children were already gone home. Now he accuses me of being rude to his guests and that they saw that I was upset and that I embarrassed him. To top it off, I just found out that I am pregnant. After all, he left the house with his guests and did not notify me that he was leaving. I called to confront him and he absolutely felt he did nothing wrong. He made me cry becuase it sounded like he cared more about his friends feelings rather than his pregnant wifes emotions. I just would like to know was i wrong for keeping to myself in my bedroom.
Answer Hi Sher,
No you were not wrong to stay in your bedroom,clearly you were embarrassed that a another person saw how you were dressed,but its your house and you should be able to wear what you want and when you want in your own home. Now, the real issue here isn't what you wore its your hubby's constant inconsideration concerning your feelings. my own wife had the same situation not two weeks ago,when our son bought a friend home,and my wife had very little on because the weather was nice,now that made her look bad to our son's friend,so i do see how you are feeling. You should now, explain to your hubby that you do not want his friends seeing you wearing skimpy clothes like that,and impress upon him that he must give you consideration in these situations.
Finally, he should be now thinking about you more now you are pregnant.
i hope this has put your mind at rest a little.
Graham
