Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/How can I communicate with her?

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.I got married when I was 19 because my girlfriend got pregnant and my inlaws didn't want the baby to be born out of wedlock. Since then there have been good times and bad times. But for the last 3 months it's been mostly bad. We both work and on top of that I also go to college. So when I'm home I'm either resting or helping out with our 3 year old girl, which is no easy task. We're both busy and haven't been intimate in over a month. we constantly argue and at times it seems like she doesn't even want me around or resents me for some reason. And while I do love her I refuse to be her doormat. So my question is how can I get her to talk about what's bothering her? She never says what's on her mind and it's starting to really annoy me. We can't afford counseling, so what am I to do?

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Hi James, it sounds like your marriage has a lot of stress and pressure and that's the first thing to address if you want communication and intimacy. See if you can find a way to spend a bit of fun time together. Find someone to look after your child, even if just for a few hours. If you can make this a regular thing- maybe once a week - then you should see a shift in your wife's attitude.
Hope this helps and all the best
Liam

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Liam Naden

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I specialise in helping couples save their marriage and rebuild it after major hurts such as an affair. Creating intimacy, removing hurt, dealing with sexual and communication problems. I have two relationship-saver programs and a free podcast which are available from my website www.liamnaden.com and a free report, "The Five Keys to Saving Your Marriage Now" at www.growinginloveforlife.com.

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Relationship coach with own relationship coaching business. Author of several books on marriage and intimacy. I offer two relationship saving programs: "Stop Your Divorce" and "Save Your Marriage" which have helped many couples save their marriage and rebuild their love and intimacy.

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About.com Amazon Kindle: Author of the ""Growing in Love for Life" series of ebooks for saving and strengthening marriage.

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Master of Arts (First Class Honors)

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