Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/How to discuss our situation

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Hi Liam

Please give some advice. My wife suddenly came home and told me she is not in love with me anymore and moved out. It has been 7 weeks. I gave her lots of time and never pressured etc. she is adiment she want out and says she is 'done'.

I want to discuss what I think are our hurdles and how we can try and improve our situation.

I have no idea how to start?

Regards
Trevor

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Hi Trevor,
If your wife has fallen 'out' of love with you, the key is to identify what you can do to for her to fall back 'in' love with you. This means that instead of discussing how to solve your problems together, you identify the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place - the sort of person you are/were and the sort of circumstances that brought you together. This can take a bit of figuring out, but start by asking yourself, "What sort of person was I that made her fall in love with me?" and start acting like that person again. You need to "get through to" your wife's feelings again, not her logic.
I have a program that shows you exactly how to do this (on my website), but the above is the place to start. Hope this helps!

All the best,

Liam

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Liam Naden

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I specialise in helping couples save their marriage and rebuild it after major hurts such as an affair. Creating intimacy, removing hurt, dealing with sexual and communication problems. I have two relationship-saver programs and a free podcast which are available from my website www.liamnaden.com and a free report, "The Five Keys to Saving Your Marriage Now" at www.growinginloveforlife.com.

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Relationship coach with own relationship coaching business. Author of several books on marriage and intimacy. I offer two relationship saving programs: "Stop Your Divorce" and "Save Your Marriage" which have helped many couples save their marriage and rebuild their love and intimacy.

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About.com Amazon Kindle: Author of the ""Growing in Love for Life" series of ebooks for saving and strengthening marriage.

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Master of Arts (First Class Honors)

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