Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/LOSING RESPECT FROM WIFE

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Hi Liam,

Is it common in marriages where the Wife, who makes more money than the husband, to lose respect for the husband because of financial status?
That's the situation im in and it's to the point where she puts me at the bottom of the list on many things.  An example, when we are at her parents on the weekend and I tell her I need to be home at a certain time.  She doesn't care and will leave when ever she is ready to leave.  It's pretty clear that she feels like shes the boss and doesn't respect me, or else she would respect my wishes to be home at the time I need to be home.

I'm sure this is carrying over to the bedroom, because I find my wife very attractive and I'm always initiating intimacy, but 80% of the time she denies my advances.
With her rejections and not caring about my needs, I feel unwanted by my wife.  I have spoke to her about my feelings and she just says that I'm being dramatic.

What should I do?

thanks for your time.

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Hi Dan,
A wife earning more than a husband is not a reason for less respect - on its own. I suggest you think of other ways in which you could gain her respect. How about showing you are directing your life in other ways. Are there other things where you could be the one who is in charge.
Above all, women want to be looked after and cherished. Think of other ways you can show her that you have initiative and control and are doing your best to be her protector. One of the best ways is to set some goals for yourself and achieve them. Show her you are a man of action and one who can be trusted.
It comes down to finding other ways of "providing" for her, where she can look up to you and admire you. That is being masculine - and it will also increase her sexual attraction to you.
Have a think about this and I am sure you will come up with some ideas!
Hope this helps and all the best,
Liam

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Liam Naden

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I specialise in helping couples save their marriage and rebuild it after major hurts such as an affair. Creating intimacy, removing hurt, dealing with sexual and communication problems. I have two relationship-saver programs and a free podcast which are available from my website www.liamnaden.com and a free report, "The Five Keys to Saving Your Marriage Now" at www.growinginloveforlife.com.

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Relationship coach with own relationship coaching business. Author of several books on marriage and intimacy. I offer two relationship saving programs: "Stop Your Divorce" and "Save Your Marriage" which have helped many couples save their marriage and rebuild their love and intimacy.

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About.com Amazon Kindle: Author of the ""Growing in Love for Life" series of ebooks for saving and strengthening marriage.

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Master of Arts (First Class Honors)

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