Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/Intimacy issues


Hello, I hope your doing well. I'm 24 and I've been married for four years. My wife and I have a happy and healthy marriage but sex has been a bit of an issue for us. We have sex about once a week or less, I'm attracted to her I would  never want anyone else but lately I have trouble feeling motivated to have sex, which really hurts her feelings. I feel this is starting to affect our relationship in general.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  Best wishes

tme to man up bro;dealbreaker here;Not in the Mood? Ask Yourself, 'Why Not?' When you make the decision to honor your marriage bed, both you and your wife will benefit sexually.- Trying to repress the sexual feelings is the wrong approach,never deprive your wife from sex What Does 1 Corinthians 7:5--Do Not Deprive Each Other ...depriving your wife of emotional intimacy? .... more intimacy.. but chores and gifts are not marital sexual love, and will never substitute.Wife lives an existence in marriage where she is sexually deprived.unequal levels of desire can cause difficulties, ranging from feelings of rejection to resentment to anger.When the other partner frequently gets told, “Not tonight, honey,” it can sting, They feel trapped and they feel humiliated, because no one likes to ask for intimacy and be refused occasionally, much less repeatedly;she  might stop initiating sex altogether rather than face the possibility of rejection,she might begin to shy away from all displays of affection.she might be tempted to look elsewhere for sex.”When you get into power struggles about sex… the power struggle is the poison,Try these ideas for putting that spark back into your love life:

1. Talk. The best approach is honest communication,” “Talk openly and candidly about your needs and about the discrepancies in your desire levels. Educate your partner. five dimensions of touch: affection, sensual, playful, erotic and intercourse. “Think about pleasuring, giving and receiving touch, rather than foreplay,” he said. “The idea of expanding what is sexual empowers men.” “She wants lovemaking,”Another piece of advice: make touch ordinary in the relationship — not something that happens only in the bedroom.  Experiment with toys.Sexual toys like dildos and vibrators can help fix that problem and spice up a couple’s sex play, Ask for help. If you and your partner have tried unsuccessfully to have a better sex life, you may need professional help;The bottom line is: if you are married and one of the members within the marital unit would like to have a sexually intimate marriage, and the other does not wish to, this is a conflict that is not silly. This is a problem that is not to be ignored. This is a problem that affects the person who feels sexually deprived, the person’s mate, and the couple unit.Is there something so wrong with “hooking your spouse up” with sexual pleasure even if you are not in the mood?desire for you is to connect in a sexually intimate way that pleases both of you in quantity and in quality. That is the goal. The goal is to find a healthy sexual balance of quantity and quality that fits for both the husband and the wife. And let me tell you, it hurts them. Is it not the responsibility, the obligation of the spouse to do something about this rather than keep their spouse dry not to give any water at all?Don’t sweep sexual intimacy under the rug and ignore it. As it is indeed the pink elephant in the room. Like most ignored topics, it surfaces out in other ways and/or will eventually lead to an outcome that is not a happy one.

If your spouse is sexually deprived, do something about it. Take action today. Fill their cup.  take your woman, kiss them, caress them, feed them this meal they are so hungry for. And then, feel good that you did something for your spouse. Perhaps over time as you provide a sexual intimate experience for your spouse you too will see that sexual intimacy is for you too.  Don’t leave em’ hanging out to dry. Water your dry plant.  

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I can answer most any questions regarding a husband/wife relationship. Whatever the question may be,no matter the situation. I will try to answer anything you have on your mind about husband-wife relationships, divorce,separation,restoring relationship,drama/issues; adultery,sex,self esteem issues,cheating,abuse etc.I can comfortably answer questions about developing or salvaging a strong marriage relationship.If you just need advice or encouragement I am here to be a blessing to you and yours., communication, listening, anger, verbal abuse,


I have helped people from all over the world and from many different walks of life, cultures, etc.Love birds may decide to marry just in the bloom of infatuation. However, marriage is like a signed contract for commitment. With marriage, love birds are also expected to share certain responsibilities and if they fail to do so, conflicts begin and the family life gets disturbed. This is where marriage counselor plays an important role. Marriage counselor helps the couple resolve their conflicts and saves their relationship which otherwise would have ended up in divorce. Marriage Counselor helps the couple learn their compatibility status and suggests ways for the betterment. A Marriage Counselor should be competent enough to understand the severity of the conflicts between the spouses and he/she must a good knowledge of the ways that would make the matrimonial relationship happy and smooth.I believe that God can heal broken marriages; Understanding what God says about marriage and the covenant promise you made to Him, will help you understand why God will heal your broken marriage. God joined the two of you together and brought it into fruition and said, "it is good" "So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)". When you married you were joined together (bound) for life, this is God's law.

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