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| 36 weeks pregnant and my husband is slipping away. | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: HELP!!!! In february 2011 I lost my first child at 30 weeks. My husband and I had only been ... A: Maybe he's found solace in his gaming system and it takes his mind off reality. The fact that you ... | |
| Separated/confused by husband's actions | 1/30/2012 |
| Q: I have posted several times last year about my problems involving husband's emotional affairs, which ... A: Your children are old enough for you to sit them down and tell them what's going on, and that you ... | |
| Separated/confused by husband's actions | 1/28/2012 |
| Q: I have posted several times last year about my problems involving husband's emotional affairs, which ... A: I know you feel that you somehow need closure, but contacting this woman and going to see her in ... | |
| my husband is driving me BONKERS! | 1/23/2012 |
| Q: so my husband and Last have been together for three years,married for just over a year now.We have 1 ... A: If he's so into Christianity then he should know that it's wrong and a sin to accuse you of ... | |
| I cant stand to be around my husband anymore | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: He is a sweet man and I know he thinks he's doing good but in my eyes he is a child that needs a ... A: That's the problem you didn't know him all that well before you got pregnant and married. Some time ... | |
| What am I to do | 1/17/2012 |
| Q: Samantha is there a limit on how many questions I can ask you ? The reason I ask is I asked you a ... A: There are only limits on how many questions an experts sets to answer, such as 15 in a 24 hour ... | |
| husband wants to move | 1/16/2012 |
| Q: I dated and lived with my husband 9 yrs before we got married this past Sept. It wasnt until I was ... A: He's married and has a child now, it's time for him to grow up and to start being a responsible and ... | |
| Woman Power | 1/8/2012 |
| Q: Before I got married, I got a supplementary credit card from my father. After I got married, my wife ... A: That's a start there. Don't celebrate it with her then. If she wants to treat you like that, why ... | |
| Woman Power | 1/5/2012 |
| Q: Before I got married, I got a supplementary credit card from my father. After I got married, my wife ... A: It sure seems as though you're onto something and perhaps she is on a power trip, and letting you ... | |
| marriage | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: i have a hispanic gangster husband we have together 4 yrs heis a good husband an father the only ... A: With you and your children being exposed to drugs and gangs that's a very dangerous mix, but I'm ... | |
| Woman Power | 1/4/2012 |
| Q: Before I got married, I got a supplementary credit card from my father. After I got married, my wife ... A: It appears to be that way. You challenged and questioned her about something, she didn't like it, ... | |
| About to cheat | 1/3/2012 |
| Q: My name is Camila. I have been married for 10 years. My husband is a good man. He says he loves me. ... A: Cheating on him isn't going to do anything for you but to make you more resentful of him, and how ... | |
| question about my choices | 12/31/2011 |
| Q: I really need advice. This is a long story, but I will try to sum it up quickly. My husband and I ... A: I agree with his mother, GET OUT! He's an abuser, he's proven this with his being physical with ... | |
| Explosive situation-2 | 12/20/2011 |
| Q: I have given her all of my house and my ATM card BUT, as for the house whenever she has asked for ... A: You can just correspond via this web site if wish. I have to keep contact with my clients on this ... | |
| conception concern | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: Good afternoon,I'm 35 years and just got married June.Until then had absented from sexual ... A: That's actually very normal for this to happen. It's not only from the men's sperm but women also ... | |
| Explosive situation | 12/19/2011 |
| Q: My name is Mehdi. I am a 33 year-old male, living in Iran and working as a pharmacist (I have a ... A: I'd be very careful about giving her free rein with any of your money. She's a smart enough woman ... | |
| Explosive situation | 12/17/2011 |
| Q: My name is Mehdi. I am a 33 year-old male, living in Iran and working as a pharmacist (I have a ... A: I will pray to God for you to give you some answers and some relief for your sanity and to help ease ... | |
| Explosive situation | 12/15/2011 |
| Q: My name is Mehdi. I am a 33 year-old male, living in Iran and working as a pharmacist (I have a ... A: She seems to have these major issues way before you got married, and you just didn't truly know ... | |
| My Husband | 12/14/2011 |
| Q: I am married for four years and I have a son of 3 years old. We stay together with in laws. My ... A: Have you thought about getting your own home with your husband? To save your sanity and the ... | |
| Confused and hurt | 12/11/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 21 years. We have both hurt each other equally over the ... A: So, then he's a hypocrite? He tells you that it's not okay for you to do stuff to him, but then he ... | |
| A depressing issue | 12/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and recently married. I have a close group of friends that I have known since ... A: No, I don't think you should ditch your friends, they are onto something when they are trying to ... | |
| girlfriend cant get over ex | 12/2/2011 |
| Q: so here is the deal. I have been with my girlfriend for over 14 years and she still can't get over ... A: Is she happy with you or not? You need to know the answer to this question, and tell her to be ... | |
| Should divorce be the answer | 11/28/2011 |
| Q: I've written to this forum before so I'm not new. I been married for 22 years. August my husband ... A: I don't mind being your support system/group. It really does help to have someone to talk to when ... | |
| Should divorce be the answer | 11/28/2011 |
| Q: I've written to this forum before so I'm not new. I been married for 22 years. August my husband ... A: Maybe it's b/c you've been with him for 22 yrs and you're used to him being around and you don't ... | |
| Should divorce be the answer | 11/26/2011 |
| Q: I've written to this forum before so I'm not new. I been married for 22 years. August my husband ... A: In this situation for you, yes, divorce just might be the answer for you. I mean he's already moved ... | |
| Husband moved out | 11/15/2011 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 3 years. He moved out 3 weeks ago. First i was ok with ... A: Why is he making his work a priority over you, his wife? That's not okay by any means at all. ... | |
| Hard relationship trying 2 combine 2 families | 11/8/2011 |
| Q: Samantha, I would appreciate any advice you have to offer. I am a divorced mother of 3 young kids. ... A: I can understand not wanting to put your children through unnecessary hurt and pain. However, but ... | |
| My Marriage | 10/27/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for three years. We have a one year old together. During our ... A: It's hard to say why he's not wanting you (at this point) to come to his house. The immediate ... | |
| marrage | 10/24/2011 |
| Q: My husband has accused me of cheating, and now wants me to take a lie detector test, which i am fine ... A: If he's accusing you of cheating and he'd been insistent on you taking a lie detector to pacify him, ... | |
| I am a slob....:( sort of I think I am too comfortable. | 10/23/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my other half for 10 years, he is amazing, but at the same time he can be VERY ... A: I hope that you know it's never okay for him to go off on you and call you a lazy slob, etc. No ... | |
| Boundery problem with ex-married couple(girlfriend) | 10/22/2011 |
| Q: I just finished reading a question about a woman who was having problems with her new husband's ... A: Okay, thanks for clarifying that. For some reason I got the wrong impression with the circumstances ... | |
| Boundery problem with ex-married couple(girlfriend) | 10/21/2011 |
| Q: I just finished reading a question about a woman who was having problems with her new husband's ... A: Boundaries are a must and should definitely be in place if they are to continue their friendship. ... | |
| tired of marriage | 10/20/2011 |
| Q: am an African woman married for 5 years with two boys. Everything seemed ok for the first year till ... A: It's no wonder why you're so unhappy. You have a lot of stress on you and on feeling like you have ... | |
| Why | 10/19/2011 |
| Q: If you could have a read over this and comment it would be hugely appreciated. I met my wife 5 ... A: Maybe she wants to do it in person so that she can see your reaction. If she is dealing with some ... | |
| marrage | 10/19/2011 |
| Q: My husband has accused me of cheating, and now wants me to take a lie detector test, which i am fine ... A: Why would you even agree to take a lie detector test if you've never cheated on him. To pacify him ... | |
| My Wife Ignores me | 10/12/2011 |
| Q: I would really appreciate some advice. My wife tends to put me last on her priories. EVERYTHING ... A: What do you want out of this marriage? What are you prepared to do if things don't change? Those ... | |
| Marriage help | 10/12/2011 |
| Q: I am so sad. I have been married for 7 years, known each other for 18 years. Husband is a recovering ... A: He's right in a lot of ways when he says this is "normal", yeah, normal for those in an unhappy, ... | |
| Wife and parent issue | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 3 years and am having problems where my wife do not want to associate or talk to ... A: I can't change the public to private (only the reverse). I'm sorry I couldn't help you there. I ... | |
| Stubborn wife and parent issue | 10/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 3 years and am having problems where my wife do not want to associate or talk to ... A: This is an issue only your wife can resolve for herself. She really does need to forgive your ... | |
| New husband is resentful of unplanned pregnancy | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I got engaged in January of 2011 after 1 year of serious dating and over 5 years of ... A: In a way he's being very selfish. How does he think that this child would feel if he/she would be ... | |
| Marriage/Kids/Work | 10/2/2011 |
| Q: My husband of 9 yrs and I are struggling. We have 2 high energy beautiful boys age 6 yrs and 14 ... A: If you want to make this marriage work then you are going to HAVE to make couple time. If a couple ... | |
| Damaged Marriage | 9/24/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 10 years now. For the first 7 years of my marriage my husband cheated. The ... A: What do YOU want? That's the most important question to ask yourself. What about YOU? He was ... | |
| husband's hobby | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: My husband bought a horse back March 2010. I didn't realize when he bought it that is was going to ... A: He's neglecting his relationship with you and the children and spending family time together, let ... | |
| online porn | 9/15/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 13 yrs. and have two wonderful children together. We both ... A: Men viewing/watching porn is more common than one might realize. It's a dirty secret that a lot of ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP ISSUES DURING PREGNANCY | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey there! I am really hoping you can PLEASE help me out-somehow. I am currently 5mths pregnant, ... A: Since you're unsure of what to do right now, maybe the best thing is to bide your time and get to ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP ISSUES DURING PREGNANCY | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey there! I am really hoping you can PLEASE help me out-somehow. I am currently 5mths pregnant, ... A: Maybe you are just plain resentful of him. You resent the fact that you had an unplanned pregnancy ... | |
| second best | 9/12/2011 |
| Q: I am feeling so hurt. Over the last three years, my husband has really made me feel second best. He ... A: If you can't think of what to tell him at the moment when you are upset, then you need to write it ... | |
| Lack of intimacy | 8/30/2011 |
| Q: I am struggling with lack of intimacy with me wife. We have been married for 25 years, with no ... A: Maybe her sex drive is really low, thus this could explain her lack of sexual desire. Or she's ... | |
| Thinking about an old flame | 8/27/2011 |
| Q: I came across an article from someone who wrote to you in 2007 about his old flame. My old flame is ... A: I think as long as he's on a strictly platonic type of friendship with her, and he's not giving you ... | |
| Wife not suppoprting me during crisis | 8/21/2011 |
| Q: Her kids are mid 30's, married with children. My kids are early 20's. Recently my wife and I were on ... A: Whatever email you put in and use on this site, is the email this response will go to, as we aren't ... | |
| Wife won't stop affair even after confronted | 8/17/2011 |
| Q: So many issues here.. On the verge of separation and wife having affair. I tried to fondle her ... A: It seems as though she's got her mind made up. Let her go and find out that what a mistake she's ... | |
| my said she doesnt love me | 8/16/2011 |
| Q: my wife and i have been fighting alot and she told me the other day that she doesnt love me anymore ... A: You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know ... | |
| Wife won't stop affair even after confronted | 8/11/2011 |
| Q: So many issues here.. On the verge of separation and wife having affair. I tried to fondle her ... A: You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know ... | |
| letting go of a 25yr marriage | 8/10/2011 |
| Q: I have discovered that my husband of 25yrs has been having an affair for the last 2 to 3 years ... A: You and this marriage are a convenience for him. He couldn't care less about you and the marriage ... | |
| My husband puts his blood before his marriage. | 8/4/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 1year. We have known eachother for almost 10 years now. Our ... A: You are both right in a way. There has a be a happy medium here for both of you, so that neither ... | |
| Rejection | 8/1/2011 |
| Q: I'm a 44 years old man, married for the 2nd time. I have 1 stepdaughter of 10 and a baby of 1. Since ... A: First off, let's not jump to conclusions right away. You could actually do more harm by thinking ... | |
| husband's hobby hurting marriage | 7/31/2011 |
| Q: I'm 48, in my 2nd marriage- married 4 years, together a total of 7. My 2 children are grown, and he ... A: You need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk with him about this. At least he does ... | |
| married payin cs | 7/27/2011 |
| Q: is it legal that i pay child support while we are still married ,but seperated not leagally A: Yes, it's very legal and it's a parents obligation to support their child(ren) even if they are no ... | |
| Thinking about an old flame | 7/26/2011 |
| Q: I came across an article from someone who wrote to you in 2007 about his old flame. My old flame is ... A: You need to forget about this man, and you definitely should not contact him anymore. If you do, ... | |
| Help | 7/24/2011 |
| Q: We moved in with his parents because they were struggling financially and asked for our help and ... A: This is why living with family members (in-laws or your own family) is generally a bad idea. It's ... | |
| Marriage and Step Children | 7/12/2011 |
| Q: I am a 26 y.o. who married my husband who is 29 y.o. and we have been married for going on four ... A: I have a 13 yo daughter that has ADHD. And while she can be charming at times, most of the time ... | |
| My husband finds female drivers sexy | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a Pakistani and being the housewife I have to pick / drop my husband to work every day. He ... A: It's completely normal for a person to have a fetish (that means something that turns you on ... | |
| My husband finds female drivers sexy | 7/11/2011 |
| Q: I am a Pakistani and being the housewife I have to pick / drop my husband to work every day. He ... A: It certainly is unusual and not really normal that he's that obsessed with you being a woman driver. ... | |
| i cheated a while ago she cheated now | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I cheated on my wife by going to dating sites and porn sites. She discovered it and we reconciled. ... A: I think it's perfectly fine and acceptable even, for you to ask her those two questions. #1 - How ... | |
| Should I leave | 7/6/2011 |
| Q: I been married for 21 years and I'm not sure what to do about my marriage. we have our own bank ... A: I think that answer would be a resounding, YES! Why on earth are you staying with him anyway? ... | |
| HUSBAND constantly blames me | 7/5/2011 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 28 years. We have 2 boys, ages 8 and 18. We were childhood ... A: Why is it okay that you've put up with this behavior from him for the last 28 yrs? If he hasn't ... | |
| wife doesnt want trial separation | 7/3/2011 |
| Q: i have been married for 5 years(south africa). we met when i was 23 and when i turned 24 we got ... A: Actions are how you act. And going to counseling, yes, it one of those actions. To show her your ... | |
| i cheated a while ago she cheated now | 7/2/2011 |
| Q: I cheated on my wife by going to dating sites and porn sites. She discovered it and we reconciled. ... A: Two wrongs don't make a right, as you've both found out. In order for you to have inner peace and ... | |
| I have lost my wife's respect | 7/2/2011 |
| Q: Me and my wife have been married for two years now.When we first met,she was the sweetest thing and ... A: I can understand her being mad and upset with you for up and quitting your job and jumping head ... | |
| Brother-in-law/Child molester | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been arguing non-stop recently because I dont know how to deal with my brother ... A: I can see why your very concerned and even panicking. I don't think this would necessarily warrant ... | |
| Confused | 6/29/2011 |
| Q: First some history, we have been committed to each other for 12 yrs. The beginning of our ... A: It's in helping ppl like you, that have made every single thing I've gone through in life worth it ... | |
| should i leave | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: I am really struggling right now with my marriage. I haven't really had feelings for him for many ... A: I think this goes beyond marriage counseling to be honest, and I really doubt there'd be much a ... | |
| Confused | 6/28/2011 |
| Q: First some history, we have been committed to each other for 12 yrs. The beginning of our ... A: Just b/c you love someone doesn't mean you have to be with them. As you said something has to give ... | |
| Is he Cheating on me? | 6/23/2011 |
| Q: With a great hope I would like to ask a question to relationship expert. Please help me here. The ... A: Well, he could very well be cheating on you with her and this is why he's deleting the call logs ... | |
| Friends outside of marraige | 6/22/2011 |
| Q: I've been married for 19 years and have a 21 year old son. My husband has cheated on me on several ... A: I just wanted to do one more follow up, and thank you for the nice rating and feed back! I, too am a ... | |
| Relationship over/not over? | 6/21/2011 |
| Q: My fiance' and I have been together for 10 years, engaged for the last 2 years and we do not live ... A: I'm sorry that you're struggling with this, just know that in this situation it's totally normal for ... | |
| Should I leave my wife? | 6/19/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 17 years and have 2 children aged 12 and 10. We are both pretty ... A: Marriage is all about working things out together as a team, and in a marriage you both are supposed ... | |
| Confused | 6/19/2011 |
| Q: M a little hesitant sharing my personal life on net but I think it's very important for me to take a ... A: I'd be confused too about what his intentions are. I mean why did he marry you if he isn't going to ... | |
| Relationship over/not over? | 6/17/2011 |
| Q: My fiance' and I have been together for 10 years, engaged for the last 2 years and we do not live ... A: Maybe you need to learn how to relax a bit more, so that you're not so wound up and tense when you ... | |
| My wife as given up on us | 6/17/2011 |
| Q: My wife has filed for divorce or seperation. But just the other day she said she loves me and finds ... A: You may have to bide your time and see where this all goes, and what she actually wants to do about ... | |
| 11wks of marriage and wanting to leave already | 6/16/2011 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband for 11 weeks now but have been with him for 7 years since i was 16. ... A: You're just going to have to suck it up and stop doing things out of guilt. That's not the way to ... | |
| Unhappily married | 6/15/2011 |
| Q: I am a married woman in her early twenties and I have only been married 4 years. I married my ... A: Marriage tends to change a person for better or worse. I supposed that once married a person can ... | |
| Wanting to build a better life | 6/8/2011 |
| Q: My question or concern really is my husband's lack of interest in building a life with me. We have ... A: Maybe he needs some sort of motivation. It's understandable that he's afraid to venture out and try ... | |
| what to do now | 6/1/2011 |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me with an issue i am facing. I (D) am 27 years old and so is my wife ... A: Wow! That's a very uncomfortable thing to happen and to realize what you've actually done, isn't it. ... | |
| Advice | 5/31/2011 |
| Q: My wife is foreign, we are together in my country since 6 years now. Although there is no real ... A: Having a baby changes your life forever on so many different levels. It can either bring you closer ... | |
| we argue 24-7 | 5/29/2011 |
| Q: IM SO FED UP WITH THE ARGUING MY HUSBAND & I DO.EVERY DAY! HE BLAMES ME FOR FOR EVERYTHING! I CANT ... A: I'm glad to hear that things are going well. Just remember that it's an on going process to work on ... | |
| Porn and Cheating like behavor. | 5/24/2011 |
| Q: I am 22 and so is my husband. He is in the Navy and we have been married for about a year and a ... A: It sounds like he wants an excuse (and with your permission, thus why he asked to have a threesome ... | |
| wife going out. | 5/23/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 4 years and we have 2 children. We are both 23 and she is a ... A: As you said being a SAHM (stay at home mom) she does need time out and away from the kids, etc. ... | |
| high maintenance wife | 5/20/2011 |
| Q: Your advice would be greatly appreciated. My wife and I have been married for a year now and I am ... A: It sounds like most of the times are absolutely miserable and the good times few and far between. ... | |
| My gut feeling is very strong! | 5/16/2011 |
| Q: I discovered my husband was cheating for at least 8 months. I confronted him and he lied about the ... A: Cheating is more prevalent in this day and age than one might realize. The thing is you can't keep ... | |
| Miserable...HELP!! | 5/16/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for about two years now and recently I've begun to feel rather miserable in my ... A: You need to be honest with her, b/c one of these days it's going to come out sooner or later. It's ... | |
| Husband | 5/15/2011 |
| Q: I have been married four years but this last December I had to have a d&c because of my baby having ... A: If he truly respected you to begin with he would've never even thought about asking you to have a ... | |
| Husband | 5/14/2011 |
| Q: I have been married four years but this last December I had to have a d&c because of my baby having ... A: This is why it's never a good idea to invite a third person into a relationship. It only causes ... | |
| is something wrong with me | 5/13/2011 |
| Q: i am just wondering is something majorly wrong with me... a little info... my husband and i have ... A: Are you sure that he's completely stopped cheating on you? I mean how can you know for sure? Are ... | |
| we argue 24-7 | 5/10/2011 |
| Q: IM SO FED UP WITH THE ARGUING MY HUSBAND & I DO.EVERY DAY! HE BLAMES ME FOR FOR EVERYTHING! I CANT ... A: What is it that you're arguing about? And then you have to figure out why you argue over it, even ... | |
| thank you samantha | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: NO QUESTION JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVISE I DID SIT DOWN & WE TALKED & TALKED & CRYED.HE ... A: If it's a friendly kiss between friends (such as on the cheek), it's not cheating (if that makes any ... | |
| thank you samantha | 5/6/2011 |
| Q: NO QUESTION JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVISE I DID SIT DOWN & WE TALKED & TALKED & CRYED.HE ... A: So glad to hear that you sat down and talked together. It's not an easy subject to broach about ... | |
| in appropiate behaviour | 5/2/2011 |
| Q: I THINK MY HUSBAND USED IN APPROPRIATE CONVERSATION WITH 2 OTHER WOMAN...1ST-he chatted late nite ... A: I tend to agree with you on this. It's inappropriate to talk late night with another woman, when ... | |
| my wife me to get separate from family | 4/16/2011 |
| Q: I was married 5month before, i and she had fought (not physical fight) many times on her previous ... A: Living with family can be very tough for most anyone. It can cause fights, arguments, problems of ... | |
| how to get back together with my husband | 4/16/2011 |
| Q: 5yrs back i married a guy...... didnt know about it at that time but he has lots of emotional ... A: He can agree and tell you just about anything you want to hear (men tend to promise and tell women ... | |
| Remarriad and in a difficult situation | 4/15/2011 |
| Q: Hi… My name is Mehdi. I am a 32 year-old male, living in Iran and working as a pharmacist (I have a ... A: You're doing everything right and being as supportive to her as you can. I don't see what much more ... | |
| marriage and money | 4/12/2011 |
| Q: I have been married now for 7 years. We both married later in our lives. I've been married before, ... A: No, you're not overreacting at all. He sounds like he's a majority of the problem. I would have a ... | |
| egoistic husband | 4/11/2011 |
| Q: i have married for 6 yrs and have to wonderfull kids.my husband just lost his mom to cancer which ... A: Maybe he has issues when it comes to affection and showing his feeling and thoughts. This can ... | |
| Relationship | 4/9/2011 |
| Q: I am 64, never married, no children and have been in a relationship with a 63 year old “boyfriend” ... A: Then perhaps it's time you started thinking of yourself for once. Do something that you want to do ... | |
| Emotional Affair | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: My husband of 25 yrs has an internet relationship w/a coworker. Two years ago he promised that he ... A: You have to do what's best for you and that seems to be to move on with your life w/o him in it. ... | |
| Making love is a problem | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: Samantha, My wife and I have been married almost 6 years now, and we have worked through a lot ... A: It's normal and natural to be scared and concerned about becoming a parent. Some ppl are meant to ... | |
| how to get back together with my husband | 4/4/2011 |
| Q: 5yrs back i married a guy...... didnt know about it at that time but he has lots of emotional ... A: Going back to him and/or moving into a place of your own anywhere near his aunt or family will only ... | |
| Marriage Issues | 4/3/2011 |
| Q: How can I best learn how to react to my husband's anger? Let me give you a little background. My ... A: That's just it--you can't change it, you can't change him either. He has to be willing to accept ... | |
| what do i do | 4/1/2011 |
| Q: My wife has had an affair.She owns the house.Been married 8 years.Do i have to leave the house,No ... A: As long as your legally married, you do not have to leave the home, unless and until she gets a ... | |
| behavioural | 3/29/2011 |
| Q: my husband smokes a lot.. i tried to stop his habit, even confront, fights but all in no vain.. this ... A: Smoking is a very hard and awful habit to kick. Is he wanting to eventually quit and stop smoking? ... | |
| Nonexistent sex life | 3/28/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years but we've been together for 13. He's 40, I'm ... A: It's not just a break down in the intimate dept and time that you spend together, it's a lack of ... | |
| deployed angry husband | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: My husband has been deployed for about 2 months, this is our first deployment together. We've been ... A: He's not your father or your warden, so who in the heck does he think you are passing out and ... | |
| Our Marriage | 3/26/2011 |
| Q: .I need help. I'm 28 years old and my wife is 27 years old. My wife and I been married since last ... A: Yes, I'm married and have a wonderful husband. I have one child with him, and 3 children with my ... | |
| Our Marriage | 3/25/2011 |
| Q: .I need help. I'm 28 years old and my wife is 27 years old. My wife and I been married since last ... A: There's absolutely nothing wrong with putting off having a child(ren) until your marriage is more ... | |
| Rebuilding trust with my husband | 3/24/2011 |
| Q: My husband has lied to me for the second time about watching porn. Before we got married porn was ... A: He might have an addiction to porn. An addiction to porn is just like any other addiction, it's ... | |
| Shell shocked | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: Samantha, I have been married for 10 years with a few ups and downs as is expected in any marriage. ... A: You have every right to be hurt, upset and shocked, etc. I know if I were in your situation I'd be ... | |
| My husband is not bothered that I left | 3/22/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. He has never been a man who shows a lot of ... A: If I were in your situation I'd have a real problem with my husband not being at all concerned that ... | |
| Confused. | 3/21/2011 |
| Q: We've been married for 5 years now. We have 2 kids and I have 1 step daughter. Recently he partnered ... A: He shouldn't be taking his anger and frustrations out on you or around the children at all. While I ... | |
| wanting our money back : Hisband Vs Wife | 3/19/2011 |
| Q: i know my problem isnt very serious but i would like to tell you about it. my husband is caring and ... A: Okay, well, that makes a bit more sense to me then. You might just have to be out the money, but ... | |
| wanting our money back : Hisband Vs Wife | 3/18/2011 |
| Q: i know my problem isnt very serious but i would like to tell you about it. my husband is caring and ... A: Let me get this straight, and see if I understood you correctly here. This "friend" sells your ... | |
| Husband without Emotions | 3/14/2011 |
| Q: My name is Madi and i had been dating this man for about 4 years before we got married. He is a ... A: That's horrible that you have to go through this type of abuse from him, and, yes, he's a bully and ... | |
| Getting Married soon | 3/12/2011 |
| Q: I am a 29 years male and getting married soon. I like my fiancee and I am happy that I have someone ... A: I think that's totally normal for you to feel this way. With your first true love, it's like no ... | |
| Lack of affection | 3/11/2011 |
| Q: I live with a 64 year old man, I'm 59, for six months. We didnt know each other too well before but ... A: Have you asked him why he's suddenly stopped kissing you? I know this is likely going to be a very ... | |
| Update (marriage problems) | 3/10/2011 |
| Q: I wish to give you an update and seek further advice. Well, hubby has been in and out of the house ... A: If this is what you feel you need to do, by doing a separation and ultimately a divorce, then by all ... | |
| Trust | 3/9/2011 |
| Q: I am a young man of 30 yrs and married. Before I got married I had a female friend who is my male ... A: It's time that you sit down with your wife and have a serious heart to heart talk with her about ... | |
| Wife-Mother in Law/Sister in Law issues | 3/8/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 2.5 years, my wife is from CT and we now live in IL where my whole family ... A: She might be battling a form of depression and she doesn't really realize it at the moment. All the ... | |
| homeless,pregnant and cheated on by spouse | 2/28/2011 |
| Q: I got evicted from my apartment last year and me and my family ended up in a homeless shelter which ... A: It's someone for him to talk to, and sometimes that's what a person needs is someone to listen to ... | |
| homeless,pregnant and cheated on by spouse | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: I got evicted from my apartment last year and me and my family ended up in a homeless shelter which ... A: You have a lot on your plate right now. And his cheating and texting, etc with this other woman is ... | |
| Marriage problems | 2/23/2011 |
| Q: I could use your advice once again. First an update. Hubby came back to the house after 1 week of ... A: If you feel that it would be for the best for him to move back out again, then you need to bring ... | |
| my husband leaves me alone and go out | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: i have been married for one and half year. ours is love marriage. after marriage i moved to USA from ... A: He's definitely got his priorities all wrong here by putting his friends before you, his wife. ... | |
| Husband is leaving | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 3 we don't have any kids. We got ... A: But you do have choices to make for you and your future. And you shouldn't put up with him doing ... | |
| Husband is leaving | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 11 years and married for 3 we don't have any kids. We got ... A: Let me get this straight. He cheated on you for three long years with another woman, you still ... | |
| dual personalityof husband | 2/14/2011 |
| Q: I am working(a secure well earning job) in diffrent city with my 4 year daughter and guardian of my ... A: So he's a player and a cheater, that's not a very good combination at all to have in a husband. You ... | |
| Can I really be this stupid? | 2/13/2011 |
| Q: I have a situation that can be confusing so I will try to explain it clearly. I had my first son was ... A: You were already young when you met and got together with him. He's using you as a maid, ... | |
| So confused and torn! | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 8years and we have been married for 4years. I love him but I noticed ... A: You're right loving someone and being IN love with someone is two totally different things. This ... | |
| am i a bad wife | 2/10/2011 |
| Q: i got married to my husband at 24 years old, then just a short time after he was deported it has ... A: You're not necessarily a bad wife/person, but you're making some bad/poor decisions by having a ... | |
| Desperately in need of opinion | 2/8/2011 |
| Q: My ex wife and I were married for 16 years and have been divorced for 10 years. When we met,she had ... A: If you don't feel comfortable being in touch or having a relationship with your former step-children ... | |
| Just looking for some advise... | 2/5/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for over 8 years and been married for over 2 and have a wonderful ... A: Well, her getting rid of the other guy so quick and w/o any hesitation, shows that she's got a good ... | |
| Just looking for some advise... | 2/4/2011 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for over 8 years and been married for over 2 and have a wonderful ... A: There is a 50-50 chance that things will turn out either way. You can prepare for the worst and ... | |
| need advice | 2/1/2011 |
| Q: ANSWER: Hi Monte~ Maybe what weirds her out about the necklace is that it was worn by your dad on a ... A: Sometimes it just takes listening to others opinions to realize something. I try to see things from ... | |
| need advice | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: Hi-- my wife and I have been married for 25 years- we have 2 wonderful kids--- just trecently my dad ... A: Maybe what weirds her out about the necklace is that it was worn by your dad on a daily basis and ... | |
| So Called Secrets | 1/29/2011 |
| Q: My daughter (from my 1st marriage) wrote me a note when she left after Christmas. It was in my ... A: No, it's not really anything bad, but I can see how she might get upset with this. Try to see this ... | |
| Marriage problems | 1/29/2011 |
| Q: I could really use some advice on this.Im sorry it will be a bit long. I have been married for 13 ... A: You're right to be most concerned about the boys and how this will all affect them, children are the ... | |
| do i stay or go? | 1/28/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 9 yrs and I have aloud him to hold all the control he tell s me ... A: NO, NO, NO Do not ever stay for the sake of the children. It never works out in the end. It can ... | |
| I love my husband but am tired of the relation | 1/27/2011 |
| Q: We got married 3 1/2 years back.We both love each other a lot.I am very expressive and tell my ... A: You seem to be doing everything right and that you can to get your feelings across to him. He's ... | |
| enough | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: I am married for 18 yrs. For the last 4 , I feel completely used. My husband took on a new job, he ... A: To a certain extent, I can understand he has a commitment to his job, for education, travel, etc. ... | |
| Marriage | 1/20/2011 |
| Q: I am a 27 year old female living in ontario, married as of 2008 with two little girls at the ages of ... A: You can't make him do something he refuses to do including moving. He has to want to do this for ... | |
| Do I still love my husband?? | 1/19/2011 |
| Q: I could really use some marriage advice. I have been married for 17 years. I started dating my ... A: I thought this might be the case, but you'd be surprised, but once or twice (in the last 10 yrs I've ... | |
| Do I still love my husband?? | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: I could really use some marriage advice. I have been married for 17 years. I started dating my ... A: You asked for my advice and you give me all 1's out of a possible 10, that's an insult to me. Hi ... | |
| Disconnected from My Husband | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: I am a military wife who has been married for just over 10 years. We have two daughter: 5 & 10 and ... A: Depression can be an ugly thing to deal with not just for the person struggling with it, but also ... | |
| Married and spouse has gay friends. | 1/18/2011 |
| Q: I have been a happily married man for 7 months now and love my wife with all of my heart. I first ... A: You might be overreacting just a tad. I don't think you have any reason to believe that she'd ever ... | |
| help, marriage without sex | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: I married over three years ago, first it was long distance marriage because my husband was in ... A: Maybe he doesn't feel that connection to you, or he's not attracted to you anymore (if this was ever ... | |
| Broken Trust | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: I have been married to a wonderful woman for 10 years. For the first several years I thought we ... A: What you've done in the past may have damaged the marriage beyond repair. I'm not saying it can't ... | |
| Moving on after nasty words | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: How do you get over a hurtful comment your husband gave 3 years ago? How do you forgive, forget and ... A: People in the heat of the moment tend to say things that they don't mean. It seems like this was ... | |
| our relationship.. | 1/17/2011 |
| Q: Help! I think we're at the road block of our relationship. My husband is such a sweetie, but he ... A: You and I are very similar in our situations, I could've written that almost word for word. I've ... | |
| obsessive behavior with my wife | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I realize that the issue I have is getting worse as time goes on. I do know that my wife is not ... A: Why are you doing this in the first place? Has she ever given you a reason to distrust her? If ... | |
| Cheating | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: I cheated on my girlfrind through a text message with another girl, the thing i told this other girl ... A: You have to first and foremost learn to forgive yourself and move forward with your life. You got ... | |
| can my marriage be saved/reconciled? | 1/16/2011 |
| Q: My precious loving wife of 23 yrs left me this morning. Its my fault-I acknowlegde everything she ... A: That seemed to be a small positive response from your wife, maybe she'll listen to your SIL and will ... | |
| Married or roomates | 1/15/2011 |
| Q: I been married to my husband for 20 years. We both make the same amount of money and we had one ... A: Why is it okay that he does you this way? Maybe he's just not attracted to you anymore (I can only ... | |
| can my marriage be saved/reconciled? | 1/14/2011 |
| Q: My precious loving wife of 23 yrs left me this morning. Its my fault-I acknowlegde everything she ... A: You mentioned she's a Christian woman, being that she, of all people should know that forgiveness is ... | |
| wifes ex husband | 1/14/2011 |
| Q: i recently married a woman who has custody of her 2 children. ages 10 and 4. i also have custody of ... A: You have to both stand together and be united or this bullying by him will continue and that's a ... | |
| Is it me? | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: My husband of 19 years has a much higher libido than I do; however, he gets his feelings easily hurt ... A: Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for our family, including our husbands. And that means even ... | |
| Husband doesn't know if there is love left | 1/11/2011 |
| Q: My name is Jennifer and I am a 29 yr old mother of a 2 1/2 year old. I have been with my husband ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions with my answers below for both our convenience. **So ... | |
| Stress | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: I've been married for 6 years now, but only recently became a father. The baby (6 months now) proved ... A: I'm sorry your going through all of this and you feel so very alone. Your spouse is supposed to be ... | |
| Rude mother-in-law | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: I have been blissfully married for seven years and have 2 small children. My only problem is my ... A: He is right about one thing to ignore her and how she's doing all of this to get back at you. He's ... | |
| Married or roomates | 1/10/2011 |
| Q: I been married to my husband for 20 years. We both make the same amount of money and we had one ... A: It does sound like you're just merely married roommates or the equivalent there of. And I know ... | |
| I feel my husband has lost interest | 1/9/2011 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been together for three years, and already the passion, and fire he had ... A: He might have fallen out of love with you in the last 3 yrs since you've been married. It happens. ... | |
| Husband doesn't know if there is love left | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: My name is Jennifer and I am a 29 yr old mother of a 2 1/2 year old. I have been with my husband ... A: Something just doesn't seem right about his behavior, with him leaving for a couple of days and then ... | |
| need advice | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: my husband and i have been separated for 15 months neither of us has obtained attorneys due to money ... A: It's not a good idea to keep being intimate with him if you've decided to separate and divorce. It ... | |
| not feeling it | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: I got married to my husband shortly after he joined the army, we have been married for 2 years and ... A: Then what is your plan of action and what do you want to do about all of this? Obviously you're ... | |
| Post Partum | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: Just a follow up. Thank you for your reply, at least there is some hope on blaming her hormones for ... A: I'm sure this is taking a huge toll on you too, as becoming a parent can too, but dealing with ... | |
| possibly obsessive husband | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: My question is how do you know if he is obsessed? We have 4 children and 4 grandchildren. Three ... A: I don't know if it's just obsession for him by all that you've described, he's seemingly a control ... | |
| Post partum | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: Tell me please what happens in a womans mind when they have a baby. I have a 6 months baby, I help ... A: All women are different, but mostly a woman can be hormonal especially while pregnant, but also up ... | |
| 30 Year Marriage | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for just over 30 years, I have 2 daughters that are in college work on their ... A: Since you mentioned in your last correspondence that your wife worked, I don't think it's out of the ... | |
| monster in law | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: my husband and i got married due to unplanned pregnancy. my husbands parents have been unsupportive ... A: You know that this isn't about all the alleged things you did to her family, right? It's about her ... | |
| 30 Year Marriage | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for just over 30 years, I have 2 daughters that are in college work on their ... A: When they are out of college they need to learn to stand on their own two feet and learn to support ... | |
| marriage | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: I have 3 children with my husband. We havent been able to connect for years. I had an affair. ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| husband-wife | 12/31/2010 |
| Q: I have married just before 6 month.We didnt make plan 4 baby yet.now my problem is.now i'm going to ... A: Having sex every night or even every day is not that common for married couples. Maybe in the ... | |
| Lies | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: This is my 2nd wife. I have 3 children from the 1st wife who live with me, ages 11;16;17. She has a ... A: She's right about not judging others, but you sure can judge the actions she's doing. How does she ... | |
| seperation | 12/30/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years going on 20, my husband is a alcoholic, for years i have tried to ... A: Perhaps your boys are in denial and they feel they are protecting their father b/c you say you're ... | |
| I want to save my marriage but my husband doesn't seem to care. | 12/29/2010 |
| Q: I married my husband when I was 23. I lived in Singapore but for him, I moved to California, USA. ... A: It's time that you move on and stop taking the blame for what he's done and is doing to you. He's ... | |
| My husband never wants to be here | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: I am 21 and a mother of 2 children my oldest is 2 and my youngest is 6 months. My husband and I have ... A: There is nothing about his behavior that is okay at all. He's a controlling abuser. He's being ... | |
| Hurtful words | 12/22/2010 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married for almost 10 years. we have a wonderful marriage, but this past ... A: Stress can be an ugly thing, and as you know it can make a person do things that are totally out of ... | |
| huband is not understandig | 12/22/2010 |
| Q: in my life my father-in-law and sisters-in-law are my problem. my husband goes by the wins and ... A: You have to do what's right for you and your son, if that means you ultimately have to pack up your ... | |
| huband is not understandig | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: in my life my father-in-law and sisters-in-law are my problem. my husband goes by the wins and ... A: Abuse is not okay in any form, including and especially being beaten on by anyone. Why does he not ... | |
| Loyalty | 12/21/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a very short relationship id say 2 yrs with my boyfriend we had a son together and ... A: You're absolutely right his loyalty should lie with you and the children. However, he does have a ... | |
| long term relationship | 12/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been in a long term (15yrs) relationship since my teens. I love my partner very much but on ... A: You can love someone but not truly be IN love with them. There's a huge difference between loving ... | |
| embarrassing problem | 12/17/2010 |
| Q: I think I may have asked you a question before, but here's a new one. It's really humiliating, but ... A: Maybe he's lost the will power to really care what happens and how this looks on him physically. ... | |
| Wife doesn't trust me based on my step children and me. | 12/17/2010 |
| Q: I was married once for thirteen years and had two wonderful children. After my divorce, I met and ... A: Maybe she should take a cue from you and find Christ so that she may learn the gift of forgiveness ... | |
| at wits end | 12/15/2010 |
| Q: Well here goes. I'am at wits end! My 41 yr old wife of 12 years doesn't care one iota about me! She ... A: I can see why you're having such a dilemma here with her. I really don't know what other advice to ... | |
| at wits end | 12/12/2010 |
| Q: Well here goes. I'am at wits end! My 41 yr old wife of 12 years doesn't care one iota about me! She ... A: You know this has nothing to do with the way you look or anything of that nature. It's about her ... | |
| Wife said she has never loved me. | 12/6/2010 |
| Q: To give you some background info my wife (Common law) because she refused to marry me. We've have ... A: She's toxic to you and your son. As for it being a common law marriage, you're not legally married ... | |
| foreplay/sex? in hotel with kids | 12/4/2010 |
| Q: We were recently on a vacation and stayed in a hotel with 2 of our children ages 20 and 11. My ... A: I have to say I agree with you on this subject. It's not only pretty inappropriate for a couple to ... | |
| Marriage with a 2 1/2 year old | 11/20/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my wife since we were 15. We got married 2 years ago. The length of our ... A: No one has a perfect marriage. There is the outward appearance that ppl put on for others, and then ... | |
| hopelessly | 11/18/2010 |
| Q: I'm writing to you because I feel desperate. My husband and I are having a lot of problems, but ... A: Talking about ideals of marriage/parenthood, etc are one thing and actually doing it and being ... | |
| Help | 11/18/2010 |
| Q: What am I supposed to do? My husband and I got married about 6 months ago, we have been together for ... A: You have to lay it all out for him and tell him what you want, need, desire, deserve and expect in ... | |
| hopelessly "forgetful" | 11/17/2010 |
| Q: I'm writing to you because I feel desperate. My husband and I are having a lot of problems, but ... A: Yeah, his "forgetting" is, if you noticed, convenient for him. He's playing you for a complete and ... | |
| Loneliness in marriage | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: I am so unhappy in my marriage of 7 years, although I still love my husband. I just don’t get the ... A: I'm guessing that this is your first child together, since you didn't mention having any other ... | |
| unhappy marriage | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: well, to begin with i feel like my husband doesn't love me anymore due to the fact that we never do ... A: You could try to set aside a time to talk to him and ask him why he's doing this. And you'd like to ... | |
| Trust, ex, kids | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost two years. We've both been married before and have ... A: He's allowing this thus this is why she treats him in this manner. By him giving into her and ... | |
| Communication Problems | 11/14/2010 |
| Q: I'm not married but I'm engaged to be married next year. Six weeks ago, my fiance and I had our ... A: You need to get this through to him about how you're feeling. Otherwise, it's only going to end up ... | |
| mid life crisis | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: I don't know how to deal with this, and I don't want it to turn into a disaster. I love my wife, ... A: Even if you still have all the 3 A's with your wife, that doesn't mean you won't seek it out ... | |
| verbal abusive husband | 11/1/2010 |
| Q: I dont even know where to begin. I guess my main concern is where do I start on getting help. My ... A: You've got to stop saying you're going to leave him or that you need to leave him and do something ... | |
| mid life crisis | 10/31/2010 |
| Q: I don't know how to deal with this, and I don't want it to turn into a disaster. I love my wife, ... A: But it could potentially and almost DID turn into a disaster b/c of what you did and the situation ... | |
| Marital Problems | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: My husband came home one day and told me he was no longer in love with me. So I asked him to leave ... A: That's just it you can't make him do something he refuses to do. That includes working on the ... | |
| controling husband | 10/27/2010 |
| Q: What would you do if this was you? If your husband stopped supporting you, well he pays the elect ... A: He's abusive to you. A man that wants/has to control everything about a person is an abuser, ... | |
| Rights | 10/25/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I haven't even been married a year although we have been seeing each other for 12 ... A: I don't think I would just uproot myself and move another state away to be with him if he moved ... | |
| Insecurity causing breaking point | 10/17/2010 |
| Q: I've been married for 6 1/2 years but together for almost 10. I've always been a bit of a tomboy and ... A: As the saying goes old habits die hard. And if he's not changed in over the 10 yrs you've been with ... | |
| help want to date a divorced man | 10/17/2010 |
| Q: Here I go well I am a 25 yrs old woman I married young and got divorced, now I have a 3 year old boy ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know how ... | |
| Trust | 10/11/2010 |
| Q: Well First thing is first I have a problem with trust I always feel that I have to go through his ... A: You are going to be the undoing to this marriage. He'll eventually get sick and tired of the 5th ... | |
| Trust | 10/10/2010 |
| Q: Well First thing is first I have a problem with trust I always feel that I have to go through his ... A: Has he given you any reason for you to distrust him and think that he would have ulterior motives ... | |
| Lunch with a friend | 10/7/2010 |
| Q: I am 40 yrs old and have been married for 14 years. I have recently gotten in touch with a male ... A: Maybe he'd feel more comfortable if he had lunch with you and your parents together and that's why ... | |
| Is it me? | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: My husband, 26, and I have been together for 7 years. For the first 2, things were great. We had ... A: It sure seems like something very well could be up with him. And you might be right on the hunch ... | |
| Is our Marriage over? | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 13 years and with my husband for 20 years. We're both 39 years old. When we ... A: It seems as though, yes, divorce is the proper thing to do in your case. You'd already said you love ... | |
| Need a reality check | 10/5/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old woman thinking of getting a divorce after 4 years of marriage and its just too ... A: It seems like perhaps you are in denial and you keep hoping and waiting for him to change but to no ... | |
| I feel emotionally cheated... | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: Samantha… I was wondering if you wouldn’t mind helping me out. I’m going out with this wonderful ... A: You're entitled to your feelings and they've been hurt by her. I'm sure it's not intentionally by ... | |
| my relation with my husband | 9/29/2010 |
| Q: i cannt understand how to treat my husband. he doesnt give me any value or has any love towards me. ... A: He's treating you very unfairly. He can't expect you to do everything for him/his parents and yet ... | |
| Out of Love | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I have an amazing husband, he is loving , caring , reliable , supportive - all the things that it ... A: You've felt this way for quite some time and even from the very beginning of your ... | |
| Husband's past relationship and he is not coming out | 9/28/2010 |
| Q: I am 25 years old and married 3 months back on 30th May 2010. Before marriage we are engaged for 6 ... A: That's just the problem he was not ready for marriage to begin with. He was involved with and likely ... | |
| Can my marriage be saved | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: I've been separated from my wife for 7 months now. She 31 and I am 37. We have a little girl and own ... A: It's never, ever okay to lay your hands on a person, especially a woman in the manner that you've ... | |
| MARRIAGE PROBLEMS | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: Samantha, I have been with my wife for 15yrs. We have been married for 8. I try to talk to her about ... A: The thing is you might not be able to do anything. You've tried and tried to talk to her ... | |
| Marriage financial issues | 9/21/2010 |
| Q: I am a relatively successful business owner and the family's breadwinner. My wife never worked ... A: I don't think that you're being unfair to her at all. You've clearly set up rules and guidelines ... | |
| Husband is insecure | 9/20/2010 |
| Q: My husband is very insecure in our relationship. He needs constant interaction on a very intimate ... A: He's, as you said, very insecure about himself and even about your relationship. So he's has to ... | |
| husband never home | 9/20/2010 |
| Q: MY husband and I have 3 children under the ae of 5. He chooses to leave and hang out with fis ... A: He's being disrespectful to you by staying out 4 out of 7 nights per week. He's also saying one ... | |
| marriage and love | 9/17/2010 |
| Q: my wife of 6 years recently told me she has always been in love with her first love, she doesn't ... A: Are you ready to come to terms with that a divorce might happen anyway? She's told you she's not in ... | |
| So confused | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 6 years (my second marriage his first) and in the beginning ... A: You are in an abusive relationship when he tries to control everything that you do, right down to ... | |
| My husband lost mental connection | 9/14/2010 |
| Q: I met my husband 4 years ago and we decided to get married june 2009. We were very happy but had ... A: Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. It makes you lose every ounce of trust and even ... | |
| Am I a bad wife? | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for six years and married for two. We have been fighting a lot ... A: NO! You're NOT a bad wife, he's a BAD HUSBAND! And shame on him for putting you down, calling you ... | |
| Husband is a bully | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: I 40 y.o. woman who has been married for the past seven years to man who is now 47. He was charming ... A: Most likely he would get unsupervised visits unless you prove otherwise that he needs to be ... | |
| guidance on my marriage | 9/9/2010 |
| Q: I am a alfa male.I have a strong personality.But I wish to start a wife led marriage.I am getting ... A: The FLR (female led relationships) isn't for everyone. And since you have a very domineering ... | |
| Husband is a bully | 9/8/2010 |
| Q: I 40 y.o. woman who has been married for the past seven years to man who is now 47. He was charming ... A: But you are promoting the very behavior that you find abhorrent in him, maybe unknowingly so, but ... | |
| marriage/separated heading for divorce | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: Wow I enjoyed your bio. Not because it was a good one but because you seem better able to relate. ... A: God gives two acceptable reasons for divorce and that's adultery and abuse. He's clearly doing ... | |
| Divorce or continue? | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I am a man, 53 years old and married since 22 years, with 2 kids aged 12 and 17. On the surface we ... A: It seems as though your wife is terribly set in her ways. And that's often the case when you've ... | |
| obsessed with wife | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: Well here it goes. i have been married for 20 years it has come to my attention that Im obsessed ... A: You just have to learn to work through this and on this problem. In time hopefully you'll be able ... | |
| obsessed with wife | 8/27/2010 |
| Q: Well here it goes. i have been married for 20 years it has come to my attention that Im obsessed ... A: You may not be able to stop this obsessive behavior on your own, and it's nothing to be ashamed or ... | |
| Want Divorce but wife is determined to make it a messy affair. | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: My wife has been cheating on me with a married guy. She kept promising that she would terminate the ... A: You can't let her hold you an emotional hostage with her threatening to kill herself or to leave a ... | |
| I'm at my breaking point | 8/24/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my current spouse 4 years and we dated 4 years before. I have children living ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here for both our convenience, with my answers/response ... | |
| Communication and Infedility | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my spouse (not married) for the last 14 years. We have an 11 year old son together. ... A: Adultery is one of the biggest betrayals in a marriage/relationship. It makes you lose every ounce ... | |
| Marriage unhappiness | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: I am married 3 years 8 months. My husband is a software engineer in USA and I was a teacher in ... A: He's being rude and disrespectful to you. And you might not be able to change the way he feels ... | |
| Wifes EX husband invited himself to my step sons birthday... | 8/19/2010 |
| Q: .. My wife and I are recently married. She has a son who I've been getting closer with now ... A: If your wife is semi-okay with this, then I'd let it be. You don't want to cause any issues on ... | |
| Contemplating Seperation | 8/18/2010 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 6 1/2 years and we have two children together. I lost my virginity ... A: You're right you are too good for him and you don't deserve to be treated in such an inconsiderate ... | |
| second marriage with child from first marriage don't get along | 8/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for over 14 years. This is my 2nd marriage. At first my second husband ... A: Your son is old enough to be out on his own and to support himself, especially since he likes to ... | |
| Contemplating serperation / Possible Divorce. | 8/18/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I are 30 years old. We have been married nine years and together 11. We have three ... A: He's in denial that the marriage is in trouble and it's ultimately going to end up failing if he ... | |
| Big Mistake!!! | 8/16/2010 |
| Q: 3 months ago my wife and I separated and I filed for divorce right away. We had been separated ... A: It seems as though she's being pretty forward with you and speaking what's on her mind. This ... | |
| daughter in law no common sense | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: My daughter in law has no common sense. Shefights constantly with my son. She smokes pot and lets ... A: I say he'd better wise up or something bad is going to happen. Smoking pot is illegal and if CPS ... | |
| husband in new band | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: Samantha; I've been married to my husband for 5 years, and things have been rocky to say the least. ... A: I'm with you on this. Too many ppl in this day and age are too liberal and don't have any morals. ... | |
| Marriage | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years, going on 11 in March and we have 4 kids. 2,9 %26 11. Marriage ... A: It seems you've fallen into the all common lull of married life. What keeps the spark alive in a ... | |
| Adult step children insist living at home | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: I am married to an older Hispanic man whose adult kids have been in prison. The middle son has a ... A: You're going to have to give him tough love. If he insists on letting the son live there at home ... | |
| Husband's freedom in a failing marriage | 8/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband enjoys being out in hot weather hanging with friends that are mostly single and are ... A: I'm with you on this one. And you're absolutely right when you say that it's no good for grown men ... | |
| Disconnected and frustrated | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for the past 14 yrs and well, I always feel there has been a problem in our ... A: If you're not happy and you honestly do not love this man, then why are you with him, besides out of ... | |
| My husband lies and cheats, now what? | 8/5/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 4 years, married for 1. We have 1 son together and I have a son from ... A: I was once in the same position that you're currently in now. Only with some differences. I was ... | |
| My husband lies and cheats, now what? | 8/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 4 years, married for 1. We have 1 son together and I have a son from ... A: It's never ever okay for a man to cheat on his wife (and vice versa), cheating is the ultimate ... | |
| personal growth | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We have had our ups and downs like many couples, ... A: He's probably set in his ways and as you know that's not always a very good thing. Some ways are ... | |
| My wife wants a new wedding ring | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: My wife would like to upgrade to a new wedding. Simply put, when my wife and I were married 7 years ... A: No, you're not being over sensitive at all. You worked long and hard for the original wedding ring ... | |
| Should I Leave or Should I Stay | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: Let me start off by giving you a bit of background. I was married for 6 years and divorced. My ... A: If you're not happy in the marriage then you need to do something about it. You're being unfair to ... | |
| Affection | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm a married man, 43, and I'm together with my wife, 38, since 2005. We were both divorced then. ... A: I'm sure that this is very frustrating for you, and I think that anyone in your situation would be ... | |
| in-laws who's first | 7/27/2010 |
| Q: I have in-laws that hate me but always want to c my husband and kids - if it was up 2 them it would ... A: Your husband allows this and this in turn enables them to keep acting and behaving the way they are ... | |
| Alcoholic Spouse | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: I recently read your answer to another readers question regarding an alcoholic husband and in it you ... A: It is in Matthew that Jesus gives his reasons that are acceptable for divorce. The main one is you ... | |
| Am I wrong | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: I am married 28 yrs. For the past 15 the physical has been hit and miss. 6-12 times per YEAR. The ... A: No, you're not wrong to want to have a little bit of fantasy. I think that most people would do the ... | |
| flirting husband | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years and we have been together for a total of 13 years. We ... A: In no way are you being up tight or even unreasonable. He's the one that's being rude and totally ... | |
| in-laws | 7/26/2010 |
| Q: It's gonna be 2 yrs to our marriage. It was a love cum arrange marriage.We had a 10 yrs long ... A: Whatever decision you ultimately make in the end isn't going to be an easy one. You have to do ... | |
| in-laws | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: It's gonna be 2 yrs to our marriage. It was a love cum arrange marriage.We had a 10 yrs long ... A: I totally understand where you're coming from. He's being as supportive to you as he can w/o ... | |
| Divorce and an affair | 7/24/2010 |
| Q: Ok.So here goes. I have been with my husband for 15 years, since I was 15, and married for almost 8. ... A: Him asking for a divorce, only to agree to remarry you later doesn't make any sense whatsoever. The ... | |
| hello | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: my blood group is O negative and my partners is O positive..is there any problem while having a baby ... A: No, there shouldn't be any problems or issues with having close to the same blood type. You should ... | |
| Recently | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: A few weeks ago I sent a lengthy message but didn't ask any questions. Since that time, my husband ... A: I get tons of question each and every week, and for me to sort back through all those questions to ... | |
| Torn between the happiness and un-happiness line | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I guess I am at a point where I need to share my thoughts and get some advice. I am 45 and my wife ... A: Of course you're not a moron. Some people just aren't marriage material and they want to live and ... | |
| I need help. | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: I recently married {06/12/10) I love my husband with all my heart and I cannot imagine my life ... A: Swinging is a very bad idea anyway. I don't condone swinging, sharing partners, etc, etc. So don't ... | |
| Trusting My Husband | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two years in October 2010. We've had a rough time thru out ... A: It's unacceptable and very inappropriate for any married man to be talking to a woman on the phone ... | |
| HELP | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: My name is Brittany I am 21 years old and been married for only 6 months and I'm so tired of reading ... A: Actually it's on the contrary from all the things you've heard even via the internet about the first ... | |
| scared of marriage | 7/6/2010 |
| Q: Samantha, I need some help. I have been dating a man that I love dearly. He is not perfect, and ... A: You need to be very forward with him and tell him what you need, want, desire, deserve and expect in ... | |
| divorce | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: I want to divorce my husband. He is not good for my health. Cancer survivor for 6 months. ... A: The Bible says that there are two reasons for divorce, which are abuse and adultery, clearly he's ... | |
| How alcohol destroyed my marriage | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: I met my husband when I was 18 years old and he 34 ( I know big age difference). He was an alcoholic ... A: My father was an alcoholic for almost his entire life, it ran in his whole family. His grandparents ... | |
| There is no affection from my wife. | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to an amazing woman for a year now. Prior to this we dated for 2 years. We have ... A: Maybe she's just set in her ways. It could be that she grew up in an environment and raised this ... | |
| matrimonial relationships | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: mam, is it ok to kiss my wife ?? is there anything to shy in it??? mam as i m her husband, do i ... A: Yes, it's okay to kiss your wife. And you needn't be shy about it either. That's what spouses do ... | |
| husband's hygene | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I fell in love with a slim, attractive, well-kept musician. He was sexy and fun and athletic. He ... A: You have to say something to him. I'm sure he knows that this is a huge turn off to you, if he ... | |
| BEING USED....AGAIN | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I know this probably seems like a minor problem, but I feel like yet again I've been used. My ... A: I can see how this is getting really old for you and your husband. However, you have to stop being ... | |
| inter racial marriage | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Not sure if im in correct category but I am going to ask anyway. Im a white guy and want to marry ... A: I don't know much about Manhattan, NY but from all that I've seen and heard on tv, etc it seems like ... | |
| regarding my wifes family | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: my name is Joshua crosby. i am wondering is it right for me to see my wifes family just expect her ... A: You both have very good and valid points here. Your wife's point on it's not your place to tell her ... | |
| Lost | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Hey Sam. I have been a single mom for a few months now. His father and I,like many relationships, ... A: It took me about a year from the time we were separated to the time of the divorce being finalized ... | |
| inter racial marriage | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Not sure if im in correct category but I am going to ask anyway. Im a white guy and want to marry ... A: Take it all in stride if this were to happen while you're out with her. And you're onto something ... | |
| First he wouldn't stop staring at me, now he avoids me | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: Samantha I want to thank you in advance for taking time to read this. I'm a 25 year-old single ... A: Perhaps he and his wife were having some marital problems/issues at the time and he was lonely and ... | |
| Feeling a little lost | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for 5 years now, and we've had our ups and downs. We've been to ... A: I can understand that she's wanting you to be a little more involved with her and the children. And ... | |
| Husband unsure of marriage after his affair | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband has gone back and forth on whether or not he wants our marriage to work after he had an ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Messed up | 5/31/2010 |
| Q: I just found this website and read that u have been a single mom so wanted to ask u for advice. I'm ... A: You're always going to have some sort of feelings for him b/c he's the father of your child. Tread ... | |
| blood group compatibility | 5/24/2010 |
| Q: if the husband has 0 negitive n the wife having 0 positive will they ve healthy offspring.. any ... A: There shouldn't be any issues just b/c of blood types. If your afraid that there could possibly be ... | |
| Feels like I am stuck forever... | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for over 5 years. It started otu pretty good like most marriages do, ... A: You first have to learn how to stand up to her and tell her NO MORE. Sure, you're used to being ... | |
| Wife left me. | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 and wife is 27. I was the first person she has been with we have been married for 8 years ... A: You should do whatever your gut instincts tell you to do. There's really no right or wrong here ... | |
| Separation/Divorce | 5/19/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if I really have a question, I just really need to tell somebody, anybody. I don't ... A: Sorry it's taken me a bit to get back with you. You have to stop comparing yourself to this other ... | |
| Pondering leaving | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I don't want to seem like i am pointing a finger at my wife. Lord knows, I am not perfect. That ... A: A person can't help how they feel. Yes, it's unfortunate that you and your wife have become ... | |
| marrigage problems/divorce? | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old mother of 2 beautiful children ages 5 and 7. I have been with my husband a total ... A: You're already living like a single mother by doing all that you do day in and day out by working, ... | |
| Wife left me. | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 and wife is 27. I was the first person she has been with we have been married for 8 years ... A: You're doing the right thing here. There is only so long she can expect you to wait around though. ... | |
| Husband has barely had sex with me since we married.... | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I am a 44 year old woman, been married to my husband since 1989. We first met in 1984 as friends ... A: Have you asked him why he's simply not interested in sex with you? Is it you, is he not attracted ... | |
| Wife left me. | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: I am 31 and wife is 27. I was the first person she has been with we have been married for 8 years ... A: I'd say the biggest problem here lies with her and this sensitivity issue that she has when having ... | |
| Should I leave? | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I have some really tough decisions to make I know... I also know that it ultimately comes down to me ... A: The whole I love you but I'm not IN love with you is almost certainly the kiss of death in a ... | |
| marrigage problems/divorce? | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old mother of 2 beautiful children ages 5 and 7. I have been with my husband a total ... A: You need to set aside some time and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Broken-hearted at his sex snub | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: MY husband has been giving me the cold shoulder for the last six months. I really have no idea ... A: You're right when you say your concerned and don't know what's going on with him. And it sure makes ... | |
| My husband | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost a year and together about 8 years. We have two ... A: What's wrong with this picture here?! He's obviously chosen the woman over you in the past, who's ... | |
| mother and sister in law troubles | 5/11/2010 |
| Q: I need to know what to do. My husband and i were really close at the begining of our marriage and ... A: You definitely have to put a stop to all this nonsense from your husband and his family (meaning his ... | |
| Passion and Intimacy but currently separtated | 5/9/2010 |
| Q: I separated from my wife over a month ago. She is 30 years old I am 37. We have a 2 year old ... A: The good old line of I love you but I'm not IN love with you. And trust me there is a huge ... | |
| Is wife just flirting or something more? | 5/7/2010 |
| Q: My wife has a nickname for one of her coworkers: "shag balls". They also seem to have a little ... A: Of course, it's not only inappropriate it's unacceptable and rude, crude and not to mention very ... | |
| My wife doesn't love me anymore | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: I did not see this coming my heart feels like someone tore it out and stomped on it. My wife and I ... A: The problem likely lies with the fact that you've been together for 14 yrs and at that you were ... | |
| relationship grown up step child | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to a very caring man for less than two years and am happy with my life. I have ... A: Counseling is a great idea. Obviously your husband feels neglected and is frustrated to the point ... | |
| My wife said, "I love you but Im not in love with you anymore" | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I got together approximately 13 years ago. we started living together two months after. ... A: The line "I love you but I'm not IN love with you" can be the kiss of death in a marriage or ... | |
| Husband's misuse of word... worrying me | 5/1/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 34-year-old businesswoman, my husband's 35. Recently whenever I ask him how he is, how work's ... A: He's doing this for a reason. And it's up to you to try to get to the bottom of why he's using this ... | |
| prob where | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: my age 36year i married 2 time first 14years ago after she dont want i do some thing more then one ... A: You didn't elaborate much on your problem. So I'm making an educated guess that you have a problem ... | |
| sex | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: i feel nervous asking for help, but here it goes.... i have now been married for 3 yrs and have a 1 ... A: This is actually quite normal to happen to women particularly after they have their first child (and ... | |
| Sexless marriage | 4/26/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for over 2 years now and me and my husband have never had sex. We are very much ... A: It could be that he's extremely turned off by your behavior of being very possessive of him, so that ... | |
| Will she believe that I have changed? | 4/22/2010 |
| Q: Nearly three months ago, I ended up in a very difficult and first-time legal circumstance following ... A: On the contrary your problems with drugs and alcohol are also your wife's too, b/c when you choose ... | |
| pregnant and frustrated constantly! | 4/21/2010 |
| Q: I am about 6 months pregnant with my second child. I have been with my boyfriend (this childs ... A: It's probably both as you already said hormonal and frustration from you. He's feeling this way for ... | |
| help | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I married over two years ago, first it was long distance marriage because my husband was in Atlanta ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| is my husband a bully and how do i handle it? | 4/19/2010 |
| Q: ok i have been with my husband for 17years and married for 13 of 17.when we dated in high school i ... A: It sure sounds like that's what he's being. A bully picks on someone usually younger and smaller ... | |
| adult step-daughter killing my marriage | 4/15/2010 |
| Q: Samantha, My husband and I have had a rocky marriage to say the least but about two years ago we ... A: Maybe he's trying to make up for lost time with her and is too involved in being her "friend" and ... | |
| How to tell if its over? | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: I am 34 yrs old. My husband is also 34 and we have been together since we are 16 yrs old. We got ... A: If anyone is being selfish he's the one that's being selfish. I think he means well but he's got ... | |
| Wanting children, but wife has changed mind | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for five years, I am 35, she is 31. We met in college in the late ... A: This can certainly be a drop dead deal breaker for a marriage, when one wants a child and when the ... | |
| Ending a 17 year marriage? | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: Should I end a 17 year marriage when 16 years have been truly wonderful but the last year has been ... A: Don't rush into making a permanent decision b/c you're angry and hurt (and rightfully so after all ... | |
| fear and the unknown | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: Hey Everybody: How to say this...well here it goes...I am in love with a very wonderful ... A: It's her fear of having with you, the exact opposite of what she had in her former marriage that's ... | |
| Marriage coming to the end | 4/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 7yrs and have 3 kids. For the past few years my relationship with my ... A: No, you're not wrong to feel this way. It's not like you've felt this way over night, but it's been ... | |
| busines travel and dishonesty | 4/10/2010 |
| Q: I have a situation very similar to a woman in a post you answered 2/22/10. My husband travels for ... A: Since he's made the effort to actually work on the marriage and make some real progress then don't ... | |
| Does he still love me? | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married for over three years and together for about seven in total. ... A: You need to work on yourself instead of focusing on him so much. I realize that you have more spare ... | |
| Abandon | 4/7/2010 |
| Q: My husband left and abandon me on March 3rd, 2010 and left me with nothing to pay the rent nor buy ... A: That's awful that he would do such a thing to you. I can see how you're wondering/worried about ... | |
| How do I handle my selfish husband? | 3/31/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 10 years this year (I'm 34 he is 36). We have two girls (6 ... A: His priorities are all wrong here. He's putting himself first and you and the children, house last, ... | |
| husband divorced me after 31 years | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: My husband filed for divorce on my birthday about a year ago. The divorce is final. I think he is ... A: Maybe he was going through a mid-life crisis. It's really hard to surmise what was going through ... | |
| Children | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: My husband is 20 years older than me and already has a son. At the beginning of our relationship, I ... A: He's avoiding this topic and not answering you just to keep you guessing, it seems. He needs to ... | |
| Pregnant and Separated. | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 and half years. I met my husband in early 06 and for the first 9 months he ... A: He sounds very disconnected from you and from this marriage as a whole, even from the very beginning ... | |
| Should I leave? | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: I met my now husband ten years ago, when I was a senior and he a freshman. I fell for his quiet, ... A: I not one that normally condones or advocates divorce, but in some instances I feel it's necessary, ... | |
| Stick it out for the baby? | 3/19/2010 |
| Q: I was casually dating a guy beginning in January of 2009. I wound up getting pregnant by him and we ... A: Your intentions are good in your heart, but you're not going about it in the right way. Why be with ... | |
| Married young, user husband, three kids...should I divorce? | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for over twelve years now and we have three boys under the age of four. ... A: You've said all the reasons that you should divorce him and move on with your life. They are all ... | |
| Son wants to be 33 stone... and refuses to do anything else | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: My 16-year-old son has been overeating lately. I don't know why. We certainly don't give him the ... A: You need to try and sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. When you do ... | |
| do I go back to my husband | 3/12/2010 |
| Q: I feel confused and guilty right now. I separated from my husband 5 months ago because I was tired ... A: If he hasn't changed by now chances are he's not ever going to change. He's in denial of his porn ... | |
| Marriage | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: Ive been married for 3 years and I have own my own home for 16year before I got married. Is my ... A: No, he's not entitled to your home, period, b/c you owned it prior to marriage. What he would be ... | |
| Giving Out Favours | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: To begin with, I and my wife's sex sessions are only once a week, sexual intercourse is only once a ... A: It's hard to figure out what on earth she was thinking in even wanting to do something of this ... | |
| 11 years 4 kids, not sure what to do | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I guess i never thought i would be asking a question like this. I come from a very religious ... A: Yes, you must follow through on what you say, otherwise, he's never going to take you serious or at ... | |
| Dealing with Resentment after a form of cheating | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I am a 29 year old married woman. My husband and I met when I was 21, and we got married last year. ... A: Emotional cheating is still a form of cheating and often times it's way worse than physical ... | |
| Giving Out Favours | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: To begin with, I and my wife's sex sessions are only once a week, sexual intercourse is only once a ... A: Maybe she's taking you for granted and that you'll always be around for her when she needs you. Or ... | |
| A different kind of love? | 3/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm a spot. I've been with the most wonderful man I've ever met for 13 months now (which is an ... A: It's totally normal to feel this way. You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. ... | |
| Balance work and family | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: A little back ground on the stubject is we have been together for 6 years and married for 2. I am ... A: True, ultimately that decision is up to you for you to make for yourself. You know more of the ... | |
| Giving Out Favours | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: To begin with, I and my wife's sex sessions are only once a week, sexual intercourse is only once a ... A: I think you're reading too much into this and taking things way too personally. Obviously your wife ... | |
| What do I do? I'm torn between two women. | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: Samantha, I've been married for nearly two years now....with the woman who is my wife for nearly ... A: You're looking for something in this friend that your wife hasn't been giving you. That's why a ... | |
| Son became a victim of crime and police are uninterested... | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My 22-year-old son, and his girlfriend, who's 24, recently went on a night out for a quiet drink and ... A: I can imagine how outraged you and all your family must feel. I've been a victim of a violent crime ... | |
| Wife says shes not in love anymore. | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for almost 21 years...married 17.about 10 she told me she was ... A: Is she interested in trying to find out how to fall back in love with you again? Or is she just ... | |
| facebook friends | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: My Husband recently received a request from an old friend, or should I say "old flame"? Anyhow he ... A: No, you're not being insecure at all, you're being reasonable, cautious and most of all rational to ... | |
| Husband does not treat me like a human being. | 3/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 8yrs to a man who is self serving, cold and uncaring. I don't think he ... A: Add a new word and action when you're around him, it's called ignore him. Do NOT give him the ... | |
| 14 yr old step child | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: my husband of 8 yrs. 14 yr old daughter came to live with us 2 yrs. ago. i was not in favor of this. ... A: It can be particularly hard when you're in a blended family and there are step-children involved. I ... | |
| Lying to my wife. | 3/2/2010 |
| Q: My marriage of six years was based on shared religious values. Over that time, I have become ... A: You must come out and tell her the truth again. It's not right to lie to her and yourself and to ... | |
| Husband does not treat me like a human being. | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 8yrs to a man who is self serving, cold and uncaring. I don't think he ... A: I'm very sorry that you've had to endure the abuse as a child and growing up, and that you recently ... | |
| Am I Stupid? | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: My husband (of 8yrs marrie 14yrs together) walked out on me 12mths ago leaving myself and 2 small ... A: You'll know when you just have it in you to do this anymore. And sometimes the need to hang on will ... | |
| Am i being abused? | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married now for 3 months..This is an arranged marriage. At the beginning it was good as ... A: Yes, He's being a bit abusive in a few aspects. Mostly emotionally, verbally and mentally to you. ... | |
| Husband does not treat me like a human being. | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 8yrs to a man who is self serving, cold and uncaring. I don't think he ... A: He's a pathetic, hateful, selfish little man and this is why he treats you in this manner. He has ... | |
| age difference | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: i am 40 %26 my b/f is 27 can we marry mine's will be second marriage as my husband past away 1 year ... A: If you're compatible with each other, and love one another and can't see yourself living your lives ... | |
| Am I Stupid? | 2/23/2010 |
| Q: My husband (of 8yrs marrie 14yrs together) walked out on me 12mths ago leaving myself and 2 small ... A: No, you're not stupid, you're perhaps wishful thinking is all. All of these thoughts and feelings ... | |
| Trusting my husband | 2/22/2010 |
| Q: We have been married for 3 years. My husband's current job which he started two years ago requires a ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here with my answers below it for your and my ... | |
| second marriage and child support | 2/14/2010 |
| Q: iam married for the second time am i reliable for any back child support that my wife may owe in the ... A: No, you're not responsible for her back child support or anything pertaining to her child(ren) from ... | |
| Am I crazy or petty? | 2/13/2010 |
| Q: My husband has this friend he met a few years ago and she seems to dominate our relationship. ... A: No, you're neither. You're definitely right to think something is up with them, b/c their ... | |
| Husband and his friends | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have only been married for a few months, but we have been living together as ... A: I'm with you on this, you have to draw the line and have boundaries when it comes to his ... | |
| Superficial husband | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married for 14 months. We've both been married before and have children ... A: You know this isn't about you, how you look or dress, or please him in the bedroom, etc. Although ... | |
| Communication | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: How can I communicate with my husband when his first reaction is to shut down and run away? A: You could try to sit down with him and find out why he doesn't want to talk and shuts down and wants ... | |
| financial responsibility | 2/9/2010 |
| Q: I will be getting married soon. My soon to be wife has many financial responsibilities that she ... A: I'm not 100% sure on this answer. What you can do is to contact a lawyer that specializes in this ... | |
| EMOTIONS | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I ALWAYS FEEL CHEATED AS IF I'M IN A STANDING POSITION (NO MOVEMENT) WITH LIFE PASSING ME BY. I HAVE ... A: If you don't like what you're getting out of life then don't be afraid to change it some. Go out ... | |
| separation/divorce | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 11 years, have a 6 and a 1 year old boy. I work full time, and take care of ... A: It's easier if you go through a divorce when the children are younger, this way they adjust a bit ... | |
| Separation | 2/7/2010 |
| Q: My wife of 23 years (partner of 30) has told me she wants a divorce. She says that she still loves ... A: That's the thing you can't make her feel something that she's either unwilling or unable to feel for ... | |
| Cell Phone | 2/5/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married a little over 20 years and have been together for 22 years. We ... A: Of course, you're not overreacting and contrary to what his friends might think/say it IS your ... | |
| Separation | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: My wife of 23 years (partner of 30) has told me she wants a divorce. She says that she still loves ... A: It seems as though over the years you've just lost that connection that you once had. This is the ... | |
| affair | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: following on to your previous answers. my husband has now been visiting this new woman at her home ... A: Sorry, it took me so long to answer your question, my daughter has been sick for a couple of days. ... | |
| My boyfriend hates where we live | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: I recently moved to Indianapolis for a wonderful job opportunity. My boyfriend decided to move from ... A: It's time that you sit him down and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He need to know ... | |
| Sexual Problem | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Trust you are doing good! We have been married for last 8 months and we weren't able to have our ... A: I can see how this is taking a huge toll on your marriage and even the relationship with your ... | |
| My husband and our little family | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Recently we discovered we are having twins which was a surprise but we are both very excited. We ... A: First off congrats on the twins! I can imagine how scary and yet exciting that is for you. Anyway, ... | |
| Am I out of line | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2 years and together for 4. We both have children from ... A: No, you're not out of line at all. You're his wife and what you think is equally, if not more ... | |
| Why does he treat me this way? | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: Well I've been married to my husband for a year and a half. We got married when my son was 1 month ... A: He's an abusive cad, only a coward abuses women! Did you know that on average is takes an abused ... | |
| emotional affair | 1/30/2010 |
| Q: i found out at christmas that my husband of 10 years was having an "affair", we had been going ... A: Don't be so hard on yourself, you're not a fool. If anyone here is a fool it's your husband in how ... | |
| emotional affair | 1/28/2010 |
| Q: i found out at christmas that my husband of 10 years was having an "affair", we had been going ... A: This is pretty typical behavior in a situation like yours. Let me elaborate a bit, it's normal for ... | |
| Breaking Point | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: My husband & I have recently separated..after many months of heated arguing, verbal assaults, and ... A: It's probably for the best if you stay separated until you can figure out what you're going to do. ... | |
| emotional affair | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: i found out at christmas that my husband of 10 years was having an "affair", we had been going ... A: He's been having an affair with this other woman, even if it's not physical as in the sexual sense, ... | |
| marriage | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: A: It's good to give her space and to not harass her about getting back together, begging/asking her to ... | |
| lost a spark... | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: Im a 21 year old husband and soon to be father, me and my wife have been having a few problems. I'm ... A: What if she is seeing someone else or if there is someone else involved with her? Are you willing ... | |
| My wife stays out till 4am should I be upset with her? | 1/23/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I just moved to a new area where we do not know anyone. She met her friend at work that ... A: Yes, I think you have every right to be a bit upset and even hurt by this. I mean going out with ... | |
| Confused and Depressed | 1/17/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married since 2002. Both have children from previous relationships (him ... A: No, you're not overreacting to things he's the one that's obviously got a huge anger problem by the ... | |
| So Confused | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: Ok, I have been married for almost 14 years (got married at 18-he was 20). We have two awesome boys ... A: You tell him you're not going anywhere until you can sort out where and what you're going to do. ... | |
| what all am i entiled to | 1/15/2010 |
| Q: if my husband purchased a car during our marriage but his name is the only one on it am i entitled ... A: Yes, you are. Anything that was purchased during the marriage is considered community and martial ... | |
| please try to help this, as its a tough one! | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: At 20, I had a daughter by an excuse for a man who left 2yrs later. I have had miscarriages, but not ... A: Have you discussed any other options with your husband? Is he willing to support you so that you ... | |
| Husbands running buddy | 1/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband has a woman that he runs and exercises with every morning. I have felt weird about the ... A: Listen to your gut instinct b/c it's there to tell you when something's not quite right. So always ... | |
| standing up for what is right | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband has never stood up for me when it comes to his parents. I want to know if I am in the ... A: You're right your husband should be the one to confront your FIL. As spouses are supposed to back ... | |
| i want a divorce | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: i have been married almost 3 years. we got married at 18 and i regret it cuz i was too young. for ... A: You have got to go talk to your wife, you know this, right? You can't keep avoiding this situation, ... | |
| Am I Being Unreasonable? | 1/6/2010 |
| Q: First, I would like to make it clear I honestly do not believe my wife is being unfaithful, however, ... A: No, not really. It's my personal opinion (and I do not expect someone to substitute my opinion for ... | |
| Husband loves his mother more than me | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for about 3 years, and married for about a year and a half. I ... A: I had another similar issue such as yours just earlier today. Mama's boys can be very tough and ... | |
| Am I a bad wife? | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I got married in March at the age of 32 to a man that I love dearly. He is my best friend. Before ... A: No, that does NOT make you a bad wife. Sometimes a person sex drive or interest in sex can rival ... | |
| Jealousy | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: My fiance and i are almost getting married. Now the only, but yet huge issue we have recently had ... A: He has lied to you in the past, thus creating trust issues that you have even now. This is mostly ... | |
| Can this relationship be salvaged | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: I will try to summarize my story...I have been with my partner for 15 years. We have 2 small ... A: It's actually quite common place when a couple breaks up or even separates for a period of time, for ... | |
| Mother-in-law problems | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: How do you get your spouse to realize that his wife comes first? For the past 2 years our marriage ... A: His a mama's boy and those are often times very hard to deal with. He has to be the one to change ... | |
| Husband not interested in sex | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for less than a year and my husband does not like to have sex. We have had ... A: You're very right when you say that something is wrong, b/c there's definitely something going on ... | |
| Porn destroyed my marriage | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: I wanted to ask you about porn and why men watch it. I've been married for almost 11 years and our ... A: Porn is an addiction just like any other addiction such as gambling, alcoholism, drugs, etc. And ... | |
| IM A LAZY HUSBAND | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: cleaning,laundry,bill paying and caring for our son I wasn't ever trying to put it all on her but I ... A: You first have to acknowledge what you're problems/issues are, then secondly you have to be willing, ... | |
| what to do | 1/3/2010 |
| Q: ok my husband and I have been married for 12 years and together for 16. I was 16 and he was 26 when ... A: I'm a firm believer in that you should do whatever it takes to make a marriage work. And if it ... | |
| Wife contacting ex- boyfriend | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: Recently i discovered that my wife of almost 5 years has been "talking" with one of her ex's. i told ... A: No, you're not overreacting at all. You have every right to be suspicious of her behavior and the ... | |
| Desperate/Triumphant! | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I am in such despair over my current situation in my marriage. We have been married for 10 years and ... A: You're very welcome! It just takes some time for a person to see the light, and it's not easy when ... | |
| Is it worth another arguement | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband spent the holidays away from me and when he returned he admitted to meeting his one ... A: Yes, you definitely should confront him again and give him a chance to explain himself once more. ... | |
| Husband & young co-worker | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband introduced a young woman (co-worker) to me at our wedding reception 2yrs. ago. ... A: You are very right to be concerned about what he's doing and what exactly his ulterior motives are ... | |
| Desperate | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I am in such despair over my current situation in my marriage. We have been married for 10 years and ... A: First you have to stop making excuses for him. You need to start thinking what's in your and the ... | |
| Marriage crumbling | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 5 years and have a 1 year old daughter. Things have been ... A: You need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to know ... | |
| still here but ready... | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: I did state that it has been ingrained in me that I shouldnt be happy.I would like to clarify that ... A: Oh, but you DO have a choice. You can NOT base your actions on someone elses happiness. Does that ... | |
| My ex wife | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: Receanlty I have been having strong feelings for my ex wife I think I still love her, we split up ... A: The damage may have already been done, and if so, you're going to have to come to terms with that. ... | |
| full time love | 12/25/2009 |
| Q: i am 31 doctor,have 3 kids, the older is 4 and the younger are 2 year twin girls- i used to love ... A: Being a professional in a busy work place and if you have a demanding job (even if you love it) can ... | |
| cheating | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: I looked through my husband phone and saw that today he sent a pic of his penis to a person in his ... A: What he did was wrong, and the icing on the cake is him sending a picture of his privates to this ... | |
| cheating | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: I looked through my husband phone and saw that today he sent a pic of his penis to a person in his ... A: That still constitutes as cheating, and honestly I wouldn't trust him further than I could throw ... | |
| anniversary gift | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I recently celebrated our 10th anniversary and I bought her a ring as a gift. She took ... A: I think you're both reading way too much into this. You've made it 10 yrs together in marriage, as ... | |
| Wife left me | 12/23/2009 |
| Q: I don't know what to do, I still love my wife, even though I was Kicked out of the house. I noticed ... A: You need to consult a divorce attorney to help you sort out this issue. I believe that you can ... | |
| Loveless marriage | 12/22/2009 |
| Q: I am 40 years old this week and will also have my 20th wedding anniversary in 5 months. My problem ... A: You've grown and changed during the marriage. You started taking better care of yourself and you've ... | |
| Sexual Relationship - Newly Wed | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: My friend is facing a problem and wondering if you could help, it would be so great of you. She is ... A: It's hard to say, if they didn't court in the normal western way (such as dating, getting to know ... | |
| is my husband changed? | 12/19/2009 |
| Q: its been only 9 months that i know my husband..we are not living together yet..in February we'll ... A: Marriage tends to change a person for better or worse, not sure why. I guess the dating and ... | |
| move on ...how? | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: Its Yasmin who wrote to you with subject heading betrayal.I can honestly say I dont know how I HAVE ... A: Just b/c you had a past together with him doesn't mean you have to have a future with him in a ... | |
| adult stepchildren and my marriage | 12/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. My husband has 1 son age 28, a daughter age 25 and another ... A: You need to come to a decision about what you're ready, willing and prepared to do if he's not about ... | |
| broken marriage | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: my husband and i have been separated for abut 4months now due to his cheating.. i work 3rd shift and ... A: Just b/c you love him and you have children together doesn't mean you should be together. As time ... | |
| confused about relationship | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: i married an already married man with two kids.his first wife was unwilling to stay with him.after ... A: I can understand that you want to see/know if he's sincere and can ever be a kinder and more ... | |
| adult stepchildren and my marriage | 12/17/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. My husband has 1 son age 28, a daughter age 25 and another ... A: Oh, but there is something you can do, you can stick together and decide you're not going to take ... | |
| Confused | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife of 16 years one morning 3 weeks ago woke me up at 3:30AM and said she wanted a Divorce. She ... A: I can assure you that she's acting this way for a reason, what that reason is is only known to her ... | |
| Mid-life crisis or Mental illness? | 12/16/2009 |
| Q: My husband asked me to marry him within 6 month of dating. At the time, he was a divorcee who had ... A: I don't know it could perhaps be a bit of both. Something isn't right with him mentally that's for ... | |
| wife not "in love" anymore | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: Little background on my relationship. me and my wife went to the same school from k- 12 grade. ... A: You can't make your wife feel something for you that she doesn't feel anymore, no matter how many ... | |
| At the end of my rope | 12/11/2009 |
| Q: I've been together with my husband for 17 years, married for 11. Our relationship at the beginning ... A: I'm in total agreement with you on this one. If you have it you have it, if you don't then you ... | |
| Should I stay or leave? | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: Since I told my husband that I wanted a divorce because he was controlling and emotionally abusive, ... A: What do you want out of this marriage? Do you want to stay or do you want to leave? Your thoughts ... | |
| infidelity | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: My wife cheated on me. I chose to forgive her. but i cannot look at her in the eyes. We have three ... A: I'm going to answer your questions just as I did last time b/c it's much easier and I can get to the ... | |
| Unhappy wife | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: My wife told me about 2 weeks ago that she is unhappy in our marriage and doesn't know if she wants ... A: It very well could be PPD. Although I'm not a medical doctor or psychologist so I don't know for ... | |
| divorce after 35 years together | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 35 years. Most of it was happy, with 3 great daughters. There have been ... A: She can't stop drinking on her own, she'll need professional help in order to be successful in ... | |
| unhappy | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: I have so much to write, but don't know how to start. I am a 41yr old female, married 20 years, ... A: I don't blame you one bit for being burned out and growing tired of the way he's behaving. After ... | |
| i love a girl | 12/8/2009 |
| Q: "HELLO. My name is muneef and my age is 19. i love one girl too much who is 5 or 6 years older then ... A: That's the thing though, you can't make her feel something for you when she doesn't know you at all. ... | |
| Advice on how to handle job loss with husband | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: I would like to get some advice on how to handle my current situation with my husband. We have been ... A: His unemployment will only last for so long and then what is he going to do. He needs to make a ... | |
| Unhappiness | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: My name is Tasha, I have been married for a little over a year. About 4 months into our marriage I ... A: He is most definitely the problem here. He doesn't value you or what you feel/think about anything. ... | |
| i love a girl | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: "HELLO. My name is muneef and my age is 19. i love one girl too much who is 5 or 6 years older then ... A: I was afraid that something like this would happen. It can often times be hard to approach someone ... | |
| Hopefully you can help | 12/7/2009 |
| Q: Sorry if this is a little long but would like some expert advice on how do I know if my woman really ... A: That's just it you don't know that something won't happen. It's all in how much you trust her not ... | |
| i love a girl | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: "HELLO. My name is muneef and my age is 19. i love one girl too much who is 5 or 6 years older then ... A: Try getting to know her first. And then you open up to her and confess to her who you feel about ... | |
| want out !! | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my husband for 19 yrs. and are relionship well there really hasnt been one for a ... A: What do you want out of this marriage? If it's unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling to you then you ... | |
| marriage/insecure husband | 12/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a year. A beautiful one too. We've had our ups and downs of ... A: Do NOT quite your job b/c of his insecurity and controlling ways. You may not think that it's ... | |
| Stay or Go... | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married for 5 years but have been in a relationship off and on since we ... A: I honestly do not think I could really ever trust him again if I were in your situation. It always ... | |
| Can This Marriage Be Saved? | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: Some Background on my wife and I. My wife and I met when I was 19 and she was 18. We fell in love ... A: You're right history does have a way of repeating itself. Why do you want to keep going through ... | |
| Mother-In-Law | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: My mother in law (Candice) has over 40 cats in her 1500 sq. ft. home. Needless to say they all have ... A: Aww, you're very welcome! I'm always happy to hear when I've been able to help someone or at least ... | |
| What I found on hubby's mobile phone disturbed me... | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I was tidying the house earlier this week, and was surprised to find my hubby's mobile phone had ... A: They are likely going to keep avoiding the issue. Not many people will readily admit they are gay, ... | |
| should I stay | 11/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married for 14 years and I found out he was having an affair with a women ... A: You did the right thing by putting him out. He has to know that he can't have you both and he can't ... | |
| Mother-In-Law | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: My mother in law (Candice) has over 40 cats in her 1500 sq. ft. home. Needless to say they all have ... A: This is a very sensitive and tricky topic for all involved. The ideal situation would be that you ... | |
| Wife always angry, withholds love in all aspects | 11/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm writing this in hopes that other people may benefit from my experience and I desperately need a ... A: Over these years you have become her enabler, this HAS to stop once and for all. You have got to ... | |
| what to do...??? | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I m kushika. yesterday he got emotional. He don't listen anyhing even now don't talk with me b'coz i ... A: Him getting emotional is a good thing. The reality might be setting in that you could die from this ... | |
| Newly weds but dont feel that way | 11/26/2009 |
| Q: I met my husband on a dating site but I made him chase me as I was a single mum and I wanted to be ... A: Do you think there could be someone else, even though you say he's not the cheating type? This ... | |
| betrayal | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: my husband and i divorced nearly three weeks ago.BUT he is still living with me.He was/is having an ... A: You did the right thing by divorcing him for what he put you through and did to you. It's likely ... | |
| My wife's affair | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: I recently found out that my wife was having a 6 month long affair with the husband of her best ... A: You can't make someone feel something that they are unwilling or unable to feel, including love. It ... | |
| Marriage | 11/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 yrs. Although it has only been 6 yrs., we have been ... A: I can't tell you just how common your complaint is, and I often hear about this very same issue ... | |
| where do I start? | 11/22/2009 |
| Q: I need help. I've been with my common law husband for 10 years. We are struggling, I don't know ... A: Why do you stay with him then?! You have choices in life and you certainly do not have to put up ... | |
| thankyou... | 11/21/2009 |
| Q: i hnakyou very much for ur guidance. iknow my limits n i can never cross them. But my bf can never ... A: I sincerely appreciate that. You've done all that you can do to prepare him for your death, should ... | |
| money matters | 11/20/2009 |
| Q: I have been with Robby off and on for 14 years now. I just started receiving Social Security each ... A: On the contrary, you live together, share things together in your life as partners that's the way ... | |
| no answer | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: Would you please inform me if you have decided not to reply to my mail even if you believe that its ... A: It's not that I don't want to answer your question. I haven't gotten any questions from you besides ... | |
| On the brink of the end.... | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I am writing you for some outside advice on the situation that my wife and I are in. A few years ... A: I can't tell you how many times I have heard from clients on the other receiving end of your ... | |
| infidelity | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: My wife cheated on me. I chose to forgive her. but i cannot look at her in the eyes. We have three ... A: Forgiveness comes from within, and you being a preacher you should know all about forgiveness as God ... | |
| Family and the effects | 11/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm a divorced 29yr old male with a child who has been dating a 23yr old woman of my dreams for the ... A: There is a saying that when you marry someone you marry their family as well. That's a pretty true ... | |
| Hurt over husband's decision | 11/16/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have 2 young children together and have been married 10 years. I would say we have ... A: You did the right thing! Although it may not seem like it at the time. You can't make him do ... | |
| Irretrievability | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: My husband insists I find a job which I did, many times, but he saps my confidence and blames me for ... A: Open up your own account, as if it's in a joint account he knows about what you save. He can't make ... | |
| separated | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: Ok so here's my story. My husband and I have been together for 10yrs now and married for 4. Two ... A: Yes, that love can come back for both of you! It takes something to reignite that spark that you ... | |
| Irretrievability | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband insists I find a job which I did, many times, but he saps my confidence and blames me for ... A: RESENDING the Q and A you requested. I believe this was it. Hope this helps you! Hi Brenda~ I'm ... | |
| Separated | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: Ok so here's my story. My husband and I have been together for 10yrs now and married for 4. Two ... A: I can certainly relate to a spouse cheating and fathering another child by a mistress/adulterous ... | |
| 29 year old marriage | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 29 years. In all the years that we have been married he has ... A: Maybe he doesn't honestly know how to relate to you anymore, due to him being gone on weekends and ... | |
| Irretrievability | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband insists I find a job which I did, many times, but he saps my confidence and blames me for ... A: Well, firstly I'd certainly hope that you wouldn't ever feel so desperate that you would actually ... | |
| LEFT MY HUSBAND | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: over the last few years my husband and i have had martial problems. we tried to counseloring about a ... A: You do as you're doing and you leave him once and for all. He's not capable of changing right now, ... | |
| Wife left me | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: I don't know what to do, I still love my wife, even though I was Kicked out of the house. I noticed ... A: There has to be a reason why she's doing this and acting this way. Do you think there is a ... | |
| thankyou... | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: i hnakyou very much for ur guidance. iknow my limits n i can never cross them. But my bf can never ... A: That's good to know that you know your limits and you don't cross them, be proud of yourself for ... | |
| Marriage | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I am 52 years old and my husband is 55. We are both in our second marriage and are both ... A: Maybe you did the right thing for now, by getting him out of the house and away from you so that you ... | |
| help me plz | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I m Kushika from bangalore. I m a college going. I m 20 years old. I have a boy friend named Dinesh. ... A: You know what you can handle with your body. A person knows their limits on what they can and can't ... | |
| Marriage | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I am 52 years old and my husband is 55. We are both in our second marriage and are both ... A: He could be torn and actually have feelings for both of you. However, that doesn't give him license ... | |
| Younger husband | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: This is the second marriage for me and the first for my husband. Steve is 21 and I am 45. We've ... A: I think given your situation, these thoughts and feelings are valid and even very normal being with ... | |
| help me plz | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: I m Kushika from bangalore. I m a college going. I m 20 years old. I have a boy friend named Dinesh. ... A: I'm sorry to hear that you have a traumatic medical problem with having a brain tumor. My sister ... | |
| is my husband controlling? | 11/10/2009 |
| Q: im 33 and been married for 5 years we have three children age 8,4 %26 2, im a stay at home mum which ... A: This nonsense needs to stop and NOW! His behavior and treatment of your is rude, crude, unacceptable ... | |
| help me plz | 11/9/2009 |
| Q: I m Kushika from bangalore. I m a college going. I m 20 years old. I have a boy friend named Dinesh. ... A: You can masturbate comfortably by using a regular pillow, put it right in between your legs. You ... | |
| To Divorce or Not to Divorce? | 11/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband moved to a different state in July 2007, (we are a military family) the kids and I stayed ... A: It sounds like there is nothing you can say or do to make this marriage better and it's beyond help! ... | |
| Alcohlic hubby | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: This is such a tough tough question or decision I have to make. I have been married for 10 years ... A: I can't even begin to imagine how hard this is on you and your family. I can relate to you in a way ... | |
| Frustrated | 11/7/2009 |
| Q: I am a recovered Alcoholic. I am on my second marriage and have a wonderful 17 month old with my ... A: It seems as though she has an issue with her self-esteem and showing her feelings and/or affection ... | |
| in laws | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: My husband's role is more of a father figure in his family and it is creating resentment on my part. ... A: He needs to be more sensitive to your needs and take into consideration your thoughts and feelings ... | |
| Marriage and an Affair | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years 2 of which we have been married. We have a 10 month ... A: So are you wanting to stay in this marriage then? You certainly don't have to tell your husband if ... | |
| Can't decide what to do! | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: Last Tuesday, Oct. 27th, my husband signed on to a social site %26 reconnected with his high school ... A: No, absolutely do not give him the go ahead to go see her, if you do, then you might be kissing the ... | |
| Marriage and an Affair | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years 2 of which we have been married. We have a 10 month ... A: My personal opinion on this whole situation is that some times we do things in life that we aren't ... | |
| separated, want to earn my way back | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: my wife abruptly left me last june due to my relapsing back into alcohol use (one beer after mowing ... A: The wrong way to go about it would be to demand that something be done and ASAP. She's probably ... | |
| Can't decide what to do! | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: Last Tuesday, Oct. 27th, my husband signed on to a social site %26 reconnected with his high school ... A: I can understand and totally respect that you thought you were doing the right thing by allowing him ... | |
| separated, want to earn my way back | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: my wife abruptly left me last june due to my relapsing back into alcohol use (one beer after mowing ... A: Maybe she's taking her time and feeling you out, so to speak. She wants to see just how committed ... | |
| recovering after betrayal | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: Two months ago I opened my computer to check my email. At first I thought it was my account and I ... A: It's only been two months since his infidelity, so it's going to take you a long road to recover ... | |
| Abuse | 11/2/2009 |
| Q: My husband has violoated me twice - first time Jan of 2009 - I twice told him not interested, he ... A: He's an abuser and he's taking full advantage of you. You do have a right to tell him no, it's your ... | |
| insecurity? | 11/1/2009 |
| Q: im married to the man of my dreams. Our marriage was arranged so i didnt know him at the time. we ... A: If you had sexual abuse in your past that could have something to do with this and why you just ... | |
| Husband has a girlfriend what do I do? | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: I am in a very bad place right now. I am a 38 year old woman that is married to a 37 year old man. ... A: I'm going to copy and paste your questions here, with my answers/response below it for convenience. ... | |
| confused and lost | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 yrs old and have been married almost 11yrs. I am a mother of school age children. I am at a ... A: The bottom line is you're done with him and the marriage, b/c you've been so burnt out now that ... | |
| infidelity | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: My wife cheated on me. I chose to forgive her. but i cannot look at her in the eyes. We have three ... A: Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. Honestly all of the thoughts and feelings you're ... | |
| my handycapped aunt nds advice | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: My 66 yr old aunt is married to a horrible a-hole..a dis-barred lawyer who is void of any cooth, has ... A: He's nothing but a coward to abuse her. Abusers are cowards in disguise. You can start by getting ... | |
| trust and jelousy | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my live in boyfriend for 8 years we have two kids and through out the years we have ... A: Why do you keep putting up with his nonsense?! He continuously insults your intelligence by making ... | |
| Separation / Abandonment | 10/26/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have separated after almost nine years. He walked out of our relationship and ... A: It's tough to have to go through a separation, and then when someone makes it ugly, it's that much ... | |
| he keeps me away from his children | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: Today I experienced a very tough emotional moment, because I realized that my partner doesn't want ... A: I think you do need to bring this up with him when you are alone and in private surroundings when ... | |
| My marriage is getting worse everyday | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 11yrs now with two girls. I fell in love wiht my husband because he was a ... A: What you say makes perfect sense to me. However, he is mentally ill and there isn't anything you ... | |
| Not sure what to do with our sex life...? | 10/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 year old and 9 month old. Both are daughters. I love ... A: When a woman has a child typically her sex drive takes a huge nose dive (not always though) and ... | |
| he keeps me away from his children | 10/24/2009 |
| Q: Today I experienced a very tough emotional moment, because I realized that my partner doesn't want ... A: He mislead you into thinking that you were going to spend the day with him and the children. I can ... | |
| Separation / Abandonment | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have separated after almost nine years. He walked out of our relationship and ... A: He's sadly mistaken there on him getting half of everything. He's blowing smoke. He's only ... | |
| ..... | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. six months ago he asked me to married him but ... A: By all means, no, do not marry this man. With the way he's acting now, and all the fighting you do ... | |
| My marriage is getting worse everyday | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 11yrs now with two girls. I fell in love wiht my husband because he was a ... A: What do YOU want to do about this situation and this marriage? You have been his enabler for so long ... | |
| Regaining trust | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I need some advice. I'm married (married 2yrs, together 5.5yrs and we have a 10 month old girl. ... A: He broke your trust in more ways than one. The first and most important is that he blatantly and ... | |
| roles of a wife & mum | 10/22/2009 |
| Q: we are a young family with a daughter who is barely one year. we have a househelp and my husband is ... A: Being a mother is one of the hardest jobs in the world, whether you work outside the home or not. ... | |
| Miserable in marriage | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: I got married when I was 18 and now married for 12years. We have two wonderful kids both boys of 9 n ... A: What do you want to do? You definitely deserve to be happy in life whether you remain married or ... | |
| changing roles | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: I have struggled my whole life with self esteem. I grew up in this whirl wind of self neglect and ... A: The saying is that a woman marries someone like their father (good or bad or indifferent), so this ... | |
| Blood matches | 10/19/2009 |
| Q: Can an AB+ man marry an A- girl? are we going to be healthy and what about our babies? thank you! :) A: There shouldn't be any issue that has to do with your blood types. Many people with different blood ... | |
| Step daughters mistake | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: My step daughter(age 32) just got married on Oct8,2009, to a boy 19 years old. They have been ... A: Sometimes no matter what we say or do for our children, they still have to end up learning from ... | |
| Husband needs time | 10/18/2009 |
| Q: Oh, where do I begin? I am a 46 year old woman who is married to a Native American man who is 47. I ... A: So you snapped, who wouldn't given all that you'd previously been through?! You did it in a moment ... | |
| Recourse? | 10/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm at my wits end. I'm 53 yr old male, married for two years. I love my wife with a passion that ... A: Are you insinuating that you're going to kill yourself if she doesn't change her ways, and stop her ... | |
| separated, want to earn my way back | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: my wife abruptly left me last june due to my relapsing back into alcohol use (one beer after mowing ... A: It's rather simple coming from her point of view. It's much easier to live apart from someone that ... | |
| Husband with no boundaries won't respect mine | 10/14/2009 |
| Q: My husband for the most part of our marriage has no proper boundaries, won't respect my need for ... A: God in the Bible gives permission/consent for a divorce based on two reason; that is adultery and ... | |
| marital tension | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: i am married for about a year and have a 4 months old son.Till my child's birth i enjoyed great ... A: No one can make you feel inferior w/o your permission. If they choose to believe malicious lies ... | |
| My husband's trips away with friends | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 2 years. During this time I have been facing very hard time helping my husband ... A: I know what it's like to have someone you love to battle alcoholism. My father was an alcoholic ... | |
| jobless | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: Second marriage. I am 17 years older than my husband. He has lost his job due primarily to his ... A: You're right you are enabling him to do the things he does. What is he (and you) going to do when ... | |
| wife's insecurity or husband's obsessiveness? | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: my family is planning a weekend getaway camping close to our house. These plans were made after our ... A: Is he a people pleaser and a peace keeper? Because that's sure what he sounds like, that he's ... | |
| Envious Husband | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I am going to try to pair down my question so it's not long and drawn out... My husband and I met ... A: That's sure what it sounds like to me. Sometimes it's hard for a man to deal with having a ... | |
| loss of interest after the honey moon period | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: you must get asked about this all the time, my husband and I haven't been married a very long ... A: Yes, I do get this on a pretty frequent basis about porn, sex, cheating, etc. In fact, I just got ... | |
| If your husband uses porn chat.. is it cheating? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 19yrs. Recently my husbands work keeps him on the road except for week-ends. We ... A: Is porn normal in this day and age for a man or anyone else for that matter to look at? There ... | |
| wife has left me after my third affair. | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: my wife and i have been married for the past 10 years, we have a 4yr old son. during the marriage i ... A: I hope that by you going through this experience it has taught you a very valuable lesson in life, ... | |
| anal sex | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: my husband want to have anal sex, i stated to him that it hurts and i would not consent to doing it. ... A: Actually, yes, I have been in one of those type of relationships in my first marriage. My first ... | |
| i need help | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I cant take it no more I been living with this girl i call my wife for a long time. when been ... A: She bullies you b/c you allow her to do this to you and treat you in this manner. You've reached ... | |
| marriage | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: okay...i've been married for 4 1/2 years to my husband. (This is our second marriage for both, and ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| we don't know how to fight constructively | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: my husband and I have been together for 9 years and married for the last 3. It is a second marriage ... A: If you end up separating due to the years of fighting, then you both lose and no one wins. You end ... | |
| cheating and divorce | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: Ok. I was married for 13 years. During that time, I found numerous phone number from women, my best ... A: Why you should you feel you were unjustified for divorcing him for cheating on you?! HE is the one ... | |
| Unresolved Anger | 10/2/2009 |
| Q: I am 45 years old and have been married for 22 years. We have 3 children--16, 18, and 20. About 10 ... A: Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. It makes you lose every ounce of trust and even ... | |
| husband is leaving me | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband is a reservist..and returned from Iraq 4 months ago..I have noticed since he came back ... A: Being a military family can be very stressful, and on top of that when he's been to Iraq, he doesn't ... | |
| I want to separate from my husband | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for three years, but we have been together for 11 years. The past ... A: He's got his priorities all wrong here. He should be putting you and your son first and himself ... | |
| wife is selfish in bed... | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for a 3.5 years now, and ever since we've been married my wife has always had ... A: It might be time that you sat down with her and had a serious heart to heart talk with her. I can ... | |
| depressed with married life | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: ...i have been married for 4 yrs now n have got a child.....our marriage life is really boring from ... A: Maybe he's not in love with you anymore and this is why he's avoiding sex and anything that has to ... | |
| what to do now? | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: . I sent you the question copied below.. I didn't get a reply when the email was sent back?? could ... A: It's never easy to hear that someone you once truly loved doesn't really love you anymore. That's ... | |
| The married doctor | 9/28/2009 |
| Q: Samantha, I'm 32 years old and married for 6 years. Everything is ok-just small flaws but, ... A: You are very right to be very wary of his intentions. He may or may not have done this before ... | |
| I am confused over wife's behaviour | 9/25/2009 |
| Q: I do not know where to start. I had been a neglected child and my parents arranged a wedding with a ... A: S Kumar~ It seems as though your wife is being very selfish and wants you do to everything for and ... | |
| Husband viewing porn and secretly taping me! | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. Several times in the past, I have found porn on ... A: I'm very sorry that you have to go through something of this magnitude. And I know that saying ... | |
| Tired of giving | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 years and have 3 beautiful children (15, 13 and 5). I am 42 this year ... A: That's what the life of a busy mom is like. I so know that feeling that you have. I think as ... | |
| Husband viewing porn and secretly taping me! | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. Several times in the past, I have found porn on ... A: Yes, you are right to think that he has some sort of sex addiction. If he's a sexual deviate that ... | |
| Trust | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Greetings. I'm going to get married in months time. Everything is going well but the problem is my ... A: First off he has no right to talk to you like that. He was the one in the wrong for sneaking behind ... | |
| husband has left | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together since we were 18. We are now 29...Together 11 years married for ... A: I know it royally sucks that you have to go through this type of pain. And there's probably nothing ... | |
| kissing... | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my wife for about 5.5 years and we have 2 great kids together (Holly, 3.5 years old ... A: She needs to define in more detail what she constitutes as "disgusting." Is it your breath, the ... | |
| Husband has anger outbursts... | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: my husband and I have been married for a little over 2 1/2 years. He is a sweet and wonderful man ... A: I have no doubt like you, that when he returns from Iraq that his temper will be much greater and ... | |
| My husband is depressed and it's killing our marriage | 9/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband has been diagnosed with depression by his GP doctor but refuses to go to counseling to ... A: He has to first acknowledge his problem, then secondly he has to accept the help that he so ... | |
| husband has left | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together since we were 18. We are now 29...Together 11 years married for ... A: You don't just stop loving someone over night or all at once, it happens over a period of time. Are ... | |
| Feeling really low | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: I am 22 years old and have been married less than a year. When I was 14 I got involved with a much ... A: What do you want to do? What do you think you should do about this? Where do you see your life in ... | |
| Wife said she needs time for a definitive answer | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: Have been married for 20 years most of that time happily. We have three children. A little ... A: There really is no perfect time frame. You'll just know how long you can or can't wait. She knows ... | |
| Sister is married to a drinker - doesnt realized she is codependant | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: My sister married a guy who she met at work. He was on parole at the time for a crime he said he ... A: I searched on Amazon.com and came up with a couple of links for books that you requested. I'm going ... | |
| Making the right decision | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: I live in the Caribbean on an island called Trinidad, I was married at the age of 23 (3 years ago), ... A: I hope that in your last statement you aren't referring to suicide, taking your own life isn't the ... | |
| Wife cheated | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: It's been nearly a year since my wife of almost 10 years cheated on me with another woman. She has ... A: She very well could be. And this could also explain her mood swings, hanging out with this other ... | |
| Hard topic to bring up | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help me to make a right move. My live-in bf of 2yrs and I moving together to another ... A: There's no easy way to bring up this topic with him. The best way I can suggest that you do it, is ... | |
| confusion | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: we r married(2nd marriage for both of us, he 34 & me 30 yrs old) for 15 months, i am living in my ... A: Maybe he's just not ready to get married again, or maybe he's having a hard time getting over his ... | |
| Husband and pornography | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married just over three years; second marriages for both of us. My ... A: He's a porn addict whether he admits to it or not. And he's probably doing many other ugly things ... | |
| unhappy marriage | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: Is it wrong to ask a spouse to have his 22 year old to move out of the house. We have been married ... A: You are right! At their ages the children are old enough to be out on their own, especially the 22 ... | |
| confused | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: I have 2 daughters, 8 &10(ADHD), from a previous marriage and remarried 3 years ago. We have 21 ... A: I can completely relate to having a child with disabilities. I have one child with ADHD (she's 11), ... | |
| Separated and Pregnant | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for a little over one. We have a two ... A: You deserve way better than he's currently capable of giving you and your child. He's not there for ... | |
| I cheated on my wife, and am so sorry | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I'm 53, wife is 48- married 14 years with 13 yr old daughter. I admitted 6 weeks ago I had a 3 ... A: You need to see if she'll sit down with you and have a serious heart to heart talk. This way you ... | |
| Marriage - Seperation, Is there hope! | 8/27/2009 |
| Q: 20 days ago my husband came to me and said he didnt love me and he wanted to seperate, but not ... A: He told you there wasn't anyone else, huh? Yet, he's conveniently seeing a 19 yo female now. Yeah ... | |
| Whats your unbiased opinion? | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: Ok, I am going to try and right this as completely unbiased as possible. My wife and I have been ... A: She needs to go back for some individual counseling once again, and perhaps even for her anger ... | |
| Need Advise ASAP | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 3 months. I have been depressed lately from much stress caused ... A: You are absolutely 100% correct there. However, I'm not judging anyone, I go by what information is ... | |
| I have a controlling wife, what should I do? | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I left my wife and 2 young girls last week because I couldn't take the verbal abuse anymore. We have ... A: You can disclose everything to the counselor, but in due time. You want to get a feel for him/her ... | |
| I have a controlling wife, what should I do? | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I left my wife and 2 young girls last week because I couldn't take the verbal abuse anymore. We have ... A: You have let this go on for way too long and so now she's become accustomed to you being at her beck ... | |
| How to forgive myself | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my husband for 8 years and married for two. I cheated on him before we got married ... A: There is only so much you can do to convince him that you're sorry for what you did and that you ... | |
| family finance | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 years now and have 2 children. My husband has always been the bread winner ... A: No, you're not being too harsh on him at all. A marriage is a partnership, it's about sharing and ... | |
| HELP ME | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years now. I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old. My husband is 7 years ... A: It's not healthy to have the children witness the way he treats you, but you probably already know ... | |
| Need advice. My husband cheated on me - with a man. | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm not sure what kind of advice can be given for this, or if I just need to talk about it. I can't ... A: Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. He cheated on you, and with another man at that. ... | |
| will they come to me for child support | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: if i am married to a guy but not physically together have no financial connection with this guy will ... A: No, they can NOT come after you for child support, period. There are laws in every state that ... | |
| insecure; mid - life crises? | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband of over 14 years just turned 40. For the last two months, he has been questioning my ... A: I over looked the biblical part, sorry for that. I have tons of questions that I get on a daily ... | |
| Disagreement with Husband | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband was recently awarded full physical custody of his 2 daughters. During that process we ... A: No, you're not really out of line there. You want what's in the best interest of the children, as ... | |
| Marriage | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I would describe myself as promiscuous person from as early as 16,met a guy at 16+ and thought of ... A: You know it is never too late for a person to change. You talk about praying, are you religious at ... | |
| distant wife | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help me. In the last few months I have noticed that my wife has become very distant ... A: If you suspect she's seeing someone else, then chances are she is. She's not going to make the ... | |
| Masturbation | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: ,, thank u so much for ur kind reply,,and i m very grateful to u tht u help me ,,,i will pray for ur ... A: This has to do with the erectile dysfunction (ED). You need to go see your doctor so that he can ... | |
| Changing middle name upon marrying | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I am getting married soon, and I am planning on changing my middle name to my mother's maiden name ... A: It should be fairly easy for you to get your name change after the marriage. Typically you can get ... | |
| problems with money | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can enlighten me on what to do.I dont have anybody to talk to ask advise. My problem now ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| my divorce uggghh | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: ok hi, i am 22 years old and been married a year and 6months exactly. my husband and i just dont get ... A: There is a 50-50 chance you will get alimony. Alimony is usually based on how long you've been ... | |
| Masturbation | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: ,how r u ?? hope u r fine and well.. madam i have a question its a serious problem ,,i hope u will ... A: From all that you've described it sounds like you have ED (erectile dysfunction). There are ... | |
| Marriage and Separation | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: i am a Nigerian living in Lagos, Nigeria. I was married for 6 years until my husband ruthlessly ... A: No, you shouldn't go back to him under any circumstances. It's never okay for a man to put his ... | |
| my husband get angry and swears more and more | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: I am krisia. We have been with my husband 10 years together, and 7 years married. Last year we had a ... A: It's not good to be in an unhappy, unhealthy and unfulfilling marriage, especially when you have a ... | |
| 2nd marriage | 8/11/2009 |
| Q: i have twins from previous marriage..of which kids r being raised with the financial help of my own ... A: I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time right now. Pregnancy hormones can really be ... | |
| When is it time to get help? | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 17 years and I have two children aged 15 and 11. My husband has always ... A: Right now he's very untrustworthy. He's pursuing these other women behind your back (as if that's ... | |
| Husbands sister | 8/8/2009 |
| Q: I need help with this. Don't know what to do and am ready to leave my husband because of it. I was ... A: There's probably nothing you nor your husband or anyone else for that matter, can say to her that ... | |
| Husbands sister | 8/6/2009 |
| Q: I need help with this. Don't know what to do and am ready to leave my husband because of it. I was ... A: He's given up on trying to talk to or even reason with her, he's on to something there. There are ... | |
| What to do when he doesn't love me anymore? | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years. He hasn't been in love with me for 2 years. He ... A: It's not uncommon for this to happen in a marriage. It's too easy to get involved in working, ... | |
| Pornography, Time and Communication Issues | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I found porn on my husband's computer. He lied to me about it saying that his secretary must have ... A: Well that's good that he's putting forth a good effort right now, b/c his actions will speak louder ... | |
| Pornography, Time and Communication Issues | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: I found porn on my husband's computer. He lied to me about it saying that his secretary must have ... A: Since the counseling is just for couples/marriage counseling. I would suggest that you seek some ... | |
| The Final Answer | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ... A: You're only human. At one time you loved your husband. And with being a Christian you took your ... | |
| Hands are tied and dont know what to do | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I met two years ago and dated for five months. We had a long distance relationship ... A: Do you not see what he's doing to you?! You blame yourself for the way he's acts and that's not ... | |
| Second marriage and step children | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been remarried now for 2 years. My husband from a previous marriage has 2 children (son 19 ... A: Good for you! You did the right thing. And know that you did this for your children and yourself. ... | |
| Second marriage and step children | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been remarried now for 2 years. My husband from a previous marriage has 2 children (son 19 ... A: It's not about you being selfish, in a way you have to. You have to worry about your girls and he's ... | |
| very unhappy in my marriage | 7/24/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 5 years and married for 4. We have one son together who is 3 years ... A: You can't fix this marriage alone and do everything all by yourself. It's just not going to work ... | |
| Honeymoon for the couple or entire family | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: also should a couple go on a honeymoon to visit family members. I have been married to my husband ... A: A "honeymoon" means it's just a couple, not their children and the rest of the family. It's for the ... | |
| Husband & Wife Relations | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: so as reading these it seems you get a little background. I met my husband when I was 15 and we've ... A: He's sending you conflicting messages. He wants to be with you, he doesn't want to be with you, he ... | |
| gaining back trust in a marriage | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 5.5 years and I are experiencing difficulty in our marriage. This past April, I ... A: What did/does he have to hide if he won't let you see his messages, his phone or even his bill? That ... | |
| Second marriage and step children | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been remarried now for 2 years. My husband from a previous marriage has 2 children (son 19 ... A: I agree with you that he's probably angry/frustrated with his children and he's taking it out on you ... | |
| Should I move on | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: It has been 4 years since I discovered that my husband was abusing opiates. When he came clean ... A: But there just comes a time when you know in your heart of hearts that you can't go on living this ... | |
| Marriage and Divorce | 7/21/2009 |
| Q: My marriage of 20 yrs have come to an end. My wife has asked me for a divorce, but she wants me to ... A: Maybe her parents really are hoping that their daughter will wise up, especially if you've had a ... | |
| Should I move on | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: It has been 4 years since I discovered that my husband was abusing opiates. When he came clean ... A: Of course things are not right he's a drug addict. He left rehab when you put him in it and tried ... | |
| Marriage and Divorce | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: My marriage of 20 yrs have come to an end. My wife has asked me for a divorce, but she wants me to ... A: Of course there is nothing wrong with you wanting to save this marriage. It is what is is though, ... | |
| Future Brother In Law | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: Here is my situation. I have a girlfriend whose brother is an absolute, out-right jerk. My ... A: He's obviously jealous and feels threatened by your presence in his sister's life. And honestly ... | |
| Deciding if I should leave my fiance of seven years | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for seven years. Three years ago he hurt his back. The doctor put him ... A: It IS the drug addiction talking and this isn't something he can do on his own. He needs rehab in ... | |
| Question about seperation | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I'm looking for some advice and guidance. I am currently deployed to Iraq, and about 3 weeks ago my ... A: It seems as though she's clearly overwhelmed with you being deployed and not being there with her. ... | |
| Relationship Help | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: I am about to turn 26 and work full-time. I started dating my girlfriend a little over a year ago ... A: You have to get to the bottom of why this is bothering you so much and why you're letting these ... | |
| HELP | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: I WOULD JUST LIKE TO SAY I REALLY LOVE MY HUSBAND AND HIS KIDS. BUT WE ARE A FAMILY WITH THREE ... A: Your husband needs to back you up. It's tough for a step-parent to discipline a child that's not ... | |
| Marriage and Divorce | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: My marriage of 20 yrs have come to an end. My wife has asked me for a divorce, but she wants me to ... A: You can't make someone feel something that they don't feel. If she wants a divorce you can't make ... | |
| husband-wife relationship | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I'm about to leave my husband of almost 2 years, we've been together total of 3 years. He is ... A: It is much better to be alone and happy than to be miserable and married. He doesn't respect you at ... | |
| husband leaving | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 20yrs with 2children: son 20 & daughter 14. Husband was sleeping on couch ... A: You can't make him do something he refuses to do, and if he's refusing to acknowledge that he's an ... | |
| Husband wife relationship | 7/14/2009 |
| Q: I married having one 8 yrs daughter and last week i came to know that my husband is having an affair ... A: He broke your trust so he's going to have to earn it back over time. It might take a very long time ... | |
| Just need advice | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: I am going though a divorce at the moment due to drug abuse and verbal abuse on my husbands side. It ... A: It sounds as though he was possibly your most influential love interest in your whole entire life. ... | |
| Does my Wife Really Love Me? | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 25 years. She has never been a real affectionate Woman ... A: You need to try and sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to ... | |
| Is it time for me to move on? | 7/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for half my life; 20yrs. I have endured my husband having 2 extra marital ... A: You're unhappy in the marriage and have been for quite some time. Over the years you've become ... | |
| Wife hates husbands best friend | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: What would you do regarding a friends party and a guest your wife (spouse) does not like.? Our ... A: I agree with you on this. It isn't your place to tell your friends (who are throwing their party) ... | |
| female masturbation | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: I am a female living away from my husband and i had no sex since 5 months. now i jus mastrbated by ... A: Yes, he would still feel the same tightness whether you masturbate or not. The tightness is caused ... | |
| Family problem | 7/2/2009 |
| Q: I got married recently 8 months back. My husband never cares for me, he use to listen his brother ... A: You need to do what's right for you. Sometimes you can't take on your family members and take care ... | |
| female masturbation | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I am a female living away from my husband and i had no sex since 5 months. now i jus mastrbated by ... A: No, he will not be able to tell if you masturbate yourself. A man can't tell this physically, so ... | |
| isolation from my family | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: and as I've progressed through my pregnancy it seems like my husband is trying everything possible ... A: No, this definitely isn't normal at all. When a person tries to isolate someone it's the beginnings ... | |
| shall i hope that we can be together again? | 6/24/2009 |
| Q: we've been married for almost 10 years with 3 wonderful kids. when i had our first child, i was 20 ... A: You're moving on with your life. So, yes, at some point you should tell your oldest child what ... | |
| shall i hope that we can be together again? | 6/23/2009 |
| Q: we've been married for almost 10 years with 3 wonderful kids. when i had our first child, i was 20 ... A: You can't change or influence what his family thinks about him, you or any other thing. They are ... | |
| MY WIFE | 6/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years I have 3 kids. My wife and I have been fighting on and off about ... A: It's never in the best interest to stay together for the sake of the children. I'll tell you why it ... | |
| shall i hope that we can be together again? | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: we've been married for almost 10 years with 3 wonderful kids. when i had our first child, i was 20 ... A: There probably isn't much hope of him coming back. Besides why would you want to be with someone ... | |
| controlling wife | 6/21/2009 |
| Q: Ms. Kessler. Thanks for being available. I need rest and recuperation from an overbearing wife. ... A: Peace at what price. You say you're not willing or able to leave her. But is that so? You can do ... | |
| My Husband wants to be single again | 6/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years (together for 6). Over the last couple months he ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him first before you make ... | |
| My wife is a slob and goes out too much. | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: I married my wife some 18 months ago. When I met her she had an 8 year old son, who is now 10. We ... A: It sounds like you've already reached your breaking point with her and you're done, due to your ... | |
| a wife who will not leave | 6/18/2009 |
| Q: My best friend(who is female) has been married 7+ years, they have 1 child. They sleep in separate ... A: She obviously feels obligated to stay with him for a few reasons, albeit they are not good or valid ... | |
| reconciliation after multiple separations | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 34 years. We have two sons in their 20's, one who is successful ... A: Isn't four times of her coming and going enough? Or are you going to keep being a revolving door for ... | |
| Am I messing everything up? | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I am having some serious issues with my marriage and family life. Every argument my wife and I get ... A: What do YOU want out of this relationship or marriage? You have to stop and think about what you ... | |
| Marriage Issues | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a deployed soldier who has been married for 4 yrs, and of these 4 yrs I have been deployed ... A: It could be a little bit of both. But mostly b/c she's been hurt by past relationships. Then you ... | |
| How to tell his parents about my daughter | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a single mom with a 5 yr. old daughter from a previous marriage. My boyfriend and I have been ... A: I think that if you feel comfortable then maybe you could do it as a couple. Since he's now a part ... | |
| Concerns | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: My daughter who is 19 is dating, and actually engaged to a guy who is 23. I have a few concerns and ... A: I think you're right to have some concerns about this. First off they are very young to get married ... | |
| Marriage Issues | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: I am a deployed soldier who has been married for 4 yrs, and of these 4 yrs I have been deployed ... A: The major problem here seems to be a lack of communication on both parts. Especially hers where she ... | |
| Cybersex addict | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: in helping me I am 36 yrs, married, with a beautiful doting wife & 2 kids. I am currently living ... A: Sorry it's taken me so long to get back with you, my internet connection was down the entire day ... | |
| Devastated | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: .!! I ve been married for 1 and a half year now. It wasnt exactly a love marriage but me and my ... A: You sound like a very determine individual and a very strong woman indeed. So, if you ultimately ... | |
| problems with wife | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: Were going on 5 years marriage. I am so hopeless and depressed over our relationship. My wife is ... A: You know it doesn't have to be this way. You have choices in life that you have to make and ... | |
| sex and being together to much | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: I am pretty much the opposite of most men when it comes to loving and wanting to spend time with my ... A: I could've described your relationship as my very own. This is the case with my husband and I and ... | |
| Found my soulmate | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years. The first 5 years of my marriage were very difficult because my ... A: So what are you willing to do about this situation then? That's what you need to ask yourself here. ... | |
| Devastated | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: .!! I ve been married for 1 and a half year now. It wasnt exactly a love marriage but me and my ... A: The major problem in the marriage is that there's not good communication on his part. He doesn't ... | |
| Ex girlfriend | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: My wife has been looking up friends from her past on her facebook. I felt that it would be nice to ... A: I can totally understand how she (meaning your wife) has a problem with being friends with an ex. I ... | |
| Should we call it a day? | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend are both 27, met at 16 (first relationship for both of us) I had a late ... A: He doesn't have a job and he's either unwilling or unable to provide for his family, you have had on ... | |
| Good husband to Jerk | 5/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 17 yrs and have 3 children. I have always tried my best to be a great ... A: I can understand that you're getting frustrated by her lack of doing things and taking better care ... | |
| Wife problems | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: Me and my wife have been married for about a year and a half. After a total lack of communication ... A: What about marriage counseling to find out why she's feeling this way? Have you asked her how her ... | |
| Trust Issues | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 10 years, got married when I was 22 y/o, have 2 kids. About 2 years ... A: This hasn't been something you just started having problems with or have been feeling overnight. ... | |
| porn | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: Did porn terminate our marriage? I was not comfortable with porn but it seemed like over time that's ... A: You have to realize that this divorce wasn't your fault and it really was a blessing in disguise. ... | |
| Fat wife | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm an intelligent, attractive 230 lb woman whose husband always makes degrading comments about my ... A: You don't have to take that sort of abuse from him nor should you keep tolerating it. He's ... | |
| wifes ex-husband | 5/21/2009 |
| Q: I recently saw an e-mail from my wife ex to her about the way they used to be. since then I've ... A: You've already explained to her how you feel about this and you did the right thing to ask her about ... | |
| Wife paying child support | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I am getting married soon and my soon to be husband has a court ordered child support that is ... A: It is often a misconception that a spouse must pay child support for another spouse, and that's ... | |
| Is it abuse? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband tries to control everything in our marriage, we have been together for 19 years but it ... A: Yes, these are classic signs of an abuser. Abuse doesn't have to be only physical, it can be ... | |
| Am I messing everything up? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I am having some serious issues with my marriage and family life. Every argument my wife and I get ... A: I'm a product of divorced parents also. My parents divorced when I was about 7 and my sister was 5. ... | |
| Marriage after an Affair | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: Let me tell you a little about my self. I am 35 yo have two children 17, and 15 yo, I have been ... A: Adultery is the ultimate betrayal in a marriage. It makes you lose almost every ounce of trust and ... | |
| Happy husband trying to understand always unhappy wife | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: I'll make this as brief as possible. My wife has a history of anxiety and depression, to the point ... A: I have a child that's been diagnosed with bi-polar and let me tell you it's not always very easy to ... | |
| Re: Seperation | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: we had a small argument and went to bed fine but from the next day he started thinking and withdrew ... A: He could be going through some form of depression, from his actions that's what it really sounds ... | |
| Unwilling Third Party to Couple Disputes | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: What do you do when a (newish) spouse of a (old) friend complains to you about your friend? I'd ... A: You have very good points here. The next time someone asks for your thoughts or opinions on this, ... | |
| Husband and porn | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: Lets start from the beginning, In 07 my husband was deployed to Iraq, when he came home on mid tour ... A: He's addicted to the porn and the videos. Porn addiction is a legitimate obsession/addiction just ... | |
| Acceptance of wifes daughter/my adopted... | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: I married my high school love 4 years ago. We got married in our mid 30's after we both had ... A: I've been reading a fabulous and enlightening book (it can be life changing if you take it to heart ... | |
| Rocky Marriage | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over an year and we have no kids yet. Ours is a love ... A: If you feel that you can't live this way, then why do you continue to do this? You have choices in ... | |
| marriage | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: Should husband and wife be best firends? A: In the ideal situation, yes, they should be best friend, confidants, lovers, etc. It makes life a ... | |
| Acceptance of wifes daughter/my adopted... | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: I married my high school love 4 years ago. We got married in our mid 30's after we both had ... A: This child didn't ask to be brought into this world and certainly not into being a product of an ... | |
| advice | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: Good Morning! I'm looking for a bit of advice on my marriage. My husband recently moved out due to ... A: You have to be gentle yet firm with him. He has to know that although you love him that he can't ... | |
| Relationships/Marriage | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: Good evening, Iam wanting to ask a question. There is this man who i have known for 8+ years and i ... A: It's never a good idea to get involved with a married man, even if he's going through a divorce. ... | |
| husband hiding money | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 5 years, second time around for us both. I have recently discovered locked ... A: You have to figure out why he's doing this and why he's being so secretive by keeping a lot of ... | |
| gift | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ... A: I don't think you're wrong at all to feel this way, given the circumstances and how he's not that ... | |
| Desperate | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Do I still need to consider my ex-husband (who still lives with me because we have decided to give ... A: You need to find a way to get him out of the house and for good. Here in the USA, we have what's ... | |
| Don't know how to fix this marriage... | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: I may be wasting your time. I am just not sure there is a fix for all that is wrong in my marriage. ... A: What that man did would constitute as a type of sexual assault and/or sexual harassment. Since he ... | |
| Step Children | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: My problem is my husband is extremely angry with me for permitting my 17 and half year old son get ... A: He's being very rude and disrespectful of you be belittle and berate your judgement of what you're ... | |
| Husband Abandon's Marriage and Children | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 plus years. My husband has left the marital home (4th time) and keeps ... A: You can move to another state if you wish. However, if you eventually want to divorce, that will ... | |
| has wife really decided to quit | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: my wife was a sexually abused child and has always said she can not get over her past enough to be a ... A: It does seem that she's indeed going through a depression like you think. Her behavior is showing ... | |
| Depressed | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: I am Mimi from laos. I am a person who is always be sad since I met a married man, now we both love ... A: Why would you have to be sad just b/c you weren't his first wife. That doesn't matter, nor should ... | |
| Lost trust in wife, being lied to | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for almost 6 years and have two wonderful children and have just been floored and ... A: Trust and respect are the biggest things in a marriage if you don't have either, you don't have much ... | |
| Husband keeps on taking pictures of other women | 4/21/2009 |
| Q: I'm married to my husband for almost 6 1/2 months. My problem is that he keeps on taking pictures ... A: You're not wrong for feeling this way. His behavior is rude, inappropriate, disrespectful and ... | |
| unsupportive husband | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: i would like your thoughts on my situation .I am a married woman age 42 with 2 girls ,whose dad is ... A: No, I don't think you're wrong here at all. Your husband is acting very childish when he takes ... | |
| marriage and EMT class | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: I am 38 years old and went back to school to become an EMT. I work full time and have class 2 nights ... A: You certainly sound very busy and then on top of working FT, you're now going to school and having ... | |
| I need help please! | 4/19/2009 |
| Q: I am a mom of five wonderful kids and a husband that I love so much but has a addiction problem. He ... A: You can't keep doing this and living like this anymore, you deserve way better than what he's ... | |
| Wife wants her own space after 20 years | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: please please help, I have been married for 21 years this summer to a beautiful 43 year young woman ... A: It's sad and unfortunate when a marriage goes this way and you feel that you no longer have anything ... | |
| Wife wants her own space after 20 years | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: please please help, I have been married for 21 years this summer to a beautiful 43 year young woman ... A: I'm going to be brutally honest here with you and you may not like what I have to say, but I feel ... | |
| Husband Wife Relationship | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I'm married for 7 years now, we have 2 kids. My husband always love, care, resprect, ... A: It can make things difficult in a relationship and even in a marriage when you are of two different ... | |
| hello | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: plz now im in a relation with a girl she is with me in uni..faculty of medicine i gave her all my ... A: It's important that in a relationship that you still keep and have friends of your own. So that you ... | |
| will she change? | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: my wife always says she is overwhelmed with her job and home life. I cook, clean, do laundry, and ... A: She could have some form of depression. This can make a person have fatigue and be extremely tired ... | |
| Husband Wife Relationship | 4/12/2009 |
| Q: I'm married for 7 years now, we have 2 kids. My husband always love, care, resprect, ... A: Are you willing to get a divorce to be with this other man that you feel you're in love with? Can ... | |
| Debating Divorce | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I am 27 years old with two children, 6 and 2. Yesterday, I had an episode in which I basically ... A: I think that his profession might have a lot to do with the way he acts, his demeanor, his attitude, ... | |
| I want to end my marriage | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: I really need help with leaving my marriage and knowing that I will be ok. I've been married for 12 ... A: If you want to leave him then now is the time to do it. If you're afraid of how he'll react and ... | |
| Letting Go!!!! | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been thinking about having a good and understandable separation with my husband. But part of ... A: Alcoholism is an addiction and an illness that can't be controlled by a person. That's why an ... | |
| Marriage | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband. He's a good man, a great daddy to our 3 year old. We've had a few "BIG" problems, ... A: He obviously has a huge problem with porn and fantasies as you already stated. He might even be ... | |
| Should I ask for a separation, I'm petrified to ruin my family | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years and have 4 children, 6 and under. Over the last few ... A: If you listen closely to what he's doing and saying to you that in itself speaks volumes. He's ... | |
| dealing with his and my children | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: Briefly, I am remarried, we both have kids. My eldest daughter is 15, almost 16. My husband (her ... A: He might not be willing to see his short comings with his own children, and that he can be lax on ... | |
| Telling or not telling husband about the Divorce papers | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 15 years. I told my husband that I went to a lawyer. He was surprised. He said ... A: It depends on how you think he'll react. If you're still living in the marital home with him and ... | |
| Family & second husband | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 21 + years, my husband is very demanding and controlling. I have asked for ... A: It's not about a wife being submissive to her husband, rather about both caring for each other and ... | |
| ex wife from husbands past is revisited | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: Their marriage was short and ended horribly with her cheating and having another mans baby while he ... A: Let's give him the benefit of doubt and say he meant well, and that somehow he can realize that he ... | |
| why husbands wants his wife to cheat and gets excited | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to a man for 20 years and with him for a total of 22 years. Recently we have ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| withdrawal of affection,holding a grudge | 3/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 20, has decided for the last 2 years to withhold all affection and does not feel he ... A: If you can't think of or even remember anything that you've done that would've offended him so bad, ... | |
| emotioal divorce | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I feel liked I've been divorced emotionally.I've been married almost 4yrs. He's 57,I'm 41. He always ... A: I think that you might just be wasting your time, breath and energy. And I know that's probably not ... | |
| Trying to move on | 3/19/2009 |
| Q: After 20yrs of marriage and 4 kids, my husband walked out. Said he wasn't in love with me ... A: My ex did the same thing with me when I divorced him. He had cheated on me in the past and we had a ... | |
| emotioal divorce | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I feel liked I've been divorced emotionally.I've been married almost 4yrs. He's 57,I'm 41. He always ... A: Have you honestly told him that it feels like your emotionally divorced from him? If not, then ... | |
| No sex marriage | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I think I need someone else's opinion on my issue as I am unable to talk about it with any of my ... A: I can certainly understand where you're coming from. Everyone needs love, attention, affection and ... | |
| Help with marriage | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 7 and 1/2 yrs and together for 8 yrs. we have 2 kids (7 and almost 3yrs old) My ... A: I can totally relate to wanting and insisting on being at home to raise your children. I've been a ... | |
| verbal/mental abuse & unfaithfulness | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: Both of us have brought negative things to our marriage of 19 years. We dated for 6 years prior to ... A: Yes, divorce is an ugly thing, however sometimes it's a necessary evil to do. I've been there and ... | |
| Deal with possible cheating wife. | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for almost 12 years and everything has been wonderful until last ... A: How dare this counselor put blame on you! This all started b/c your wife wanted attention from some ... | |
| Should I have told him to go? | 3/17/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 11 years and father of our 2 girls has been having contact (e-mail, facebook, phone, ... A: You acted in the heat of the moment, as we all can do given a situation such as this. I know I ... | |
| he says i ask to many questions | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: my husband is 40 and i am 30 we have been together for 12 years and and recently hwe have been ... A: You are doing this b/c you have a low self-esteem, low self-worth, etc. Only you can fix this, but ... | |
| emotioal affairs | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: When my dad pasted away 2 yrs ago my huband was of no support,guess he thought it was to much for ... A: If he's mentally unstable and emotionally disturbed, then he did you a favor by leaving you when he ... | |
| feeling very rejected | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: my question is what can I do about my fear of initiating sex with the man I love so very much? Is it ... A: Okay, first things first here. You have to think of yourself and get to where you love and can ... | |
| Not very expressive | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: My father left when I was two and my stepfather started messing with me (sexually)when I was about ... A: You've been through a lot in life. And when you get to feeling this way you feel you can't talk to ... | |
| husband without boundaries | 3/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a situation with my husband, 9 years living together, married only 4 yrs ago. We both were ... A: You really are caught between a rock and hard spot aren't you?! You can't keep going on like this ... | |
| Adult Stepchildren | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: I have been married almost 3 yrs (2nd marriage) This is my husband's 4th marriage. His children are ... A: You may not like what I'm about to say, but I feel compelled to be completely honest with you. And ... | |
| marriage/divorce | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 6 years. We have 2 young boys and he has a daughter ... A: You're right he's acting this way for a reason, and that only he knows as to why. He's trying to ... | |
| The decision to stay in a relationship | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I am 32 years old, successful professional, married for 4 years with a woman I been with for 9 ... A: So are you basically saying you love her, your attracted to her, she's your best friend, but your ... | |
| lots of marital problems | 3/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 21 years, and have two teenage children; the youngest will go to college ... A: Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you. We had a family emergency a couple of days ago with ... | |
| Re: texing | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband has stopped drinking now for 1 year. He meet this lady at one of the meeting. She is ... A: I'm presuming you meant a meeting of AA (the support group)? As to where they met. If so, then yes, ... | |
| Marriage | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: I love this person from last 12 years. When our affair started we were too young and thought that ... A: I completely can understand the culture thing with parents being a huge influence on your life b/c ... | |
| What to do about my husband | 3/1/2009 |
| Q: MY husband and I have been seperated for 2years now. We keep trying to work it out but it does not ... A: This could be pretty tricky. I would first advice you to go to your nearest police station where ... | |
| Stressed, husband does not share responsibilities equally | 2/28/2009 |
| Q: I've been married since my first year of college and am at a point where I've begun to fantasize ... A: I can definitely see how you're totally getting burned out by doing everything while he doesn't do ... | |
| Suspicious Husband | 2/25/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 12 years now, and we have 3 children together. For the most part we ... A: First thing I would suggest to you is to try and sit down with him and to have a serious heart to ... | |
| is he gay~? | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married nearly 18 years. My husband was okish in bed for the first 6 months but it was ... A: He very well could be gay. I have a gay brother who knowingly got married when he was gay to a ... | |
| childlessness | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I've been married almost 14 years. Eight years ago my husband had early stage cancer. A few years ... A: I can't say that I know what you're going through b/c I simply don't. But I can offer you some ... | |
| Married but falling for another man | 2/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years with 3 children 4, 6 and 8. I have recently come into a situation I ... A: It's not a good idea to start up anything with this former flame, besides a strictly platonic ... | |
| So depressed, messed up. Don't know who the father is? | 2/20/2009 |
| Q: Hey. I hope that maybe you could offer me some good advice. I'm very embarrassed and ashamed to even ... A: First off, stop being so hard on yourself, you're not a horrible person, you're not being selfish ... | |
| Stay or Go | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: A litte long sorry. We have been together for 20 yrs married for 14. When we met, we were always ... A: I grew up in a household where my father was a raging alcoholic, as were his parents, all his ... | |
| Is my marriage over? | 2/15/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 18 years. It's been a pretty good marriage, and he has been ... A: There is a 50-50 chance that it really could go either way. Don't give up hope just yet though. If ... | |
| At my end and dont know what to do about my husband | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: I am 26 yrs old and have been with my husband for almost 9 yrs. We will celebrate our 3 yr marriage ... A: It sounds like he very well could be an alcoholic and he just doesn't know it. When a person can't ... | |
| a complicated marriage | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: , and thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am 25, and my husband is 31. We have ... A: He has some things that are going against him right now, that are contributing to the problems in ... | |
| Masterbation | 2/7/2009 |
| Q: . i used to masturbate a lot did fingering as well now i heard from my boyfriend that it is not good ... A: The elasticity of the vagina will vary from woman to woman. Some women have bigger vagina holes ... | |
| Masterbation | 2/6/2009 |
| Q: . i used to masturbate a lot did fingering as well now i heard from my boyfriend that it is not good ... A: If you somehow damaged yourself internally you would only be able to tell that by visiting a doctor ... | |
| a complicated marriage | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: , and thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am 25, and my husband is 31. We have ... A: I think the biggest problem here is communication between you and your husband. You don't really ... | |
| uncertain feelings | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: I don't know what to do about the feelings I have for my husband. Or the lack of feelings I have. We ... A: These feelings are totally normal to experience when you're going through a rough time in a ... | |
| How to know when it is time to end a relationship | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 21 years. I have 2 children ages 9 and 7. My husband has been unemployed ... A: That's good that he's putting forth the effort right now. But, yes, you should be very wary that ... | |
| Inappropiate actions | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my wife now for 20 years. For 13 of the years we have been ... A: Sure, your past can definitely have an influence and make you act out in the way you have, but you ... | |
| How to know when it is time to end a relationship | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 21 years. I have 2 children ages 9 and 7. My husband has been unemployed ... A: Where has all this money been going? Has he even told you that? Either way, he's a liar and he's ... | |
| No Chemistry | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I am in desperate help of a good advice.My story begins almost 10 years ago when I married my ... A: You may not like what I'm about to say, but I feel compelled to be frank and very honest with you ... | |
| Marriage in Crisis | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 2 years and we have 3 children (23, 21, and 19). Here ... A: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it really sounds like your hunch is probably right (dead on ... | |
| marital help | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: Been married 10yrs, together 16yrs, 2 kids (10&7), been a very happy marriage with little conflict. ... A: You have to begin preparing yourself for the very real fact that she might be telling you the truth. ... | |
| Unhappy Marriage | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 20 yrs. We have one son that is 18yrs old. I met my husband when ... A: What do you want out of all this? Do you want to divorce him and move on with your life w/o him in ... | |
| What is a 'realistic' marriage? | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Some of the times have been very happy ones. We ... A: So maybe you are overly sensitive at time, who can't be sometimes, right?! Big deal. That isn't ... | |
| Marriage Problems | 1/23/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 5 years. In October, we would have been together 10 years. My husband cheated, ... A: You have to take matters into your own hands. What do YOU want to do about this? Do you want to ... | |
| Forced to do what I said I didn't want! | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I remarried 4 years ago. I had been married once before for 22 years. I was single for six years ... A: You may not like what I'm about to say, but I'm going to say it anyway, b/c I feel very compelled to ... | |
| What is a 'realistic' marriage? | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Some of the times have been very happy ones. We ... A: It could be just how he is and set in his ways. He could feel this way for a number of reasons. ... | |
| Craving attention | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: I am a 35yr old guy with 2 kids by different mothers, I had my daughter when I was 18 and her mom ... A: I feel I need to be very frank and honest with you. First off you need to stop placing and going to ... | |
| What is a 'realistic' marriage? | 1/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Some of the times have been very happy ones. We ... A: Sometimes those things that you described just aren't enough, well, besides to just get by and ... | |
| Marriage Problems | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 5 years. In October, we would have been together 10 years. My husband cheated, ... A: You already know that this is an abusive and an unhealthy, unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. ... | |
| My wife is accusing me of control after affair | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 7 years and have been together a total of 10 years. This past summer ... A: What matters the most here is that you've both agreed to work on it. And that you are able to ... | |
| i am not happy in my marriage | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: This week i have been married to the same man for 21 years. We have 2 teens, girl-16, boy-17. I am ... A: He's all that you've ever known, so, of course, it's going to be hard to make the decision to ... | |
| my life | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: im a 31 yr old woman with 3 children ,im a single mum and have been for 4 yrs after my partner ... A: He can't expect you to pick up and move to where he's at just b/c his ex doesn't want him to move 20 ... | |
| mistrust. | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: I am a 36 yr old male in Canada. I am with a women for 6 years who is 50..about 6 yrs ago i went ... A: It sounds like your girlfriend is having jealousy issues due to the problems that your ex is causing ... | |
| My wife contacts an ex boyfriend | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: me and my wife have had ups and downs in our relationship. We dated for two years with a short break ... A: You can't make her do something she refuses to do, which is to work on herself and/or the marriage. ... | |
| My wife is accusing me of control after affair | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 7 years and have been together a total of 10 years. This past summer ... A: I'm not here to take sides or to judge either one of you, but rather to give you a fair and unbiased ... | |
| My wife is accusing me of control after affair | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married 7 years and have been together a total of 10 years. This past summer ... A: Since she cheated this has most likely made you insecure about yourself and made you feel a little ... | |
| sex | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: i had my first child at 21 with my husband before our pregnancy we drank alot and i was very into ... A: The past seems to still be pretty traumatic to you given all that you went through with the rape and ... | |
| My wife contacts an ex boyfriend | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: me and my wife have had ups and downs in our relationship. We dated for two years with a short break ... A: It's good that you actually sat down and talked about the current problems in the marriage. That's ... | |
| What do I do? | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been best friends with Bryan for seven years. We started dating when we met, and I wasn't ... A: No reactions whatsoever? What did his body language say? Was it one of disinterest, one of ... | |
| What's up with my wife? | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: Can you please give me some insight. My wife and I have been married for just over two years. We ... A: Maybe this business venture was more than she could handle and thus why she's reacting this way, b/c ... | |
| Affair/Divorce | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: We are married for almost 18 years and we have two children 9 & 7. Seven years ago my husband and I ... A: You know that this isn't about the business adventure with your sister, right?! Not at all. Sure ... | |
| wife drinking promblem | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: my wife i feel has a drinking problems she has to go get waste about once a month.startes right ... A: Yes, she does have a drinking problem when she goes out and gets drunk all the. That means she's ... | |
| Menopause | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: Kessler My wife & I have been married for 28 years and she is now going through symptoms of ... A: It seems as though it's not just all the Menopause that's wrong with her. But perhaps your very ... | |
| Marriage | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: my wife and I been together for 6 years. We have a year old kid. She has cheated twice in the past ... A: She's young and immature so this is why she's acting out by cheating, not fully being able to commit ... | |
| Does he want out? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Well, my husband and I have been married for about 16 years and we have two children,a 16 year old ... A: It's not all your fault at all. But you do share a portion of the reason he's turned out this way. ... | |
| does this constitute psychological abuse? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you because I am currently separated from my husband of 10 years, he left about 4 ... A: I think this is probably pretty text book on what a psychologist does. After all they are trying to ... | |
| Husband posting photos on adult sites | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Can you share some advice? My first year of marriage was a big adjustment - I was working a lot of ... A: It sounds as though he's got a serious problem or even addiction to porn and posting pictures of ... | |
| What do I do? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been best friends with Bryan for seven years. We started dating when we met, and I wasn't ... A: Why would he bother to have the time, money and effort to marry you if he didn't love you and return ... | |
| Does he want out? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: Well, my husband and I have been married for about 16 years and we have two children,a 16 year old ... A: The problem lies with you admitting to spoiling him. He probably feels that he either doesn't have ... | |
| does this constitute psychological abuse? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you because I am currently separated from my husband of 10 years, he left about 4 ... A: He's clearly playing mind games with you and he's apparently gotten very good at it. He's trying to ... | |
| Separation from husband | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married 14 years, with 13 year-old daughter. We have lots in common, but ... A: A separation isn't always a bad thing. It can do one of two things though. A) It'll bring you ... | |
| Wife Lying and Deceitful | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: Recently I found out my wife was meeting with another married man in secret for seven months for ... A: She still committing adultery by Christian standards (I'm a Christian also). Even though it's not ... | |
| Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 17 years. He has always tried to get close to my friends, ... A: He keeps doing this b/c he knows that you'll continue to put up with his BS and the games he plays. ... | |
| Must I divorce my husband? | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: I told my husband of two years last night, that I want a divorce. His response…silence. I am 28, ... A: No, it's not too much to ask for, for your husband to find you desirable and to have some passion in ... | |
| couples expenses for house hold | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: "i got a question,hmm ok i am married since almost 2 years now and i live in a another state since ... A: You're situation is a bit unusual given that you and your wife live in two separate states due to ... | |
| Wife Lying and Deceitful | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: Recently I found out my wife was meeting with another married man in secret for seven months for ... A: So I presume that she's not having a physical affair with this man, right? Please correct me if I'm ... | |
| He is stonewalling | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: "Recently, an issue arose where I was accused of making a sexual advance toward a man (17yr old) ... A: He's being very unfair to you and just down right nasty to take the money away from you, your credit ... | |
| Do I call it quits now? | 12/31/2008 |
| Q: I am at wits end with my fiance. We are meant to be getting married in one month. And right now, I ... A: Marrying him in a month isn't going to make the current problem go away, in fact, it'll only magnify ... | |
| Lost and Unsure | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for a year and a half but I have only been present at home for ... A: Since it was just a few days ago that you came clean to her and she found out you'd lied to her. ... | |
| Walking away from alcoholic husband | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 2 years, married for one. Since the begining of our relationship I ... A: You did the right thing by walking away. He's a raging alcoholic and he's clearly out of control ... | |
| divorce! | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: I have only been married for 3.5 years. I met my husband at work, shortly before my father passed ... A: You want out and now is the time, in fact, the sooner the better. Taking the first step in leaving ... | |
| Is it time to just go? Don't have strong feelings for my wife. | 12/11/2008 |
| Q: it's most appreciated. I'm not really sure what I expect here, but I'd really value your opinion. I ... A: I think you have a few issues going on here. A) Your depression is the biggest issue for you. ... | |
| He's gone. | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I married ten years ago. We have four kids. In the last year or so he became ... A: Are you wanting to move on w/o him in your life and to finally separate and divorce? If so, then a ... | |
| Marriage, Divorce and Dating | 12/5/2008 |
| Q: I believe the man I've been dating 3 months while overseas is currently going through a divorce (no ... A: First thing he needs to be completely honest with you about his marital status, even if he is ... | |
| No Support at Home! | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a 25 year old mother of an 8 month old and I'm having lots of problems in my relationship with ... A: It's just a feeling that you just "know" in your heart of heart, when you are so done you can't do ... | |
| Marriage | 11/29/2008 |
| Q: My wife & I will be married 30 years this January, our inside joke has always been that we are ... A: Your wife sounds like she's going through a rough time and a very severe bout of depression. She's ... | |
| My Marriage | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: my name is Sarah and I am 22. I just got married 6 months ago to a man that i have been with for 3 ... A: I don't know that you could just "fix" him if he has these internal urges and is very curious about ... | |
| wife unhappy with my kids and wants divorce | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: My wife and i met a little over 9yrs ago. She and i each have 3 children from previous ... A: She's acting this way for a reason. You have to get to the bottom of this and what's influencing ... | |
| marriage relatioship | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, in the past, about a month and a half back i emailed dr gladu, about a situation I was ... A: There's absolutely nothing wrong with you being vulnerable and needing a little extra reassurance ... | |
| Is my marriage over? | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: I have no where else to turn to, I am hoping you can help. I am 23 years old i have a almost 6 year ... A: Sometime a man can be a lousy father, spouse, etc. I know that med school can be very demanding and ... | |
| Married and Lonely | 11/20/2008 |
| Q: Should I stay or should I go? I have been married to my husband for almost 5 years. Once married, ... A: From what you've described. You clearly aren't happy at all with him and the marriage and haven't ... | |
| Unfaithfull wife | 11/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 15 years and together for about 20 years,about 7 years ago she ... A: You may never "catch" her in the act of cheating with him. So you don't really need much proof to ... | |
| SEPERATION | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: When we were married for 1 year he had cheated on me. I was hurt but have learned to forgive him and ... A: I think what he means by wanting you back to the "old you" when you first got married, was he wants ... | |
| Female-led Relationship / Wife -led Marriage | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: On two occasions you have advised me on FLR; many thanks. Now I am in a very happy wife-led ... A: Why thank you very much for the very nice comments, and I'm happy to have helped give you advice on ... | |
| marriage relatioship | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, in the past, about a month and a half back i emailed dr gladu, about a situation I was ... A: If you don't trust her and you think something is still going on behind your back, then your ... | |
| relationship | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: I will start out by telling you I married my husband at 17 and he was 20. He was my second partner. ... A: I think you're right that he has a serious problem and addiction to porn. If he hasn't stopped by ... | |
| Marriage with long separation | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: Ok, lets start from as close to the beginning as i can. We've been together for 6 years now. We have ... A: How much longer are you going to be deployed? For however long it is, you should try to save the ... | |
| Is something wrong with my thinking? | 11/7/2008 |
| Q: My wife directs a choir every Thursday night. After choir she almost always goes over to a couples ... A: You're absolutely right, her actions aren't acceptable at all. If she's ignoring your wants, needs, ... | |
| fiancee doesnot want to spend anything on me | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I will be getting married to my boy friend (who i know for just 2 months) shortly in a months time ... A: No, this definitely isn't normal for him to be acting like this and being insistent that you repay ... | |
| Is something wrong with my thinking? | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: My wife directs a choir every Thursday night. After choir she almost always goes over to a couples ... A: As you already said she probably really doesn't care then, if she'll act this way and continue to do ... | |
| Wife and male friend correspondence | 11/5/2008 |
| Q: slide that I shouldn't. (In other words, I am really torn.) My wife and her old personal trainer ... A: I don't think you're overreacting at all. If some woman was coming on to my husband and he didn't ... | |
| my wife and step children | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: Myself and my wife have been married for 7 years, together for 8 years, she has 2 children from her ... A: No, you're not necessarily wrong for feeling this way. Besides you can't help how you feel about ... | |
| Female Led Relationships | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: I am in an FLR and my wife and I have two sons. My wife has made it clear that she does not want our ... A: If your sons don't seem opposed to this and aren't really bothered by this, then it shouldn't have a ... | |
| Is something wrong with my thinking? | 11/3/2008 |
| Q: My wife directs a choir every Thursday night. After choir she almost always goes over to a couples ... A: No, I don't think that there is anything wrong with your thinking here. It seems that this really ... | |
| She is so close to her ex and I don't understand why | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I ... A: I think I've talked to you about this before. I hope I'm not mistaken here, but everything you've ... | |
| Jealousy!! | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I don't know how to start this but I will give it a shot. Me and my husband have been married for ... A: You may not want to hear this, but I have to say, I have a real problem believing that nothing went ... | |
| Does my wife still want to be with me? | 11/1/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married now for a couple months past a year. Unfortunately, I spent 7 of ... A: There seems like there really has to be more to this story. Her actions sound like a person that's ... | |
| Men! | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: my name is destiny and I am 19.I am currently engaged to a guy named Jim who is 24. I also have a ... A: He's being abusive to you, yes, verbally, mentally, physically and emotionally, all of the above. ... | |
| wife stepping out | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: last year my wife(37)took a facination with a 18 year old boy which lead to here unfaithfulness to ... A: Actually all of these thoughts and feelings are normal and to be expected when going through the ... | |
| My husband is living with the other woman | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: After 28 years of marriage, i found out 2 months ago that my husband was having an affair for the ... A: The way you're reacting is pretty normal. It's a confusing time and you're probably still in shock ... | |
| How do I end it? | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: and thank you for reading my question... Im 37 with 3 small children. Im on my second marriage. My ... A: You first have to make the decision to leave him once and for all, and then take some initiative and ... | |
| what to do | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: WHAT TO DO WHEN MY HUSBAND HAS VISITATION DAY TO SEE HIS DAUGHTERS AND HIS DAUGHTERS DON'T WANT TO ... A: This is something that you and your husband need to sit down and discuss together. You need to come ... | |
| Do I love my husband? | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: My husband and i are married for 6 years now, he is 34 and i an 26 and we have 2 beautiful boys. ... A: I can't tell you how you feel about your husband or even if you're still in love with him. B/c only ... | |
| Marriage | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: as you can see that I am in need of some serious answers. My marriage is not going anywhere mainly ... A: If you don't love her and you never really have and you're just not happy. Then why do you keep ... | |
| Planning To Leave a 2nd Time | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: Let's get to it. The stats: Married almost 10 yrs. Together for the same. I am 30 he is 37. 3 ... A: It sounds like you have a very good plan of action in place. It's very important that once you've ... | |
| Marriage | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: I guess I really don't know where to begin other than the beginning... My husband and I have been ... A: The issue of having children can certainly be a drop dead deal breaker in a marriage. He doesn't ... | |
| Marriage/Money/In-Laws | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: My issue is kinda long, but it is really bothering me. To make a long story short....Basically, my ... A: No, you're not overreacting at all. You have every right to be upset over what she did. Although ... | |
| Very lost and very hurt please help. | 10/13/2008 |
| Q: Im not good at asking questions, but I will give you the senario as accurately as possible. I have ... A: The first clue should've been a red flag by her being married two previous times, after all ppl ... | |
| Courage to Leave | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my fiance now for a year and nine months. It's been extremely ... A: That's absolutely horrible that you had to experience something of that magnitude. However, that ... | |
| I love my husband but our sex life is shakey | 10/12/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I dated for 3 1/2 years before we got married a few months ago. I am deeply in love ... A: I've heard this complaint so many times after a couple has been married. I'm not really sure why ... | |
| What should I do? | 10/11/2008 |
| Q: I really like all the great answers you gave, but just one more, very important. When I do ask her ... A: This is a huge problem for you, I can imagine. She has to do something about this or she's going to ... | |
| Fiancee considers ex as family instead of friend | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Hey its me again. About the last question you answered is really helpful. One more question. Do we ... A: It certainly might be very beneficial for both of you to go see a marriage counselor (since you plan ... | |
| Planning To Leave a 2nd Time | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Let's get to it. The stats: Married almost 10 yrs. Together for the same. I am 30 he is 37. 3 ... A: I suppose you just have to grin and bear it until you can proceed with the divorce. Until then ... | |
| dont know what else to do | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: I am at my wits end. I've been married for 3 1/2 years and throught these years I have gone through ... A: You are very right to feel this way. A husband is supposed to love, honor and cherish his wife. ... | |
| Fiancee considers ex as family instead of friend | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Hey, its me again. Thanks for helping Dr. Kessler, if I may call you that. Another question I need ... A: If she got involved with him when she was young, she honestly might not know any better, and still ... | |
| My husband spends zero time with me. | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: I love my husband with all my heart. We are newly wed and very much in love, but I feel like he has ... A: It sounds like since this injury he's become a bit more obsessed with playing the games and being on ... | |
| Immature Marriage | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: I am a 28-year-old woman, married for seven years (together for ten) with three small children. ... A: It's really different for everyone. I married my first husband very young and started a family very ... | |
| marriage break up | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 26 years, yes, some up and downs but mostly good. On Sept 12th I found out ... A: Your reaction is very common place when adultery happens or a separation comes about in a marriage. ... | |
| Need some advice | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my wife for about 2 yrs, we've been married since may and everything was going fine ... A: I think that first you should ask her what she'd like for you to do. And if she says yes, to come ... | |
| Need some advice | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my wife for about 2 yrs, we've been married since may and everything was going fine ... A: As a person who can certainly understand what your wife is going through, you do need to give her ... | |
| separated, sad | 10/1/2008 |
| Q: my wife and i have been separated for 3 months now. we have been married for 13 1/2 years. we have 4 ... A: The only way to move forward is for both of you to have some sort of closure to the past. So it ... | |
| justify leaving husband | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 10 years we have a 9 yr old as well as my previous 2 ... A: It's not an easy decision to leave a spouse. You've done everything within your power to try and ... | |
| How can I make myself stay? | 9/28/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 3 years now, but we have been together for a total of 4 1/2 ... A: If you can't stand him, and don't want to be in this marriage anymore, plus he treats you so badly, ... | |
| married, separated, help | 9/23/2008 |
| Q: my wife moved out june 20th after i relapsed from sobriety on may 19th. i had a beer after mowing my ... A: Yes, it is very encouraging. All you can really do is to go with the flow and to take it one day at ... | |
| married, separated, help | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: my wife moved out june 20th after i relapsed from sobriety on may 19th. i had a beer after mowing my ... A: No, it's not a bad idea to keep seeing her. Just b/c you're separated that doesn't mean you can't ... | |
| Massage parlour | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: we enjoy watching porn together and we like the girl on girl and my wife has a fantasy about bieing ... A: Boston~ When you invite a third person into a relationship you're only asking for trouble to ... | |
| married, separated, help | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: my wife moved out june 20th after i relapsed from sobriety on may 19th. i had a beer after mowing my ... A: I speak as the product of an alcoholic father, whom I grew up my whole life with him being one. It ... | |
| Husband is unhappy. "you can't put a price tag on happiness" | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. He is 41 and I am 40. We have 2 beautiful ... A: He's obviously angry and bitter at something in the marriage and he's taking it out on you. He grew ... | |
| wife walked out | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: Just over six days ago my wife decided to walk out on our marriage. The only thing I can get out of ... A: There's seems to be much more here than what she's claiming is the problem. Someone just doesn't up ... | |
| I would like more sex please... | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: Hullo, First of all I would like to thank you for the time you’ve taken to read my letter. I’ve ... A: You need to sit down with your wife and have a very serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs ... | |
| wife-led marriage | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: Many thanks Madam Kessler for clearing my doubts about learning ladies' hair-dressing,beauty therapy ... A: I don't think it's necessary or it's that normal to bow down to your wife in a wife-led ... | |
| no sex in marriage. | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: please help me.this is a honest question. Iam 35 and my wife is 26.we have a 5 year old ... A: You need to sit down with your wife and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to ... | |
| Does my husband just want out of our marriage? | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over eight years and have two sons. My concern has to do with ... A: He could just be stubborn and set in his ways and therefore he's unwilling to change or to try to ... | |
| marriage | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been split up for about a month and a half. We have a son together and he is 5 ... A: Maybe she wanted to see if she could date and be with another man besides you. Some ppl try to move ... | |
| problem with husband | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: i am married for 3 years with two kids.my husband is a resident doctor. the problem is he is too ... A: If he's being self-centered then that's probably a lot of the problem right there. When a person is ... | |
| wife does not like haveing sex at all | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I have beem married to my wife for 9yrs all of a sudden she does not want to have sex anymore we ... A: You have to get to the bottom of why she's not having sex with you. After all she's doing this and ... | |
| child support | 9/11/2008 |
| Q: if someone owes back child support and they get re-married is the new husband/wife responsible for ... A: No, the spouse isn't responsible for the child. The child has nothing to do with the new spouse. ... | |
| marriage | 9/10/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 11 years. He recently started having an affair. he has admitted to ... A: Maybe he tells ppl that so that he doesn't have to really explain himself to them, of the current ... | |
| wife stepping out | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: I have asked several questions about the affair itself and you have been really helpful, Thank You! ... A: You need to set aside a time when both of you can just a have a good heart to heart talk. Don't do ... | |
| why does my ex husband hate me so much after 28 yrs of marriage? | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: I was married for 28 yrs when my ex just walked out. He became the most dishonest man during the ... A: This isn't about you at all, you know that right. Can you see that he's unhappy with himself and ... | |
| Stay or go? | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 7 years. We have a 19 month old and I am 3 months pregnant. My husband ... A: He clearly has some issues still. Otherwise, he wouldn't be stupidly contacting this woman (and so ... | |
| problems in marriage. | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: well to make it short i was spending on me and my husbands credit card well its in my name but he ... A: He has a right to be angry at you b/c you lied to him by withholding the credit card debt from him. ... | |
| Female-led Relationships (FLRs) | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I am an accountant who love FLRs. When I was 16, I was determined to be an obedient servant for the ... A: It's perfectly fine for a man to be a hair dresser (although generally it's the opinion that a male ... | |
| Re: What should I naturally be able to expect from my spouse | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Kessler: I am married to an alcoholic that has been a dry drunk for well over a decade, ... A: You need to be open, honest and up front with him about what you expect of him. You need to sit ... | |
| Am I being naiive? | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I met a guy in high school when I moved to a new state. We clicked immediately. Unfortunately he ... A: Move on and forget him! He's playing mind games with you. Maybe it's a combination of him afraid ... | |
| Size Deosn't Matter | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together almost nine years. I keep thinking that we're having that whole ... A: Of course, that's going to be his response! Most men do not like to admit when they are wrong. And ... | |
| do I try to hold on or try to better MY life while I am still young | 8/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for three years and with my husband for 7years we have a three year old son and ... A: What do you want, need, desire, deserve and expect in this marriage? You need to sit down and have ... | |
| What is a normal marriage? | 8/26/2008 |
| Q: (I just asked you a question previous to this) How much fighting is normal? What are the normal ups ... A: Normal doesn't really exist when it comes to arguing, b/c it really depends on a multitude of ... | |
| How To Stop Baby Talk? | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband speaks in a high pitched, breathy baby talk to me, and when I've confronted him about it ... A: He needs to hear how he sounds and how childish and immature it is when he does this. The only ... | |
| wife stepping out | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: last year my wife(37)took a facination with a 18 year old boy which lead to here unfaithfulness to ... A: Yes, you should definitely confront her on how this is making you feel. The least she owes you is ... | |
| The love marriage, is there still love left in it? | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I have read and appreciated a lot of your helpful answers, and you seemed the right person to help ... A: Your wife has a serious anger issue here. She has no right to put her hands on you in anger, and to ... | |
| wife stepping out | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: last year my wife(37)took a facination with a 18 year old boy which lead to here unfaithfulness to ... A: Your wife should take the blame for this b/c she's the one that chose to go outside the marriage and ... | |
| Size Deosn't Matter | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together almost nine years. I keep thinking that we're having that whole ... A: You do know that this isn't about your past at all. It's about him. Even though you were joking ... | |
| Wife falling out of love | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old boy and a 21 day old girl. We were ... A: I had a sneaking suspicion that there very well could've been someone else. I didn't want to just ... | |
| My husband accuses me of cheating | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together since I was 14 and he was 17. We have been together for almost ... A: The first reaction that comes to mind is that he's possibly being unfaithful to you. My ex-husband ... | |
| My Feelings Don't Matter | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: My fiancee and I have been dating for a little over a year. We're getting married in 6 weeks. I ... A: That's good to hear he's got some compassion for you, that's quite a relief to hear. He still seems ... | |
| Wife falling out of love | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old boy and a 21 day old girl. We were ... A: She obviously has a very low self-esteem right now. Otherwise, she wouldn't need almost constant ... | |
| IS emailing cheating? | 8/20/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been together for almost five years. We go married 2 years ago... MOst of our ... A: He's obviously up to no good b/c otherwise he wouldn't be doing this behind your back. He's being ... | |
| My Feelings Don't Matter | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: My fiancee and I have been dating for a little over a year. We're getting married in 6 weeks. I ... A: His problem is that he lacks compassion and caring abilities. With his mother abandoning him, this ... | |
| I and my wife have O+ blood group. Will it contribute to any problem to get pregnant of my wife ? | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I and my wife have O+ blood group. Will it contribute to any problem with our marriage or to get ... A: There shouldn't be any issue with this regarding the marriage or getting pregnant, just b/c you ... | |
| What do I do now? | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I am 35 years old and my wife is 34. My wife and I had been married for 15 years and have 2 ... A: That's true and it's all going to be a process that you have to go through with something of this ... | |
| What do I do now? | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I am 35 years old and my wife is 34. My wife and I had been married for 15 years and have 2 ... A: You have to move on with your life, it's really for the best. You can't make her do something she's ... | |
| going through divorce | 8/17/2008 |
| Q: My soon to be ex-wife wants to leave the state in which we live to move close to her family. The ... A: As long as you're still legally married then she can freely leave the state and move (and vice ... | |
| How do I get over the hatred I have for my ex that cheated | 8/15/2008 |
| Q: After 27 years (of what I thought was a good marriage)my "now ex" traveled to Brazil "on business" ... A: It's a process that you have to go through. What I mean by this is you have to deal with his ... | |
| relationship whoas | 8/15/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for 12 years, my husband is 44 yrs. and I am 37 yrs.(which causes generation ... A: Where do I even start. My first thought (as a Christian, myself) is to turn a lot of your problems, ... | |
| Wife falling out of love | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old boy and a 21 day old girl. We were ... A: Have you asked her why she's feeling this way. She has to know why and when this started. Are you ... | |
| Gaining trust back from my wife | 8/12/2008 |
| Q: I live in Maui Hawaii, and I'm 30 years old, married for 2 years. My wife is my high school sweet ... A: I can see the first time you doing this to surprise your wife, etc. I mean the thought and ... | |
| infidelity | 8/10/2008 |
| Q: where do start? i have been with my wife for 20 years and throughout the marriage we have not had a ... A: A person is unfaithful for a reason, usually it's b/c there is something lacking in the marriage, ... | |
| Marriage Problems | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years and have 3 children ages 3, 6 and 8. I have been in a marriage of ... A: You have to do one or the other. A) You stay with him and you keep enduring all that you've been ... | |
| What can I do to bring him around? | 8/8/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. He is divorced with 2 girls and doesn't wish to ... A: Maybe he's afraid of being hurt again. Just a guess though. It might be good to take a break from ... | |
| Boyfriend pulled away after divorce was final | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: I've been seeing this guy who was a friend of mine for about 2 1/2 years... We both had ... A: He's pining for his ex-wife and you're playing second fiddle to her. That's not fair to you at all. ... | |
| My Marriage | 8/2/2008 |
| Q: I believe I have asked your opinion before. Things haven't changed to much. My husband says he ... A: This isn't a marriage anymore, it's like you're now just roommates and nothing more. By his actions ... | |
| More Info for last question | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: By the way, it might be helpful to know our ages and the kids'. I am 27 and my husband is 28. My ... A: We all have problems from our past or ones that we are currently going through. However, you can ... | |
| Am I being self centered or legitimate? I need to know. | 7/30/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 2 years and have been with my husband for 5 years. Before we got married, we ... A: No, I don't think you're really being self-centered. I think somewhere along the line you lost you ... | |
| marrige | 7/29/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years.My husband and I moved to Florida not long after getting ... A: And you keep him around b/c of what and why? B/c he's contributing to the household when he feels ... | |
| affair/separation/divorce | 7/29/2008 |
| Q: In February, I met a co-worker, started talking with each other about common interests, etc. He is ... A: A person typically strays for a few reasons; such as loss of affection, attraction, attention and ... | |
| Wife doesn't know what she wants | 7/29/2008 |
| Q: My wife has been working alot and spending alot of time away from the family. I talked to her to ... A: Based on her behavior and all that you've described to me. It seems as though it might be very ... | |
| Leaving when you have kids | 7/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I are at our 7 year mark. We have a 3 year old and a newborn. Out parenting style ... A: As hard as it may be it's much better to separate and have the children raised by you in a single ... | |
| How do I let go of my ex? | 7/27/2008 |
| Q: I've been divorced for almost 4 years now and I still wake up every morning miserable. We were ... A: For me I was bitter about my former husband cheating for quite a long time, even though I'm the one ... | |
| spouse giving attention to opposite sex | 7/24/2008 |
| Q: Do you think I am too sensitive because I do not like my wife emailing our friends that are men? I ... A: Yes, you are too sensitive when it comes to this topic. As long as you can trust your wife and your ... | |
| second chance | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: i married my husband nearly 30 years ago. we were high school sweathearts and were married at 19. ... A: His actions say that he could possibly be involved in another affair b/c of the way he's treating ... | |
| Reconciliation after separation | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for 14 years and have 3 wonderful children 8, 10 and 13. After a difficult 2 ... A: The answer to all these questions, is resounding no. The reason why is very simple, if she ... | |
| Crazy exgirlfriend | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married two months...and have been together just over 2 years. His ... A: I don't think this former ex, even though technically she's a step-sister, constitutes and dating a ... | |
| Trusting/Infidelity | 7/20/2008 |
| Q: My husband came back in March from a year long affair. He has been pretty open, but not ... A: Of course, you don't think you were wrong in doing anything, and you weren't. He was, he obviously ... | |
| divorce - Cheating wife | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I are now separated for 5 months and divorcing after 14+ years. Our only child, our ... A: I don't have anything written to back you up per se. If you have ever watched Dr Phil, he's very ... | |
| parents relationship | 7/18/2008 |
| Q: my mum started using chat rooms a few weeks ago and is hooked on them giving out her mobile number ... A: It sounds like your mother is going through a mid-life crisis here. She's pretending and acting to ... | |
| Separated but wife won't ask for divorce | 7/18/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated for 5 months now. We have been going to couples counseling, but ... A: Yes, of course, this is totally normal and expected for you to feel this way. If the marriage does ... | |
| question | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: I just dont know what to do and im feeling very confused and i may have jumped around with this ... A: He's abusing you, abuse isn't just physical, it's also mental, emotional and verbal. It seems as ... | |
| Separated but wife won't ask for divorce | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated for 5 months now. We have been going to couples counseling, but ... A: Maybe she's just not ready to take that next step yet. Thus she's confused and is not knowing what ... | |
| what do I do | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: This is very long and complicated, so I apologise for that first. Ten years ago, just after my ... A: If you are having to second guess yourself, then you're most definitely not ready to reconcile with ... | |
| controlling | 7/17/2008 |
| Q: i have been living with my boyfriend for about 8 months, in the beginning we were in bliss but for ... A: He's doing this and you still want to marry him?! He's acting this way for a reason, the question ... | |
| Should I stay in my marriage? | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: I would like to know if you think I should stay in my marriage. I have been married to my wife for ... A: You've hit the nail right on the head. She's obviously feeling resentful of you, the children, the ... | |
| not sure if my marriage can be saved | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years, i was 20 when i married, my husband is 6 years older than me. we ... A: You haven't been happy in quite a long time. You say that he keeps you there, he can't make you do ... | |
| Marriage falling apart | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: Ok here goes. Without totally taking up your entire day to get what I am dealing with I will try to ... A: Believe it or not, you have a choice here to make. A) you stay with him and continue to be ... | |
| marriage | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: My Husband and I have always been very happy together. In the last year he has been promoted three ... A: He's making excuses to not be with you. I'd be willing to venture to say that he's either being ... | |
| Something that bugs me. | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: I am married and need a simple question answered. My mother in law is a very nice and hardworking ... A: You might be over reacting just a tad. But that's understandable that your feelings are hurt by ... | |
| His my husband bi? | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: Help! I think my husband may be bi. He asked me to stick my vibrator up him, he has asked several ... A: Yes, that should send up red flags to you, and you should find this behavior very disturbing. It's ... | |
| Afraid to give second chances | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. We live together and have been going to college. ... A: It's only worth staying if you feel that he can be committed to you 110% and that he's not going to ... | |
| STEPDAUGHTER | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: I AM MARRIED TO A GREAT GUY, HE HAD A CHILD OUT OF WEDLOCK. COLLEGE. HE WAS A HUGE PART OF HER LIFE. ... A: I think to a certain extent that your feelings are pretty typical and normal given the situation ... | |
| Wife does not love me like a husband | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 13 years. About 10-11 years ago we had stopped kissing and she ... A: Sure, it's possible to do both, anything is possible. However, chances are 50-50 that this will ... | |
| inheritance | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: Don't know if you can answer this, but I appreciate any answer. If a spouse dies and some real ... A: I don't know the answer for certain. But I'd think that you were right and the spouse would ... | |
| Depression | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 19 years. For the first 13 years of our marriage we never ... A: This certainly is a very delicate and sensitive subject for your husband. But you have to talk to ... | |
| Financial inequity in marriage | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: I'm 61 and my husband of 2 1/2 yrs. is almost 65 and is going to retire. He's always had a very ... A: Well, now that you mention it, it very well could have a lot to do with how anal he's become with ... | |
| third affair | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: Where do I begin!!! I have been married for 15 years. I'm 34 and my husband is 35. we have 2 ... A: What do you want to do about this? Do you want to stay with him and try to make it work one last ... | |
| Dear S. Kessler | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: I have been with this woman for 11 years, married for 8. The whole time it has been turmoil, both of ... A: If you feel the marriage is dead, well then perhaps it is. Why continue to be in an unhappy, ... | |
| Financial inequity in marriage | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I'm 61 and my husband of 2 1/2 yrs. is almost 65 and is going to retire. He's always had a very ... A: His behavior is rude, crude and socially unacceptable. He's got a very case of "selfishitis. ... | |
| i just dont know what to do.. | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: ..he has been gone for 4 months but has stayed in constant contact well i would say every 2 weeks to ... A: Let's say this isn't about him anymore. It's about you now. So what do YOU want out of this ... | |
| i just dont know what to do.. | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: ..he has been gone for 4 months but has stayed in constant contact well i would say every 2 weeks to ... A: He could be confused as to how you'd react to him if he did ask you go try and work things out. ... | |
| sexless marriage | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We have four children ages 9-13. For the last 7 ... A: Of course you're going to freeze up and not know how to react to this, b/c you're used to only ... | |
| husband cheated with another man | 6/28/2008 |
| Q: We've been married almost 15yrs. We have 2 kids (6&9). My mom died suddenly & I was very depressed ... A: He's cheated/cheating with another man. This says to me that he's gay or at the very least ... | |
| lack of sex | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years. My husband is a nice guy, good father, great provider, hard ... A: I tend to agree with you, I get the impression (from all that you've described) also that he really ... | |
| Confused | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 13 years and have been married since "2003". In the ... A: If you truly feel that you don't want to work it out, and you just can't do this anymore, then you ... | |
| Husband | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: I have a husband whos is distant and hard to reach, no matter what the issue is it ends up being ... A: Let's see, he's chasing women, he's denying you sex, he's stolen money from his own mother, he ... | |
| how should finacail responsibility share within family? | 6/26/2008 |
| Q: I am a stay home mom w new born. I have strong saving before marry him, but after marry I have no ... A: Tell him that if he's going to be adamant that you pay for things for the baby, then you're going to ... | |
| looking at other women | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: I see my husband looking at other women but when i ask him he denies it? the denial hurts me more ... A: It's normal for men to check out and look at other women. It's what a lot of men do. However, for ... | |
| Is it me? | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. I am 46 and he is 44. We are both ... A: Wow! That's an awful lot for you to deal with and for him to suddenly dump in your lap. And, no, ... | |
| While I do all the work he rests | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for over 40 years. I am now isolated in a country area. My husband will soon ... A: I doubt he even has one clue of how your feeling and what a toll this has taken on you and your very ... | |
| My husband left me and move in with his girlfriend | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband has been married for 6 years.We disagree often I often told him to leave and this month ... A: He's being very unfair to you. The newness with his GF will eventually wear off. And if he'll ... | |
| Is this marriage worth saving | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for a little over 2 1/2 years. The relationship whirl winded to talk about ... A: You can't do this on your own. She needs to be a willing participant in order to give this marriage ... | |
| Finding courage to end unheathy marriage | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: I really need help with leaving my marriage and knowing that I will be ok. This is my 3rd marriage. ... A: You know that you have to leave him. The longer you stay with him the more he's bringing you down ... | |
| MARRIED BUT LIVING ALONE | 6/22/2008 |
| Q: MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS AND HAVE ONE CHILD. WHEN MY SON WAS AROUND 2 MY ... A: You're right it's not good or healthy to let your son witness this tension and type of relationship ... | |
| wife wants to leave | 6/21/2008 |
| Q: WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 9 YRS. I HAVE 2 BOYS FIRST MARRIAGE AND 2 TO WIFE NOW. SHE TOLD ME LAST ... A: Words might not mean that much to her right now. Instead you'll have to show her through your ... | |
| Is he the marry type? | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I have been seeing my boyfriend for about one month. Do you think it is too early to ask ... A: When you feel comfortable with it, then you can casually bring it up to him. Just ask him what he ... | |
| jealousy | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I have a friend who is very pretty and heads turn wherever she goes. She is married to a very funny ... A: There could be a couple of things going on here. A) He could be jealous of his brother, his ... | |
| My Husband Cheated | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I am a woman who has been married for four years and even though I married my husband despite of my ... A: It's men like him that give Christians and God believing and God fearing men a bad name. A true ... | |
| Unreasonable Request | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm in need of some advise. My husband and I recently celebrated our one year anniversary. Our ... A: Marriage is about give and take. And as long as he didn't do this on a regular basis then I don't ... | |
| Is he a Cheater? | 6/16/2008 |
| Q: One year ago my husbands cell phone rang, I didn't answer it, but I did take the number down and ... A: Always, always trust your gut instincts. It's there to tell you when something's not quite right. ... | |
| Am I taking the right Decision? | 6/15/2008 |
| Q: I am standing on a cross road in my life. Don't know where to start. I have been married for 2 ... A: Yes, you ARE doing the right thing by leaving their house. They are using you and disrespecting you ... | |
| abusive marriage | 6/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married 23 years and have three kids (16,14,9). After marriage my husband used to beat ... A: It's a process. You have to find an outlet that you can find help and support from, that will help ... | |
| divorce | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I had just got done with ugly divorce last 2 yrs ago, up to now i never understood the reasons why ... A: Children at times can be very materialistic, closed-minded, etc. They only think about the present ... | |
| my marriage | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: WHAT SHOULD I DO ?I TOOK VOWS I MEANT MY VOWS.WE'VE ONLY BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 2MO. HE CAN'T LEAVE ... A: You can't make him do something he's not willing, able or ready to do. And that includes getting to ... | |
| My Husband | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I were together off and on for about 6 years before we got married. He loves the ... A: At this point you honestly can't believe him when he says he's changed, etc. Talk is cheap when it ... | |
| Lying and Cheating Spouse | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years. The last three have been crazy. I found emails of my husband ... A: He doesn't get it, he's being selfish and only thinking of himself and what makes him feel good (or ... | |
| My Husband | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I were together off and on for about 6 years before we got married. He loves the ... A: Is there any way that you can move back to StL with your mom?! If there is, and she hasn't already ... | |
| inlaws | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: im 19 years old and im any Army wife stationed in Germany. My husband comes from a very different ... A: There's no easy way to break this news to him. I'm sure that even though his family is ... | |
| husband cheats again | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: Since last writing, my husband had another affair with his ex-wife again. This is the 4th time in ... A: He knows that you'll take him back each and every time, so you need to break this ugly cycle. I ... | |
| separated and lost | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: my husband of less than a year recently moved out. It has been a rocky relationship from the start ... A: He has to stop beating around the bush and stop playing mind games with you. He needs to make up ... | |
| life | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, It's been along time and I don't even know if you remember me. My year divorce ... A: Well, of course, I remember you! In fact I was just thinking of you the other day and wondering how ... | |
| Husband and wife burial together | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: After 37 years, raising four great children who have given us four grandchildren - my wife is ... A: You have every right to be concerned and even upset over her decision. If she were to pass on ... | |
| Please Help | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: My husband have been married for 5 years no and been together for 6. I'm 26 and he is 23. I know ... A: You need to listen to what your heart says. If that means that you wait it out a while during the ... | |
| Please Help | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: My husband have been married for 5 years no and been together for 6. I'm 26 and he is 23. I know ... A: Will he meet you somewhere and talk to you about this, since he can't come home due to the court ... | |
| very confused and fed up | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: i have been married for three years. during the course of our three years, i found out my husband ... A: You did the right thing by leaving and separating from him. He's going to ruin you financially and ... | |
| Wife and I Are Separated | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been separated (physically) for about 6 weeks. We’ve been married almost two ... A: You know that this isn't about her mother nor does it anything to do with her mother not telling her ... | |
| i think my marriage is over | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: please help! we have been together for 13 years, lived together for 9 and married for nearly 7. i ... A: You're miserable and he's very degrading, controlling and disrespectful of you, why do you stay with ... | |
| I dont understand | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my fiance for 9 years... about a year into our relationshio he started acting like ... A: He clearly doesn't get it, does he?! He has to stop thinking of only himself and his wants ... | |
| What should I do? | 5/22/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years he is 23 and I am 24. About 8 months ago ... A: His feelings for you wouldn't just change just like that, meaning he's not suddenly going to not be ... | |
| Is my marriage worth saving | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: I am not really good at this but let me just give you some information and please tell me what to ... A: I can't tell you what to do here, only you can make that tough decision b/c you have to live life ... | |
| long distance relationship. | 5/20/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating my lady for a period of one and a half years now.Am soon going to my home country ... A: Has she given you any reason to distrust her? Do you think she'd cheat on you and be unfaithful to ... | |
| relationship with in laws | 5/19/2008 |
| Q: first of all i apologize to have a long question.this is a long story of mine from 3 years ago.My ... A: If he can't respect and accept your family (as long as they treat him with love and respect in ... | |
| relationship with in laws | 5/18/2008 |
| Q: first of all i apologize to have a long question.this is a long story of mine from 3 years ago.My ... A: If your family doesn't speak his language, then it'd be virtually impossible for them to speak to ... | |
| Is my marriage worth saving | 5/17/2008 |
| Q: I am not really good at this but let me just give you some information and please tell me what to ... A: Your husband is an abuser, only cowards abuse helpless animals and their wives. He has no right to ... | |
| Not exactly a problem... | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband are a young couple.. I am 19 and he is 21. I married him on my 18th birthday and ... A: If he wouldn't be accepting of it then why would he make that sort of statement (meaning that he'd ... | |
| Not exactly a problem... | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband are a young couple.. I am 19 and he is 21. I married him on my 18th birthday and ... A: This can be a very sensitive and delicate subject to bring up to a spouse, especially after a past ... | |
| I am so depressed and unhappy, I think I am going mad | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: I have a very long story to say, please be patient with me.I need say say a lot for you to ... A: It's no wonder this is taking such a heavy toll on you. You're in-laws are very rude, degrading and ... | |
| My wife does not want to be married anymore? | 5/15/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 4, coming up on 5, years. We have a 4 year old and a 2 year old, ... A: The problem seems to stem from her not being able to really be a teen and experience life, due to ... | |
| relationship-sick of feeling sorry 4 myself! | 5/13/2008 |
| Q: S Kessler,I would like to apologize in advance for such a long question...pls bare with me.I spend ... A: You're very welcome. It makes me feel good when I can help someone by giving advice and trying to ... | |
| Confused | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for eight years and have two beautiful children 19 months and 6 ... A: The problem here is a lack of attention, love and affection on your wife's part. You need to feel ... | |
| wife in need of help | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for almost two years to my husband. Ever since we have started dating he has ... A: He's distrusting of you, that's either his own insecurities or worse he could be cheating on you ... | |
| relationship-sick of feeling sorry 4 myself! | 5/10/2008 |
| Q: S Kessler,I would like to apologize in advance for such a long question...pls bare with me.I spend ... A: If I read and understand this correctly you're not married to this man are you? Please correct me ... | |
| Not sure what to do | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: Three years ago my husband, of now 13 years, went to Law school in another state. At first it was ... A: You'll have to pardon me, if I come across as rude and cynical of your husband, but I feel totally ... | |
| my wife doesn't want to have sex like we used to. | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: A: She could have having a decrease in her sex drive due to being tired from having to deal with caring ... | |
| Legal? | 5/5/2008 |
| Q: I didn't know who i was to ask so i hope you can help me. I'm 17 and my boyfriend is in the army and ... A: In most states the legal age of consent to date and have sex is age 17. You can call your local ... | |
| Want husband to be more helpful around the house & kids duties | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: We have 3 children all under the age of 4 so it is really stressful for me at times becuse my ... A: You may be just wasting your breath and you'd get more of a reaction out of a brick wall than to ... | |
| husband and porn | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I’ve just recently got married in November at 21. I work for a bank and started back in ... A: By the way, I love your name, I'm a name lover and have been fascinated by them since I was a kid. ... | |
| Divorce | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: I was married for a year and a half. Before we got married, my husband was "What Ever Makes you ... A: You have to come to terms with the fact that he did this to you. And come to the conclusion that in ... | |
| newly wedd bliss? not so much | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: ok. ive been married for 7 months. upon returning home from our honey moon his work sched. got out ... A: It's sounds like you never really had time to bond or connect with him after the marriage vows. All ... | |
| husband not working | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: my husband is not working for almost a year now. we are currently living with his sister. our car ... A: Of course he doesn't care what happens, he's living with his sister getting a free ride from her. ... | |
| My girlfriend doesnt want to have my kids around her? | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I have been living in her home for aproximatley 2 years. I have my children every ... A: She knew you had children from the beginning. And now she's having a problem with them being in ... | |
| Wife wants to move, but doesn't want ex-wife coming along | 4/25/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a very sad situation. I am divorced with 3 children. I have since re-married to the absolute ... A: That certainly is a super tough decision to make, and it really puts you between a rock and a hard ... | |
| Wife wants to move, but doesn't want ex-wife coming along | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: I'm in a very sad situation. I am divorced with 3 children. I have since re-married to the absolute ... A: I can see why she'd be very upset with this arrangement and not wanting the ex-wife to move along ... | |
| His ex-wife | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my b/f now fiance for 9 years now. We plan to get married in June of 2009 but I am ... A: If you think it's rough now and she's being a you-know-what to you, then wait until you marry him. ... | |
| choice between careerr and husband | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: i was married almost a year ago... we are completely different people... there is nothin that we ... A: So you're going to go ahead with a divorce then? It's probably for the better anyway, due to the ... | |
| choice between careerr and husband | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: i was married almost a year ago... we are completely different people... there is nothin that we ... A: If he makes you this miserable and he doesn't support your hopes and dreams for your future and ... | |
| divorce | 4/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for almost nine years. My husband came back from a 3 and1/2 month study course, ... A: Since he's been abusive to your children and to you (mental and emotional are just as bad as ... | |
| Husband does not want to work | 4/20/2008 |
| Q: My name is Yulya and I'm 25, married for 6 months, no children. I have been with my husband for 5 ... A: He could be going through a depression period due to losing his job, perhaps he feels bad and even ... | |
| Still in problem...... | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: This is Sukanya again….after almost a year. If you remember the almost a year back I discussed my ... A: I do remember you!!!! In fact, I was just thinking of you recently and wondering how you were doing ... | |
| I don't know what to do, | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years and I have two children aged 14 and 11. This is my first marriage ... A: Yes, I would strongly recommend that you seriously consider divorcing him. His priorities are all ... | |
| stepmother? | 4/12/2008 |
| Q: I have recently met a man and am falling for him fast. He has joint custody of three young kids and ... A: It can be very intimidating and even down right scary to go from being single to marrying him and ... | |
| my father inlaw hates me because i have kids.... | 4/12/2008 |
| Q: Let me first explain that i myself am a white female and my husband is a Pakistani male. I have 2 ... A: There is probably nothing that you can say to his parents to get them to accept you. They are from ... | |
| "Fallen out of love" | 4/11/2008 |
| Q: I am the proud mother of a wonderful 2 year old son. I work full time in a community pharmacy ... A: You can't keep sacrificing your happiness for his laziness. You need and deserve to be happy in ... | |
| Should I be worried? | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I have a terribly personal question that I don't know who to ask. I did discuss it with my ... A: Well, it's not necessarily a sign of infidelity unless his behavior and habits have changed and you ... | |
| Husbands affair | 4/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband had an affair with his ex-wife two times during our marriage. He has a history of ... A: It's inappropriate for him to be going to functions with an ex, like he's still married to her, with ... | |
| Husbands affair | 4/3/2008 |
| Q: My husband had an affair with his ex-wife two times during our marriage. He has a history of ... A: He's doing this b/c you allow him to do this, and b/c he knows that you'll put up with it. You need ... | |
| Heartbroken | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: I have brought this issue up with him on several occasions, and he tells me he has to get checked by ... A: No, I don't think you're asking too much from him. Was he ever affectionate to you prior to the ... | |
| Heartbroken | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I wrote to you a while back, and well here i am once again. I am at a loss as i don't know ... A: I would strongly suggest that you get some individual counseling for yourself in order to deal with ... | |
| Am I crazy? | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: After over 16 years of marriage and three kids, my husband and I have decided to call it quits. ... A: He had absolutely no right to put his hands on you, period. And if he'll snap and do this tonight, ... | |
| Is he ill? | 3/30/2008 |
| Q: My husband of 6 years, has recently had serious outbursts, unprpovoked over the minutest things. He ... A: I don't think he's necessarily mentally ill. I think he's become an abuser which is unacceptable ... | |
| Email to ex wife | 3/28/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married two years. I was married to my ex for 13 years and we had no ... A: She may have no reason to not trust you. But in general it's just not a good idea to remain in ... | |
| I am despareat about my marriage | 3/27/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for 3 years.We both love each other very much and we enjoy being ... A: It sounds as though you both have strong-willed personalities and are both stubborn too. Since this ... | |
| porn | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: me and my husband have been married just 5 months now, and our sex life is just on the border line ... A: It seems as though it's not just a casual watching of porn he's doing. He could have an addiction ... | |
| Divorce or Seperation | 3/26/2008 |
| Q: We know each other for 9 years, spent first year at college together and then she migrated to USA. ... A: Your children are already suffering b/c they don't know and won't remember you, since you're in ... | |
| Porn Sites | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 9 months and I have found on his computer that he is looking ... A: Since this bothers you so much, I don't think you should ignore the fact that he's doing this. If ... | |
| i'm not married to my cell phone... | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: ... but just the other day, my wife was trying to call me and since my phone is set on vibrate, i ... A: If she had reason to believe that you were being unfaithful to her before, even though she'd ... | |
| Divorce or Seperation | 3/22/2008 |
| Q: We know each other for 9 years, spent first year at college together and then she migrated to USA. ... A: It's seems as though she's avoiding you totally and then on top of that she's making excuses to not ... | |
| infidelity | 3/21/2008 |
| Q: ive been married 24 yrs and she caught me cheating before and forgave,but this time she filed for ... A: It really could be over this time. When cheating is involved in a marriage it can often cause the ... | |
| confused | 3/20/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been living together for a quite a while, around 7 years and have a child ... A: He's not been giving you what you want and need for quite some time now. And this has made you look ... | |
| Death and Family Discord | 3/19/2008 |
| Q: I am 61 years old and was recently operated on for brain cancer in Memorial Sloan Kettering Hospital ... A: It's a shame when a child feels that they are entitled to something, such as an inheritance. ... | |
| CONFUSED | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 years now, I'm 23 with 2 daughters and my husband is 27. My husband is ... A: Then maybe a divorce is the right thing for you to do. You haven't been happy with the relationship ... | |
| i think it is over | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: I think it is over. I have been married for 16. For the last 2 years they have been sexless, and you ... A: I've talked to you about this before but it's been a while. It doesn't seem like there's been any ... | |
| Change of heart | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: I'm in love with a single mom. She recently changed her mind about having more children and is now ... A: I'm sorry to hear that it ended this way. But it's better to know now than than to have found out ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 3/17/2008 |
| Q: ( I copied and pasted our last post to refresh your memory. Needless to say that i am living the ... A: All of these feelings and emotions you're going through ARE totally common and normal to experience. ... | |
| Lost that Lovin' Feeling | 3/15/2008 |
| Q: After 20 years, all of a sudden, my husband is making me miserable. Or I should say, we are making ... A: All of the sudden? So this is a relatively new things that's become a huge problem for both of you. ... | |
| moved out 10 weeks ago | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: OK,We slept together on weekends per counsler.Went medium.Sunday night my wife at her house said to ... A: You need to drop this counselor like a hot potato. She's giving you mixed signals and just plain ... | |
| Wife wants a divorce, now says she's confused... | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: My filed for divorce 3 days ago. We have a 2 year old daughter. She says because she had given us so ... A: Maybe she doesn't know what she wants at this point. It's not uncommon for a person to waffle back ... | |
| child support | 3/13/2008 |
| Q: I am a father of 3 beautiful daughters, ages 12, 3 and 2. The first daughter is from another ... A: The courts actually have a chart that they go by. And on that chart child support is based on two ... | |
| My wife is tired of trying and wants to leave. | 3/13/2008 |
| Q: We have the typical, atypical marriage. We met in Jan 1998 she was pregnant by March and we were ... A: The problem has been a long time coming. I'll tell you why you can only ignore your wife and family ... | |
| separated | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: My wife and i have been married for about 9 months now. We didn't get to go on a honeymoon do to ... A: She's probably already made up her mind. And now she's playing mind games with you. Seeing what ... | |
| Don't know what to do | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: It is just 10months since I got married.But had lot of fights/quarrel between us.Most of the ... A: He's being unreasonable and even rude for him expecting and basically demanding your paycheck. ... | |
| Big Changes! | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22, I've been living with my boyfriend and his daughter for 2 years. I moved from family, ... A: I don't think it's necesarily selfish of you to ask this of him. However, you need to be prepared ... | |
| Too young - marriage doubts.... | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: .. Me and my wife have been together for about 10 years total.. We were together since the 11th ... A: Marriage changes a person, then you add children to the mix and it changes everything. The feelings ... | |
| Girlfriend stopped kissing | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: My live in Girlfriend and I have beed together 2 years, we are planning to get married. About 6 ... A: You really should be concerned. Physical attraction, sex, and affection are often what drive a ... | |
| Girlfriend stopped kissing | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: My live in Girlfriend and I have beed together 2 years, we are planning to get married. About 6 ... A: There is a reason she's acting this way. The question though is why is she being so withdrawn from ... | |
| sneaky suspicions | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: last night i was on the computer looking at the History page and found some very interesting sites ... A: I think you have every right to be concerned about this. You probably ought to confront him about ... | |
| She doesn't care until I say I'm getting divorced | 3/10/2008 |
| Q: My wife doesn't seem to want this marriage until I say I'm going to end it. It appears as if she's ... A: Maybe she's having doubts about the marriage. Do you regularly argue and fight? And then get ... | |
| Confused | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: My partner, 36, who has lived with me for six years has recently been making comments about my 12 ... A: It does seem as though he's got an unhealthy relationship or connection to your 12 yo daughter. I ... | |
| Help with marriage during pregnancy | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I were separated for 8 months (long story) but in September of 2007 we started ... A: It could be that he just doesn't feel right having sex while your pregnant. Some men actually have ... | |
| getting on with my life after divorce | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: I was divorced from my husband of nearly 25 years in August of 2007. It's now March and I'm still ... A: That's great to hear that you're going to get some counseling. It will definitely help you through ... | |
| silent treatment and despair | 3/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 months, and have spent most of it crying and alone. My husband has taken ... A: He legally can NOT kick you out. Even though he owns the home and you're not entitled to it b/c he ... | |
| What do I do? | 3/8/2008 |
| Q: I'm not sure where to begin, but I have been married (2nd) for 15 years. I have 3 children from my ... A: Your older children are out on their own and they can fend for and take care of themselves. It's ... | |
| Change of heart | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: I'm in love with a single mom. She recently changed her mind about having more children and is now ... A: You have to decide what's more important to you in life; a relationship/marriage with her or having ... | |
| getting on with my life after divorce | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: I was divorced from my husband of nearly 25 years in August of 2007. It's now March and I'm still ... A: It's never easy to walk away from such a long marriage. Of course, it hurts and it's going to take ... | |
| how do I just | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: I am happily married for 14 years with 3 children. I know all too well how marriages are supposed to ... A: I think for some ppl forgiveness is really a process and somehow things can just fall into place. ... | |
| My Husband Won't Have Sex! | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 21 years old and my husband is 20. We have been married for almost 2 1/2 years, we have no ... A: I wouldn't complete rule out an affair. If he really wanted to cheat then he would most certainly ... | |
| rejection by husband | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: I am 65, And my hus.has rejected me from 1990, we have seperate rooms and he has horrible hygiene. ... A: It sounds like he's been no man and not even a husband, rather like a provider and that's it. No ... | |
| reconciliation | 3/6/2008 |
| Q: I am a man in my early 50s married to a younger woman and she is 28. I love and cherish my wife more ... A: It's hard when you're spouse basically rejects you and then leaves you for another man. She has a ... | |
| how do I just "get over it"? | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: I am happily married for 14 years with 3 children. I know all too well how marriages are supposed to ... A: This was very hurtful to you even way back when. And you've never fully gotten over it or had ... | |
| my boyfriend told me that when he gets married and a house his mother is coming to live with us. | 3/4/2008 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years we have talked about getting married when ... A: No, you're not being unreasonable at all. What does his mother say to his insisting that she come ... | |
| Husband does not want a life separate from his family. | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married now for almost 6 years. This is my second and his first. He is ... A: I know that this isn't an easy thing to deal with right now. But just know that you are right here. ... | |
| Bars, drinking, and committed relationships | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I am a 48 year old man (divorced after 20 years) involved in an 18 month relationship with a 43 year ... A: She's the one that's being unreasonable here. She obviously feels that she's not married to you, so ... | |
| My Wifes Heart is Closed | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years - I have been unfaithful more than once - I left the home year ago ... A: You might have had that once chance and you just might have blown it. You have to hope for the best ... | |
| moving to another state | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: I am moving to Seattle from Alabama to attend college for a year. We need the cash .So i might be ... A: Being in a long distance relationship/marriage can be difficult to do. However, if you stay in ... | |
| Husband does not want a life separate from his family. | 2/29/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married now for almost 6 years. This is my second and his first. He is ... A: No, it's not your and this definitely isn't normal for him to insist on seeing them every weekend. ... | |
| help | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: If you don't mind a need a womans view point on something and all my friends are guys. I found out ... A: You can get a restraining order on her and you can also keep the child at the same time too. You'll ... | |
| help! | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my girl for about a year and a half. She was forced into quitting her job a few ... A: It sounds as though she's just lost interest in you and even the relationship at some point. And ... | |
| marriage seperation | 2/25/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, I got married on Dec. 29,2006 to my boyfriend or 7 years because I ... A: Your husband is being very unfair to you. You have to not be so dependant on him though. When you ... | |
| Being taken for granted. | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 33 years to a workaholic. He's constantly talks about work, worrys about ... A: He has his priorities all wrong. He has been putting work before you and he can't do that and ... | |
| marriage | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I am in a marriage that is very unhappy i have tried everything to better my marriage but my ... A: Why does he even bother to be married to you then?! If he's not willing to do as the counselor ... | |
| violence | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: our marriage is 11 months old. from 1st month itself my husband started beating me for very small ... A: You can't stay with your husband, he has no right to abuse you the way he does. This is going to ... | |
| Enableing a spouse w/ an addiction | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: I have been married 18 years...my husband is a alcoholic. He does not drink every day maybe ... A: An alcoholic is an alcoholic. No matter how often he drinks. He has an alcohol addiction problem. ... | |
| dont know what to do | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: Im 27 with two girls 2 and 4. I have been in this relationship for almost 11 yrs now. Ever since I ... A: You'd be doing yourself and your children a favor by leaving him. If it's possible to put away any ... | |
| A wife who choose to destroy a seeming happy marriage | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: This applies to a previous marriage and something that happened 25 years ago but still occupies my ... A: Your problem lies in that you never had closure to how the marriage ended and WHY she cheated on you ... | |
| marriage | 2/17/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for the last 13+ year and love my wife & kids very much. However; every since ... A: I think you need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with your wife. She ... | |
| How do I get my wife back? | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, My wife and I have been together for 7 years married for 2.5. We have a 4 year old son and ... A: You can't make her do something that she refuses to do; like get back with you and make the marriage ... | |
| Something fishy in my marriage | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: My situation is complicated. I will start out saying my husband now is my 3rd., and I am his the. I ... A: He's a con-man and he's conning you out of things b/c you allow him to do this. You have to stop ... | |
| role of spouses | 2/11/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 35 yrs. We have 4 grown children. My husband has never been supportive to ... A: No, you're not overreacting. He's being too judgemental and expecting too much of you. As a ... | |
| Is he too friendly? | 2/10/2008 |
| Q: I would like to see what you think about a situation I went through w/my husband, Steve. He is a ... A: I wouldn't have gone on vacation and had them just show up. And frankly I would've been pissed. If ... | |
| I am not affectionate with my boyfriend | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem. I have no desire to kiss my boyfriend or have sex with him or be intimate with ... A: You could have a chemical imbalance or something like that. It also could be some form of ... | |
| Why can't my husband and I agree. | 2/8/2008 |
| Q: My husband is always mad with me over small issues. He always telling me I put other things before ... A: I think the marriage might have a lack of communication on both parts here. And he might even be ... | |
| marriage | 2/7/2008 |
| Q: This is my 3rd marriage. I have 2 teenage children, not to my current husband. Was married 8 months ... A: At this point he knew that you and your children were a package deal. And if he can't love and ... | |
| husband not showering | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: my husband wont shower for days. I have told him that he smells. i hug him and its like i have to ... A: Then you basically have one of two options here. A) You tell him that enough is enough and you ... | |
| husband not showering | 2/5/2008 |
| Q: my husband wont shower for days. I have told him that he smells. i hug him and its like i have to ... A: I'd venture to say that his problem here lies within his self-esteem and that it's pretty low to ... | |
| help | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: If you don't mind a need a womans view point on something and all my friends are guys. I found out ... A: She's a pathological liar. She lies so much that she probably honestly believes what she says. Not ... | |
| etiquette | 2/1/2008 |
| Q: Forgive such a trivial question but is urgent to my history: 1.Patty Smith and Johnny get ... A: If she chooses to go by her married last name after divorce, that is what you should refer to her ... | |
| Having My Own Hobby... | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: Having a Self-Identity This is a difficult situation to explain but it’s weighing on me heavily ... A: You really need to have some time set aside each week for yourself. You need to do this to keep ... | |
| Alot going on | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: Kessler, Well, I just turned 20 about 2 months and i just found out I'm 6 wks pregnant. I am with my ... A: Babies are truly a blessing in life. And although it may not seem like it right now, once you have ... | |
| help | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: If you don't mind a need a womans view point on something and all my friends are guys. I found out ... A: Let's give her the benefit of doubt and say that we believe her; and that she didn't actually ... | |
| Moved out and went to counsler now wife finally goes to same counsler | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: Deae Mrs Kessler, Ok I went 3 times now to counsler with wife.We went out to dinner sat,very ... A: First off, do NOT, I repeat do NOT buy any property or homes with her. Especially if there is a ... | |
| How much should I put up with before I draw the line? | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 10 years and have been married for nearly six years. When we met, we ... A: There is obviously something wrong with him, but he's just not willing to tell you or let you in on ... | |
| I want my ex-wife back | 1/29/2008 |
| Q: My wife & i divorced 25 years ago, Chistmas i when to vegas to see my daghter hwo is 27, and i found ... A: Being a thousand miles apart, can certainly present a huge problem. But if you are committed to ... | |
| virginity in America | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 but I have no any personal problem at this time I'm curious about the issue virginity in ... A: Well, I think it depends on the person and their way of thinking. Meaning the opinion on this would ... | |
| husband and i are not having sex | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: I am married to a mexican man and I'am american.I know we had problems before even found out he ws ... A: He's only thinking of himself and he's being selfish. So he moved out w/o even bothering to tell ... | |
| confused | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I are both on our second marriage and have been married for 6 years now. We have no ... A: You have to give her credit where credit is due. At least she was honest enough to tell you that ... | |
| interferance of inlaws in my marriage | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: i am an ongoing victim of inlaws interferance in my marriage. as i speak my marriage is rocking and ... A: It's understandable that she cares how things are affecting her son, as a mother, who wouldn't feel ... | |
| virginity in America | 1/26/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 but I have no any personal problem at this time I'm curious about the issue virginity in ... A: Well, that entirely depends on who you ask and what their views on this topic are. There are a lot ... | |
| Staying in the marriage | 1/24/2008 |
| Q: I realize that my husband does not make me feel special anymore. One of the reasons I fell in love ... A: Wow! If you suspect that he's cheated with her, then you're instincts are probably dead on. That's ... | |
| Destined for misery?!? | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: Sometimes I wonder if I set myself up to be miserable… Maybe it’s that I set the expectation so ... A: If you seriously hate him that much, then simply put, why do you stay?! I got to this point in my ... | |
| confused | 1/21/2008 |
| Q: Well lets see here...where do i even start. My wife and I have been married for 1 1/2 years although ... A: No one wants to go through a divorce. It sucks. A marriage is a constant work in progress. It ... | |
| confused and hurt.... | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: I am a a woman in my early thirties been married now 8 years to a wonderful arabic man. When we ... A: As partner you should feel you can go to him when you need to talk to him and try to work something ... | |
| marriage, | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: my current bf, is cousin of my last bf, now that we are planning to marry, but the only worry is ... A: And can see your concerns here. However, I think you should deal with that as it comes (meaning ... | |
| Urgent want to save the marriage | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: I got married early January last year in a week after I met him. We had a blissful one week of ... A: The problem here lies with two things, one that you'd only known each other for a week when you ... | |
| confused and hurt.... | 1/18/2008 |
| Q: I am a a woman in my early thirties been married now 8 years to a wonderful arabic man. When we ... A: He's not being honest with you in my opinion. First off, he KNEW full well that she has pursued him ... | |
| Are we spouses or roommates? | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I just read a question posted about a year ago concerning this same situation. I feel like I'm ... A: No, you're not overreacting, being selfish or expecting too much from him. As a husband he's ... | |
| Step-daughter crossing boundries ruining marriage for me | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I,ve been married to my husband for 10yrs. He has 2 children from previous marriage, and we hava a ... A: It all starts with him. He has to stop being her enabler. He has to stop feeling guilty for the ... | |
| Separation | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for almost 5 years and together for almost 10. My husband says he doesn't love me ... A: With you being his first GF and even first real true love of his life. He probably feels like he's ... | |
| I want a divorce after only 3 months | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I dated for a year and a half before we got married. I had problems with him while we ... A: He's lied to you from the beginning and he's also kept crucial things from you. If he's into porn ... | |
| How the marriage actually work in US | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I have been in the US since 2003, however I still don't Understand how marriage works here. My ... A: America certainly has a huge diversity of how marriage and relationships work. But I'll give you a ... | |
| What's going on in my marriage? | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I'm looking for answers, here it goes. We've been married 10 years, together for 12. We have two ... A: I think he's insulting your intelligence when he expects you to believe that he doesn't know what's ... | |
| marraige question | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: and he still calls me to see how i'm doing and says he feels bad and guilty and everything also that ... A: The key here is that he mentioned that he recently met someone 2 weeks before the separation. And ... | |
| kind of neglected | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I had my wedding afew months a go,and really love my husband too much and i know he too loves me ... A: The root of the problem here seems to be his drinking is becoming an escape for him. So he doesn't ... | |
| Wife depressed with life | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: My wife has been depressed for such a long time that I never knew about. We've been married almost 2 ... A: This is the time when she really needs God in her life and his guidance. She can't go through life ... | |
| Husband and I dont connect on same issues? | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: Today is my birthday, and of course.. I feel depressed, my husband and I had a pretty heart-felt ... A: I think lack of communication is the biggest issue here. He feels neglected in one sense and so do ... | |
| Husband Wants A Divorce -8 1/2 months Pregnant | 1/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 yrs. During this time, my husband cheated on me with his ex, ... A: I'm sorry that you're going through all of this. And on top of that you're pregnant. I can ... | |
| Husband of almost 13 years wants to leave | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: My question is I have been married to my husband almost 13 years. Its always the same thing money. ... A: He's probably getting frustrated and discouraged from lack of a regular paycheck (since it has ... | |
| marriage | 1/12/2008 |
| Q: I started working with my husband three years ago. He had two female friends, and one was especially ... A: He has to no that this behavior around/with/towards other women isn't acceptable, period. He's a ... | |
| Tired | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: Ok Id' like to be able to keep this just short and sweet but not sure I can do that. My husband and ... A: My first husband (now ex) was the very same way. Although my situation was a bit different than ... | |
| Is he too friendly? | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: I would like to see what you think about a situation I went through w/my husband, Steve. He is a ... A: I think he's trying to make a pathetic attempt to ride on their coattails b/c they are weathy and he ... | |
| marriage | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: Hi miss kessler my name is ayesha my question is i was married in a registry office in 2000 in ... A: If you're divorce is legal in the USA, then you're divorce is legal anywhere in the world (make sure ... | |
| online relationship with another woman | 1/10/2008 |
| Q: my husband and I have been married for eleven years. We have 3 children. He used to be an OTR truck ... A: As long as he's trying very hard to do the right thing and to make the marriage work, that's a huge ... | |
| PLEASE HELP!!!!! | 1/9/2008 |
| Q: I MEET THIS WHAT I THOUGHT NICE GUY ,WE WENT OUT AND I HAD SEX WITH HIM ONLY ONCE AND NOW I FIND OUT ... A: He deceived you from the beginning. That makes him not a very nice guy to be involved with. You ... | |
| online relationship with another woman | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: my husband and I have been married for eleven years. We have 3 children. He used to be an OTR truck ... A: This relationship/friendship has to stop. It's already getting out of hand and it'll only be a ... | |
| Wife divorced me | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: I think my wife is divorcing me, because she felt I was a threat to her career. I opened a small ... A: I certainly can't make that decision for you. But speaking from a woman's perspective I can only ... | |
| Caught wife cheating with coworker. We are now seperated because she wants time to think miss me? | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: :) WOW! you pull no punches and tell it how it is!! I guess I am in serious denial because of the ... A: The counselor is partly right that there are some marriages that can actually survive infidelity ... | |
| Marriage Issues | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: Can a husband put his wife out of their home regardless of the circumstance and eventhough the house ... A: No, he can't just put you out of the house, even if he owned the home prior to marriage (and it was ... | |
| Lonely in a full house! | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: I am a owner of a company and I lately I have been working 17 hours days, my wife is a stay at home ... A: My heart really goes out to you in your time of need. No one wants to be rejected by their spouse, ... | |
| Wife divorced me | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: I think my wife is divorcing me, because she felt I was a threat to her career. I opened a small ... A: If it's true and she's ultimately chosen to divorce you then there isn't much you can do. You'll ... | |
| Is this right? | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband I have been married for 2 years and dated for 6. He is never interested in sex and even ... A: You may not like what I'm about to say but I'm going to say it anyway b/c I feel compelled to be ... | |
| CONFUSSED | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to an active duty US Marine for 10 years, we are currently stationed in ... A: If you hate it in Germany and your husband is either unwilling or unable to move back home to ... | |
| my husband walked out on me and our daughter | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i got into a fight 5 days ago and he packed his stuff and left he says he needs a ... A: Maybe he walked out due to shear frustration and not knowing how to react or what to do. It might ... | |
| blending families | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: I will be getting married to a wonderful man in May. This will be he 2nd marriage for both of us. ... A: Your absolutely right in experience is different. And men think a lot different than women do. You ... | |
| Confused on Being Married. | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: OKay Let me try to make it short. I met this guy when i was 14 and he was 19. We have been together ... A: He needs to know that you know about this other woman and that he's talking to her on a very regular ... | |
| blending families | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: I will be getting married to a wonderful man in May. This will be he 2nd marriage for both of us. ... A: Let me explain why I said this, and I'm not the only one that has this opinion for a few reasons. ... | |
| My Husband | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: I have been together we/ my husband for 24 years. We have three children, all young adults now. My ... A: It doesn't seem like he's aiming this at you. More that he's trying to desperately fit in and be ... | |
| moving on | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: I emailed you about my husband and I and me moving out. He was in denial and now we got into it ... A: Actually these feelings you're experiencing are completely normal and very common for anyone in your ... | |
| last name from previous marriage | 12/30/2007 |
| Q: if i was married once before and got a divorce from that person but still had his last name, when i ... A: Yes, and it's lying too. You have to use whatever your current legal last name is on the marriage ... | |
| Indifferent Wife | 12/29/2007 |
| Q: OK, since you've placed an invitation for questions, I have a few: One is how do you get a spouse ... A: Well, I can certainly see and understand your concerns about some health professionals and how they ... | |
| problems | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: For the last four days my husband has been very cold to me, over Christmas! Anyhow, my feelings ... A: You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart talk with him. He needs to know ... | |
| Obsession | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: I just read your answer to John(Obsessed with Old old flame). I was on the Internet today searching ... A: There is help available out there for you, you just have to know where to look for it. There is low ... | |
| To move or not to move... | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and we have 2 young daughters. When we got pregnant ... A: No, absolutely do NOT move away from your parents and your only good support system. If you do this ... | |
| Indifferent Wife | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: OK, since you've placed an invitation for questions, I have a few: One is how do you get a spouse ... A: It all starts with yourself; and you have to love yourself sometimes or no one else will. If you ... | |
| talking about money issues | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 9 years and have 3 children. When we married we moved halfway across the ... A: Financial reasons can certainly be problematic in a marriage. But he can't keep you in the dark and ... | |
| Wife feeling very Ambivalent about leaving | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: Greetings, Greetings, I have been married to my lovely wife for almost 10 years, we have a 3 year ... A: The key here is that she has to be willing and open to helping herself. You can't help someone that ... | |
| How can we reconcile? | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: My husband has filed for divorce, on the grounds of unreasonable behavior as it is the only grounds ... A: Actually this "friend" is the one that is imposing on your marriage. If she were a true friend to ... | |
| Wife doesn't want divorce but I want it | 12/26/2007 |
| Q: I read the answer you gave for my subject (it was the wife leaving the husband) and you advised ... A: I think you should do everything you possibly can before you're ready to give up on a marriage. ... | |
| no affection husband | 12/25/2007 |
| Q: "we have been married for 10 years and have a 9 year old son we both work full time the problem is ... A: His behavior shows that he's disinterested in you for some reason. You mentioned that you caught ... | |
| Wife feeling very Ambivalent about leaving | 12/24/2007 |
| Q: Greetings, Greetings, I have been married to my lovely wife for almost 10 years, we have a 3 year ... A: You have to take into consideration this has been a long time coming (how she's feels). It's ... | |
| Obsessed with old, old flame | 12/21/2007 |
| Q: The following is very troubling to me. I'm in my late 40's and married with children. This is my ... A: It seems to be a combination of a few things going on here. The biggest one being that she was your ... | |
| My Husband is always moaning!! | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: Good morning Please can you give me some advice. I have been married 7 years and have 2 gorgeous ... A: He's certainly acting this way for a reason. A couple of theories I have would be possible ... | |
| Possible marriage-ending abortion | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 6 years, we got married young at only 23. I've always ... A: Some ppl just weren't cut out to be parents. And that's okay, it's a personal decision for everyone ... | |
| Wife messaging another man | 12/15/2007 |
| Q: My wife recently text messaged another man. He is married and we all are good friends and she ... A: You may be being a little bit too sensitive, but nothing major. However, I don't think there is ... | |
| don't know how to let go | 12/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my husband since i was 15, we are both now 33 married for 10 years and have a 10yr ... A: Perhaps he's trying to say that he loves you but yet he's not IN love with you like he used to or ... | |
| My wife is a slob...how can we fix this? | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 6 years. I love her to death -- I mean that -- but she has ... A: You can't make her do something that she refuses to do, including cleaning and keeping the house ... | |
| abused? or normal? | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 9 years, and I think it is a very abusive relationship. My husband ... A: You don't have to record or necessarily prove that he's been or is abusive to you. The court should ... | |
| need to understand | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: can working really be bad for a marrage? Do I sound depressed, you know maybe I am. My wife’s keeps ... A: You shouldn't dwell on that fact. You can cross that bridge if/when you come to that. For now just ... | |
| need to understand | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: can working really be bad for a marrage? Do I sound depressed, you know maybe I am. My wife’s keeps ... A: You are feeling like less than a man, b/c you feel like somehow you failed your wife, your children, ... | |
| Husband gives more priority to his parents | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: I have been married now for a little more than 4 years and am expecting my baby - my first - on Dec ... A: I can see why this is stressing you out greatly! Anyone in your position would feel the same exact ... | |
| Female orgasm | 12/5/2007 |
| Q: My wife (43) and I (48) are newly married, both for the second time. We have 3 boys between the two ... A: I can see why she thinks she's a director. No one wants to constantly be talked to during sex. ... | |
| 1 year anniversary | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for a year on January first and i love her more than my life. I don't ... A: Well, okay. What does she like? Some general ideas that I can think of right off hand that women ... | |
| Should I stay or go? | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 17 years. We had a baby before we got married, then when we separated 3years ... A: If you're unhappy and you're tempted to cheat, then you should seriously consider leaving the ... | |
| Trust | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: Me and my husband (22 and 25 yrs old) went on a trip and it was all great. we left our one year old ... A: You have every right to be worried and concerned about him cheating. Porn can lead eventually lead ... | |
| Need to move forward | 12/3/2007 |
| Q: I'll try to keep this short. I met Brian when I was 17. I was a little obsessive as a teen and ... A: He probably has no clue that you have been pushed to this point. So you need to sit down with him ... | |
| secret masturbation | 11/30/2007 |
| Q: this subject is difficult for me as my feelings run so deep and this hurts me so much! I am in my ... A: He could be embarrassed or ashamed that he's masturbating and then to deal with the guilt he's ... | |
| marriage | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: hey gurl i got ur message and i want u to know that he is not like cheating on me like with alll ... A: In order for you to be able to get over his cheating. You first have to forgive him, way down in ... | |
| watching porn | 11/27/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 3 years and he constantly watches porn and I hate it but he always ... A: His got an addiction to porn. If he has to watch it all the time, every single day, and he's not ... | |
| More Details | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: I have already ask a question about my wife cheating on me 3 times in 17 years of marriage, and I ... A: How old are your children? Anyway, since you're not divorced yet and still legally married (as long ... | |
| don't know what to do | 11/24/2007 |
| Q: Here I go. I have been married for 2 years and am 27 years old. We have been together for 8 years ... A: No, it's not just you. It's him too, he's obviously in denial here. And he's not ready to face the ... | |
| don't know what to do | 11/23/2007 |
| Q: Here I go. I have been married for 2 years and am 27 years old. We have been together for 8 years ... A: He could just be used to having you around. And he didn't know how to cope with you out of house. ... | |
| burial plans | 11/20/2007 |
| Q: My husband of 10 years just told me that he plans on being buried with his family in Belgium. I am ... A: If he dies before you, then you as his living next of kin legally decide where he's to ultimately be ... | |
| husband | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: I've noticed my husband "checking out" young teen and college age girls. He is 56 and I am 53 and ... A: To sum it up simply put, he's a typical man. It's totally normal for men to check out a pretty or ... | |
| Follow up on previous about Wife Texting | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: S.Kessler: Here is more detail, I appreciate your indulgence-there is a point here eventually! We ... A: You basically have two choice here. A) You can stay with her and continue to be miserable in your ... | |
| another chance | 11/15/2007 |
| Q: I wrote you in the past during my breakup and now I find I am writing you again. After our breakup ... A: He's your ex for a reason. And you've had repeated bad history with him, you're just finally ... | |
| Etiquette | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: I am wondering if it is poor etiquette to buy a lady who is not your wife a drink, and not buy one ... A: It could be construed as inappropriate. The proper etiquette would be to either not offer a drink ... | |
| Confused! | 11/13/2007 |
| Q: Please help. I am just short of my 1st year wedding anniv. First I need to tell you that both my ... A: He seems to want to work on this marriage as much as you do. So yes, I would strongly urge you to ... | |
| Intimacy issues | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: When we do have sex keeping it erected has been a issue. When I asked him about he had said that ... A: Someone else living in your home can be a mood breaker and it really can affect your sex life. And ... | |
| Is there any hope for this marriage? | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: I will make this as brief as possible but it is a long story...I was married and had two sons. I got ... A: Perhaps he's somehow lost sight of you and the marriage and once how important it was to both of ... | |
| bedroom advice for a married couple | 11/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 4. We have always had a great sex life ... A: Having a threesome is a very bad idea. It's bringing someone else into your relationship. This can ... | |
| My boyfriend says he doesn't love me anymore | 11/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. Although we are still young, I know I love him with ... A: You must let him have his time and space. Otherwise you're only going to make matters worse. ... | |
| Is this marriage over? | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. Our marriage has always been good but for the past few ... A: There is only so much you can say and do. And if she's refusing to talk to you and listen. What ... | |
| order of marriage and children | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: If you believe in God, I asked my to be husband, where do I fall in the order of our marriage? He ... A: He's sadly mistaken in the order of which priorities in life should be. He is completely right that ... | |
| Im STUCK!!! | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: I'm 22years old my husband and I have been together for 3 years and we have two children under the ... A: Every time he gets in a vehicle when he drinks and drives he's endangering innocent lives ... | |
| how to know when it is over | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: How do you know when it is over? My husband is a good man, No abuse what so ever. we don't talk we ... A: Mostly you just know it in your heart when you've had enough and you can't go on in an unhappy, ... | |
| Rights of wife before divorce | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: My daughter is 22, married and left for NC in 2003 with the "man of her dreams." well that's all ... A: Since they are legally married still. No, He can't just kick her out of the marital home, and vice ... | |
| Long marriage with kids involved | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: I have never felt of value in my marriage. We had children young and I feel like I raised my ... A: This can happen when a couple marries and has children young. This happened to me in my first ... | |
| Alcoholic Husband | 11/4/2007 |
| Q: We have been friends for almost 8. Everything started out wonderful. We got married, had a little ... A: He's an alcoholic and he can't stop drinking on his own. He has to first acknowledge that he has a ... | |
| In laws tearing away at our marriage. | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: I have a question for you. My husband and I have been married for almost four months now. His ... A: You have every right to be upset that he's not defending you like a husband should. As your husband ... | |
| emotional roller coaster | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: I've been married 7years, at first I thought I had a great parnter when we were dating. However over ... A: He could be being nice to you due to him thinking you're going to leave him and he doesn't want that ... | |
| where do i start | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: i have been with my husband for 11 years and married for 6 i an only 29 since i had my son my ... A: He's an alcoholic. Alcoholism is an addiction just like gambling. He first has to acknowledge that ... | |
| should I divorce | 10/26/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 26 years. During that time my husband has always worked nights and I worked ... A: No, you're not mental or crazy. You need to divorce him and move on with your life. It's tough to ... | |
| New Marraige Issues | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: My name is Emily. I have been married two months now to my husband. He's a wonderful man, with good ... A: These feelings, given all that you're going through and have been through are totally normal. You ... | |
| Finances | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: Right now my husband and I are struggling to pay our bills, we have 1 child. The problem is my ... A: When you're struggling to pay bills, then he doesn't need to be spending the extra money on things ... | |
| divorce | 10/23/2007 |
| Q: we are us citizens who got married in mexico 4 months ago. I did not register it in colorado. It was ... A: Yes, your marriage legal anywhere in the world as long as you have the official paperwork done when ... | |
| step parent | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: my son gets yelled at for not calling his step mother mom i am is mother and want to know what is ... A: Your ex is wrong for making him do something your son isn't ready to do. It should be whatever the ... | |
| Step Children | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for a year. My husband's previous wife died 3 1/2 years ago. He has one daughter ... A: His daughter is now grown, out on her own and she's perfectly capable of taking care of herself. ... | |
| Step Children | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for a year. My husband's previous wife died 3 1/2 years ago. He has one daughter ... A: How is this a healthy marriage, when you live in another home in another state?! I'm not trying to ... | |
| NOT TALKING | 10/22/2007 |
| Q: EVERY TIME MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE AN ARGUMENT HE WILL NOT TALK TO ME FOR DAYS AND I DON'T KNOW WHAT ... A: By him not talking that's not solving the problem. In fact it can only make matters worse by not ... | |
| my husband dosent want sex. | 10/19/2007 |
| Q: when my husband and i started dating the sex was good and plentiful, but a few months later he ... A: It very well could be this salt supplement that they gave him. The first thing I think you should ... | |
| should I divorce | 10/17/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 26 years. During that time my husband has always worked nights and I worked ... A: He's feeling the heat of being rejected by you now. Men don't like to feel rejected by their wives ... | |
| Wife Always Upset With Me | 10/15/2007 |
| Q: I have a problem. I have been married to my wife for sixteen years. We have three beautiful ... A: It seems like you're damned if do and you're damned if you. And that no matter what you say or do ... | |
| searching for an answer | 10/12/2007 |
| Q: Ok last night i guess he must have sensed that i was really down in the dumps believe it or not i ... A: I don't mind if you want to stay in regular contact with me, that's totally fine by me. I have many ... | |
| Searching For An Answer | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: I am totally frustrated because the night before last i asked my husband if he had time for some ... A: I really have no right or perfection answer. I do know that a person can only take so much of ... | |
| Married to a crossdresser | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 20 years. For all of this time she has known of my "hobby" of ... A: I think you need to sit down with her and have a serious heart to heart talk with her. She needs to ... | |
| Searching for an answer | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: This is my second marriage I have 3 children form my previous marriage,this is hs first marriage and ... A: I think the biggest problem here is that he's got no experience with children. And he's still ... | |
| When to break the silence? | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I am writing to you as I came across your profile on this web-site. If you could possibly make sense ... A: The silent treatment is never a very nice way to let him know that you're unhappy with what he did. ... | |
| Am I Crazy? Wat do I Do? | 10/9/2007 |
| Q: I hav ebeen married 10 years - only in the last year have I figuerd out my Husband is sex addict - ... A: He obviously has an addiction to sex, prostitutes, etc. And he's cheating on you! He's insulting ... | |
| 2nd Marriage w/ Step children | 10/7/2007 |
| Q: I've been married for about 16 months. When we first got together we decided how we were going to ... A: He's got his priorities all wrong here. Yes, his daughter needs to be first in his life. However, ... | |
| Husband's drinking | 10/6/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 11 yrs. We have one child together. He drinks almost everyday ... A: Every time he drinks and gets in a vehicle when drunk, that's drunk driving. And he's putting ... | |
| husband Iraq | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: my husband is doing his second deployment to Iraq. He came home the first time with PTSD which ... A: You have every right to be upset and even angry at him for this. Let me get this straight. He's ... | |
| friends... | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: briefly my friends (who have been married since May and have a baby due any day also both are ... A: While it's flattering that they want you to help them resolve some issues between them. Be very ... | |
| His best friend | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: i've been married almost a year now and my husband's best friend is an on-going theme in out ... A: It's high time you sat down with your husband and had a serious heart to heart talk with him. He ... | |
| marriage | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: Do you think it is ok for a wife to go out with friends fairly regularly without her husband because ... A: No, you shouldn't assume this is the case with her just yet. I would strongly suggest that you sit ... | |
| My wife keeps bringing home pets | 9/30/2007 |
| Q: My wife keeps wanting more and more animals. I feel a successfully marriage is based off compromise ... A: You know this isn't about the pets. It's about her lack of respect for you. She honestly doesn't ... | |
| hi | 9/29/2007 |
| Q: Im 29 yrs olf and after being single for a long time and dating off and on and off and on I did ... A: Getting married really does change your life for better or worse. It's true. It'll either make or ... | |
| I dont know whats going on? | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: Since the beginning of our relationship there have been problems I and I say that literally have ... A: If she's got bi-polar this can explain all of her erratic behavior. When you're dealing with ... | |
| Breaking up!!! | 9/27/2007 |
| Q: I have been divorced and a single parent to a seven year old son. whose dad travelled few months ... A: That is simply unacceptable. You tell him that your son and you are a package deal. You aren't ... | |
| marriage | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: where do I start I guess it would be can you help and this is it my husband has not been with me in ... A: It appears as though he's lying to you. And by expecting you to believe that a virus could be sent ... | |
| Going forward......... | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: When do you accept that the marriage is over and move on? My husband of 12years has left me and our ... A: First off, don't beat yourself up and feel stupid (I'm sure you're far from it anyway--being stupid ... | |
| Re: Feeling emotionally neglected | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 6 years (married for 2 & a half years) He is a wonderful ... A: I don't think you're getting your point across to him. Some men just don't really realize how their ... | |
| separate bedrooms | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I separated for a month. Ever since I moved back in (about six weeks ago) I have ... A: No, you're not stupid. However, you shouldn't let him do this to you. If you're not comfortable ... | |
| Seems husband will NOT let go of previous life! | 9/25/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years, with him for 5 years. We knew each other a short time when we were ... A: He's acting this way due to the traumatic way she died. Face it when a loved one (even a spouse) ... | |
| Seems husband will NOT let go of previous life! | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years, with him for 5 years. We knew each other a short time when we were ... A: I suspect that he's still having trouble letting go of her, since she committed suicide. Perhaps he ... | |
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