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| Is fantasizing normal | 9/30/2008 |
Q: I caught my husband fantasizing about a past coworker. He cropped her face onto some pornographic ... A: well, looking for someone is ok,but for the reasons you he might be searching for her,is not. So in ...
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| Hurt by wife's behaviour | 9/27/2008 |
Q: Sorry in advance for what is a bit of a long email ! My elderly father was recently placed in ... A: i wish you all well, please let me know how it all goes. Graham Hi Herb, wow, i re-read this ...
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| Hurt by wife's behaviour | 9/26/2008 |
Q: Sorry in advance for what is a bit of a long email ! My elderly father was recently placed in ... A: well i do hope wife sees this reply,it looks like she wanted you to find that "email" so now that ...
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| Difference of Emotions | 9/24/2008 |
Q: My wife doesn't act like she misses me or thinks of me as compared to me while at work away from ... A: it could be that your wife just isn't a touchy ,feely person. some people just are not comfortable ...
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| Marriage worries | 9/22/2008 |
Q: Sorry if this is a long one, but I'm really struggling with this and need to talk someone unbiased ... A: so sorry for my late reply, Its clear to me that you have had a rough deal here;it is now showing ...
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| Scared to call it a day | 9/8/2008 |
Q: Good morning I have been married now for 4 years and i am very confused and scared as to what to do ... A: its very important that you feel safe and wanted in any relationship, but now you need to focus on ...
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| is he coming back | 9/5/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend/husband/father of my children of 5 years said he wasnt happy and he moved out.he keeps ... A: this is a hard one, i would ask him outright what is going on,and get him to explain himself to you. ...
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| How can I help my husband forget the past? | 9/4/2008 |
Q: I have been with my husband (Carlos) for ten years. Carlos and I have been going through problems ... A: his issues are causing him to suffer,and i am afraid that the way you talk about it in your letter ...
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| married with no sex | 9/2/2008 |
Q: me and my hubby have been married for almost 5 years now he is 30 and im 31, i love to have sex but ... A: well, the answer is not "wanting other men" its more deep seated than just wanting or not wanting ...
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| strained relation with husband | 8/31/2008 |
Q: We have been married for one year after being good FRIENDS for 6 years.I,being a friend, never paid ... A: shortcomings are not so bad,as we are all human;but what is important is that you don't forget that ...
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| Marriage | 8/28/2008 |
Q: My problem is with my husband and a family member through marriage. My husband and i were having ... A: your hubby is not behaving as a husband ,should, remember"for better and for worse". he seems to ...
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| Bullying | 8/28/2008 |
Q: I searched further on the Net and found further articles about control freaks which also described ... A: There is one word in your letter which sums all of what is wrong in a marriage of bullying.....that ...
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| strained relation with husband | 8/28/2008 |
Q: We have been married for one year after being good FRIENDS for 6 years.I,being a friend, never paid ... A: Historically, marriages were based on socially prescribed roles and expectations. Husbands worked ...
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| contolling wife and we have children | 8/25/2008 |
Q: I have a wife that has controlled our relationship for the 9 years we have been married. Before ... A: Believe me your wife is not finding new issues to complain about but issues that have been there for ...
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| Loveless and sexless Marriage | 8/23/2008 |
Q: I am living with this man for the past 34 years, married to him for 28 years. I have been through ... A: i have read your letter and i feel ashamed to be a man,he has betrayed you too many times to be ...
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| Alcholic Husband and an affair | 8/22/2008 |
Q: I recently found out my husband was having an affair with another woman in his office. I also had ... A: Susan, well, i guess men who cheat,will make any excuse for what they did. The end result is that ...
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| husband ...very distant when i am sick | 8/22/2008 |
Q: I am a married for 11 years with two daughters ages4 and 9. Its our love marriage and I love my ... A: graham hiya Fouzia, i think that you must tell your hubby exactly how his behavoiur is hurting ...
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| communication and blame | 8/21/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 7 years and together 6 years before that (high school ... A: sorry for late reply,but been looking for some answers for you. Ok,spouses stop talking to each ...
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| cheated and got divorced | 8/21/2008 |
Q: I was married for almost seventeen years. After 15 1/2 years of being faithful to my husband I had ... A: first, i am not judging you but when you say you worked hard on your marriage for 15 years,but ...
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| boyfriend/husband not happy anymore | 8/18/2008 |
Q: my boyfriend of 5 years says he isn't happy anymore. we have two kids together. ages 3 and 1. he ... A: Generally speaking, men's brains tend to perform tasks predominantly with the left side, which is ...
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| Relationship problems | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I am basically in a common law relationship. We are living together and have been doing so for ... A: It sounds like he can't accept your way of emotions or how you act on them. So I think you mean that ...
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| need help!!!!!!!! | 8/13/2008 |
Q: been married 1 year he has a daughter shes 12years old with his ex girlfriend they separate 6,7 ... A: well, i agree with you, he is paying his ex way too much attention. His daughter he had with his ...
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| sex life | 8/9/2008 |
Q: I am 45, female, happily married for 10 years, and we have, overall, a good sex life, however, in ... A: iam sorry that i wasn't more helpful to you. all the best to you Graham hi there, wouldn't life be ...
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| Husband prefers friends over me | 7/31/2008 |
Q: I seem to have no voice or valid place in this life.My husband and I have been married soon to be 26 ... A: his issues appear to be that he is "king" and what he says goes,this is so "caveman like" that ...
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| Regaining trust | 7/22/2008 |
Q: This year will be me and my wife's 10 year anniversary. We have 3 children and come from a very ... A: Ok, she may not trust you yet,but her behavour is not that of a Woman with very low esteem. Every ...
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| contemplating divorce | 7/19/2008 |
Q: I have been contemplating a divorce for many reason 1. We argue every day and when I try ... A: Now to get to the divoice stage is a huge step,make sure that every angle to covered before you ...
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| sexual intimacy in marriage | 7/18/2008 |
Q: I am looking for a male perspective and beginning to feel that there are no answers to my problem. ... A: I understand your feelings so well, i suffered from this myself,and still do, although it isn't as ...
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| unfaithful wife | 7/16/2008 |
Q: my wife and i have had problems in the past but i thought nothing big. she went to guatemala because ... A: there isn't a lot you can do, if she wants out ,she wants out. I would try talking to her,and tell ...
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| my husband | 7/14/2008 |
Q: My husband and I been married 18 yrs. I am his 3rd wife. He came from a very controling mom and ... A: Your husband probably loves you more than you can ever imagine. While it's true that his demanding ...
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| newlyweds having troubles with sex | 7/11/2008 |
Q: I got married six months ago to my best friend. Our marriage was tough at first but nothing out of ... A: Most relationships go through phases where one or both partners have gone off sex, but there's no ...
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| my husband doesn't feel the same | 7/9/2008 |
Q: I ahve been married for 25 years in November and we have 4 children ranging from 22 to 9. A few ... A: i am sorry to hear about your hubby and his thinking. It seems that he is worried about being on his ...
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| Confusion | 7/2/2008 |
Q: My wife and I are both 31 years old.We have been together for 15 years and have two terrific ... A: Now, it does seem that she has major hangups on sexual issues,did this all change after the children ...
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| What;'s normal? Don't know anymore! | 7/1/2008 |
Q: Ever since we got married 3 yrs. ago my husband has been telling me what I "owe" him. I'm 61, he's ... A: this is very wrong and his views are almost archaic to say the least.I guess you have tried to ...
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| Husband's apparent mid-life crisis | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I've seen several of your responses and in my opinion you seem to have your finger on the pulse of ... A: graham Hi Beth, it may seem to you that "stress" is always something that someone else has,but it ...
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| marriage | 6/29/2008 |
Q: i have been with my husband 12 year`s only married for 2 year`s.he can`t show me any feeling`s at ... A: Graham hi Sally, sorry for the delay, now with so little info, i would say,go to this site for a ...
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| Am I wrong? | 6/29/2008 |
Q: I am three months away from marrying and dont know if I should. We have been together for a year now ... A: you are the only one who can decide to marry her or not;but her own life is an issue here,because ...
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| Was I wrong? | 6/27/2008 |
Q: I was taking care of my niece and newphew at my home on a hot summer day. I was in the kitchen ... A: No you were not wrong to stay in your bedroom,clearly you were embarrassed that a another person saw ...
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| Is My Marriage Over? | 6/4/2008 |
Q: To make it short my husband and i are in different states and has been for 8 months.He works in Tn ... A: trust issues are always hard to resolve,and your husband's actions will not help the situation at ...
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| interest gone | 5/30/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ... A: now, as i read your letter i see that your hubby is losing his sexual appetite ,now this after only ...
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| I don't know what to do. | 5/30/2008 |
Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: I really do feel for you here, because, clearly you are confused as to what what you should or need ...
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| I don't know what to do. | 5/29/2008 |
Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: If a marriage is worth saving then only you can and your hubby can save it. You must think about the ...
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| trust | 5/29/2008 |
Q: my husband an i have been married for 1 year now and he does not trust me , he changed his password ... A: first thing,why is divorce not an option,because sometimes when things get so bad that is all that ...
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| I don't know what to do. | 5/28/2008 |
Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: No matter how much we have in common with the one we love, each of us remains a unique human being. ...
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| my husband isn't nice to me like he is to other people | 5/16/2008 |
Q: For 14 years our marriage was wonderful. Then my husband had heart surgery. He became very verbally ... A: your hubby may have heart problems,but this runs deeper than that, it seems that he is taking his ...
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| Dont feel loved | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 7 years and most of this time I have always felt like he ... A: Sometimes the way someone shows love is not what makes their partner feel loved. For example, one ...
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| all signs point to that boyfriend is no longer attracted to me | 5/12/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 children. In the beginning of our ... A: now, firstly there is nothing wrong with you at all. So lets look at why he is like he is. ...
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| I don't know what to do | 5/4/2008 |
Q: I have a similar situation to many of the men who have posted questions regarding losing their ... A: there isn't much you can do at this time, time will tell! the visit to the marriage counselor is the ...
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| Husband Loves Me/Doesn't Want Me | 4/29/2008 |
Q: I've been very sick. My husband became stressed and took it out on me. He resented me for not ... A: it seems that your hubby is being very stupid with his behavoiur;which will cause you to leave him ...
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| Scared of marriage with my boyfriend | 4/28/2008 |
Q: Relationship, I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now with my firefighter boyfriend. ... A: i hope things work out for you..... Graham HI Beth, In life we are set many problems,and in time ...
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| marriage | 4/24/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 15 years and never been unfaithful to my wife.its been a very hard marriage ... A: Today about half of all marriages end in divorce with many of those not even making it to the first ...
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| marital problems | 4/24/2008 |
Q: i;m married for almost two years, but i don't know what happiness in marriage is.please i need your ... A: When infidelity, lies or broken promises invade a marriage, the trust between husband and wife is ...
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| marriage | 4/14/2008 |
Q: What are the merits and demerits of no age difference marriage???...please weigh the options on both ... A: i found this, it should help you. “Extreme age differences between husband and wife may lead to ...
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| Marriage | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I write to you because I feel guilty and confused within my marriage. I am married for 4 years now, ... A: now i have thought about how to answer this because, you are not alone in this. Many men watch ...
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| My husband and I do not talk like we use too | 4/2/2008 |
Q: I have been married for 5 years and before that we dated for 4 years. We have 4 children that ... A: Roxanne, i have to say that your sister has caused this row,she should not have interfered in your ...
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| is he a bully? | 4/1/2008 |
Q: I've been reading some of the questions and I feel related with some of the women whose husbands ... A: yes he is a bully, a verbal is just as bad as physical bully,his way is always going to be the right ...
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| i think jealousy | 3/25/2008 |
Q: My hsband and I had been together for 4months where he started a behavior. He would want to visit ... A: well, this is a different story altogether,now i know he might email this person with loves and ...
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| miserable marriage | 3/16/2008 |
Q: I've been married 23 years next month. WE have three kids 16, 14 and 9. We've owned a business for ... A: Lisa, i am sorry that after so many years, it has come to this. While 23 years is a long ...
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| Help, the truth sunk me!! | 3/9/2008 |
Q: Alright, I've been married to this girl, we got married rather quickly but we felt a strong ... A: Ok, we all know that "honesty is the best policy" but telling the truth does hurt and some can take ...
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| marriage | 3/7/2008 |
Q: My husband who I have been with for nearly five years has started working long hours,he is 41 and I ... A: i get a lot of letters like this,its basically down to your hubby being very selfish...he seems to ...
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| marriage | 3/2/2008 |
Q: Well before I go into a bunch of detail is this just to ask a single question or are you someone i ... A: I am open to all questions,if i can't answer them i will let you know,but i can listen and read any ...
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| i dont know what to do anymore | 2/27/2008 |
Q: I am 23 years old and my husband is 37. We have been married for three years and have a 5 month old. ... A: i think you could have Postnatal depression is very common. Yet far too often, new mothers are left ...
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| Adultery | 2/26/2008 |
Q: Im married my wife and I have been married for 3 yrs but we've been together for almost 15 yrs. We ... A: i am sorry you feel the way you do, but i fear that the answer i am about to give you will not be ...
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| My wife is too negative- doesn't want kids | 2/18/2008 |
Q: I am a 26 year old male married to a 26 year old female from Trinidad, and we have been married for ... A: i know the feeling you have, i have been there,so lets look at how can you help negative people? ...
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| questions questions questions | 2/6/2008 |
Q: My husband is very close-mouthed and sometimes it is a grand effort to pry information from him. I ... A: i don't really know how to explain his thinking or lack of thinking!! it could be a number of ...
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| my husband's daughter from 1st marriage | 2/3/2008 |
Q: my husband and i got married a little more than 2 years ago. He had been separated from his 1st wife ... A: sorry to hear about your situation. your husband really should be 100% behind you on this,but his ...
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| trust | 2/2/2008 |
Q: .. then now he tells me he wants nothing to do with her and he wants to be with me yet she is still ... A: well, he is being very clever isn't he!playing with two people's emotions. Now, you have to decide ...
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| wife | 1/31/2008 |
Q: my question was has she ever tried to stop someone and why didnt she just answer me with a yes or a ... A: I see, well i guess she didn't want you to think bad of her, and if said nothing then she isn't ...
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| Is this the end? | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I am 19 years old and my husband is 20. We have a 13 month old son, and we are expecting another ... A: sorry for late reply, been busy with work. your hubby's attitude seems very churlish indeed,his ...
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| Child? If it's not, what after? | 1/30/2008 |
Q: I met my husband 3 years ago. He was still in divorce process and we had a long distance ... A: ...good luck hi there, sorry for late reply, had pc problems. so lets look at this, he has a ...
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| nervous | 1/28/2008 |
Q: My husband and I just got married 4 months ago. Before we got married, even before we started ... A: i would tell him how you are feeling because if you don't it will eat at you till the day you die. ...
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| just love to look, alittle too much | 1/24/2008 |
Q: I grew up with just my dad, no mom, and he was always checking out other girls. He was single, well, ... A: there is no harm in looking at women,just don't rub your wife's nose in it,and of course do NOT ...
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| forgiveness | 1/20/2008 |
Q: My husband and I were married for 15 yrs before he committed adultry then we divorced for 4 yrs and ... A: it seems like he is a "player" and lives on your love for him, to take him back every time. i do ...
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| What's going on in my marriage? | 1/19/2008 |
Q: I'm looking for answers, here it goes. We've been married 10 years, together for 12. We have two ... A: It does seem that men have a knack of hurting the ladies they love the most.I wonder if the main ...
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| marriage question | 1/17/2008 |
Q: I have been with my girlfriend for almost 8 years and its time to ask her to marry me. The problem ... A: I am not sure of the answer you want from me! but if you are not sure if this is what you want then ...
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| What's going on in my marriage? | 1/16/2008 |
Q: I'm looking for answers, here it goes. We've been married 10 years, together for 12. We have two ... A: Such is the trap into which millions of us fall, this is very similar to the preceding "You make me ...
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| What should I do to convince her or am I wrong?? | 1/14/2008 |
Q: I love my wife.Its very unusual that when i am in bed with her, I have fantasy about her having an ... A: this is an usual question,but i will do my best in answering it. Now when sex drives differ;and ...
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| yelling @ my Fiance | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I recently fell in love with a soldier whom is 14 yrs younger than me. Age doesnt matter between us. ... A: I know it will sound silly, but have you thought;"hey i have written to a complete stranger for ...
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| My Marriage | 1/8/2008 |
Q: I have been married for twenty years. I have over the tears told my husband about the child abuse i ... A: Kay, I am so sorry to hear you suffered so. This whole episode of your life is clear in your ...
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| Swapping | 1/8/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend and I recently visited a nudist/swapping resort. Although we did not participate in ... A: i have a very simple answer;this will lead to heartache and can and will ruin a good marriage or ...
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| spouse continuously disprects me | 1/6/2008 |
Q: he has this bad habit that irritates me to no end and no matter how much we talk about how this ... A: well thanks shelly, i thought i was helping you but i guess i didn't i will inform allexperts ...
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| abusive relationship | 12/19/2007 |
Q: my husban is very controlling and abusive and sometimes voilent . i have to act submissive otherwise ... A: i am sorry about his way with you. All i can say is that i hate men that hurt women, and you really ...
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| I am stock. | 12/16/2007 |
Q: i have been married with my husband 4 years.my english not well.He asked me marry with him in my ... A: this is a big problem and you must seek help, i can't really help in a big way because of your ...
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| how do I win her back after messing up | 12/13/2007 |
Q: This needs a litle bit of set up, First off let me state that I love my wife. I am not the smartest ... A: but god know how you thought i was impolite, i am never impolite ,i am right to the point but never ...
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| Sexual Drive | 12/12/2007 |
Q: I've been married 12 years with 3 kids. My husband 34 has a high sex drive. I had my tubes tyied ... A: sorry for the late reply. Now the keys to sexual desire are positive anticipation and feeling you ...
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| some more questions... | 12/11/2007 |
Q: If you read my first question, I was also wondering should I refrain from going to family ... A: Patrick, this one is down to you. I would explain to the inviter that your wife is upset that they ...
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| what should i buy my wife for xmas?? | 12/11/2007 |
Q: My wife and I have been seperated for 3 weeks. 5 months ago she dropped a bomb on me. She said she ... A: Patrick, when things go wrong,the reasons are not always that easy to see. I would ask her about ...
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| I hate being married | 11/25/2007 |
Q: I'm 43, my husband 45 and we've been married 22 years. Many of the years are more unhappy than ... A: i am sorry for the late reply, anyway i really wish i could give you a detailed answer, but i have ...
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| husband is no longer attracted to me | 11/22/2007 |
Q: my husband and i have been married for only 5 months and already im almost positive he has lost all ... A: men are pigs,me too sometimes;to put your mind at rest,99 of men watch porn and masturbate;this does ...
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| My husband seems uninterested in sex | 11/19/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for two months. We are both Christians who love the Lord, and my ... A: you must forgive me i have been very ill the last 2 weeks,still ill now so my reply time is very ...
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| hes a socialite, i'm codependant | 11/17/2007 |
Q: This might get hard to follow, and I apologize, but appreciate any comments good/bad you can give ... A: well you hit a sore with me here,what i will say now will probably have you thinking " gosh he is ...
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| sexless marrage | 11/14/2007 |
Q: I need help....my husband and I have been married for 29 yrs, he wants sex all the time and I don't, ... A: First of all, there are far greater differences between individuals of the same gender than between ...
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| My Marriage | 11/11/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years and separated for 1 yr and 2 mths and we have two ... A: when a hubby or wife says "i don't love you any more" its a very hard thing to hear,but most people ...
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| exhausted with the patterns in my marriage. | 11/10/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have a new baby who has been a joy to our lives. ... A: try and get this book Every Day I Love You More (just not today) Lessons in Loving One Partner for ...
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| when is enough-enough? | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I am 33 years old and my husband is 26. We've been married six years. Most of our marriage has been ... A: Marriage, if it progresses like it should and we along with it, will grow us right up. It a ...
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| i hate my inlaw so much that I always think of divorce | 11/10/2007 |
Q: I've been married almost 10 years with a 6 years old son. My inlaw are living with us, and troubles ... A: i know its very difficult,and in-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can ...
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| Should fiance keep pictures of ex? | 11/6/2007 |
Q: A few weeks ago my fiance and I were unpacking boxes as we moved into a new apartment together. I ... A: well i guess if it makes you unhappy,i would say something.I know sometimes when people break-up ...
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| Other women | 11/5/2007 |
Q: Me and my husband have been married for three months,Lateley we have been arguing quite a lot ... A: Claire, hi there, this is an easy one to answer,99 of men look at porn at some point in their ...
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| My marriage is crashing | 11/5/2007 |
Q: I have been married for a little over 2 years with a baby. My husband and I have arguments on and ... A: life is never fair or easy, many problems happen and then you have to learn to solve them. The ...
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| Marital Dwelling | 11/5/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend and I are considering marriage next year. She wants me to move into her house where ... A: well, no your not wrong to feel that way,but your lady friend too has her feeling about this. I know ...
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| Emtionally Unavailable Husband | 10/31/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married 10 years now and how he act's sometimes is just rude and ... A: Some men do have strange ideas and have you ever noticed how incredibly focused a man can sometimes ...
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| SEPERATION | 10/28/2007 |
Q: MY WIFE IS GETTING READY TO MOVE OUT. SHE SAYS SHE NEEDS SPACE AFTER 17 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND THREE ... A: sorry to hear this, now on the issues of the kids its really down to you and her in the first ...
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| quarelling between my husband and I | 10/23/2007 |
Q: my husband and i fighting alot .we are both selfish and stubborn.we want to prove ourselves ... A: First,it is not too late. If you do not allow yourself to believe and accept that, you will think ...
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| My Dad | 10/11/2007 |
Q: I'll try to make this as short as possible. My Father is 74 and his wife is 54. They live in Florida ... A: well i always fear the age gap like this,but you can only support your dad in every way you can. Are ...
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| husband abandoned us and now back | 10/4/2007 |
Q: My husband abandoned me and my 11 months old daugther. There were problems in our marriage for ... A: this is a very simple answer for me to give;you must seek a way to help him in his anger,or you must ...
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| cheating spouse | 10/3/2007 |
Q: My wife denies she enter into an emotional affair with her co-worker despite over whelming phone ... A: getting her to admit to an affair is very hard. the only way would be to catch them, but you must be ...
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| Marriage !!!!! | 10/3/2007 |
Q: PLEASE NOTE THE I WILL BE VERY MUCH GREATFULL IF YOU COULD GIVE ME AN IMMEDIATE REPLY AS THIS THING ... A: Wow, that is a bummer. Now, here comes my very opinionated reply! If I were in that situation, I'd ...
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| Husband doesnt like to help out much | 10/1/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for less than a year and we have a 2 month old son. He's ... A: Any wife who wants to have her husband share in the responsibility of taking care of their home ...
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| sexually | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. I dated my husband for 5 years, and we always had a fun, ... A: its very hard to know where i can go with this;because after only 2 years he should be so up and ...
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| sexually "dead" relationship | 9/21/2007 |
Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. I dated my husband for 5 years, and we always had a fun, ... A: firstly, you say you love your husband,and yet you want to have an affair;that is like water and ...
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| Husband left home | 9/18/2007 |
Q: Me and my husband have been married for 3 1/2 years with a beautiful baby girl. We have had problems ... A: without knowing his history,his medical history too;i feel that he could be suffering from ...
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| i hate myself | 9/17/2007 |
Q: we are married for ten years and something happened 7 years ago and i told my husband the truth that ... A: When guilt eats away that person's life becomes so hard and forgiveness can only help;am to think ...
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| advice | 9/13/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are having problems with him looking at porn on the computer at home. He knows how ... A: i know how you must feel,and if i said that 99% of men do watch porn at home, you would say "oh ok" ...
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| Marriage and intimacy | 9/13/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 22 years to the same man. We have two children of college age. I am ... A: some guys just go shy after a certain time, there is no reason for it, but it could be that he has ...
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| Marriage and intimacy | 9/13/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 22 years to the same man. We have two children of college age. I am ... A: i am so sorry for not thanking for your marks until now, i somehow caught caught up in other family ...
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| My wife says | 9/10/2007 |
Q: I am so confused right now it is unreal. My wife and I have had issues over the last couple of ... A: guy, what you are painting here is a dark picture of your wife,and to be honest if she has done what ...
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| My husband wants to spend time with female co-worker? | 9/9/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have a huge difference of opinion... He thinks that it should be absolutely fine ... A: hope you get him to see what you are feeling Graham Hi K having females as friends is ok to a ...
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| Just want to be loved | 9/9/2007 |
Q: My Husband and I have been married one year and he does nothing!! We have a nine month old son who ... A: Now is the time for you to confront him about being inconsiderate of you and his bad behavior. Sit ...
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| My wife says | 9/8/2007 |
Q: I am so confused right now it is unreal. My wife and I have had issues over the last couple of ... A: Quite often, women's emotions are clearly reflected on their faces. If her face lights up when you ...
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| How can I tell my wife that I'm unhappy | 9/4/2007 |
Q: Ok..so let's start at the beginning. My wife and I have been together for 4 years, and we have two ... A: i really feel for you, its clear you wife has done something,her defensive behavior is very ...
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| Husband's inappropriate picture message | 9/2/2007 |
Q: I have recently noticed that my husband was sending picture messages with his phone. Although he ... A: i know this will not help you understand his actions,but this behavior is very common with men of ...
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| How do I gain back my wifes trust and love? | 9/1/2007 |
Q: I am a 43 yr old man that has been married for 23 years.We have a 23yr old and 19 yr old ... A: Despite such problems, couples can and do put their marriages back together, although only through ...
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| how can i make my girlfriend believe in marriage | 9/1/2007 |
Q: i have a girlfriend that don't believe in marriage.I'm sure that she loves me so much and i love her ... A: if your girlfriend doesn't believe in marriage, there isn't anything you can do.Its her belief,that ...
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| What do you do when your husband says he doesn't love you anymore? | 8/29/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years. We have an 18 year old daughter starting ... A: now, the fact you are trying to save your marriage is clear to him,but his hopes are low,because i ...
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| What do you do when your husband says he doesn't love you anymore? | 8/28/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years. We have an 18 year old daughter starting ... A: There is always hope Judy,where to find it is the problem. Your hubby's problems is stem from his ...
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| Communication | 8/24/2007 |
Q: My wife and I have been married for 4yrs. No kids. I'm 30, she is 29. We have dated since 2000. Last ... A: When a couple reaches the point of not having anything to say to one another, their marriage is in ...
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| SHOULD I END THE RELATIONSHIP | 8/21/2007 |
Q: i have been dating this guy for the last two months. We met in a gym. We have gone out on a date ... A: Leaving a relationship before knowing what the real problem is, is generally a waste of time (aside ...
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| HMMMMM....NO SEX | 8/18/2007 |
Q: OKAY SO HERE I GO...I DONT WANT TO EVER HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND...HE DOESNT TURN ME ON AT ALL...I ... A: i am sorry i could not help you more,and i guess the site wasn't that helpful, but i do wish you all ...
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| divorce cheating wife | 8/18/2007 |
Q: My wife and i were together for about 4 years and married for over 2. I am in the navy and gone ... A: i am so sorry to your hurt, Now its time to Take her off that pedestal Don't idolize her and build ...
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| where do I go?? | 8/14/2007 |
Q: I don't know where to begin so here goes. In 2001 we lost a full term baby 11hrs after his birth ... A: well, i do understand your concerns,this said, your hubby could be very scared in many ways ...
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| I'm still in love with my wife | 8/12/2007 |
Q: I'm sorry this is a long entry. However, I hope the information will provide you with enough ... A: you know this Woman doesn't love you or respect you. You have better things to do with yourself than ...
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| can i date and have relationship during a seperation | 8/5/2007 |
Q: I live in Virginia Washington D.C. I have been separated from my husband for four months because he ... A: well as far as i know, the only laws you could break are moral ones,i am based in the UK and if a ...
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| wife and confidence | 8/3/2007 |
Q: I have been married seven months and going through some jealousy issue. For the past months my wife ... A: i am not sure who wrote to me,because two names are here. Anyway As much as we would like to ...
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| marriage and sex | 8/3/2007 |
Q: i have been married to my hubby for 19 years and i love him but i have not had sex in over 2 years ... A: Although men apparently think about it every five minutes and it’s essential for the continuation of ...
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| Friend and marriage problems | 8/1/2007 |
Q: Im not married yet my best friend is about to be married. We have been close friends for 4 years ... A: being a friend means being a shoulder to cry on and being there when you are needed. your friend ...
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| Difficult husband | 7/23/2007 |
Q: My question is: I have been married for almost 23 years and have 3 children but my husband and I ... A: if you've shown him how much his behavior hurts you, then as someone who cares about you he should ...
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| My Wife left | 7/20/2007 |
Q: We were married for 18yrs. She says she still loves me but she needs to find herself.We moved to VA ... A: she is being very nasty indeed ,saying she still loves you,when indeed she has left you. The affair ...
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| someone help me | 7/18/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been back married again for 2 years.. I am 8 months pregnant and have a 1year ... A: this is a complete negative family, you telling him what he can't and can do and he telling you that ...
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| Marriage on the Rocks | 7/17/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 12 yrs. I have been with my husband for 21 yrs. He was my first boyfriend. ... A: I am sorry that you are going though this almost alone,try and remember that marriage is different ...
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| My husband does nothing to help me! | 7/17/2007 |
Q: My husband and i have been together for 5 years and have a 16 month old son. I work full time and ... A: As you already know, your trying to get him to help is having terrible effects on you, on your ...
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| I think I may still be in love with my ex-husband | 7/15/2007 |
Q: I got married at 18 to my first husband. We have two daughters together. We divorced after 5 years ... A: this is a hard one, but as my mum said "you made your bed now lay in it". As hard as that sounds its ...
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| Hi | 7/13/2007 |
Q: My Friend who married to man for last ten year. Guy is working as marine enineer. They have two ... A: i really hate men that mistreat ladies this way, the lady needs time to get herself together,then ...
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| I cheated on my husband but I love him and DO NOT want our marriage to be over! | 7/11/2007 |
Q: A little over a year ago I cheated on my husband. He just found out from someone I had told (I have ... A: i am sorry to say this..but once a cheat,is very difficult to forgive,your hubby will always think ...
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| I'm with a married man | 7/10/2007 |
Q: "Hi I wrote previously that I'm 27 dating a 53 yr old man.I know what many will think but I'm ... A: well if you can't leave him,lets look at why he hasn't left his wife yet then? look at the goals ...
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| husband hiding information | 7/9/2007 |
Q: I am married for 21 years and have six beautiful kids. I love my husband very much but he has some ... A: its very odd indeed that he should keep that from you. Relationships can be the most difficult and ...
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| Confused Wife possibly having affair | 7/6/2007 |
Q: I’m 30 years old and just became a proud father to most wonderful little girl in the world (5 months ... A: well you covered all the bases i think,and your honesty is very worthy of being a thoughtful guy. ...
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| marriage and pregnant issues | 6/30/2007 |
Q: my husband and i have been married since valentines day 2007 and have been together over a year. we ... A: well, i would think he certainly hasn't lost his "spark" for you,as you have only been married a ...
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| hsuband | 6/13/2007 |
Q: Hey Graham, Perhaps you will need more details, but in a nutshell, I filed for a separation ... A: now it is clear to me he is doing this in a revenge situation,i guess when you told him why you did ...
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| dont feel the same love what we shared | 6/12/2007 |
Q: i am married since year & 6 months,ours is love marriage,(we were in same office & same ... A: i really can't tell what to do here, its for you to decide on this. However,when a guy hits a ...
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| what's happening is it me or him? | 6/7/2007 |
Q: This is a long one, I'm desparate 3 different marriage counselors haven't been able to help us. ... A: Life is to short to be unhappy. honesty in a marriage is very important. what if the shoe was on the ...
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| dont feel the same love what we shared | 6/7/2007 |
Q: i am married since year & 6 months,ours is love marriage,(we were in same office & same ... A: I really have to say one thing...he hit you and that is ,for the way out. i very rarely go this ...
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| Infidelity, sex and online friends | 5/30/2007 |
Q: This is going to be a bit complex, but here goes: My wife and I have been married nearly 10 years. ... A: I am sorry i misled you, no "online" isn't my expertise,but any online chat or even males friends ...
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| Husbandd doesn't show affection or pay attention to me | 5/30/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for eight years now and we have three children together. He ... A: I can't imagine what you are going though,and i do feel for you. Now, although you have spoken to ...
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| Infidelity, sex and online friends | 5/29/2007 |
Q: This is going to be a bit complex, but here goes: My wife and I have been married nearly 10 years. ... A: ok, i get so annoyed when people, pretend "on line" friends means nothing;thats rubbish,its hurtful ...
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| problems with wife | 5/26/2007 |
Q: recently i found out my wife has been lying to us about smoking, it has been two years and i just ... A: yes i agree with you, she is wrong to act in that way. I don't know if she will listen to ...
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| Sudden uncertainty of emotions in my marriage | 5/19/2007 |
Q: My husband and I started trying to get pregnant back at the end of 2005 and we were successful in ... A: well, you seem to be well aware of your feelings and the problems they are causing. Feelings and ...
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| Husband Cell Phone | 5/18/2007 |
Q: My husband likes to play head games with me. Normally he calls me on his first break and or his last ... A: What you need to do here is talk to him openly about all this and show him this letter you wrote to ...
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| about my husband | 5/13/2007 |
Q: my husband is gone all the time either over his friends or at work or school i found 2 girls numbers ... A: Hi Tammy, Well, its almost impossible to say if he is cheating,without evidence ,other than girl's ...
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| wife acussing---and angry quick | 5/8/2007 |
Q: my wife and i have been married for 2 1/2 years.shes always acussing me of looking at other women ... A: the question here is has your wife been suffering from stress recently,or something upset her? I ...
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| Paying Attention | 5/8/2007 |
Q: I have been married to my man 1yr and we've been 2gether for 2-1/2. In the beginning, he held my ... A: well it could a number of things and you know of the money problems he is having.Now i would look at ...
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| Husband had affair, says he's "not in love" with me anymore | 5/7/2007 |
Q: I hope you can help, because I am devastated and heartbroken, and I know my beloved husband is ... A: the fact that your hubby had an affair is problem that is of his making,many men have affairs and ...
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| age problem between wife and husband | 5/6/2007 |
Q: will there be any problem if wife is older than the husband??? A: in marriages there are many problems that can happen,but with love and respect, age is not one of ...
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| is it disrespectful to my relationship to be friends with an ex? | 5/4/2007 |
Q: I always thought that it was the mature thing to do to remain friends with people you have dated, ... A: well i am from an "old school of thought" and really feel you are being a little selfish in thinking ...
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| Starting Over | 5/4/2007 |
Q: After 22 years of marriage and four children, my husband and I realized that we really really don't ... A: well its hard to rebuild trust once its been broken, i do understand its a two way street. This ...
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| to be mad or not to be mad | 4/25/2007 |
Q: My husband and I agree to baby sit our nephew while my sister went to a wedding overnight. I was ... A: i am not an expert in this but i think your hubby is just looking to escape the baby sitting,but not ...
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| Why doesn't he respect me? | 4/16/2007 |
Q: I am 31 and my husband is 27 marine for 8 years. In the last four years of my relationship i have ... A: it seems to me that he is suffering from work related stress, and i wager he and you both know ...
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| Marriage seperation | 4/13/2007 |
Q: My wife has recently told me that she wants to separate and feels we rushed into getting married and ... A: God, when i read letters like this,my blood boils;the fact that she can dictate to you when and ...
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| Should I marry this person? | 4/9/2007 |
Q: Graham, I'm a 30 y/o male and have been living with my girlfriend for more than 5 years. We have a ... A: In virtually every marriage,or relationship no matter how steamy at the beginning, goes through ...
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| my husband is a heroin addict... | 4/9/2007 |
Q: My husband and I were married in july of 2005, we both made mistakes and we separated. during the ... A: first can i say i am not a religious man at all, but if you feel that God can be your crutch then ...
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| Feeling forgotten.... | 4/6/2007 |
Q: I have been married for about 3 years but have been with him for 12, since we were 17. For the ... A: Believe it or not many men look at porn and still have a sex life without pictures. This said, his ...
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| Trust | 4/2/2007 |
Q: I need help with my trust issues. I have been married to my wife for 6 months. We have been ... A: Frank, having trust in someone is the major part of life,in this case your marriage is the trust ...
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| Should I stay or leave | 3/28/2007 |
Q: Graham, I've been married for 9 years and have three great children (3/5/7). My wife and I have ... A: firstly, i am sorry for the late reply. Ok, so it seems that your wife may have problems with ...
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| No Questions...PERIOD | 3/26/2007 |
Q: I am piggybacking on question posed by someone named Christina. My husband feels as though his ... A: his lack of understanding is clearing from how he was bought up as a child;this said the fact he is ...
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| Communication problems | 3/26/2007 |
Q: My husband and I are newlyweds, yet our friendship goes back 10 years. Up until now it seems we have ... A: don't worry you and your hubby are just normal,and you are just beginning to settle down to each ...
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| Exes | 3/22/2007 |
Q: I read my husbands e-mails and saw an ex girlfriend (from 20 yrs ago) contacted him. They exchanged ... A: i think you have every right to be very upset and annoyed.Its seems that all guys,not just your ...
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| lack of sex | 3/21/2007 |
Q: My fiance' and I have been together for almost a year. In the beginning he told me he just ... A: there are so many things that can cause him to not "perform" as he should,now stress is the biggest ...
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| sex | 3/20/2007 |
Q: my husband and I have not had sex much lately. Then, the other night he said that he was worried ... A: i think there is something more going on in your hubbys head other than you "NOT TURNING HIM ON". I ...
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| need advice | 3/20/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We’ve been married for almost 5. This is the 2nd ... A: it seems that your hubby is trying to do too much at once,once he is released. You now need to take ...
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| my husband had sex before marriage with his girl friend | 3/19/2007 |
Q: I have got married for 2yrs,my husband told me about his girl friend after we got married.when we ... A: Jealousy is an instinctive emotion that arises most commonly in women who do not feel sufficiently ...
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| husband | 3/14/2007 |
Q: i want to move to willow springs MO where my in laws are but my husband don't want to he dont even ... A: this is almost a non starter,because he is set in his ways,and its seems he is being very selfish. ...
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| My new husband is not attracted to me | 3/7/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 3 months. During the courtship he was romantic, sexual, charming and ... A: this sounds very familiar to a problem i have come across before;it could be that your husband is ...
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| myluv | 3/4/2007 |
Q: first do u know if say im 15 and my man is 23 can her mom sign for them to get married.can u tell me ... A: firstly, under British law your mum could not allow your relationship,as sex under 16 is illegal. ...
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| worries about my marriage | 1/29/2007 |
Q: I am 30 years old. I have been happily married to my husband, Damon for 8 years. We also have 2 ... A: sorry to hear about your pending operation;but there is no reason why your sex life can't remand the ...
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| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/29/2007 |
Q: I have been trying to talk things out with my hubby, we've been talking about this for the past 4 ... A: it seems that you have been badly treated in the past and its causing problems now. I don't know if ...
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| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/29/2007 |
Q: Graham, You made some points that mde sense to me but you aimed towards that the main problem is ... A: ok i see it a bit clearer now;you never mentioned that your hubby doesn't see his child,so this ...
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| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/26/2007 |
Q: I have known my husband for 13 years, I loved him since the first time I layed eyes on him. Of ... A: I am so sorry you feel i wasn't helpful, i do try and i in main have helped many people. But i am ...
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| help!!! | 1/25/2007 |
Q: My husband has been caught many times online and such watching or viewing porn. i have told him how ... A: Graham Hi S, what your hubby is doing is exactly what millions of guys do the world over;porn on ...
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| Help with marriage | 1/24/2007 |
Q: My husband (28 years old) and I (27 years old) have been married for 3 1/2 yrs. We have lived ... A: It seems that he has forgotten the basic rule of being married,which is love and feeling for the ...
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| feel taken advantage of | 1/16/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have had a long hard marriage. We recently moved to another town. On his job he ... A: just glad i could help you. Graham hi there, well, not to put a too finer point on it, yes you are ...
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| some one else | 1/14/2007 |
Q: my husband and i was having problems in our marriage when we first got married so i needed some one ... A: i hope what i say doesn't seem "off" or harsh, but from your letter it does seem that something did ...
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| Husband cant deal with our toddler | 1/11/2007 |
Q: Me and my husband have been married for 4 years, we have a wonderful 20 month old daughter. After a ... A: its hard for you to understand i know ,but most men will never admit to anyone outside that he hates ...
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| Am I a bad wife? | 1/9/2007 |
Q: My husband wanted to visit his mom and his old pals who live out of state for the holidays. I was ... A: no you are not a bad wife, and it is a little selfish of your hubby to act this way. He should ...
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| hurt and dont know what to do? | 1/8/2007 |
Q: i lied to my husband recently about the number of people i slept with in my past and now he doesnt ... A: telling the truth is not always wise is it. Now he is being all "hurt and wounded",well how many ...
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| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 1/6/2007 |
Q: It has been a month and a half now and she is still out of the house in her apartment. To be honest ... A: i am sorry to this,but i guess you have hope and hope can work.i do hope she can find what she is ...
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| is my marriage worth saving | 1/6/2007 |
Q: my husband has cheated on me with my mother this happened about 3-4 yrs ago... he also has had ... A: firstly, let me say how sorry iam to hear about what he did,this is the ultimate betrayal. AS ...
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| Husband wants Sex but shows no sympathy or affection | 1/4/2007 |
Q: I'm not sure where to start. I had a quick marriage. I met my husband in 2001 & married in 02, had ... A: i thank you for the lovely comments and marks, graham hi Nancy, its never too late to try ...
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| Too Many Questions? | 1/3/2007 |
Q: My husband and I recently had an argument. We are happily married, but occasionally run into ... A: Well it seems like he is trying to out will you on matters of power;this isn't as bad as it sounds. ...
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| Lack of affection/attraction | 12/31/2006 |
Q: I have been married for over 23 years. This past March my husband told me that he can't do this ... A: i am sorry you feel i wasn't helpful enough,i did my best on what you told me,i do feel sometimes ...
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| What can i do? | 12/27/2006 |
Q: Well my husband & me get married in ferbrary 2006 in France, i'm french & he is american.We know ... A: merci tellement sylvia, de vos commentaires gentils et de vos marques à moi… année heureuse de ...
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| Wife says she isn't happy nor don't love me | 12/24/2006 |
Q: I was wondering on what to do in my marriage, my wife and I have been together for 15 years and will ... A: sorry for late reply, what with Xmas and work i couldn't get to my mail. Any way, i feel that ...
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| lies lies lies, in-laws | 12/23/2006 |
Q: I am new at this, but have no were else to turn. Most of my family think that it is no big deal, but ... A: sometimes people do not think about their actions,and clearly your hubby and mother -in-law are ...
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| Wife says she isn't happy nor don't love me | 12/22/2006 |
Q: I was wondering on what to do in my marriage, my wife and I have been together for 15 years and will ... A: the world of the chat rooms, etc!! can and has caused heartache here so try and work on your love ...
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| When to give up | 12/19/2006 |
Q: I have been married for going on eight years now. Everything was great in the start, but as time ... A: i understand where you are coming from and anyone who reads this heart felt letter must also. ...
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| Stay or Go? | 12/18/2006 |
Q: My husband told me he doesn't love me a year ago. It was very hurtful to me, but I dismissed it ... A: it seems that he has issues that need to be sorted before you can move on with your life. Now, i ...
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| adulery in marrige. | 12/17/2006 |
Q: i would like to know why do couple do have next relationship on their husband or wife. A: this is a question that all people ask,and there is no answer, because people are strange beings. ...
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| Wonderful marriage...why do I feel guilty? | 12/15/2006 |
Q: ..I agree with everything you said but does doing regular things I would do with my "girl" friends ... A: yes i do think its a "date", what else would you call it Jamie? I know you think its OK to hang ...
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| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/15/2006 |
Q: Yea, but that doesn't answer my follow up question.Hey, That’s one solution but I think it's ... A: no i don't find this a common problem. i guess that people view relationships in a different way ...
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| Wonderful marriage...why do I feel guilty? | 12/15/2006 |
Q: My husband and I are the couple everyone 'hates' because we have the happiest marriage and are ... A: this is another letter i have had about this subject,So my question to you is this;would you let ...
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| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/14/2006 |
Q: Hey, That’s one solution but I think it's unfair. Why should I sever a year old friendship, not to ... A: i am sorry if i came across as "high and mighty" that wasn't my intention,but if thats how you saw ...
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| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/14/2006 |
Q: My name is Diana, I’m 20 and I became good friends with Harold, a 37 year old married man. We've ... A: well what can i say,i mean it is her hubby that you are hanging out with, OK its not sexual,but she ...
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| I am lost and confused? | 12/13/2006 |
Q: I thought my life and family life was the best it has been. I have recently lost a tremendous amount ... A: I know this might sound silly,but it could be your hubby is suffering from some kind of stress,that, ...
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| Having a controlling husband for 37 years | 12/12/2006 |
Q: I have been married to a man 10 yrs older than I for 37 years.He is now 64,I am 54.His need for ... A: this is gonna be cruel now, sorry for swearing ,ditch the bastard now, i have known people like ...
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| Just moved in the in-laws... | 12/11/2006 |
Q: My husband moved his sister and brother-in-law in with us into our two bedroom one bath home ... A: firstly, i am agree with you in everything you have written,you should not feel this way in your own ...
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| what am i to do | 12/11/2006 |
Q: I tried getting him to go to a counseling session but at the rate of $280/session, when he refused ... A: i am sorry this is going so long for you,and hubby is still being uncooperative,now, you must seek ...
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| A long time ago | 12/10/2006 |
Q: Before my husband and I were engaged, I caught him writing e-mails to his x girlfriends. He wrote ... A: yes it was a while ago now, so i would really try and forgive, perhaps not forget. Now, if you allow ...
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| what am i to do | 12/10/2006 |
Q: I am at a loss in my relationship. My husband has moved to another state after pressuring me to do ... A: I have read and reread this letter and i feel that your main issue here is a dog,i appreciate that ...
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| my husband is not at all interested in sex | 12/6/2006 |
Q: I am 29 & my husband is 34. We are married for two yrs. & 2 months. For the past two yrs. my husband ... A: well its not normal,he should be wanting to make love all the time,most men do. This said,many men ...
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| marriage questions | 12/5/2006 |
Q: why do my husband never told me about his past relationship although i told him about mine? also he ... A: this is almost impossible to answer,his reasons not to ask are his alone,he can only tell you if he ...
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| Am I crazy, ..or is something not right? | 12/5/2006 |
Q: I feel like something is going on but I don't know what. When I confront my husband, he says that I ... A: well all that you say here can get you "paranoid",but its not you that is,its the situation you find ...
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| my husbands doesn't love me anymore | 12/4/2006 |
Q: Yesterday my husband told me he doesn't love me anymore. Out of the blue. We haven't been close in ... A: now, i see a very confused guy, from what you say in this letter. His views on life seem to come ...
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| im so unhappy | 12/3/2006 |
Q: I'V BEEN TOGETHER WITH MY HUSBAND FOR ABOUT THREE YEARS AND I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT BE HAVEING ... A: it seems that your hubby has gone back to "being single" again, this is common in guys that have a ...
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| My husband doesn't trust me. | 12/3/2006 |
Q: I realize that I made a terrible mistake, I wrote 3 checks from his checking account and he found ... A: Elaine, the age gap here is vast, and i believe your hubby is treating like his daughter,but ...
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| Marriage Boundaries | 12/3/2006 |
Q: I have been married for 27 years. My husband has a habit of developing what I view to be overly ... A: well i have to agree with you,his actions beggar believe,in so much that he really believes that ...
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| help | 12/2/2006 |
Q: and they were here talking about the past and what they use to do and date i know that the subject ... A: This is very unfair of your hubby to say this,he is either with you or not;and must be told this in ...
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| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
Q: yes I know there is love there, she broke down today a little bit when we were moving her into her ... A: just writing to see how things are with you and your wife,do write back if you can. best of luck for ...
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| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
Q: Yes she is taking the boys with her,,we will have them share time between the two of us. I don't ... A: normally, i say you have to move forward with your life, but i feel something here, and i wish i ...
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| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
Q: She just tells me that she has to go out there and be on her own to work this out. She is not sure ... A: sorry to hear that she is still going,i have to say her actions are not that of a mum,and is she ...
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| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 11/29/2006 |
Q: Recently my wife came home and said I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore. she has decided ... A: this is the worse news i know, but you now must ask her to explain herself to you;its the very least ...
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| Past History bites back.. | 11/28/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have dated for 4 years prior to getting married, one year ago this Saturday Dec. ... A: he seems to be having double standards here, what you did or didn't do in the past should stay ...
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| How much is too much? | 11/27/2006 |
Q: I recently had an affair. My husband asked for some advise and was told we should openly discuss ... A: well, he is asking for closure thats all,without it he can't move on. You can of course lie to him ...
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| Don't Know What To Think | 11/26/2006 |
Q: I and my husband have been married for almost 35 yrs. Whenever my husband becomes anger with me or ... A: many words are spoken out of anger,but it always hurts,now as you have been married for many years ...
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| What to do? | 11/22/2006 |
Q: six months ago I found out my husband cheated on me. He is in the military and he had just came back ... A: i do know what you are going though,i have been there.Now, this might help you, i am ex-military ...
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| HELP | 11/20/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2years. We have no children. Recently I got drunk and ... A: So, OK you said somethings,but i think there is more going on here than just him being unable to ...
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| change in relationship with sick husband | 11/20/2006 |
Q: Since this year has began, my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had it removed. He ... A: well you are very honest to say you have sexual thoughts involving other men. I guess if things ...
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| hopeless | 11/18/2006 |
Q: my husband says mean things like the only reason im still with him is because i know that i am 2 fat ... A: this is bullying of the worst kind,and you should not put up with it. How do you know if ...
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| Marital expectations | 11/16/2006 |
Q: I am 60 and my husbnd of two yrs. is 63. Both of us have been married before and have children from ... A: I rarely see such a letter, and this is so silly of him, i can't imagine my wife allowing this to ...
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| Husband going out after work | 11/15/2006 |
Q: this is the situation: My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We have a daughter (12). We ... A: it does seem odd that he parties so much when away at work,I would have thought he would do his ...
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| spouse | 11/11/2006 |
Q: caught wife of 24yr on video with her co-worker from vons. ok so i ask her when it started she said ... A: Mark, what can i say,your wife has cheated so much and you want answers,she is not going to tell ...
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| marriage problems | 11/6/2006 |
Q: My husband and i have been married since June,and him unhappy cause we dont got our own place and we ... A: Julee, i feel that you are trapped because you are financially depending almost alone,and with ...
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| his cheating heart | 11/5/2006 |
Q: graham you told me to let him know how i feel.. the last time i found her e mailing him and his e ... A: Amber, i have no answer for you really,its now down to you and him to sort it out. You what he is ...
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| Help! | 11/4/2006 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and now we are having a baby. every weekend we fight and ... A: well he is being over sensitive about everything thats for sure. That said, him saying if you break ...
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| Cannot trust him | 11/3/2006 |
Q: My husband has a son from his first marriage, he is 20 yr old high school drop-out. He cannot hold ... A: this is really a bad situation,because the son really needs to take control of his life.As long as ...
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| Troubled | 11/1/2006 |
Q: I am married for 2yrs, Ihave a kid. I am trying to please my husband with everything .But he always ... A: his behaviour,is somewhat strange indeed, i would look at what problems he may have that can cause ...
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| No sex | 10/27/2006 |
Q: My husband and I went through a period of separation. We are now back together, but not physically. ... A: sorry to hear about but all is not lost. The first response of most women in your situation is to ...
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| Is this worth it | 10/25/2006 |
Q: My husaband and I Have been married for 3 years. We dated for 6 years before we were married but ... A: well your question is a real hard to fathom,because i think you already know what to do,he seems so ...
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| Old girlfriend | 10/25/2006 |
Q: I asked my husband out of curiosity if he still loved his old girlfriend. He replied "yes, I'll ... A: well i guess he is being truthful to himself,but not really being very tactful. I would try and let ...
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| Reconciliation | 10/23/2006 |
Q: Two years ago, I married a man that I thought would be my life mate. Shortly after we were married ... A: i rarely say this or advise this, but what i read here is just bullying, plain and simple and i ...
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| i need help | 10/21/2006 |
Q: my husband and i have been married 6 years we have 3 kids he works all day and i stay home. we are ... A: i know this is hard for you, but the very fact you say you can't stand being around you is the ...
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| How do I save my 10 yrs of marriage? | 10/16/2006 |
Q: I have been married for 10 yrs. I love my husband and my family and I dont want a divorce. I ... A: the issues you have here are many fold, you cheated,he cheated, you cheated,then him again and ...
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| My husband likes towatch me have sex with other men | 10/11/2006 |
Q: I have been maRRIED FOR 16 YEARS , i HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN AND FOR THE MOST PART i AM HAPPY ... A: Ok ,firstly my answer will probably sound rude and angry and to be truthful it is. your lifestyle is ...
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| Flirting | 10/11/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have problems communicating, we have tried to go to marriage couseling.. just didnt ... A: sorry for the late reply, had PC problems. the fact that marriages do "stall" at some point is a ...
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| early marriage | 10/9/2006 |
Q: My name is Ryan Groenewald. I am 21 yrs old& have been living in the u.k for nearly 3 yrs. I am ... A: sorry for the late reply, had PC problems. So the question you ask is really up to you and the ...
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| am I a negative contribution to my wife? | 10/8/2006 |
Q: I've been married for 2 years and I've known my wife for five. Over those five years she has seen me ... A: This clearly a little out of my league,but i will do my best to answer.Now, you have been medical ...
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| Relationship that includes a child. | 10/6/2006 |
Q: What do you do when the person you are in a relationhip with has a child and that child behavior is ... A: I have no idea on what you are going though, as i have never dealt with this situation, but i found ...
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| what should i do | 10/6/2006 |
Q: it was all good in the beginning then overtime he has gotton lazy we go nowhere but to work the ... A: I am sorry things have got to this stage,but it seems he has lost any self respect and it will need ...
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| Me and my wife are away from each other | 9/27/2006 |
Q: I am from Kuwait. I go married 4 months ago and was living with my wife in Kuwait. Now my mother is ... A: don't worry, you are only just married, so you are bound to feel like this. So just think when she ...
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| Overbearing sports dad/husband | 9/25/2006 |
Q: I need help. My husband is a great guy on most days, however we have a problem. Our son is in peewee ... A: it seems that your hubby has "Sports rage" of a sort, yes its sort of common in dads who didn't make ...
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| "Clingyness" | 9/24/2006 |
Q: All is wonderful in other regards, but I was shocked when my husband recently told me that I was the ... A: well you just keep on doing what you are doing ok. His issue is not with you at all, its clear he ...
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| Going out often | 9/21/2006 |
Q: We just recently got engaged. The problem I am having is that he thinks that I shouldnt have a ... A: well all i can say here is that he is being very selfish indeed. It seems his priorities are well ...
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| marrige | 9/21/2006 |
Q: what is affection A: wow what a question,ok here goes. Affection is usually identified with emotion, but ...
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| in control husband | 9/18/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years together for 5. we are a blended family which goes ... A: It seems that he is doing to you what his ex did to him;a kind of role reversal. If this the case, ...
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| I do not know if my husband loves me. | 9/16/2006 |
Q: Everytime, me and my husband husband is having a discussion about anything before the discussion is ... A: so what you must be going though must be awful. try this site hon iyt should help you no end! good ...
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| Relationship before marriage (In-Laws) | 9/16/2006 |
Q: I'm glad I came up on this site, i need a few answers and just want them to be real. I have a fiance ... A: starting a life together is hard work and you both will need help getting though the minefield of ...
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| To Divorce or Not to Divorce! | 9/16/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married 2.5 years. He is 36 and I'm 28. I ... A: now the question you asked can't really be answered as easy as that. your hubby is really not ...
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| controling wife | 9/15/2006 |
Q: Here is an example of how I have, and AM being conditioned to show emotions... This morning I woke ... A: its sounds worse than control Mark,i think there is something else going on in head right now. I ...
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| Marriage vs. Divorce | 9/12/2006 |
Q: I have been married 19 years, with 3 children. The marriage is not good. She is Mexican and ... A: this is a hard one,now as you know i can't tell what to do either way,that is not what this site ...
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| unsupportive wife | 9/11/2006 |
Q: There are times when I feel down out life or work and I come home to share the load with my wife as ... A: it seems from what you tell me here,that your wife really believes that you don't need to feel ...
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| marriage | 9/4/2006 |
Q: I've been married for almost 17 years. I got promoted to management 5 years ago and my husband ... A: Kim, he does not have any disorder, he is just very scared kim,very scared indeed. He needs to be ...
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| Husband masturbates won't have sex | 8/27/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married 4 years and have 2 children. We have had sex twice since being ... A: i know you are feeling down ,and although this behavior is normal. Men masturbate. In a ...
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| am i too young for him | 8/14/2006 |
Q: Mr. Graham thank you for your answer, thank you. i understand if you think i little bit kidding, but ... A: i must say thank you for your feedback,although i am never rude or discourteous;but i am truthful ...
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| am i too young for him | 8/12/2006 |
Q: i am now 22 years old. i have 3 boy friends. 1. he is 45 years old, he was a general manager of 5 ... A: i don't know if you are being serious in writing this ,so i will take it as you are! Now what are ...
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| wife says im too clingy | 8/10/2006 |
Q: wife says that i am clinging to her, i am insecure or anything like that. but i enjoy her company ... A: you have told me this, but have you told your wife how exactly you feel? Being in love with her is ...
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| money | 8/3/2006 |
Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. Since then my husband and I had a baby girl. I have a son ... A: Susi, hi there, I do find it funny that he will not open a joint account, as you are joined,but ...
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| husband works long hours, making me mad | 7/30/2006 |
Q: my husband works 7 days a week, he works from 12pm to 11pm....he comes home everyday between 1130 to ... A: What you have told me is the slippy road to major problems, so you must now seek professional advice ...
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| conflict due to extra marital relationship of husband | 7/28/2006 |
Q: FOLLOW UP TO ... Thanks a great deal for your quick response and suggestion. I would like to add ... A: I see your problem;your friend is a lucky lady to have a friend like you,but its looking like you ...
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| Marriage issues | 7/26/2006 |
Q: My Husband and I have been married for 4 years going on five. He is about 25 years older than me ... A: sorry for the delay,(pc probs) with marriages with wide age difference,sometimes it will appear ...
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| My wife is not over an old boyfriend | 7/25/2006 |
Q: I have been married to my wife for 5 years, and together for 8. Our whole marriage has consisted of ... A: This is a situation that must hurt deep,but i feel as your wife has been open with you,you must take ...
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| sex | 7/21/2006 |
Q: when asking her, she tells me that the problem is that i expect it. i dont tell her that she has so ... A: well, she has almost solved the question for you;her sex drive very low,and as for hypnosis, i think ...
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| Question on Age difference. | 7/19/2006 |
Q: Is there any sort of an issue in marraige when the woman is elder than the man. Suppose she is ... A: the age difference is looked at from any points of view,and different cultures too. this site ...
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| marriage problems | 7/19/2006 |
Q: well i have been married to my husband for nearly 3 years. for about the past 6 months we havent ... A: now, the whole point of marriage is up are living together. everyone rows , and everyone gets ...
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| sex | 7/14/2006 |
Q: is it wrong to expect my wife to have sex with me? A: well, no, but there has to be a reason why she is not willing to have sex with you. If a women ...
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| I get jealous when he masturbates. | 7/10/2006 |
Q: Smith, I am 25 and about to be married to a wonderful guy. Recently, we have started bickering, ... A: You are young and yes its somewhat hard for you to accept that your boyfriend masturbates when you ...
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| Clueless about this change | 7/6/2006 |
Q: I have been looking for a forum to ask this question for a long time and finally I have found this ... A: you said it was an arranged marriage;if this the case i have little help to give in this, as the ...
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| My husband doesn't feel loved by anyone and wants to leave. | 7/5/2006 |
Q: I thought everything was going fine and about a week ago, my hole life just crashed. My husband ... A: Tamara, sorry to hear this. From what you have said it seems that there is something else ...
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| Physical intimacy | 7/4/2006 |
Q: I am a 24 yr old female and have been married now for 2 years to my 31 yr old husband. We also ... A: sorry to hear about your problem,but it isn't a problem that can't be fixed. Now the fact your hubby ...
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| Fell out of love | 7/3/2006 |
Q: I have been amarried to my wife for 13 years. We have 4 children together and she has 2 from a ... A: Now ,firstly you really need to talk to your wife with a marriage councillor, this is very ...
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| husband relationship w/daughters mom | 6/12/2006 |
Q: My husband & I have been married 13 years and he has just began a relationship w/a daughter he had ... A: I am sorry to hear you feel this;the only way you can feel any better could be to involve yourself ...
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| Trial separation-a good idea? | 6/11/2006 |
Q: I have written a few times about the problems my husband and I have been having. It is not just ... A: I can see you are going though hell at this time,and i feel that you do need some space;but in what ...
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| Should I stay or go | 6/8/2006 |
Q: My husband went to therapy this week and the two concluded that most of his ... A: This now moves into the emotions of love and hate,Cara,there is not much more i can say,as you know ...
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| No Sex | 6/7/2006 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a couple months before I had my daughter our ... A: now, when a person has a sexual problem,it is nearly always covered up;and reasons vary. now, when ...
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| Should I stay or go | 6/4/2006 |
Q: "I recently wrote to you about my current situation but I have an update. Since Oct my husband and I ... A: when i read this i thought woah!!! he is giving Cara, so much B S .now,the reason i think this is ...
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| Husband is Depressed and won't seek help | 6/1/2006 |
Q: My husband was injured at the workplace a few years ago and has been on temporary disability ever ... A: Jil, It can be hard to get a depressed person to seek help because they just don't quite understand ...
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| Marriage doubts | 5/29/2006 |
Q: "My husband and I have gone through some major issues since October. My mother died suddenly in ... A: do you remember when you married him that said " for better or worse", well it seems you have gone ...
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| He says he's numb to everything and might not love me anymore. | 5/28/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. A little over a year ago my husbands dad died of ... A: he clearly is in trouble with his feelings,and needs help big time,i have seen this many times. ...
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| newlywed problems,help!!!!!!!! | 5/24/2006 |
Q: I recently got married about 2 months AGO. My husband is 20 and I am 22. I dropped my classes We ... A: This not the behavior of a married man,he should not be taking female friends to the movies;imagine ...
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| What's your opinion? | 5/22/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 5 years, we have 4 chidren. Our ... A: well, i must say he is very laid back in his attitude towards everything. I do think, however that ...
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| made a mistake | 5/22/2006 |
Q: i said something wrong and in front of our friend that made him mad.i embarased him, but not ... A: everyone makes mistakes,and i wonder how much your hubby has taken onboard. If he was so hurt he ...
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| growing apart | 5/22/2006 |
Q: My wife and I have been together for 5 yrs. and married for 2 yrs. it seems as if we keep growing ... A: it does seem that things need helping along here, so tell her how you feel,and make sure you make an ...
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| Calling when you go out | 5/16/2006 |
Q: My wife and I are in a 95% happy marriage, and I'm being conservative. It might be closer to 99%. ... A: Stan, its clear to me that something is not right, i am old fashioned i guess, but my wife would not ...
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| Commitment Phobia | 5/14/2006 |
Q: Ever since i was young, i have been suffering from this fear of commitment to the opposite sex. ... A: Commitment phoebes start each new relationship with high, and usually unrealistic expectations. But ...
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| total acceptance or end it? | 5/9/2006 |
Q: In 6 weeks I am marrying a man I have dated for 10 years. Even though we have broken up off and on, ... A: if your unsure now about getting married i would put it off until you feel better towards the ...
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| marriage | 5/9/2006 |
Q: I have recently caught my wife cheating. It was someone she meet at a bar. I actual meet him the ... A: In the beginning your attention was all hers. You smiled every time she walked into a room. You ...
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| mother-in-law madness | 4/22/2006 |
Q: do i have the right or authority to have trouble making mother-in-law move out of our home,in hopes ... A: the simple answer is yes,its your home and your husband will have to be a "man" to ask or tell her ...
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| argument | 4/4/2006 |
Q: I recently had an argument regarding money with my husband. After consideration, my husband decided ... A: money causes more rows, than anything in the household;you say he did agree to go for a larger house ...
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| understanding of sex | 3/8/2006 |
Q: i m mohan.i have got married on 24-10-2005.i m getting nervous when i try to get sex with my wife.to ... A: well there isn't any real way to make love,because you just do what comes natual,and whatever ...
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| Relationship Dilemma | 3/7/2006 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been datin |