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Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/Questions Answered by Expert Graham Smith B.PHIL
| Subject | Date Asked |
| A depressing issue | 12/8/2011 |
| Q: I'm 27 years old and recently married. I have a close group of friends that I have known since ... A: I get variations on this question all the time, and I never know how to give one single answer. ... | |
| Husband dealing with grief, pushed me away | 12/3/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a little over 3 years. He has always had anger problems and ... A: Although i cant understand why some men can't take help from the ones who love them;research shows ... | |
| Comunication | 11/22/2011 |
| Q: I have had for the past couple of years some trouble with my husband. The main problem is that he ... A: You should really tackle his drug problem first, his whole behaviour is based from his drug taking. ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP ISSUES DURING PREGNANCY | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey there! I am really hoping you can PLEASE help me out-somehow. I am currently 5mths pregnant, ... A: Sammy, Research shows that the ability to talk through problems is critical to long-term ... | |
| Husband vs Children | 8/25/2011 |
| Q: My husband has always been particularly has on our oldest son. For years, our son was convinced that ... A: Christine, firstly i must say sorry for the late reply, (PC problems) OK, what your hubby appears ... | |
| Is it time to divorce | 8/18/2011 |
| Q: I been married 22 years and were living like . Sine 09 we separated all bills he pays half and I the ... A: Divorce is never easy,and how do you know when is it ever right;well, there isn't any correct answer ... | |
| marriage | 8/13/2011 |
| Q: hello there ive been marraid 20years in september i thought all was good in every way then 3 weeks ... A: Trevor, I need more to go on really,although i can say right now is that you need to talk to each ... | |
| What to do while separated? | 8/11/2011 |
| Q: We have been married for 20+ years and have 8 children together. It had/has been a really strong ... A: Lynn, Thank you for rating the answer,but my answers are never given lightly,but are given from my ... | |
| Hobbies | 6/25/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 8 years and have 2 girls who are 5 and 2 years old. My husband and I met ... A: Vivian, its quite simply to see what is happening here,your hubby is feeling left out,while you ... | |
| what should I do,i am lonely and married | 6/15/2011 |
| Q: graham, I am 29 years old. We are married for more than 3 years and had a long pre-marriage ... A: You have to dig deep inside yourself to figure out what you really want. You should try talking to ... | |
| what to do now | 6/1/2011 |
| Q: I am hoping that you can help me with an issue i am facing. I (D) am 27 years old and so is my wife ... A: Damien, If your sister in law did that, knowing she didn't have her b/f staying over too,then she ... | |
| husband wants to hang out | 5/21/2011 |
| Q: My husband is 43 I am 50 He wants to go out to bars all the time and I don't want to as often we ... A: its very understandable,that you feel mad,your hubby should have more consideration for your needs. ... | |
| My wife behaves unrespectfully | 4/29/2011 |
| Q: I am a father ot two, 53 years old and married since 21 years. My wife and me are rather different ... A: John, Some people are naturally kind and generous, and they're willing to share, even if they don't ... | |
| depress and confuse | 4/13/2011 |
| Q: The past 2 years I have neglected my wife feeling. Now an incident came up where I was secretly ... A: After breaking someone's trust and confidence in you, it will take a great deal of patience and ... | |
| Promises | 4/5/2011 |
| Q: I'v been with hub for 10 years married for 5. He made grand promises of a very lavish life with him ... A: Ann, you have been honest, but you now need to be honest,with yourself and with your hubby. Would ... | |
| lonely marriage,uncaring husband | 4/1/2011 |
| Q: I am at the end of tether with my marriage. I have been married for 4 years to a man who spends the ... A: We were all wildly in love,at some point, disillusioned couples often wonder, “Where did our love ... | |
| confused abt attitude | 3/16/2011 |
| Q: i m married for 4 yrs with 1 child,my husband doesnt seem to b interested in me physically but he is ... A: Whatever works for the both of you. If one of you wants often and other does not, TALK about it ... | |
| Divorce | 3/13/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 years, we have 3 children and only 2 currently living in our households, ... A: Scot, it seems that you wife,wasn't sure how she felt, now, you have that same feeling. You ... | |
| bored | 3/4/2011 |
| Q: I have been married 2yrs, been together 5, and i am not happy anymore. he plods and i need ... A: Lucy, firstly, i must say sorry for my late reply, i have only got back my net connection. Now just ... | |
| I miss my husband | 2/20/2011 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for almost six years. We love each other very much and I cannot ... A: I think you should go for some relationship counselling – just to get all this off your chest and ... | |
| My wifes affair | 2/19/2011 |
| Q: My wife and i had been having arguments then one evening she told me she had been seeing a man a ... A: Geoff, Doing what's right for is the prime concern, remember she cheated,not you! Now, the boys will ... | |
| toxic in laws | 2/15/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years to a woman who has been under the influence of her mother who lives ... A: A fairly popularly known reason why people of all ages bully is because they are insecure. They ... | |
| my first real relationship with a boy | 2/8/2011 |
| Q: Ive had several relationships in my life im 21 now dating a 21 year old boy.. i fell in love with ... A: Christine, It appears that you are sacrificing your own personal beliefs in favour of his,that is ... | |
| unsure of what to do | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 18 yrs. I have 2 sons 16 and 9. I am very upset. My marriage is falling ... A: you very kind with your comments and marks, if i can help again , please write to me. Graham Leah, ... | |
| My Husband does absolutely nothing. | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: We have been married for a yr and ever since we married my husband has this attitude that i am the ... A: the only one you can change is yourself. Get a grip on your situation. If you feel you are doing it ... | |
| need advice | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: ANSWER: Monte, The situation can't just be about you wearing a religous piece of jewellery. She ... A: Monte, would it hurt if you took it off when you make love to your wife,that way it will not freak ... | |
| need advice | 1/31/2011 |
| Q: Hi-- my wife and I have been married for 25 years- we have 2 wonderful kids--- just trecently my dad ... A: Monte, The situation can't just be about you wearing a religous piece of jewellery. She must have ... | |
| Hobbies | 1/30/2011 |
| Q: I am married for 5 years and have to children. I went to a meeting one night that is volunteer ... A: Ricky, its clear that your wife thinks your hobby has become an obsession,and with that comes her ... | |
| is all lost? | 1/26/2011 |
| Q: i am very unsure of my future with my husband. we have been married for 20 years with 2 kids. for ... A: i am sorry you are suffering in this way,no one should have to put up with that kind of behaviour. ... | |
| my husband never initiates sex | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: i'v been with my husband for just over 3 years, we have a daughter 14 months & i am pregnant with ... A: why dont you try to talk to him about it clearly, tell him exactly how you feel ,he is not a mind ... | |
| husband is very distant | 1/23/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years and we have two beautiful children together. He's being very ... A: His distant behaviour could be many things,could be stress at work or a money issue, which he hasn't ... | |
| Heartbroken But Still In Love | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for just over 3 years and I love my wife very much. We have a child and another ... A: Robert, you both now have to face the fact that she did cheat, that other guy entered her, ok she ... | |
| Heartbroken But Still In Love | 1/13/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for just over 3 years and I love my wife very much. We have a child and another ... A: its not easy to forgive, but you can forgive in time,but forgetting,is much harder,You have heard of ... | |
| Panic Disorder & a long term relationship | 12/31/2010 |
| Q: "Hi. I have been with my bf for 12 years and we have 2 children together. I have suffered w/ a ... A: Fran oh i am sorry, i can't advise you any further as you have mentioned childhood abuse and that ... | |
| Panic Disorder & a long term relationship | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: "Hi. I have been with my bf for 12 years and we have 2 children together. I have suffered w/ a ... A: Most people often wonder if there is a connection between panic and depression. Researchers and ... | |
| married life | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: I am working in an office.my kid is with my parents in separate place.my husband is doing ph.d. He ... A: it appears that you are both, in effect leading separate lives,and that is causing the mismanage in ... | |
| Why does my husband not want to have sex with me? | 12/10/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 months. Everything was great the first tow month. After ... A: Nona, I'm not sure what you are asking,i only can think that it is a problem which he has but is ... | |
| Why does my husband not want to have sex with me? | 12/9/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 9 months. Everything was great the first tow month. After ... A: now, i know something of such problems,which i think he could be experiencing.Not to put a too fine ... | |
| PLEASE!!!! help me get my wife back | 11/22/2010 |
| Q: I am 32. My wife and i have been married for 2 and a half years. We have been together for the ... A: Paul, she is so wicked in what she is doing i would now tell her to go, she is acting like a single ... | |
| abuse | 11/18/2010 |
| Q: Why does my husband say hurtful things. He supposed to love me normally he will do anything and ... A: i understand your frustrations,your hubby is still a bully, but he can't see the hurt he is imposing ... | |
| abuse | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: Why does my husband say hurtful things. He supposed to love me normally he will do anything and ... A: your hubby is a bully, plain and simply and bullying is so hard to get one party to admit to what's ... | |
| PLEASE!!!! help me get my wife back | 11/16/2010 |
| Q: I am 32. My wife and i have been married for 2 and a half years. We have been together for the ... A: I know, that you blame yourself,ask her the question in reverse. Is it okay for me to have ... | |
| How do I get my Husband back?? | 11/15/2010 |
| Q: My name is Fatema. How do I get my old loving husband back?? please help me with this I am going ... A: sorry to hear about your hubby's "bad" behaviour, if he is having an affair its seem very odd that ... | |
| wife loves an old flame | 11/12/2010 |
| Q: my wife recently asked for a divorce. she sais that she didn't view our marriage as fullfilling, ... A: when this happens,there isn't much you can do except try and talk to her,if her mind is made ... | |
| Unhappy marriage | 11/10/2010 |
| Q: I'm a newlywed but already having trouble with the marriage. My husband has a bad temper and gets ... A: that is what he makes you think,so with that,you can make him see how he makes you feel. Why not ... | |
| Need help to understand Male Perspective! | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 year old a mother of 5 months old child. I am an IT professional and Masters from US ... A: You are doing nothing wrong in ringing your father ,or he you. Your hubby's problem lies in him,not ... | |
| Need help to understand Male Perspective! | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I am 28 year old a mother of 5 months old child. I am an IT professional and Masters from US ... A: although i thought i answered it well enough,because of the constraints you put on the way i could ... | |
| visiting friends | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: What can I do about my newly married wife going to see friends in other cities and staying overnight ... A: she is acting out as a single person, and only you can explain its wrong to stay away so often,are ... | |
| Help | 11/4/2010 |
| Q: "My wife and I have been married for about a year and in the beginning it was amazing but recently ... A: Its clear,i think that there are many issues that have still to be resolved;that and marrying to ... | |
| communication problems and commitment issues. | 11/3/2010 |
| Q: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over 3 years now. We have a son of almost 2 ... A: In the marriage ceremony, "for better or for worse" refers to communication, too. That means even ... | |
| I feel that my husband is immature and is still clinging onto his family. | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: We are married for 3 and a half years, have a 20 month old son, and we know each other for 7 years. ... A: yes, it does sound like he is still dancing to their tune,but he maybe finding hard to be the ... | |
| Struggle in Marriage: no trust | 10/18/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Graham, My husband and I are a 48 yr. old, Christian couple, having been married for 25 yrs. We ... A: first i must say that i would never belittle anyone's faith,but you seem to rely on God,and his ... | |
| husband put his family first | 10/16/2010 |
| Q: I live in one country and my husband works in another. Before he left ot work oversas, we just about ... A: if his family are asking for money,do you know if he knows how they have treated you? he must do ... | |
| i want my husband back | 10/13/2010 |
| Q: my husband and i have been together for 30 years and he is now living with another woman and i want ... A: I know its so hard to accept,but give him some space. Maybe you have been the perfect wife, but ... | |
| my husband had an emotional affair. | 10/3/2010 |
| Q: I caught my husband with the other woman on April 11,2010 going out of the city limits for lunch. ... A: I am not sure how or why he would lie,but if this the case its down to him,not you. As i said it is ... | |
| my husband had an emotional affair. | 10/1/2010 |
| Q: I caught my husband with the other woman on April 11,2010 going out of the city limits for lunch. ... A: its no comfort at all,but i guess you know what is going on,his lies and hiding things etc!! you ... | |
| Confused | 9/24/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for eight years and one biggest argument we have is money. I do the bills. I try ... A: i can never understand why people who are married/Couples have this problem.I would never have a ... | |
| self esteem | 9/16/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem that worries me so much but not my husband-to-be. The firs time i met him was three ... A: Sara, Its very clear that you have very low self esteem,and that comes from a poor self image. ... | |
| Lack of important things in married life | 9/7/2010 |
| Q: I am a man of 53 years with two kids aged 12 and 15, married since 15 years. My problem is I am ... A: sorry for taking a long time to reply, but my net was down, so i am using another. OK, so the needs ... | |
| Should I run? | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I am lost and not sure where I am or should be heading. I feel stuck in a place that is stagnated, ... A: Right now because children are involved I would tell him to pack his belongings and leave. You do ... | |
| Husband is unfair | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I know guys dont like to talk about there feelings or dont like to admit when there wrong but my ... A: It seems clear enough that you've asked him to behave better and more thoughtfully on various ... | |
| Husband does not care about my feelins | 8/28/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 37 yr old woman, whom is married to a man 7 yrs younger then me. We have been married for 4 ... A: i know all about depression,so i know where you are coming from. Now, to add to your depression,you ... | |
| Lonely husband | 8/20/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 6 years but have been together for more than 10 years. We have ... A: Are you are basically looking for a way out.It's hard to bring something back that has been sliding ... | |
| text messages | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband got several text messages from a woman that i don`t know . I find out about the first ... A: Its a weird one, i mean as your hubby has not replied does suggest its a one way thing. I really ... | |
| Unhappy in marriage/life | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 46yr old woman who has been married (soon to be 25yrs) to my highschool sweetheart. We had a ... A: Debra, i am sorry you have to go though this,and suffer this. I don't know what is going on with ... | |
| marriage | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: I fail in love with my first boyfriend at age 18 he was 19 after 5 years we got married and have 2 ... A: The thing about young love is, well, it's young. When you are 19 and rather naïve, you just don't ... | |
| depressed | 7/30/2010 |
| Q: Why does my Husband always bring me down. He is always on about sex I have no feelings anymore ... A: your hubby's inability see what you are going though is very common;during menopause, women will ... | |
| Should I confront him | 7/25/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband 15 years and married for 2. A few years ago my Husband left me for ... A: its always difficult to understand why people go on a self-destruct path.This is a very sensitive ... | |
| How to deal with female friend. | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: I wrote to All Eperts a while ago concerning this woman, I'm not sure if it was you who answered or ... A: Liz, What this woman is doing is a basic no-no,but your hubby is lapping it up. There fact you do ... | |
| marriage is going down | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 10 yrs now. I have noticed for about a month now that he ... A: i think sometimes we all get ourselves in a rut,this said,his behaviour over you and porn is taking ... | |
| quality | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: my husband doesnt seem to understand that spending quality time together is a part of a happy and ... A: sorry for the late reply. As a society, we've become so conditioned to the fairy tale of ... | |
| Insensitive husband | 7/10/2010 |
| Q: My husband is very insensitive and doesn't consider me,I am tired of understanding him. A ... A: Janis, there are many reason reason why he would behave in this way, but without knowing what they ... | |
| confused about my marriage | 7/2/2010 |
| Q: got married when i was 19 and he was 37 i've been married for two years, my husband has become very ... A: There is only one thing you should do in this situation is get out of this marriage.Now i never ... | |
| I give up | 6/27/2010 |
| Q: My husband always gets his own way, he is a bit of a bully and controlling. (in my opinion anyway) ... A: Your husband is a control freak and a bully and you know that being with him is damaging you.Is he ... | |
| Is it time to throw in the towel???? | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and have been married for almost 2 years and its to the point where I cant go on ... A: i am sorry to about your loss. His actions are despicable,and i would go so far to say he doesn't ... | |
| "we" are not 1st priority | 6/16/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married about 3 years and I have a young step boy. Every time I talk to ... A: Mary, You mention you worry about your hubby being stressed out, well, that could be why he is ... | |
| what should i say or do? | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for five years, we have five kids. All I want to knw is y doesn't ... A: Women who aren’t satisfied in the bedroom,must communicate with their hubby's; remembering though ... | |
| My husband loves his mom more than me. | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: i got married 6months ago.it is an arrange marriage,we just met once and decided to get married as ... A: Sonia, I think you will need to go toe-to-toe with your husband on this one; otherwise, the ... | |
| my husband and i keep haveing problems and i dont no what to do | 6/10/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I are always fighting I don't no what to do? We have a two and a half year old and I ... A: Nicole, sorry, i have had PC problems, so was unable to answer sooner. His behavior is not right in ... | |
| Money | 6/9/2010 |
| Q: I am recently re-married and have a ten year old daughter. I am a stay at home mom. My new husband ... A: Communication about financial matters is important in all marriages, but especially in remarriages, ... | |
| My husband is constantly lying and hiding things | 6/6/2010 |
| Q: My husband of almost 17 years decided this week to tell me that for the first 10 years we were ... A: He's not being honest with you and there is no reason for you to trust him until, after a long ... | |
| Volunteer Nightmare | 6/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for almost a year and a half. We just had our first child a ... A: Jill, I can't imagine how you feel,but your hubby needs a reality check,and fast. what would make ... | |
| Husband single behavior with married benefits | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I am 23 and my husband is 31. We've been married for one year and no children. We bought a home ... A: his actions are very selfish and will over time destroy the marriage. I wonder if he even knows how ... | |
| Intimacy Issues | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together going on four years. We have been through it all!!! From a ... A: Intimacy is the creation of a shared sacred space between individuals that is built upon mutual ... | |
| Separated, Ex has GF but Says Loves Me | 5/26/2010 |
| Q: My husband & I were married ten yrs ago and together 3 yrs prior. We separated in early '07 (his ... A: Sort of "wants his cake and eat it too". He knows the mistake he made was leaving you,but hangs on ... | |
| Fiance's sibling relationship | 5/22/2010 |
| Q: My fiance's sister is having difficulties in her relationship with her family. She has made some ... A: its always hard to help people when the closest to that person will or can't help.I say you should ... | |
| wife playing with my mind | 5/21/2010 |
| Q: i have been seperated from my wife for 8 months she left because i started drinking again and had no ... A: John, Maybe its your drinking that causes her attitude towards you,i mean she is hurting right ... | |
| Jealousy and Affection | 5/20/2010 |
| Q: First, Thank you. Sencondly, my question about jealousy is: What can I do to deal with jealousy and ... A: Overcoming jealousy is like changing any emotional reaction or behavior. It begins with ... | |
| Kids and Marriage | 5/17/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have come a long way. He was laid off twice in two years, he joined the army, and ... A: Sarah, Doing everything yourself,but knowing he was going to be back to help, i think has scared ... | |
| Bullying | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: Ive been with my partner just under 2 years and I have 2 children from a previous marrige. I stay at ... A: He knows his behaviour is wrong and has upset you to the point of being stressed,but now it seems ... | |
| my husband is married to his friends?? :( | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: been married one year. he shares his hopes, dreams, problems and plans with his 6 band mates and ... A: nadeeka, his behaviour is nothing short of that of a naughty child, he is living a single life that ... | |
| my husband is married to his friends?? :( | 5/14/2010 |
| Q: been married one year. he shares his hopes, dreams, problems and plans with his 6 band mates and ... A: i am sorry i got your letter and another mixed up with another i was trying to research, but i hope ... | |
| Bullying | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: Ive been with my partner just under 2 years and I have 2 children from a previous marrige. I stay at ... A: Understand that abusive behavior is psychological as well as physical. Emotional bullies are ... | |
| Saving my marriage | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for years separated for 4yrs.I am currently living at my Dad's. During our ... A: The question here is what do you want from your marriage? The mere fact of writing this down means ... | |
| Wife not willing to have sex | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: My wife doesn't want to do sex, i don't know why, she might be scared of something, U will not ... A: Do you think you are close to your wife ? because she doesn’t want sex, and she doesn’t want sex ... | |
| am I going crazy | 4/30/2010 |
| Q: I've recently met this older woman--she's 46 and I'm 32. I think she's a pathalogical liar. I've ... A: first is she a pathological liar or Compulsive Liar,from what you say i would think she might a ... | |
| why does my wife want to talk to her ex | 4/29/2010 |
| Q: "I've been married for almost 8 months we've had are ups and down during this we've were dating for ... A: Relationships are based on trust, and so if you want to keep your current marriage steady, whether ... | |
| help | 4/20/2010 |
| Q: I married over two years ago, first it was long distance marriage because my husband was in Atlanta ... A: could there any specific changes in diet and/or nutrition? Any changes (less or more) in the amount ... | |
| love | 4/14/2010 |
| Q: for 25 years I have been doing everything for him and then alot of the time he finds fault with what ... A: Understand that women and men are different. Men are more likely to follow their father's example if ... | |
| Marriage and Money | 4/13/2010 |
| Q: I have been married close to five years now. we have two children 3 and 1 year. All the time we have ... A: Getting married is a big commitment. It involves a lot of trust and work. It is wonderful to find ... | |
| Gambling Husband left | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: My husband is a compulsive gambler and a supposed member of GA. He generally sneaks away to gamble ... A: This whole mess that he is in,is his own doing,so it has to be his decision to stop. Like drugs or ... | |
| Ex Wife | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years (both 58 years old). Everytime his children (age 21 ... A: Jan, Unfortunately, what you see is what you get - A man who is kind and loving to you, who also ... | |
| Fiancee visits parents every week and stays overnight | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: This issue is giving me sleepless nights and any insight will be greatly appreciated. I have been ... A: Martha I can understand both sides of this issue. I agree with you both in away,but his overnight ... | |
| having troubles | 4/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband I met in highschool. We were together for a year before we both got mixed up in drugs and ... A: you both went though some bad stuff,the drugs will never help you know. Your love for each other ... | |
| marriage seperation | 3/29/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if you or anyone has the answer but here goes my husband left me and rented a house a ... A: its very difficult to find someone,who doesn't want to be found,but he must have some understanding ... | |
| RE: husband leaving | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: There are some things that I need to clarify. It has been 2 weeks now and my husband has been ... A: As i read your letter,he seems to make much of your time away,i will not nosy,but do you think he ... | |
| omitting things ? | 3/28/2010 |
| Q: why would my husband be omitting things now in my our marriage of 24 years ?he works away he has a ... A: its a strange behavior from a man who used to ring you and chat to you for hours;it seems that its ... | |
| Husband is ready to leave | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: There is so much to say it is hard to know where to start. I came home 2 weeks ago from being away ... A: you say he is about to leave you, this is something many married couple ponderabout. We all have an ... | |
| marriage seperation | 3/27/2010 |
| Q: I don't know if you or anyone has the answer but here goes my husband left me and rented a house a ... A: Sometimes a couple is miserable living together and can't seem to co-exist without having constant ... | |
| money issues between us | 3/26/2010 |
| Q: i recently married a 41 years old man he is divorce we met seven month ago i find him very nice and ... A: The most common cause of disagreement between people in both new and established relationships is ... | |
| gambling | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I think my husband is gambling again. He had a severe problem and got help for it years ago. Now I ... A: You are obviously aware of how serious your situation is right now, and you must expect that there ... | |
| keep going or break? | 3/24/2010 |
| Q: my partner and i have been together for 6 years. it was great in the beginning and then i got ... A: first let say how sorry am to hear of your loss. You now have a family,but its not what it should ... | |
| My husband left for hotel to figure out if he wants to be married | 3/21/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. We met in our first year of college and ... A: It's very common to fear that when your husband walks out the door and has made it clear that he is ... | |
| Husband undermining authority with children | 3/20/2010 |
| Q: How do i deal with a tricky situation where my husband undermines my authority with the children by ... A: Because You and your hubby grew up in different households you will often have different ways of ... | |
| sad and ignored wife | 3/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years and we have 3 kids. Oldest 3 ½ a boy, next a 1 year 22 months girl ... A: Do you ever think that your marriage relationship is stuck in a rut? Do you feel stifled? Do you see ... | |
| Step-daughters | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: I have a step-daughter who is disrespectful to me because her father does not put his foot down. He ... A: When it's all adults involved, getting married again can be a little easier in some ways, but also ... | |
| husband | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: This ended up being way longer than I inteded. My husband and I have had some issues going on for ... A: There are many marriage issues that can destroy your relationship with your spouse; trust, intimacy, ... | |
| How to win the affections of my husband | 3/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been separated from my husband for almost 5 months. It was not my idea. He says he still ... A: I am sorry, i had lost the email, i think i lost it by accident. Ok, so now to you question. ... | |
| my husband of five years never says anything nice to me | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for five years we never talk he has been out of work for over a ... A: Question your true feelings and answer them honestly to yourself. Are you still in love with your ... | |
| Advice on how to talk to wife about pictures of her ex | 3/9/2010 |
| Q: My wife keeps several photo albums that have lots of pictures of her ex in them. Many of them where ... A: Every relationship requires understanding, trust, and compromise. In this case, the picture is just ... | |
| I want to get out of my marrage | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been marred for 7 year and have to beautiful children who are my life. My marriage is slowly ... A: You certainly have a lot on your plate right now. It sounds like you are going through a rough patch ... | |
| I need advise | 3/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for the last 3. We met when we were 19, ... A: its very odd that only after 3 years he should be acting this way;having said that, Stress comes to ... | |
| STARTING A MARRIAGE OVER | 3/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 34yrs old and have married my high school sweet heart. We have been together for 16 years and ... A: You now are asking is my marriage worth saving. It is a common question. Too common, really. When ... | |
| gettig my husband to talk | 3/5/2010 |
| Q: my husband doesn't want to talk about things that have caused us to grow apart. all he will say is ... A: sorry for the late reply,had pc problems. Relationships aren't just about making it work with ... | |
| husband's friend | 3/4/2010 |
| Q: It is our second marriage. before marriage itself my husband told me that he has a true chat friend ... A: his friendship with this woman, is way too close,now it would be ok if you were involved in that ... | |
| Sleeping with stranger | 3/1/2010 |
| Q: I have 12 years of married life with a daughter of 4.My husband is a gentle man to all but he never ... A: Well, what a piece of work your husband is,how dare he do that, he needs to know what he has done is ... | |
| Wife doesn't love me anymore | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: My wife has recently told me that she loves me but isn’t in love with me. We have been married for ... A: At the end of the day, being honest with yourself and engaging in open communication with your ... | |
| do i stay or leave | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: i have been married to my husband for 11years we have an 8 year old son who has autism and cannot ... A: i fear that my answer here,could be not what you are hoping to hear;but here is my answer. With all ... | |
| Rebuilding after betrayal by my wife | 2/24/2010 |
| Q: Good morning Graham, I discovered 5 weeks ago that my wife of 10 years had betrayed me. I'm 43, my ... A: Rebuilding a Marriage After Infidelity is not an easy task for those that wish to save their ... | |
| marriage problems | 2/15/2010 |
| Q: Should I just give up? I have been married for 20 years (we have been together for 23 years). We ... A: PTSD and borderline personality disorder (or BPD) commonly co-occur. BPD has been receiving ... | |
| getting x wife back | 2/13/2010 |
| Q: i need help; getting wife back i had a affair and it was the worst mistake i ever made i wish there ... A: its going take a lot of hard work,that means just to get her to even want to talk to you about the ... | |
| So confused rite now | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: My marriage of 20years has been great.My husband is the kind of man that will call me up to 4 times ... A: i know, from your letter you are indeed very confused, but i think you need to take a step now, and ... | |
| Wife refuses to show me affection. | 2/4/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have only been married for almost a year, but we have been together for going on 6 ... A: Communication is the key to everything. Where, is the communication in your marriage? Your wife may ... | |
| regaining my wifes trust | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 4 1/2 years, been together for almost 6. We have an almost 5 ... A: with addictions,the problem is how to get "clean" again,your wife would have asked Ask why you are ... | |
| Husband finding email friendship | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 16 years. My husband and I have had our ups and downs but I really messed ... A: Marie, Regaining your partner’s trust after you have cheated on him or as you say lied to him is ... | |
| sex in a marriage | 1/26/2010 |
| Q: I'm 27 and my husband is 31, and we have a 2 year old son. For the last year or so my husband wont ... A: its seems that your hubby could suffering from a stress problem;his lack of sexual interest is a ... | |
| Sexless marriage | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 10 years, we have no children by choice and live a pretty ... A: this is a question for sexual experts.You say that he was a drunk for a long time,so that will have ... | |
| adult step children | 1/16/2010 |
| Q: I am married and we have two children each. My husbands kids are 28 and 26. They are both married. ... A: I am sorry i did indeed misunderstand the whole question, i thought your hubby did have a ... | |
| I want to separate from the adult stepchildren | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 25 years to a man with 2 sons from his first marriage. I had nothing to do ... A: i want to say Happy new year, but maybe, that isn't happening for you right now. So, your family ... | |
| Occasional bitter words hurt happy marriage | 12/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost a year; Jan 7 is our anniversary. Altogether its been ... A: its a hard question to answer, but I will try and put it in a simplistic way; The age difference ... | |
| Marriage breakdown | 12/20/2009 |
| Q: My wife and i have been married for 22 years and have been together for 29. We started dating when ... A: I am sorry to hear about this,your wife is clearly having problems with her own issues right, so ... | |
| where do we start | 12/13/2009 |
| Q: i am seeking advice. ME and my husband as been serperated for 10 years due to him goin gto prison. ... A: i would try and get him to talk say, over coffee or something,and if he isn't seeing you at your ... | |
| Wife's previous partner | 12/6/2009 |
| Q: We have been together for 5 years now. She broke it off with a much older guy she had seen off and ... A: Its clear, she still has some issues with this other guy,but it might not be as bad as you think.Try ... | |
| step-children | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I have two step children. The oldest one is living in a rental place of mine that I had before his ... A: there is two sides to this;your stepson,although thoughtless in his asking not to visit,was being ... | |
| My husband's email affair/odd behaviour | 11/30/2009 |
| Q: I was checking our email recently, and was surprised to receive one from another woman addressed to ... A: his behaviour is very odd indeed. His cross-dressing,although not a crime,will make any women feel ... | |
| Silent Treatment and Withdrawing affection | 11/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for the past five years. My husband and I share a child together. I am also a ... A: Now is the time for you to confront him about being inconsiderate of you and his bad behaviour.Sit ... | |
| Husband's obsession taking over his life... | 11/25/2009 |
| Q: Recently my husband's new hobby has taken over his life. He's taken up - and it embarrasses me to ... A: even i didn't know there was such a thing, but i have done some research on your behalf;hope this ... | |
| counseling | 11/13/2009 |
| Q: Ok, you have heard from me a lot. Anyway, I appreciate your answers. I am the one that has the ex ... A: i know its sometimes very difficult to get the point across, so why not try another approach,like ... | |
| Marriage problems | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 18 years married for 16. We are both in our forties (40 & ... A: Diane, your hubby, is so wicked i can't believe he can even begin to think the way he does. I ... | |
| Platonic friendship | 11/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years. A couple of years ago, I had an emotional affair & I tell myself ... A: as your wife is so against this lady friend, i would think that she would not want to meet her at ... | |
| Platonic friendship | 11/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years. A couple of years ago, I had an emotional affair & I tell myself ... A: its an old situation you are in,can men and women be just friends? i think so,but many can't draw ... | |
| married 18 yrs no sex for 2 years | 10/31/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 18 years, have a 15 years old son. I am 49 and my husband is 51. For 2 yrs ... A: Lack of sex drive (lack of libido) is common in women, but quite rare in men. Even men with who have ... | |
| What do i do | 10/30/2009 |
| Q: What do I do: My husband says he does not love me anymore. Every time we having an argument he ... A: I would write this letter down, with the reply and show your hubby how upsetting it is. this letter ... | |
| Time with my husband | 10/29/2009 |
| Q: You will have to excuse me, but this is my first time doing anything like this, But am at a total ... A: i am not sure what else i can say to help in anyway;that said, i would try and get him to open up ... | |
| my husband. | 10/23/2009 |
| Q: my life is very complicated. me n my husband are separated for nearly 3 years, we have 2 gorgus ... A: its very difficult to know why a dad would not want to visit, but its another story if they are ... | |
| I don't agree with my husband on raising our kids | 10/21/2009 |
| Q: We always disagree on how I am dealing with our kids (one girl (5.8yrs and one boy 2.9yr)and how is ... A: it looks like your hubby is a control freak, Certainly, it’s natural to want to be in control ... | |
| not getting on | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: my wife had a fall last year and i was with her every step of the way intensive care and ... A: David, it could be that the fall might affected her reasoning,and that might be causing her ... | |
| I can't get an erection with my wife | 10/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope I found a right place on the net to ask my question and raise my concerns. I am 30yo man and ... A: I know its a worry,but you must seek medical help;Stress, could be the cause,and once you have seen ... | |
| Cheating | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: I mnet my husaband 5 months after he and his wife seperated. I became pregnant a year after moving ... A: Any help you think you need is good, and if you feel that, you should seek help. I think that , you ... | |
| I love my husband and son and I'm tired of supporting them | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: Two years ago, after 22 years of marriage, three children (one of whom is an adult living at home), ... A: its a difficult situation i know, but now you have written down how you feel, why not show your ... | |
| Cheating | 10/4/2009 |
| Q: I mnet my husaband 5 months after he and his wife seperated. I became pregnant a year after moving ... A: this is a simple decision,you must ask him outright what is going on? you are his wife,his ex should ... | |
| verbal bullying husband | 10/3/2009 |
| Q: I think it will be easier to explain things from the beginning. My husband and I have been together ... A: he is very typical of many people who fail to see the truth about themselves,but this normally ... | |
| Time with my husband | 10/1/2009 |
| Q: You will have to excuse me, but this is my first time doing anything like this, But am at a total ... A: remember 80% of men do view porn at some point in their lives;Pornography is ubiquitous, more ... | |
| Sex and marriage issue | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: We’re married almost 9 years. Both 32 years old. Due to immigration situation we had to be separated ... A: in any relationship,problems occur all the time, but only you can know what to do in this matter, he ... | |
| confuse husband | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I am 9 years older than my husband. To make story short my husband just recently came back from ... A: Jane, i am sorry to hear this,your hubby is clearly confused, and it could be that his friends have ... | |
| Husband cheated on me | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: I seek your advice asa to what I must do regarding the situation I'm facing now. Me and my husband ... A: his actions are one of contempt,if cheats time and time again, then he could do it again. His ... | |
| What happened? | 9/26/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 11 years. I am mentally and physically drained. I have not ... A: It seems that you think you deserve to feel awful. One very common reason for it being ... | |
| Boyfriend's fear of Marriage | 9/24/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend over 3 years and we have a company together, house, cats etc.. But he is ... A: For those who have never tied the knot, fear and anxiety surrounding marriage can often reach ... | |
| Husband Possibly Cheating | 9/20/2009 |
| Q: What are odds are that my husband is cheating or considering cheating with one of previous friends ... A: Nothing can be as shattering and devastating as the thought of being cheated by your Partner. This ... | |
| Girl from past re-surfaced | 9/14/2009 |
| Q: My new husband has a girl who he was close to in his teens re surface . He has been very open and ... A: if they both admit some sort of feelings for each other,isn't the notion of friendship a little ... | |
| Girl from past re-surfaced | 9/13/2009 |
| Q: My new husband has a girl who he was close to in his teens re surface . He has been very open and ... A: I wonder if the girl's husband knows of her "friendship" with your Hubby,i rather think not. While ... | |
| Hard topic to bring up | 9/10/2009 |
| Q: I hope you can help me to make a right move. My live-in bf of 2yrs and I moving together to another ... A: well, if you in no hurry, just try and "skirt" around the issue of commitment,this way you,at least ... | |
| wife and her ex talk | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: lately I have been uncomfortable and uneasy about my wife talking to her ex boyfriend. We have been ... A: sorry i clicked the wrong button. Ok, what your wife is doing is fundamentally wrong, and she knows ... | |
| Unreasonable wife | 9/7/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 years and I am the soft spoken man and a Yes man and gets along with ... A: Max, i am sorry for the late reply, my fault! anyway, your wife has had her own way for so long ... | |
| marriage | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: my wife gets so angry when i go out with my friends. i only go out 1-2 times per month. she believes ... A: Kevin, I agree everyone does need space,but your wife and kids are important too, and it could be ... | |
| jealousy | 9/1/2009 |
| Q: Am I crazy? My husband goes out with his friends atleast once a week. He even takes our kids ... A: yes, i agree he should have at least given the "going out" a miss for awhile. It seems to me that he ... | |
| jealousy | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: Am I crazy? My husband goes out with his friends atleast once a week. He even takes our kids ... A: sorry for the late reply, been so busy today,ok Beatrice, i know where you are coming from, this ... | |
| to avoid being jealous | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 6yrs, have 4-year-old son and 5-months daughter. Our relationship is not that ... A: Being jealous can, and does ruin peoples lives,but it can be controlled. Jealousy is an instinctive ... | |
| Past lovers | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I have a problem. My wife has two female friends that she has a past with. She had a three way ... A: Nick, This is a problem, and letting it go is easier said then done. If you are going to leave her, ... | |
| marriage issue | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: "Hello, "I have been with my husband for three years, he has two girls age 12 and 10, their mother, ... A: this sounds like the "step-family" issues,but it also comes across as much than that too. This will ... | |
| Husband too involved with ex | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: Your question was I would like to know why my husband keeps going to the same social, sport club as ... A: Sharri, For a variety of reasons, not the least of which have to do with the children they ... | |
| LIES, EXES IN MARRIAGE | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for less than a year, in fact, our 1 year anniversary date in in ... A: sometimes the path of innocence is never clear,but what have you found in his texts to her, if she ... | |
| my past and my mother inlaw | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: i've been married for 14yrs and we have 2 daughters 8 and 12yr old, and he has a daughter thats is ... A: Erica, self-centred people like your mother-in.-law is what is wrong with most family problems,she ... | |
| sex and marriage | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: I am 30 year old man and have been married for 3 months. Some background, Both, my wife and I are ... A: Dan, this will apply to you both if you both can't talk about sex but at some point or another we ... | |
| help with my marriage | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: i got married in Jan this year 2009 and its been really hard with other girls hitting on him and we ... A: there can be many reasons why his sex drive has dropped. It could be that he is has stress,its very ... | |
| Marriage | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: My marriage of 20 yrs have come to an end. My wife has asked me for a divorce, but she wants me to ... A: no there is nothing wrong with you, but its clear your wife wants out and i think you must concern ... | |
| my husband and my 50th birthday | 7/20/2009 |
| Q: I was asking my husband what he thought about us and my best friend and husband going to the Bally's ... A: his remarks are very childish indeed, but if he has always thought like this then,its very difficult ... | |
| 2nd to husbands parents | 7/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married happily for 12 years. Just recently he has started putting the ... A: his aim, is to be the dutiful son, and that is causing so much trouble, but unless he sees what he ... | |
| 2nd to husbands parents | 7/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married happily for 12 years. Just recently he has started putting the ... A: Amy, its clear your hubby believes himself to be the sole carer of his mum and dad,and his siblings ... | |
| Marriage | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: My marriage of 20 yrs have come to an end. My wife has asked me for a divorce, but she wants me to ... A: i am sorry to hear this, but its looks like you have no option, if your wife is that unhappy, all ... | |
| stagnant no go | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: i need some help. i have been with my partner for 3 years. we separated after 2 because he had an ... A: it is common for the guy to go in to his "cave", (thats what men do you see") whenever any trouble ... | |
| Trouble coping after an affair | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me about six months ago. I have known for about five ... A: brcause the hurt is always going to be there. you can try and talk it over with him again,but show ... | |
| I m really confused, plz help me out | 7/12/2009 |
| Q: I am engaged to this guy for 7 months.During these months we had a good relationship & no problem.we ... A: its sounds very much like that he doesn't even know what he wants himself. I would sit him down and ... | |
| How to deal with Jealousy | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I have a little problem,I´m from cuba and I get married last year, because papers are not ready I ... A: First thing to do is identify what is causing the jealousy! If you are experiencing feelings of ... | |
| my life | 6/29/2009 |
| Q: Okay I've been married for about 10 years im 24yrs old my husband is nice to me but then if I ask ... A: I am so sorry to hear that your hubby, is behaving in such a way, but if he cheats so much,and hits ... | |
| dating | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: what do aggressive mean. A: i am not sure if really just want me to tell you the definition of what is aggressive, but as that ... | |
| unhappily married | 6/12/2009 |
| Q: I've been married 17 yrs , i'm 45 and hubby is 58 (it's his 3rd time) we have a 13 & 15 yr old. I'm ... A: sorry for the delay. A good marriage is one that positively changes over time. When a marriage ... | |
| husband and friendship with another woman | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: My husband is friends with a lady that is a widow with 3 adorable kids, we both are. We have been ... A: this lady knows that what she is saying,and in that she is telling you she wants your hubby. I don't ... | |
| Husband's Erectile Dysfunction | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are both middle aged and have been married about five years. When we have sex he ... A: Now, i have to tell you that,your hubby must seek medical advice,i am sure that the doctor will help ... | |
| Marriage deadlock | 6/7/2009 |
| Q: I am at a state where I really need some help. We have been married for 10 yrs , have 2 kids, great ... A: Marriage can be a wonderful institution, spending you life with the person you love more than anyone ... | |
| Marriage | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I put my husband out for 3 months. He cheated on me and fell in love with a coworker. When he came ... A: i guess, you know the saying " once a cheat, always a cheat";well, it has some truth in that saying. ... | |
| cheating husband, how to get over it | 5/30/2009 |
| Q: How do i learn to love or fully trust my husband again? i have been married to my husband for ... A: I am sorry for the late reply, it got lost in my inbox. The first reaction is a lot like being ... | |
| Issue with Husband | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: I am from Nepal a Hindu country and I am married to US guy. We were so in love with eachother that ... A: your options are limited i guess, you can explain to him how you are feeling,how he has hurt you,or ... | |
| Should husband call | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband things that I am 'nuts'. Help please. Scoop: I received a Hep A shot needed for an ... A: i have never really felt the way i am now;i feel so much anger to your hubby for lack of concern,it ... | |
| Re: doesnt love me after 12yrs | 5/18/2009 |
| Q: my partner of 12 yrs says he is not happy and when he thought about it hasnt been for a long time so ... A: i am sorry you thought 24hrs was too long in replying,sometimes our own lives need our attention ... | |
| Marriage? | 5/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm going to try to make it short. I have been my husband since I was 14 years old and he was 18.We ... A: Many people do not understand the nature of cheating within a relationship. Although there may be ... | |
| marriage | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: how do you know the person is the one? I always had ideals of similar background, economics, etc ... A: well, you are partly right, i do believe that some people do get married because they love the IDEA ... | |
| Should husband call | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: My husband things that I am 'nuts'. Help please. Scoop: I received a Hep A shot needed for an ... A: No,you were not wrong in txting him. His lack of concern over you being unwell speaks volumes and he ... | |
| i need to know | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: me and my husband been together for 3 years we got married 4 monthes ago he thee one who wanted to ... A: it seems he wants his cake and eat it too. Sounds like lusting after another woman,when he is ... | |
| internet porn | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: My husband says he has a problem with Internet porn. Problem is what I found on his computer was ... A: Men who says they are straight but are having sex with other men are more likely to be married ... | |
| Fiance not achieving orgasm | 5/5/2009 |
| Q: My fiance and I are getting married in 3 weeks and our sexual relationship is getting worse and ... A: Kay, it can happen, and it does happen to many guys,at any age, but i am not a medical doctor,and i ... | |
| Privacy | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: Is going the your spouse text message on thier phone invading privacy ANSWER: HIya Shawna, yes , i ... A: his staying away is very worrying, but you still haven't actually said why he is like this,what has ... | |
| deceitful husband | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 13 years. To all outward appearances, we have a wonderful marriage. The ... A: I would consider his behaviour very bad indeed,maybe not cheating,but very wrong. Your husband lied ... | |
| PLEASE EXPLAIN | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: I was wondering would you please explain to me: what is a soul mate? Thanks A: The notion of "soul mates" has been around a very, very long time. However, there are several ... | |
| Husband addicted to porn | 5/2/2009 |
| Q: ..I am 30 yrs old and have been married for almost 2yrs (in june) I have a 4yr old son from a ... A: The reasons for addiction vary from individual to individual - and like most addictions, it might ... | |
| marriage and jobs | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 22 years the first 12 were good In 1999 my husband lost his job in the ... A: i know it must be hard for you,but it could be that your hubby is suffering from stress or something ... | |
| Demanding husband who puts me down all the time. | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I love my husband very much we have been married for almost four years, We have a one year old son ... A: oh my god, he sounds like a real man..............not. i can't tell you what to do, but i would ... | |
| no trust | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: i am getting angry and jealous if my husband(43 years old)is going out to his friend and i am ... A: but you did say you thought he was cheating not that he was at this time. you said you caught him in ... | |
| Relationship issues with 2nd Husband and Step Children | 4/26/2009 |
| Q: I have 3 children from my first marriage. My husband had 2 children from his first marriage and was ... A: now, with all family issues,there is always common denominator,its nearly always money,sex or kids; ... | |
| A question about communication | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: My biggest issue is that I have a real problem being able to communicate with my wife...We have ... A: Most couples engage in meaningful conversation less than 15 minutes per week. Two-income families ... | |
| depressed | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: five years is completed of our marriage we huv one kid but my husband do not pay attention to me he ... A: i lost my email. ok, now as you are depressed, its not a subject one should take lightly or ... | |
| My wife's internet | 4/17/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years now. For the last few months, she has been ... A: Richard, sorry for the late reply, i lost my mail, just got it back. Ok, so your wife did mess up, ... | |
| My wife's internet "friendship" with another man | 4/16/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years now. For the last few months, she has been ... A: Richard, the internet can cause so many problems,like you have found out,but now you and your wife ... | |
| Frustrated with having no help | 4/15/2009 |
| Q: I am having trouble getting my husband to help me with our son. I work every day 730-430. My husband ... A: well, i would first try and shame him,so why not show this letter you sent me. If he is too wrapped ... | |
| Marriage | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 13 years.I have 2 kids aged 11(boy) and 4(girl) My husband though he loves ... A: I can only say that you must confront your hubby with this letter and reply, it may just shock him ... | |
| Marriage | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 13 years.I have 2 kids aged 11(boy) and 4(girl) My husband though he loves ... A: First i have to say that your hubby is a bully and an vile person, if he thinks that hitting you and ... | |
| Staying Together, Gaining back trust | 4/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married almost 10. We have 6 children. From the ... A: it seems that your hubby could be suffering from stress, so could you be for that matter, and as i ... | |
| Why does he do this? | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you regarding my husband of 9 years. It's a second marriage for both of us. I'm 50 ... A: its seems very strange that his drinking habit revolves round his friends, because if he is drinking ... | |
| Husband wife relationship | 3/30/2009 |
| Q: Next month we have been married for 25 years. within the last 2 years my husband has been in touch ... A: well, his game of playing with fire does seem rather odd,this said doesn't he know the only person ... | |
| Disrespect | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: My husband's friends approached me and told me that my husband is telling people that he rubs his ... A: i wouldn't take any notice of them,its nothing more tittle tattle. If he says these things,you can ... | |
| marital | 3/27/2009 |
| Q: My husband came back upset saying that he wanted to sleep with my sister. He had condoms and all and ... A: Wow, how insensitive is your hubby? He says he wants to sleep with you sister,have you told her ... | |
| "Family" values?? | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: Help! My stepson is coming home from college soon, and the arguments between my husband and I are ... A: sorry to hear this, because i think all it will take is for them both to read your letter to me, and ... | |
| my husband's other woman | 3/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 35 years. Two years ago I found out my husband had been having an affair ... A: finding out about something like that is very soul destroying,but can be overcome. It seems that you ... | |
| my wife doesnt love me anymore | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I have recently been diagnosed with bi-polar/manic depressive disorder. I have been struggling for ... A: Jake, As much as it is so very painful for you,you must seek advice from medical support and ... | |
| My Marriage is in trouble | 3/15/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 2-1/2 yrs. I am 68 yrs old and he is 72. We met at a dance ... A: i guess, your hubby is finding it so hard to change his ways to that of yours,and of course that ... | |
| how to cope if my husband in online porn? | 3/10/2009 |
| Q: i have been married for 16 years,about 2 years ago i find out that my husband visit porn sites on ... A: Is his porn watching interfering with your relationship. He shouldn't be addicted to it that isn't ... | |
| i cheated | 3/8/2009 |
| Q: i married my husband in July of 2007, we live on different continents, in September i cheated on him ... A: its a difficult situation you are in because you know what you did is wrong,yet you stilt went ahead ... | |
| infidilety | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I am very confused in my marriage right now.My husband had an affair in the town where he is now ... A: i am so sorry to hear that this is ruining your life, because clearly it is. Your husband is so ... | |
| infidilety | 2/21/2009 |
| Q: I am very confused in my marriage right now.My husband had an affair in the town where he is now ... A: your hubby has put you in a very nasty place,his own play area, and he thinks you should live with ... | |
| husband/pictures of porn | 2/10/2009 |
| Q: Should I be concerned that on at least two recent occasions my husband has been looking at adult ... A: sorry for the late reply, i simply lost track of time,i did view your mail,but was going to come ... | |
| Obsession with hobby | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 15 years and we have a little girl who is 3 1/2. In the last 2 ... A: ok, now you must show him the letters you sent to me,it shows how you feel and it must be hurtful to ... | |
| Obsession with hobby | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 15 years and we have a little girl who is 3 1/2. In the last 2 ... A: it looks as though he is going though some "teen" flashbacks,he needs something to be hobby i ... | |
| I need some real help! | 2/5/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i got married at a yound age. I got pregnant when he was 17 and we got married ... A: its seems your hubby might be thinking about his teenage years that have flown by,yes he could ... | |
| Help.. | 2/4/2009 |
| Q: First off i would like to start out saying that i have been cheated on my every guy i have ever been ... A: the very fact you say are not excusing your actions,is clearly exactly what you are doing. Now, to ... | |
| past relationships and engagement | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Graham, HELP! I feel totally lost. I have been with my fiancee' for just short of a year and am ... A: When past and present collide in the realm of romance it can spell disaster for the current ... | |
| Husband and Fishing | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: How do I tell my husband I don't want to go fishing with him? I have gone fishing with him in the ... A: i know its silly, but why not just say "hon i hate fishing i don't want to go". His selfish ways do ... | |
| I was ready he thought he was | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I am not sure even what to ask. I have been married for 4 months. Before we got married, I ... A: its very odd that when things are not as they seem many people hide from that problem in hope that ... | |
| Is this how a marriage usually ends? | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had ... A: its very clear to me that his reason for ending the marriage is so false;you bullied him into having ... | |
| married 11 years, distant husband | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been married 11 years and I have been slowly been loosing my husband over the last 5 years. ... A: there are so many reasons why he is behaving this way, one could be stress,or taking medicines,all ... | |
| don:t want divorce | 1/11/2009 |
| Q: my wife wants to divorce because my old ways are not going away fast enough i did drugs for years ... A: this is very simple, you must seek medical help to completely get clean of any drugs,then prove to ... | |
| Please advise | 1/8/2009 |
| Q: When my husband feels guilty about something he always finds something small to fight about it. He ... A: its never a good thing,to stay together because of the kids;but its never a good thing to stay ... | |
| Marriage/Affair | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 18 years and we have two children 9 & 7. My husband and I have been ... A: he playing a "victims" game,he sees himself as hard done by,yet it was he who cheated. He seems to ... | |
| Big advice please... | 12/21/2008 |
| Q: my name is Jennifer and I would like some advice if you can please.. I got married when I was 17 ... A: first, don't be so hard on yourself,you are a young lady and have a husband now, and he has a ... | |
| what is wrong with my husband | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: smith "i am 28 1/2 old woman blongs to India(Asia) married for 4 1/2 yrs.i m not at all happy with ... A: i don't know much about how your culture should work, but being in a loving marriage is what ... | |
| cleaning | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I are both 40 and married 15 years with 3 kids. She is a stay at home mom and I work ... A: her way of dealing with everyday things could be a factor here,have you asked her if anything is ... | |
| what is going on with my husband | 12/17/2008 |
| Q: my name is dana I'm 36 my husband is 39 . we were married 15 years now , we have 4 children . I ... A: i am sorry to hear about your hubby's situation,and the way his behavior towards you. Let me try ... | |
| Spouse or Roommate | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for 3 years. I have an year old daughter. For first few weeks after marriage my ... A: it does sound like he is suffering from some form of stress,even depression,now this could be about ... | |
| Husband wants a roommate | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: Married May 2008. I agreed to keep 50 yr-old male roommate in the house when we first got married, ... A: he must know how you feel over this and to that end, know its wrong for him to have a "room mate" of ... | |
| how to help a spouse with pornography problem | 11/28/2008 |
| Q: I recently discovered my husband is involved with pornography on the internet. When I approaced him ... A: Before the internet was ubiquitous in every aspect of our lives, porn addiction was for the creepy ... | |
| losing trust | 11/21/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i have been together for 5 1/2 years, married, 3 1/2, and have a 15 month old, i am ... A: So what is jealousy? We've all experienced jealousy at some time in our lives, although the reasons ... | |
| marriage problems | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 8 years and we have two children together. We have been ... A: now, not to put a too finer point on it, it could be that he is just lazy, or he could have stress, ... | |
| Is My Husband Cheating on Me? | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: Just come right out and tell me, am I stupid or not. My husband drinks a lot and has gotten worse ... A: i am sorry for the long delay in replying to you. Ok, now what your hubby is doing is so wrong;ok, ... | |
| My husband thinks I am selfish | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married almost 10 years. We have been through a lot during those years. I needed a ... A: Everyone is selfish from time to time. It's part of human nature, but if you do it too much people ... | |
| My husband scared me | 11/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for a year now, and things between us have gotten out of hand. I ... A: I am sorry this will be a very short answer, i think all men that beat on women should be locked ... | |
| marriage problems | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: I don't even know where to begin. I have been married for almost 5 years. My anniversary is ... A: you have both come from marriage that were very badly flawed, but now history is repeating itself. ... | |
| Reality | 11/6/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I live together with our children. We have joined our lives with pets, children, a ... A: When this happens in your relationship, there are some deep issues up for your partner, and some ... | |
| She is so close to her ex and I don't understand why | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I ... A: what i think of your g/f is not important, but i do know what she is thinking of doing is sooooo ... | |
| marital issue | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: Okay, I know I'm probably being petty, but I am just trying to find some solutions to feeling lonely ... A: its look as though your hubby is taking on all this "work" because he feels he is "needed", In this ... | |
| Wife and Me Seperated | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: Wife and I are separated. We had some financial issues and her and her 2 children was creating new ... A: all you can do at this time is keep talking to her, show her that you really want the marriage to ... | |
| Not IN Love, but still Loves me??? | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: I am totally confused with my problem, my husband and i have been married now to this day for 21 ... A: this a hard one for me,as i don't have definitive answers ,but try this website i know it will help ... | |
| lying wife | 10/29/2008 |
| Q: I always trusted my wife thinking that she will never lie to me, but recently i found that she lied ... A: now your wife has broken that trust in going on "dates" with this guy. which ever way you look at it ... | |
| Am I going crazy? Or is he disrespectful? | 10/25/2008 |
| Q: Ok... I have really close friends who are lesbians. Last night my husband tryed to poke my friend ... A: what your husband tried to do is basically assault and i can't think of why your husband was that ... | |
| what should i do | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: A: well the 8 year age difference,is, in my opinion not a problem, but i think it is to you.You are ... | |
| Difficulties | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: My name is Tiffany, John and I have been married for 15 years and we have two boys aged 13 and 6. We ... A: i knw its seems he didn't care, but i wonder if he is suffering from some of sort of sickness ... | |
| Life and marriage | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years, we have 3 children 18, 16, and 8. One in ... A: and thanks so much for your marks. take care Graham Hi, well, i can sence your feeling of being so ... | |
| Life and marriage | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years, we have 3 children 18, 16, and 8. One in ... A: The decision to stay in or leave an unhappy marriage is one of the most difficult choices that you ... | |
| husband doesn't love me anymore. | 10/15/2008 |
| Q: My husband told me 3 days ago that he no longer loves me. He says he loves me for the person I am ... A: Was how you hubby said he didn't love you anyway,said in an argument? If so, then i would say that ... | |
| I want to love my husband | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: My husband and i are married for 6 years now, and we have 2 beautiful boys. Just before the marriage ... A: now, this is a very complex situation,you now have to find your love that you once had. Its clear ... | |
| Is fantasizing normal | 9/30/2008 |
| Q: I caught my husband fantasizing about a past coworker. He cropped her face onto some pornographic ... A: well, looking for someone is ok,but for the reasons you he might be searching for her,is not. So in ... | |
| Hurt by wife's behaviour | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: Sorry in advance for what is a bit of a long email ! My elderly father was recently placed in ... A: i wish you all well, please let me know how it all goes. Graham Hi Herb, wow, i re-read this ... | |
| Hurt by wife's behaviour | 9/26/2008 |
| Q: Sorry in advance for what is a bit of a long email ! My elderly father was recently placed in ... A: well i do hope wife sees this reply,it looks like she wanted you to find that "email" so now that ... | |
| Difference of Emotions | 9/24/2008 |
| Q: My wife doesn't act like she misses me or thinks of me as compared to me while at work away from ... A: it could be that your wife just isn't a touchy ,feely person. some people just are not comfortable ... | |
| Marriage worries | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: Sorry if this is a long one, but I'm really struggling with this and need to talk someone unbiased ... A: so sorry for my late reply, Its clear to me that you have had a rough deal here;it is now showing ... | |
| Scared to call it a day | 9/8/2008 |
| Q: Good morning I have been married now for 4 years and i am very confused and scared as to what to do ... A: its very important that you feel safe and wanted in any relationship, but now you need to focus on ... | |
| is he coming back | 9/5/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend/husband/father of my children of 5 years said he wasnt happy and he moved out.he keeps ... A: this is a hard one, i would ask him outright what is going on,and get him to explain himself to you. ... | |
| How can I help my husband forget the past? | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my husband (Carlos) for ten years. Carlos and I have been going through problems ... A: his issues are causing him to suffer,and i am afraid that the way you talk about it in your letter ... | |
| married with no sex | 9/2/2008 |
| Q: me and my hubby have been married for almost 5 years now he is 30 and im 31, i love to have sex but ... A: well, the answer is not "wanting other men" its more deep seated than just wanting or not wanting ... | |
| strained relation with husband | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for one year after being good FRIENDS for 6 years.I,being a friend, never paid ... A: shortcomings are not so bad,as we are all human;but what is important is that you don't forget that ... | |
| Marriage | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: My problem is with my husband and a family member through marriage. My husband and i were having ... A: your hubby is not behaving as a husband ,should, remember"for better and for worse". he seems to ... | |
| Bullying | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I searched further on the Net and found further articles about control freaks which also described ... A: There is one word in your letter which sums all of what is wrong in a marriage of bullying.....that ... | |
| strained relation with husband | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for one year after being good FRIENDS for 6 years.I,being a friend, never paid ... A: Historically, marriages were based on socially prescribed roles and expectations. Husbands worked ... | |
| contolling wife and we have children | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: I have a wife that has controlled our relationship for the 9 years we have been married. Before ... A: Believe me your wife is not finding new issues to complain about but issues that have been there for ... | |
| Loveless and sexless Marriage | 8/23/2008 |
| Q: I am living with this man for the past 34 years, married to him for 28 years. I have been through ... A: i have read your letter and i feel ashamed to be a man,he has betrayed you too many times to be ... | |
| Alcholic Husband and an affair | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I recently found out my husband was having an affair with another woman in his office. I also had ... A: Susan, well, i guess men who cheat,will make any excuse for what they did. The end result is that ... | |
| husband ...very distant when i am sick | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: I am a married for 11 years with two daughters ages4 and 9. Its our love marriage and I love my ... A: graham hiya Fouzia, i think that you must tell your hubby exactly how his behavoiur is hurting ... | |
| communication and blame | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 7 years and together 6 years before that (high school ... A: sorry for late reply,but been looking for some answers for you. Ok,spouses stop talking to each ... | |
| cheated and got divorced | 8/21/2008 |
| Q: I was married for almost seventeen years. After 15 1/2 years of being faithful to my husband I had ... A: first, i am not judging you but when you say you worked hard on your marriage for 15 years,but ... | |
| boyfriend/husband not happy anymore | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: my boyfriend of 5 years says he isn't happy anymore. we have two kids together. ages 3 and 1. he ... A: Generally speaking, men's brains tend to perform tasks predominantly with the left side, which is ... | |
| Relationship problems | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: I am basically in a common law relationship. We are living together and have been doing so for ... A: It sounds like he can't accept your way of emotions or how you act on them. So I think you mean that ... | |
| need help!!!!!!!! | 8/13/2008 |
| Q: been married 1 year he has a daughter shes 12years old with his ex girlfriend they separate 6,7 ... A: well, i agree with you, he is paying his ex way too much attention. His daughter he had with his ... | |
| sex life | 8/9/2008 |
| Q: I am 45, female, happily married for 10 years, and we have, overall, a good sex life, however, in ... A: iam sorry that i wasn't more helpful to you. all the best to you Graham hi there, wouldn't life be ... | |
| Husband prefers friends over me | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: I seem to have no voice or valid place in this life.My husband and I have been married soon to be 26 ... A: his issues appear to be that he is "king" and what he says goes,this is so "caveman like" that ... | |
| Regaining trust | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: This year will be me and my wife's 10 year anniversary. We have 3 children and come from a very ... A: Ok, she may not trust you yet,but her behavour is not that of a Woman with very low esteem. Every ... | |
| contemplating divorce | 7/19/2008 |
| Q: I have been contemplating a divorce for many reason 1. We argue every day and when I try ... A: Now to get to the divoice stage is a huge step,make sure that every angle to covered before you ... | |
| sexual intimacy in marriage | 7/18/2008 |
| Q: I am looking for a male perspective and beginning to feel that there are no answers to my problem. ... A: I understand your feelings so well, i suffered from this myself,and still do, although it isn't as ... | |
| unfaithful wife | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: my wife and i have had problems in the past but i thought nothing big. she went to guatemala because ... A: there isn't a lot you can do, if she wants out ,she wants out. I would try talking to her,and tell ... | |
| my husband | 7/14/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I been married 18 yrs. I am his 3rd wife. He came from a very controling mom and ... A: Your husband probably loves you more than you can ever imagine. While it's true that his demanding ... | |
| newlyweds having troubles with sex | 7/11/2008 |
| Q: I got married six months ago to my best friend. Our marriage was tough at first but nothing out of ... A: Most relationships go through phases where one or both partners have gone off sex, but there's no ... | |
| my husband doesn't feel the same | 7/9/2008 |
| Q: I ahve been married for 25 years in November and we have 4 children ranging from 22 to 9. A few ... A: i am sorry to hear about your hubby and his thinking. It seems that he is worried about being on his ... | |
| Confusion | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I are both 31 years old.We have been together for 15 years and have two terrific ... A: Now, it does seem that she has major hangups on sexual issues,did this all change after the children ... | |
| What;'s normal? Don't know anymore! | 7/1/2008 |
| Q: Ever since we got married 3 yrs. ago my husband has been telling me what I "owe" him. I'm 61, he's ... A: this is very wrong and his views are almost archaic to say the least.I guess you have tried to ... | |
| Husband's apparent mid-life crisis | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I've seen several of your responses and in my opinion you seem to have your finger on the pulse of ... A: graham Hi Beth, it may seem to you that "stress" is always something that someone else has,but it ... | |
| marriage | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: i have been with my husband 12 year`s only married for 2 year`s.he can`t show me any feeling`s at ... A: Graham hi Sally, sorry for the delay, now with so little info, i would say,go to this site for a ... | |
| Am I wrong? | 6/29/2008 |
| Q: I am three months away from marrying and dont know if I should. We have been together for a year now ... A: you are the only one who can decide to marry her or not;but her own life is an issue here,because ... | |
| Was I wrong? | 6/27/2008 |
| Q: I was taking care of my niece and newphew at my home on a hot summer day. I was in the kitchen ... A: No you were not wrong to stay in your bedroom,clearly you were embarrassed that a another person saw ... | |
| Is My Marriage Over? | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: To make it short my husband and i are in different states and has been for 8 months.He works in Tn ... A: trust issues are always hard to resolve,and your husband's actions will not help the situation at ... | |
| interest gone | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ... A: now, as i read your letter i see that your hubby is losing his sexual appetite ,now this after only ... | |
| I don't know what to do. | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: I really do feel for you here, because, clearly you are confused as to what what you should or need ... | |
| I don't know what to do. | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: If a marriage is worth saving then only you can and your hubby can save it. You must think about the ... | |
| trust | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: my husband an i have been married for 1 year now and he does not trust me , he changed his password ... A: first thing,why is divorce not an option,because sometimes when things get so bad that is all that ... | |
| I don't know what to do. | 5/28/2008 |
| Q: Married for 7 years, husband has kids with previous relationship. We have a child together. During ... A: No matter how much we have in common with the one we love, each of us remains a unique human being. ... | |
| my husband isn't nice to me like he is to other people | 5/16/2008 |
| Q: For 14 years our marriage was wonderful. Then my husband had heart surgery. He became very verbally ... A: your hubby may have heart problems,but this runs deeper than that, it seems that he is taking his ... | |
| Dont feel loved | 5/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 7 years and most of this time I have always felt like he ... A: Sometimes the way someone shows love is not what makes their partner feel loved. For example, one ... | |
| all signs point to that boyfriend is no longer attracted to me | 5/12/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 children. In the beginning of our ... A: now, firstly there is nothing wrong with you at all. So lets look at why he is like he is. ... | |
| I don't know what to do | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: I have a similar situation to many of the men who have posted questions regarding losing their ... A: there isn't much you can do at this time, time will tell! the visit to the marriage counselor is the ... | |
| Husband Loves Me/Doesn't Want Me | 4/29/2008 |
| Q: I've been very sick. My husband became stressed and took it out on me. He resented me for not ... A: it seems that your hubby is being very stupid with his behavoiur;which will cause you to leave him ... | |
| Scared of marriage with my boyfriend | 4/28/2008 |
| Q: Relationship, I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now with my firefighter boyfriend. ... A: i hope things work out for you..... Graham HI Beth, In life we are set many problems,and in time ... | |
| marriage | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years and never been unfaithful to my wife.its been a very hard marriage ... A: Today about half of all marriages end in divorce with many of those not even making it to the first ... | |
| marital problems | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: i;m married for almost two years, but i don't know what happiness in marriage is.please i need your ... A: When infidelity, lies or broken promises invade a marriage, the trust between husband and wife is ... | |
| marriage | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: What are the merits and demerits of no age difference marriage???...please weigh the options on both ... A: i found this, it should help you. “Extreme age differences between husband and wife may lead to ... | |
| Marriage | 4/10/2008 |
| Q: I write to you because I feel guilty and confused within my marriage. I am married for 4 years now, ... A: now i have thought about how to answer this because, you are not alone in this. Many men watch ... | |
| My husband and I do not talk like we use too | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years and before that we dated for 4 years. We have 4 children that ... A: Roxanne, i have to say that your sister has caused this row,she should not have interfered in your ... | |
| is he a bully? | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: I've been reading some of the questions and I feel related with some of the women whose husbands ... A: yes he is a bully, a verbal is just as bad as physical bully,his way is always going to be the right ... | |
| i think jealousy | 3/25/2008 |
| Q: My hsband and I had been together for 4months where he started a behavior. He would want to visit ... A: well, this is a different story altogether,now i know he might email this person with loves and ... | |
| miserable marriage | 3/16/2008 |
| Q: I've been married 23 years next month. WE have three kids 16, 14 and 9. We've owned a business for ... A: Lisa, i am sorry that after so many years, it has come to this. While 23 years is a long ... | |
| Help, the truth sunk me!! | 3/9/2008 |
| Q: Alright, I've been married to this girl, we got married rather quickly but we felt a strong ... A: Ok, we all know that "honesty is the best policy" but telling the truth does hurt and some can take ... | |
| marriage | 3/7/2008 |
| Q: My husband who I have been with for nearly five years has started working long hours,he is 41 and I ... A: i get a lot of letters like this,its basically down to your hubby being very selfish...he seems to ... | |
| marriage | 3/2/2008 |
| Q: Well before I go into a bunch of detail is this just to ask a single question or are you someone i ... A: I am open to all questions,if i can't answer them i will let you know,but i can listen and read any ... | |
| i dont know what to do anymore | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: I am 23 years old and my husband is 37. We have been married for three years and have a 5 month old. ... A: i think you could have Postnatal depression is very common. Yet far too often, new mothers are left ... | |
| Adultery | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: Im married my wife and I have been married for 3 yrs but we've been together for almost 15 yrs. We ... A: i am sorry you feel the way you do, but i fear that the answer i am about to give you will not be ... | |
| My wife is too negative- doesn't want kids | 2/18/2008 |
| Q: I am a 26 year old male married to a 26 year old female from Trinidad, and we have been married for ... A: i know the feeling you have, i have been there,so lets look at how can you help negative people? ... | |
| questions questions questions | 2/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband is very close-mouthed and sometimes it is a grand effort to pry information from him. I ... A: i don't really know how to explain his thinking or lack of thinking!! it could be a number of ... | |
| my husband's daughter from 1st marriage | 2/3/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i got married a little more than 2 years ago. He had been separated from his 1st wife ... A: sorry to hear about your situation. your husband really should be 100% behind you on this,but his ... | |
| trust | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: .. then now he tells me he wants nothing to do with her and he wants to be with me yet she is still ... A: well, he is being very clever isn't he!playing with two people's emotions. Now, you have to decide ... | |
| wife | 1/31/2008 |
| Q: my question was has she ever tried to stop someone and why didnt she just answer me with a yes or a ... A: I see, well i guess she didn't want you to think bad of her, and if said nothing then she isn't ... | |
| Is this the end? | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: I am 19 years old and my husband is 20. We have a 13 month old son, and we are expecting another ... A: sorry for late reply, been busy with work. your hubby's attitude seems very churlish indeed,his ... | |
| Child? If it's not, what after? | 1/30/2008 |
| Q: I met my husband 3 years ago. He was still in divorce process and we had a long distance ... A: ...good luck hi there, sorry for late reply, had pc problems. so lets look at this, he has a ... | |
| nervous | 1/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I just got married 4 months ago. Before we got married, even before we started ... A: i would tell him how you are feeling because if you don't it will eat at you till the day you die. ... | |
| just love to look, alittle too much | 1/24/2008 |
| Q: I grew up with just my dad, no mom, and he was always checking out other girls. He was single, well, ... A: there is no harm in looking at women,just don't rub your wife's nose in it,and of course do NOT ... | |
| forgiveness | 1/20/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I were married for 15 yrs before he committed adultry then we divorced for 4 yrs and ... A: it seems like he is a "player" and lives on your love for him, to take him back every time. i do ... | |
| What's going on in my marriage? | 1/19/2008 |
| Q: I'm looking for answers, here it goes. We've been married 10 years, together for 12. We have two ... A: It does seem that men have a knack of hurting the ladies they love the most.I wonder if the main ... | |
| marriage question | 1/17/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my girlfriend for almost 8 years and its time to ask her to marry me. The problem ... A: I am not sure of the answer you want from me! but if you are not sure if this is what you want then ... | |
| What's going on in my marriage? | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I'm looking for answers, here it goes. We've been married 10 years, together for 12. We have two ... A: Such is the trap into which millions of us fall, this is very similar to the preceding "You make me ... | |
| What should I do to convince her or am I wrong?? | 1/14/2008 |
| Q: I love my wife.Its very unusual that when i am in bed with her, I have fantasy about her having an ... A: this is an usual question,but i will do my best in answering it. Now when sex drives differ;and ... | |
| yelling @ my Fiance | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: I recently fell in love with a soldier whom is 14 yrs younger than me. Age doesnt matter between us. ... A: I know it will sound silly, but have you thought;"hey i have written to a complete stranger for ... | |
| My Marriage | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for twenty years. I have over the tears told my husband about the child abuse i ... A: Kay, I am so sorry to hear you suffered so. This whole episode of your life is clear in your ... | |
| Swapping | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I recently visited a nudist/swapping resort. Although we did not participate in ... A: i have a very simple answer;this will lead to heartache and can and will ruin a good marriage or ... | |
| spouse continuously disprects me | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: he has this bad habit that irritates me to no end and no matter how much we talk about how this ... A: well thanks shelly, i thought i was helping you but i guess i didn't i will inform allexperts ... | |
| abusive relationship | 12/19/2007 |
| Q: my husban is very controlling and abusive and sometimes voilent . i have to act submissive otherwise ... A: i am sorry about his way with you. All i can say is that i hate men that hurt women, and you really ... | |
| I am stock. | 12/16/2007 |
| Q: i have been married with my husband 4 years.my english not well.He asked me marry with him in my ... A: this is a big problem and you must seek help, i can't really help in a big way because of your ... | |
| how do I win her back after messing up | 12/13/2007 |
| Q: This needs a litle bit of set up, First off let me state that I love my wife. I am not the smartest ... A: but god know how you thought i was impolite, i am never impolite ,i am right to the point but never ... | |
| Sexual Drive | 12/12/2007 |
| Q: I've been married 12 years with 3 kids. My husband 34 has a high sex drive. I had my tubes tyied ... A: sorry for the late reply. Now the keys to sexual desire are positive anticipation and feeling you ... | |
| some more questions... | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: If you read my first question, I was also wondering should I refrain from going to family ... A: Patrick, this one is down to you. I would explain to the inviter that your wife is upset that they ... | |
| what should i buy my wife for xmas?? | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been seperated for 3 weeks. 5 months ago she dropped a bomb on me. She said she ... A: Patrick, when things go wrong,the reasons are not always that easy to see. I would ask her about ... | |
| I hate being married | 11/25/2007 |
| Q: I'm 43, my husband 45 and we've been married 22 years. Many of the years are more unhappy than ... A: i am sorry for the late reply, anyway i really wish i could give you a detailed answer, but i have ... | |
| husband is no longer attracted to me | 11/22/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married for only 5 months and already im almost positive he has lost all ... A: men are pigs,me too sometimes;to put your mind at rest,99 of men watch porn and masturbate;this does ... | |
| My husband seems uninterested in sex | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two months. We are both Christians who love the Lord, and my ... A: you must forgive me i have been very ill the last 2 weeks,still ill now so my reply time is very ... | |
| hes a socialite, i'm codependant | 11/17/2007 |
| Q: This might get hard to follow, and I apologize, but appreciate any comments good/bad you can give ... A: well you hit a sore with me here,what i will say now will probably have you thinking " gosh he is ... | |
| sexless marrage | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: I need help....my husband and I have been married for 29 yrs, he wants sex all the time and I don't, ... A: First of all, there are far greater differences between individuals of the same gender than between ... | |
| My Marriage | 11/11/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years and separated for 1 yr and 2 mths and we have two ... A: when a hubby or wife says "i don't love you any more" its a very hard thing to hear,but most people ... | |
| exhausted with the patterns in my marriage. | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 3 years. We have a new baby who has been a joy to our lives. ... A: try and get this book Every Day I Love You More (just not today) Lessons in Loving One Partner for ... | |
| when is enough-enough? | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: I am 33 years old and my husband is 26. We've been married six years. Most of our marriage has been ... A: Marriage, if it progresses like it should and we along with it, will grow us right up. It a ... | |
| i hate my inlaw so much that I always think of divorce | 11/10/2007 |
| Q: I've been married almost 10 years with a 6 years old son. My inlaw are living with us, and troubles ... A: i know its very difficult,and in-laws can be a tremendous source of support and closeness. They can ... | |
| Should fiance keep pictures of ex? | 11/6/2007 |
| Q: A few weeks ago my fiance and I were unpacking boxes as we moved into a new apartment together. I ... A: well i guess if it makes you unhappy,i would say something.I know sometimes when people break-up ... | |
| Other women | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for three months,Lateley we have been arguing quite a lot ... A: Claire, hi there, this is an easy one to answer,99 of men look at porn at some point in their ... | |
| My marriage is crashing | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for a little over 2 years with a baby. My husband and I have arguments on and ... A: life is never fair or easy, many problems happen and then you have to learn to solve them. The ... | |
| Marital Dwelling | 11/5/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I are considering marriage next year. She wants me to move into her house where ... A: well, no your not wrong to feel that way,but your lady friend too has her feeling about this. I know ... | |
| Emtionally Unavailable Husband | 10/31/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 10 years now and how he act's sometimes is just rude and ... A: Some men do have strange ideas and have you ever noticed how incredibly focused a man can sometimes ... | |
| SEPERATION | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: MY WIFE IS GETTING READY TO MOVE OUT. SHE SAYS SHE NEEDS SPACE AFTER 17 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND THREE ... A: sorry to hear this, now on the issues of the kids its really down to you and her in the first ... | |
| quarelling between my husband and I | 10/23/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i fighting alot .we are both selfish and stubborn.we want to prove ourselves ... A: First,it is not too late. If you do not allow yourself to believe and accept that, you will think ... | |
| My Dad | 10/11/2007 |
| Q: I'll try to make this as short as possible. My Father is 74 and his wife is 54. They live in Florida ... A: well i always fear the age gap like this,but you can only support your dad in every way you can. Are ... | |
| husband abandoned us and now back | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: My husband abandoned me and my 11 months old daugther. There were problems in our marriage for ... A: this is a very simple answer for me to give;you must seek a way to help him in his anger,or you must ... | |
| cheating spouse | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: My wife denies she enter into an emotional affair with her co-worker despite over whelming phone ... A: getting her to admit to an affair is very hard. the only way would be to catch them, but you must be ... | |
| Marriage !!!!! | 10/3/2007 |
| Q: PLEASE NOTE THE I WILL BE VERY MUCH GREATFULL IF YOU COULD GIVE ME AN IMMEDIATE REPLY AS THIS THING ... A: Wow, that is a bummer. Now, here comes my very opinionated reply! If I were in that situation, I'd ... | |
| Husband doesnt like to help out much | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for less than a year and we have a 2 month old son. He's ... A: Any wife who wants to have her husband share in the responsibility of taking care of their home ... | |
| sexually | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. I dated my husband for 5 years, and we always had a fun, ... A: its very hard to know where i can go with this;because after only 2 years he should be so up and ... | |
| sexually "dead" relationship | 9/21/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. I dated my husband for 5 years, and we always had a fun, ... A: firstly, you say you love your husband,and yet you want to have an affair;that is like water and ... | |
| Husband left home | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for 3 1/2 years with a beautiful baby girl. We have had problems ... A: without knowing his history,his medical history too;i feel that he could be suffering from ... | |
| i hate myself | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: we are married for ten years and something happened 7 years ago and i told my husband the truth that ... A: When guilt eats away that person's life becomes so hard and forgiveness can only help;am to think ... | |
| advice | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I are having problems with him looking at porn on the computer at home. He knows how ... A: i know how you must feel,and if i said that 99% of men do watch porn at home, you would say "oh ok" ... | |
| Marriage and intimacy | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 22 years to the same man. We have two children of college age. I am ... A: some guys just go shy after a certain time, there is no reason for it, but it could be that he has ... | |
| Marriage and intimacy | 9/13/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 22 years to the same man. We have two children of college age. I am ... A: i am so sorry for not thanking for your marks until now, i somehow caught caught up in other family ... | |
| My wife says | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: I am so confused right now it is unreal. My wife and I have had issues over the last couple of ... A: guy, what you are painting here is a dark picture of your wife,and to be honest if she has done what ... | |
| My husband wants to spend time with female co-worker? | 9/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have a huge difference of opinion... He thinks that it should be absolutely fine ... A: hope you get him to see what you are feeling Graham Hi K having females as friends is ok to a ... | |
| Just want to be loved | 9/9/2007 |
| Q: My Husband and I have been married one year and he does nothing!! We have a nine month old son who ... A: Now is the time for you to confront him about being inconsiderate of you and his bad behavior. Sit ... | |
| My wife says | 9/8/2007 |
| Q: I am so confused right now it is unreal. My wife and I have had issues over the last couple of ... A: Quite often, women's emotions are clearly reflected on their faces. If her face lights up when you ... | |
| How can I tell my wife that I'm unhappy | 9/4/2007 |
| Q: Ok..so let's start at the beginning. My wife and I have been together for 4 years, and we have two ... A: i really feel for you, its clear you wife has done something,her defensive behavior is very ... | |
| Husband's inappropriate picture message | 9/2/2007 |
| Q: I have recently noticed that my husband was sending picture messages with his phone. Although he ... A: i know this will not help you understand his actions,but this behavior is very common with men of ... | |
| How do I gain back my wifes trust and love? | 9/1/2007 |
| Q: I am a 43 yr old man that has been married for 23 years.We have a 23yr old and 19 yr old ... A: Despite such problems, couples can and do put their marriages back together, although only through ... | |
| how can i make my girlfriend believe in marriage | 9/1/2007 |
| Q: i have a girlfriend that don't believe in marriage.I'm sure that she loves me so much and i love her ... A: if your girlfriend doesn't believe in marriage, there isn't anything you can do.Its her belief,that ... | |
| What do you do when your husband says he doesn't love you anymore? | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years. We have an 18 year old daughter starting ... A: now, the fact you are trying to save your marriage is clear to him,but his hopes are low,because i ... | |
| What do you do when your husband says he doesn't love you anymore? | 8/28/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years. We have an 18 year old daughter starting ... A: There is always hope Judy,where to find it is the problem. Your hubby's problems is stem from his ... | |
| Communication | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 4yrs. No kids. I'm 30, she is 29. We have dated since 2000. Last ... A: When a couple reaches the point of not having anything to say to one another, their marriage is in ... | |
| SHOULD I END THE RELATIONSHIP | 8/21/2007 |
| Q: i have been dating this guy for the last two months. We met in a gym. We have gone out on a date ... A: Leaving a relationship before knowing what the real problem is, is generally a waste of time (aside ... | |
| HMMMMM....NO SEX | 8/18/2007 |
| Q: OKAY SO HERE I GO...I DONT WANT TO EVER HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND...HE DOESNT TURN ME ON AT ALL...I ... A: i am sorry i could not help you more,and i guess the site wasn't that helpful, but i do wish you all ... | |
| divorce cheating wife | 8/18/2007 |
| Q: My wife and i were together for about 4 years and married for over 2. I am in the navy and gone ... A: i am so sorry to your hurt, Now its time to Take her off that pedestal Don't idolize her and build ... | |
| where do I go?? | 8/14/2007 |
| Q: I don't know where to begin so here goes. In 2001 we lost a full term baby 11hrs after his birth ... A: well, i do understand your concerns,this said, your hubby could be very scared in many ways ... | |
| I'm still in love with my wife | 8/12/2007 |
| Q: I'm sorry this is a long entry. However, I hope the information will provide you with enough ... A: you know this Woman doesn't love you or respect you. You have better things to do with yourself than ... | |
| can i date and have relationship during a seperation | 8/5/2007 |
| Q: I live in Virginia Washington D.C. I have been separated from my husband for four months because he ... A: well as far as i know, the only laws you could break are moral ones,i am based in the UK and if a ... | |
| wife and confidence | 8/3/2007 |
| Q: I have been married seven months and going through some jealousy issue. For the past months my wife ... A: i am not sure who wrote to me,because two names are here. Anyway As much as we would like to ... | |
| marriage and sex | 8/3/2007 |
| Q: i have been married to my hubby for 19 years and i love him but i have not had sex in over 2 years ... A: Although men apparently think about it every five minutes and it’s essential for the continuation of ... | |
| Friend and marriage problems | 8/1/2007 |
| Q: Im not married yet my best friend is about to be married. We have been close friends for 4 years ... A: being a friend means being a shoulder to cry on and being there when you are needed. your friend ... | |
| Difficult husband | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: My question is: I have been married for almost 23 years and have 3 children but my husband and I ... A: if you've shown him how much his behavior hurts you, then as someone who cares about you he should ... | |
| My Wife left | 7/20/2007 |
| Q: We were married for 18yrs. She says she still loves me but she needs to find herself.We moved to VA ... A: she is being very nasty indeed ,saying she still loves you,when indeed she has left you. The affair ... | |
| someone help me | 7/18/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been back married again for 2 years.. I am 8 months pregnant and have a 1year ... A: this is a complete negative family, you telling him what he can't and can do and he telling you that ... | |
| Marriage on the Rocks | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 12 yrs. I have been with my husband for 21 yrs. He was my first boyfriend. ... A: I am sorry that you are going though this almost alone,try and remember that marriage is different ... | |
| My husband does nothing to help me! | 7/17/2007 |
| Q: My husband and i have been together for 5 years and have a 16 month old son. I work full time and ... A: As you already know, your trying to get him to help is having terrible effects on you, on your ... | |
| I think I may still be in love with my ex-husband | 7/15/2007 |
| Q: I got married at 18 to my first husband. We have two daughters together. We divorced after 5 years ... A: this is a hard one, but as my mum said "you made your bed now lay in it". As hard as that sounds its ... | |
| Hi | 7/13/2007 |
| Q: My Friend who married to man for last ten year. Guy is working as marine enineer. They have two ... A: i really hate men that mistreat ladies this way, the lady needs time to get herself together,then ... | |
| I cheated on my husband but I love him and DO NOT want our marriage to be over! | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: A little over a year ago I cheated on my husband. He just found out from someone I had told (I have ... A: i am sorry to say this..but once a cheat,is very difficult to forgive,your hubby will always think ... | |
| I'm with a married man | 7/10/2007 |
| Q: "Hi I wrote previously that I'm 27 dating a 53 yr old man.I know what many will think but I'm ... A: well if you can't leave him,lets look at why he hasn't left his wife yet then? look at the goals ... | |
| husband hiding information | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: I am married for 21 years and have six beautiful kids. I love my husband very much but he has some ... A: its very odd indeed that he should keep that from you. Relationships can be the most difficult and ... | |
| Confused Wife possibly having affair | 7/6/2007 |
| Q: I’m 30 years old and just became a proud father to most wonderful little girl in the world (5 months ... A: well you covered all the bases i think,and your honesty is very worthy of being a thoughtful guy. ... | |
| marriage and pregnant issues | 6/30/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married since valentines day 2007 and have been together over a year. we ... A: well, i would think he certainly hasn't lost his "spark" for you,as you have only been married a ... | |
| hsuband | 6/13/2007 |
| Q: Hey Graham, Perhaps you will need more details, but in a nutshell, I filed for a separation ... A: now it is clear to me he is doing this in a revenge situation,i guess when you told him why you did ... | |
| dont feel the same love what we shared | 6/12/2007 |
| Q: i am married since year & 6 months,ours is love marriage,(we were in same office & same ... A: i really can't tell what to do here, its for you to decide on this. However,when a guy hits a ... | |
| what's happening is it me or him? | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: This is a long one, I'm desparate 3 different marriage counselors haven't been able to help us. ... A: Life is to short to be unhappy. honesty in a marriage is very important. what if the shoe was on the ... | |
| dont feel the same love what we shared | 6/7/2007 |
| Q: i am married since year & 6 months,ours is love marriage,(we were in same office & same ... A: I really have to say one thing...he hit you and that is ,for the way out. i very rarely go this ... | |
| Infidelity, sex and online friends | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: This is going to be a bit complex, but here goes: My wife and I have been married nearly 10 years. ... A: I am sorry i misled you, no "online" isn't my expertise,but any online chat or even males friends ... | |
| Husbandd doesn't show affection or pay attention to me | 5/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for eight years now and we have three children together. He ... A: I can't imagine what you are going though,and i do feel for you. Now, although you have spoken to ... | |
| Infidelity, sex and online friends | 5/29/2007 |
| Q: This is going to be a bit complex, but here goes: My wife and I have been married nearly 10 years. ... A: ok, i get so annoyed when people, pretend "on line" friends means nothing;thats rubbish,its hurtful ... | |
| problems with wife | 5/26/2007 |
| Q: recently i found out my wife has been lying to us about smoking, it has been two years and i just ... A: yes i agree with you, she is wrong to act in that way. I don't know if she will listen to ... | |
| Sudden uncertainty of emotions in my marriage | 5/19/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I started trying to get pregnant back at the end of 2005 and we were successful in ... A: well, you seem to be well aware of your feelings and the problems they are causing. Feelings and ... | |
| Husband Cell Phone | 5/18/2007 |
| Q: My husband likes to play head games with me. Normally he calls me on his first break and or his last ... A: What you need to do here is talk to him openly about all this and show him this letter you wrote to ... | |
| about my husband | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: my husband is gone all the time either over his friends or at work or school i found 2 girls numbers ... A: Hi Tammy, Well, its almost impossible to say if he is cheating,without evidence ,other than girl's ... | |
| wife acussing---and angry quick | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: my wife and i have been married for 2 1/2 years.shes always acussing me of looking at other women ... A: the question here is has your wife been suffering from stress recently,or something upset her? I ... | |
| Paying Attention | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been married to my man 1yr and we've been 2gether for 2-1/2. In the beginning, he held my ... A: well it could a number of things and you know of the money problems he is having.Now i would look at ... | |
| Husband had affair, says he's "not in love" with me anymore | 5/7/2007 |
| Q: I hope you can help, because I am devastated and heartbroken, and I know my beloved husband is ... A: the fact that your hubby had an affair is problem that is of his making,many men have affairs and ... | |
| age problem between wife and husband | 5/6/2007 |
| Q: will there be any problem if wife is older than the husband??? A: in marriages there are many problems that can happen,but with love and respect, age is not one of ... | |
| is it disrespectful to my relationship to be friends with an ex? | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: I always thought that it was the mature thing to do to remain friends with people you have dated, ... A: well i am from an "old school of thought" and really feel you are being a little selfish in thinking ... | |
| Starting Over | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: After 22 years of marriage and four children, my husband and I realized that we really really don't ... A: well its hard to rebuild trust once its been broken, i do understand its a two way street. This ... | |
| to be mad or not to be mad | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I agree to baby sit our nephew while my sister went to a wedding overnight. I was ... A: i am not an expert in this but i think your hubby is just looking to escape the baby sitting,but not ... | |
| Why doesn't he respect me? | 4/16/2007 |
| Q: I am 31 and my husband is 27 marine for 8 years. In the last four years of my relationship i have ... A: it seems to me that he is suffering from work related stress, and i wager he and you both know ... | |
| Marriage seperation | 4/13/2007 |
| Q: My wife has recently told me that she wants to separate and feels we rushed into getting married and ... A: God, when i read letters like this,my blood boils;the fact that she can dictate to you when and ... | |
| Should I marry this person? | 4/9/2007 |
| Q: Graham, I'm a 30 y/o male and have been living with my girlfriend for more than 5 years. We have a ... A: In virtually every marriage,or relationship no matter how steamy at the beginning, goes through ... | |
| my husband is a heroin addict... | 4/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I were married in july of 2005, we both made mistakes and we separated. during the ... A: first can i say i am not a religious man at all, but if you feel that God can be your crutch then ... | |
| Feeling forgotten.... | 4/6/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for about 3 years but have been with him for 12, since we were 17. For the ... A: Believe it or not many men look at porn and still have a sex life without pictures. This said, his ... | |
| Trust | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: I need help with my trust issues. I have been married to my wife for 6 months. We have been ... A: Frank, having trust in someone is the major part of life,in this case your marriage is the trust ... | |
| Should I stay or leave | 3/28/2007 |
| Q: Graham, I've been married for 9 years and have three great children (3/5/7). My wife and I have ... A: firstly, i am sorry for the late reply. Ok, so it seems that your wife may have problems with ... | |
| No Questions...PERIOD | 3/26/2007 |
| Q: I am piggybacking on question posed by someone named Christina. My husband feels as though his ... A: his lack of understanding is clearing from how he was bought up as a child;this said the fact he is ... | |
| Communication problems | 3/26/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I are newlyweds, yet our friendship goes back 10 years. Up until now it seems we have ... A: don't worry you and your hubby are just normal,and you are just beginning to settle down to each ... | |
| Exes | 3/22/2007 |
| Q: I read my husbands e-mails and saw an ex girlfriend (from 20 yrs ago) contacted him. They exchanged ... A: i think you have every right to be very upset and annoyed.Its seems that all guys,not just your ... | |
| lack of sex | 3/21/2007 |
| Q: My fiance' and I have been together for almost a year. In the beginning he told me he just ... A: there are so many things that can cause him to not "perform" as he should,now stress is the biggest ... | |
| sex | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: my husband and I have not had sex much lately. Then, the other night he said that he was worried ... A: i think there is something more going on in your hubbys head other than you "NOT TURNING HIM ON". I ... | |
| need advice | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We’ve been married for almost 5. This is the 2nd ... A: it seems that your hubby is trying to do too much at once,once he is released. You now need to take ... | |
| my husband had sex before marriage with his girl friend | 3/19/2007 |
| Q: I have got married for 2yrs,my husband told me about his girl friend after we got married.when we ... A: Jealousy is an instinctive emotion that arises most commonly in women who do not feel sufficiently ... | |
| husband | 3/14/2007 |
| Q: i want to move to willow springs MO where my in laws are but my husband don't want to he dont even ... A: this is almost a non starter,because he is set in his ways,and its seems he is being very selfish. ... | |
| My new husband is not attracted to me | 3/7/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 3 months. During the courtship he was romantic, sexual, charming and ... A: this sounds very familiar to a problem i have come across before;it could be that your husband is ... | |
| myluv | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: first do u know if say im 15 and my man is 23 can her mom sign for them to get married.can u tell me ... A: firstly, under British law your mum could not allow your relationship,as sex under 16 is illegal. ... | |
| worries about my marriage | 1/29/2007 |
| Q: I am 30 years old. I have been happily married to my husband, Damon for 8 years. We also have 2 ... A: sorry to hear about your pending operation;but there is no reason why your sex life can't remand the ... | |
| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/29/2007 |
| Q: I have been trying to talk things out with my hubby, we've been talking about this for the past 4 ... A: it seems that you have been badly treated in the past and its causing problems now. I don't know if ... | |
| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/29/2007 |
| Q: Graham, You made some points that mde sense to me but you aimed towards that the main problem is ... A: ok i see it a bit clearer now;you never mentioned that your hubby doesn't see his child,so this ... | |
| I can't forget about his past relationships! | 1/26/2007 |
| Q: I have known my husband for 13 years, I loved him since the first time I layed eyes on him. Of ... A: I am so sorry you feel i wasn't helpful, i do try and i in main have helped many people. But i am ... | |
| help!!! | 1/25/2007 |
| Q: My husband has been caught many times online and such watching or viewing porn. i have told him how ... A: Graham Hi S, what your hubby is doing is exactly what millions of guys do the world over;porn on ... | |
| Help with marriage | 1/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband (28 years old) and I (27 years old) have been married for 3 1/2 yrs. We have lived ... A: It seems that he has forgotten the basic rule of being married,which is love and feeling for the ... | |
| feel taken advantage of | 1/16/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have had a long hard marriage. We recently moved to another town. On his job he ... A: just glad i could help you. Graham hi there, well, not to put a too finer point on it, yes you are ... | |
| some one else | 1/14/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i was having problems in our marriage when we first got married so i needed some one ... A: i hope what i say doesn't seem "off" or harsh, but from your letter it does seem that something did ... | |
| Husband cant deal with our toddler | 1/11/2007 |
| Q: Me and my husband have been married for 4 years, we have a wonderful 20 month old daughter. After a ... A: its hard for you to understand i know ,but most men will never admit to anyone outside that he hates ... | |
| Am I a bad wife? | 1/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband wanted to visit his mom and his old pals who live out of state for the holidays. I was ... A: no you are not a bad wife, and it is a little selfish of your hubby to act this way. He should ... | |
| hurt and dont know what to do? | 1/8/2007 |
| Q: i lied to my husband recently about the number of people i slept with in my past and now he doesnt ... A: telling the truth is not always wise is it. Now he is being all "hurt and wounded",well how many ... | |
| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: It has been a month and a half now and she is still out of the house in her apartment. To be honest ... A: i am sorry to this,but i guess you have hope and hope can work.i do hope she can find what she is ... | |
| is my marriage worth saving | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: my husband has cheated on me with my mother this happened about 3-4 yrs ago... he also has had ... A: firstly, let me say how sorry iam to hear about what he did,this is the ultimate betrayal. AS ... | |
| Husband wants Sex but shows no sympathy or affection | 1/4/2007 |
| Q: I'm not sure where to start. I had a quick marriage. I met my husband in 2001 & married in 02, had ... A: i thank you for the lovely comments and marks, graham hi Nancy, its never too late to try ... | |
| Too Many Questions? | 1/3/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I recently had an argument. We are happily married, but occasionally run into ... A: Well it seems like he is trying to out will you on matters of power;this isn't as bad as it sounds. ... | |
| Lack of affection/attraction | 12/31/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for over 23 years. This past March my husband told me that he can't do this ... A: i am sorry you feel i wasn't helpful enough,i did my best on what you told me,i do feel sometimes ... | |
| What can i do? | 12/27/2006 |
| Q: Well my husband & me get married in ferbrary 2006 in France, i'm french & he is american.We know ... A: merci tellement sylvia, de vos commentaires gentils et de vos marques à moi… année heureuse de ... | |
| Wife says she isn't happy nor don't love me | 12/24/2006 |
| Q: I was wondering on what to do in my marriage, my wife and I have been together for 15 years and will ... A: sorry for late reply, what with Xmas and work i couldn't get to my mail. Any way, i feel that ... | |
| lies lies lies, in-laws | 12/23/2006 |
| Q: I am new at this, but have no were else to turn. Most of my family think that it is no big deal, but ... A: sometimes people do not think about their actions,and clearly your hubby and mother -in-law are ... | |
| Wife says she isn't happy nor don't love me | 12/22/2006 |
| Q: I was wondering on what to do in my marriage, my wife and I have been together for 15 years and will ... A: the world of the chat rooms, etc!! can and has caused heartache here so try and work on your love ... | |
| When to give up | 12/19/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for going on eight years now. Everything was great in the start, but as time ... A: i understand where you are coming from and anyone who reads this heart felt letter must also. ... | |
| Stay or Go? | 12/18/2006 |
| Q: My husband told me he doesn't love me a year ago. It was very hurtful to me, but I dismissed it ... A: it seems that he has issues that need to be sorted before you can move on with your life. Now, i ... | |
| adulery in marrige. | 12/17/2006 |
| Q: i would like to know why do couple do have next relationship on their husband or wife. A: this is a question that all people ask,and there is no answer, because people are strange beings. ... | |
| Wonderful marriage...why do I feel guilty? | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: ..I agree with everything you said but does doing regular things I would do with my "girl" friends ... A: yes i do think its a "date", what else would you call it Jamie? I know you think its OK to hang ... | |
| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: Yea, but that doesn't answer my follow up question.Hey, That’s one solution but I think it's ... A: no i don't find this a common problem. i guess that people view relationships in a different way ... | |
| Wonderful marriage...why do I feel guilty? | 12/15/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I are the couple everyone 'hates' because we have the happiest marriage and are ... A: this is another letter i have had about this subject,So my question to you is this;would you let ... | |
| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/14/2006 |
| Q: Hey, That’s one solution but I think it's unfair. Why should I sever a year old friendship, not to ... A: i am sorry if i came across as "high and mighty" that wasn't my intention,but if thats how you saw ... | |
| Dealing with my friends jealous wife | 12/14/2006 |
| Q: My name is Diana, I’m 20 and I became good friends with Harold, a 37 year old married man. We've ... A: well what can i say,i mean it is her hubby that you are hanging out with, OK its not sexual,but she ... | |
| I am lost and confused? | 12/13/2006 |
| Q: I thought my life and family life was the best it has been. I have recently lost a tremendous amount ... A: I know this might sound silly,but it could be your hubby is suffering from some kind of stress,that, ... | |
| Having a controlling husband for 37 years | 12/12/2006 |
| Q: I have been married to a man 10 yrs older than I for 37 years.He is now 64,I am 54.His need for ... A: this is gonna be cruel now, sorry for swearing ,ditch the bastard now, i have known people like ... | |
| Just moved in the in-laws... | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: My husband moved his sister and brother-in-law in with us into our two bedroom one bath home ... A: firstly, i am agree with you in everything you have written,you should not feel this way in your own ... | |
| what am i to do | 12/11/2006 |
| Q: I tried getting him to go to a counseling session but at the rate of $280/session, when he refused ... A: i am sorry this is going so long for you,and hubby is still being uncooperative,now, you must seek ... | |
| A long time ago | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: Before my husband and I were engaged, I caught him writing e-mails to his x girlfriends. He wrote ... A: yes it was a while ago now, so i would really try and forgive, perhaps not forget. Now, if you allow ... | |
| what am i to do | 12/10/2006 |
| Q: I am at a loss in my relationship. My husband has moved to another state after pressuring me to do ... A: I have read and reread this letter and i feel that your main issue here is a dog,i appreciate that ... | |
| my husband is not at all interested in sex | 12/6/2006 |
| Q: I am 29 & my husband is 34. We are married for two yrs. & 2 months. For the past two yrs. my husband ... A: well its not normal,he should be wanting to make love all the time,most men do. This said,many men ... | |
| marriage questions | 12/5/2006 |
| Q: why do my husband never told me about his past relationship although i told him about mine? also he ... A: this is almost impossible to answer,his reasons not to ask are his alone,he can only tell you if he ... | |
| Am I crazy, ..or is something not right? | 12/5/2006 |
| Q: I feel like something is going on but I don't know what. When I confront my husband, he says that I ... A: well all that you say here can get you "paranoid",but its not you that is,its the situation you find ... | |
| my husbands doesn't love me anymore | 12/4/2006 |
| Q: Yesterday my husband told me he doesn't love me anymore. Out of the blue. We haven't been close in ... A: now, i see a very confused guy, from what you say in this letter. His views on life seem to come ... | |
| im so unhappy | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: I'V BEEN TOGETHER WITH MY HUSBAND FOR ABOUT THREE YEARS AND I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD NOT BE HAVEING ... A: it seems that your hubby has gone back to "being single" again, this is common in guys that have a ... | |
| My husband doesn't trust me. | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: I realize that I made a terrible mistake, I wrote 3 checks from his checking account and he found ... A: Elaine, the age gap here is vast, and i believe your hubby is treating like his daughter,but ... | |
| Marriage Boundaries | 12/3/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 27 years. My husband has a habit of developing what I view to be overly ... A: well i have to agree with you,his actions beggar believe,in so much that he really believes that ... | |
| help | 12/2/2006 |
| Q: and they were here talking about the past and what they use to do and date i know that the subject ... A: This is very unfair of your hubby to say this,he is either with you or not;and must be told this in ... | |
| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
| Q: yes I know there is love there, she broke down today a little bit when we were moving her into her ... A: just writing to see how things are with you and your wife,do write back if you can. best of luck for ... | |
| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
| Q: Yes she is taking the boys with her,,we will have them share time between the two of us. I don't ... A: normally, i say you have to move forward with your life, but i feel something here, and i wish i ... | |
| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 12/1/2006 |
| Q: She just tells me that she has to go out there and be on her own to work this out. She is not sure ... A: sorry to hear that she is still going,i have to say her actions are not that of a mum,and is she ... | |
| she says she doesn't love me anymore | 11/29/2006 |
| Q: Recently my wife came home and said I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore. she has decided ... A: this is the worse news i know, but you now must ask her to explain herself to you;its the very least ... | |
| Past History bites back.. | 11/28/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have dated for 4 years prior to getting married, one year ago this Saturday Dec. ... A: he seems to be having double standards here, what you did or didn't do in the past should stay ... | |
| How much is too much? | 11/27/2006 |
| Q: I recently had an affair. My husband asked for some advise and was told we should openly discuss ... A: well, he is asking for closure thats all,without it he can't move on. You can of course lie to him ... | |
| Don't Know What To Think | 11/26/2006 |
| Q: I and my husband have been married for almost 35 yrs. Whenever my husband becomes anger with me or ... A: many words are spoken out of anger,but it always hurts,now as you have been married for many years ... | |
| What to do? | 11/22/2006 |
| Q: six months ago I found out my husband cheated on me. He is in the military and he had just came back ... A: i do know what you are going though,i have been there.Now, this might help you, i am ex-military ... | |
| HELP | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2years. We have no children. Recently I got drunk and ... A: So, OK you said somethings,but i think there is more going on here than just him being unable to ... | |
| change in relationship with sick husband | 11/20/2006 |
| Q: Since this year has began, my husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer and had it removed. He ... A: well you are very honest to say you have sexual thoughts involving other men. I guess if things ... | |
| hopeless | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: my husband says mean things like the only reason im still with him is because i know that i am 2 fat ... A: this is bullying of the worst kind,and you should not put up with it. How do you know if ... | |
| Marital expectations | 11/16/2006 |
| Q: I am 60 and my husbnd of two yrs. is 63. Both of us have been married before and have children from ... A: I rarely see such a letter, and this is so silly of him, i can't imagine my wife allowing this to ... | |
| Husband going out after work | 11/15/2006 |
| Q: this is the situation: My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We have a daughter (12). We ... A: it does seem odd that he parties so much when away at work,I would have thought he would do his ... | |
| spouse | 11/11/2006 |
| Q: caught wife of 24yr on video with her co-worker from vons. ok so i ask her when it started she said ... A: Mark, what can i say,your wife has cheated so much and you want answers,she is not going to tell ... | |
| marriage problems | 11/6/2006 |
| Q: My husband and i have been married since June,and him unhappy cause we dont got our own place and we ... A: Julee, i feel that you are trapped because you are financially depending almost alone,and with ... | |
| his cheating heart | 11/5/2006 |
| Q: graham you told me to let him know how i feel.. the last time i found her e mailing him and his e ... A: Amber, i have no answer for you really,its now down to you and him to sort it out. You what he is ... | |
| Help! | 11/4/2006 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months and now we are having a baby. every weekend we fight and ... A: well he is being over sensitive about everything thats for sure. That said, him saying if you break ... | |
| Cannot trust him | 11/3/2006 |
| Q: My husband has a son from his first marriage, he is 20 yr old high school drop-out. He cannot hold ... A: this is really a bad situation,because the son really needs to take control of his life.As long as ... | |
| Troubled | 11/1/2006 |
| Q: I am married for 2yrs, Ihave a kid. I am trying to please my husband with everything .But he always ... A: his behaviour,is somewhat strange indeed, i would look at what problems he may have that can cause ... | |
| No sex | 10/27/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I went through a period of separation. We are now back together, but not physically. ... A: sorry to hear about but all is not lost. The first response of most women in your situation is to ... | |
| Is this worth it | 10/25/2006 |
| Q: My husaband and I Have been married for 3 years. We dated for 6 years before we were married but ... A: well your question is a real hard to fathom,because i think you already know what to do,he seems so ... | |
| Old girlfriend | 10/25/2006 |
| Q: I asked my husband out of curiosity if he still loved his old girlfriend. He replied "yes, I'll ... A: well i guess he is being truthful to himself,but not really being very tactful. I would try and let ... | |
| Reconciliation | 10/23/2006 |
| Q: Two years ago, I married a man that I thought would be my life mate. Shortly after we were married ... A: i rarely say this or advise this, but what i read here is just bullying, plain and simple and i ... | |
| i need help | 10/21/2006 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married 6 years we have 3 kids he works all day and i stay home. we are ... A: i know this is hard for you, but the very fact you say you can't stand being around you is the ... | |
| How do I save my 10 yrs of marriage? | 10/16/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 yrs. I love my husband and my family and I dont want a divorce. I ... A: the issues you have here are many fold, you cheated,he cheated, you cheated,then him again and ... | |
| My husband likes towatch me have sex with other men | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: I have been maRRIED FOR 16 YEARS , i HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN AND FOR THE MOST PART i AM HAPPY ... A: Ok ,firstly my answer will probably sound rude and angry and to be truthful it is. your lifestyle is ... | |
| Flirting | 10/11/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have problems communicating, we have tried to go to marriage couseling.. just didnt ... A: sorry for the late reply, had PC problems. the fact that marriages do "stall" at some point is a ... | |
| early marriage | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: My name is Ryan Groenewald. I am 21 yrs old& have been living in the u.k for nearly 3 yrs. I am ... A: sorry for the late reply, had PC problems. So the question you ask is really up to you and the ... | |
| am I a negative contribution to my wife? | 10/8/2006 |
| Q: I've been married for 2 years and I've known my wife for five. Over those five years she has seen me ... A: This clearly a little out of my league,but i will do my best to answer.Now, you have been medical ... | |
| Relationship that includes a child. | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: What do you do when the person you are in a relationhip with has a child and that child behavior is ... A: I have no idea on what you are going though, as i have never dealt with this situation, but i found ... | |
| what should i do | 10/6/2006 |
| Q: it was all good in the beginning then overtime he has gotton lazy we go nowhere but to work the ... A: I am sorry things have got to this stage,but it seems he has lost any self respect and it will need ... | |
| Me and my wife are away from each other | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: I am from Kuwait. I go married 4 months ago and was living with my wife in Kuwait. Now my mother is ... A: don't worry, you are only just married, so you are bound to feel like this. So just think when she ... | |
| Overbearing sports dad/husband | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: I need help. My husband is a great guy on most days, however we have a problem. Our son is in peewee ... A: it seems that your hubby has "Sports rage" of a sort, yes its sort of common in dads who didn't make ... | |
| "Clingyness" | 9/24/2006 |
| Q: All is wonderful in other regards, but I was shocked when my husband recently told me that I was the ... A: well you just keep on doing what you are doing ok. His issue is not with you at all, its clear he ... | |
| Going out often | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: We just recently got engaged. The problem I am having is that he thinks that I shouldnt have a ... A: well all i can say here is that he is being very selfish indeed. It seems his priorities are well ... | |
| marrige | 9/21/2006 |
| Q: what is affection A: wow what a question,ok here goes. Affection is usually identified with emotion, but ... | |
| in control husband | 9/18/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years together for 5. we are a blended family which goes ... A: It seems that he is doing to you what his ex did to him;a kind of role reversal. If this the case, ... | |
| I do not know if my husband loves me. | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: Everytime, me and my husband husband is having a discussion about anything before the discussion is ... A: so what you must be going though must be awful. try this site hon iyt should help you no end! good ... | |
| Relationship before marriage (In-Laws) | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: I'm glad I came up on this site, i need a few answers and just want them to be real. I have a fiance ... A: starting a life together is hard work and you both will need help getting though the minefield of ... | |
| To Divorce or Not to Divorce! | 9/16/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 5 years and married 2.5 years. He is 36 and I'm 28. I ... A: now the question you asked can't really be answered as easy as that. your hubby is really not ... | |
| controling wife | 9/15/2006 |
| Q: Here is an example of how I have, and AM being conditioned to show emotions... This morning I woke ... A: its sounds worse than control Mark,i think there is something else going on in head right now. I ... | |
| Marriage vs. Divorce | 9/12/2006 |
| Q: I have been married 19 years, with 3 children. The marriage is not good. She is Mexican and ... A: this is a hard one,now as you know i can't tell what to do either way,that is not what this site ... | |
| unsupportive wife | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: There are times when I feel down out life or work and I come home to share the load with my wife as ... A: it seems from what you tell me here,that your wife really believes that you don't need to feel ... | |
| marriage | 9/4/2006 |
| Q: I've been married for almost 17 years. I got promoted to management 5 years ago and my husband ... A: Kim, he does not have any disorder, he is just very scared kim,very scared indeed. He needs to be ... | |
| Husband masturbates won't have sex | 8/27/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 4 years and have 2 children. We have had sex twice since being ... A: i know you are feeling down ,and although this behavior is normal. Men masturbate. In a ... | |
| am i too young for him | 8/14/2006 |
| Q: Mr. Graham thank you for your answer, thank you. i understand if you think i little bit kidding, but ... A: i must say thank you for your feedback,although i am never rude or discourteous;but i am truthful ... | |
| am i too young for him | 8/12/2006 |
| Q: i am now 22 years old. i have 3 boy friends. 1. he is 45 years old, he was a general manager of 5 ... A: i don't know if you are being serious in writing this ,so i will take it as you are! Now what are ... | |
| wife says im too clingy | 8/10/2006 |
| Q: wife says that i am clinging to her, i am insecure or anything like that. but i enjoy her company ... A: you have told me this, but have you told your wife how exactly you feel? Being in love with her is ... | |
| money | 8/3/2006 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 2 years. Since then my husband and I had a baby girl. I have a son ... A: Susi, hi there, I do find it funny that he will not open a joint account, as you are joined,but ... | |
| husband works long hours, making me mad | 7/30/2006 |
| Q: my husband works 7 days a week, he works from 12pm to 11pm....he comes home everyday between 1130 to ... A: What you have told me is the slippy road to major problems, so you must now seek professional advice ... | |
| conflict due to extra marital relationship of husband | 7/28/2006 |
| Q: FOLLOW UP TO ... Thanks a great deal for your quick response and suggestion. I would like to add ... A: I see your problem;your friend is a lucky lady to have a friend like you,but its looking like you ... | |
| Marriage issues | 7/26/2006 |
| Q: My Husband and I have been married for 4 years going on five. He is about 25 years older than me ... A: sorry for the delay,(pc probs) with marriages with wide age difference,sometimes it will appear ... | |
| My wife is not over an old boyfriend | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: I have been married to my wife for 5 years, and together for 8. Our whole marriage has consisted of ... A: This is a situation that must hurt deep,but i feel as your wife has been open with you,you must take ... | |
| sex | 7/21/2006 |
| Q: when asking her, she tells me that the problem is that i expect it. i dont tell her that she has so ... A: well, she has almost solved the question for you;her sex drive very low,and as for hypnosis, i think ... | |
| Question on Age difference. | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: Is there any sort of an issue in marraige when the woman is elder than the man. Suppose she is ... A: the age difference is looked at from any points of view,and different cultures too. this site ... | |
| marriage problems | 7/19/2006 |
| Q: well i have been married to my husband for nearly 3 years. for about the past 6 months we havent ... A: now, the whole point of marriage is up are living together. everyone rows , and everyone gets ... | |
| sex | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: is it wrong to expect my wife to have sex with me? A: well, no, but there has to be a reason why she is not willing to have sex with you. If a women ... | |
| I get jealous when he masturbates. | 7/10/2006 |
| Q: Smith, I am 25 and about to be married to a wonderful guy. Recently, we have started bickering, ... A: You are young and yes its somewhat hard for you to accept that your boyfriend masturbates when you ... | |
| Clueless about this change | 7/6/2006 |
| Q: I have been looking for a forum to ask this question for a long time and finally I have found this ... A: you said it was an arranged marriage;if this the case i have little help to give in this, as the ... | |
| My husband doesn't feel loved by anyone and wants to leave. | 7/5/2006 |
| Q: I thought everything was going fine and about a week ago, my hole life just crashed. My husband ... A: Tamara, sorry to hear this. From what you have said it seems that there is something else ... | |
| Physical intimacy | 7/4/2006 |
| Q: I am a 24 yr old female and have been married now for 2 years to my 31 yr old husband. We also ... A: sorry to hear about your problem,but it isn't a problem that can't be fixed. Now the fact your hubby ... | |
| Fell out of love | 7/3/2006 |
| Q: I have been amarried to my wife for 13 years. We have 4 children together and she has 2 from a ... A: Now ,firstly you really need to talk to your wife with a marriage councillor, this is very ... | |
| husband relationship w/daughters mom | 6/12/2006 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married 13 years and he has just began a relationship w/a daughter he had ... A: I am sorry to hear you feel this;the only way you can feel any better could be to involve yourself ... | |
| Trial separation-a good idea? | 6/11/2006 |
| Q: I have written a few times about the problems my husband and I have been having. It is not just ... A: I can see you are going though hell at this time,and i feel that you do need some space;but in what ... | |
| Should I stay or go | 6/8/2006 |
| Q: My husband went to therapy this week and the two concluded that most of his ... A: This now moves into the emotions of love and hate,Cara,there is not much more i can say,as you know ... | |
| No Sex | 6/7/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a couple months before I had my daughter our ... A: now, when a person has a sexual problem,it is nearly always covered up;and reasons vary. now, when ... | |
| Should I stay or go | 6/4/2006 |
| Q: "I recently wrote to you about my current situation but I have an update. Since Oct my husband and I ... A: when i read this i thought woah!!! he is giving Cara, so much B S .now,the reason i think this is ... | |
| Husband is Depressed and won't seek help | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: My husband was injured at the workplace a few years ago and has been on temporary disability ever ... A: Jil, It can be hard to get a depressed person to seek help because they just don't quite understand ... | |
| Marriage doubts | 5/29/2006 |
| Q: "My husband and I have gone through some major issues since October. My mother died suddenly in ... A: do you remember when you married him that said " for better or worse", well it seems you have gone ... | |
| He says he's numb to everything and might not love me anymore. | 5/28/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two years. A little over a year ago my husbands dad died of ... A: he clearly is in trouble with his feelings,and needs help big time,i have seen this many times. ... | |
| newlywed problems,help!!!!!!!! | 5/24/2006 |
| Q: I recently got married about 2 months AGO. My husband is 20 and I am 22. I dropped my classes We ... A: This not the behavior of a married man,he should not be taking female friends to the movies;imagine ... | |
| What's your opinion? | 5/22/2006 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for 5 years, we have 4 chidren. Our ... A: well, i must say he is very laid back in his attitude towards everything. I do think, however that ... | |
| made a mistake | 5/22/2006 |
| Q: i said something wrong and in front of our friend that made him mad.i embarased him, but not ... A: everyone makes mistakes,and i wonder how much your hubby has taken onboard. If he was so hurt he ... | |
| growing apart | 5/22/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for 5 yrs. and married for 2 yrs. it seems as if we keep growing ... A: it does seem that things need helping along here, so tell her how you feel,and make sure you make an ... | |
| Calling when you go out | 5/16/2006 |
| Q: My wife and I are in a 95% happy marriage, and I'm being conservative. It might be closer to 99%. ... A: Stan, its clear to me that something is not right, i am old fashioned i guess, but my wife would not ... | |
| Commitment Phobia | 5/14/2006 |
| Q: Ever since i was young, i have been suffering from this fear of commitment to the opposite sex. ... A: Commitment phoebes start each new relationship with high, and usually unrealistic expectations. But ... | |
| total acceptance or end it? | 5/9/2006 |
| Q: In 6 weeks I am marrying a man I have dated for 10 years. Even though we have broken up off and on, ... A: if your unsure now about getting married i would put it off until you feel better towards the ... | |
| marriage | 5/9/2006 |
| Q: I have recently caught my wife cheating. It was someone she meet at a bar. I actual meet him the ... A: In the beginning your attention was all hers. You smiled every time she walked into a room. You ... | |
| mother-in-law madness | 4/22/2006 |
| Q: do i have the right or authority to have trouble making mother-in-law move out of our home,in hopes ... A: the simple answer is yes,its your home and your husband will have to be a "man" to ask or tell her ... | |
| argument | 4/4/2006 |
| Q: I recently had an argument regarding money with my husband. After consideration, my husband decided ... A: money causes more rows, than anything in the household;you say he did agree to go for a larger house ... | |
| understanding of sex | 3/8/2006 |
| Q: i m mohan.i have got married on 24-10-2005.i m getting nervous when i try to get sex with my wife.to ... A: well there isn't any real way to make love,because you just do what comes natual,and whatever ... | |
| Relationship Dilemma | 3/7/2006 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite sometime and we are moving into our own apartment in ... A: sorry late reply. Your letter is very detailed in so much as your feelings towards your b/f, and ... | |
| Marriage | 3/2/2006 |
| Q: How much does physical appearance of the wife matter to the husband? A: 1..if it did matter they would not have married in the first place. 2.. marrying someone is ... | |
| Marital Problem | 2/28/2006 |
| Q: My name is Harriet and i have been married to Godwyn for a month and 2 weeks now.We both come from ... A: i am sorry to hear about your problem,but as your culture is so different i feel really limited in ... | |
| marriage | 2/24/2006 |
| Q: My husband is always busy for his work. He works a lot at home too. His mind is so concentrate on ... A: this stuck me right away as your husband might be suffering from some kind of stress problem. Could ... | |
| wife does not like 2 have sex | 2/14/2006 |
| Q: m 30 yrs old man and married 2 a 25 yrs old girl since last 6 yrs. we have a 2.5 yrs old kid.till ... A: This a story which is very common,and will need an expert to help your wife enjoy sex again.You and ... | |
| Can mother boycott wedding? | 1/28/2006 |
| Q: Our son is engaged to be married Sept. 30, 2006. At that time he will be 21, she will be 23. They ... A: I do understand how you feel,but you really need to support your son completely now. Your advice ... | |
| NOT HAPPY!! | 1/25/2006 |
| Q: Help!! I am so unhappy. I've been married almost 21 years and have three children (14,12 and 7). ... A: Hell Lisa, I am sorry to hear about your husband selfish ways, beacuse that what he is at the ... | |
| my boundaries or being selfish? | 1/22/2006 |
| Q: My boyfreind and I have lived together 5 yrs and sex use to be great, mabye a little more frequent ... A: Joan, when people get to together,they always see the best in each other, because that is how our ... | |
| Soul Mate | 1/18/2006 |
| Q: Thanks for your mail. What i mean is that for each individual, is there a particular person ... A: i thought i pretty much got it pinned for you. Anyway,here we go; in life we find others and have to ... | |
| Soul Mate | 1/17/2006 |
| Q: What i mean is that for each individual, is there a particular person somewhere who is the perfect ... A: well its said that somewhere there is someone waiting for someone,that means i would yes..people can ... | |
| Help | 1/6/2006 |
| Q: I am writing to you because I need help. I guess you could say the problem begins with me. I am a ... A: well, your whole problem here relates to your own self belief ,but if you work on the area of your ... | |
| I have been married for 15years... | 11/30/2005 |
| Q: I have been married for 15years and have a 2yr old son and am currently 7 months pregnant with my ... A: I am sorry that you have found yourself in this position. Secrets,will always come out and feelings ... | |
| marriage | 11/19/2005 |
| Q: "Hello i am 26 years old and i have social anxiety disorder i only have this problem when i am ... A: Well, yes i do think that your experiences of your earlier life have affected you,but in ones life ... | |
| Long Distance Marriage | 9/28/2005 |
| Q: My husband is in GA and I live in FLA. My husband goes out over his sister's house and friends and ... A: in short he shouldn't be staying so late,because the mere fact that you are apart puts more stain on ... | |
| Still talkes to his ex girlfriend at least once a week.... | 9/26/2005 |
| Q: My husband just recentley told me that his ex girlfriend calls him usually once a week because she ... A: Yes insensitive men sometimes fail to to see what their actions caused as for your feelings, you ... | |
| Pregnant and alone, w/unsupportive husband | 9/15/2005 |
| Q: I really need a man's perspective. For starters, I am 40 years old and my husband is 43, i.e., ... A: i am really sad to hear that he is being this way,i know its hard for you;i hope i what i say now ... | |
| Marriage | 9/8/2005 |
| Q: I met my girlfriend about 2 months ago and we hit it off immediately. It has been a wonderful ... A: well ,love hasn't really any time lines attached to it,so time of knowing each other isn't really ... | |
| Husband and his mother | 8/18/2005 |
| Q: This question involves my husband, but it also involves his mother. Actually I have a few topics to ... A: I am sorry to hear about your "mother-in-law". I have had this myself,except it was my own mother,so ... | |
| has my husband got a drinking problem? | 7/31/2005 |
| Q: My husband and l have been happily married for 13 years,we have never been big drinkers,but for ... A: no your not a prude, you are a concerned wife,and if i may say so,with good reason,because your ... | |
| Marriage | 7/25/2005 |
| Q: I have a 3 yr old relationship and a 2 yr old son from the relationship. I really like her and we ... A: the way people look at life and what they want and need vary very much,so that one person's needs ... | |
| Family Problems | 6/30/2005 |
| Q: I don't know if I'm in the right category but I'm hoping you may be able to help me. I'm sorry if ... A: i know exactly what you are going though,my wife and i had the same problem,and guess what my dad ... | |
| conflicts related to my career | 6/20/2005 |
| Q: i,m 26 its been 4 years to our marriage we ve a kid too. we r financially stable. my husband keeps ... A: well its seems that your hubby wants you to be in his mood of thinking,but its a persons choice to ... | |
| Fathers and daughters | 6/15/2005 |
| Q: Dont know if this fits in your catergory, but as you are a Dad yourself you may be able to give me ... A: lol anyway you now know its just a phase your hubby is going though,be strong and hold your family ... | |
| Fathers and daughters | 6/13/2005 |
| Q: Dont know if this fits in your catergory, but as you are a Dad yourself you may be able to give me ... A: you have answered your own question really,yes he is being a man,his daughter will have another guy ... | |
| confused | 5/13/2005 |
| Q: i am a 25 yrs old, seperated female with no kids. here is my story, sorry it might be a bit long but ... A: wow what a mess you are in,but you can get out of it,by looking deeply at what you want for ... | |
| Intimacy within Marriage | 4/25/2005 |
| Q: My husband refuses to have sex with me he says because he is tired of the emotional ups and downs of ... A: I am sorry to hear about your hubby and your situation.Many situations like this are all too ... | |
| sex-intimacy gone | 4/22/2005 |
| Q: I have been married almost 6 years to a wonderful man and we have 2 children together. But for the ... A: in your letter you say that you both would rather sleep,now,as you and your husband grow together so ... | |
| marriage and finances | 4/14/2005 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost 10 years, anniversary is in september, we have one 13 year ... A: i see your problem,its very common in marraiges these days,but something i don't agree with,my wife ... | |
| Inlaw advice | 3/20/2005 |
| Q: I could use some advice. How important is it to like your girlfriend's family? I've been going out ... A: well you have a problem that needs so much help;think about your girlfriend before you commit to ... | |
| confused | 2/27/2005 |
| Q: but now he is 30 years old and he still watches them..im afraid this has become an obsession even ... A: first,no he doesn't need help;most men will look at "porn",even married guys.Its not a problem ... | |
| marriage | 2/9/2005 |
| Q: My wife left me on Dec 28, 2004 and she took our 3 year old daughter and our 1.5 year old son. First ... A: I am so sorry to hear of your situation;the first thing really is to get talking,(20 minutes isn't ... | |
| love | 1/31/2005 |
| Q: How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again? Four days ago he sat down and cried and told ... A: this is very difficult for you i can see.You clearly love your husband,and i will try and help all I ... | |
| Marriage Compromise | 12/28/2004 |
| Q: I have a question about compromise in my marriage. My Taiwanese wife of six years is very ... A: this isn't a problem really there so many solutions to the driving to and from these functions, ... | |
| Help! Going downhill! | 12/21/2004 |
| Q: We've been married for 8 years. When I think back to the first years, it was love, sex, fun, and ... A: Well, first let me say,that this is a common problem,with husbands,wives,etc!but so very simple to ... | |
| money from a relative | 11/14/2004 |
| Q: I have been married 2 years, with twins on the way. I have just learned something about my wife, ... A: When your wife did accept the money did she hide it from you or keeping for herself?if not she may ... | |
| What to do if your partner doesn't want sex... | 10/20/2004 |
| Q: I'm a 31 year old woman who has been married for 1 and a half years. My first marriage. I've known ... A: I am sorry for the long delay in replying,but this needs some thought;firstly you and your husband ... | |
| Am I married? | 10/12/2004 |
| Q: Lets see if you know how to answer this one. It is sort of tricky but thought I would ask anyway. I ... A: this must be a worry for you,but I strongly suggest you contact a specialist in this matter.I am ... | |
| I don't know what to do | 10/5/2004 |
| Q: Well, I took your advice and sat her down. I tried to explain to her what I was feeling and how ... A: my god lee, how hurtful can she be to you.I know you said the booze is to blame but,man,what a ego ... | |
| Sad most of the time | 8/22/2004 |
| Q: I should be working right now, but I just needed to let this out. my focus was horrible. I am ... A: this is an old problem i had some years ago,I did work it though;the last step you should ever ... | |
| its never enough | 7/18/2004 |
| Q: I just showed my wife a house that I have been remodeling. It seems that no matter how much energy ... A: this is a hard in so much that the area of perfection,and your wife's ideas.Firstly,i think she has ... | |
| Too fast ?!? | 7/10/2004 |
| Q: OK, here's the deal. I've been going out with this girl for like 7 months, and she will not shut up ... A: this is easy,you have to tell her because its clear that you aren't ready yet for marriage,your ... | |
| Marital Problems | 4/16/2004 |
| Q: . I could really use some advice when it comes to my marriage and this looked like a good place to ... A: gosh this a huge question to answer,but i will try and shed some light on it. Firstly,your hubby is ... | |
| Marriage problem | 3/24/2004 |
| Q: I am 22 years old and my husbsnd is 21 and we have know each other since we were 8 years of age. We ... A: this is so common in any marriage,when a couple first go out they are so wrapped up in each ... | |
| What should I do? | 3/12/2004 |
| Q: I am 23 years-old with two kids (5 & 7 year olds) and have been married for six years. I recently ... A: Its very sad that,we, the human race say things to others which we don't mean,that said your husband ... | |
| what to do, what to do ? | 3/9/2004 |
| Q: I have gotten 1 females response to this question and now I'm looking for a males. My wife and I ... A: I am sorry to hear of your problem;when a situation of this kind happens it is very difficult to ... | |
| What to ask future husband...?? | 3/8/2004 |
| Q: Do you know some of the things that I should ask my boyfriend before we are to be married... A: well the simple asnwer is if you have asked him or he has asked you to get married,there really ... | |
| changes | 3/1/2004 |
| Q: I am 37, male, married 10 years. I have noticed a change or trend in marriage which differs from ... A: its not a mystery if you think as to life and how things change,well so do people,but you must ... | |
| should I let him go? | 1/30/2004 |
| Q: My husband cheated on me with my (ex) best friend, in my house while was in the shower & I gave him ... A: I am so sorry to hear about your husband;his actions are so horrible,in so much as your own mind is ... | |
| Old girlfriend | 9/3/2003 |
| Q: I asked my husband of fifteen years which I wish I hadn't, if he still loved his old highschool ... A: I know this feeling, i too, have been there,but i am still married and thats 25 years now.So let say ... | |
Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship
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Graham Smith B.PHIL
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I can help with any question on marriage, based on my 32 years of marriage. I also have two children, and one granddaughter,and one step grandaughter.
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