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About Dr Tim Gladu
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I will be willing to answer general questions on marriage. I will give the advice from the aspect of what the Bible has to say and the advice will be based on the Word of God. I do not give medical advice.

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Experience in the area: I have 14 Years in Ministry. I have also been happily married for 21 years and have raised 3 Children Southern Baptist.

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Bachelor’s degree in Ministry, a Masters in Pastoral Counseling and a Doctorate in Theology.

   

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my wife11/15/2009
  Q: I have been with my wife for 3 years and she did cheat on me last year with a ex-boyfriend that she ...
  A: Joe, I am very proud of you for coming to the Lord. You are still young in the faith and have a ...
business agreement11/15/2009
  Q: So, my husband and I got married after finding out we were pregnant. I do not believe in abortion ...
  A: Jennifer, You sound like you are asking me to confirm what you already know. You want to leave ...
follow-up11/12/2009
  Q: You answered me last night about my ex giving conditions. I left him in part due to controlling and ...
  A: Heather, No matter how he words it these are all about control. I do realize that a spouse wants to ...
conditions11/12/2009
  Q: So, my ex told me he thought about possibly getting back together in the future. He is not sure but ...
  A: Heather, I am not to sure about conditions. If he loves you he should be willing to accept you and ...
What standard should I live by?11/11/2009
  Q: I am in a marriage that is completely loveless. It has become an arrangement that is very ...
  A: Gennie, I am not sure that this passage is speaking about divorce in the same way as we consider ...
Cheating11/11/2009
  Q: Ok i have been with my girl for seven years been married for almost about 1 year> in the last few ...
  A: Art, If you love her and you can forgive what she has done then you need to get to counseling. I ...
no love, no sex -- divorce?11/3/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years this 28/Oct. But we have no sex for the last 2 ...
  A: May, I would never want to mis lead you. From what you have told me it sounds like your husband ...
Marriage10/28/2009
  Q: I can't believe that I am doing this but I have been married for 15 years and we have had a lot of ...
  A: Deanna, I would like you to examine your life and see what you can do to make it better. You have ...
Need Help With My Marriage10/27/2009
  Q: I am a 40 year old mother of 3. I have been married for 13 years. My husband and I have three ...
  A: Lisa, The first thing I have to do is to let you know that you are not alone. I am sure that you ...
stressful marriage :best thing to do???10/20/2009
  Q: I am currently awaiting divorce would be finalized next month.But i still feel sometimes whether it ...
  A: Tinkle, After reading your story I can only; say one thing. Your husband should have revealed this ...
Is husband too involved in hobbies?10/16/2009
  Q: Dr. Tim, I would like to know what is a healthy, normal amount of time for someone in a marriage to ...
  A: Colleen, You did not say if you gave him a timeline for the change. If he is going to change then ...
what will I do.10/13/2009
  Q: I and my wife is married for four years. But will never have a child. My wife sister (my sister ...
  A: I'm not really sure what you are concerned about. Nothing was fully explained and I'm not really ...
Sex frequency in marriage9/30/2009
  Q: Married for 4 and have digressed from 6 -8 times a week to once during the week and maybe once on ...
  A: Michael, I think that the first step for her would be to seek medical advice. She might have ...
Drugs and Husband9/29/2009
  Q: Ok, Ive known my husband since 4th grade. We have been married since April of 09. We have a son on ...
  A: Ashley, What you are describing to me is addictive behavior. He seems to be willing to stop, but he ...
Disgusting interests9/23/2009
  Q: Let me preface this question by saying that I am not trying to be disgusting and I'm not joking. I ...
  A: MJ, What you are describing is bestiality and is strictly forbidden. God gave rules that we were not ...
Son's wedding9/22/2009
  Q: My son is getting married Nov the . His fiance asked me to help her plan a gazebo wedding in my ...
  A: Margie, Your son sounds like he is a guy that would bring home injured animals and try to save their ...
Is husband too involved in hobbies?9/22/2009
  Q: Dr. Tim, I would like to know what is a healthy, normal amount of time for someone in a marriage to ...
  A: Colleen, Not to make this simple but yes. I think that your husband is spending to much time on ...
Marriage/son issues9/18/2009
  Q: Married 25 years. 3 children 12,13,19. Problem with 19yr old - moved out as unwilling to follow ...
  A: I see where you are at and I was also in a similar place about the time my daughter started acting ...
confusion9/11/2009
  Q: we r married(2nd marriage for both of us, he 34 & me 30 yrs old) for 15 months, i am living in my ...
  A: Mala, I do not really understand about the passport issue and also about you being married but not ...
Strange Dreams about my husband8/24/2009
  Q: Dr. Tim, For the last three nights I have had dreams about my husband, the first one we were at some ...
  A: Ericka, I believe that the reason you are having the dreams is because it is on your mind. You are ...
Is oral sex biblically okay in marriage?8/22/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have a one year old. Before we had our child ...
  A: Melissa, Your asking about oral sex but I think there is something else going on here. You object ...
Step daughter problems8/21/2009
  Q: My wife spoils her only daughter from a previous marriage, having her at 14yrs old in Mexico. My ...
  A: You sound like you have done the right thing. Your wife needs to realize that she is enabling her ...
my husband wants to be single8/20/2009
  Q: My husband says that he wants to be single. He says that their is nobody else that he is interested ...
  A: Toni, I am not sure that you can make someone do something they really do not want to do. If he has ...
marriage8/19/2009
  Q: I have been very sad with my self and start crying when my husband is always saying bad things about ...
  A: Rehana, If you want to get some help then I would suggest trying to find a pastor that can do ...
Her sex drive is gone8/19/2009
  Q: I've been with my wife now for 22 yrs, we've been married 19 yrs God has blessed us both with 3 ...
  A: I suspect that this may be a medical issue. Women when they get older usually develop a higher sex ...
Please Help8/18/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 children (ages 4 and 8) from a ...
  A: Jen, I would not suggest that you divorce. I am very committed to couples working out their issues ...
Please Help8/18/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 children (ages 4 and 8) from a ...
  A: Jen, I have to say this is a very unique situation which I really had to think about. You got ...
is martial bliss obtainable??8/13/2009
  Q: I have been married for 7 years. My husband has two children, 12 and 11, from a previous marriage ...
  A: Lisa, The best thing to do here is to make sure your son is ok with the move. If things are going ...
I'm lost.8/12/2009
  Q: My husband and I are 1 week away from our fist anniversary. We have no biological children together ...
  A: Mandi, The first thing I see here is you are very busy. When you get busy and have little time for ...
is martial bliss obtainable??8/10/2009
  Q: I have been married for 7 years. My husband has two children, 12 and 11, from a previous marriage ...
  A: Lisa, I believe that bringing the kids back together slowly would be a good idea. The kids will ...
Should I stay or go8/10/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married 27 years, for about 20 years of our marriage my husband has gone ...
  A: Ida, This is hard to say, but you may be justified to leave. I would not recommend getting involved ...
Trying to balance needs of husband and parents8/10/2009
  Q: we have three young children and have lived away from my parents the entire time we have been ...
  A: Jennifer, This is very delicate and needs to be handled very carefully. Your parents just want to ...
End of the Road...what took me so long?8/5/2009
  Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ...
  A: I am so glad to hear that God was able to speak to you. This is a difficult time and God will give ...
End of the Road...what took me so long?8/5/2009
  Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ...
  A: Brenda, I can see that you think that I am saying that you should not get a divorce. I am just ...
Husband punishing me by not having sex8/5/2009
  Q: I'm 21 years old and have been married for 2 years. My husband told me flat out that he was ...
  A: The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 ...
End of the Road...what took me so long?8/4/2009
  Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ...
  A: Brenda, What I see here is that you wanted to fulfill your vows you made. When we take those they ...
I have trust issues7/31/2009
  Q: Dr. Tim, Hello I have a problem trusting my husband. We have a 17 month old daughter together. He ...
  A: Liz, I understand that with him being away why you might have the trust issues. When you discover ...
Leviticus and Tatoos7/30/2009
  Q: Before we were married, my wife had tattoos. She wanted more and even mentioned a mild addiction to ...
  A: Steve, You sound like you are concerned about your wife and the tattoo issue. The best thing to do ...
Leviticus and Tatoos7/30/2009
  Q: Before we were married, my wife had tattoos. She wanted more and even mentioned a mild addiction to ...
  A: Steve, You are correct in your interpretation of these verses. We do have Christian liberty and to ...
Faith and Divorce7/30/2009
  Q: My wife kicked me out of the house 3 months ago speaking of divorce. In that time I have repeatedly ...
  A: Steve, I have to agree that God doesn’t like divorce. He made the provision for divorce in very ...
Husband-Wife Relationship7/28/2009
  Q: I have been married for more 10 years, and have endured many years of silent treatment from my wife, ...
  A: If you believe that she may become very upset then you may enlist some help from someone she trusts. ...
gaining back trust in your marriage7/23/2009
  Q: My husband of 5.5 years and I are experiencing difficulty in our marriage. This past April, I ...
  A: Jen, I thought he may react this way. He feels that you think he is some kind of bad guy because he ...
gaining back trust in your marriage7/23/2009
  Q: My husband of 5.5 years and I are experiencing difficulty in our marriage. This past April, I ...
  A: Jen, From what you have said here it sounds like your husband is telling you the truth. He sounds ...
husband and trust issues7/22/2009
  Q: My husband is a professional and in his line of work he does work in various county court houses. He ...
  A: Sandra, I have to say that I believe that you may be adding a lot to this simple communication. I ...
my family dont want me around because i tried to kill myself7/16/2009
  Q: well let me give you a quick run over of what happen. Jun 30 of this year i tried to kill myself ...
  A: Bill, I have to say that from what you have told me you are on the right path. You are in ...
Help7/7/2009
  Q: My husband and I were divorced on paper 7 years ago, since then we've had doubts about that decision ...
  A: Angie, I can’t say for certain but I can give you an educated guess. It sounds like he has been ...
second marriage, adult children and ex bf7/6/2009
  Q: First of all, I posted a few days ago and I may have given a wrong email address. It is similar to ...
  A: Bryan, I am sure that you have read my last advice. I had suggested that if she did not change that ...
how to show love7/6/2009
  Q: I am the jealous type husband. Been married 4 years and i have come along way and relaxed with alot ...
  A: James, I am not sure that something you don’t like is reason to be jealous. Texting has become an ...
second marriage7/5/2009
  Q: Well, here goes. I am 51 and my wife is 42. My previous marriage lasted for 24 years and i have two ...
  A: Bryan, You sound like you have come to the end of your wits. Your wife sounds like she has taken you ...
husband's addiction7/1/2009
  Q: I caught my husband on the computer again looking at naked girls or women. Now we've been married ...
  A: Monika, I can understand that you would like to get your life back to normal. You have to look at ...
Question about our anger6/16/2009
  Q: I have had a great husband for the last 3 years. I just had my secand child and things have gone ...
  A: Laura, Well this sounds like the second child has set things off. I am not saying that it is the ...
trust issue & acusations6/9/2009
  Q: my wife constantly accuses me of being with other women and degrades me hates the idea of me going ...
  A: Syd, I have to say that the Bible does have answers, but it also needs to be useful. If she is ...
Jelousy6/8/2009
  Q: My husband and I are both Christians. We are both middle aged and have been married less than five ...
  A: Elma, I am sure that your psychiatrist has told you that to have feelings for your therapist is a ...
Romance6/4/2009
  Q: I know that my husband loves me very much. But I dont receive hugs or kisses from. I do get very ...
  A: Merlin, I am not really sure that you can make someone romantic. I believe that if you can openly ...
Marriage in Sepration6/2/2009
  Q: My wife and I have only been married 9 months and now we are separated. First let me lay some ...
  A: Steve, I understand that this is your first marriage, but you are 50 and should have a basic ...
I'm confused5/27/2009
  Q: Where to start. I have been with my husband for 14yrs, but married 4. He had a really bad alcohol ...
  A: Alicia, I cannot imagine a pastor that would not want to save a marriage. I would always tell a ...
husband and his friend and friend's wife.5/20/2009
  Q: I am having marital problems and one of the big issues in our marriage is my husband's obsession ...
  A: Leah, This is a new one for me so here goes. The level of interference from this couple in your ...
her and her ex5/20/2009
  Q: I recently saw an e-mail from my wife ex to her about the way they used to be. since then I've ...
  A: Rico, The only thing I can think about in this situation is they were married and it sounds like ...
what to do?5/20/2009
  Q: My husband lies and even about stupid things. We have been together off and on over 10 years...I met ...
  A: Sandy, I can understand where you are with this man of yours. I am sure that if you feel he has ...
Marital Woes5/19/2009
  Q: 2009-05-15 10:39:09 I am Tired of it! Having been married 10 years I thought I knew my dh.Instead ...
  A: Julie, I hear you saying that you are already done with him. I would be the first one to say that if ...
wives and bars5/14/2009
  Q: I am to be married in 1 month to the most beautiful woman. We have a child together but live apart. ...
  A: Mario, The first question I have for you is this. If you are getting married in a month have you ...
gift5/12/2009
  Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ...
  A: Alexis, I can see your point very clear. I think that you have a valid point to your husband. $100 ...
Can I trust my husband again?5/9/2009
  Q: Need a Christian Perspective: I have been married for almost 4 years. Our relationship used to be ...
  A: Patrice, I can see where you are and understand completely. He did not need to be all up in her ...
Deployed5/9/2009
  Q: I have a wife and a daughter and have been married for one year. But for the last 9 months I have ...
  A: Leo, I think that you should expect your wife not to be involved with an inappropriate relationship ...
i cant trust my husband5/8/2009
  Q: My husband & I met in college and have ben together for four yrs, we married a 1yr & a half ago and ...
  A: Ave, I had to read your question a few times. Something just struck me as odd. If your husband says ...
Household out of control.4/30/2009
  Q: I am feeling terribly confused about wether I am the problem or I am being unreasonable. I am in a ...
  A: Nathan, The number one issue here seems to be your 12 year old step son. He sounds like he is out ...
Everything is wrong4/23/2009
  Q: I was married once before to a drug addict. I was then a single parent with 3 children. I met and ...
  A: Carrie, I do not know your husband but he sounds like he is concerned. He is from my assessment not ...
Husband tells me I'm mental and need help4/14/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 25 years. All was great until he started working out of town ...
  A: Donna, If this behavior has been happening for a long time it may be hard to change. Your husband ...
Mother-in-law destroying marriage4/2/2009
  Q: My wife and I have been together for three years now and we've got a two year old daughter and I ...
  A: John, I am not sure what you can do to save the marriage. I have seen this many times before but it ...
my husband treats me like I'm dumb4/1/2009
  Q: why does my husband always talk to me like I'm dumb? I love him very much, but, when I'm sad and ...
  A: Julia, I would have to say in this case here that you may want to start looking for a place to ...
my husband treats me like I'm dumb4/1/2009
  Q: why does my husband always talk to me like I'm dumb? I love him very much, but, when I'm sad and ...
  A: Julia, This is a little hard because you didn't let me know what you have already tried so here ...
Crossing the Boundaries3/31/2009
  Q: My widowed mother lives with my wife and family. I travel for work leaving my wife to being the care ...
  A: Billy, That helps much more with a little more info and a clear question. You and your wife should ...
My Husband left me....3/25/2009
  Q: I'm replying to the first reply I had gotten. My husband didn't go to the club because the woman ...
  A: Bev, When a man shows signs of caring that can be just habit. I know that sometimes we all do ...
lost feelings3/25/2009
  Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ...
  A: Debbie, I am not sure that your feelings will leave you. I am sure that if you love him then you ...
lost feelings3/24/2009
  Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ...
  A: Debbie, I have to say as a pastor I would want to meet with someone having these issues. If I would ...
I am married but i want to leave and get out3/24/2009
  Q: How do go about this, I have married for 23yrs, now child is grown and left. all the hurt and is ...
  A: The first thing you need to do is to contact a lawyer. If you want any kind of protection then a ...
Pursuing a woman3/20/2009
  Q: How does a man pursue a woman. How does a man show he is in love with her and interested in her. ...
  A: Dana, I do not think normal guys would ask a girlfriend for 4000 dollars. If he is asking you for ...
Husbands ex girlfriends3/18/2009
  Q: My husband was dating this girl who was 8 months pregnant. They broke up when the child was 8 months ...
  A: Kim, You are right to feel the way you do here. He does need to not focus on this other women’s ...
lost feelings3/13/2009
  Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ...
  A: Debbie, If he is telling you that he does not love you like a wife. The first thing to ask is does ...
Money3/4/2009
  Q: We have been married for 20 years, 2 children. Our marriage was based upon the the love of Christ. ...
  A: Jeff, Consider this small comfort. When you have a right relationship with Christ then you gain ...
how do I get through to him?3/4/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and always have been able to talk and ...
  A: Dot, The first and most important thing to remember is that he is not saved. I would not say that ...
husband can't let go of ex3/3/2009
  Q: We have been married a little over two years. During this time he has repeatedly had difficulty ...
  A: Kare, The divided heart may be a psychological event because of the co-dependence. He needs to get ...
Money3/3/2009
  Q: We have been married for 20 years, 2 children. Our marriage was based upon the the love of Christ. ...
  A: Jeff, The idea that you are admitting to being a hypocrite is a start. If you know that you are ...
Marriage3/3/2009
  Q: I have been with my husband for 21 years we have not had sex in 2 years. We are 46 and 47. We have ...
  A: BJ, I had to look up you sons disorder and found it to be very interesting. I have been around ...
husband can't let go of ex3/2/2009
  Q: We have been married a little over two years. During this time he has repeatedly had difficulty ...
  A: Kare, He may just not be willing to let go because she made him feel like he could not do anything ...
my cousin Chad3/2/2009
  Q: My cousin Chad is married with 3 young children ages 3 to 14. His wife is having an extramarrital ...
  A: Lori, The first thing he can do is to have her removed from any accounts that she is joint on. He ...
whats in a denomination??2/26/2009
  Q: I am a baby in Christ. I attend an Apostolic/Holiness church and my pastor is always talking about ...
  A: Zach, I understand how you feel about this pastor. So many pastors that are old forget that the ...
cheating2/24/2009
  Q: My husband has cheated on me through out our 45 year marriage. He has always flirted with woman ...
  A: Ann, I have no question here that I can see. I do encourage you to just remember that you have been ...
Should I stay or go2/23/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married 27 years, for about 20 years of our marriage my husband has gone ...
  A: Ida, I am not sure that your husband is sure what he wants. he seems to have a personality that ...
husband -wife relationship2/19/2009
  Q: My husband has a ffriend (girl) from last 10 years before our marriage too, she used to call him up ...
  A: Rudi, I think that you can solve this if he will stop spending so much time with her. He should ...
Wife hates me 15 days after marriage and wants divorce2/18/2009
  Q: Now it has been 2 months after my marriage. Just two weeks after marriage wife went back to her home ...
  A: Alex, If she hates you and does not want to be with you there is not much you can do. If she is ...
marriage2/17/2009
  Q: What I'm supposed to do when my husband is very disrespectfully, calling me names, never reveals our ...
  A: Ramesh, I am not sure that what I will tell you will help. I base my advice on the Word of God and ...
Sex and Trust Issues2/11/2009
  Q: I have two issues. #1. My husband doesn't seem to want to have sex w/ me very often. It's pretty ...
  A: There are several men who are just shy and scared of sex. They are worried that they will not be ...
marital problems1/31/2009
  Q: been married for 4 years having met my husband 10 years ago while he was still married but was not ...
  A: Emily, I am sure that times will get better. When we find times getting tough we have to depend on ...
The Intimacy in my Marriage is Gone1/31/2009
  Q: My husband and I are both Bible believing Christians. We've been married about five years. I was 39 ...
  A: The best thing you can do at this point is have him get some medical help. He is at the age that he ...
marriage1/26/2009
  Q: "I'm a Christian but rather still "new" in the lord. Back in 2005 I met a man who was from another ...
  A: Sandra, I am happy to give you some perspective. You did the right thing with the divorce. I would ...
my marriage1/26/2009
  Q: I have been married for about 2 years now. My husband has 3 children from a previous marriage and ...
  A: Lynessa, You do not deserve to be treated this way. If he wants you to stay then he needs to learn ...
Husband hanging out with another woman1/25/2009
  Q: I was recently married this past June and have a 4 month old baby. My husband had asked me if it ...
  A: MIchelle, There would be a few questions I would ask you. Does he really enjoy mountain biking and ...
Separation1/22/2009
  Q: My wife and me separated this past Saturday its being very hard on me I miss her so much and I ...
  A: Juan, I would suggest at this point to give her some space. If you want a chance to get her back ...
relationship with husband1/17/2009
  Q: My husband swears he loves me but I cannot get him to spend any time with me at all. We live in a ...
  A: Jan, He sounds like he may just not know how to be close to you. He may think that he is just not ...
A selfish, self-centered husband1/17/2009
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We're both active in our church and Christians. ...
  A: Sheri, I am sure that he may be unintentional in his actions. Guys sometimes do not know how to sa ...
Is this how a marriage typically ends?1/16/2009
  Q: Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had ...
  A: Jenny, I have not seen to many guys that would do this. He sounds like he did not have enough guts ...
Debate over where to live!1/15/2009
  Q: My wife and I are newly married and expecting our first child. We live in the outer suburbs of a ...
  A: I would have to side with you. The city is really no place to live for a child. I know there a lot ...
Marriage or Divorce1/13/2009
  Q: I have been married for 5 years although living with him for 4 years. He is an immigrant and we ...
  A: This sounds like a marriage that is in no way based on love and partnership. If you can leave him ...
Ex-girlfriends and lovers1/7/2009
  Q: Do you think it is appropriate for a married man to continue to have a close relationship with an ex ...
  A: Rita, You are not out of line to expect him to end the long talks. If they need help from him and ...
i don't like my husband1/6/2009
  Q: my husband and i just had our 8th anniversary a couple weeks ago. i am really confused because i do ...
  A: to answer your final question. I have seen people get divorced for porn because if you commit it in ...
i don't like my husband1/5/2009
  Q: my husband and i just had our 8th anniversary a couple weeks ago. i am really confused because i do ...
  A: Elizabeth, This sounds like you need to speak to your pastor. This is just exactly what they are ...
relaionship and sleeping with dog1/4/2009
  Q: Gladu - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, it's all been fairly good although we have ...
  A: Barb, The only thing I can think of is to tell him the dog has to sleep somewhere else. I know that ...
Does this constitute psychological abuse?1/2/2009
  Q: I am writing to you because I am currently separated from my husband of 10 years, he left about 4 ...
  A: Charlene, The issues that you have sound like you are going in the right direction. If you both ...
hello1/1/2009
  Q: I'm beginning to stress badly!!! Me and my wife of 8 months are struggling...things are going down ...
  A: Shaine, you gave me a lot of info about you but little about your wife. If you think she may have a ...
is my husband dominant and a dictator?12/19/2008
  Q: tim "i am 28 1/2 old woman married for 4 1/2 yrs.I am an Indian citizen. i m not at all happy with ...
  A: Neha, I have to tell you that I do not understand your culture and can not answer to any of those ...
cleaning12/19/2008
  Q: My wife and I are both 40 and married 15 years with 3 kids. She is a stay at home mom and I work ...
  A: Scott, I can understand how you feel and why you would expect her to clean. She may have never been ...
How to make your husband a priority12/18/2008
  Q: 32 yrs. of marriage, an affair that lasted 1 year I had with a married man (2-1/2 yrs. ago), cut off ...
  A: Debbie, I would say that you just have to sit him down and ask him what he expects. Make him give ...
Adultery and Forgiveness12/15/2008
  Q: I have been married for 11 years. My story is like many others. I've had a normal, happy, ...
  A: Tony, I think you are right about the depression. She does need some major help and if she is not ...
Help! Not so happy right now12/13/2008
  Q: Sorry for the length of this, but I think I need to give a little background. I have been married ...
  A: Laurie, I am sure that he may have just been telling the truth. I can agree that sometimes you ...
spouse employed in corrections12/12/2008
  Q: How can I help my Christian husband cope with the life and atmosphere of working in a prison? He has ...
  A: Kim, He has to find a way to let go before he comes home. The best way to do that is to exercise or ...
My husband.12/10/2008
  Q: My husband always blame for everything.Yesterday was our anniversary and I was talking about y ...
  A: Shauntay, I am sure that you are aware that your husband is not treating you very well. He is a man ...
Husband wants a roommate12/4/2008
  Q: Married May 2008. I agreed to keep 50 yr-old male roommate in the house when we first got married, ...
  A: Elle, I am sure that you are not sure how to really speak to your husband. You have to let him know ...
Wife says has resentment/Doesnt think I will change11/18/2008
  Q: she with her mother and me working to pay bills and such from a far. We have been having trouble, I ...
  A: Mark, I understand exactly where you are. My wife lives about 2 and 1/2 hours away and comes home ...
My husband spends more time with friends than me and our children11/12/2008
  Q: How do I explain to my husband the importance of spending time with his wife and children versus his ...
  A: Missy, He sounds like he is having some trouble accepting his life with you and the kids. he wants ...
grief and my husband11/10/2008
  Q: Three months ago we lost our 48 year old son to primary liver cancer. I am unable to hide my grief ...
  A: Gail, You have been through something that will take some time to deal with. I would not want you ...
my wife11/4/2008
  Q: i have been married for 5 years and i have been with my wife for 8. for the first 6 years we never ...
  A: Bruce, I do understand where you are and how you are feeling. I felt the same way you do about my ...
She is so close to her ex and I don't understand why11/2/2008
  Q: I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I ...
  A: Alex, She needs to end the relationship with this guy. If you are going to be able to have a chance ...
Husband says he doesn't love me10/31/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been together for three years. We have a two year old daughter, and he ...
  A: Nancy, I am really unclear what you are really asking. He sounds like he has maybe been talking to ...
Ex-wife issues, are they my issues or his??10/28/2008
  Q: My husband and I have only been married a couple of months after dating for about 2 years. This is ...
  A: Deb, It sounds like he is just trying to hold on to his old life. he needs to completely end it ...
how to reconnect10/28/2008
  Q: It is 3 days from my 9th anniversary, and I feel so far away from my husband. We are a christian ...
  A: Amber, I am sure that this may sound like a pastor answer but here goes. I would recommend that you ...
Loveless Marriage10/28/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 children. Before we got married, I had ...
  A: Mary, The first thing you have to do is to speak to your husband about all this. he needs to know ...
Husband's authority over wife10/27/2008
  Q: We are newly married Christians. My husband decided to "exercise his authority" over me in a trial ...
  A: Meichell, You husband needs to understand the difference between submissive and authority. The ...
my marraige10/27/2008
  Q: recently I talked to a family memeber about an issue I was having with my husband and she in turn ...
  A: The only thing I can think of is to prove it. You will have to show that the brother is lying and ...
marital problem10/23/2008
  Q: i work 60 hrs. a week.my husband stays home with the kids after school.he leaves all the housework ...
  A: K.S. I have to take a page from my own life here. I did a lot of the things your husband did. I ...
married for 24 yrs but thinking of leaving10/22/2008
  Q: I've been married for 24 years, and we have 6 children, for the past 22 years my husband has slept ...
  A: Lulu, The chances are that he will continue to try more and more depraved types of porn. When and ...
married for 24 yrs but thinking of leaving10/21/2008
  Q: I've been married for 24 years, and we have 6 children, for the past 22 years my husband has slept ...
  A: Lulu, You have really thought this out and already said many of the things I would advise. Your ...
wife has no time for us10/20/2008
  Q: My wife and I have been married for about 3 1/2 years. My wife works a lot. so much I feel like a ...
  A: MIke, She sounds like she is trying to avoid taking care of your baby. Some women do not want to be ...
marriage10/16/2008
  Q: I think a lot about my husband and myself breaking off our 5 year marriage, then I remember my kids. ...
  A: April, The only thing you could do at this point is to call his bluff. If he thinks that you will ...
Marriage10/10/2008
  Q: Do a wife come before everyone else except for God?
  A: Antoinette, The book of Ephesians tells men that they are to love their wives as their self. We are ...
I need help!10/9/2008
  Q: I am unsure of how to proceed with my wife. Quite frankly, if not for our 2 year old daughter, I ...
  A: Chris, Your wife sounds like she may need to have some major counseling. I understand where you are ...
wife has a male friend she keeps calling10/7/2008
  Q: I was wondering about my wifes relationship with a single male friend. This guy is a friend of my ...
  A: You may just need to confront him. If he has any honor then he will see that you love your wife and ...
my wife is driving me crazy and treating me as a child10/7/2008
  Q: Why my wife keep accusing me of things I am not doing and why do she keep treating me as I am a ...
  A: Charles, The best Christian advice I can give is this. She needs to respect you as head of ...
Out all night10/6/2008
  Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.He has been to AA for drinking and quit.But recently ...
  A: Amanda, You sound to me that you have already handled the situation. He may need to really consider ...
Not sure if Im right or wrong in this matter10/2/2008
  Q: I have been married 25 years to my husband, we have 2 daughters, ages 17 and 18 years of age. My ...
  A: Sandra, I agree that Bill needs to be more responsible. You are not being harsh and he needs to ...
WIFE9/20/2008
  Q: I AM NOT WORKING RIGHT NOW SO I AM AROUND THE HOUSE MORE THAN NORMAL, BUT EVEN WHEN I WORK, MY WIFE ...
  A: Brian, She is trying to get a better job I am sure that is why she is taking classes. The best ...
Cheating Spouse...9/20/2008
  Q: Tim, I was informed about a month ago now, that my husband of 8 months was cheating. I was told by ...
  A: You will need to start by just simply giving him the gospel. This will give him the truth and the ...
WIFE9/19/2008
  Q: I AM NOT WORKING RIGHT NOW SO I AM AROUND THE HOUSE MORE THAN NORMAL, BUT EVEN WHEN I WORK, MY WIFE ...
  A: Brian, The first thing you have to do is to find a way to ignore what she is doing. Make it appear ...
Cheating Spouse...9/18/2008
  Q: Tim, I was informed about a month ago now, that my husband of 8 months was cheating. I was told by ...
  A: Georgette, If you truly do not want to leave him then don't. You never have to have a divorce, that ...
Is He Telling The Truth????????9/16/2008
  Q: My husband had an affair that started on May13. I was in China for 2 weeks when he had me her. She ...
  A: Susan, I am not really sure what you are asking so here goes. He sounds like he is hiding something ...
Celebrating special occasion9/16/2008
  Q: My husband & I have been married for 15 years & we're both Christians. He's not very thoughtful & ...
  A: Christel, Well he should at least try to make a date for just the two of you to be alone and make ...
Celebrating special occasion9/16/2008
  Q: My husband & I have been married for 15 years & we're both Christians. He's not very thoughtful & ...
  A: Christel, You should get treated special on your birthday. You are not wrong for feeling this way, ...
its our marriage going to last?9/12/2008
  Q: . im 20 i been married for almost 5 month and it seems like for a long time.. my husband and i been ...
  A: Massiel, The first thing you have to remember is that marriage is not a sprint. Marriage is a ...
Stay or go?9/6/2008
  Q: I've been married for 7 years. We have a 19 month old and I am 3 months pregnant. My husband ...
  A: Tami, The wise thing to do would be to stay. When you look at the big sceme him slipping and ...
Husband has no interest in sex9/4/2008
  Q: My husband and I have only been married for 2.5 months. We dated for about 2 years prior and had a ...
  A: Anne, This is very hard to answer without his side. You need to have him checked out. If he is ...
My girlfiend is getting distant.9/3/2008
  Q: I met this girl over a year ago. We had been working together at a Shoprite (we're both 21). On our ...
  A: James, you need to let her go because she is about to enter into a different world. I know from ...
do I wait9/1/2008
  Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He left a marriage before we got together, ...
  A: Sam, If they are still married then he should try to go back to his wife. You both may have been ...
Confussion8/31/2008
  Q: How do i prove to my husband that i have been faithfl to him? He has gone beyond the limits to ...
  A: Lori, He sounds like he has some really major trust issues. He needs to seek some major counseling. ...
Confussion8/30/2008
  Q: How do i prove to my husband that i have been faithfl to him? He has gone beyond the limits to ...
  A: Lori, I am not sure what you are really asking. The only thing I can think of is maybe ask him for ...
unhappy marriage-newly separated8/28/2008
  Q: I will try to keep this brief, but there is a lot of background info. My seventh anniversary is in 3 ...
  A: Charlene, The information you have given me has painted a clear picture. You feel that you have an ...
boy problems8/25/2008
  Q: i had this ex boyfriend last year, Joey. and he was a little older then me, and we went out for ...
  A: Kori, I know that at 15 you feel that this is the guy for you. You have a few years before you can ...
Wife has fallen out of love8/25/2008
  Q: Dr. Tim, March of 2005, my wife admitted to having been in an affair for several years. Initially, ...
  A: Chuck, You are not wrong for feeling thrown away. She has to realize that she is the one that ...
boy problems8/25/2008
  Q: i had this ex boyfriend last year, Joey. and he was a little older then me, and we went out for ...
  A: Kori, Not knowing your age I have one thing. You need to listen to your parents. They are looking ...
Abused Spouse Support for Husband8/22/2008
  Q: My wife was sexually abused as a child. To make a long story short, I signed us up for counciling ...
  A: Phil, I will give you a list of books that you will be able to find online or maybe Amazon. ...
Husband is not spending enough quality/alone time with me8/19/2008
  Q: Dr. Gladu, I am a recent newlywed and haved lived with my husband for 8 months. He has a very, very ...
  A: Amy, You are right to belive that he feels that he does not to do anything special. He has found ...
My Feelings Don't Matter8/19/2008
  Q: My fiancee and I have been dating for a little over a year. We're getting married in 6 weeks. I ...
  A: Niki, You are right about the abandoned issue. He has never been taught that a mother/woman needs ...
Family Tree - Online8/6/2008
  Q: We recently began using a family tree online service to keep our family in touch. My fiance is ...
  A: Scott, If you have children with your ex then she is in the family tree. Your fiancé may not ...
Social life8/6/2008
  Q: Glad, I am 57 years old.I am still in good shape and try to keep myself attractive.I work part time ...
  A: Linda, This sounds like he is just a little insecure about you. He wants you to know that he ...
the ex and him are going on vacation together with their kid!!!8/5/2008
  Q: I started dating this guy who has a child with his ex. The child is turning 5 years old soon and he ...
  A: Sara, The only reason that I can think that they would want to take the child together is for the ...
shall i wait or let him go?8/4/2008
  Q: Me and my husband has been married for 5 yrs now and then last yr. he was cheating on me. We broke ...
  A: Jane, You need to be strong and just make what you want clear to him. If he wants to have you back ...
credit cards8/4/2008
  Q: i recently filed for a divorce on grounds on physical abuse after 11 years. We have a six year old ...
  A: Elishia, I do not really know the answer to this question. If you are on the account you should ...
mariange8/1/2008
  Q: my husband and I have been mariage for about 1 yr and a half now. We meet at work and soon fell in ...
  A: Sarah, The first thing you need to do is to get into some good counseling. The balance that you ...
Ex wife problems7/31/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been married for seven months. We're both in our late 40's. My problem is ...
  A: Sandy, Sounds like your husband needs to decide who he wants to be with. If he is married to you ...
privacy in a marriage7/23/2008
  Q: How much privacy is normal in a marriage. My husband has had an affair during our short marriage ...
  A: Tammy, There is a certain level of privacy in marriage. I do not check my wives e-mail and cell ...
unfaithful wife7/22/2008
  Q: my wife has told me she loves another man and she wants out our marrage she told me she cares for me ...
  A: Jose, Your wife has already moved on and it sounds like you may just need to allow her to move on ...
I'm born again, my husband is an atheist7/16/2008
  Q: Well, for starters a little backgound. I was raised in a christian home & until recently (past 2 ...
  A: Ann, You are doing the right thing. He will not fully understand you and your beliefs until He has ...
im getting married but i am very jealous!7/16/2008
  Q: my name is Joy, im 19 and I am getting married at the end of the summer in August, but I have a real ...
  A: Joy, You need to make sure that you speak to your husband to be about this soon. He needs to know ...
marriage7/13/2008
  Q: I dont know if my wife really loves me like i love her..we have been married for 1 year.i work ...
  A: Bo, Women are a mystery to us all. They are so much different and hard to understand that sometimes ...
Feelings of Inadequacy? -coping through hardship to maintain commitment7/12/2008
  Q: I've lived on my own since @ 22 (literally alone in a rented room or together with ...
  A: Mark, You sound like you are at a turning point. The best course of action at this point would be ...
Marriage Separation6/25/2008
  Q: Last year in May I found excessive text message. I tracked them back to March and there were many ...
  A: Debbie, The question you have to ask is do I want to stay married or get divorced. Your husband has ...
married but living alone6/23/2008
  Q: MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS AND HAVE ONE CHILD. WHEN MY SON WAS AROUND 2 MY ...
  A: Lynn, The first thing you have to do is to reconnect with your husband. he has lost out on so much ...
Marriage Issues6/20/2008
  Q: Dr. Gladu, My husband & I are both 40, we've been married 8yrs and have 1 child. I'm not sure that ...
  A: Lynda, You do have a chance to save both your marriage and yourself. You need to get some ...
me and my wife6/19/2008
  Q: please help me i feel as if him going out of my mind with worry and grief .my wife and i have been ...
  A: Ken, If you want to have a chance with her this is what needs to happen. You both need to be ...
Husband's Behavior6/12/2008
  Q: I've been married to my husband coming up on 3 years. Before that I dated him for close to 5 years. ...
  A: Linny, The type of behavior that he is displaying is a bit unusual. He is either seeing someone ...
Confused!6/11/2008
  Q: My husband and I met in 2003. We began dating and after three months of dating seriously we decided ...
  A: Dee, You sound like you have already made your decision. You have moved forward and put him and his ...
arguments over dogs6/8/2008
  Q: I have a small but big problem and hope that it can be helped. I've been browsing and looking for ...
  A: David, I can understand that you would not want a dog. This is one of those issues that should not ...
diffrence of hights ?6/7/2008
  Q: One guy wants to ask my hand, i like all his qualities, but something make me not sure. He is a ...
  A: Miss, I really do not understand your measurements. I deal in inches and pounds. I can see that ...
Celibate marraige6/6/2008
  Q: My husband & I have been married 26 years. In the first 16, sex was very infrequent, with my ...
  A: Ruth, The number one thing you need to do is get your husband to the doctor. I would think that he ...
my husband lies and deceives me6/2/2008
  Q: i recently started to read my husbands emails,they are inappropriate as support emotional ...
  A: Sharon, The first thing to remember is that you have to first examine your own behavior and ...
silent treatment5/31/2008
  Q: Gladu, Hi,I hope you're fine and in good condition.,I would like to seek ur advise regarding my ...
  A: Hunnie, The first thing to remember is that most guys do not like confrontation. He may just think ...
Why does my wife fuss all the time?5/31/2008
  Q: What makes my wife fuss all the time?She takes my smallest mistake and turns it into a mountain. I ...
  A: William, After 21 years of marriage the best advice I can give you is this. Listen to your wife she ...
husband has lost interest in sex life and time alone with wife5/30/2008
  Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ...
  A: Susan, The best way to proceed at this point is to give you husband a ultimatum. He needs to ...
husband has lost interest in sex life and time alone with wife5/29/2008
  Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ...
  A: Susan, This sounds like your husband has forgot that you have the need for intimacy more then even ...
Paying Bills5/7/2008
  Q: My wife tends to think that it is my sole responsibility to pay all of the bills and the money she ...
  A: I am going to give you some scripture on husbands and wives. No where does it say the man has to pay ...
Paying Bills5/7/2008
  Q: My wife tends to think that it is my sole responsibility to pay all of the bills and the money she ...
  A: Reg, I understand where you are coming from. I also have this same issue. I take care of most of ...
smoking pot5/6/2008
  Q: I have been caught smoking pot again by my wife she told me the last time this would be the last ...
  A: Ed, The best thing for you to do is to stop smoking Pot. When you get the urge do something else. I ...
Re: Not feeling the love5/4/2008
  Q: I saw an answer you gave to a woman that actually sort of sounded like you thought divorce was an ...
  A: Lisa, I try to give answers based on the available information. I also do not usually suggest ...
how can i help him forgive5/3/2008
  Q: my husband and i have been married for 4 years. our marriage wasn't perfect but we were happy.last ...
  A: Melisa, This may not be all that easy. You have both done wrong and you are both going to have to ...
My Marriage5/2/2008
  Q: I have a problem. My husband and I have been together for 16 yrs.My problem is that he does not seem ...
  A: Betty, The best thing you can do is not to dwell on the bad look at the good. If he is spending all ...
marriage problems5/1/2008
  Q: me and my husband have been married for 8 years and been fighting on and off now the whole marriage ...
  A: Kitty, You have every right to want to protect your children. I know that when my daughter did not ...
Pregnancy4/30/2008
  Q: My wife is 5 months pregnant and looking more beautiful than ever. It seems like every time we talk, ...
  A: Andrew, During pregnancy women do have different ideas and their personality may be different from ...
Wife is Jealous of Friends4/24/2008
  Q: Let me give you my scenario and then I will ask you my question. My husband and I have been married ...
  A: Monica, Wanting to spend time with your husband is fine. jealousy is not a good thing, but you ...
seperation4/24/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been married for 13 years. Just recently he has been in a depression and has ...
  A: Laurie, If he is abusive then you need to get away from him. There is never a good reason to hit ...
I'm Hurting4/23/2008
  Q: My husabnd left me with a 3yr old and ever since he left it's been lonely and it's been hard for me ...
  A: I do not think you are a fool you just want things to work out for the better. let him go and move ...
My husband's temper4/23/2008
  Q: I've been with my husband two years and in that time I've never been afraid of him but for him ...
  A: Delilah, he sounds like he is showing signs of Bi-polar personality. he has highs and lows. The ...
Wait or go...4/15/2008
  Q: ..I have been married for almost 3 years now and I have been w/ my husband for about 4 years. When ...
  A: Vee, You sound like you have already made up your mind. He has not been able to really see what he ...
HELP! I HAVE AFFECTION ISSUES4/14/2008
  Q: I have been in a serious relationship for 7 years now with someone who I know is the one for me. ...
  A: Philishia, Well the first advice I have to give is simple. You need to be married to be thinking ...
my husband4/2/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been arguing so much more since the birth of our son back in Jan. 07'. He'll ...
  A: Tammi, Your husband sounds like he may be going through some kind of depression. he is showing the ...
my husband3/28/2008
  Q: i even started to think he was cheating on me he stared coming home from work later not to much ...
  A: Neva, Just from what you have described it sounds like he is depressed. He is displaying all the ...
Wife doesn't want to have children3/14/2008
  Q: Good morning, My wife and I have been married for a year, and both love each other more every day. ...
  A: Paul, You wife needs to get with some good reproductive counseling. She needs to understand what ...
Big Changes!3/12/2008
  Q: I'm 22, I've been living with my boyfriend and his daughter for 2 years. I moved from family, ...
  A: Chris, If you are going to school and will not be close enough to live together then you will find ...
Husband not wanting to attend church3/11/2008
  Q: I've been saved for over 15 yrs. my husband of 8 years has been saved for 8 yrs. Has expressed no ...
  A: Yolie, You can not hold yourself responsible for him. He is making his choice clear. You still need ...
Trying to Turn Marriage Around3/11/2008
  Q: Dr. Gladu - My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years (we have no children). It's been a ...
  A: JG, I think that you are heading in the right direction. Women need to know that you are going to ...
husband wants friendship with woman from his past that he says he never had sex with.3/5/2008
  Q: I was devasted today to learn that my husband had been emailing back and forth with a woman who was ...
  A: Anna, You may be over reacting a little. I know that I had friends that were girls and I have ...
Husband upset about cop-calling3/3/2008
  Q: Two months ago my husband and I got into an argument about me spending too much money on a birthday ...
  A: Brealyn, I do not think you were wrong to call the cops. if someone has become violent then they ...
How to rebuild trust, sex life. etc2/28/2008
  Q: My husband and I are christians. We have been married for 12 years and have 3 children. I caught ...
  A: Carla, You sound to me that you are doing all the right things. The marriage counseling. The faith ...
Husband's lack of character2/27/2008
  Q: I filed for divorce one year ago after 11 years and we have a four year old daughter. From the ...
  A: Shannon, The bazaar behavior is something that will be a life long thing. Continue to be strong for ...
Just don't know2/26/2008
  Q: I am 37, my husband is 34. We have been married for almost 8 years. During the 8 yr marriage we have ...
  A: Lisa, You are very away of your situation. So many people have no idea of what is going on. You ...
abusive wife/ should i reconcile2/24/2008
  Q: i have been married for 4yrs, my wife and i have two girls, ages one and two. i am a computer tech ...
  A: Dame, She needs to make the first move toward reconciliation. She has been the one to start and it ...
extended family2/23/2008
  Q: my husband & I have been married for more than 3 years but living all this time in different ...
  A: Di, I am not one to advocate divorce, but in your case this is what I suggest. If you have not ...
Wife wants a Divorce2/16/2008
  Q: First let me start out by saying both my wife and I are Christians. On July 20, 2007 my wife left me ...
  A: Bennie, You have to do what is right for you and your family. If you can relocate to where your ...
how to leave2/12/2008
  Q: i am in a 7 year marriage/10 year relationship to an unfaithful husband. he constantly cheats all ...
  A: Lisa, You need to tell him that you are going to leave and the house needs to be sold. If he ...
How Husband Treats Me VS How He Treats Others2/2/2008
  Q: I have been married for many years, it seems I am always hoping and praying that my marriage will ...
  A: Lisa, The first thing I would suggest is to get some time for yourself. Tell him that you are going ...
Marriage/submission1/23/2008
  Q: My husband and I have been separated for 6 months, after many years of mental and verbal abuse. ...
  A: Angela, He is committing just as big a sin as you are so he has no ground to stand on. You are to ...
Marriage advice and how to deal with it1/23/2008
  Q: my husband left me 6 weeks ago now, saying that we were over and that was it,he is staying in a ...
  A: Dawn, I believe that you husband may just need to be away from you for a while. I think you should ...
Porn1/16/2008
  Q: I am a 21 year old christian and am to be married this August. My fiance told me before we started ...
  A: Jessica, Guys do some times have a little bit of an issue with visual stimuli. He can control it if ...
My wife will not let me bring the kids to see my mother1/15/2008
  Q: I have been married for 10 years. My wife has never cared for my mother. It got bad when my son was ...
  A: Mike, you are in a tough situation. I have been there in a way. My wife and mother did not get ...
Calloused Heart1/11/2008
  Q: My husband Michael is a great father, devout Christian, excellent employee for his company, he's ...
  A: Lavica, The loss of libido in males is usually because of low testosterone levels. This is ...
why my husband refuse to discuss the 20 yrs. affair with the same women1/8/2008
  Q: my husband had a 20year affair with the clean up woman at work.ijust found out 6months ago he refuse ...
  A: Bonnie, If you want to save the marriage, then you have to be willing to seek counseling. Start ...
step children are ruining my marriage1/7/2008
  Q: I have been married for almost two years now. My husband and I both had 4 children from our previous ...
  A: Jody, The best thing you can do at this point is to get some counseling. if you truly want to save ...
My wife online1/7/2008
  Q: My wife has been openly flirting online with a man from Morocco on Skype. I found his phone number ...
  A: Mike, She should not be flirting with guys online. This is not right behavior. Make it clear how ...
Calloused Heart1/4/2008
  Q: My husband Michael is a great father, devout Christian, excellent employee for his company, he's ...
  A: Lavica, I am not sure what to say. I did not see any question, so here goes. I feel that in love ...
Marriage Intimacy1/3/2008
  Q: Dr. Gladu, Thanks for reading my inquiry. I have been married to my wife for almost two years. ...
  A: Juan, With not to much to go on there is little to say. The first thing I would think is that there ...
why wouldn't he stop?1/2/2008
  Q: I was in a relationship with a man who would follow around or go out of his way to have a better or ...
  A: Marie, If you have not taken the final step of divorce please think about it. I understand how you ...
Concerned about newly uncovered lie from husband1/2/2008
  Q: To give a quick background: My husband and I have only been married a month. We dated for a year ...
  A: I can understand how you feel. You are right to tell him that this is not appropriate for him to ...
How to recover from rejection1/1/2008
  Q: We have been married for 12 years and are both saved Christians. We have not been able to have a ...
  A: Andre, I know that rejection can be hard to over come. When you get turned down so many times you ...
Lack of sex after mariage12/31/2007
  Q: I have been married for almost 3 years. My wife and I rarely have sex. It seems as if, our sex ...
  A: Tony, The first thing I have to ask is this. Have you ever been to a counselor that specializes in ...
I want to sleeping next to my Wife again..12/31/2007
  Q: I will hope to explain my concerns without writing a novel (smile)…This is very hard for me to ...
  A: Otis, I really feel for you and I understand. My son slept with us until he was about 5. The ...
Am I over reacting12/28/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married 20 years. We do not have children together, however he helped to ...
  A: Carol, I am not sure what you are overreacting to here. I guess I have to ask who owns the company ...
my husband says he is not sure if he wants to work on our marriage12/27/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married a little over 4 years now. Recently he lost his brother at 42 ...
  A: Sandi, If you are in a church then seek out the pastor. This should hopefully be an option for you. ...
im a possessive husband12/27/2007
  Q: how do i over come being possessive,my wife is hot and outgoing and i an a hermitt crab,i think it ...
  A: Sean, I hope that you have been in counseling for these issues. The problems sound like they can be ...
Disinterested in sex12/18/2007
  Q: I am a strong believer in Christ and I have been for five years now. My husband is also a Christian, ...
  A: Kristina, I understand where you are, and I hope I can help. You need to see sex as the most ...
work12/11/2007
  Q: Me and my wife have been together for almost four years now. I started working as a stock broker and ...
  A: Jason, You do have some tough decisions to make here. She wants to have the money and you at the ...
my wife12/8/2007
  Q: I'm 38 and my wife is 53.. she gets so upset with the things that I say.. It's getting whereI can't ...
  A: Michael, Try to remember that she is 15 years younger so her point of view may be a little ...
My man wants visits his kids and stay overnight at his former women's houses.12/7/2007
  Q: Mr.K and I have just started dating but we have already talked about living together. I love him and ...
  A: I think you need to get away from the entire situation. This guy is trying to have as many women as ...
My husbands ex-girlfriend sends him cards12/7/2007
  Q: My husband & I are christians and we recently had an argument about the fact that his ex-girlfriend ...
  A: Michele, I can understand your feelings. I also want you to think about one issue. He know this ...
Insecure Husband12/4/2007
  Q: I have been married 12 years with 3 kids. The past couple years he's had some health issues. Since ...
  A: Kelly, I do not think that he really needs counseling. He just needs to realize that you both ...
sexless marriage12/1/2007
  Q: Dr. Gladu, I've been married for 13 years. My husband and I have "survived" a great deal...extended ...
  A: Carly, The first thing to do is to get to the root of the issue. He has decided not to have sex. ...
I don't want a divorce11/29/2007
  Q: what do you do when one person wants out of the marriage and the other desperately wants to save it? ...
  A: Tammy, You said it right at the last. He is following his own desires. He is not concerned about ...
trust11/26/2007
  Q: I am 23, and have been in one lonterm relationship, and several not lasting more than 3 months.The ...
  A: Rhonda, Just from what you have told me it sounds like you may need some time alone. I hear this ...
husband (apathy)11/26/2007
  Q: we have been parried for 31 years. we are Christians who go to church faithful, and active in the ...
  A: The skoll could be affecting his libido. he needs to see a neurologist and make sure that he does ...
committing to marriage11/21/2007
  Q: I am divorced and engaged to a man I knew when we were children. I left my husband of 16 years ...
  A: Angie, I am sorry for the delay but with the holiday this is the first chance I have had to get to ...
My husband seems uninterested in sex11/19/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married for two months. We are both Christians who love the Lord, and my ...
  A: Diane, I do not believe that your husband is cheating on you. It sounds like he is just very tired ...
question11/14/2007
  Q: I need some advice...I'm wondering if I'm terribly insecure and making a big deal out of nothing, or ...
  A: Erin, I have a feeling that you may just need to wait for a while and see if it may be more of ...
Husband wants out11/14/2007
  Q: For the last several months my husband and I have been fighting horribly. he says its over my ...
  A: Michele, I think that in this case you may have the justification for divorce. God made this ...
Husband wants out11/12/2007
  Q: For the last several months my husband and I have been fighting horribly. he says its over my ...
  A: Michele, I do not believe that God has given you nothing. This may be difficult to hear but God has ...
is husband cheating?11/7/2007
  Q: My husband said that he was going to a ball game last Friday. On Mondy, I drove his vehicle and ...
  A: You have to make a decision. If you truly believe that he is cheating then confront him. Then you ...
Extended Family11/7/2007
  Q: How can I get my husband to move our family to Florida where my whole extended family lives. I feel ...
  A: Debbie, I do not know what his job situation is so it makes it harder to give you complete advice. ...
marriage11/1/2007
  Q: When my husband and I had a fight and he was yelling at me, I tried to calm him down by putting my ...
  A: The mouth thing is probably not a good idea. I know that if someone put their hand over my mouth it ...
TRUST/FREEDOM IN MARRIAGE10/30/2007
  Q: I have been married going on 6 years. Have always been uncomfortable with having friendships of the ...
  A: Jill, I can see this from both points. He wants to be trusted and that is to be understood. You ...
selfish husband10/29/2007
  Q: I think my husband is very selfish....I am so unhappy and think about divorce often. When he is ...
  A: Jennifer, I am not sure how to answer. What should I do is a little open ended, but here goes. He ...
sex10/27/2007
  Q: what if my partner won't have sex with me when I ask
  A: Frances, God tells us that sex is for marriage and that it should be done to strengthen the bond we ...
Looking for two answers to marriage questions10/25/2007
  Q: I've had them on my mind for quite a while, and I was wondering what one might say when applying the ...
  A: Emily, Thanks for choosing me to ask. First to have sex outside of marriage is sin. Just because ...
Husband is smoking marihuana10/24/2007
  Q: I need some advice on what to do regarding my husband smoking marihuna. We have been married for a ...
  A: First I am sorry it took me so long to get back to you. He is faced with an addiction and he needs ...
Rape10/10/2007
  Q: I don't know if this is the right section to ask but I will anyway. My wife was raped not too long ...
  A: Tom, I will keep you i my prayers. God is the only one that can get you both through this very hard ...
Rape10/8/2007
  Q: I don't know if this is the right section to ask but I will anyway. My wife was raped not too long ...
  A: Tom, There is little that I can say to make you feel better. I do not know what I would do in the ...
help10/4/2007
  Q: my husband and i have been married for 8 years we have three children whou are active in sports and ...
  A: Lil, Not knowing any thing more I will just give you my best assessment. If you can try to cut back ...
dominating and egoistic husband10/4/2007
  Q: My husband is very dominating and has a big ego. He does things and make decisions without telling ...
  A: MS, I will keep you in my prayers. I would just encourage you to try to get away from the ...
SEPERATION?10/2/2007
  Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ...
  A: You are right he needs to show some form of sacrifice. Give him some time and let him show that he ...
SEPERATION?10/1/2007
  Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ...
  A: Krystal, When it comes to saving a marriage, I believe in flexibility. If he is willing to seek ...
Marriage10/1/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married 25 years wonderful years he is 53. in 2001 he started not ...
  A: Melissa, The first thing you need to do is to find the source of his displeasure. He is most likely ...
sex/marriage9/28/2007
  Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. In that time we've had 2 children. My last child was ...
  A: Peter, There is not much else I can say. She needs to find what in her life is missing. When a ...
SEPERATION?9/28/2007
  Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ...
  A: Krystal, If he truly wants to work out your issues then start with counseling. if you do not want ...
Marital Issues9/28/2007
  Q: I want to be explanatory so you get the whole picture. I work full time and my wife is a homemaker, ...
  A: Sean, There is not much left for you to do at this point. She sounds like she loves the kids but ...
sex/marriage9/26/2007
  Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. In that time we've had 2 children. My last child was ...
  A: Peter, You are right to feel some disconnect. If you have not had sex on a regular basis at this ...
After the affair9/24/2007
  Q: This will be long... This is how it goes. Married presently with two kids and my wife had a 3 month ...
  A: Ben, With your past history with this woman you may both be better off away from each other. Stay ...
betrayed9/22/2007
  Q: I am 43 and have been married to the same man for 21 years. I found out a couple of months ago that ...
  A: Tammy, You sound like you have taken the right steps. He also sounds like he is trying to make ...
betrayed9/20/2007
  Q: I am 43 and have been married to the same man for 21 years. I found out a couple of months ago that ...
  A: Tammy, The feelings that you have a normal. He has betrayed you to a point. You feel that he has ...
Pastor and pastor's wife disagree9/18/2007
  Q: My husband and I are running a ministry that includes a men's homeless shelter since Feb. 2007. One ...
  A: Deborah, I can feel for you because I to was once a major procrastinator. I have a type A wife that ...
He loves me..He loves me not9/18/2007
  Q: This is something i didnt wanted to share with anyone,but after reading a lot of such questions,i ...
  A: I am glad you asked this question. Most wives just try to change their husbands and forget that we ...
supporting my husband9/18/2007
  Q: we were at my 6 year old son's soccer game and another kid got kicked in the face with the ball and ...
  A: Carolyn, I think you were right. If he was wrong he should have said he was sorry. Men so often ...
My husband and my mother9/17/2007
  Q: My husband and my mother have been arguing. They are both stubborn and do not agree on a lot of ...
  A: Angie, My mother in law passed away when I was married only 3 years. I was also in Germany for most ...
husband has hot temper9/17/2007
  Q: I have been married 6 years to a wonderful man ( when he isn't angry.) We are Christians and try ...
  A: Nancy, You were justified in asking him to leave if he could not control his anger. He needs to ...
do I want to stay married??9/17/2007
  Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ...
  A: Loretta, If you are looking for some kind of group to attend for help, you should look if there is ...
do I want to stay married??9/16/2007
  Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ...
  A: Loretta, Then it sounds like you should maybe try a trial separation. This way you are not there ...
do I want to stay married??9/15/2007
  Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ...
  A: Loretta, If he truly loves you he will step up and show you. He needs to make those steps to show ...
marriage9/10/2007
  Q: My husband spends every free minute rather with friends than with me or at home. I don't feel its ...
  A: Linda, Not knowing his age or how long you have been married would help. I can suggest that you ...
no passion in this marriage9/10/2007
  Q: Dr. Gladu, thanks in advance for you answer. When we married 23 years ago, my wife was a virgin but ...
  A: Joe, I understand everything about not wanting to talk to the pastor about this. I am also in that ...
Spouse has gay best friends9/5/2007
  Q: I just got married to a beautiful lady (Kay) and love her very much. When we started dating she ...
  A: Mark, I give you a lot of credit for the restraint you have been able to show to this point. You ...
Insecure Husband8/30/2007
  Q: I have been married for almost 4 years and my husband does not trust me. I have never given him any ...
  A: Donna, I do understand where you are at this point. I would like to suggest one more thing. I would ...
Insecure Husband8/29/2007
  Q: I have been married for almost 4 years and my husband does not trust me. I have never given him any ...
  A: Donna, You are not the problem. I am sure you know that so let me see what I can do. he needs to ...
My wife is overreacting8/26/2007
  Q: I just have a question about my wife. I can do the smallest thing in the world and it pisses her ...
  A: John, I am sure that you have sat her down and spoken to her about this. She may not realize what ...
Marriage advice needed8/26/2007
  Q: Please help. Both my wife and I are of Indian origin. I’ve been married for 3 years, but have been ...
  A: It is not wrong to stay with her and continue to help her understand what it means to have that ...
sex8/26/2007
  Q: I want sex alot from my wife all the time, and I told her that I don't want to be selfish and wait o ...
  A: The first thing you need to understand that yes the Bible does state that your body is not your own. ...
Husband always going out8/25/2007
  Q: I am 22 yrs old and have married for just over a yr. Before I got married, I knew my husband was an ...
  A: Cathy, I know that at his age he is trying to live out his wild side and thinks that he has to do ...
blended family8/24/2007
  Q: I have been married for ten years to a great man. I had three children from two previous ...
  A: This sounds like you need to get into get together as a family involved in church and allow some ...
Marriage advice needed8/24/2007
  Q: Please help. Both my wife and I are of Indian origin. I’ve been married for 3 years, but have been ...
  A: Varghese, I would always say to try to work things out first. As a Christian you should try to find ...
Wifes lack of affection8/20/2007
  Q: I am a father of 2 and have been married for 10 years to my high school sweetheart. Overall our ...
  A: Brian, This sounds like something has happened in your lives to make this change. Guys are not the ...
Flirting8/20/2007
  Q: I am 24 years old and my husband is 25. We have been married for almost 4 years and have two kids ...
  A: Melinda, he may not be able to see what he is doing. I know that I have been told that I am ...
Unhappy8/19/2007
  Q: I am a Christian and I don't know what to do. I feel this is really the end for my five year ...
  A: Peaches, The issue about ministry is a hard one for most people to accept. I know that when I ...
question8/18/2007
  Q: how can i deal with my virgin wife in our first sex?
  A: Ahmed, You just need to be gentle and discover what she wants to do. You will both discover each ...
Husband will not talk about affair8/1/2007
  Q: We have been married for 23 years and have had some issues of course during the marriage. About 18 ...
  A: Toni, You have to consider that he may actually be telling the truth. You have been married for a ...
husband and step-dad conflict7/30/2007
  Q: today my husband and step dad had a terrible argument with verbal words said, and neither want to ...
  A: Izzy, This sounds like they just need to sit down and decide if they can get a long because of you. ...
First or Second Marriage7/24/2007
  Q: Neither my husband or I have been (legally) married before. We both have children from previous ...
  A: I am sorry also because you are right it was a little unclear. I know well how in-laws act. My own ...
First or Second Marriage7/23/2007
  Q: Neither my husband or I have been (legally) married before. We both have children from previous ...
  A: Nichole, There is nothing about living together or having children with someone. All Biblical ...
My Marriage is dissolving because of someone else.7/9/2007
  Q: my name is Jamal. I have been married to my wife for over 3 yrs. I love my wife very much and I ...
  A: Jamal, It sounds to me like your wife does want to solve the problem and move forward. I am glad to ...
Trust issues7/4/2007
  Q: I have been married for over a year and got married after 6 months of dating. I just found out that ...
  A: Selesha, I understand wanting to stay for your baby. I agree with that also. I also believe that ...
Newly married6/27/2007
  Q: I am newly married and less than a year. I married after dating for 6 months. Two issues. Hopefully ...
  A: Matt, There is bound to be some insecurity, but as your marriage gains time she will come to ...
what do i do when he really wont quit?6/27/2007
  Q: im 19 and i have a 10month old son. i got preg at the age of 17 my senior year of high school by my ...
  A: Kristen, He has an addiction. The addiction will continue to grow until he can no longer be ...
Is he taking advantage?6/27/2007
  Q: My story goes like this, 2 years ago summer of 2005 my husband cheated on me with my best friend and ...
  A: Heather, Your husband needs to be in marriage counseling. He also needs to start treating you like ...
Newly married6/26/2007
  Q: I am newly married and less than a year. I married after dating for 6 months. Two issues. Hopefully ...
  A: Matt, I am glad to see that you are concerned about these issues and it shows that you really care. ...
Cheating6/25/2007
  Q: My wife and I have been together for 7 years. The first 6 years I was very violent and mentally ...
  A: Octavio, I always say that we should try to stay together because, God never wanted us to divorce. ...
medical treatment6/23/2007
  Q: My wife is an alcoholic. I know I can`t force her into treatment for her alcohol abuse but recently ...
  A: Glen, You need to get her into treatment as soon as possible. She is clearly at a point of her ...
Unequal Marriage6/5/2007
  Q: I am frustrated and upset by an unequal marriage. I have supported my husband to put him through ...
  A: Marie, You have every right to feel that you should have the 50/50 marriage. He also needs to ...
gawking gone too far?5/16/2007
  Q: I'm male 48yrs old, we have been married 10 mos and together around 5yrs. 5 mos ago I disclosed ...
  A: Randy, I can tell you that your wife is going to be a little suspect of your actions. You are going ...
husband5/15/2007
  Q: my son just turned 18 a month ago my husband expects him to be looking for work;but i am not allowed ...
  A: Dee, This sounds like you stuck in the middle. If someone does not take him to get a job how is he ...
GAY MARRIAGE5/13/2007
  Q: what does the bible.say about gay marriage? ANSWER: John, Here are some scripture that I would ...
  A: John, Right love your neighbor as yourself. That is correct, but you can love someone and not ...
Is my marriage really over?5/9/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years, together for 6. He's 28, I'm 32.Our ...
  A: Lori, I have to say that you sound like you are a very strong person. Your husband sounds like he ...
Children5/8/2007
  Q: I dated my husband for nine years and we were married 3 years ago. My husband wanted children ...
  A: I have had this same problem many a time. Men will promise so many things before marriage, but when ...
SHOULD I HOLD ON TO MY MARRIAGE5/7/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been married (going on 10 years in July) we have had some good times in our ...
  A: Toni, You have been through a lot to this point. If he will not go to counseling and will not seek ...
Conflict?5/4/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been going through problems with respect in the family. Since my husband and ...
  A: E, It looks like you are worried about the rules of your house more than anything else. You are ...
Wife not in will5/3/2007
  Q: We have been married for 3 years, very happily. This is the second marriage for each of us. My ...
  A: Kim, It sounds to me that your husband is trying to ask for your trust. If he has not given you a ...
sex4/28/2007
  Q: Is sex an important part of a marriage? And,how important is it?
  A: Tim, I would consider sex to be important if you want to have children. Most people feel that it ...
GAY MARRIAGE4/25/2007
  Q: what does the bible.say about gay marriage?
  A: John, Here are some scripture that I would like you to look at and get back to me. Do not lie ...
marriage4/25/2007
  Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ...
  A: Brian, I have to tell you that God does not want you to break up. God hates divorce and wants ...
marriage4/25/2007
  Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ...
  A: Brian, It sounds like things are going better than I thought at first. Keep up with what you're ...
marriage4/23/2007
  Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ...
  A: Brian, The first thing you need to do is get some counseling. I would also suggest maybe ...
forgiveness4/11/2007
  Q: Tim, half a year ago i cheated on my boyfriend, who is now my fiance. I told him about it, and we ...
  A: Andrea, Sometimes it is the hardest thing to do is to forgive yourself. God forgives and forgets ...
marriage-relationship4/10/2007
  Q: If my husband brings out old pictures of girlfriends and shows them to me, what is he really trying ...
  A: Nona, I think he is just remembering the past. I know that when I think about the old days I am ...
Husband doesn't want me4/8/2007
  Q: I have been married going on five years. For some reason my husband doesn't want to have sex with ...
  A: Tomgirl, I know that as a man I sometimes do not want to have sex. I do not believe that it has ...
HELP PLEASE4/3/2007
  Q: We have been seperated about 4 times and have gotten back together... we are now on our 5th time and ...
  A: Kande, If you want to get back together with thisman then you should . For the sake of your ...
Problems after 25 years4/2/2007
  Q: Tim Gladu, I do not know if I am right in doing this but I need your help. I have known my husband ...
  A: Sam, After reading your story I can really only say one thing. Your husband needs to step up be a ...
husband going out to bars3/30/2007
  Q: Do you think it is ok for men to go out to bars late with their friends without their wives several ...
  A: Susan, What you have to ask is what is he doing there. If he is just hanging out with the guys and ...
Prov 31 Wife....3/26/2007
  Q: Dr. Gladu-I am a born again believer as is my husband. We have three children (from my previous ...
  A: Michelle, I fully believe that both men and women have certain responsibilities. There are certain ...
How many wives are 1+ years older than their husbands?3/20/2007
  Q: Have you ever seen a statistic on approximately how many American wives are more than a year older ...
  A: Steve, I have not seen any stats on husband to wife age ratio. I have seen a lot of data on divorce ...
need help!!`3/19/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We’ve been married for almost 5. This is the 2nd ...
  A: Gina, I believe I already answered a question similar to this. I still feel the same about your ...
need advice3/19/2007
  Q: my husband and i have been married for 5 years. this is the 2nd marriage for both of us. We both ...
  A: Gina, I have to agree with you on the time away. I have spent a lot of time away from my family ...
diff in age???3/15/2007
  Q: usually woman gets aged sooner than man(husband of same age) and their look decreases,,so (80%) of ...
  A: That is not always true and if you truly are with the one that you are going to be with then you ...
smoking2/25/2007
  Q: I suppose the smoking has won as I have already used the tuff love situation and the smoking ...
  A: I do not think that someone smoking is a good reason for divorce. I am at a disadvantage here ...
husband doesnt want sex2/24/2007
  Q: My husband and I have been together for 2 years, hes 43 and Im 25. Our sex life was never "amazing" ...
  A: Stephine, I have to tell you first as a minister the first thing I would suggest is your line of ...
I do not want a divorce2/20/2007
  Q: My husband has moved out of our house and I feel like my world has just stopped. We have 3 grown ...
  A: I want to be completely honest. I am Southern Baptist and therefore I will be giving you the ...

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