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Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship/Questions Answered by Expert Dr Tim Gladu
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Kissing and sex after marriage | 11/27/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for about 2 1/2 years now. We don't have any children yet, just ... A: Samantha, I can't be sure but it sounds like you are just coming out of the honeymoon stage and ... | |
| no help | 11/11/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married almost three years a lived together a year before that. ... A: Teresa, The best thing you can do is to leave something important to him not done. He is not going ... | |
| Step daughters issue | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: Greetings I am josephine from South Africa.I am a 22 year old student who is currently studying and ... A: Josephine, You have the right attitude about the entire issue. God does have a purpose for you and ... | |
| RELATIONSHIP ISSUES DURING PREGNANCY | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: Hey there! I am really hoping you can PLEASE help me out-somehow. I am currently 5mths pregnant, ... A: I am sure that you are well aware that with being pregnant you will have a lot of hormones that you ... | |
| I have hurt my wife dearly | 9/14/2011 |
| Q: I am 27 and my wife is 24, we have a 3 year old son. We just bought our home last year and have been ... A: She is going to have to be willing to forgive you and welcome you back into the home. Right now she ... | |
| Relationship | 8/9/2011 |
| Q: How can the youth of today have a Godly relationship? A: Mercy, You have to live in the world but you do not have to be of the world. God gives us the ... | |
| crappy husband | 8/2/2011 |
| Q: I have been married four years. My husband is 60 and I just turned 41. We have 2 children, 2and 6 ... A: Lisa, You can only do one thing at this point. He is set in his ways and I am sure that you had to ... | |
| Stuck in the middle!! | 9/22/2010 |
| Q: Ok...well My mother and my wife doesnt get along at all.They were getting along at first, I think ... A: Karl, I believe that you are going to have to tell them all you will not allow them to put you in ... | |
| I want to move, my husband doesn't | 9/16/2010 |
| Q: I am a young stay-at-home mother to a 9mo old boy. My husband works irregular hours at a kiosk at a ... A: The idea that you have to submit is correct and that is your role. Now what does it mean to submit. ... | |
| We haven't made love since long... | 9/15/2010 |
| Q: Let me tell you my story.. I am from India - Asia, I have been in love with this man since 6 years ... A: I would have to say that a man can have issues at any age. If he really believes that he has an ... | |
| past sins | 9/12/2010 |
| Q: ..Is it true that a man cannot marry a woman if she has been with his son in the past? That God ... A: Kelly, Under Jewish laws in the Old Testament that would be the case. I do not know of anywhere in ... | |
| Married Friend | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: Gladu, I met this man Feb 2010 and he told me he's been single for a year because his wife has a ... A: Jan, I think you know the answer and you need me to confirm it for you. He is a married man and he ... | |
| MARRIAGE TO OVER BEARING HUSBAND | 8/31/2010 |
| Q: I DON'T KNOW HOW TO START...WHEN MY GREAT FRIEND..MY MOTHER-IN-LAW WAS ALIVE MY SISTER-IN-LAW WENT ... A: Sandy, This sounds like your husband wants to have control over you and all you do. He also does ... | |
| Should husband point out wife's grammar error for the sake of their child | 8/28/2010 |
| Q: I told my wife I had something to say to her and asked her not to get upset. I then asked her if ... A: Ken, The best rule in marriage is to be honest. You also have the responsibility to do no harm. ... | |
| Extended Family Takes Priority | 8/23/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for just over three years. During the latter stages my wife has been putting a ... A: Ray, I understand the extended family may be an issue. She thinks that doing for her family is more ... | |
| Husband is insecure | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 3 years which a good part was of him being deployed to ... A: Sara, You are right to not want him to trash your ex. Your daughter may hear this and form the ... | |
| Husband is insecure | 8/10/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for over 3 years which a good part was of him being deployed to ... A: Sara, I am glad that you have seen to seek out some help. Your husband needs to seek some ... | |
| Marriage | 8/3/2010 |
| Q: How can I tell my wife I love her from Iraq, and show her I miss and trust her A: Travis, I am sure that you could go to proflowers.com and order her some flowers and even put in ... | |
| narcotic abuse | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: I AM MARRIED TO A MAN WHO JUST ADMITTED HIMSELF INTO A FACILTY FOR DETOX. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ... A: Stacey, This is one of the very important issues I want to be clear on. Marriage is I believe the ... | |
| Anger outbursts and walk outs | 7/14/2010 |
| Q: I am remarried two years to a wonderful man. For the first time he has a step family with me and my ... A: I think you are correct about the counseling. You should expect him to get some help with his anger. ... | |
| children/marriage | 7/12/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 28 years. My son and daughter are now married and are wanting to eventually ... A: Caroline, What your husbands biggest problem is he is not willing to go to church. You children ... | |
| My fiance went back to his ex wife home | 7/11/2010 |
| Q: My fiance of 13 years(we live in usa) went back to his wife country to get a divorce (they have 3 ... A: Berta, If you love him and want to be with him then you have to trust him. You have to realize that ... | |
| living with mother-in-law with a depressed wife | 6/30/2010 |
| Q: I hope this isn't a dozy for you because I really want help and I do not seek help as often as I ... A: Rob, Living with the in-laws in never easy and if you have to because of finances then deal with it ... | |
| divorce | 6/28/2010 |
| Q: I am a 18-1/2 year old Christian. My husband claimed to be a Christian. He is a SDA. Lives like a ... A: Lupe, The first thing I have to say is God must feel you are a very strong woman to have given you ... | |
| marriage | 6/18/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 4 years/ in the four years we have had our highs and lows; My family ... A: He needs to realize that he needs some help with his anger. I do believe that it is ok to be angry, ... | |
| marriage | 6/17/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 4 years/ in the four years we have had our highs and lows; My family ... A: Kathy, I have to say that I do not think that God wants you to suffer for your marriage. This being ... | |
| problem between me n my husband | 6/12/2010 |
| Q: Its been 6 months to my marriage. my husband is a very sweet n a caring husband. Ever since our ... A: Sweta, The mother son relationship is a ver y gret relationship when it is not twisted. The mother ... | |
| Marriage not a priority | 6/8/2010 |
| Q: Sir, My wife and I have been married 14 years. We have 3 children 10, 5 & 3. About 3 years ago I ... A: From this it sounds like you wife needs to practice what she is preaching. You may have had some ... | |
| Can my marriage be saved | 6/7/2010 |
| Q: I have been in my marriage for 4 rocky years. We have been on this up and down roller coaster and I ... A: Well, just because he is not willing to seek counseling does not mean you can't. Your mental health ... | |
| Soooooo frustrated | 6/6/2010 |
| Q: I am 46, my husband 48, married 25 years, 3 kids 18,16,11. I am so frustrated. I have had it ... A: Lisa, I have to always think there is hope, but having a close relationship with Christ keeps me ... | |
| inter racial marriage | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Not sure if im in correct category but I am going to ask anyway. Im a white guy and want to marry ... A: sorry for taking so long, I believe that showing jealousy is a bad idea. maybe a little to show her ... | |
| inter racial marriage | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Not sure if im in correct category but I am going to ask anyway. Im a white guy and want to marry ... A: James, I am not sure that the race of someone really matters unless it bothers the families ... | |
| Trapped in mother-in-law problem | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: Tim, My husband and I have been married for 5 years and were together for 5 years prior. Throughout ... A: Jill, I can really understand about the mother in-law. My own mother has always been at odds with ... | |
| Wife with cell phone | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife has a pavlov response with her cell phone no matter where we are, what we are doing, or how ... A: You might want to ask her that when she is with you that you do not want her to use her phone to ... | |
| Wife with cell phone | 6/3/2010 |
| Q: My wife has a pavlov response with her cell phone no matter where we are, what we are doing, or how ... A: Thomas, I have to say here that the cell phone has become some kind of tool or toy that many find ... | |
| Should I stay or go? | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: It all seems so bleak and unfruitful at the moment. My marriage of 12 years is falling apart at the ... A: I don’t think that you completely understood what I was telling you. I made it clear that he has the ... | |
| Should I stay or go? | 5/12/2010 |
| Q: It all seems so bleak and unfruitful at the moment. My marriage of 12 years is falling apart at the ... A: Corina, I can’t tell you to stay or go that would be unethical. I can tell you the perspective of ... | |
| husband refuses to go with me to see dying Grandma | 5/4/2010 |
| Q: I just recently found our that my grandma in a different state is dying.I want to go see her before ... A: Krystal, When it comes to how you feel it is very hard to get someone else to truly feel how you ... | |
| confused I need help please... | 5/2/2010 |
| Q: we have a 2 years old baby girl and right now i am about to give birth. my husband is always at work ... A: Cecilia, I can see that you husband seems to completely ignoring you. He takes you for granted and ... | |
| Disrespecting Husband | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years and my husband has cheated on me lied, and he is being ... A: If he is not willing to seek counseling then I still think that you would benefit. I have seen many ... | |
| Disrespecting Husband | 4/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 4 years and my husband has cheated on me lied, and he is being ... A: Patricia, I would not recommend divorce unless the threat of violence is present. I would recommend ... | |
| Past problems reoccurring | 4/8/2010 |
| Q: My relationship seems to have the same issues over and over again. I do not have trust in my wife. I ... A: Wayne, I do believe that trust can be earned. If she has done something in the past that made you ... | |
| divorce/adultery/baby | 4/6/2010 |
| Q: My question is that my husband just told me that his girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant. He ... A: Gretchen, I am sure that you would not want someone to force you to get an abortion and that is ... | |
| Arguing | 4/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married Since December 1, 2008. We are in our fifties. This is 4th ... A: Patricia, I would like to address the salvation first. You are new to the faith and when you are ... | |
| not able to forgive | 3/23/2010 |
| Q: I have a problem my husband and i have been married for 3yrs i am 21 he is 22. he is from another ... A: Jantia, The issue with the inlaws is difficult because you want to protect your child first before ... | |
| Hanging by a Thread | 3/22/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 years we have been seperated for the past 7 months. During this time ... A: Renae, Just to get this clear. You are married but separated and both are seeing other people. You ... | |
| Husband says I am nosey | 3/16/2010 |
| Q: My husband said something to his daughter age 20.. so I was standing there, we were all in the ... A: Jean, I'm not sure that this should be as big a deal as you are making it so. I do not believe that ... | |
| can he be forgiven | 3/15/2010 |
| Q: I got your reply. Thank you for the timeliness. Forgiveness is not an issue, I can forgive him but ... A: Lizy, You have some big decisions here and i will try to help you make them. You have to realize ... | |
| marriage issues | 3/14/2010 |
| Q: I have been faithfully married for 2 years. I have a daughter and 3 stepchildren. For 10months now ... A: Lizy, I would have to say that your immediate problem of a cheating husband would be solved, but ... | |
| How Can I Trust Again | 2/12/2010 |
| Q: I feel like I'm stuck between two worlds. One day I'm angry with my husband and the next day not ... A: Getting him to go to counseling may be hard but is worth the effort. You have to find a way that he ... | |
| How Can I Trust Again | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: I feel like I'm stuck between two worlds. One day I'm angry with my husband and the next day not ... A: Madeline, I do not think that you should feel stupid for loving your husband. You are actually ... | |
| My wife is driving me insane... | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I are Christians,in our 50's,married for 3 years. She has a history of depression since ... A: Without know exactly what is being done with her I really can't make a call on the personality ... | |
| My wife is driving me insane... | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I are Christians,in our 50's,married for 3 years. She has a history of depression since ... A: Rene, Your wife needs to seek some real medical help. She is showing so many signs of depression ... | |
| Marriage and breakups | 2/10/2010 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend lived together for 7 years. We have a son. After about 5 or 6 years we were ... A: Brenda, You are right to believe that all things are possible for the Lord. You also have to ... | |
| Husband says our marriage a mistake | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 yrs. We have 3 children, one from my 1st marriage and 1 ... A: Mary, I would have to say that where you go from here is your choice. If you think that you can ... | |
| Disconnection with wife | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 12 years and have two wonderful children. While our family has ... A: Andy, The best place to start here would be for both of you to just find a way to get away from ... | |
| My fiance's sex drive | 1/27/2010 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, My fiance got back from afghanistan a little over a month ago, a year deployment. He ... A: Brianna, I had to give this some thought. I would first recommend that you both seek some ... | |
| Verbal Abuse and Bad text | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: My husband, while drinking, texted an unattractive picture of me in my underwear getting sick by the ... A: Cathy, I had to think on this for sometime so that is why I am getting back to you late. Your ... | |
| Divorce and reconcilation of 2 Christians | 1/17/2010 |
| Q: Q- If two Christians divorce and are apart for any length of time and they decide to reconcile, ... A: Dan, I had to really look into your question to see if I could find any Biblical info for you. I ... | |
| Divorce | 1/9/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for a little over 14 years. Since our 14 year marriage my husband has had 4 ... A: Leslie, When it comes to him finding his faith that is great. I know that when someone accepts the ... | |
| Husband has mental healthy problems and it is ruining our marriage | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 14yrs. We have been married for 8 yrs and have a 18 month old son. I ... A: Cheri, The emotional abuse is the major concern. If he is unstable as you believe he may escalate ... | |
| I can't have an erection with my wife | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: I am 30 and recently got married - 6 months ago. We never had sex before and waited till we got ... A: Willie, The first thing you need to do here is stop looking at other women. This is keeping you ... | |
| My wife's friend | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I've been married with my wife for 3 years. At the beginning of the relationship we had a friend in ... A: Harold, Your wife should be allowed to have friends. If you try to control her and not allow her to ... | |
| Me vs. Husband clinging to his mother | 12/21/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for a little over a year, together for four. Unfortunately, we ... A: lacey, I understand completely. My mom was this way for years to my wife but she never said ... | |
| Marriage and my husband | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 yrs and I love my husband. He hasnt made any money since we have gotten ... A: Jeanine, If you are willing to tolerate his behavior and continue to let him do this to you then ... | |
| Marriage and my husband | 12/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 yrs and I love my husband. He hasnt made any money since we have gotten ... A: Jeaninie, I am sure that you know your husband needs to grow up and get a job. He has been directed ... | |
| Forgiving past mistake | 12/1/2009 |
| Q: In June 2008 I was dating my current boyfriend but we had not discussed exclusivity. I was having ... A: Michele, I am very glad to hear that you were both saved. That being said you have to consider him ... | |
| Marriage and physical attraction | 11/24/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, My wife Michelle and I have been married eleven years. I love my wife and plan to work ... A: Darren, I understand your problem and empathize with your delima. The best way to get your wife to ... | |
| my wife | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my wife for 3 years and she did cheat on me last year with a ex-boyfriend that she ... A: Joe, I am very proud of you for coming to the Lord. You are still young in the faith and have a ... | |
| business agreement | 11/15/2009 |
| Q: So, my husband and I got married after finding out we were pregnant. I do not believe in abortion ... A: Jennifer, You sound like you are asking me to confirm what you already know. You want to leave ... | |
| follow-up | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: You answered me last night about my ex giving conditions. I left him in part due to controlling and ... A: Heather, No matter how he words it these are all about control. I do realize that a spouse wants to ... | |
| conditions | 11/12/2009 |
| Q: So, my ex told me he thought about possibly getting back together in the future. He is not sure but ... A: Heather, I am not to sure about conditions. If he loves you he should be willing to accept you and ... | |
| What standard should I live by? | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: I am in a marriage that is completely loveless. It has become an arrangement that is very ... A: Gennie, I am not sure that this passage is speaking about divorce in the same way as we consider ... | |
| Cheating | 11/11/2009 |
| Q: Ok i have been with my girl for seven years been married for almost about 1 year> in the last few ... A: Art, If you love her and you can forgive what she has done then you need to get to counseling. I ... | |
| no love, no sex -- divorce? | 11/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years this 28/Oct. But we have no sex for the last 2 ... A: May, I would never want to mis lead you. From what you have told me it sounds like your husband ... | |
| Marriage | 10/28/2009 |
| Q: I can't believe that I am doing this but I have been married for 15 years and we have had a lot of ... A: Deanna, I would like you to examine your life and see what you can do to make it better. You have ... | |
| Need Help With My Marriage | 10/27/2009 |
| Q: I am a 40 year old mother of 3. I have been married for 13 years. My husband and I have three ... A: Lisa, The first thing I have to do is to let you know that you are not alone. I am sure that you ... | |
| stressful marriage :best thing to do??? | 10/20/2009 |
| Q: I am currently awaiting divorce would be finalized next month.But i still feel sometimes whether it ... A: Tinkle, After reading your story I can only; say one thing. Your husband should have revealed this ... | |
| Is husband too involved in hobbies? | 10/16/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, I would like to know what is a healthy, normal amount of time for someone in a marriage to ... A: Colleen, You did not say if you gave him a timeline for the change. If he is going to change then ... | |
| what will I do. | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I and my wife is married for four years. But will never have a child. My wife sister (my sister ... A: I'm not really sure what you are concerned about. Nothing was fully explained and I'm not really ... | |
| Sex frequency in marriage | 9/30/2009 |
| Q: Married for 4 and have digressed from 6 -8 times a week to once during the week and maybe once on ... A: Michael, I think that the first step for her would be to seek medical advice. She might have ... | |
| Drugs and Husband | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: Ok, Ive known my husband since 4th grade. We have been married since April of 09. We have a son on ... A: Ashley, What you are describing to me is addictive behavior. He seems to be willing to stop, but he ... | |
| Disgusting interests | 9/23/2009 |
| Q: Let me preface this question by saying that I am not trying to be disgusting and I'm not joking. I ... A: MJ, What you are describing is bestiality and is strictly forbidden. God gave rules that we were not ... | |
| Son's wedding | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: My son is getting married Nov the . His fiance asked me to help her plan a gazebo wedding in my ... A: Margie, Your son sounds like he is a guy that would bring home injured animals and try to save their ... | |
| Is husband too involved in hobbies? | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, I would like to know what is a healthy, normal amount of time for someone in a marriage to ... A: Colleen, Not to make this simple but yes. I think that your husband is spending to much time on ... | |
| Marriage/son issues | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: Married 25 years. 3 children 12,13,19. Problem with 19yr old - moved out as unwilling to follow ... A: I see where you are at and I was also in a similar place about the time my daughter started acting ... | |
| confusion | 9/11/2009 |
| Q: we r married(2nd marriage for both of us, he 34 & me 30 yrs old) for 15 months, i am living in my ... A: Mala, I do not really understand about the passport issue and also about you being married but not ... | |
| Strange Dreams about my husband | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, For the last three nights I have had dreams about my husband, the first one we were at some ... A: Ericka, I believe that the reason you are having the dreams is because it is on your mind. You are ... | |
| Is oral sex biblically okay in marriage? | 8/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 6 years and we have a one year old. Before we had our child ... A: Melissa, Your asking about oral sex but I think there is something else going on here. You object ... | |
| Step daughter problems | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: My wife spoils her only daughter from a previous marriage, having her at 14yrs old in Mexico. My ... A: You sound like you have done the right thing. Your wife needs to realize that she is enabling her ... | |
| my husband wants to be single | 8/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband says that he wants to be single. He says that their is nobody else that he is interested ... A: Toni, I am not sure that you can make someone do something they really do not want to do. If he has ... | |
| marriage | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been very sad with my self and start crying when my husband is always saying bad things about ... A: Rehana, If you want to get some help then I would suggest trying to find a pastor that can do ... | |
| Her sex drive is gone | 8/19/2009 |
| Q: I've been with my wife now for 22 yrs, we've been married 19 yrs God has blessed us both with 3 ... A: I suspect that this may be a medical issue. Women when they get older usually develop a higher sex ... | |
| Please Help | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 children (ages 4 and 8) from a ... A: Jen, I would not suggest that you divorce. I am very committed to couples working out their issues ... | |
| Please Help | 8/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 children (ages 4 and 8) from a ... A: Jen, I have to say this is a very unique situation which I really had to think about. You got ... | |
| is martial bliss obtainable?? | 8/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years. My husband has two children, 12 and 11, from a previous marriage ... A: Lisa, The best thing to do here is to make sure your son is ok with the move. If things are going ... | |
| I'm lost. | 8/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are 1 week away from our fist anniversary. We have no biological children together ... A: Mandi, The first thing I see here is you are very busy. When you get busy and have little time for ... | |
| is martial bliss obtainable?? | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 7 years. My husband has two children, 12 and 11, from a previous marriage ... A: Lisa, I believe that bringing the kids back together slowly would be a good idea. The kids will ... | |
| Should I stay or go | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 27 years, for about 20 years of our marriage my husband has gone ... A: Ida, This is hard to say, but you may be justified to leave. I would not recommend getting involved ... | |
| Trying to balance needs of husband and parents | 8/10/2009 |
| Q: we have three young children and have lived away from my parents the entire time we have been ... A: Jennifer, This is very delicate and needs to be handled very carefully. Your parents just want to ... | |
| End of the Road...what took me so long? | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ... A: I am so glad to hear that God was able to speak to you. This is a difficult time and God will give ... | |
| End of the Road...what took me so long? | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ... A: Brenda, I can see that you think that I am saying that you should not get a divorce. I am just ... | |
| Husband punishing me by not having sex | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm 21 years old and have been married for 2 years. My husband told me flat out that he was ... A: The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 ... | |
| End of the Road...what took me so long? | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: I have decided to divorce my husband of 20 years. Our problems are unique. He is 57 and I am 48. ... A: Brenda, What I see here is that you wanted to fulfill your vows you made. When we take those they ... | |
| I have trust issues | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, Hello I have a problem trusting my husband. We have a 17 month old daughter together. He ... A: Liz, I understand that with him being away why you might have the trust issues. When you discover ... | |
| Leviticus and Tatoos | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: Before we were married, my wife had tattoos. She wanted more and even mentioned a mild addiction to ... A: Steve, You sound like you are concerned about your wife and the tattoo issue. The best thing to do ... | |
| Leviticus and Tatoos | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: Before we were married, my wife had tattoos. She wanted more and even mentioned a mild addiction to ... A: Steve, You are correct in your interpretation of these verses. We do have Christian liberty and to ... | |
| Faith and Divorce | 7/30/2009 |
| Q: My wife kicked me out of the house 3 months ago speaking of divorce. In that time I have repeatedly ... A: Steve, I have to agree that God doesn’t like divorce. He made the provision for divorce in very ... | |
| Husband-Wife Relationship | 7/28/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for more 10 years, and have endured many years of silent treatment from my wife, ... A: If you believe that she may become very upset then you may enlist some help from someone she trusts. ... | |
| gaining back trust in your marriage | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 5.5 years and I are experiencing difficulty in our marriage. This past April, I ... A: Jen, I thought he may react this way. He feels that you think he is some kind of bad guy because he ... | |
| gaining back trust in your marriage | 7/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband of 5.5 years and I are experiencing difficulty in our marriage. This past April, I ... A: Jen, From what you have said here it sounds like your husband is telling you the truth. He sounds ... | |
| husband and trust issues | 7/22/2009 |
| Q: My husband is a professional and in his line of work he does work in various county court houses. He ... A: Sandra, I have to say that I believe that you may be adding a lot to this simple communication. I ... | |
| my family dont want me around because i tried to kill myself | 7/16/2009 |
| Q: well let me give you a quick run over of what happen. Jun 30 of this year i tried to kill myself ... A: Bill, I have to say that from what you have told me you are on the right path. You are in ... | |
| Help | 7/7/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I were divorced on paper 7 years ago, since then we've had doubts about that decision ... A: Angie, I can’t say for certain but I can give you an educated guess. It sounds like he has been ... | |
| second marriage, adult children and ex bf | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: First of all, I posted a few days ago and I may have given a wrong email address. It is similar to ... A: Bryan, I am sure that you have read my last advice. I had suggested that if she did not change that ... | |
| how to show love | 7/6/2009 |
| Q: I am the jealous type husband. Been married 4 years and i have come along way and relaxed with alot ... A: James, I am not sure that something you don’t like is reason to be jealous. Texting has become an ... | |
| second marriage | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: Well, here goes. I am 51 and my wife is 42. My previous marriage lasted for 24 years and i have two ... A: Bryan, You sound like you have come to the end of your wits. Your wife sounds like she has taken you ... | |
| husband's addiction | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: I caught my husband on the computer again looking at naked girls or women. Now we've been married ... A: Monika, I can understand that you would like to get your life back to normal. You have to look at ... | |
| Question about our anger | 6/16/2009 |
| Q: I have had a great husband for the last 3 years. I just had my secand child and things have gone ... A: Laura, Well this sounds like the second child has set things off. I am not saying that it is the ... | |
| trust issue & acusations | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: my wife constantly accuses me of being with other women and degrades me hates the idea of me going ... A: Syd, I have to say that the Bible does have answers, but it also needs to be useful. If she is ... | |
| Jelousy | 6/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are both Christians. We are both middle aged and have been married less than five ... A: Elma, I am sure that your psychiatrist has told you that to have feelings for your therapist is a ... | |
| Romance | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: I know that my husband loves me very much. But I dont receive hugs or kisses from. I do get very ... A: Merlin, I am not really sure that you can make someone romantic. I believe that if you can openly ... | |
| Marriage in Sepration | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have only been married 9 months and now we are separated. First let me lay some ... A: Steve, I understand that this is your first marriage, but you are 50 and should have a basic ... | |
| I'm confused | 5/27/2009 |
| Q: Where to start. I have been with my husband for 14yrs, but married 4. He had a really bad alcohol ... A: Alicia, I cannot imagine a pastor that would not want to save a marriage. I would always tell a ... | |
| husband and his friend and friend's wife. | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I am having marital problems and one of the big issues in our marriage is my husband's obsession ... A: Leah, This is a new one for me so here goes. The level of interference from this couple in your ... | |
| her and her ex | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: I recently saw an e-mail from my wife ex to her about the way they used to be. since then I've ... A: Rico, The only thing I can think about in this situation is they were married and it sounds like ... | |
| what to do? | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: My husband lies and even about stupid things. We have been together off and on over 10 years...I met ... A: Sandy, I can understand where you are with this man of yours. I am sure that if you feel he has ... | |
| Marital Woes | 5/19/2009 |
| Q: 2009-05-15 10:39:09 I am Tired of it! Having been married 10 years I thought I knew my dh.Instead ... A: Julie, I hear you saying that you are already done with him. I would be the first one to say that if ... | |
| wives and bars | 5/14/2009 |
| Q: I am to be married in 1 month to the most beautiful woman. We have a child together but live apart. ... A: Mario, The first question I have for you is this. If you are getting married in a month have you ... | |
| gift | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a nephew who he hasn’t spoken to or seen in MANY years. The reason is because of his ... A: Alexis, I can see your point very clear. I think that you have a valid point to your husband. $100 ... | |
| Can I trust my husband again? | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: Need a Christian Perspective: I have been married for almost 4 years. Our relationship used to be ... A: Patrice, I can see where you are and understand completely. He did not need to be all up in her ... | |
| Deployed | 5/9/2009 |
| Q: I have a wife and a daughter and have been married for one year. But for the last 9 months I have ... A: Leo, I think that you should expect your wife not to be involved with an inappropriate relationship ... | |
| i cant trust my husband | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: My husband & I met in college and have ben together for four yrs, we married a 1yr & a half ago and ... A: Ave, I had to read your question a few times. Something just struck me as odd. If your husband says ... | |
| Household out of control. | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: I am feeling terribly confused about wether I am the problem or I am being unreasonable. I am in a ... A: Nathan, The number one issue here seems to be your 12 year old step son. He sounds like he is out ... | |
| Everything is wrong | 4/23/2009 |
| Q: I was married once before to a drug addict. I was then a single parent with 3 children. I met and ... A: Carrie, I do not know your husband but he sounds like he is concerned. He is from my assessment not ... | |
| Husband tells me I'm mental and need help | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 25 years. All was great until he started working out of town ... A: Donna, If this behavior has been happening for a long time it may be hard to change. Your husband ... | |
| Mother-in-law destroying marriage | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for three years now and we've got a two year old daughter and I ... A: John, I am not sure what you can do to save the marriage. I have seen this many times before but it ... | |
| my husband treats me like I'm dumb | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: why does my husband always talk to me like I'm dumb? I love him very much, but, when I'm sad and ... A: Julia, I would have to say in this case here that you may want to start looking for a place to ... | |
| my husband treats me like I'm dumb | 4/1/2009 |
| Q: why does my husband always talk to me like I'm dumb? I love him very much, but, when I'm sad and ... A: Julia, This is a little hard because you didn't let me know what you have already tried so here ... | |
| Crossing the Boundaries | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: My widowed mother lives with my wife and family. I travel for work leaving my wife to being the care ... A: Billy, That helps much more with a little more info and a clear question. You and your wife should ... | |
| My Husband left me.... | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: I'm replying to the first reply I had gotten. My husband didn't go to the club because the woman ... A: Bev, When a man shows signs of caring that can be just habit. I know that sometimes we all do ... | |
| lost feelings | 3/25/2009 |
| Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ... A: Debbie, I am not sure that your feelings will leave you. I am sure that if you love him then you ... | |
| lost feelings | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ... A: Debbie, I have to say as a pastor I would want to meet with someone having these issues. If I would ... | |
| I am married but i want to leave and get out | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: How do go about this, I have married for 23yrs, now child is grown and left. all the hurt and is ... A: The first thing you need to do is to contact a lawyer. If you want any kind of protection then a ... | |
| Pursuing a woman | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: How does a man pursue a woman. How does a man show he is in love with her and interested in her. ... A: Dana, I do not think normal guys would ask a girlfriend for 4000 dollars. If he is asking you for ... | |
| Husbands ex girlfriends | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: My husband was dating this girl who was 8 months pregnant. They broke up when the child was 8 months ... A: Kim, You are right to feel the way you do here. He does need to not focus on this other women’s ... | |
| lost feelings | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: My husband left me for 7 wks and lived with another woman for most of that time. I prayed everyday ... A: Debbie, If he is telling you that he does not love you like a wife. The first thing to ask is does ... | |
| Money | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 20 years, 2 children. Our marriage was based upon the the love of Christ. ... A: Jeff, Consider this small comfort. When you have a right relationship with Christ then you gain ... | |
| how do I get through to him? | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years and always have been able to talk and ... A: Dot, The first and most important thing to remember is that he is not saved. I would not say that ... | |
| husband can't let go of ex | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: We have been married a little over two years. During this time he has repeatedly had difficulty ... A: Kare, The divided heart may be a psychological event because of the co-dependence. He needs to get ... | |
| Money | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: We have been married for 20 years, 2 children. Our marriage was based upon the the love of Christ. ... A: Jeff, The idea that you are admitting to being a hypocrite is a start. If you know that you are ... | |
| Marriage | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 21 years we have not had sex in 2 years. We are 46 and 47. We have ... A: BJ, I had to look up you sons disorder and found it to be very interesting. I have been around ... | |
| husband can't let go of ex | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: We have been married a little over two years. During this time he has repeatedly had difficulty ... A: Kare, He may just not be willing to let go because she made him feel like he could not do anything ... | |
| my cousin Chad | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: My cousin Chad is married with 3 young children ages 3 to 14. His wife is having an extramarrital ... A: Lori, The first thing he can do is to have her removed from any accounts that she is joint on. He ... | |
| whats in a denomination?? | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I am a baby in Christ. I attend an Apostolic/Holiness church and my pastor is always talking about ... A: Zach, I understand how you feel about this pastor. So many pastors that are old forget that the ... | |
| cheating | 2/24/2009 |
| Q: My husband has cheated on me through out our 45 year marriage. He has always flirted with woman ... A: Ann, I have no question here that I can see. I do encourage you to just remember that you have been ... | |
| Should I stay or go | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 27 years, for about 20 years of our marriage my husband has gone ... A: Ida, I am not sure that your husband is sure what he wants. he seems to have a personality that ... | |
| husband -wife relationship | 2/19/2009 |
| Q: My husband has a ffriend (girl) from last 10 years before our marriage too, she used to call him up ... A: Rudi, I think that you can solve this if he will stop spending so much time with her. He should ... | |
| Wife hates me 15 days after marriage and wants divorce | 2/18/2009 |
| Q: Now it has been 2 months after my marriage. Just two weeks after marriage wife went back to her home ... A: Alex, If she hates you and does not want to be with you there is not much you can do. If she is ... | |
| marriage | 2/17/2009 |
| Q: What I'm supposed to do when my husband is very disrespectfully, calling me names, never reveals our ... A: Ramesh, I am not sure that what I will tell you will help. I base my advice on the Word of God and ... | |
| Sex and Trust Issues | 2/11/2009 |
| Q: I have two issues. #1. My husband doesn't seem to want to have sex w/ me very often. It's pretty ... A: There are several men who are just shy and scared of sex. They are worried that they will not be ... | |
| marital problems | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: been married for 4 years having met my husband 10 years ago while he was still married but was not ... A: Emily, I am sure that times will get better. When we find times getting tough we have to depend on ... | |
| The Intimacy in my Marriage is Gone | 1/31/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I are both Bible believing Christians. We've been married about five years. I was 39 ... A: The best thing you can do at this point is have him get some medical help. He is at the age that he ... | |
| marriage | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: "I'm a Christian but rather still "new" in the lord. Back in 2005 I met a man who was from another ... A: Sandra, I am happy to give you some perspective. You did the right thing with the divorce. I would ... | |
| my marriage | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for about 2 years now. My husband has 3 children from a previous marriage and ... A: Lynessa, You do not deserve to be treated this way. If he wants you to stay then he needs to learn ... | |
| Husband hanging out with another woman | 1/25/2009 |
| Q: I was recently married this past June and have a 4 month old baby. My husband had asked me if it ... A: MIchelle, There would be a few questions I would ask you. Does he really enjoy mountain biking and ... | |
| Separation | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: My wife and me separated this past Saturday its being very hard on me I miss her so much and I ... A: Juan, I would suggest at this point to give her some space. If you want a chance to get her back ... | |
| relationship with husband | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: My husband swears he loves me but I cannot get him to spend any time with me at all. We live in a ... A: Jan, He sounds like he may just not know how to be close to you. He may think that he is just not ... | |
| A selfish, self-centered husband | 1/17/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We're both active in our church and Christians. ... A: Sheri, I am sure that he may be unintentional in his actions. Guys sometimes do not know how to sa ... | |
| Is this how a marriage typically ends? | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: Four months ago I came home from work to discover that my husband of 3 years (together for 7) had ... A: Jenny, I have not seen to many guys that would do this. He sounds like he did not have enough guts ... | |
| Debate over where to live! | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: My wife and I are newly married and expecting our first child. We live in the outer suburbs of a ... A: I would have to side with you. The city is really no place to live for a child. I know there a lot ... | |
| Marriage or Divorce | 1/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years although living with him for 4 years. He is an immigrant and we ... A: This sounds like a marriage that is in no way based on love and partnership. If you can leave him ... | |
| Ex-girlfriends and lovers | 1/7/2009 |
| Q: Do you think it is appropriate for a married man to continue to have a close relationship with an ex ... A: Rita, You are not out of line to expect him to end the long talks. If they need help from him and ... | |
| i don't like my husband | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: my husband and i just had our 8th anniversary a couple weeks ago. i am really confused because i do ... A: to answer your final question. I have seen people get divorced for porn because if you commit it in ... | |
| i don't like my husband | 1/5/2009 |
| Q: my husband and i just had our 8th anniversary a couple weeks ago. i am really confused because i do ... A: Elizabeth, This sounds like you need to speak to your pastor. This is just exactly what they are ... | |
| relaionship and sleeping with dog | 1/4/2009 |
| Q: Gladu - My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, it's all been fairly good although we have ... A: Barb, The only thing I can think of is to tell him the dog has to sleep somewhere else. I know that ... | |
| Does this constitute psychological abuse? | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I am writing to you because I am currently separated from my husband of 10 years, he left about 4 ... A: Charlene, The issues that you have sound like you are going in the right direction. If you both ... | |
| hello | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: I'm beginning to stress badly!!! Me and my wife of 8 months are struggling...things are going down ... A: Shaine, you gave me a lot of info about you but little about your wife. If you think she may have a ... | |
| is my husband dominant and a dictator? | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: tim "i am 28 1/2 old woman married for 4 1/2 yrs.I am an Indian citizen. i m not at all happy with ... A: Neha, I have to tell you that I do not understand your culture and can not answer to any of those ... | |
| cleaning | 12/19/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I are both 40 and married 15 years with 3 kids. She is a stay at home mom and I work ... A: Scott, I can understand how you feel and why you would expect her to clean. She may have never been ... | |
| How to make your husband a priority | 12/18/2008 |
| Q: 32 yrs. of marriage, an affair that lasted 1 year I had with a married man (2-1/2 yrs. ago), cut off ... A: Debbie, I would say that you just have to sit him down and ask him what he expects. Make him give ... | |
| Adultery and Forgiveness | 12/15/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 11 years. My story is like many others. I've had a normal, happy, ... A: Tony, I think you are right about the depression. She does need some major help and if she is not ... | |
| Help! Not so happy right now | 12/13/2008 |
| Q: Sorry for the length of this, but I think I need to give a little background. I have been married ... A: Laurie, I am sure that he may have just been telling the truth. I can agree that sometimes you ... | |
| spouse employed in corrections | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: How can I help my Christian husband cope with the life and atmosphere of working in a prison? He has ... A: Kim, He has to find a way to let go before he comes home. The best way to do that is to exercise or ... | |
| My husband. | 12/10/2008 |
| Q: My husband always blame for everything.Yesterday was our anniversary and I was talking about y ... A: Shauntay, I am sure that you are aware that your husband is not treating you very well. He is a man ... | |
| Husband wants a roommate | 12/4/2008 |
| Q: Married May 2008. I agreed to keep 50 yr-old male roommate in the house when we first got married, ... A: Elle, I am sure that you are not sure how to really speak to your husband. You have to let him know ... | |
| Wife says has resentment/Doesnt think I will change | 11/18/2008 |
| Q: she with her mother and me working to pay bills and such from a far. We have been having trouble, I ... A: Mark, I understand exactly where you are. My wife lives about 2 and 1/2 hours away and comes home ... | |
| My husband spends more time with friends than me and our children | 11/12/2008 |
| Q: How do I explain to my husband the importance of spending time with his wife and children versus his ... A: Missy, He sounds like he is having some trouble accepting his life with you and the kids. he wants ... | |
| grief and my husband | 11/10/2008 |
| Q: Three months ago we lost our 48 year old son to primary liver cancer. I am unable to hide my grief ... A: Gail, You have been through something that will take some time to deal with. I would not want you ... | |
| my wife | 11/4/2008 |
| Q: i have been married for 5 years and i have been with my wife for 8. for the first 6 years we never ... A: Bruce, I do understand where you are and how you are feeling. I felt the same way you do about my ... | |
| She is so close to her ex and I don't understand why | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my fiancee for 4 months. We're more like high school sweethearts. The only problem I ... A: Alex, She needs to end the relationship with this guy. If you are going to be able to have a chance ... | |
| Husband says he doesn't love me | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for three years. We have a two year old daughter, and he ... A: Nancy, I am really unclear what you are really asking. He sounds like he has maybe been talking to ... | |
| Ex-wife issues, are they my issues or his?? | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have only been married a couple of months after dating for about 2 years. This is ... A: Deb, It sounds like he is just trying to hold on to his old life. he needs to completely end it ... | |
| how to reconnect | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: It is 3 days from my 9th anniversary, and I feel so far away from my husband. We are a christian ... A: Amber, I am sure that this may sound like a pastor answer but here goes. I would recommend that you ... | |
| Loveless Marriage | 10/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 children. Before we got married, I had ... A: Mary, The first thing you have to do is to speak to your husband about all this. he needs to know ... | |
| Husband's authority over wife | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: We are newly married Christians. My husband decided to "exercise his authority" over me in a trial ... A: Meichell, You husband needs to understand the difference between submissive and authority. The ... | |
| my marraige | 10/27/2008 |
| Q: recently I talked to a family memeber about an issue I was having with my husband and she in turn ... A: The only thing I can think of is to prove it. You will have to show that the brother is lying and ... | |
| marital problem | 10/23/2008 |
| Q: i work 60 hrs. a week.my husband stays home with the kids after school.he leaves all the housework ... A: K.S. I have to take a page from my own life here. I did a lot of the things your husband did. I ... | |
| married for 24 yrs but thinking of leaving | 10/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 24 years, and we have 6 children, for the past 22 years my husband has slept ... A: Lulu, The chances are that he will continue to try more and more depraved types of porn. When and ... | |
| married for 24 yrs but thinking of leaving | 10/21/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 24 years, and we have 6 children, for the past 22 years my husband has slept ... A: Lulu, You have really thought this out and already said many of the things I would advise. Your ... | |
| wife has no time for us | 10/20/2008 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for about 3 1/2 years. My wife works a lot. so much I feel like a ... A: MIke, She sounds like she is trying to avoid taking care of your baby. Some women do not want to be ... | |
| marriage | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: I think a lot about my husband and myself breaking off our 5 year marriage, then I remember my kids. ... A: April, The only thing you could do at this point is to call his bluff. If he thinks that you will ... | |
| Marriage | 10/10/2008 |
| Q: Do a wife come before everyone else except for God? A: Antoinette, The book of Ephesians tells men that they are to love their wives as their self. We are ... | |
| I need help! | 10/9/2008 |
| Q: I am unsure of how to proceed with my wife. Quite frankly, if not for our 2 year old daughter, I ... A: Chris, Your wife sounds like she may need to have some major counseling. I understand where you are ... | |
| wife has a male friend she keeps calling | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: I was wondering about my wifes relationship with a single male friend. This guy is a friend of my ... A: You may just need to confront him. If he has any honor then he will see that you love your wife and ... | |
| my wife is driving me crazy and treating me as a child | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: Why my wife keep accusing me of things I am not doing and why do she keep treating me as I am a ... A: Charles, The best Christian advice I can give is this. She needs to respect you as head of ... | |
| Out all night | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 6 years.He has been to AA for drinking and quit.But recently ... A: Amanda, You sound to me that you have already handled the situation. He may need to really consider ... | |
| Not sure if Im right or wrong in this matter | 10/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been married 25 years to my husband, we have 2 daughters, ages 17 and 18 years of age. My ... A: Sandra, I agree that Bill needs to be more responsible. You are not being harsh and he needs to ... | |
| WIFE | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: I AM NOT WORKING RIGHT NOW SO I AM AROUND THE HOUSE MORE THAN NORMAL, BUT EVEN WHEN I WORK, MY WIFE ... A: Brian, She is trying to get a better job I am sure that is why she is taking classes. The best ... | |
| Cheating Spouse... | 9/20/2008 |
| Q: Tim, I was informed about a month ago now, that my husband of 8 months was cheating. I was told by ... A: You will need to start by just simply giving him the gospel. This will give him the truth and the ... | |
| WIFE | 9/19/2008 |
| Q: I AM NOT WORKING RIGHT NOW SO I AM AROUND THE HOUSE MORE THAN NORMAL, BUT EVEN WHEN I WORK, MY WIFE ... A: Brian, The first thing you have to do is to find a way to ignore what she is doing. Make it appear ... | |
| Cheating Spouse... | 9/18/2008 |
| Q: Tim, I was informed about a month ago now, that my husband of 8 months was cheating. I was told by ... A: Georgette, If you truly do not want to leave him then don't. You never have to have a divorce, that ... | |
| Is He Telling The Truth???????? | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband had an affair that started on May13. I was in China for 2 weeks when he had me her. She ... A: Susan, I am not really sure what you are asking so here goes. He sounds like he is hiding something ... | |
| Celebrating special occasion | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married for 15 years & we're both Christians. He's not very thoughtful & ... A: Christel, Well he should at least try to make a date for just the two of you to be alone and make ... | |
| Celebrating special occasion | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married for 15 years & we're both Christians. He's not very thoughtful & ... A: Christel, You should get treated special on your birthday. You are not wrong for feeling this way, ... | |
| its our marriage going to last? | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: . im 20 i been married for almost 5 month and it seems like for a long time.. my husband and i been ... A: Massiel, The first thing you have to remember is that marriage is not a sprint. Marriage is a ... | |
| Stay or go? | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: I've been married for 7 years. We have a 19 month old and I am 3 months pregnant. My husband ... A: Tami, The wise thing to do would be to stay. When you look at the big sceme him slipping and ... | |
| Husband has no interest in sex | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have only been married for 2.5 months. We dated for about 2 years prior and had a ... A: Anne, This is very hard to answer without his side. You need to have him checked out. If he is ... | |
| My girlfiend is getting distant. | 9/3/2008 |
| Q: I met this girl over a year ago. We had been working together at a Shoprite (we're both 21). On our ... A: James, you need to let her go because she is about to enter into a different world. I know from ... | |
| do I wait | 9/1/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He left a marriage before we got together, ... A: Sam, If they are still married then he should try to go back to his wife. You both may have been ... | |
| Confussion | 8/31/2008 |
| Q: How do i prove to my husband that i have been faithfl to him? He has gone beyond the limits to ... A: Lori, He sounds like he has some really major trust issues. He needs to seek some major counseling. ... | |
| Confussion | 8/30/2008 |
| Q: How do i prove to my husband that i have been faithfl to him? He has gone beyond the limits to ... A: Lori, I am not sure what you are really asking. The only thing I can think of is maybe ask him for ... | |
| unhappy marriage-newly separated | 8/28/2008 |
| Q: I will try to keep this brief, but there is a lot of background info. My seventh anniversary is in 3 ... A: Charlene, The information you have given me has painted a clear picture. You feel that you have an ... | |
| boy problems | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: i had this ex boyfriend last year, Joey. and he was a little older then me, and we went out for ... A: Kori, I know that at 15 you feel that this is the guy for you. You have a few years before you can ... | |
| Wife has fallen out of love | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Tim, March of 2005, my wife admitted to having been in an affair for several years. Initially, ... A: Chuck, You are not wrong for feeling thrown away. She has to realize that she is the one that ... | |
| boy problems | 8/25/2008 |
| Q: i had this ex boyfriend last year, Joey. and he was a little older then me, and we went out for ... A: Kori, Not knowing your age I have one thing. You need to listen to your parents. They are looking ... | |
| Abused Spouse Support for Husband | 8/22/2008 |
| Q: My wife was sexually abused as a child. To make a long story short, I signed us up for counciling ... A: Phil, I will give you a list of books that you will be able to find online or maybe Amazon. ... | |
| Husband is not spending enough quality/alone time with me | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, I am a recent newlywed and haved lived with my husband for 8 months. He has a very, very ... A: Amy, You are right to belive that he feels that he does not to do anything special. He has found ... | |
| My Feelings Don't Matter | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: My fiancee and I have been dating for a little over a year. We're getting married in 6 weeks. I ... A: Niki, You are right about the abandoned issue. He has never been taught that a mother/woman needs ... | |
| Family Tree - Online | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: We recently began using a family tree online service to keep our family in touch. My fiance is ... A: Scott, If you have children with your ex then she is in the family tree. Your fiancé may not ... | |
| Social life | 8/6/2008 |
| Q: Glad, I am 57 years old.I am still in good shape and try to keep myself attractive.I work part time ... A: Linda, This sounds like he is just a little insecure about you. He wants you to know that he ... | |
| the ex and him are going on vacation together with their kid!!! | 8/5/2008 |
| Q: I started dating this guy who has a child with his ex. The child is turning 5 years old soon and he ... A: Sara, The only reason that I can think that they would want to take the child together is for the ... | |
| shall i wait or let him go? | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: Me and my husband has been married for 5 yrs now and then last yr. he was cheating on me. We broke ... A: Jane, You need to be strong and just make what you want clear to him. If he wants to have you back ... | |
| credit cards | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: i recently filed for a divorce on grounds on physical abuse after 11 years. We have a six year old ... A: Elishia, I do not really know the answer to this question. If you are on the account you should ... | |
| mariange | 8/1/2008 |
| Q: my husband and I have been mariage for about 1 yr and a half now. We meet at work and soon fell in ... A: Sarah, The first thing you need to do is to get into some good counseling. The balance that you ... | |
| Ex wife problems | 7/31/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for seven months. We're both in our late 40's. My problem is ... A: Sandy, Sounds like your husband needs to decide who he wants to be with. If he is married to you ... | |
| privacy in a marriage | 7/23/2008 |
| Q: How much privacy is normal in a marriage. My husband has had an affair during our short marriage ... A: Tammy, There is a certain level of privacy in marriage. I do not check my wives e-mail and cell ... | |
| unfaithful wife | 7/22/2008 |
| Q: my wife has told me she loves another man and she wants out our marrage she told me she cares for me ... A: Jose, Your wife has already moved on and it sounds like you may just need to allow her to move on ... | |
| I'm born again, my husband is an atheist | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: Well, for starters a little backgound. I was raised in a christian home & until recently (past 2 ... A: Ann, You are doing the right thing. He will not fully understand you and your beliefs until He has ... | |
| im getting married but i am very jealous! | 7/16/2008 |
| Q: my name is Joy, im 19 and I am getting married at the end of the summer in August, but I have a real ... A: Joy, You need to make sure that you speak to your husband to be about this soon. He needs to know ... | |
| marriage | 7/13/2008 |
| Q: I dont know if my wife really loves me like i love her..we have been married for 1 year.i work ... A: Bo, Women are a mystery to us all. They are so much different and hard to understand that sometimes ... | |
| Feelings of Inadequacy? -coping through hardship to maintain commitment | 7/12/2008 |
| Q: I've lived on my own since @ 22 (literally alone in a rented room or together with ... A: Mark, You sound like you are at a turning point. The best course of action at this point would be ... | |
| Marriage Separation | 6/25/2008 |
| Q: Last year in May I found excessive text message. I tracked them back to March and there were many ... A: Debbie, The question you have to ask is do I want to stay married or get divorced. Your husband has ... | |
| married but living alone | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 18 YEARS AND HAVE ONE CHILD. WHEN MY SON WAS AROUND 2 MY ... A: Lynn, The first thing you have to do is to reconnect with your husband. he has lost out on so much ... | |
| Marriage Issues | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, My husband & I are both 40, we've been married 8yrs and have 1 child. I'm not sure that ... A: Lynda, You do have a chance to save both your marriage and yourself. You need to get some ... | |
| me and my wife | 6/19/2008 |
| Q: please help me i feel as if him going out of my mind with worry and grief .my wife and i have been ... A: Ken, If you want to have a chance with her this is what needs to happen. You both need to be ... | |
| Husband's Behavior | 6/12/2008 |
| Q: I've been married to my husband coming up on 3 years. Before that I dated him for close to 5 years. ... A: Linny, The type of behavior that he is displaying is a bit unusual. He is either seeing someone ... | |
| Confused! | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I met in 2003. We began dating and after three months of dating seriously we decided ... A: Dee, You sound like you have already made your decision. You have moved forward and put him and his ... | |
| arguments over dogs | 6/8/2008 |
| Q: I have a small but big problem and hope that it can be helped. I've been browsing and looking for ... A: David, I can understand that you would not want a dog. This is one of those issues that should not ... | |
| diffrence of hights ? | 6/7/2008 |
| Q: One guy wants to ask my hand, i like all his qualities, but something make me not sure. He is a ... A: Miss, I really do not understand your measurements. I deal in inches and pounds. I can see that ... | |
| Celibate marraige | 6/6/2008 |
| Q: My husband & I have been married 26 years. In the first 16, sex was very infrequent, with my ... A: Ruth, The number one thing you need to do is get your husband to the doctor. I would think that he ... | |
| my husband lies and deceives me | 6/2/2008 |
| Q: i recently started to read my husbands emails,they are inappropriate as support emotional ... A: Sharon, The first thing to remember is that you have to first examine your own behavior and ... | |
| silent treatment | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: Gladu, Hi,I hope you're fine and in good condition.,I would like to seek ur advise regarding my ... A: Hunnie, The first thing to remember is that most guys do not like confrontation. He may just think ... | |
| Why does my wife fuss all the time? | 5/31/2008 |
| Q: What makes my wife fuss all the time?She takes my smallest mistake and turns it into a mountain. I ... A: William, After 21 years of marriage the best advice I can give you is this. Listen to your wife she ... | |
| husband has lost interest in sex life and time alone with wife | 5/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ... A: Susan, The best way to proceed at this point is to give you husband a ultimatum. He needs to ... | |
| husband has lost interest in sex life and time alone with wife | 5/29/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for almost 4 years now, in the beginning the sex was great but ... A: Susan, This sounds like your husband has forgot that you have the need for intimacy more then even ... | |
| Paying Bills | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: My wife tends to think that it is my sole responsibility to pay all of the bills and the money she ... A: I am going to give you some scripture on husbands and wives. No where does it say the man has to pay ... | |
| Paying Bills | 5/7/2008 |
| Q: My wife tends to think that it is my sole responsibility to pay all of the bills and the money she ... A: Reg, I understand where you are coming from. I also have this same issue. I take care of most of ... | |
| smoking pot | 5/6/2008 |
| Q: I have been caught smoking pot again by my wife she told me the last time this would be the last ... A: Ed, The best thing for you to do is to stop smoking Pot. When you get the urge do something else. I ... | |
| Re: Not feeling the love | 5/4/2008 |
| Q: I saw an answer you gave to a woman that actually sort of sounded like you thought divorce was an ... A: Lisa, I try to give answers based on the available information. I also do not usually suggest ... | |
| how can i help him forgive | 5/3/2008 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married for 4 years. our marriage wasn't perfect but we were happy.last ... A: Melisa, This may not be all that easy. You have both done wrong and you are both going to have to ... | |
| My Marriage | 5/2/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem. My husband and I have been together for 16 yrs.My problem is that he does not seem ... A: Betty, The best thing you can do is not to dwell on the bad look at the good. If he is spending all ... | |
| marriage problems | 5/1/2008 |
| Q: me and my husband have been married for 8 years and been fighting on and off now the whole marriage ... A: Kitty, You have every right to want to protect your children. I know that when my daughter did not ... | |
| Pregnancy | 4/30/2008 |
| Q: My wife is 5 months pregnant and looking more beautiful than ever. It seems like every time we talk, ... A: Andrew, During pregnancy women do have different ideas and their personality may be different from ... | |
| Wife is Jealous of Friends | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: Let me give you my scenario and then I will ask you my question. My husband and I have been married ... A: Monica, Wanting to spend time with your husband is fine. jealousy is not a good thing, but you ... | |
| seperation | 4/24/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 13 years. Just recently he has been in a depression and has ... A: Laurie, If he is abusive then you need to get away from him. There is never a good reason to hit ... | |
| I'm Hurting | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: My husabnd left me with a 3yr old and ever since he left it's been lonely and it's been hard for me ... A: I do not think you are a fool you just want things to work out for the better. let him go and move ... | |
| My husband's temper | 4/23/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my husband two years and in that time I've never been afraid of him but for him ... A: Delilah, he sounds like he is showing signs of Bi-polar personality. he has highs and lows. The ... | |
| Wait or go... | 4/15/2008 |
| Q: ..I have been married for almost 3 years now and I have been w/ my husband for about 4 years. When ... A: Vee, You sound like you have already made up your mind. He has not been able to really see what he ... | |
| HELP! I HAVE AFFECTION ISSUES | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a serious relationship for 7 years now with someone who I know is the one for me. ... A: Philishia, Well the first advice I have to give is simple. You need to be married to be thinking ... | |
| my husband | 4/2/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been arguing so much more since the birth of our son back in Jan. 07'. He'll ... A: Tammi, Your husband sounds like he may be going through some kind of depression. he is showing the ... | |
| my husband | 3/28/2008 |
| Q: i even started to think he was cheating on me he stared coming home from work later not to much ... A: Neva, Just from what you have described it sounds like he is depressed. He is displaying all the ... | |
| Wife doesn't want to have children | 3/14/2008 |
| Q: Good morning, My wife and I have been married for a year, and both love each other more every day. ... A: Paul, You wife needs to get with some good reproductive counseling. She needs to understand what ... | |
| Big Changes! | 3/12/2008 |
| Q: I'm 22, I've been living with my boyfriend and his daughter for 2 years. I moved from family, ... A: Chris, If you are going to school and will not be close enough to live together then you will find ... | |
| Husband not wanting to attend church | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: I've been saved for over 15 yrs. my husband of 8 years has been saved for 8 yrs. Has expressed no ... A: Yolie, You can not hold yourself responsible for him. He is making his choice clear. You still need ... | |
| Trying to Turn Marriage Around | 3/11/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu - My wife and I have been married for almost 14 years (we have no children). It's been a ... A: JG, I think that you are heading in the right direction. Women need to know that you are going to ... | |
| husband wants friendship with woman from his past that he says he never had sex with. | 3/5/2008 |
| Q: I was devasted today to learn that my husband had been emailing back and forth with a woman who was ... A: Anna, You may be over reacting a little. I know that I had friends that were girls and I have ... | |
| Husband upset about cop-calling | 3/3/2008 |
| Q: Two months ago my husband and I got into an argument about me spending too much money on a birthday ... A: Brealyn, I do not think you were wrong to call the cops. if someone has become violent then they ... | |
| How to rebuild trust, sex life. etc | 2/28/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I are christians. We have been married for 12 years and have 3 children. I caught ... A: Carla, You sound to me that you are doing all the right things. The marriage counseling. The faith ... | |
| Husband's lack of character | 2/27/2008 |
| Q: I filed for divorce one year ago after 11 years and we have a four year old daughter. From the ... A: Shannon, The bazaar behavior is something that will be a life long thing. Continue to be strong for ... | |
| Just don't know | 2/26/2008 |
| Q: I am 37, my husband is 34. We have been married for almost 8 years. During the 8 yr marriage we have ... A: Lisa, You are very away of your situation. So many people have no idea of what is going on. You ... | |
| abusive wife/ should i reconcile | 2/24/2008 |
| Q: i have been married for 4yrs, my wife and i have two girls, ages one and two. i am a computer tech ... A: Dame, She needs to make the first move toward reconciliation. She has been the one to start and it ... | |
| extended family | 2/23/2008 |
| Q: my husband & I have been married for more than 3 years but living all this time in different ... A: Di, I am not one to advocate divorce, but in your case this is what I suggest. If you have not ... | |
| Wife wants a Divorce | 2/16/2008 |
| Q: First let me start out by saying both my wife and I are Christians. On July 20, 2007 my wife left me ... A: Bennie, You have to do what is right for you and your family. If you can relocate to where your ... | |
| how to leave | 2/12/2008 |
| Q: i am in a 7 year marriage/10 year relationship to an unfaithful husband. he constantly cheats all ... A: Lisa, You need to tell him that you are going to leave and the house needs to be sold. If he ... | |
| How Husband Treats Me VS How He Treats Others | 2/2/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for many years, it seems I am always hoping and praying that my marriage will ... A: Lisa, The first thing I would suggest is to get some time for yourself. Tell him that you are going ... | |
| Marriage/submission | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: My husband and I have been separated for 6 months, after many years of mental and verbal abuse. ... A: Angela, He is committing just as big a sin as you are so he has no ground to stand on. You are to ... | |
| Marriage advice and how to deal with it | 1/23/2008 |
| Q: my husband left me 6 weeks ago now, saying that we were over and that was it,he is staying in a ... A: Dawn, I believe that you husband may just need to be away from you for a while. I think you should ... | |
| Porn | 1/16/2008 |
| Q: I am a 21 year old christian and am to be married this August. My fiance told me before we started ... A: Jessica, Guys do some times have a little bit of an issue with visual stimuli. He can control it if ... | |
| My wife will not let me bring the kids to see my mother | 1/15/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 10 years. My wife has never cared for my mother. It got bad when my son was ... A: Mike, you are in a tough situation. I have been there in a way. My wife and mother did not get ... | |
| Calloused Heart | 1/11/2008 |
| Q: My husband Michael is a great father, devout Christian, excellent employee for his company, he's ... A: Lavica, The loss of libido in males is usually because of low testosterone levels. This is ... | |
| why my husband refuse to discuss the 20 yrs. affair with the same women | 1/8/2008 |
| Q: my husband had a 20year affair with the clean up woman at work.ijust found out 6months ago he refuse ... A: Bonnie, If you want to save the marriage, then you have to be willing to seek counseling. Start ... | |
| step children are ruining my marriage | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for almost two years now. My husband and I both had 4 children from our previous ... A: Jody, The best thing you can do at this point is to get some counseling. if you truly want to save ... | |
| My wife online | 1/7/2008 |
| Q: My wife has been openly flirting online with a man from Morocco on Skype. I found his phone number ... A: Mike, She should not be flirting with guys online. This is not right behavior. Make it clear how ... | |
| Calloused Heart | 1/4/2008 |
| Q: My husband Michael is a great father, devout Christian, excellent employee for his company, he's ... A: Lavica, I am not sure what to say. I did not see any question, so here goes. I feel that in love ... | |
| Marriage Intimacy | 1/3/2008 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, Thanks for reading my inquiry. I have been married to my wife for almost two years. ... A: Juan, With not to much to go on there is little to say. The first thing I would think is that there ... | |
| why wouldn't he stop? | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: I was in a relationship with a man who would follow around or go out of his way to have a better or ... A: Marie, If you have not taken the final step of divorce please think about it. I understand how you ... | |
| Concerned about newly uncovered lie from husband | 1/2/2008 |
| Q: To give a quick background: My husband and I have only been married a month. We dated for a year ... A: I can understand how you feel. You are right to tell him that this is not appropriate for him to ... | |
| How to recover from rejection | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: We have been married for 12 years and are both saved Christians. We have not been able to have a ... A: Andre, I know that rejection can be hard to over come. When you get turned down so many times you ... | |
| Lack of sex after mariage | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 3 years. My wife and I rarely have sex. It seems as if, our sex ... A: Tony, The first thing I have to ask is this. Have you ever been to a counselor that specializes in ... | |
| I want to sleeping next to my Wife again.. | 12/31/2007 |
| Q: I will hope to explain my concerns without writing a novel (smile)…This is very hard for me to ... A: Otis, I really feel for you and I understand. My son slept with us until he was about 5. The ... | |
| Am I over reacting | 12/28/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 20 years. We do not have children together, however he helped to ... A: Carol, I am not sure what you are overreacting to here. I guess I have to ask who owns the company ... | |
| my husband says he is not sure if he wants to work on our marriage | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married a little over 4 years now. Recently he lost his brother at 42 ... A: Sandi, If you are in a church then seek out the pastor. This should hopefully be an option for you. ... | |
| im a possessive husband | 12/27/2007 |
| Q: how do i over come being possessive,my wife is hot and outgoing and i an a hermitt crab,i think it ... A: Sean, I hope that you have been in counseling for these issues. The problems sound like they can be ... | |
| Disinterested in sex | 12/18/2007 |
| Q: I am a strong believer in Christ and I have been for five years now. My husband is also a Christian, ... A: Kristina, I understand where you are, and I hope I can help. You need to see sex as the most ... | |
| work | 12/11/2007 |
| Q: Me and my wife have been together for almost four years now. I started working as a stock broker and ... A: Jason, You do have some tough decisions to make here. She wants to have the money and you at the ... | |
| my wife | 12/8/2007 |
| Q: I'm 38 and my wife is 53.. she gets so upset with the things that I say.. It's getting whereI can't ... A: Michael, Try to remember that she is 15 years younger so her point of view may be a little ... | |
| My man wants visits his kids and stay overnight at his former women's houses. | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: Mr.K and I have just started dating but we have already talked about living together. I love him and ... A: I think you need to get away from the entire situation. This guy is trying to have as many women as ... | |
| My husbands ex-girlfriend sends him cards | 12/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband & I are christians and we recently had an argument about the fact that his ex-girlfriend ... A: Michele, I can understand your feelings. I also want you to think about one issue. He know this ... | |
| Insecure Husband | 12/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 12 years with 3 kids. The past couple years he's had some health issues. Since ... A: Kelly, I do not think that he really needs counseling. He just needs to realize that you both ... | |
| sexless marriage | 12/1/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, I've been married for 13 years. My husband and I have "survived" a great deal...extended ... A: Carly, The first thing to do is to get to the root of the issue. He has decided not to have sex. ... | |
| I don't want a divorce | 11/29/2007 |
| Q: what do you do when one person wants out of the marriage and the other desperately wants to save it? ... A: Tammy, You said it right at the last. He is following his own desires. He is not concerned about ... | |
| trust | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: I am 23, and have been in one lonterm relationship, and several not lasting more than 3 months.The ... A: Rhonda, Just from what you have told me it sounds like you may need some time alone. I hear this ... | |
| husband (apathy) | 11/26/2007 |
| Q: we have been parried for 31 years. we are Christians who go to church faithful, and active in the ... A: The skoll could be affecting his libido. he needs to see a neurologist and make sure that he does ... | |
| committing to marriage | 11/21/2007 |
| Q: I am divorced and engaged to a man I knew when we were children. I left my husband of 16 years ... A: Angie, I am sorry for the delay but with the holiday this is the first chance I have had to get to ... | |
| My husband seems uninterested in sex | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for two months. We are both Christians who love the Lord, and my ... A: Diane, I do not believe that your husband is cheating on you. It sounds like he is just very tired ... | |
| question | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: I need some advice...I'm wondering if I'm terribly insecure and making a big deal out of nothing, or ... A: Erin, I have a feeling that you may just need to wait for a while and see if it may be more of ... | |
| Husband wants out | 11/14/2007 |
| Q: For the last several months my husband and I have been fighting horribly. he says its over my ... A: Michele, I think that in this case you may have the justification for divorce. God made this ... | |
| Husband wants out | 11/12/2007 |
| Q: For the last several months my husband and I have been fighting horribly. he says its over my ... A: Michele, I do not believe that God has given you nothing. This may be difficult to hear but God has ... | |
| is husband cheating? | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband said that he was going to a ball game last Friday. On Mondy, I drove his vehicle and ... A: You have to make a decision. If you truly believe that he is cheating then confront him. Then you ... | |
| Extended Family | 11/7/2007 |
| Q: How can I get my husband to move our family to Florida where my whole extended family lives. I feel ... A: Debbie, I do not know what his job situation is so it makes it harder to give you complete advice. ... | |
| marriage | 11/1/2007 |
| Q: When my husband and I had a fight and he was yelling at me, I tried to calm him down by putting my ... A: The mouth thing is probably not a good idea. I know that if someone put their hand over my mouth it ... | |
| TRUST/FREEDOM IN MARRIAGE | 10/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been married going on 6 years. Have always been uncomfortable with having friendships of the ... A: Jill, I can see this from both points. He wants to be trusted and that is to be understood. You ... | |
| selfish husband | 10/29/2007 |
| Q: I think my husband is very selfish....I am so unhappy and think about divorce often. When he is ... A: Jennifer, I am not sure how to answer. What should I do is a little open ended, but here goes. He ... | |
| sex | 10/27/2007 |
| Q: what if my partner won't have sex with me when I ask A: Frances, God tells us that sex is for marriage and that it should be done to strengthen the bond we ... | |
| Looking for two answers to marriage questions | 10/25/2007 |
| Q: I've had them on my mind for quite a while, and I was wondering what one might say when applying the ... A: Emily, Thanks for choosing me to ask. First to have sex outside of marriage is sin. Just because ... | |
| Husband is smoking marihuana | 10/24/2007 |
| Q: I need some advice on what to do regarding my husband smoking marihuna. We have been married for a ... A: First I am sorry it took me so long to get back to you. He is faced with an addiction and he needs ... | |
| Rape | 10/10/2007 |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right section to ask but I will anyway. My wife was raped not too long ... A: Tom, I will keep you i my prayers. God is the only one that can get you both through this very hard ... | |
| Rape | 10/8/2007 |
| Q: I don't know if this is the right section to ask but I will anyway. My wife was raped not too long ... A: Tom, There is little that I can say to make you feel better. I do not know what I would do in the ... | |
| help | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married for 8 years we have three children whou are active in sports and ... A: Lil, Not knowing any thing more I will just give you my best assessment. If you can try to cut back ... | |
| dominating and egoistic husband | 10/4/2007 |
| Q: My husband is very dominating and has a big ego. He does things and make decisions without telling ... A: MS, I will keep you in my prayers. I would just encourage you to try to get away from the ... | |
| SEPERATION? | 10/2/2007 |
| Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ... A: You are right he needs to show some form of sacrifice. Give him some time and let him show that he ... | |
| SEPERATION? | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ... A: Krystal, When it comes to saving a marriage, I believe in flexibility. If he is willing to seek ... | |
| Marriage | 10/1/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married 25 years wonderful years he is 53. in 2001 he started not ... A: Melissa, The first thing you need to do is to find the source of his displeasure. He is most likely ... | |
| sex/marriage | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. In that time we've had 2 children. My last child was ... A: Peter, There is not much else I can say. She needs to find what in her life is missing. When a ... | |
| SEPERATION? | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: I AM A 28 YR. OLD MOTHER OF 3. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE I WAS 12 YRS. OLD. HE FELT ... A: Krystal, If he truly wants to work out your issues then start with counseling. if you do not want ... | |
| Marital Issues | 9/28/2007 |
| Q: I want to be explanatory so you get the whole picture. I work full time and my wife is a homemaker, ... A: Sean, There is not much left for you to do at this point. She sounds like she loves the kids but ... | |
| sex/marriage | 9/26/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been married for 3 years. In that time we've had 2 children. My last child was ... A: Peter, You are right to feel some disconnect. If you have not had sex on a regular basis at this ... | |
| After the affair | 9/24/2007 |
| Q: This will be long... This is how it goes. Married presently with two kids and my wife had a 3 month ... A: Ben, With your past history with this woman you may both be better off away from each other. Stay ... | |
| betrayed | 9/22/2007 |
| Q: I am 43 and have been married to the same man for 21 years. I found out a couple of months ago that ... A: Tammy, You sound like you have taken the right steps. He also sounds like he is trying to make ... | |
| betrayed | 9/20/2007 |
| Q: I am 43 and have been married to the same man for 21 years. I found out a couple of months ago that ... A: Tammy, The feelings that you have a normal. He has betrayed you to a point. You feel that he has ... | |
| Pastor and pastor's wife disagree | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I are running a ministry that includes a men's homeless shelter since Feb. 2007. One ... A: Deborah, I can feel for you because I to was once a major procrastinator. I have a type A wife that ... | |
| He loves me..He loves me not | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: This is something i didnt wanted to share with anyone,but after reading a lot of such questions,i ... A: I am glad you asked this question. Most wives just try to change their husbands and forget that we ... | |
| supporting my husband | 9/18/2007 |
| Q: we were at my 6 year old son's soccer game and another kid got kicked in the face with the ball and ... A: Carolyn, I think you were right. If he was wrong he should have said he was sorry. Men so often ... | |
| My husband and my mother | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: My husband and my mother have been arguing. They are both stubborn and do not agree on a lot of ... A: Angie, My mother in law passed away when I was married only 3 years. I was also in Germany for most ... | |
| husband has hot temper | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I have been married 6 years to a wonderful man ( when he isn't angry.) We are Christians and try ... A: Nancy, You were justified in asking him to leave if he could not control his anger. He needs to ... | |
| do I want to stay married?? | 9/17/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ... A: Loretta, If you are looking for some kind of group to attend for help, you should look if there is ... | |
| do I want to stay married?? | 9/16/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ... A: Loretta, Then it sounds like you should maybe try a trial separation. This way you are not there ... | |
| do I want to stay married?? | 9/15/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for 24 years, I have so much HURT, I pretty much stayed married because of the ... A: Loretta, If he truly loves you he will step up and show you. He needs to make those steps to show ... | |
| marriage | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: My husband spends every free minute rather with friends than with me or at home. I don't feel its ... A: Linda, Not knowing his age or how long you have been married would help. I can suggest that you ... | |
| no passion in this marriage | 9/10/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu, thanks in advance for you answer. When we married 23 years ago, my wife was a virgin but ... A: Joe, I understand everything about not wanting to talk to the pastor about this. I am also in that ... | |
| Spouse has gay best friends | 9/5/2007 |
| Q: I just got married to a beautiful lady (Kay) and love her very much. When we started dating she ... A: Mark, I give you a lot of credit for the restraint you have been able to show to this point. You ... | |
| Insecure Husband | 8/30/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 4 years and my husband does not trust me. I have never given him any ... A: Donna, I do understand where you are at this point. I would like to suggest one more thing. I would ... | |
| Insecure Husband | 8/29/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 4 years and my husband does not trust me. I have never given him any ... A: Donna, You are not the problem. I am sure you know that so let me see what I can do. he needs to ... | |
| My wife is overreacting | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: I just have a question about my wife. I can do the smallest thing in the world and it pisses her ... A: John, I am sure that you have sat her down and spoken to her about this. She may not realize what ... | |
| Marriage advice needed | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: Please help. Both my wife and I are of Indian origin. I’ve been married for 3 years, but have been ... A: It is not wrong to stay with her and continue to help her understand what it means to have that ... | |
| sex | 8/26/2007 |
| Q: I want sex alot from my wife all the time, and I told her that I don't want to be selfish and wait o ... A: The first thing you need to understand that yes the Bible does state that your body is not your own. ... | |
| Husband always going out | 8/25/2007 |
| Q: I am 22 yrs old and have married for just over a yr. Before I got married, I knew my husband was an ... A: Cathy, I know that at his age he is trying to live out his wild side and thinks that he has to do ... | |
| blended family | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for ten years to a great man. I had three children from two previous ... A: This sounds like you need to get into get together as a family involved in church and allow some ... | |
| Marriage advice needed | 8/24/2007 |
| Q: Please help. Both my wife and I are of Indian origin. I’ve been married for 3 years, but have been ... A: Varghese, I would always say to try to work things out first. As a Christian you should try to find ... | |
| Wifes lack of affection | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: I am a father of 2 and have been married for 10 years to my high school sweetheart. Overall our ... A: Brian, This sounds like something has happened in your lives to make this change. Guys are not the ... | |
| Flirting | 8/20/2007 |
| Q: I am 24 years old and my husband is 25. We have been married for almost 4 years and have two kids ... A: Melinda, he may not be able to see what he is doing. I know that I have been told that I am ... | |
| Unhappy | 8/19/2007 |
| Q: I am a Christian and I don't know what to do. I feel this is really the end for my five year ... A: Peaches, The issue about ministry is a hard one for most people to accept. I know that when I ... | |
| question | 8/18/2007 |
| Q: how can i deal with my virgin wife in our first sex? A: Ahmed, You just need to be gentle and discover what she wants to do. You will both discover each ... | |
| Husband will not talk about affair | 8/1/2007 |
| Q: We have been married for 23 years and have had some issues of course during the marriage. About 18 ... A: Toni, You have to consider that he may actually be telling the truth. You have been married for a ... | |
| husband and step-dad conflict | 7/30/2007 |
| Q: today my husband and step dad had a terrible argument with verbal words said, and neither want to ... A: Izzy, This sounds like they just need to sit down and decide if they can get a long because of you. ... | |
| First or Second Marriage | 7/24/2007 |
| Q: Neither my husband or I have been (legally) married before. We both have children from previous ... A: I am sorry also because you are right it was a little unclear. I know well how in-laws act. My own ... | |
| First or Second Marriage | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: Neither my husband or I have been (legally) married before. We both have children from previous ... A: Nichole, There is nothing about living together or having children with someone. All Biblical ... | |
| My Marriage is dissolving because of someone else. | 7/9/2007 |
| Q: my name is Jamal. I have been married to my wife for over 3 yrs. I love my wife very much and I ... A: Jamal, It sounds to me like your wife does want to solve the problem and move forward. I am glad to ... | |
| Trust issues | 7/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been married for over a year and got married after 6 months of dating. I just found out that ... A: Selesha, I understand wanting to stay for your baby. I agree with that also. I also believe that ... | |
| Newly married | 6/27/2007 |
| Q: I am newly married and less than a year. I married after dating for 6 months. Two issues. Hopefully ... A: Matt, There is bound to be some insecurity, but as your marriage gains time she will come to ... | |
| what do i do when he really wont quit? | 6/27/2007 |
| Q: im 19 and i have a 10month old son. i got preg at the age of 17 my senior year of high school by my ... A: Kristen, He has an addiction. The addiction will continue to grow until he can no longer be ... | |
| Is he taking advantage? | 6/27/2007 |
| Q: My story goes like this, 2 years ago summer of 2005 my husband cheated on me with my best friend and ... A: Heather, Your husband needs to be in marriage counseling. He also needs to start treating you like ... | |
| Newly married | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: I am newly married and less than a year. I married after dating for 6 months. Two issues. Hopefully ... A: Matt, I am glad to see that you are concerned about these issues and it shows that you really care. ... | |
| Cheating | 6/25/2007 |
| Q: My wife and I have been together for 7 years. The first 6 years I was very violent and mentally ... A: Octavio, I always say that we should try to stay together because, God never wanted us to divorce. ... | |
| medical treatment | 6/23/2007 |
| Q: My wife is an alcoholic. I know I can`t force her into treatment for her alcohol abuse but recently ... A: Glen, You need to get her into treatment as soon as possible. She is clearly at a point of her ... | |
| Unequal Marriage | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: I am frustrated and upset by an unequal marriage. I have supported my husband to put him through ... A: Marie, You have every right to feel that you should have the 50/50 marriage. He also needs to ... | |
| gawking gone too far? | 5/16/2007 |
| Q: I'm male 48yrs old, we have been married 10 mos and together around 5yrs. 5 mos ago I disclosed ... A: Randy, I can tell you that your wife is going to be a little suspect of your actions. You are going ... | |
| husband | 5/15/2007 |
| Q: my son just turned 18 a month ago my husband expects him to be looking for work;but i am not allowed ... A: Dee, This sounds like you stuck in the middle. If someone does not take him to get a job how is he ... | |
| GAY MARRIAGE | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: what does the bible.say about gay marriage? ANSWER: John, Here are some scripture that I would ... A: John, Right love your neighbor as yourself. That is correct, but you can love someone and not ... | |
| Is my marriage really over? | 5/9/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years, together for 6. He's 28, I'm 32.Our ... A: Lori, I have to say that you sound like you are a very strong person. Your husband sounds like he ... | |
| Children | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I dated my husband for nine years and we were married 3 years ago. My husband wanted children ... A: I have had this same problem many a time. Men will promise so many things before marriage, but when ... | |
| SHOULD I HOLD ON TO MY MARRIAGE | 5/7/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married (going on 10 years in July) we have had some good times in our ... A: Toni, You have been through a lot to this point. If he will not go to counseling and will not seek ... | |
| Conflict? | 5/4/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been going through problems with respect in the family. Since my husband and ... A: E, It looks like you are worried about the rules of your house more than anything else. You are ... | |
| Wife not in will | 5/3/2007 |
| Q: We have been married for 3 years, very happily. This is the second marriage for each of us. My ... A: Kim, It sounds to me that your husband is trying to ask for your trust. If he has not given you a ... | |
| sex | 4/28/2007 |
| Q: Is sex an important part of a marriage? And,how important is it? A: Tim, I would consider sex to be important if you want to have children. Most people feel that it ... | |
| GAY MARRIAGE | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: what does the bible.say about gay marriage? A: John, Here are some scripture that I would like you to look at and get back to me. Do not lie ... | |
| marriage | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ... A: Brian, I have to tell you that God does not want you to break up. God hates divorce and wants ... | |
| marriage | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ... A: Brian, It sounds like things are going better than I thought at first. Keep up with what you're ... | |
| marriage | 4/23/2007 |
| Q: I'm 22 years old and my wife is 21 years old, been together 4 years and married for 4 month and ... A: Brian, The first thing you need to do is get some counseling. I would also suggest maybe ... | |
| forgiveness | 4/11/2007 |
| Q: Tim, half a year ago i cheated on my boyfriend, who is now my fiance. I told him about it, and we ... A: Andrea, Sometimes it is the hardest thing to do is to forgive yourself. God forgives and forgets ... | |
| marriage-relationship | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: If my husband brings out old pictures of girlfriends and shows them to me, what is he really trying ... A: Nona, I think he is just remembering the past. I know that when I think about the old days I am ... | |
| Husband doesn't want me | 4/8/2007 |
| Q: I have been married going on five years. For some reason my husband doesn't want to have sex with ... A: Tomgirl, I know that as a man I sometimes do not want to have sex. I do not believe that it has ... | |
| HELP PLEASE | 4/3/2007 |
| Q: We have been seperated about 4 times and have gotten back together... we are now on our 5th time and ... A: Kande, If you want to get back together with thisman then you should . For the sake of your ... | |
| Problems after 25 years | 4/2/2007 |
| Q: Tim Gladu, I do not know if I am right in doing this but I need your help. I have known my husband ... A: Sam, After reading your story I can really only say one thing. Your husband needs to step up be a ... | |
| husband going out to bars | 3/30/2007 |
| Q: Do you think it is ok for men to go out to bars late with their friends without their wives several ... A: Susan, What you have to ask is what is he doing there. If he is just hanging out with the guys and ... | |
| Prov 31 Wife.... | 3/26/2007 |
| Q: Dr. Gladu-I am a born again believer as is my husband. We have three children (from my previous ... A: Michelle, I fully believe that both men and women have certain responsibilities. There are certain ... | |
| How many wives are 1+ years older than their husbands? | 3/20/2007 |
| Q: Have you ever seen a statistic on approximately how many American wives are more than a year older ... A: Steve, I have not seen any stats on husband to wife age ratio. I have seen a lot of data on divorce ... | |
| need help!!` | 3/19/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 7 years. We’ve been married for almost 5. This is the 2nd ... A: Gina, I believe I already answered a question similar to this. I still feel the same about your ... | |
| need advice | 3/19/2007 |
| Q: my husband and i have been married for 5 years. this is the 2nd marriage for both of us. We both ... A: Gina, I have to agree with you on the time away. I have spent a lot of time away from my family ... | |
| diff in age??? | 3/15/2007 |
| Q: usually woman gets aged sooner than man(husband of same age) and their look decreases,,so (80%) of ... A: That is not always true and if you truly are with the one that you are going to be with then you ... | |
| smoking | 2/25/2007 |
| Q: I suppose the smoking has won as I have already used the tuff love situation and the smoking ... A: I do not think that someone smoking is a good reason for divorce. I am at a disadvantage here ... | |
| husband doesnt want sex | 2/24/2007 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 2 years, hes 43 and Im 25. Our sex life was never "amazing" ... A: Stephine, I have to tell you first as a minister the first thing I would suggest is your line of ... | |
| I do not want a divorce | 2/20/2007 |
| Q: My husband has moved out of our house and I feel like my world has just stopped. We have 3 grown ... A: I want to be completely honest. I am Southern Baptist and therefore I will be giving you the ... | |
Marriage and the Husband-Wife Relationship
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Dr Tim Gladu
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Expertise
I will be willing to answer general questions on marriage. I will give the advice from the aspect of what the Bible has to say and the advice will be based on the Word of God. I do not give medical advice.
Experience
Experience in the area: I have 14 Years in Ministry. I have also been happily married for 21 years and have raised 3 Children
Southern Baptist.
Organizations
The Sarasota Academy of Christian Counselors.
National Christian Counselors Association.
Education/Credentials
Bachelor’s degree in Ministry, a Masters in Pastoral Counseling and a Doctorate in Theology, and Christian Counseling.
Licensed Clinical Christian Counselor
Licensed Clinical Pastoral Counselor Advanced Certification
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