AboutDr.Sunu Sundar Expertise I can answer questions from rape victims who are desperate to find a source for inner healing. All my answers will focus on soothing the victims of rape ultimately leading to inner healing.
Experience I have been in counselling for last seven years adults,teenagers and children who are abused and raped in various situations.
Education/Credentials I have a master degree in Psychology and another in Sociology
Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar Date: 6/13/2008 Subject: What to do
Question
4 years ago I graduated from the 8th grade. My parents held a party at my school's gymnasium after the ceremony where most of my cousins and uncles and aunts came along with friends. I am the oldest granddaughter of my grandpa and grandma who live in another state. They came to the party as well and my grandpa who was then about 57 years old asked me to show him around the school. His hands were all over me constantly hugging me and rubbing my back during the party. I didn't think much about it because he was my grandpa and trusted him and loved him. When we were in a secluded classroom he came up to me again and started caressing my body again. I never told him to stop but I felt uncomfortable with what he was doing. Then he told me he was so proud of me graduating and tried to explain how I was changing into a young woman now and he needed to show me how to become one. He started fondling me and as I tried to move away I screamed for him to stop. He had shut the door so nobody could hear me scream. He then forced my dress off and had oral sex on me. After a few minutes he told me how beautiful I was and how much he needed to be in me. He then raped me repeatedly. It didn't stop there either, the next day at my house he stayed over night and came into my bedroom and raped me again in everyway imaginable. He told me never to tell anyone because nobody would believe an 8th grader over a well respected grown man. I have never told anyone what happened until I wrote this today. Yesterday I graduated from high school and can't stop thinking about what happened 4 years ago. Why would someone I trust so much do such a terrible thing? And did I do the right thing with not telling anyone? I don't know if I will ever get over what happened.
Answer Dear Kelsey,
I appreciate that you opened up the 'hurtful secret' atleast to me.
This will initiate healing in you to get over the past incident.
In todays world scenario one does not know whom to trust and believe because many a time the person we trust turns as a terror.
I suggest that you talk to your parent(s) if you find them trust worthy.That what you went through because of your grandpa, as you share with persons of understanding and empathy, you will get over the hurt feelings that are stored silently.
