AboutKim Expertise I am a survivor. I know what it’s like to be the victim. I am now a Sexual Assault Victim’s Care Advocate. I have been certified as such since November 2000. I am currently a student who is specializing in trauma and abuse and the associated disorders and illnesses.
Experience I am a survivor. So, I not only have book smarts but, personal experience with what rape is and how much it affects the victim and his or her loved ones.
Expert: Kim Date: 7/6/2008 Subject: My niece was raped
Question My 14yrs old niece who had developed a sleep walk disorder was raped about 4 times,and the man ran away. My sister has filed charges but it's so hard for me because l raised that girl from day 1,l feel terrible since that incidence happened. l hate men in my life since that day, and the terrible thing is that l even hate my own husband and my male friends.My niece and l were so close l raised her for 12yrs until this happened on June 03 2008. what can l do because lm thinking about it everytime and l feel bad that even l longer want to sleep close to my husband? I dont trust men any more,and also don't want to ruin my 2 yrs marriage.
Answer Ruddie,
Were you ever a victim? Your response really alarmed me into thinking that maybe you were a victim but repressed any memory? Your niece it sounds like it getting the help that she needs and she’ll be ok. It’s not alright and right now she is dealing with a lot and it will be an uphill battle, but thankfully she’s getting the help. Maybe you too can consider seeing someone to talk about how its making you feel? I don’t know your location, so visit www.rainn.org (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network). Go to Get Help, then go to find a Local Counseling Center. Once you get there put in your zip code and it will generate a list of help in your area.
I understand your fears, emotions, and concerns. But they need to be addressed, so that your relationships are not tarnished.
