AboutDr.Sunu Sundar Expertise I can answer questions from rape victims who are desperate to find a source for inner healing. All my answers will focus on soothing the victims of rape ultimately leading to inner healing.
Experience I have been in counselling for last seven years. I have been counseling adults,teenagers and children who are abused and raped in various situations.
Education/Credentials I have a master degree in Psychology and another in Sociology
Question I am currently about to turn 17 years old. The summer of 2009 I believed that i was fallin in love with my childhood crush that i had known since practically birth. We started a relationship and it seemed great. The only problem we had was his reputation and the fact he liked to have sex and that i was still a virgin. He kept pushing and pushing to get more intimate,to have sex. I fought and fought that night. I tried so hard to do anything... i cried through the whole thing. He handled it more violently than needed. Leaving me with cuts and bruises on my arms, legs, and hips from him trying to control me and weaken me so that i couldn't fight back. When he finished i tried to leave. I just wanted to get away; I didn't even care where I went or what happened to me. But he grabbed me and told me if i told anyone about this or broke up with him than he would come after me and the two children that i help raise (my cousins biologically). I was sworen to secreacy. I went home and lied to my mother and friends that we had sex. I was scared and that's only way i seemed to know how to handle it. As time went on I decided that i couldn't handle dating a rapist. I broke it off. He started harassing me and trying to control me. I continued to ignore him, but it became continually worse. As I started to fear for my life I confided in a friend in hopes that it would make me feel better. I know have told many people and most others in my school know bout it.My mom is aware of the situation as well. He is starting to find out that I told people, but now i'm not worried about him coming after me. I just simply can't get the images out of my head. It just feels like the chorus of that song that just keeps repeating and repeating...except mines kinda like a nightmare. I just want it to stop. Can you please help me? i'm scared.
Answer Dear Krista,
Greetings.
I am willing to get you to a new happy life
First and fore most you must start praying every day to God and ask His peace in you.Share your feelings with your close fried or mom every day.Avoid watching horror movies or any thing that reminds your past. Try to do meditation every day and have 8 hour sleep every night.
Apart from this , you shall visit a Christian counselor.I also suggest you to visit a physician practicing Bach Flower medicines.
