Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 10/10/2009

Question
Recently I was raped by not just a close friend of mine but the father of my oldest child. I haven't had many people in my life that I truly trust and he was one of the few. Since I had trust issues prior to the incident you can just imagine how I feel now. I used to be very outgoing and full of energy. I loved to be in scenes with a lot of people and many different things going on at once. Now a lot of people makes me feel tense and I'm always trying to watch what their doing, but afraid to make eye contact. I don't know if all this makes any sense. I'm really not sure of a lot of things anymore. It's hard for me to concentrate on anything anymore and half the time I miss what people are saying. I ask them to repeat themselves and try to focus, but it still does not help. Half the time I don't know what to think or how to feel about anything. I have children at home and I really need to focus and get it together. I'm always running around or trying to stay busy, in hopes that it will make me feel normal or hide how horrible I feel inside. My close friends want me to go see a counselor. However, I have trouble expressing these feelings to people close to me, let alone someone I don't even know. I have always been a strong person and have got through many things. So with not being able to let this go makes me feel like he has even more control then I thought. Each day that I feel this way makes me feel like I am getting raped over and over again. Please help me! I just want to feel like myself again.

Answer
Dear Barbara,

Peace be with you

There is hope  for a complete inner healing  in your case.


First and foremost I suggest you to initiate everyday  prayer-personal prayer for one hour daily.This will be the basis of all healing



Apart from the above said, every  day practice  breathing exercises(get training) and  meditation.
Go for weekly full body massage  and  aroma therapy

Once in  every seven days  obtain silence for 24 hours in seclusion.

You will be healed and  will be with energy as you follow the above said.

Have  a nice day