AboutKim Expertise I am a survivor. I know what it’s like to be the victim. I am now a Sexual Assault Victim’s Care Advocate. I have been certified as such since November 2000. I am currently a student who is specializing in trauma and abuse and the associated disorders and illnesses.
Experience I am a survivor. So, I not only have book smarts but, personal experience with what rape is and how much it affects the victim and his or her loved ones.
Education/Credentials I am working on my Master's in Psychology specializing in trauma and abuse. I am in addition working on two associate degrees in Social Work and Women and Gender studies.
Question so my boyfriend is straight altho bi-curious at a young age, however when he was 27 he got into a difficult situation with a man (he thinking they were just close friends this friend thinking they were more) this bloke was very violent towards him and would threaten him (this bloke is my boyfriends mums lodger)which is why he said he stayed with him because this bloke is very violent he told me slightly that he was always scared he would rape him i have been raped and i no how hard it was to tell someone, im worried he was but wont admit it, i would love to help him (they have broken up now broke up around march we have been together since june) he cant return home because the last time my boyfriend was at home was when he beat up his ex while they were both very drunk he is too scared to go back since (not telling his mum why) how can i help him with this i just want to make it better? but my words seem to upset him more? thank you so much i no you will advice coucilling but money is an issue xxx
Answer Chloe,
Is your boyfriend having feelings of violence now too? This is a big concern for me. While this may be how he copes with what has happened to him. This could put you in danger. He needs to work through what happened to him, he just can not afford to hold on to this and wait for it to get better, it won’t, and it can’t. I do have to advise counseling, and there are options for you if money is an issue. http://www.rainn.org/get-help/sexual-assault-and-rape-international-resources this link can help you get the help you need. I just free if you don’t work through this , emotions and anger will escalate.
