AboutKim Expertise I am a survivor. I know what it’s like to be the victim. I am now a Sexual Assault Victim’s Care Advocate. I have been certified as such since November 2000. I am currently a student who is specializing in trauma and abuse and the associated disorders and illnesses.
Experience I am a survivor. So, I not only have book smarts but, personal experience with what rape is and how much it affects the victim and his or her loved ones.
Education/Credentials I am working on my Master's in Psychology specializing in trauma and abuse. I am in addition working on two associate degrees in Social Work and Women and Gender studies.
Question Ok, first off, i startd my sexual life when i wa 14 by a 18 yr old that has done time for molestation and they think i was one of the cases but never took him to court. when i was with guys in my teen years, they wouldnt take no for an answer. i fought back one time and will never forget the pain and how i felt. so when happens now, and i seem to still after 26 years get mixed up with these guys... they make u fell like its ur fault they want it and make u feel guilty. so, cuz i learnd at a young age, that dont want to fight i have a plan so that they dont touch me. i just deal with them so they leave me alone. i just feel like im doing something wrong all the time that i keep ending up with these men. its gettn to the point where if on a first date and they touch me, my hand, leg, etc... i just want to run and i dont trust anyone. cant talk to friends cuz dont think anyone would understand. i dont consider it rape cuz i dont let them really touch me but why cant i just run away???? how do i stop being scared????
I would recommend sexual healing therapy. I would recommend counseling that helps you gain a sense of your self, because you get lost in the idea that you are here for sex and abuse. So you need to work those feelings out and find Betty so that your life can be what you desire, need, and want. Trust has to come from within, and you don’t even trust yourself, you don’t know yourself and so you need to start there, and then you can have a healthy relationship with someone else.
I don’t know your location, so you can contact RAINN (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network) at www.rainn.org or call them at 1-800-656-HOPE IF you choose the website go to “get help” (this is a tab at the top of the page) then go to “find a local counseling center” enter a zip code or state and it will find help in your area.
