AboutKim Expertise I am a survivor. I know what it’s like to be the victim. I am now a Sexual Assault Victim’s Care Advocate. I have been certified as such since November 2000. I am currently a student who is specializing in trauma and abuse and the associated disorders and illnesses.
Experience I am a survivor. So, I not only have book smarts but, personal experience with what rape is and how much it affects the victim and his or her loved ones.
Education/Credentials I am working on my Master's in Psychology specializing in trauma and abuse. I am in addition working on two associate degrees in Social Work and Women and Gender studies.
Question I don't even know where to begin??...It all started a week ago I went out for some drinks with friends...Well a few drinks turned in to alot of drinks...My roomate, myself, and a few other people came back to my place after...I got sick and went straight to my room to sleep...This guy came in my room and gave me a garbage can because like I said I was really sick...He layed in my bed because he said he was worried about me...I guess I thought he was harmless and just wanted to help me...I passed out like I said I was so drunk and sick then I woke up and he was on top of me having sex with me...Once I started waking up he jumped up and put on his jeans...Everything was a blur...Since then I have been to the doctor for tests now just waiting for results and am so worried...I cry all the time I have so many emotions and don't know what to do with them...I feel depressed, ashamed, violated, and at a total stand still because I don't where to go from here...My doctor gave me a number to call and asked if I plan on charging the guy but I really don't know what to do...Will they blame me for being drunk??...I just want all this to go away but it won't I am more hurt, and confused then ever before in my life...I'm 27 years old I have always been a trusting person who trys to see the good in all people that guy took that away from me and I know if i'll ever get it bak
Answer Crystal,
I am so sorry that this happened to you. Please call the number that your doctor gave you, and if the doctor can- have her save any evidence that she may have collected (in case you decide at a later date you want to press charges) You can also call a local crisis/rape center that can act as your legal advocates. They’ll be with you and help you with the process. You can find this using RAINN.org go to “get help” then go to “find a local counseling center” and enter your state or zip code. You can always request to talk to a woman if you are concerned with men. I strongly encourage counseling. It will help you process all that happened to you.
Crystal, it is not your fault, you didn’t do anything wrong. Going out and having a good time, even if it involves drinking is OK, it is not OK that someone took advantage of you. It’s not your fault. Hang in there.
