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Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 11/6/2009
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I am 18, and a freshman at a University. I am 900 miles away from home. I goto school about an hour away from where my mom's best friend now lives.
I was recently raped after a party. I am so ashamed becasue I was a virgin and I had promised my mom, my grandma and my mom's best friend that I would remain a virgin until I was married. This was taken from me, and I now no longer have anything to give to my future husband. I am also ashamed becasue I put myself in this position. I was drinking at the party, but not to the point of being drunk. I met the guy at the party, and we were making out. Thats as far as I wanted it to go: kissing.
I'm afraid to tell my mom's best friend(I'm spending the weekend with her), because she is like a 2nd mother to me. I don't want to hurt her.
I'm intensely afraid of telling my own mother too. I don't need her to worry about me any more than she already does. She is going though so much right now, and I don't want to put anymore stress on her.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to become a burden on my family. I don't want them to go through more stress and have to worry about me, but I need to tell somebody. I've only told one person, who is my guy best friend. But I feel that I need to tell my family who can help me cope. I also don't have many secrets with my mom, and this is a big one.
I know this is kind of jumbled, but I'm very confused right now. I really hope you can help. Thanks.
Answer
Dear Stephaine,
I can well understand the confusion, shame and pain you go through after the rape.
You need not tell your mom for a few days,months.
It is not your fault that you are raped. You did never want to be raped.So you are not guilty at all.Let this incident be a lesson for you never to drink and never to attend parties with people who ignore holy ways of God
Start daily prayers, I assure you will be healed.
Have a nice day
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