AboutKim Expertise I am a survivor. I know what it’s like to be the victim. I am now a Sexual Assault Victim’s Care Advocate. I have been certified as such since November 2000. I am currently a student who is specializing in trauma and abuse and the associated disorders and illnesses.
Experience I am a survivor. So, I not only have book smarts but, personal experience with what rape is and how much it affects the victim and his or her loved ones.
Education/Credentials I am working on my Master's in Psychology specializing in trauma and abuse. I am in addition working on two associate degrees in Social Work and Women and Gender studies.
Question Hi I am 15 I was raped by my uncle when I was 12, and 2 moths ago I was
raped again by my friend. After it happen when I was 12 I started taking pills
like zanx or what I could get, and drinkin liquar alot, I not Sure why. And then
my grandma died and I was closest person to her and when she died. I didn't
cry or anything like it's like I am num. How do I get past the rape
Answer Alex,
It sounds like you are using many different coping strategies to help you get through, even bury and hide what has happened to you. As you have learned though, these strategies never cure the pain, and they don’t take it away. They are temporary fixes.
Yes, it sounds like you’ve been numb and therefore you can’t grieve for your grandma.
Alex, can you talk with your family, it is absolutely critical that you get professional help in your area. Your family seems to know that something is wrong because you are on medication, please consider seeing a therapist that can help you with the rapes. No coping skills will help, medication alone won’t help alone, you must work through the rapes in order to heal.
Here is a link www.rainn.org, go to Get Help, then go to Find a Local Counseling Center and put in your state or zip code and it will list help in your area. OR you can call 1-800-656-HOPE
