Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 6/17/2009

Question
Hi there,

My friends daughter who is 13 years old just disclosed that she was raped at home by her uncle.  Over the past year she has exhibited all the signs of 'something' going on but no one new if it was something going on at school or what.  Her uncle has been arrested. Her mother recently went on their computer and found that the girl was on myspace posing as older than she is, with very foul language, and talking about how much her parents hate her.  I think this is a natural reaction to having been sexually assaulte, but it's now making her mother doubt wheher she was raped. I've known this girl for years and I believe that she was raped.  Can you tell me if this is what I'm observing... a reaction to being raped by becoming a bit promiscuous(but in a safe avenue), finding an avenue to say everything that's on her mind without having to say it all out loud, and just overall rage over what happened to her.  Please tell me your impressions.  And what I can do to help this girl who I think of as my own daugter.

Answer
Dear Lisa,

First and foremost I  appreciate you for considering this  girl as  your  own daughter.

As you say and observe, I  also find(with the limited given  background)   the girl is exploring less harmful avenues to burst open  due to lack of guidance with  potent love  and  compassion. As a girl, if she  lacks a compassionate and caring approach  towards her from her parents, perhaps  she may also build up frustrations  with-in, as  a result brings out negative 'propaganda's about  her parents.

There is no room  to doubt about her uncle sexually exploiting her in the past.

I will be  able to  offer in-depth  guidance if  the girl's mother or the girl contacts me.

You are welcome to contact me  also  at placladoc@yahoo.co.in

Have  a nice day

Best wishes,